transfems can be women but you are not, you're an agp

(i actually blocked the original person who sent this and then resent it to myself on anon to keep the presentation fitting since i would like to share my perspective on this anyhow. here's what i would have said to this straw-man argument-haver if they weren't already blocked!)

TL;DR: you're wrong with both of the things you asserted in your statement. 1) i am not an AGP which is because 2) AGP's are exactly as much of a woman as i am.

what meaningful categorization could you put on someone to fit the description of "autogynophile" that precludes them from womanhood without inherently being contradictorily transphobic? "it turns them on to think about being vaginally penetrated" yeah i bet a lot of cishet woman fantasize about that too. "they only changed their identity because they like being a lady so much it helps them get off" okay? and? this is not a categorization which is inherently predatory, so who cares? gender is, irrevocably, an invention. it's a farce. it's nothing, we made it up, that's the whole point of agreeing that people can change it if they say they want to.

drawing a social line by the physical distinctions of "do they have penis or the other one" is as arbitrary as separating people by right handedness and left handedness or the eye color they were born with. the social expectations, behaviors, and woes are a consequence of the fact that everyone has been taught "this is just how it is, and it makes you different in every way, and this is how it's always been, and this is how it'll always be", same as the way people keep using fiat currencies (the US dollar for example), despite them being backed up by no singular tangible thing in any way that matters, aside from the word of the person who controls it.

and sometimes going along with that stuff is fine! i mean not the money, but the other one. the gender one. i like to be called a woman, while also knowing that "woman" is an invention. "pretty" is also an invention, and i love to be called that. "sonic the hedgehog" is an invention that people talk about using the same verbiage they use when describing real, tangible, breathing creatures, despite the fact that sonic the hedgehog exists conceptually and not physically (not including physical representations, which are not the same thing).

i think agp's are also women. if i could read someone's mind and they said "hi im a woman" but i knew they were thinking "im actually a man" i would still say "hello woman" because they might as well have given me their name for all the difference it makes in how we interact moving forward. if someone has no intention or probability to harm themselves or anyone else, i couldn't care less.

all that being said, you're wrong with both of the things you asserted in your statement. 1) i am not an AGP because 2) AGP are exactly as much of a woman as i am. it is a meaningless category coined by bigots and only given credibility by people with bigoted views.

thinking abt that uptick in transphobic content thats like "sorry for misgendering the he/they that [supposedly feminine traits]" and they always mention boobs. they always mention how Big these men's breasts are. idk it fucks me up like if youre transmasc and have boobs youre expected to bind all the time every day, even if you arent dysphoric about them specifically. cis people (and truscum) wont respect you if you dont :/

Many discussionns of anti-transmasculinity focus on trans men who do not pass. But what about those that do?

Im non-op, but 4 years on-and-off T, and I pass as male 99.9% of the time. When I require gynecological care I am treated with inherent suspicion based on my gender and presentation. When I went for my last pap smear, the providers were prepared to deny care out of misunderstanding that I was cis and they do not provide care to males. I provided my legal gender (still F), gender identity and pronouns when I made the appointment, but my presentation overruled this. I needed to clarify (out myself) in person, that I am transgender. Just to be sure, they double checked the F on my ID.

In a hypothetical scenario, if my legal gender marker were changed to M out of a desire to avoid outing myself when applying to jobs, would I have not been believed and denied care?

If transphobes actually thought trans people were dangerous, they wouldn't make entire careers out of antagonizing us.

Okay so let me get this straight.

On one side you have people who are ostracized for transgressing against traditional gender norms, sometimes to the point of rejecting identification within that system entirely. They are even talked about like they are part of a malevolent conspiracy to undermine and destroy these conservative standards and western civilization as a whole.

On the other side you have religious conservatives, anti-feminists, and the catholic church saying that gender roles are innate and tied to chromosomes, that genders need to be strictly segregated in many contexts (requiring extensive gender policing), that defying gender norms in any way is a crime against god and nature, that eroding the distinction between genders is dangerous and that the people who do it are insane and predatory, and that people should not be able to so much as wear clothes that don't match their gender...

The first group gets called "gender ideology", "the gender cult", "genderism", and so on.

The second group calls itself "the anti-gender movement" and has political alliances with people who call themselves "gender abolitionists" but agree with them on much of the above.

Seems completely backwards to me.

....ok, lets go over this one more motherfucking time....

"bi lesbians" and "mspec lesbians" are not a real thing

they're just self loathing (more than often white) bisexuals who would rather perpetuate lesbophobia, transphobia and biphobia rather than accepting their bisexuality

for fuck sake there is nothing wrong with being bisexual!!! there is nothing wrong with being attracted to men!!!! but yall will do ANYTHING and say ANYTHING to ensure you dont claim your bisexuality.

it is wrong to coopt an identity that has nothing to do with you just because you wanna be special and even more so because dont wanna grow up and heal your negative, bigotted and harmful mentality

(since you lot are so gung-ho about maintaining your harmful mindset, its no wonder you lot are also so fucking transphobic and transmisognistic too huh)

and while im here, "lesbian trans men" are not a thing either

for GODS SAKE men cannot be lesbians and lesbians are not EVER attracted to men. YES EVEN IF THE MAN IS TRANS. he's a fucking man!!!!!

THE MAN BEING TRANS DOESNT MAKE THEM ANY MORE OF A LESBIAN THAN A CIS MAN AND YET YOU IDIOTS WILL PRISS ABOUT ABOUT HOW NOBLE AND QUEER AND TRANS INCLUSIVE YOU ARE

youre not only being lesbophobic, YOU are invalidating that trans man's manhood by saying that BECAUSE he is trans, he can be a lesbian.

FUCKING THINK ABOUT THAT FOR TWO SECONDS YOI WORTHLESS NUMBSKULLS. AND YOU CALL US TERFS?!?!!! YOU ACCUSE US OF PEDALLING RADFEM IDEOLOGY?!?!!

god.... all this bullshit cropping up during lesbian visibility week makes we want blood istg. you lot piss me off. if i catch ANY OF YOU BELLENDS PUSHING THIS SHIT THIS WEEK I WILL CUT YOU DOWN MY FUCKING SELF

If you're okay with Taylor Swift's Fortnight music video...

...but had a problem with Dylan Mulvaney's "take your pills" joke in Days of Girlhood...

...then I hate to break it to you, but your problem was never with "demeaning women", it was with Dylan being trans, you were just being a disgusting fucking transphobe, and I hope you step on a thousand legos a day for the rest of your life.

Although most reasonable people seem to understand that, now more than ever, twitter is an unreliable cesspool, I've seen multiple posts that seem to uncritically repost/reblog screenshots of twitter's community notes as if they are somehow more reliable. And while it is both fine and funny to point and laugh at assholes who are getting dunked on in the community notes, it's worth remember that those notes should not be treated as accurate or reliable in any way.

It's illegal to possess drugs. Who enforces that? All cops? Or just a few bad apples?

It's illegal to sleep in public. Who enforces that? All cops? Or just a few bad apples?

It's illegal to be LGBT. Who enforces that? All cops? Or just a few bad apples?

It's illegal to protest. Who enforces that? All cops? Or just a few bad apples?

It's illegal to steal to survive, but legal to exploit others for profit. Who enforces that? All cops? Or just a few bad apples?

This man is literally a villain, but a brokem clock is right twice a day.

It's so strange that some people can perfectly grasp the concept of;

"There are situations in which it is much safer for a trans woman to self-closet/self-degender/self-misgender in order to achieve safety and not become a vicitim of transphobia. Although she does not wish to be perceived as a man, she must do so in these cases to avoid violence or other negative consequences. She is not doing so through some innate desire to be both a woman and maintain male privlege, it is simply for safety."

AND

"A trans woman can indeed be butch/masc without it being a degendering/self-misgendering thing. To say otherwise is transmisogynistic. No woman, trans or otherwise, owes anyone a strict conformity to femininity in order to maintain their womanhood."

AND

"A trans woman revealing she is trans even if she passes, in order to talk about trans issues, represent trans people, or because she is simply not ashamed (nor should she be) and is proud of her transness is not at fault for any transphobia she receives because of this. She is not obligated to live in stealth."

But at the same time also believe that;

"Trans men who aren't living in stealth are inviting transphobia onto themselves in order to be victims but at the same time have male privilege. They are lording their femalehood over trans women every time they talk about being born/living as a woman or how misogyny affects them because of that. Trans men could just not be feminine and that would solve their issues, they should conform to masculine stereotypes (which I will then call them toxic for) which is actually super easy for every single AFAB out there. Trans men who self-degender/self-misgender in order to be safe in situations where being trans poses the risk of violence or worse have a degendering/misgendering fetish."

@zeoj99 anti trans it seems

When Complete BS Becomes "Common Knowledge."

Someone told me they stopped paying attention to someone who reviews movies after one too many mean-spirited jokes about trans people, and it was one of those cases where the reviewer in question definitely had the vibe of someone who'd go around doing that, but I couldn't think of any real flagrant examples. Cut to me watching a movie the other day, remembering that oh yeah, I skipped that one guy's review of it because I wanted to go in blind, and sure enough, that review has this big long crappy 5 minute aside of an out of left field "DID YOU JUST ASSUME MY GENDER!?" routine. So that's a shame.

Now this particular guy rather famously Does Not Get Out Much. Pretty sure he hasn't really have any exposure to a single trans person, or to any real die hard transphobes, and most likely what happened here is he saw I dunno, an episode of South Park or a facebook post from some bigoted aunt, or some Tiktok video, something like that, and just blithely assimilated it into his world view.

But you know, the reality is... to the best of my knowledge no trans person has ever actually said this, or anything similar to this, and we sure as hell don't live in a world where anyone would have the back of someone who did? But you know, here we are.

Now I want to be clear, this isn't some kinda thing where trans people can't take a joke or anything. Literally while I was typing this, some cis guy just tossed this out, and this is a real tired old hokey one, but I cracked a smile, because oh yeah, the whole "programmer socks" bit really is a weirdly accurate stereotype.

And there's plenty of other trans jokes I'll laugh at. Ones directly at my expense. Some real dark ones even. You wanna go off on trans women all having the same like 10 names and them all sounding like we were born in the 1800s, go for it. Other stuff about how we all dress? Coping mechanisms? Low standards? Being too into pickles and sriracha? There's plenty.

But "DID YOU JUST ASSUME MY GENDER!?" and while we're at it, "I identify as..." don't even have the vague shape of something you're ever going to encounter in reality. Like if I didn't know the context of where these came from and hadn't had them posted a thousand times or so by people with swastikas for avatars and such, these probably would get a laugh from me the first time I heard them, because they sound like weird surrealist humor. Like, "don't you hate how every time you go to the laundromat, you have to play chess with the dragon before they let you in?"

But, again, I know the context. And the context is a bunch of fascists want people like me dead, and they're both too scared to pick up a gun to do it themselves and too incompetent to know who to point it at or where to find them. So they sit around with each other and go "hey, what sort of person does everyone hate? Let's all say trans people talk like them!" And because they haven't spoken to a single human being besides each other and the rich parents they're sponging off since getting banned from the Something Awful forums in the 90s/punk bar in the 80s/whatever, they settled on "rich white person calling the cops on somebody for walking down the street" and "didn't I first get into being a hatemonger because I was stupid enough to think that time I saw someone roleplaying he really thought he was a big scary dragon?" Which has honestly worked out weirdly well for them when you stop for half a second to appreciate just how absolutely ridiculous it is to ever imagine cops coming to the aid of trans people.

Like... here's a situation that actually plays out in reality. I have a bad tooth. Dentist says I need a root canal, and she doesn't do them. Refers me to another dentist like an hour and a half away. I walk in, write my Victorian sounding name on some paperwork, fill in all my various medications, wait a bit, hop into the big dentist's chair, so far so good. This dentist busts out the pick and the mirror about to have a look, and goes "hey, so I noticed on your medications you're taking a ton of something called divigel? What is that?" I say "oh, yeah, I'm trans, so I'm on supplemental estradiol." She almost drops the mirror, stares at me like she just realized I'm Venom and if she bent down to look at my teeth I was about to swallow her whole head. She stands bolt upright, says, "your teeth are fine, get out." I'm a bit confused, but I can read a room, so I say "well that's weird, but OK..." and start to leave. I get a "have a nice day SIR!" shouted at me. And then I go out, call the cab company to say my appointment ended early, and get told too bad, it's coming when it's scheduled, and someone snickers. See, at some point in having to take cabs to all my appointments, a driver worked out that this woman he'd been picking up from this address for the past year has a similar voice to and maybe vague family resemblance to who he'd been picking up from that same address the year prior, and after getting the courage to ask me, guess who's constantly having cabs show up late, or not at all, or on time with a driver staring angrily into the rear view mirror while blaring AM radio with someone shouting about all "the gays" needing to be rounded up so they can burn in hell. And I just need to suck it up and live with it. I'm sure as hell not going to pick a fight over it. I'm just gonna stand out in the cold (fortunately with nice warm knee-high socks) waiting for this cab for an hour because I sure as hell can't stay in this lobby.

But again, the whole weird myth here posits a world where trans people are all-powerful and control the government and stuff. And the basis for that is like... sometimes people refuse to pass ridiculous laws to stop trans people from doing things we only do in bigots' imaginations at great taxpayer expense, and SOMETIMES someone is responsible enough to double check what's up before they allocate the funds. Like... hell, you know what's exactly as completely divorced from reality and honestly the same people doing to same crap? That wild BS about "schools keeping litter boxes in classrooms because all this acceptance of trans people means we also have to accept kids who think they're cats!" Like... how the hell can anyone actually be stupid enough to believe that anyone else could be stupid enough to believe that they're actually stupid enough to believe such an OBVIOUSLY made-up narrative? Like... lawmakers bring that one up and try to get bills passed on it. Everyone else in the room is socially obligated not to laugh and ask whether they also want to pass legislation against Bat Boy and UFO abductions. This is Ralph Wiggum tier absurdity.

But like... what do you do about this sort of thing, really? As the person ultimately has to deal with the dentists who think I'll bite their heads off, ask to speak to their manager, and drop trou over a sandbox the state mandates they keep in the middle of the room, I'm... not in the room when this BS gets concocted, or discussed, or shared in Minions meme some film critic sees and imitates to try and be relatable and relevant. Can someone else start grabbing all these people by the lapels and shake them and shout questions about how they can be this stupid, maybe invite them back to reality for me?

I absolutely HC Chihiro as a Trans Woman. The whole "He was so brave to want to work out and be more mainly" plot line reads to me like desperation to not be perceived. Like literally stating, "he was happy as a girl, and good at it too." And then back tracking with uh oh everyone is gonna know your secret better beef up so no one makes fun of you... Or worse...

And then she outs herself to Mondo who immediately kills her. Like valid fear.

People don't want to admit Chihiro is legitimately trans because DR is so checking bad at representation and is in many cases actively homophobic (especially in THH). Admitting the nature of Chihiro's relationship with gender identity and expression asks some really tough questions about the rage Mondo felt that caused him to commit murder. Not to mention the clearly queer subtext happening between Mondo and Taka, can easily be implied as internalized homophobia brought on through social expectations and his role in his gang being brought into question.

Suffice it to say, I feel a personal pinch in my heart when people refer Chihiro as he. Although it isn't explicitly stated in Canon I feel like to continue to call Chihiro he actively goes against what the character is and is implied to represent

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