Strengthen the individual. Start with yourself. Take care of yourself. Define who you are. Refine your personality.

Dr. Jordan B. Peterson

reminder that it’s okay to change your opinion when presented with new information. you are not a hypocrite; it’s called growth. it’s so brave to admit when you’re wrong and take accountability.

Focus on yourself. It's easier that way.

Having grown up in an environment where it was normal for a person to be focused on others’ lives more than their own, I know what it is like to continuously be distracted with the things that are going on around you. Waking up one morning, however, these words popped into my head. “Focus on yourself. It’s easier that way.” After thinking about it for a minute, I felt a rush of calm come over me.

Breaking it down a little bit, no matter what or how we feel about things in our life, what other people are doing or have done will rarely be of any concern to us. For some of us, we were forced to abandon ourselves early in life to cater to the needs of others. Through this, our sense of self and sense of worth became diminished. We stopped caring for ourselves. We stopped caring about the things we enjoyed. We put ourselves down while interacting with others. When other people came around, we abandoned our wants and needs in hopes that it would get other people to welcome us and prioritize us. We then learn the hard way that it won’t, then, we’re left feeling deflated, empty, and upset that we cannot stop this pattern.

Though it takes some time, we need to get to know ourselves on a more personal level. “I’m me and I have lived with myself all my life, of course I know myself!” some of us may say. But then we realize that it’s true. We’re ready to drop our wants and need the second someone mentions that they need us for something, not even pausing first to consider whether we’re able to get the same level of care in return. Both from ourselves and from others.

Sometimes what we need is just to block out the world. We need to ask ourselves “How do I feel about this?” with all of the emphasis on the “I.” If you find that you don’t feel a strong sense of yourself when asking the question, then take some time to observe what may make you feel present. It may be rare that some of us have felt present in our lives because others quickly discarded our person-hood causing us to pick up on the idea that we didn’t matter. But we do matter. We matter as individuals irrespective of what others think, feel, or say about us. Getting ourselves into that unshakeable identity can be difficult at first after years of neglect, but it IS possible.

hi, new account here

few tws for upscoming posts:

ed (im pro recovery but this is a safe space for MY illness) and some sort of nsfw stuff

dni:

anyone over 30, ed recovering people, religious folks (idk how to deal w u), fetishisers, F33ders

call me dee

Look at the forefront of your mind and look within yourself to redefine.

Oh…. Well, it’s over for Crunchyroll I guess

There's some dude (derogatory) on FB who is PISSED people are pricing their farm fresh eggs at $2 and $3 a dozen instead of $4+, saying it's "disrespectful" and "undignified" and "I'm trying to feed my kids" like Sir, you are on a Facebook group page bitching about your neighbors egg prices because your pet chickens aren't earning you a living wage and you think it's your neighbors' fault, you do not have a leg to stand on here wrt dignity.

Also half the answers are like "I give them to friends and family free" or "I donate them to food banks" or "I'm making them affordable to folks who might not otherwise be able to get them now that they're so expensive in the store" and "if you think you're going to turn a profit keeping backyard chickens you have been wildly misled" and so on, and so forth, and I'm so living for it.

and I can tell you right now, he did NOT like my answer of "if you're trying to feed your kids, I hear eggs are edible."

The blind only see darkness.

Some people choose to stay stuck where they are and many have convinced themselves of good reasons to do so. They choose to see the worst in everyone and every situation.

They limit themselves. They do not grow, do not challenge themselves. Instead they place blame on others, use people like tools and manipulate or guilt others as a means to an end. And in the end, they are only fooling themselves.

Until they sit with themselves and choose to take responsibility for who they were, who they are, and make active decisions to be the best person they can be, they will continue to actively blind themselves.

They will chose to live in darkness and turn their head from the light. When we chose to be blind to the root of the problem and not take responsibility for our own thoughts and actions, we can't grow.

I wish for those people that they find love to warm their hearts. That they choose forgiveness, trust, and vulnerability. I hope they find the courage to be brave enough to confront the root of the pain in their hearts so that they can open up to the light and take strides toward blooming with growth. I hope in doing so they learn to treat not only those around them well, but that they also choose to treat themselves fairly in truth.

rise is always fun to rewatch for me because of its attention to design details. these screenshots are from the bug busters episode. look at his battle shell: we see in these shots that it's designed to be flexible and not constraining for his movement

if you ever held a mango cut like this, you'll get the idea of how donnie's battle shell works

Daily Goals

I was doing this for a while at...some point and found it helpful, I'm going to go ahead and try it again

Today I need to:

empty and reload dishwasher

pick a fic to work on for camp Nano

write at least 500 words of selected fic

petsitting

work queue

And then there's a bunch of other stuff, but if I manage this it'll feel like a very productive day

the thing about "callout/cancel culture" that convinced me it's rotten to the core is the dehumanisation you face once you become the subject of a campaign like that. a lot of criticisms of callout/cancellation attempts appeal to the humanity of the subject, pointing out that it's unfair and unproductive to treat a person, a fellow human being, regardless of how much harm they've caused and how genuinely unlikable they are, like that. but unfortunately the reality of being the target of a mob mentality often means facing the very isolating and traumatising experience of realising that you've ceased to exist as a person in their eyes. you're a representation of your transgressions, an embodiment of harm that needs to be erased like a blemish, a spectacle for entertainment, a means of earning social approval by publicly condemning and humiliating you in what quickly becomes a competition to see who can strike the blow that knocks you down so you never get up again. nobody cares about who you are outside of what you did. people make mistakes and hurt one another, but there is always the capacity for change, for regret and reparations. you are an irredeemable monster. you can't change. the only way to make sure you can't cause harm ever again is to neutralise you entirely. to drive you off and hurt you so badly that you never consider coming back. and it often succeeds. but it doesn't make the world a better or safer place. it just tells everyone that certain behaviours will be punished, so you should conceal them, and harshly condemn them in others so that everyone knows where you stand; nobody will stand up for you if you're accused and brought out for judgement, so you shouldn't trust anyone, and always be on the lookout to take them down before they can do the same to you. you're not creating a safe, welcoming community. you're creating a panopticon built on fear and punishment.

Have you drawn Vittorio before? I'd like to see what he looks like pls.

Vittorio's design has given me more trouble than I expected, I'm still not sure if I'm happy with his looks. He's Machete's trusted personal secretary, a small and modest but resourceful and resilient man. I think he's somewhere in his mid 20's.

the amount of trans people i see who are scared to identify as straight is mind boggling. like people who will explicitly say that they are scared to identify as straight. i can only amount it to the growing preceived divide between being straight and being queer, where people arent learning that you CAN be both if youre trans. and ive experienced a lot of hostility just for being an opinionated straight trans guy on this app. like i dont care if you dont think this is a "real problem," i do. i think queer people should be free to feel comfortable in their identity, and if that identity is het-leaning, heterosapphic, het-dyke, hetgay, queerhet, transhet, or literally just straight and heterosexual, they should be free to

with the end of the month slowly coming up again i am once again unfortunately already broke again and still somewhat in debt, really hoping to get out of that and get a stable enough income to allow me to stay out of debt for the future (i currently make about 1k a month which is very very little for trying to survive in switzerland esp as i currently support myself and a roommate pretty much alone (and currently leaves me somewhat financially dependent on my parents as well which im not gonna be able to be forever), goal for the end of this year is a stable 2k) anything really helps, but the subscription option helps me the most with stability and ability to budget (also i'll hopefully soon manage to give my subscribers actual special benefits).

i hate asking for money so often especially as i haven't put out a new article in quite a while now, but that will change again soon (i have various things in my pipeline and also non text content coming up soon!), and it is the supporters on ko-fi that let me do all the work i do <3