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co-dependance · 1 year

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I’ve seen people talk about the main theme of the owl house being acceptance, and I think they’re completely right about that. But I haven’t really seen anyone look at the sub themes depicted in the show around the acceptance theme.

Specifically how the owl house is really advocating for child autonomy. Specifically in the ways of discipline, showing that communicating and talking with children ends up being a lot more beneficial and effective than punishing them.

The most obvious example comes with the collector, where instead of talking to him, King’s dad punished the kid by putting him in essentially time out, for the actions of his siblings. Which he would’ve learned if he had talked to the collector. And then following that, every interaction before talking with Luz, has the collector being used or placated in some way instead of being treated like an actual child due to the amount of power he has. The titan trappers revering him as some sort of god, Belos manipulating him, and even king attempting to appease the collector, instead of really talking to him. Though for king it’s a bit more understandable. Even so, the show showcases the collector’s change only after he’s talked to like a person, and then shown why his views were wrong.

Luz, who’s the main focus of the show, has her character arc and journey centered around being punished for her not fitting in at school. And while, yes, some of Luz’s antics that were shown seemed to be legitimately dangerous, the real solution would’ve been to talk with her and teach her about safety and why bringing wild animals and fireworks into a school building is dangerous. It should have also been that Luz should be able to talk and negotiate with her teacher about what would be acceptable for her projects with her endless creativity. The solution was not to essentially punish Luz for being creative, and what that only did was make her feel worse about herself and more isolated from the people she thought would be on her side. And then we were shown in thanks to them and for the future, Camilla’s growth into understanding that not talking to Luz about this, and essentially forcing her into normality, was not the way to go about things.

And we see this theme again, with Willow forced into the abomination track because her parent’s thought that was what was best for her, until she was able to showcase her skills and switch to what she was actually good at. Alador realizing he missed a lot of Amity’s growth by not talking to her, and then making it up to Amity by letting her set the boundaries and reestablishing their relationship. Odalia being controlling and not listening to her children which lead to actively harming their social development, until she was confronted and then shut out. Belos manipulating Hunter, isolating him, and abusing him, not even listening to what he had to say. And all of these situations were made better and more bearable when they were given the chance to take charge and be heard.

All this, in an attempt to showcase that children can be vulnerable and malleable, but they are also smart and understanding. And instead of deciding what a child needs, it’s important to communicate with the child instead, asking what they need and listening to what they’re saying. And implementing that by guiding and supporting them, not attempting to control them to what someone else thinks is right.

Children are smart and observant, they just need to be taught how to communicate, and viewed and thought of as actual human beings.

In a way, the owl house is attempting to advocate for it’s audience, and that’s beautiful.

#the owl house #toh #toh spoilers #toh season finale #luz nozeda #toh hunter #willow park #amity blight #child autonomy #honestly i think it's a really important thing to be taught to everyone at every age #Children are seen as dumb and it's disheartening because they're not #they're open to new ideas and possibilities and not yet stifled by their own learned w-orld veiw #and they don't know everything so that's why they need to be taught #refusing to teach them ultimately takes away any chance of growth #no kid is a lost cause #and kids can understand when something is wrong #ignoring them looses the chance for the kid to learn how to understand and indepen-dently come up with a solution later #toh meta

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batnsons · 9 months

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went on a tangent rant about society not giving children bodily autonomy or respecting them as human beings after d&d tonight and I’m so amped up about this now. it’s such a huge thing for me and I wish more people would fucking listen

#rey rants #I could rant about this for DAYS #I will never shut up about how children deserve to be treated with respect and dignity and that they deserve to have boundaries #delete later #child autonomy #societal issues

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cocofetti · 1 year

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The way that I gossip with the neighborhood children about their problems is hilarious. I feel as a parent, I know more about their middle school experience than most of the parents do because I am the same size I was in middle school and they like to serve tea hot. And a bitch be sipping!!! 🤣🤣🤣

#blktumblr #black tumblr #blackgirlthoughts #black girl magic #90s baby #quotes #real talk #self love #black women #note to self #child autonomy #kids are people too #and I be all in their business #then what happened #tumblr diary #tumblr #tumblrlife #trending

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frilledshark-enthusiast · 25 days

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I can’t believe I was forced to go through so much shit as a kid and I lost my tooth gap because my parents think straight teeth look better

#braces #im actually so upset about this #bodily autonomy #Child autonomy

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she-posts-nerdy-stuff · 1 month

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All I can think about recently is that there are three main career options for Grishaverse main characters:

A) Child soldier

B) Criminal

C) ✨Both✨

#and none of them are a choice #it’s very dependent on who your government is #shoutout to Nina and Matthias for really exploring all options available to them #my poor babies #inspired by convo with my sister where she said why is everyone a child soldier and I said some of them are criminals too(!)#as a side note it’s very unclear whether Grisha in Ravka get paid to be in the second army #I’m pretty sure they don’t #like at least if you’re a criminal you can make some cash #not that I’m endorsing criminal activity obvs #but at least there’s marginally more choice as a criminal #it would appear at least marginally more autonomy #crooked kingdom #shadow and bone #the grishaverse #six of crows #grishaverse #leigh bardugo #grisha trilogy #seige and storm #ruin and rising #kaz brekker #inej ghafa #jesper fahey #wylan van eck #nina zenik #Matthias helvar #alina starkov #mal oretsev #genya safin #zoya nazyelensky

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a-dumb-sarcastic-bisexual · 9 months

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These Nimona headcanons are kinda angsty cause I’m bored

I think it’s a genuine shock for Ambrosius when he finally realizes he gets to make his own choices

Sometimes it’s small things like choosing to grow his hair out and stop bleaching it and what he eats that day

And sometimes it’s bigger things like what he’s going to do with the privilege he was born with and what he wants to do with the rest of his life

He was probably raised to believe that his voice and his body weren’t his own and all of his choices should benefit his family

And because of that he kind of has a little bit of an identity crisis

One night Bal woke up to the sound of an electric razor and he went to go check it out cause he assumed Nimona was experimenting with their hair at 3 am again

He was kind of shocked to find Nimona shaving Ambrosius’ hair while he sat crying in the bathtub

But he didn’t question it he just sat next to him and held his hand while he went through a lot of complicated emotions

I feel like it takes a while for Bal to stop acting like he’s on the run

When situations get stressful he’ll eat like he’s rationing

If there is a controversial time in the kingdom he’ll leave the house with his cloak even when it’s 100 degrees outside

It took him a long time to get back into his hobbies because he wanted to keep his belongings small and portable

And it takes a lot of time and even more help to finally recognize those habits and break them

And it’s made twice as hard because Nimona has the same habits and will subconsciously fall into them

Which sucks because after being on the run for so long all she wants to do is settle down for a very long time

The trio also has massive trust and abandonment issues

It takes a long time for Nimona to trust anyone that isn't Bal or Ambrosius

If he does let someone in and they betray him he doesn't even think about giving them a second chance

But it always hits him hard and it takes him a while to recover

Bal is very wary of maternal figures in his life

He also doesn’t trust anyone from the institute/nobles as far as he can throw them (except Ambrosius obvi)

Ambrosius also has that same distrust and every time he goes to work he acts like he’s walking on eggshells

But he knows he has to be there to fix the problems his ancestors caused

But their trust issues are nothing compared to their abandonment issues

The first couple of months living together were tricky

Because they all have abandonment issues but they’re also very independent people

After a while they all figured out it was best to communicate where they are most times

Even if it’s incredibly mundane and feels stupid to announce to a group of people “I’m going to work” when they leave for the day

It just put the rest of them at ease

So Nimona will leave notes before they go on their little solo trips

And Bal will call if he’s going to pick up supplies and won't be in the lab for a while

Ambrosius will text them to say he’s caught in another meeting so they’ll just have to eat dinner without him

Even with these steps they all have their bad days and sometimes those bad days sync up

Mostly on anniversaries of big events like the knighting ceremony, or the day the wall fell

And on those days they decide to take care of themselves and each other by sitting in the living room all cuddled up and watching stupid movies to cheer them up

#nimona 2023 #nimona movie #nimona headcanon #nimona #ballister boldheart #ambrosius goldenloin #ballister x ambrosius #goldenheart #if I start thinking about the fact that Ambrosius was raised like a child celebrity and probably had no bodily autonomy I'll start crying #they all make me so sad #because they're so sad #who let my babies be sad

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gideonisms · 27 days

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THE number one most irritating thing about life is deciding when you're meant to speak or make eye contact and when you're not, and for how long and how many phrases you're meant to say at a time

#i know i make this post every week. i know this #but it's just constant!#all my other problems are either solvable or no one has ever solved them in the history of humanity you just have to live with them #but this one is soooo omnipresent and it takes up 80% of my brain space at almost all times #and it's not like i can really condition myself out of it because consciously Not thinking about it is the same as thinking about it!#try to think about my surroundings but people are a part of the surroundings!#how i avoided this level of constant decision making as a child is i just didn't speak to people besides my family unless i had to #i've read people's experiences who were like 'you need to decide when to put on your normal face and how to present yourself'#'being able to choose will give you more autonomy' and like! yeah! guess why i'm able to support myself and live an independent life #that doesn't mean making those choices every second of the day is enjoyable!! or really sustainable over decades and decades!!#rhghghgjhhbhhhhghghhhhghh #hisses like a cat going to the vet

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sage-writes-n-coins-mogai · 3 months

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What’s so “sinister” about a child knowing their rights? Being freaked out by doctor-patient confidentiality is not showing concern, you just want to control your kid because you view children as not deserving of privacy and autonomy. There are plenty of reasons why a 12-13 year would want to speak to their doctor without their caregivers present:

They could have questions about their growing body that they’re too embarrassed/scared to ask their parents because FUN FACT! Not all parents are safe to people to talk to!

Someone in their life could be abusing in some way them and either their parents don’t believe them or they’re too scared/ashamed to talk to anyone else about it and the doctor-patient confidentiality could make them feel safe enough to speak up!

Their parents are sex negative/strict Christians and the child wants to expriment sexually but don’t want to get pregnant, get someone else pregnant or get STI/Ds, their doctor can provide ways to avoid just that, like contraceptives, because GUESS WHAT?? Teenagers are going to have sex with each other whether you approve of it or not!

Their parents could be an anti vaxxers and the child doesn’t want to get polio or some other illness that can be prevented!

Their parents could be controlling T3RF/GC cunts (just like the user who wrote the tweet above!) and wants to transition because FUCKING NEWS FLASH: Your children aren’t property and they’re autonomous beings, who deserve to make medical choices for themselves!

If your teenage child is desperate enough, they will try and go behind your back to transition or at the very least prevent going through a puberty that will make their dysphoria worse until they’re old enough to go on HRT.

If you think allowing a 13+ year old to have a say on who gets to be in the doctor’s office with them is “sinister” then maybe you need to ask yourself why you’re willing to deny your 13+ year old child privacy and bodily autonomy so you can ensure that only YOU get to decide what YOU want to happen to your teenager’s body!

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avalovesindie · 1 year

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I am by no means an expert but it seems to me “your body does not belong to you” is a major theme of right wing authoritarianism and, interestingly, modern USAmerican thinking. This underpins so much from abortion to forcing kids to hug their relatives. Your body belongs to the state, or God, or your husband, or your boss, or your doctor. Everything from trans and gay liberation to forcing autistic people to look in your eyes to making cashiers stand for no reason. Your body does not belong to you, but taking care of your body is your responsibility and your responsibility alone, and if you fail in some way, you deserve the consequences.

#Socialism #The far right #rwa #authoritarianism #right wing authoritarianism #My body my choice #trans rights #Gay rights #christian fascism #Actuallyautistic #actually autistic #body autonomy #Some will agree with me but #When I bring up #Child liberation #and fat acceptance #Now all of a sudden I’m going too far

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add1ctedt0you · 7 months

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"I said, “Doesn’t it bother you? [...]That all anyone talks about when they talk about you are the seven husbands of Evelyn Hugo?”

“No,” she told me. “Because they are just husbands. I am Evelyn Hugo.”

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo- Taylor Jenkins Reid

#chengxian #chengqing #chengyao #Chengning #zhancheng #jc is actually very bothered #He is not getting out of ANY of these relationships in one piece #We have the guy who hates him so much that silence spelled jc's 13 years old #The one with whom jc has a surprise child with #4 people who don't respect jc's body autonomy #He will survive. It's what he does in canon #But at what cost?#my horrible gif #jiang cheng #Cursed jc's ships #zhucheng

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cimerran-714 · 4 months

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Heard a leftist arguing that when pro-lifers march with pictures of born children (infants) on placards or whatever, they're attempting to confuse/lie to people as the fetus doesn't look like a born child.

That's a severe misunderstanding. We are not arguing that the born child is similar in appearance to a fetus; the point being conveyed is that both of them are just as valuable.

#pro life #pro choice #anti abortion #bodily autonomy #abortion #reproductive rights #abortion rights #kate cox #reproductive justice #child free #women's rights #feminism #anti choice

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blood-orange-juice · 6 months

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Hello! Speaking of Skirk/Childe as “nuclear waste levels of toxic”, what’s your ideal dynamic for them, be it romantic, platonic, or otherwise?

Platonic, maybe he had a crush on her but it didn't last long.

I have a bunch of friends who studied martial arts extremely seriously (I did a bit of that too, although only as a hobby) and pretty much made it their whole life. And I know that relationship with a teacher/shifu is of a very special type

In most cases at least 50% of the time you profoundly hate them. They demand the impossible, don't take you seriously, criticise you to no end and playfully poke at things you consider pretty much core to your existence. Many see annoying their pupils as a form of training. Many have huge egos and they make it your problem.

(these are the good ones. the bad ones are... bad)

Adding romance to that mix would either ruin that dynamic or turn in into a planet-ending disaster I'm not capable of imagining.

So, yeah, for me 100% platonic. Although I'll happily read a well-written dead dove.

#childe #tartaglia #skirk #I also fail to understand why skirk would be interested in a romantic relationship with someone with zero autonomy #it takes a very special kind of person and she doesn't seem to be that type #although maybe I could explain it with weird fae logic #actually I have so many horrifying ways to explain it with fae logic #either way it becomes messed up #so... uhm... either platonic or dead dove #whoever tries to write it as a wholesome ship lacks artistic taste and even rudimentary understanding of human psychology #such people shouldn't be trusted with a keyboard

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quietwingsinthesky · 8 months

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you think sam ever wonders if dean would have tricked him into saying yes to lucifer again if it meant saving his life.

#like. disclaimer: Dean would Not do that. not even if he was desperate #up to you if you think it’s because that’s where he draws the line about disrespecting Sam’s autonomy #or because he’s just so fucking furiously jealous that Lucifer has already gotten so much of Sam to himself that dean won’t give him more #either way he Wouldn’t. but. sam doesn’t know that does he.#the facts sam has are 1) dean okayed an angel entering his body and 2) dean lied to him about an angel being in his body #and 3) dean probably would have kept lying about it after ‘Ezekiel’ left. never told Sam what was in him.#so what’s the difference between one angel and another really? especially since Lucifer could have made that offer with much more experience #of course he can patch Sam up. he’s done it before. he’s torn him up and put him back together so many times. child’s play really.#I think the only comfort Sam would have about this is that Lucifer would not be able to help himself from giving away the game #he wants Sam’s attention sooo badly. he’d want Sam to know that he’s healing him from the inside #well then. what’s worse. his brother lying to his face about the devil possessing him. or Lucifer being the one to tell him everything.#can Sam kick Lucifer out? yes I think so. does Sam think so? very different question. after all. he couldn’t push Lucifer out last time #that he let him (hallucifer) in <3 #spn #sam winchester #lucifer spn #Dean winchester

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hussyknee · 9 months

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Idk how people go into social science research knowing that you're anyway going to spend your entire life arguing with wilfully ignorant fuckwits over stuff like "keeping one-tenth of the world's GDP locked up in a handful of people's accounts is bad for a functional economy'', "you shouldn't have to pay money to stay alive", "letting people mind their own business won't hurt you", "knowledge is good actually", "people have the right to do whatever they want with their own bodies", "children are people too", "germs are real", "spreading disease is bad for society", "genocide is bad actually", "letting the government kill people puts everyone in danger because everyone is people", "access to long-distance murder weapons increases the chances of getting murdered", "you can't give a clump of cells the same rights as a human being" ad fucking nauseaum until you die.

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soullessjack · 12 days

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this isnt rlly a serious post more so than a thought I need to verbalize but like. there’s an INSANE difference between the fandom being like “hey what if jack was actually his age and got to be a little normal” vs y’all treating a grown ass man like he has to cover his ears when someone swears or sleep with a nightlight on because he’s afraid of the dark, and throwing the P word around to anyone who thinks he’s attractive. one of these things is not like the other.

#there’s a layer here about giving jack the childhood he specifically chose not to have #and ignoring his other choices because that’s just. idk a running theme with any character who struggles to have autonomy #but whatever idk #genuinely i think the past year or so that I’ve spent talking about this has burnt me out #either that or I’m just too fixated on VB to really care too much #like obviously I still care about it and wish more was done to help but it’s not really a warpath for me to walk currently #just.#I’m just tired dawg #it’s like talking to a deaf brick wall #please just do some research into infantilization I cannot keep having a one sided conversation with people who don’t care #spn #jack kline #baby jack #spn fandom #fandom critical #fandom ableism #tfw2.0 #not even just ableism it’s the whole mischaracterization woobified bullshit all over again #and the using baby jack as a prop for everyone else but I digress #jack: *chose not to be a child and hates being seen as one and is more than willing to get violent if he thinks he has to*#y’all for some fucking reason: he’s just a widdle baby he can’t handle the scary movie he needs his daddies to take care of him #I’ve already said all these things before #i am tired. so tired

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moonlit-positivity · 1 month

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Growth looks good on you. Healing looks good on you. I like the way you're taking care of yourself right now. Keep it up 🌸

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