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coachkaushal · 1 year

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Do you have a fear of success?

Have you heard this famous saying: “If you’re not where you want to be in life it’s because of either of two things: A fear of failure or a fear of success.” I must confess there was a time I thought a fear of success is a ‘good’ problem to have. No? It sounds like you having the necessary talents and abilities to be wildly successful at whatever you want to be successful at but you just…

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kaportka · 5 months

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7 Signs You Are Becoming Your Best Self

Heightened Self-Awareness. As you embark on becoming your best self, you start peeling back the layers of the person you thought you were.

You Embrace Change. The unknown is no longer scary. It becomes a representation of the endless possibilities that lie ahead.

You Question the Status Quo. You question the norms, the expectations, and the predefined roles assigned by society.

You Find Strength in Solitude. You realize that solitude is your friend, not something you should run away from.

You Seek Knowledge. You find yourself drawn to books, courses, and experiences that contribute to your intellectual and spiritual growth.

You Cultivate Resilience. Instead of viewing obstacles as insurmountable roadblocks, you see them as opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

Compassion Is Your New Language. You understand that, beneath the surface, everyone is navigating their journey, facing challenges, and seeking a path to fulfilment.

#blog #writer #article #spirituality #spiritual growth #self help #gratitude #happiness #selfcare #lifestyle #mindset #mindfulness #inspiration #loa #mental health #life #self improvement

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gale-in-space · 22 days

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“Narcissists will butter you up and shower you with compliments in order to lure you in so they can abuse you!!!” No, we heavily compliment people because that’s the kind of stuff we wish people would do to us. I gush over people and try to be specific with my compliments because it's how I want people to treat me. I desperately want to be seen and to feel loved and appreciated the way I try to make others feel. Why is this so hard to understand

#npd #the thing in quotes is stuff paraphrased from actual articles i've read btw #but here's the thing. we’re not evil masterminds #we are people who were not sufficiently loved or supported growing up #and so we are trying to make up for it now #idk what good recovery looks like because instead of putting effort towards trying to research effective treatments for npd #people will just shun us and be like ‘here’s how to spot and avoid narcissists’#so i guess the best thing we CAN do is try to be vocal about our needs #even if other people think it’s annoying or attention-seeking or what have you #edit: i do want to clarify. i don't know that a steady flow of compliments or praise is a good thing #i don't KNOW if that's the answer to the colloquial 'narc crash'#because as i said: no one is putting any effort towards figuring out how to actually treat npd #i feel like an end goal for treating someone with npd would be to help them learn to live with some discomfort #and to develop ways of being self-sustaining so that a multitude of compliments and praise aren't necessary all the time #but that seems impossible at times because. again. can't emphasize this enough. no one wants to research how to treat npd #we're just kind of left to fend for ourselves #we're like opportunistic omnivores in a way #filling up on what we can when we can because we don't know if we'll always have the opportunity to refuel again #even if it is detrimental in the long run #okay i'm done now fr lol

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mitskijamie · 11 months

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Jamiegender scholars should we discuss the recurrant emasculation by older men

#oc #also very interesting how much of this comes from Roy if you read Roy as a closeted gay or bi man #I actually read a really interesting article about the sharp left turn in attitudes towards homosexuality in men's sports #and how in the 90's (which wouldve been the height of Roy's career) <10% of male athletes surveyed described themselves as 'pro gay'#compared to 93% in 2022 #and how it's common for male athletes to kiss each other/share beds/outwardly express love for each other which didnt used to be the case #Roy was loved and valued his entire career for being angry and aggressive and soldiering through pain without help #('Your anger makes you the player that you are' Roy Kent will never leave on a stretcher' 'I played hurt all the time')#and Jamie (who he sees so much of his younger self in) is living in a much better world where that expection isnt nearly as heavy and I can #see the resentment there #I'm fine with him playing hurt I played hurt all the time. I had to suffer so should he. it's not fair it's not fair it's not fair #this makes NO sense im literally like a little girl playing insane dramas with barbies #jamiegender

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arafergirl-artdump · 5 months

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(eng/jpn/rus) Starter pack when you discovered you're autistic.

(Little disclaimer: This was made totally based on my own experience. Also, i mainly write about things related to autistic experience, but it's not exclusive to it. It possibly can help ADHD/ADDers, high sensitive people and everyone who have any relation to some autistic traits)

Hi there! If you are reading this, i can assume you recently discovered you're autistic. Well, it can explains a lot of what happened in your life, but sure you're thinking "what's next? Will it change something in my life?". For this i need to explain what is masking.

From Wikipedia: "In psychology and sociology, masking is the process in which an individual camouflages their natural personality or behavior to conform to social pressures, abuse, or harassment". So, basically, it means you're hiding some traits of you and your personality by (in neurodivergent case) mirroring others. It can start in very young age. I can assume you're older than 8, so you can consider as late-diagnosed, so you probably masked a lot. Later (or even now) you can notice that your behaviour changes: you notice how loud, bright, smelly, ect. things can be, you do more repetative movements (it's called stimming, it can be not only physical. Listening a lot of music can consider stimming too, for example), you maybe start to talking about things you like a lot, like, A LOT. It means you are unmasking, maybe some thing are not so noticable for you, that's fine, every autistic experience is individual. I mean, if you already notice those things, i can advise you some things that helped and still helping me.

Let's start with clothes. Sure you know this feeling when you're in some itchy clothes and it's so itchy you want it to pull off immediately. Well, now you know the reason why you felt it! But where you can buy clothes that will NOT give you this feeling? The only brand that never gave me this sensory hell is UNIQLO, plus their clothes are genderless. But if you can't buy their clothes or prefer other brands for reason, just make sure this piece is have a huge percent of cotton, lien, bamboo or any othere sensory safe fabrics.

So, what about other senses? Well, there's a poll in here that shows that most neurodivergent people are mostly sensitive to noises (of course it's not an offical research, it's just a Tumblr poll). You propably should get some noise-cancelling headphones. Also you can get construction headphones! I actually have ones, it's good for going outside, but isn't if you want to lay down because of how big they are. Well, i recommend get both and use them at the same time. Also you may have problems with lights, so get yourself a good glasses if your eyes will be tired. There's nothing i can recommend for smell and taste, well, you probably already have safe food even if you don't recognise it yet, so find foods that are safe for you.

And not so first need things! They can help you in the future, but some isn't nesecary if you don't have needs i have. So, in short:

weighted blanket - good for sleep or when you're feeling anxious. If you can, buy it, but you can make it by yourself.

fidget toys - good for stimming, but some of them are can be loud, so my ultimate recommendation is Tangle. But only you know what's good for you!

AAC app - good if you don't like use your voice much. Currently i use "Card talk" and it's good for communicating, but there's bugs with created cards' audios, it can become too fast or too slow. You can fix it by closing and opening the app again, but it can be a bit annoying.

I hope it can help you with living your autistic life comfortably! Reminder: it's based on my experience, so i'm sure there's somenthing that bother you less and bothers me a lot. Well, i said everything i wanted to, so have a great day!

(Damn, this post is long)

(PS: "Card Talk" is so buggy i need to make new audio for created cards. If you aren't multilingual as me, better find other apps)

(PPS: I just found one that is good for multilinguals, it's "Cboard"! So if you're talking in more than one language, this app is pretty good!)

#autism #self help #advice #aac device #noise canceling headphones #fidget toys #article #actually autistic #neurodivergent #30 notes

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oatbugs · 10 months

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and also just adding onto that, the recent wave of like armchair diagnosing ppl as npd is sooo annoying. Like its actually a serious condition, you CANNOT diagnose someone as npd with just one story or interaction. Sometimes ppl are not "narcissistic", they're just assholes? It feels like every second story i hear, there's ppl going "thats a narcissistic trait yk :/" and its like just bc its a narcissistic trait doesnt mean they have npd??

yes defintely !! it's so so harmful and i have not seen any other disorder (except maybe aspd?) get as much demonisation and hate as npd has and it is genuinely so heartbreaking bc it is a serious dissociative disorder that does Not inherently make anyone a bad person and yet !! like the term "narcissistic abuse" and also ppl just generally equating [mostly covert] abuse w narcissism is so immensely Harmful .

anyway i think we should bring back calling people mean, assholes, rude, gaslighters, abusers, etc instead of being like "my mother was a narc abuser so all ppl w npd are abusers and will never change!" etc etc bc it does 3 horrible things:

1) implies all people with npd are abusers

2) implies people with npd are not capable of self-improvement just like any other human being

3) offloads the horrible actions of abusers onto a disorder, thereby taking away the responsibility they had/choices they made in the situation and instead blames the (completely inaccurate + harmful!!) perceived invariability/ubiquitous evil of npd symptoms/traits .

"how to spot a narcissist" babe are we birdwatching now for ppl with a dissociative disorder or...???

#basically i had a breakdown moment where i realised that despite upholding lying as like. a moral principle .#i used to lie a lot in the past. but i didn't rly realise it then. and having this realisation kind of like...broke down a lot #of self image issues etc and i started looking into Why i did what i did etc...obvs i felt an immense amt of guilt #and while researching i found npd and i was like oh the symptoms actually kinda match #i started doing research into it and oh my godddd the amount of absolutely horrifying articles etc etc i found #nothing was helpful and everything was just what to do if ur parent is an evil narcissist 🤪 and it was just like. signs of covert abuse.#and i was like. even if i did have this disorder i would be so discouraged for getting help bc of this!! there were like 2 places on this #whole internet w an ounce of compassion. anyway i talked to my therapist and she said i definitely do not have npd and there is a much bett #explanation etc bc im autistic and there are comorbidities etc etc but i cannot forget the sheer . feeling of heartbreak and horror.#like the way that these people were being talked about as though they are animals. whole human beings who were abused and mistreated #ive never in my life seen such blatant and rampant and LOUD villinisation and demonisation of ppl with a disorder #i realised this was a problem b4 i went down the research rabbit hole but this just made me realise the sheer extent of it. truly disgustin

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rapidhighway · 1 year

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girl help im ashamed of every idea i have

#ughhhh it's time to read articles about self esteem again #girl help its 3am #i juuuust need to finish writing down that synopsis #in the correct language this time #and i can go #snork mimimimimi #i like my idea #i don't want anyone to see it or read it or know about it pls

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65binary · 6 months

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not to pop culture post but theres a reason that the taylor swift brazil tragedy isnt getting nearly as much coverage as the astroworld tragedy did. and i dont think a lot of yall are ready to admit it's demographic

#taylor swift #taylor swift brazil #''oh she noticed the fans signs its not taylor's fault'' man stfu!!! it is partially her fault. she noticed the fans asking for help and #kept playing music. But taylor swift couldn't be self centered couldn't fuck up like that?????#Actually genuinely fucks me up that the tour is back on track now less than 2 weeks later and trying to find info about it now i have to #sift though articles about her relationship w the chiefs guy and the album release #we cannot have this fucking double standard #astroworld tragedy

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hairtusk · 9 months

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if i had a massive amount of inherited wealth that was mine alone, i'd become a stay-at-home-mother in a heartbeat tbh

#like if i was hugely wealthy on my own terms and wasn't relying on my husband's generosity #i'd have kids and spend six-ish years raising them hands-on (with maybe a nanny to help every now and then)#then i'd get back into writing when my body had fully recovered and hire them several tutors to homeschool them #in the grounds of my enormous country manor #alas. rather bleak times to become a mother happening out there.#i was looking at carrie johnson's instagram after reading an article about 'mumfluencing'#and yeah her life seems nice. except she was no source of income and is living on the kindness of a well-documented adulterer #but if i could live like her while being entirely self-reliant i would 🤷‍♀️

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fanvoidkeith · 2 months

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been reading some articles about hidden requests and this describes my frustration with my parents (besides their toxic behaviors) to a tee. literally i'll be like BE STRAIGHTFOWARD WITH ME. BE HONEST. JUST TELL ME THE CRAP I NEED TO KNOW. and they'll respond to me the vaguest goddamn request/phrase i've ever heard and then get upset when i didn't understand what the hell they wanted from me

#void keith talks #maybe i should send my mom some articles. i think she would benefit from reading them #my dad probably wouldn't care unless he heard it from some stupid self-help guru #autism struggles #autistic adult

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redpapercraness · 7 months

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I’ve been in a weird purgatory state for the better part of a year where my entire day is contained within my four bedroom walls and the kitchen (occasionally). I never leave the house anymore and my constant routine is just switching between five apps just looking for an ounce of entertainment. All this to say I ordered some yarn and knitting needles + a crochet hook to try and get a hobby that isn’t entirely on a screen lmao

#sorry if this feels like a vent it’s really not I’ve just been very blegh lately yk #I’ve been isolated for a long time away from most people and that doesn’t feel very good #every self help article or post I see is like “’if you need a new hobby then try doing something creative!’#but doing these creative things feel so much like work to me now that I can’t relax while doing them #I’ve been trying to find a hobby that isn’t crocheting/knitting or reading that I can do without leaving my house #not much luck #im trying to be better tho !!! giving knitting and crocheting a fair shake before I write em off #crane speaks

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coachkaushal · 7 months

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Meaning and Importance of the Third Eye Chakra- Ajna Chakra- Part-1

While a balanced third eye chakra can lend the individual a strong 'sixth sense' so to speak that gives them an inherent knack of judging people and situations accurately, a blocked or closed third eye chakra can cause the individual to appear quite 'naïv

Mantra: ‘Om’ (Pronounced ‘Ohm’)2. Location: Between the eyebrows.3. Color: Indigo4. Position: Perpendicular to the Earth/ Parallel to the Spine5. Rotation: Parallel to the spine6. Corresponding Planetary energy: Sun&Moon7. Corresponding Number: 1&28. Corresponding Mudra: Gyana Mudra The Third Eye Chakra is related to focus, concentration and ‘manifesting your reality’. Throughout cultures the…

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tabellae-rex-in-sui · 2 years

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I'm unreasonably obsessed with grown adults who don't have the mental stability for social media but use it anyway and use it wayyy too much. Like I want papers written on them. I want psychological research papers on the 40 year old with presumably a job and family who argues with 22 year olds online like their lives depend on it until it works them into a depression

#like theres already papers written on ~fandom~ stuff or online behavior #if anyone knows anumy articles or papers in this Please let me know #**any #like the thought of an adult interpreting any post as a personal attack means you probably shouldn't be here and I hope you get help #but whyyy are you here so much #is it like a form of self harm? maladaptive coping?#I need a professional's interpretation because I'm an idiot

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artists-ache · 1 year

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✨ Articles I’ve Written ✨

On transness

On privilege

On radical feminism

On the animal food industry

On overconsumption

On accessibility

On drug addiction

On my own mental illnesses and how/why I kept myself alive

✨ Articles with By My Side Mental Health Support ✨

Unseen factors that affect mental health

The importance of self-care

Ways to ask for help

Affirmations for body neutrality

Sadness vs. depression

Coping with sadness & depression (video version)

Worry vs. anxiety

Coping with worry & anxiety (video version)

When indifference becomes apathy

When irritability becomes anger

Schizophrenia (video version)

Tourette’s (video version)

PMDD (video version)

Agoraphobia

Cluster A PD’s

Cluster B PD’s

Cluster C PD’s

Altered mental states (video version)

How trauma affects the brain (video version)

How trauma affects the body (video version)

Trauma treatments (video version)

Trauma recovery

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thewannabewriter9 · 3 months

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Success is decided by certain key factors.

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#psychology #philosophy #self development #self help #mental health #get motivated #motivation #successmindset #steps tp success #blog stuff #blogs #business #business growth #article #motivateyourself #ways #hard work #self belief

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erabundus · 1 year

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i feel like the biggest plot twist is that ren's hypothetical search history would be quite tame — but he still guards it just as fiercely as he would if it weren't because he doesn't want anyone to know he spends his time googling recipes for comfort food and embroidery patterns.

#𝟎𝟎𝟒 : 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘴𝘰 𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥. ◟ hc .◝#( googling self help articles on how to make a mortal / immortal relationship work )#( those cutting kinetic sand asmr videos )#( falls down a rabbit hole & accidentally ends up watching someone make homemade rugs for three hours )#( he is not an innocent person he just prefers everything firsthand. )

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