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antikosm · 4 months

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Aro/Ace Terms Masterlist

Please let me know if I forgot anything

NOTE: There is a distinct difference between someone's personal orientation versus how they feel about sexuality/romanticism as a whole. Someone who's sex/romance repulsed may be in favour of open sexual/romantic expression or even vice versa (shoutout to @sowearecleariamhere for informing me of this!)

Types of attraction

Sexual - I wanna have sex with that

Romantic - I want to date that

Sensual - I want to hug that

Platonic - I want to be friends with that

Platonic crushes do exist. They are called “squishes”. You go through the same process of having a romantic or sexual crush but instead of landing them in bed, you’re on the floor at 2am with pizza rolls, Shrek in the background, talking about eldritch monstrosities (or whatever your shared interest is)

Aesthetic - that looks so heckin’ cool/pretty I love it

Intellectual - the desire to engage with another in an intellectual manner, i.e. having a conversation, picking their brain, and finding out how they think

Terms describing degree of attraction

Aromantic - lack of romantic attraction

Asexual - lack of sexual attraction

Aplatonic - lack of platonic attraction

Aroace - lack of both sexual and romantic attraction

Demi - attraction only forms once a strong emotional bond has been formed

Grey/gray - rarely/seldom experiences attraction

Allosexual - someone who experiences sexual attraction

I think I’ve also heard/seen it referred to as ‘arosexual’ but that’s honestly a bit confusing

Alloromantic - someone who experiences romantic attraction

I personally shorten both of those to “allo” (pronounced ‘aloe’)

Apothiosexual - sex-repulsed

Apothioromantic - romance-repulsed

Apothiaroace - often shortened to just ‘apothi’. In addition to being aroace, apothis are repulsed by romantic/sexual scenes, items, displays, etc. to varying degrees

Sex-neutral and sex-positive/favourable aces exist as well

Not all of us have the same level of comfort with sexual and romantic activities so please check. I mean that applies to everyone anyway, but please check and don’t assume that just because someone is aro/ace, that doesn’t mean they are sex/romance repulsed

Queerplatonic - Queerplatonic typically refers to a relationship that bends the lines between a romantic relationship and a non-romantic relationship. A queerplatonic relationship (QPR) often goes beyond what is socially acceptable for a platonic relationship but does not fit the typical notion of a romantic relationship.

Alterous attraction - a type of emotional attraction to someone that isn’t entirely romantic or platonic.

Chastity - actively refraining from sexual activities. This is NOT part of the ace/aro spectrum, though it is a common assumption when someone says they are ace/aro. Thankfully we’re getting a bit more representation in media now so it’s not as common of an assumption as it used to be, but it’s still there, especially in those communities.

An absolute FANTASTIC addition by @heyftinally in case anyone doesn't see the repost

Gonna expand on sex favorable/neutral/repulsed, since this is a masterlist after all: - Sex favorable - regardless of your sexual orientation, you personally want to engage in sexual activity with someone (significant other, one night stand, friends with benefits, etc) - Sex neutral - if you're with someone who wants to engage in sexual activities then you may or may not, depending on a variety of factors, but you have no strong inclinations for or against engaging in sex itself as an activity. Basically it's "alright" Sex repulsed/averse - the idea of personally engaging in sexual activities makes you want to hurl/cry/claw your skin off/spontaneously combust. If someone suggested doing sexual activities together, you would probably vehemently say "No!" before they even finished the question. You would rather do anything else - Sex positive - refers to your attitudes about sex in general. Regardless of where you fall in the above three terms, you recognize that other people want to, and should have the freedom and right to, engage in consensual sexual activities, even if you personally don't like or want those activities. Essentially shorthand for "I respect the right of other adults to have gay sex, have gender-weird sex, have sex with multiple people in and out of monogamous relationships/marriages, and have weird, wild, freaky kinky sex, so long as all participants and consenting adults". You can still personally want zero sex for yourself or think a particular kink is weird/ick, but you can, in tumblr speak, be normal about consenting adults doing consenting adult stuff - Sex negative - conservative purity culture, basically. You think nobody should have sex ever, or at least not until marriage, and when they do it should only be the "right" or "good" kind, as arbitrarily decided by you/society/some collective. You think badly of, look down on, and may even treat badly anyone who doesn't have the "right" kind of sex in your opinion. You are not normal about consenting adults doing consenting adult activities (even though they don't involve you in any way)

A wonderful addition from @overlord-of-chaos Sex aversion is not the same thing as sex repulsed.

If you are sex adverse, you personally have no desire to partake in any of those actions but seeing or knowing other people partake in that doesn't bother you.

Sex repulsion is when you can't stand doing it yourself, seeing/hearing about/knowing that others partake in it, or even just the idea of it.

Microlabels/Terms describing flavour of attraction

Note: -sexual is used for many of these so we don't have to deal with duplicates confusing things. All of these prefixes can be used with -romantic, -sexual, -platonic, and I imagine -alterous as well

Abrosexual - orientation fluctuates between a variety of orientations

Aceflux - similar to abrosexual, but orientation is contained to asexual spectrum

Acespike - someone who is asexual but may experience intense, brief, and random bouts of sexual attraction

Aegosexual - disconnect between oneself and the target of arousal

Amicusromantic/sexual - only experiences romantic attraction to those who they have formed a platonic relationship with (subset of demi)

Angled aroace - the same as oriented, but for those who are demi, grey, flux, etc.

Anthrosexual - someone who is attracted to humans and alterhumans regardless of gender identity/expression

Bellussexual - has interest in the aesthetic/aspects/certain sexual actions, but does not experience sexual attraction or want a sexual relationship

Caedsexual - previously allo, but now ace due to past trauma

Cupiosexual - wanting a sexual relationship but not experiencing sexual attraction

Finsexual/gynesexual - attraction to femininity

Fraysexual - opposite of demi. Attraction dissipates once an emotional connection has been formed

Linsexual - attraction to androgyny

Lithosexual - experiencing sexual attraction but not wanting it to be reciprocated

Loveless Romantic/Lovelessromantic - those who cannot feel love or feel disconnected from love but can feel romantic attraction/don't feel disconnected from the concept of romance

Minsexual/androsexual - attraction to masculinity

Orchid - the opposite of cupio; experiences ____ attraction but has no desire for a relationship of that type

Placiosexual - not wanting to be on the receiving end of sexual activities but wishing to perform them on others

Quiosexual - unable to distinguish between sexual attraction and other forms of attraction

Qui(r)oromantic - inability to distinguish between platonic and romantic attraction

Reciprosexual - not experiencing sexual attraction towards someone until you discover they experience sexual attraction towards you

Requiessexual - similar to caedsexual, but rather than trauma, ace identity originates from a state of emotional exhaustion, usually from a past sexual experience

Oriented aroace - an aromantic asexual (aroace) individual who experiences a form of tertiary attraction, that they feel is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aroace orientation. (i.e. gay aroace, bi aroace)

Angled aroace - someone who is on the aroace spectrum (grey, demi, fray, etc) who experiences a type of attraction significant enough to stand alongside their aroace orientation

Examples of mixed orientations

Heteroromantic asexual biplatonic

Poly greyromantic pansexual

Apothi abroplatonic

Placiosexual aromantic finplatonic

Aroace cupioplatonic

Pan lithioromantic

Fraysexual biromantic aplatonic

You can get WAY more specific than what these cover, but just to give a general idea

Amatonormativity

Amatonormativity is the assumption that all human beings pursue love or romance, especially by means of a monogamous long-term relationship. The term was coined by Elizabeth Brake, in her book Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law (2011).

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fluffykitty149 · 6 months

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Shout out to all my fellow hypothetical sluts

the ones who are sluts in theory but not in practice.

the ones who fantasize about hooking up at a party but are really just happy to have a pleasant conversation with someone

the ones who hate porn but have had a smut craze

the ones who are still in a smut craze

the ones who aren’t sure if they want to have sex, but feel like they’d do a good job if they were in the mood

the ones who can never tell if a confession was real or not and the chance they were wrong haunts them

the ones who think ‘I’d totally make out with this person’ but also never go through with it

the ones who do not know how to approach the people they are attracted to and end up looking like idiots

the ones who if their crush has a crush, fully supports it and doesn’t give a fuck on missing out

the ones who scream into their pillow for missing their chance

the ones who want to get married and stuff but are okay with dying alone

the ones who don’t want to get married and stuff but are afraid to die alone

the ones who do know how to flirt but don’t want to try it on someone they aren’t sure is into them

the ones who are trying to learn to flirt

the ones who want to make out just to see if they’d be good at it

the ones who want to make out hypothetically but jump 10ft away from someone who wants to make out with them

the ones who when having a fictional crush make an oc instead of projecting their actual selves in an x reader

i could probably get more specific but I could get reported as is. Also idk if I should tag this as nsfw but let me know if I should.

#asexual #asexuality #greysexual #demisexual #autochorissexual #ace #lgbt+#lgbtqia #lgbt #sexuality #cupiosexual

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hyenafu · 1 year

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I made this back in 2021 to explain why I was suddenly making art that was slightly kinkier and more salacious than I’ve ever made before. Since then, I’ve made a lot of it! I dub it “spicy stuff”. It may feel silly to explain myself, but I have been publicly online for a very long time.

Why not make a separate art account for it?” you ask. Managing separate accounts is a hassle and creates pressure to keep it updated. This is a part of my asexual identity that I would like to share with other open minds. Even if it’s weird, they are illustrations and comics about physical intimacy that I enjoy making.

I like making plush vore, hypnosis, and transformation especially. It’s very tame and only involves fully clothed or null bodies. I will always tag it as #spicystuff, so do what you must. Live your best life!

#autobiographical #autobio #autobio comics #aegosexual #autochorissexual #asexual #acearo #furry

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moved-to-piersgender · 7 months

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One thing you really notice as an aego person is how most porn is honestly desperately unerotic. I'm not just here to see or read about genitals slapping together, y'all! I want ✨ chemistry ✨

#aegosexual #Aego things #Aegosexuality #autochorissexual

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otaku-babu-vibes · 17 days

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oh shit, im Technically aegosexual but only just learned its called that now, had to look it up to confirm and apparently it used to be called autochorissexual(the label ive been using). this is awesome. i womder why people moved to another word? eithwr way Yaay helloo

we both learned something new. I googled "when did autochorissexual become aegosexual" .. very interesting.

#anon ask #lgbt #lgbt+#lgbt positivity #lgbt+ community #asexuality #autochorissexual #aegosexual

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lawofcollage · 11 months

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The aego/autochoris pride flags! (The beginning part is interchangeable)

Autochorissexual, Aegoromantic

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theinfantboiler · 8 months

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ficto/aegosexual sounded cringe to me at first, until i realized interacting with actual people is like licking a gas station toilet for 12 hours straight, and then it made perfect sense—

#aegosexual #fictosexual #家 #sex repulsed #flesh repulsed #autochorissexual #ace #grey ace #gray ace #grayace #greyace #graysexual #aspec #♠️

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scretladyspider · 2 years

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theaceandaroadvocacyproject · 2 years

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For Pride Month, we decided to delve into the history of some of the terms frequently used in the ace community (and next week, we’ll be diving into aro terms)!

[ID: “History of Some Ace Spectrum Terminology. On May 30, 1997, Zoe O'Reilly posted an article online titled "My Life as an Amoeba", discussing her experience with zero sexual attraction and using "asexual" to describe her orientation. The article had a thriving comments section of people realizing the term "asexual" might work for them, too.”

“In 2003, the term "semisexual" was proposed on the AVEN forums as a word to describe a point between asexuality and allosexuality. It wasn't until 2006 that AVEN user KSpaz suggested the term "gray-a", which stuck. "Demisexual" was also coined in 2006 by another AVEN user - sonofzeal.”

“ "Autochorissexual" was a term introduced in 2012 by researcher Anthony Bogaert . This has largely been replaced by the community-created term "aegosexual", due to Bogaert's description of autochorissexuality as a paraphila [a non-normative sexual behavior, sometimes synonymous with disorder] and people wanting to move away from that negative implication. “ End ID.]

#image described #ace #asexual #autochorissexual #aegosexual #demisexual #gray ace #gray asexual #aroace #allo ace

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dikdikpronouncedxylophone · 11 months

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Kissing and making out always looks so romantic in movies/TV shows/books/fanfics, but in real life, it feels like swallowing a live octopus.

#aromantic #lgbt #lgbtq community #lgbtq #aro #arospec #aromantism #aroace #aromantic asexual #aegoromantic #autochorissexual

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roseredsnow · 6 months

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Possible Aegosexual/autochrissexual rep in Fall of the House of Usher?

Would like to hear peoples thoughts.

Tw: mention of sexual content

Tamerlane is a character in fall of the house of Usher, I haven't read the book but currently on episode six and just had this realisation.

So it's implied pretty early then a couple episodes in we see what happens, basically Tamerlane hires a sex worker to pretend to be her while flirting and having sex with her husband, and Tamerlane gets off on this fitting the definition I think.

It's mentioned it is her idea not her husbands and there's a bunch of other lgbt+ rep in the show, I also know one of the writers is Justina Ireland who's wrote ace spectrum characters before.

Interested to know if anyone else came to this conclusion.

#fall of the house of usher #asexual #asexual representation #aegosexual #autochorissexual #lgbt+#queer #tamerlane usher

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amy-the-fairy · 6 months

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I just wish that people separated oc x canon to self insert.

While my OCS are shaped by me, they aren't meant to be me. But idk maybe I'm the only one who don't want to get with my blorbos here

#self insert #oc x canon #autochorissexual #it's exactly how it feel

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leadendeath · 3 months

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i don't want to reblog the post because my commentary is not relevant to the subject, so i didn't want to put this in said post's tags. also as i type it turned into a long...? something. vent maybe? i don't even know what to refer to it as. but i've seen a couple of posts recently that have really got me thinking.

as i'm writing this, they both just appeared on my dash. they are this one and this one. i'm definitely going to post this now (i have to) and not just save it in my drafts forever.

Having sex with friends sounds nice! I am pro-that! (pro meaning not anti) for me it would alleviate my fears of hooking up with those I just met or haven't known for years because friends are less likely to murder/kidnap you or give you a disease! (I do not want to die from sex lmao) the con: now they know what i look like and what bodily/physical problems i have that aren't visible to the general public. no. i can't have sex with my friends. my god. it all boils down to my body dysmorphia. literally the mortifying ordeal of it being known

So I think again, like I often do, about my place on the ace spectrum. I usually do not care for labels, don't find them necessary to apply to myself, but it's totally cool if other people have tons of different labels that they use. I am pro-that too! I myself am definitely grey-ace or demi-something. I landed on aegosexual- a disconnect between yourself and your sexual attraction- for a long time. I am never sexually or romantically attracted to somebody I don't know. Not even people on the screen. What if that hot (definition for this context: visually appealing) actor is a dick? Good looks garbage personality? At least you can do research on him. Not the case with "irl contacts" (definition: non-famous and real people who you might actually meet or know in person).

I know that I definitely experience sexual attraction, and want to have sex. Based on that I don't feel quite right calling myself asexual.

I don't LIKE that I feel too bad about experiencing sexual attraction to act on it. There's this weird feeling that's hard to place, but closest to "guilt", I'd say. Disgust with myself.

That time I was propositioned to go back to a con hotel (i turned him down and he listened and respected me and was nice, it's just i stopped myself), or that other time when making out and groping (different guy different occasion; we could've gone further but i stopped myself), or even just flirting and talking about our turn-ons and things we Like with my long-distance online sort-of bf that I had. I'm even hesitating to follow the "after dark" art accounts that I want to follow on bird site because of the guilt and almost embarassment I feel at myself (I'm fully aware that the only reason most people have locked accounts which you have to request to follow is to keep out minors and trolls btw, and i'm certainly neither of those!).

All of this is stuff I want and that's enjoyable to me, but this nagging "don't do that. you're gross. why would you say/do that? you're being weird. stop. stop. stop. you're not allowed to do these things." is always there in my mind. I don't want it to be there, and it's always there.

Now, this doesn't come from religious trauma, like "sex before marriage = wrong and bad"? "gay sex = ultimate evil"? Nah, I was never told those things. I didn't even have a very religious upbringing. These thoughts can't be explained away by any of that. Even my mom has always been like "you can have a girlfriend or a boyfriend! i don't mind as long as you're happy! :)" yknow having that nice accepting approach to that time when I was like 15 and settled on bi for "what i was" at the time. No judgement, no condemnation there either.

It's not real.

When I learned that I have ocd, suddenly I started to maybe have an explanation for these thoughts. Some people's obsessions focus on repetition or contamination. A good part of my obsessions focus on condemnation. I'm scared of it. I take "beating yourself up over something" to the next level. Just like any other person who's familiar with delusions, intrusive thoughts, etc will tell you: knowing it's not real doesn't make it any better. Doesn't make it stop. Doesn't make it go away.

When I could explain this detrimental thought process away by finding this horrible disorder to pin the blame on, I felt freer. I've thought many times throughout my mentally ill life about bringing up my (questioning)asexuality to a therapist one day, and I still will, even more so now. i felt before like I'd bring it up to them and not be able to back it up with any evidence, and just be brushed off? That's a stupid way to think, I know. And a therapist who would really do that is one you'd leave immediately. You don't need evidence to talk about how you feel, that's so silly... but that thought itself comes back around, in a vicious cycle, to my needing to justify myself because otherwise I am Wrong And Bad. jeez. what a way to think. i hate that. will be so glad when i get it under control after 25+ years.

edit: oh ya there's also this. my tags on one of the above posts i never reblogged, sat in my drafts.

my disability is inseparable from my sexuality, whatever it is.

#ocd #bdd #intrusive thoughts #demisexual #acespec #aegosexual #autochorissexual #that's a retired term i know so i won't use it again; but that's what it was called when i was younger #unusual for me to remember such a long word lol! it'd be harder for me now. /old #if anyone wants to say anything or tell me they relate- that'd be nice :) i'm purely just venting but sharing your thoughts is welcome #if you want to!

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bukatra · 1 year

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Aegosexual struggles:

Me: *is reading smut* “what these characters are doing is so fucking hot”

Brain: Yeah. Hey, what if you did that with someone?

Me: What?! Me? Oh gross! Ugh! Thanks a lot, brain. You took perfectly good smut and you ruined it. *chucks my phone at the wall.*

#aegosexual #autochorissexual #asexual struggles

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ides-of-march-1997-bigshot · 25 days

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It's been a while, huh....

#aegosexual #autochorissexual

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ficto-confessions · 9 months

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it took me this long to realize my autochorissexuality (aegosexuality but i prefer the original term) is the reason why i'm a ficto. i always felt kinda out of place having an f/o when i'm not 100% aroace and just aspec but i think that's okay.

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#ficto community #f/o blog #f/o confessions #f/o content #fictional love #ask blog #f/o community #selfship blog #aegosexual #aspec community #autochorissexual #f/o post

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