Hello girls, gays, and theys of Tumblr! Are you in need of two loving gay aunties to share some wise words and help you feel less alone?

We are Cam and Gabriella, a couple of girlfriends who stay at home, and we just started a podcast aptly called Stay at Home Girlfriends. It's an advice podcast and a positive queer and also female-focused (though ALL are welcome) community and we'd love you to be a part of it!

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Coming out of the woods to bring you some female positivity!

We come in all shapes and sizes, and the same is true for your sex organs. As long as you are not experiencing pain, your vagina and vulva are normal and good the way they are.

All shapes and sizes of vulva are good. Big lips, small lips, all normal. There's no one "right" way for vulva to look, shapes vary and that is perfectly fine. You never need to be embarrassed about your vulva.

Adult women are hairy! You don't need to shave your pubic hair, actually it's probably better if you don't. Risking cuts and irritating your sensitive skin is not worth it. You don't owe anyone shaving, and anyone who tries to make you shave or makes you feel ashamed of your own intimate anatomy doesn't deserve to see it in the first place.

Discharge is normal! Menstruation is normal! They are your body's natural ways of taking care of itself and function. They have their natural scents and that is fine, you only need water to wash your vulva, your vagina takes care of itself on its own. Spots in your underwear or some blood in the sheets are nothing to be ashamed of.

You are your own best friend and the one who needs your kindness and acceptance the most. Never compromise about your own body to please others or try to fit in some fictional societal mold of a woman.

You are already fine the way you naturally are.

why would i hate my body hair when its what shows that im no longer a prepubescent child? when it shows that im not longer the child that experienced abuse for being a young girl? my body hair comes with my emotional resiliance, my stronger muscles and my body capable of creating human life which i may not need for that purpose, but can still admire the mature female body for being the wonder it is.

Listen, straight women nowadays don’t seem to know how to actually invest in female friendships and by the time they’re 40 (if they’re lucky) they’re already mostly alone with their family. That’s what not centring women in your life leads to. That’s dangerous to you. That’s dangerous if your moid has started a cycle of violence that you already feel trapped into because there’s woman close to you ready to help you out right at this minute if they knew what’s going on. Not one, but a web of female friends. Sisterhood. That’s what feminism encourages, that’s what straight political celibate women already do, and straight women who mostly choose not to date not for any political or feminist reason but because without any theory they know.

You need other women. You need to understand that any woman, bi women and lesbians included, can live a life happy and full enough with love without it necessarily being a life with a partner you’re married to. The heterosexual model brought to us as women at the same time the idea that romance is the epitome of our life, that we’re nothing without it. Though men are as well touched by this expectation they are not at all targeted as much as women are, and mostly they’re sold this life perspective with the promise of not having to clean the house and make meals every day. Selling women romance and love is a solid deal, the brainwashing machine functions beyond well, especially with marriage being in the package. It provides the ultimate safety.

And I get it, I’ve been socialised as a girl just like you were, but realising that this system is real and not an exaggeration is necessary. Part of women’s liberation is knowing that you are not any less than if you aren’t partnered, that women can be spending their time around women, having a strong female social circle and be grateful and joyful about it, not seen as pathetical by a culture that focuses on men and their desire to be the centre of attention at all times.

Do you sometimes see a woman wronged by The Men for like her looks or other bs and you can only think damn. The women lovers would eat her alive. Worship her.

something majorly under researched about women is why are they so cool??? they are so cool and WHY? scientists have got to get on this. more studies please.

Younger lesbians shouldn't be ashamed of the word "Lesbian" it is a beautiful word, full of history, culture and community not a porn category.

You are not a predator or a deviant or a sexual object for non-lesbian satisfaction, YOU are a human being don't EVER let non-lesbians perception of you, rule your life ok? Take back your humanity and give them the middle finger.

When I was in my early teens I hated that word so much too, I always called myself gay not lesbian cause its disgusted me, I hated the way boys looked at me cause of it like, I was some sex object for their pleasure all the disgusting comments I have gotten 😒 and I wanted to be trans when I realise that being butch didn't protect me from being sexualized (of course I'm not AS sexualized as femme and I have so much respect for them for being so mentally strong to handle that)

There were many cool women in history too who were lesbians, we were badass and amazing I tell you, once I started researching lesbians history I didn't realise how beautiful yet sad it is, it made me thankful to be a lesbian and everyday my respect for lesbians grow

Anyways back on the topic being a lesbian isn't a bad word, you are not what they say or think you are, you are YOU, and you are HUMAN stop listening to them and trust yourself, listen to yourself more. It honestly breaks my heart seeing lesbians who are ashamed of themselves and hate using the word or worse wanna be trans to escape not only their femaleness but their lesbianism too..

In light of my recent personal radblr feed, I want to say something as an organizer of an irl radfem group who may or may not get classifed as a radfem myself:

We welcome and support ALL women.

We welcome and support all women who are trying to unlearn and fight against patriarchal programming and misogyny, in any way and at all steps of their journey. We welcome and support all women who are looking for small ways to center other women in their life. We welcome women who are lesbian, bi, straight, questioning, separatist, and non-separatist. We welcome women who are not perfect, women who make mistakes, women who are real people who want to be a part of a community with other real people.

But. We do NOT welcome anyone who calls other women cock-suckers or any other misogynistic terms, who blame or shame other women for having abortions, who purposefully put down and attack other women over not being "radical enough" and thus push them away from growth and positive change.

We are trying to GROW a movement, not fraction it. I could never imagine any of the radfems I know in real life treating me or any other woman the way I see happening here. I beg everyone to find real life connections with groups like we have here in the Triangle and DMV area. I'm so grateful I found the community a year and a half ago and was able to make these real life connections, because if I discovered this community through Tumblr right now I would run so fast in the opposite direction.

If anyone near our area is looking for a supportive woman-centered group, please reach out.

And everyone on this site, I urge you to read Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft, and Right Wing Women by Andrea Dworkin. You will never get people on your side by insulting them and putting them down. You will never grow a movement by being disinviting. You will never help the women you claim to want to help by shunning and shaming them. Be inviting and supportive and loving of ALL women. You don't want them to look for those qualities in men? Fine, but at least show them that it is here with us. BE the community and love and support that is needed. Show up for women who are on their own journeys, at whatever place that is.

All my love and solidarity,

Mars

It gives me so much hope that radical feminism is so spread out across the world (and that for many countries, radical feminism is the 'default' kind of feminism).

On my dash I have radfems from the Caribbean, from the USA, from Romania, Spain, Japan, The Netherlands (where I am from as well), I used to follow a radfem from Nigeria (I think she got termed), I saw an Alaskan native radfem in the reblogs somewhere once.. and all my love and support goes out to the feminist movement in South Korea!

It gives me hope :)

“There was never a night or a problem that could defeat sunrise or hope.” — Bernard Williams

-daily love and positivity from your gay aunties 🥰

Your daily gnc reminders that...

🌸 Clothes don't have gender

🌸 Haircuts have no gender

🌸 Your sexual orientation doesn't make you more or less of a woman. It's just your sexual orientation.

🌸 There are no woman-hobbies, -interests, -personality or -way-of-thinking

🌸 You are perfect just the way you are! Don't let ridiculous myths, gender roles or gender stereotypes teach you shame or make you believe that there's something wrong with you!

🌸 Every woman is her own unique person. Be your own woman! Be you!

Part of the reasons why nowadays some people are so quick to define us as "non-men loving non-men" is because we have the word "lesbian" while gay men are very clearly identified as men while stating that they're gay. At the end of the day lesbians are the female equivalent to them, we are gay women. We fought so much for the beautiful word that is "lesbian", encouraging each of us to accept and use it instead of letting homophobes win when they pushed shame around this word. What we didn't see coming is that it would be used as the perfect excuse to create opacity around our identity, don't let anyone rewrite history for you. Exceptions do not make the rule. We are gay women and there is pride in saying it, in thoughts or out loud. If you strongly feel connected to lesbianism while not identifying as a woman it means there is a cognitive dissonance in yourself and it's not wrong to point it out. Somewhere one of the labels you use is not the right one.

Lesbianism has always been a fertile ground to differences that are not only our gayness, we are way less limited than women attracted to men when it comes to presentation, style, behaviours. Not that gender non conformity isn't demonised by the wider society but people are more likely to understand it (not necessarily accept it) if they learn that we are gay. We are women and it happens that we are also gay, this component definitely changes the typical idea of what a woman must be and so it makes womanhood richer. We will not be reduced to be called "non-men", we won't tolerate both the sexism and homophobia pushed down our throats with this saying, we are capable to recognise that our elders have been familiar with internalised lesbophobia and that still in the 2020s we are not immune to the new ways in which it incarnates itself in us. Get to the essential, being a lesbian is not only enough, it's a bright truth, peace within yourself and a new found happiness. 💕💕

i love women i want to hug all the women ever and tell them how amazing they are (assuming theyre okay with it)

Ladies we all have to stop comparing our bodies and physical appearance to others,everyone’s unique for a reason, your beautiful flaws and all, don’t let social media, bullies, and society get to you, your perfect because you’re one of a kind!

SAME ENERGY

i absolutely love the Barbie movie. ik im coming to the game late but i have a few thoughts. for one ik a lot of people love ken and im not saying that he’s performance was bad (Ryan Gosling did a top tier job) but i feel Margot Robbie did a fucking fantastic job. as someone who recently in the past 4-6 years has gone through realizing the reality of being a woman (constantly being held back men and not reaching your full potential, being seen as an object, constantly sexualized etc.) i think Margot showed the reality of how sad it is to go through that. i think this movie is so impactful because it touches on a experience all women have gone through and can relate to. America Ferrera should definitely win award too, she was definitely the character that really said what all women have been thinking. every time she would talk to one of the Barbie’s about the injustice men put them through, i could tell she was speaking from the heart. i can’t wait to see the doors this movie opens up for the future to make everyone feel loved, proud, and secure in themselves! 🫶