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Still seeing feminists in 2023 claiming that ‘emasculation isn’t real’ and it’s still baffling me.

How can you look at the lived realities of Asian and Jewish men and think “yeah these men totally aren’t emasculated and viewed as lesser males or less masculine than white men and it’s totally not dehumanising or racist or anything 😌” like. Racism against MOC doesn’t always look like portraying them as aggressive or dangerous, it can also look like viewing certain types of minority men as ‘failed’ men and ‘lacking real manhood’ as a dehumanising tactic. Myths about Jewish men previously portrayed them as having periods and being ‘basically women’. Asian men are fetishised and stripped of their manhood frequently by K-pop stans and people online who don’t realise that masculinity and gender roles look slightly different in non-western cultures.

Also… trans men. Who are FORCEFULLY emasculated and feminised against their will, by genocidal bigoted conservatives, and sometimes even somewhat by other queer people telling them to ‘tone down’ their non-toxic masculinity to avoid making others uncomfortable, making themselves dysphoric and detached from their gender identities to remain palatable.

What about disabled men? Are they not also viewed as failing to achieve proper manhood? Are they not also emasculated and viewed as ‘un-male’ or ‘less male’?

Minority men absolutely can and do experience emasculation. And it’s not ‘toxic’ or misogynistic to bring it up. Feminists who care about POC in particular should not be pretending otherwise.

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I just want to be some guy

As a trans man, I don’t really feel like I belong anywhere in the lgbt+ community because I’ll never be attractive to anyone (which is why I ID as queer but even then I feel outcast) and it…. it really hurts sometimes. I’m simultaneously too masculine and not masculine enough.

in the men who are attracted to men spaces, most people when they see me think I’m a twink because of being short/small and/or for being trans/nonbinary. They think I’m hairless, feminine, boyish, submissive, etc. I’m…. at this point in my life I am really really not. Testosterone has made me male and everything that entails. I’ve gained (healthy! good for me!) weight and my stomach sticks out, I’m covered in body hair, I am partway to balding. All the things that are conventionally unattractive about men. All the things that are demonized in trans men. I’m too masculine to fit their idea of a nonbinary person. But masculine in “the wrong way”. I have to either be muscular/fit or small and hairless to be wanted here. I don’t even count as a bear, you’d probably just call my shape a “dad bod”. This isn’t just some vague feeling I get in these spaces- people have legit said to me “oh I love twinks” or “oh I love femboys” and I have to awkwardly explain that no I’m not one actually. I’m not what they want me to be. And I’m really tired of people placing that expectation on me- that I’m a slender hairless twink who is submissive and likes bottoming. Just because I’m small and/or trans. so gross. 

and then in the women who are attracted to men spaces well… they’d never look twice at me. I’m short and not at all muscular/toned/fit. Again, I have gained weight, am hairy, and halfway to bald. Bedsides not being conventionally attractive- they usually want a man who can “provide”. I am disabled and can’t work. I can’t drive. I can’t give them flowers or pick them up for a date. I can’t be any of the things they’re looking for in a partner. Being disabled makes me seen as “less than”. Being dependent on other people is a trait that is endlessly mocked in men. I’m not masculine enough. 

so where the fuck does that leave me? I’m not even going to talk about how being aromantic in queer spaces alienates me further. I love testosterone, I love what it’s done for me and how I feel healthier on it. But like. fuck. I don’t feel like I’m ever going to be attractive to anyone. I never get to feel pretty or handsome. I never get to feel happy about my appearance anymore and that makes me so sad. I used to derive so much joy from picking out outfits and accessorizing and applying glittery make up. I’m too sick to leave the house ever so I don’t do those things anymore, besides the fact that I *can’t* present feminine anymore without risking my safety. People would assume I’m a trans woman and act accordingly because they see a man attempting to be feminine. I am fully man and fully nonbinary, but I never get to exist as both at the same time. I can’t be feminine without people invalidating/forgetting my manhood. I can’t be masculine without people invalidating/forgetting my nonbinary-ness. I’m too masculine for nonbinary spaces and too nonbinary for masculine spaces. I just…….. I get incredibly sad about this.

And people generally don’t care??? the sentiment seems to be that trans men who are masculine, who pass, who are stealth, etc don’t belong in the lgbt+ community, shouldn’t be in lgbt+ or queer spaces. They’re not wanted there because of being masculine. These spaces are only for “non-men”. But the second you talk about your struggles as a trans man as a reason for why you should be included, you get pegged as an owo twink femboy to most people. It’s always one or the other (demonized or infantilized) and I’m really fucking sick of it. It hurts. I just want to be some guy.

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Why can’t straight cis men just respect that some women are just LESBIANS??!!!

intelligence, neurodivergence, and queerness all have a rather high correlation with each other.

our society is highly disabling to all of these groups.

adding being brown on top of any of these is just... a bad time (in my exp)

trying to find people who get it.. is hard. at least it is for me.

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(Emma, 24, he/she)

It's so disheartening to see the main narrative in most online queer spaces is that trans men have male privilege, even over cis women. Seeing so many trans men and mascs talking about how they gained privilege after transitioning and how that's what's explected for transmascs. As a transmasc of color shit has only become more difficult for me since I transitioned, and seeing mostly white trans men and mascs talk about this supposed gained privilege that ALL trans men and mascs need to be aware of (and how we have to set our feelings aside for other trans people and even cis women) makes me just want to go stealth and never interact with the community again. This is particularly prevailing on TikTok and it makes me concerned that this attitude is being spread to young queer people that trans men are infallibly privileged in comparision to the rest of the community.

yeah it’s very……convenient how the loudest voices of trans men and mascs are white, thin, and able bodied. of course you’re going to feel like you have privilege, you had privilege before you transitioned and you still have it now. none of your existing intersections are going to make being a trans man/masc harder like it is for non white, fat, and/or disabled trans men/mascs.

also it’s usually freshly out and newly transitioned guys who haven’t been slapped with a “you can’t access this care bc you have an m marker on your license” yet and when they do and try to talk about it, that’s when their voices start being suppressed. that’s when they get labeled as “toxic men” who don’t deserve to talk about their problems. and there’s the ones who are browbeaten and gaslit into believing their experiences truly aren’t that bad or even never happened.

there is absolutely a reason that the loudest voices are saying what the rest of the queer community wants them to say, and it’s not because it’s actually representative of trans men/mascs’ experiences. it’s because that’s all people with preconceived biases about us want to hear.

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Glad we had this chat.

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Official Broken Fox Face Reveal.

Not sure if anyone expected anything different, but yep. I've cut my hair since this, but I like this photo. I look like my dad a lot in this picture.

(for anyone who isn't familiar with my page, you can call me Fox, I go by he or they, and I'm an intersex, nonbinary man from Appalachia who talks a lot online about my experiences with trauma, disability, and mental health. My YouTube is currently on hiatus, but I'm on here too much a lot.)

too many people don't understand that you can also be gender nonconforming in a way that theoretically "aligns" with your gender, and you can be gnc even if your gender has few to no widespread societal expectations to conform to (you can refuse to conform to your own internalized expectations, or the expectations of individuals and communities around you).

hyperfemme and hypermasc and any nonbinary genderfuck ideas you can possibly come up with can all be valid, legitimate forms of being gnc. you cannot reduce being gnc down to "butch women and femme men" because while those are both valuable and important they are only two out of a myriad of ways to be gnc. there is no gnc binary; that would defeat the entire point.

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