hot take terfs don't exist because radfems wanna eradicate patriarchy and transphobia can correlate with patriarchy so by being transphobic it doesn't relate to rad feminism like literally all we do is criticise gender roles within transgenderism if that makes sense

Source: Mattxiv on instagram

Heartbreaking: The Feminist Post You Were About To Reblog Was Made By a TERF

Jeanne d’Arc, the illiterate village girl who commanded armies and saved France

Hey @ trans inclusive radical feminists, how do y’all beat the terf accusations while also talking about sex based oppression as a form of misogyny? I literally highlight my support of trans people in my bio and my pinned post and just got hit with a terf accusation :/

I'm so sick of seeing terfs bring up pads and tampons as if they're a sacred resource trans women are stealing from us.

Do I know why a trans woman would buy pads or tampons? No. Do I care? Also no.

They're £3 a box and available in every supermarket, convenience shop and women's toilet in the country. They're not stealing resources from cis women or personally victimising you in any way by buying pads. Grow the fuck up. 💀

Some men don't deserve a goth girlfriend.

q for "trans-inclusive radical feminists"

good faith question, I am genuinely struggling to understand this, I see so many on twitter (I do not get into gender ideology at all on there, only radical feminism, don't want to ask there) — how do you reconcile these two ideologies? What do you believe gender is? what do you believe a woman is? I would like to hear perspectives :)

wise words from dworkin

Something I've been thinking about lately: In conversations about being intentionally child-free, I see a lot of people talk about how much they resent constantly being told that they'll change their minds someday. And yeah, that sucks. When you tell someone that they'll regret their choices or go back on them someday, you're telling them you don't trust them to make their own decisions. And that's a dick move.

But what I see left out of a lot of these conversations is the fact that some people do change their minds about kids, and that is also okay.

People change. Our priorities and our values change. Someone identifying as child-free at 20 and then realizing at 30 that they actually do want to be a parent doesn't invalidate other people's decision not to have kids. It doesn't even invalidate that person's previous decision. They're growing. They're changing, and that's okay. Healthy even.

When I was 18, I felt very strongly that I would never marry and never have children. For me, this was a reaction to growing up in a religious environment where women were second-class citizens, and what little autonomy/independence single women had immediately went away when they got married. And once you had kids? Well, once you had kids, your personal life was officially over and your identity now started and ended with being so-and-so's mother.

If your only model of marriage and parenthood is a nuclear family where the husband is in charge and makes all of the decisions while his wife does all of the housework and childcare and not much else, OF COURSE you wouldn't want to get married or have kids! My thought process at 18 was basically, "Well, I want to have my own money and make my own choices and have an identity outside of being a mom, so clearly the family life isn't for me."

I'm 25 now. I'm married. My husband and I both kept our own last names, and we maintain separate bank accounts. I have a job that I'm good at, and a lot of people know me from my work. I still have my own money, make my own choices, and have my own identity. None of that went away when I got married. All that's changed is that I have a partner and best friend that I decided to do life with, and we had a ceremony and signed a piece of paper to make it official. We're not quite at the having kids stage yet, but it is something we both want someday.

Me wanting marriage and kids now doesn't invalidate my decision at 18. When I was 18, focusing on my education and career was absolutely the right choice for me. I needed to be able to focus on myself without considering how it would affect a spouse or kids. Eventually, I realized marriage and parenthood can look a lot of different ways. I realized I can decide what they look like for me. I don't have to follow the model I grew up with. And I realized I do want raising kids to be part of my life, just in a way that looks different from what others might expect.

This is a process a lot of people go through, especially women and femmes. If you're in the middle of it right now, just know that you're allowed to change.

And of course, a lot of people don't change their minds. A lot of people who identify as child-free at 20 still don't want kids at 30, 40, or 50. I've met people in their 80s and 90s who never had kids and don't regret that decision. My point here is that some people changing their minds about something doesn't mean it's not a good option for other people.

(And, let's be real, unfortunately a lot of people go the other way: they think they want kids until they have them. That's way more complicated because now there's a whole human person involved who is dependent on them for care and this definitely deserves its own post, but the best advice I can give is if you're young, you need to give yourself time to figure out what you want before committing to anything.)

Reposting this here too because i’ve never seen something more true in my life 🫠

In my time on this site, I have often seen radical feminists (of the trans-exclusionary persuasion) complain about trans women presenting themselves in ways that enforce caricatures and stereotypes of women and femininity.

My response to this, however, is: why is the full blame for this being placed on said trans women instead of on the patriarchal systems that skew everyone’s perception of what it means to be a woman?

“Men who want to support women in our struggle for freedom and justice should understand that it is not terrifically important to us that they learn to cry; it is important to us that they stop the crimes of violence against us.”

-Andrea Dworkin

Girl, how can you be a self proclaimed misandrist and not make the connection that males who go by “she” are still men. Like their behavior rarely even changes, the average trans woman is just as entitled and aggressive as the average regular man 💀💀💀

Because misandry and transphobia aren't the same thing. Because I'm in the LGBT+ community and share spaces with and speak to trans people every day. Because I'm actually educated and intelligent and know to form opinions based on facts and evidence instead of rotting my brain infront of far right gender ideologs from my mother's basement like you clearly do. Because I can see with my eyes that trans women aren't men. Because I'm a real feminist not a bigot pretending to be one. Because I'm based and you're cringe.

Literally just circle your favourite and pass it on.