Sundance 2024 Film Review: Desire Lines ★★★1/2

Writer-director-editor Jules Rosskam’s Desire Lines, which just received its world premiere in the NEXT section at the 40th Sundance Film Festival, boldly forges its own hybrid form to explore intimate stories of transmasculine sexuality from the past and present. In the narrative fiction strand of the film, an unassuming Persian-American trans man in his early 60s, Ahmad (Aden Hakimi), is…

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Not to be rude but a lot of white lesbians on here will see an attractive white(and especially if they're skinny, conventionally attractive, cis, and feminine) woman and go "omg she's so pretty and gorgeous and elegant, gosh, why are women so beautiful! I want her to hold me and hug me and kiss me!" but the second you see an attractive non-white woman(especially if they are fat, trans, dark-skinned, or butch, but lbr y'all do this to femmes of color as well due to how masculinized we are), suddenly y'all's brains short-circuit and you don't know how to complement us without depriving us of our humanity because you still internalized the idea that woc are wild impure animals and so out comes the "omg I want her to step on me and choke me and slap me across the face and make me her slave!!!" and y'all think it's okay because you're making yourself "subservient" to us but really all you're doing is reinforcing harmful stereotypes of woc as more aggressive, sexual, violent, inhumane, and less feminine, sweet, loving, and/or gentle than white women, and you guys think it's a compliment but it's really fucking not and I'm here to tell you that being a lesbian doesn't invalidate your white privilege if you talk about and fetishize lesbian woc this way. 😡

I feel like we need to clear some things up in the marauders fandom.

A man can be feminine without acting like a woman or the stereotype of the gay dude

There is no ‘’Who’s the man of the relationship?’’ or a ‘’ Who wears the pants’’ in a gay couple. They’re just both men.

Two very masculine men can be in a relationship. Two very feminine men can be in a relationship. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a feminine man and a masculine man.Although that’s totally valid too.

If it’s a gay couple, don’t make it a straight one.

Men can be feminine and not wear dresses, skirts or makeup. Just like men can be masculine and wear dresses, skirts or makeup.

If it’s a trans man, do not make them act like a woman or be the weak, pitiful one in the relationship. Trans man are real men and do not deserve to be treated like charity cases.

If one is gay and the other one is, for example,pansexual or bisexual, don’t make the gay one more feminine simply because they’re gay.

All in all, don’t apply your heteronormativity to gay couples because they’re NOT heterosexual.

(This is mostly for Wolfstar but it applies to every queer couple ever)

You aint no bitch, Bark from your chest.

yeah ok i get it you don’t think transandrophobia exists but you do realize that it’s still bad to be shitty to transmascs right? you get that right?

i see your fight club forcemasc and raise you school of rock lmao

id: jack black with chin length hair and bangs wearing a tan paisley shirt and brown bowtie, with a guitar strapped over his shoulder as he talks excitedly, text reads “fat transmascs are hot and handsome as they are” end id.

Black trans people are so stunning and amazing

T has been good to me

There NEEDS to be more poc trans representation in the trans community, as a black trans guy i rarely see other black or poc trans guys who have poufy 4c hair and brown or tan (or any shade) skin and i don't see them talking about their experience in the trans community.

Submitted March 30, 2023

"Trans men/transmascs aren't hated for being men/masculine we're/they're only hated for being trans"

Tell that to literally any trans man, or even transmasc individual, who has lost numerous friends during their transition because they became "too much of a man/too masculine".

Tell that to any trans man or transmasc who has been asked and berrated with questions and comments such as "why would you EVER want/choose to be a man" "how could you do this to us?" "Well as long as you don't act like/become too much of a man." "You're not going on T, though, are you?" and plenty more

Tell that to any trans man or transmasc who has been pushed out of entire support groups and communities, even if they have been there for YEARS, because they're no longer a woman

Tell that to any trans man or transmasc who have been labeled as a traitor to women and woman/sisterhood for being a man/masculine

Tell that to the trans men and transmascs who have been deemed dangerous and thus shunned, threatened, or even assaulted all because they're men now "and they should expect and accept it"

To the trans men and transmascs who have been assaulted in ways to try and "fix us" and turn us "back into women/lesbians"

Tell that to the trans men and transmascs who are labeled as the killers of parents sweet precious cis daughters or stealer of irreplaceable invaluavle lesbians or a poor unfortunate victim of being groomed by the Big Scary Trans Genders

Tell that to the trans men and transmascs who have been denied crucial, sometimes life-saving and/or life-altering health and medical care all because their gender marker has been changed to an M.

Tell that to the trans men who get told we're the ones responsible misogyny being systematic - that we just want to have it "easier" and surely can no longer be feminists because we "chose being an evil, oppressive (trans) man over being a soft, holy (cis) woman"

Tell them that all of the losses of their social connections and supports, the grimaces and sneers people have as their transition goes "too far". Tell that to the trans men and transmascs who have been deemed as predatory, potentially dangerous, in need of "saving", and so much more. Tell it to the trans men and transmascs who go through constant silencing, scrutiny, erasure and gatekeeping. Tell them that all of the pain, grief, loneliness, isolation, harassment, abuse and MORE that they have experienced ISN'T because they're a man or masculine, but because they're "just" trans. Even when, during all of these horrific moments in their life, the people inflicting this violence against them held nothing but contempt for them choosing to be a man. For trying to parade around as a man, when clearly they're just some poor delusional cis woman.

Tell them, because clearly you know everything and exactly how all of this works and how everyone's lived experiences have gone. Because you apparently know everything more than anyone else.

How do people think Percabeth has 'transmasc4transfem swag' though.Annabeth literally refuses to tell Percy she thinks he's handsome and he cringes at having to play the boyfriend roles for her

*voice of exhaustion* you guys are like, so moronically white

ftm sirius still wearing lipstick and dresses and tying his long hair in feminine ways because he likes feeling pretty and finally feels confident enough in himself and his masculinity to do so

Transfem sanji, sure sure, I guess I get that-

BUT

transmasc sanji with so much toxic masculinity because he was freshly trans and wanted to be seen as a man so badly and of course thinks theres only one way to be a man and that is to be a straight gentleman he eventually realizes hes bisexual and also through the Drag Queens learns he can also still like “girly” things like wearing dresses and makeup and still be able to be confident in his masculinity because WE NEED MORE TRANS MEN REALIZING THEY STILL KIND OF LIKE DRESSES BUT DONT WANT TO BE SEEN AS A GIRL! TRANS MALE FEMBOYS PLEASE

I have this theory that the rise of transvestigators is going to disproportionately affect woc and worsen racism against Black women specifically. Because the things transvestigators use to justify their transphobia are things Black women have been mocked for historically. Black women are targeted for being “tougher” and “manlier” than white women. We all remember the conspiracies about Michelle Obama being secretly transgender, and how Black women athletes are more often accused of doping and having testosterone levels “too high”. Transvestigators are overt transphobes, and also racists in disguise.

Sometimes I see OBGYNs advocating for abortion rights and reform within the medical system to provide better care to afab people. And then someone in the comments is complaining that the doctor used the term “pregnant individual” or “patient” instead of “women”.

Cis women are often not given the same level of medical resources and information as cis men by medical practitioners. Medical reform in this area is absolutely necessary. How can you see this and be upset that people dare to include afab trans people in activism.