Hello again! (Sorry if I’m getting annoying) but I’m pansexual my mother says she supports me but I’m to scared to come out to my father I’m scared that he may not support me what do I do? (sorry if I’m getting to personal!! I just need someone to talk to :(

Q: Hello again! (Sorry if I’m getting annoying [You’re not- You good bookie-Remy] but I’m pansexual my mother says she supports me but I’m too scared to come out to my father I’m scared that he may not support me what do I do? (sorry if I’m getting to personal!! I just need someone to talk to :( |)

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Sun: …

Sun: …

Sun: I was scared to tell Moon too…

Sun: I told Monty first, considering they’re my best friend…

[ Sun: I’m pansexual…

[ Monty: YOU TOO?!

[ Sun: WAIT YOU’RE???

[ Monty: YES???

Sun: As you could tell, it went well…

[ Monty: If youre brave enough to come out to me, you can be brave enough to come out to Moon…And if he says anything stupid I can and will punt him for you.

Sun: And uhhh eventually I came out to him after a lot of pep talks from Monty, Freddy, and Gregory??? Who somehow found out-??? And well-

Moon: The dumbass forgot that Im acearo…But I’m still proud of him for working up the courage to not just come out to me but also to the others.

Sun: As long as you have a support system you should be fine

Moon: Even if your father doesn’t accept you, your mother has. Just try to focus on the people who love and support you for who you are unconditionally,,,

Sun: And you have us! We’ll always support you :D! So I’d say come out to him- Its better to have it out in the open rather then hiding it for so long,,,It takes a strain on your mental health and bond,,,

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Usually I wouldnt interrupt this with myself coming in here but this topic hits close to home since I have a situation where half of my family doesnt support me (specifically with being trans) but the other half does-

So like Sun said: I’d say come out- Ofc it’ll take a lot of courage- But you were brave enough to come out to your mom and thats a huge step- I believe you can do it again and nothing is stronger than a parent’s support-

If things go bad, focus on the friends and family you have that do support and love you unconditionally- But also remember that in most cases your father’s love of you wont change- You’re his child- Try to remember that he still loves you but also dont use that as an excuse to excuse any actions he may pull after finding out- I REPEAT: If things go bad DO NOT EXCUSE HIS ACTIONS JUST BC HES YOUR DAD!!!

But besides that you seem lovely and youre parents have raised you well so far- Im sure he’ll accept you and love you just as your mother has :D!

[If yall do ever need/want advice like this and would ever like to talk to me about this or just random shit my dms are open if you want stuff like this to be more private :D!]

To those on injectable hormones: try using a makeup brush organizer to keep your supplies orderly!

I use something like this:

It's very convenient to have everything laid out right in front of me, plus it's easy to keep organized. Everything has its own place :)

♡ 𝓥𝓪𝓵𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓮'𝓼 𝓢𝓹𝓮𝓬𝓲𝓪𝓵: 𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓯𝓲𝓻𝓼𝓽 𝓭𝓪𝓽𝓮 𝔀𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝔂𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓸𝓷 ♡

♡ ᴘɪʟᴇ 1 ~ ᴘɪʟᴇ 2 ~ ᴘɪʟᴇ 3 ♡

Happy Valentine's Day! ♡

I hope everyone's doing well! ♡ It's been a while since I've done one of these and I've been really excited to do this one! This time, I'm writing these almost like a story of what's going to happen but I will warn you, I am not the most amazing story teller in the world haha but I hope everybody enjoys the reading they got and remember to only take what resonates ♡

All feedback is appreciated!

Sincerely,

Cassy the friendly ghost ♡

Discaimer: Tarot reading is for entertainment purposes only and should never take the place of professional therapy or professional legal, medicinal or financial advice.

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♡ ᴘɪʟᴇ 1 ♡

Cards: Five of Swords, The Sun, Knight of Wands, The Hierophant (reversed), The Hanged Man, The Moon, Five of Cups (reversed), Four of Cups, Six of Coins, The World (reversed), The Devil, The Fool (reversed), Ace of Swords (reversed)

Some of you might be a part of the LGBT community and for those of you who aren't, it might be that you are not very traditional and don't play into the roles that society would have placed you in.

It is a warm and sunny day by a lake or some kind of body of water but I get the feeling that maybe this is someplace you are not supposed to be, like a private or closed off area. Maybe this could be a closed off pool area in an old building. You find your way in and I see your date being reluctant to go but they follow you anyway. They're becoming increasingly more anxious about being here but you reassure them that nobody comes here and reveal the suprise, a game! This might be some kind of arcade game or ping pong table that has been left on the property and, soon enough, they give in (since they're a sucker for games.)

Now this is interesting. You actually aren't sure if this person feels the same way about you and this is you shooting your shot. Again, I get the feeling that the majority of you might be LGBTQ+ and you're really taking the leap of faith on this. Good for you!

You both having lots of fun, your date managed to score a point and you cheer together! (So cute). There's a moment of silence and there's intent behind their gaze, and you think to yourself, 'its now or never'. So you pour every ounce of faith into this chance and swiftly kiss them, waiting for their response. To your relief, they return the kiss, and it is passionate and warm and perfect ♡

Messages from them to you: 'You're so beautiful and I don't know how to tell you' 'I hope it is what i think it is' 'I really hope you're sure about this and about me' 'I'm sure that it's you that I want' 'Please make the first move'

♡ ᴘɪʟᴇ 2 ♡

Cards: Eight of Cups, Page of Coins (horizontal), King of Cups, The Devil (horizontal), The Lovers, Three of Coins, The Tower (horizontal), Page of Cups (horizontal), The Hanged Man (horizontal)

This is somewhere quiet, somewhere where people might come to learn like a library accept there isn't many people here. I could be that you're a student and I'm getting major breakfast club vibes. I feel like you and your person are in detention together or perhaps it feels like you're getting punished with the work you have to do. (I know this isn't the most romantic date in the world but stay with me.)

I'm getting the feeling that you are paired with this person for a project. Even though you really want to focus and not fall behind, they seem to be distracting you and weighing on your mind. You like them because how can you not? They're gorgeous! But they're annoying the heck out of you, 'plus, they're super weird', you think to yourself.

You eventually decide that this is getting too much and get up from your seat to start looking in one of the isles for a book. You feel your face turning redder and redder the more they try to get your attention. Once they realise that they aren't getting anywhere, they begin to actually talk to you about the work and ask to see the book you have taken off the shelf. Suddenly, they don't seem as ignorant as you thought, and they're pretty smart when they actually want to be. You wonder if maybe this person just wants to connect so you give in and entertain them a little.

You very quickly regret your decision when they boldly ask you if you're blushing because you like them. Not saying anything, you look away, poorly hiding the fact that you're clearly red in the face. Under your breath you ask them, 'please, stop messing with me' because you're starting to feel like you could cry if this keeps up. There's a moment where they don't say anything and the silence becomes defening. All you can hear right now is the beating of your heart and you can't help but feel like their gaze is becoming too intense for you.

Unexpectedly, the awkwardness is broken by a kiss on the cheek. You're thinking, 'what the heck? Are they trying to give me emotional whiplash?' But before you can say anything they apologise to you. 'I'll stop messing with you and we can get back to doing the project.' They seem sincere and a little different to how they were a second ago. So you shake it off and agree to continue the project, though it's really difficult to focus properly.

Messages from them to you: 'If I don't do anything now, then you'll never consider me' 'I like how intelligent you are' 'I want to get to know you more' 'I need to know what you think of me' 'I want to get closer to you'

♡ ᴘɪʟᴇ 3 ♡

Cards: Four of Swords (reversed), The Star (reversed), Three of Swords (reversed), Seven of Wands (reversed), Nine of Wands (horizontal), Queen of Coins (reversed), Eight of Swords (reversed)

You're at their house, in their bedroom and I have the feeling that maybe you've known this person for a while now. It's not anything too crazy, just laying down, listening to music and watching the star projector spin. This is perfect because you've been having a really tough week and you really need to just relax. Things might have been tough at work or home and you really need someone to vent to.

So they have set up a comfortable space for you, brought snacks and drinks, and offered to listen for as long as you wanted. This isn't really intened to be a date and honestly, it isn't much of one either, but it's intimiate and it feels different from all the other times that you've hung out with them. They're normally more energetic and chaotic when you hang out with them but today they're really trying to be more considerate and more sensitive. You really appreciate that from them. You're not sure that you want to progress this feeling yet, so your boundaries are clear and all you want right now is a friend. But that doesn't mean things won't change.

Messages from them to you: 'I admire you' 'You're so beautiful' 'You've seen so much' 'Everything is going to be okay' 'You can stay here as long as you want'

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Hello folks who enjoy TMA and WTNV, do you crave more audio content that is gay and spooky?

I have some recommendations for you!

@hellofromthehallowoods is a multilayered spooky narrative set in a sinister forest with a huge range of LGBTQ+ storythreads which weave in and out of one another. There are 85 episodes at time of writing and the fandom has been screaming about some of the most recent ones, and for good reason. There are transcripts on their website. Each episode has its own lovely artwork, and a patreon-exclusive bonus story.

@thenightpost tells the tale of conscripted postal workers in the strange setting of Gilt City, feat. a lot of queer love and found family. There are 38 episodes currently available and they're about halfway through Season Three at the moment. The plot is definitely thickening. Transcripts are linked from every episode in the shownotes. Their patreon offers early access to new episodes and some wonderful bonus stories.

@monstrousagonies is an advice show for monsters. enough said. but for good measure, it's softly spooky and has a lot of heart. There are 43 (edit: there are 71 I just can't read apparently sorry!) episodes already released, and many of them are written in response to prompts sent in by listeners to the show. The creator opens up submissions for episode prompts now and then, and submissions will be opening for Season Three fairly soon, so if you have a monstrous agony you'd like to see advised upon, keep your eyes peeled. Transcripts are available on the show website and they have a patreon!

There is also our own show, @spiritboxradio, the story of an unlikely radio show host who discovers he has a bigger part to play in the spooky events unfolding around them. The show is full of queer characters and aims for a growing sense of spookiness that builds as the show goes on. There are 69 (heh) episodes currently live and listenable, and you can get early access via our patreon, plus bonus content every Friday, including bonus stories, Creator's Notes, and a monthly behind-the-scenes podcast. Transcripts for every episode are available on our website.

All of these shows are made by LGBTQ+ folks. They're available on most places you find your podcasts. Is one of these shows not available on the platform you prefer? Drop an ask in our boxes and see if we might be able to change that.

In general Ryan gets so mistreated and overhated by the fandom and it makes me sad because I really like Ryan even in my first playthrough :/ I get that the part where he was arguing with Laura about the existence of werewolves when he watched Nick transform and run out the window was kind of dumb but he’s all around a great character who’s brave and helpful and he helped save everyone’s lives in the best ending….

While I don’t agree with all of their actions I can’t bring myself to hate on any of the counselors. They’re all young adults who are stuck in a horrifying and traumatic situation, of course they’re going to be flawed and not perfect. It just baffles me how Travis, Constance, Jedidiah and Eliza do the most horrible things in the game yet people viciously hate on Ryan : (

Oh, the actual adults in the game are absolutely The Worst. (Even Chris, though I think he wants to help, is incredibly negligent at best).

I think there are a few things happening here that can turn people against Ryan (and I'm not saying anyone has to like him as a character, we all have characters we vibe with and ones we don't, but it's worth examining why we don't vibe with some characters especially when those characters are Black or other POC, LGBTQ, and ND-coded).

Ryan is a victim of some of the less compelling writing choices in the game IMO. They don't have anything to do with his character, really, he's generally well-written, but some of the things that were cut from the game, and the way the relationships unravel in the latter half of the game does Ryan kind of dirty.

First of all, his relationship with Chris Hackett isn't fleshed out enough for a lot of players to understand why he's willing to sacrifice so much on the hope that his mentor isn't actually a werewolf (or a deeply irresponsible asshole of a boss). If they'd left in the scene of Chris following up with Ryan about following his dreams and going to animation school and the initial confrontation with Chris that was patched out, where Ryan questions how he hid this from them all this time when he cared about them and Ryan trusted him (literally heartbreaking to watch tbh 🥺), it might have been a little easier for players to empathize with his loyalty to Chris. This kid has no known father, absentee mother, aging grandparents, a sister he clearly feels a lot of responsibility for, and his father figure who he goes to for advice left him in the worst possible situation. Of course he's going to be in denial about that and about him being a werewolf until he sees it for himself, and then Ryan has to kill him. It's so fucking tragic. And he doesn't even get a second to mourn or even react because the Silas plotline kicks in immediately (and they spent all the animated tears budget on Jacob).

Then there's Ryan's relationship with Dylan, which I could (and will) write about for days. Based on the game we got, plus the cut content, I don't think Ryan was ever supposed to have the option to get with Kaitlyn. I think that's a red herring that allows homophobic players to avoid a gay kiss (kind of a fucked up use of a BAMF character and Brenda Song's star power but, ok). I don't think he was ever supposed to get to romance Laura either. But I do think he was meant to be able to either end up with Dylan, or decisively not end up with him. If they'd kept the relationship system that we still have traces of but no actual structure for, then his ability to say 'maybe neither' to Laura wouldn't be something players held against him because it would have a basis in the choices we've made as Ryan (and Dylan) so far. As it stands, it feels like that is unsupported by what's happened in the game when we've had Dylan and Ryan flirting with each other and taking an obvious interest in each other since they were introduced.

Even if you choose the less favorable dialogue options, Dylan and Ryan are never really shown to be truly at odds (with the possible exception of the gun argument, but even that pretty much smooths over in the end). Even if you have them be hard-headed assholes to each other, they still have their heart-to-heart on the way to the radio hut (which I really think was supposed to have an alternative if they had low relationship stats).

Complicating matters is the fact that a lot of people really love Dylan. Obviously I'm one of them, I mean, look at my url and writing choices. I think Miles gives the best performance of the game, hands down (and I think all the actors did really well tbh). He's a great actor (his line reads are flawless and that sassy boy body language? I die.) but he also gets a lot to work with in terms of the script. Dylan is complex and compelling in a way that tends to be highly relatable for most people. He's probably neurodivergent (ADHD) but it's portrayed in a more palatable way for neurotypical people. Plus, as an audience, we are primed to empathize with the person who wants to be wanted, who is afraid of rejection, who has the cute crush that we want to see reciprocated and is trying not to get their heart stomped on. We've all been there! That's a centuries-old trope in drama and literature for a reason. And while Ryan does not owe Dylan reciprocation, we see some pretty clear signs of it at least being possible. So the game sort of dangles it in front of players like we can make that happen with our choices and then makes a half-baked attempt to snatch it away. That annoys people and, I think at least partially because Ryan's race and stoic demeanor (/autism) have people subconsciously primed to view him negatively, they take that out on him instead of the SMG writers who opted for that rather than fleshing out the relationships any further for the latter half of the game.

Like, yes, it's a horror game not a dating sim (Ryan and Dylan dating sim DLC when tho??), but you spend so much time building relationships that end up not mattering to the outcome of the game, I get why that's frustrating for people. It's frustrating for me! I just think being mad at Ryan over it is the wrong take. I still see people saying "Dylan deserves better than Ryan." Dylan and Ryan both deserve to exist in a finished fucking game where we have the option to get them together or not, but blaming whatever happens, or doesn't, on Ryan as a character is kinda trash.

Okay, so I need some help from the trans people of tumblr. Maybe advice is the better word.

How do I come out to my family?

I know I can’t just, show up in a skirt or dress.

So what do I do?

Note, my family consists of conservative Catholics. They are my Aunt, Mom, Grandmother, and Grandfather (plus two little cousins but they aren’t the ones I’m as worried about)

My aunt is fairly neutral I would say, particularly for being a conservative she is just kinda doesn’t care (according to her word) about gay people

My mom is mostly unknown, but generally against lgbtq

My grandma is completely unknown, but assumed to be between my mom and grandad on anti-lgbtq level

My grandad fucking hates lgbtq with a passion

Seasoned Romance: A Great NaNoWriMo Project

Romance is a genre that everyone can write, no matter what other people may think! NaNo Participant Stella Fosse gives us advice on writing seasoned romance. Years ago, I read an article by a Romance author in her fifties advising her sister Romance writers that if they wanted to be published, they should create characters in their twenties. Shades of the Bronte sisters, forced to take male pen names! Fortunately, times have changed. With so many Romance readers past midlife, publishers have caught on and created a category called “Seasoned Romance.”

The Personal is Political Ageism is not exactly news to anyone over fifty. And studies have shown that a positive attitude about aging helps us live longer and healthier. Telling stories about the vivid lives of people our age is essential. If we want to change the cultural narrative, we are the ones to do it.

Why Seasoned Romance? By now, we have lived the role of romance character several times. We have known all kinds of people and witnessed their romantic fortunes. Autofiction was made for us: Mixing people, situations, and settings can lead to fascinating Romance. Plus, you get to write about sex. And Romance novels tend to be on the short side—perfect for NaNoWriMo. Not to mention, Romance sells a lot—more than Mystery and Science Fiction combined. Sex, money, and dishing your exes: what’s not to like?

How to Write Romance? Not every story that includes romance is a “Romance.” The genre expectations look like this:

Plot: The main plot in a genre Romance is the romance itself. There is an external plot—which would be the main plot in any other novel. But in a Romance, the back-and-forth in the relationship drives the story.

Characters: Each of the two main characters has a character flaw that makes them ambivalent about getting involved. They may have conflicts in goals and values (like the bookstore owner and the chain bookstore developer in “You’ve Got Mail”). And each main character has a sidekick—a confidante to share hopes and fears about the relationship.

Three Act Structure: Here’s a typical setup for a Romance novel.

Act One: Establish the lives of each main character before they meet. Engineer the meeting (the “meet cute”). Show the attraction and the conflict between the characters. Create an external situation that keeps them in each other’s lives throughout the story.

Act Two: Lots of ambivalence. The characters take turns chasing and running away. The external plot adds complexity. The sidekicks weigh in, to encourage or discourage the liaison. What looks like a final breakup occurs at the end of this act.

Act Three: Much soul-searching, resulting in each main character owning and resolving their character flaws. They bridge differences in goals and values, enjoy their mutual attraction (at mild, moderate, or spicy levels of heat), and begin a committed relationship.

Happy-Ever-After (or Happy-for-Now): For decades, Romance novels were expected to end with a big wedding. A Romance novel still must end with the main characters happily together. Often there is an epilogue, where we see the happy characters years after the dénouement.

But wait—I hear you say: Isn’t that awfully formulaic? Sure, but so is a sonnet. Structure can be liberating.

Victorians were scandalized by early Romance novels because they highlighted female passion. Yet the genre became the stereotyped province of thin, young, white, able-bodied heroines. More recently, it’s broadened to include stories about LGBTQ+ characters, polyamorous characters, and characters of color (Stacey Abrams writes Romance under the pen name Selena Montgomery). And with the advent of Seasoned Romance, we Writers of a Certain Age can tell vivid stories about characters like us.

Stella Fosse writes stories of vibrant women and teaches about writing boldly after midlife. Her books include:

Aphrodite’s Pen: The Power of Writing Erotica after Midlife (North Atlantic Books)

A story collection, The Erotic Pandemic Ball: Tales of Love in Lockdown

And her debut novel at age 68, Brilliant Charming Bastard

She has taught romance writing through Secure Senior Connections. Stella blogs at www.stellafosse.com. Follow her on Facebook, Twitter , LinkedIn, and Instagram. Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

Hi… i’m sort of new to tumblr. I got into marauders a while back but have just sorta chilled on ao3 most of the time. I got tumblr recently and came across your microfics, and then your advice asks. And I need some. Advice. So erm, yeah, i’m just gonna explain and then maybe you’ll be able to help me? Thanks so much. This is gonna be slightly complicated, just to warn you. (Oh and insanely, INSANELY long. So sorry about that). 

So this thing happened recently. I’m a girl and one of my best friends is also a girl. We’re both 17, dunno if it’s relevant but, yeah. Recently, she admitted to having a crush on me. 

I’m straight. It wasn’t weird or anything. She’s been out to me as a lesbian for a few years, and so when she told me, it was more of a “get it off her chest” sort of thing.

I think I reacted alright. I just nodded and smiled (probably slightly weirdly, i was a bit shocked). She told me she wanted us to stay friends, but she wanted to put a little distance between us so she could get over it. Which is totally fair so I agreed and i’ve been trying to keep things sort of, on her terms. You know? 

Anyway, that was a while ago and a few months ago she got this girlfriend who’s like- super annoying. We don’t talk as much as we used to (we’re still close though) and I do miss how we used to be, but I get it. But her new girlfriend, watching them be together makes me want to throw up. 

And i’m not trying to be homophobic, i’m around quite a few of lgbtq+ relationships and even more single queer people, like half my friend group are queer and some of them dating, but these two are annoying as hell. 

She’s never really dated before? And it’s good. I know that. Duh. Cause maybe she’ll hang out with me more again. But like, i’m all for supporting girls, but her girlfriend is so annoying. 

And I can’t totally explain it… she just like really irritates me. But I don’t have like- a reason? She just hasn’t exactly done anything to make me hate her, except exist around me and my friend SO MUCH. 

It’s annoying. I get no alone time with her anymore. She always has to bring her girlfriend. 

And my town is like mostly cool with queer relationships. I mean not like accepting but like- won’t punch you. My parents are the same. They’re all “as long as it’s not my family or friends” do as you please. Which is a bit weird but whatever. 

So like, they’ve been on dates in our town and she even brought the girlfriend to MY house. And I can’t tell her I don’t like her girlfriend cause that’s rude but it’s like fucking torture every time I have to be around them. 

And she isn’t happier, by the way. She isn’t. I can tell, and she isn’t. But it feels selfish that I don’t want her to have a girlfriend cause now I don’t get to hang out with her one on one. And I guess it would mean her not having a crush on me anymore so we could hang out more except her girlfriends always there. 

We used to hug and touch and spend all our time together and now she’s all busy with her new girlfriend. 

And again, I swear i’m not homophobic. But I feel sort of homophobic when I watch them cause I really can’t even be around it much anymore. I leave whenever they start kissing cause I don’t need to see that. And according to one of my guy friends  it’s uncool that i’m okay with guys kissing and not girls? 

You can’t be homophobic in one direction that’s insane. And i’m not. I just, it bugs me. Is all. 

Anyway I got into this argument with her and she called me homophobic. I probably paused for a second, you know to process. Cause I understand that’s a valid fear for her in our town, but she knows that’s not true. Two of our friends are in queer relationships. And I find both of them sweet. And I don’t care if they’re kissing or whatever. 

Plus i’ve been totally supportive of her… up until now.

It’s just one of those things. Like yeah, girls are cute and sweet and i’d date a girl too if I wasn’t straight, but she doesn’t need to like- make out in front of me or anything. 

And when I opened up and told one of my best friends (who is also queer but I knew it wouldn’t make her uncomfortable cause she knows i’m not homophobic) and explained all this to her, she just laughed at me. Which was shockingly unhelpful even from her. 

Look tbh I don’t totally know what i’m asking you, just like, how do I be normal around them? I don’t want to lose her over this, and I certainly don’t want to be homophobic or anything. 

And it’s weird cause i’ve literally never felt any weirdness around lgbtq+ relationships (or people for that matter) before. Hell, I went with my friends to pride.  

And it’s never been a problem online either.

So I don’t know what’s causing this… 

So yeah, any advice? 😊

Also i’m rlly sorry this was so long and hectic and probably makes no sense. I just needed to talk to someone and you seem really lovely and I don’t know how to explain it to anyone. 

Oh and i’m pretty new to social media. i’ve never really liked it. And new to being in majority lgbtq+ spaces. So if this sort of thing might bother your tumblr buddies please ignore me, cause I really don’t want to hurt anyone or make anyone uncomfortable. 

I just feel like i’ve exhausted my options in figuring this out, so might as well consult the internet. And i’m sure as hell not going to reddit. 

Anyway, thanks for reading my hectic insanity. Don’t worry if you have nothing to say. If I can’t figure out why i’m being weird then I don’t know why someone else could. I’ve been trying to be nice and just sort of ignore them when they kiss and stuff as of lately. But I still hate it. 

Hi!

Okay, so first of all, no need to apologize at all! I'm here to help :)

So, I think there are a few things you need to think about.

Could it just be that you're not used to being around affectionate queer people? How often are you around queer couples who are affectionate? Is it maybe something you need to adjust to so it doesn't feel so strange?

How are you feeling when you get upset about them making out? Turned off? Scared? Jealous? These are VERY different emotions and might give you a hint about the reason behind your feelings.

Could your feelings be because you don't like the girlfriend as a person, and nothing to do with the queerness of the relationship? Maybe she's just...not very fun to be around and that makes you feel negatively?

Alternatively, could it be because you miss your friend in a platonic way, and you just want to go back to how things are? And your feelings are manifesting in this way?

I'm going to VERY gently suggest one last option, and I want you to know that I'm not trying to push you to feel this way, it's just one possibility. All of the other options have equal possibility. But based off of some of the things you said, could it also be that you are a bit jealous of the girlfriend in a more romantic way? It certainly doesn't HAVE to be this reason, but it's something to think about.

I think you need to think about all of these questions and reflect on the basis for your feelings. No matter WHY you are feeling this way, it's clear that you care about your friend and you want to work this out, so I wouldn't call you homophobic. At most, I would say maybe you need to adjust to being around queer couples. Good for you for putting in the effort to ask about your feelings and educate yourself. You seem like a great friend <3 <3 <3

i’m aroace, but i don’t feel super connected to my aro identity, since i love the idea of dating people, of shipping, even writing romance in my own stories/fics. which isn’t to say that ppl who do those things are any less aro, or any less connected to the community, it’s just… that i really feel that way. plus the aro stereotype, while obviously satirical in some aspects, is just… not me. i love my friends, i love valentine’s day, the idea of kissing someone and living with them and being in a romantic relationship all sound great to me, and i can see myself in those scenarios. the only unappealing thing to me is any sort of sexual aspect, since i’m ace but really don’t want to have sex or even kiss anyone for too long, neither are my thing.

so i was wondering— anyone with similar thoughts, or advice? i know that like, in theory, objectively, aro is the right label for me — i don’t feel romantic attraction, not a bit of it. however, i also read that labels are not meant to be constructing, and aro… aro feels constricting. i don’t have internalised arophobia to work thru — this is something i have thought about a lot, in depth, and aro never really seems to fit. it’s a like sweater that’s my size and my favourite colour, but when i put it on, it clings too tight and feels all wrong. i can’t exactly give a whole reason why — again, no arophobia, i understand and love the community, love aro content i read, and i support aros in lgbtq spaces. however, despite being objectively the definition of aro, i…. y’all, the label doesn’t feel right, it feels more uncomfortable than comfy.

i also read a lot about how lgbtq spaces online have boxed everything into strict definitions and condemned people for existing slightly outside of them — which is true, and i have that, and i think this may be that, but i’m just… terrified. i feel like an imposter, just looking for attention. like i don’t belong in the lgbtq community or with the cishets. nothing makes sense.

i often say that i’m nonbinary and ace, but i’m also not happy with just stating those two things — because that implies that i feel romantic attraction, which i don’t, and that doesn’t feel true to me or the labels i wan to use. i…. gosh. i don’t know.

agender is a label that objectively describes my gender, but i don’t use it. i guess i just wish that there was something like for aro — a blank void, a clean slate, that said ‘none of this’ and make what you want of it. the aro label doesn’t feel like that for me. i don’t know what to do.

other labels such as bi or pan don’t fit either — since i don’t experience romantic attraction, and don’t fit the stereotype of those labels either, i… identified as bi for a long time before i realised i was aro, and i felt just as confused as i did now. i’m just so confused! i’ve finally found a label that objectively fits what i experience! i’m proud of the community and how many strides we’ve taken. but why then, why, why, does it not feel like fits me?

i’m not heteroromantic and nb, like one of my friends somewhat was, but that’s the impression i probably give, because i can’t find anything that feels like home to me within the aro labels. i don’t know why. i feel awful about it.

Submitted February 10, 2023

question for the people:

should influencers speak out about world events/news? my take down below

i saw some criticism going around about brittany broski (who full disclosure, i do follow her content a lot) and how disappointed people were when she didn't immediately sound off about what was going on in gaza. this new age argument of what influencers should do during times of world turmoil or a massive loss of life, i think it can be a disservice to people everywhere having influencers double as entertainment and the voice of popular ethics. however, the main plus for having influencers speak up about these issues boil down to money and attention. taking brittany broski as an example: she gets at the very minimum a million views on her main youtube channel. that's not including the fact that her podcast is fairly successful on youtube and spotify. the exposure world issues could get if a person with her platform would be great. but, when it comes to this particular issue, her platform is essentially useless. you have everyone, everywhere online talking about this issue from a variety of perspectives. each using evidence that should be verifiable, using reasoning that should be in good faith. but as we have seen, that's not always the case. misinformation spreads so rapidly that the truth often times gets muddied or lost in the fog of the internet. all of this to say: what perspective could brittany broski give about the gaza situation that we haven't already heard. i don't want to hear brittany broski parrot the opinions i have already heard from different people for validation of my own beliefs. the only validation i could get from her doing so is knowing we are like minds. being like minds with influencers is important for their brand image ultimately, so really if we want to get pessimistic: any influencer who "spreads awareness" on global issues could be doing so purely out of self preservation. it's classic performative activism which has proved to be a hard thing to accuse someone of. the parasocial relationship that the public has with influencers or celebrities can only be broken once we stop looking to these figureheads for more than anything other than entertainment. i find brittany broski entertaining. i would not look to her for financial advice or for her political beliefs, because ultimately she exists in two spheres. the sphere of being an online personality and being her own person. she, like all influencers, juggle these two spheres intensely, more so than traditional celebrities, because the influencer brand is build heavily on their original personhood. all of this to say, i do recognize the main counterargument and want to address it. brittany broski, like many other celebrities, are advocates for various other issues, namely (and recently) lgbtq+ issues. additionally, brittany broski has posted slideshows on her instagram stories. she's talked about or advocated for various other issues, so why stay silent on gaza? i don't really have an answer to this aside from: not everyone is knowledgeable on every single political issue. not being knowledgeable on an issue is a privilege. to plead ignorance on an issue isn't inherently wrong, not in my book, but at the same time you must recognize that there is a privilege that comes alongside ignorance. ultimately, her podcast is tomorrow, and i'm curious to see what she has to say (given in a tiktok she mentioned she was going to talk about gaza in tomorrow's podcast)

☆Hello! Welcome to my rp blog!☆

In this blog I will be rping as AUBREY from OMORI.

OMORI is a horror indie game.

Therefore, there will be triggering topics.

☆RULES☆

-Don't be rude

-Don't be homophobic

-Don't be racist

-You can swear

☆TRIGGER WARNINGS☆

-Blood

-Swearing

-Slurs

-Mentions of suicide

-Suicidal jokes

-Jokes such as: "Kys"

-LGBTQ+

-The usual OMORI warnings

☆ABOUT THE AUTHOR☆

-Green is my favourite colour

-My name is Quinn

-I AM A MINOR

-My pronouns are They/Them

-I message my friends a lot on this blog

-My gf is constantly reblogging me

-My gf's blog: @kel-asks

-I have like 30 Discord rps going on

-I'm in SEVERAL different fandoms

☆WAY TO GET AHOLD OF AUTHOR☆

-For asks, put (OOC) if you need me to answer ooc.

-For pm's, put (OOC) if you need me to answer ooc.

-FOR ANYTHING, PUT (OOC) IF YOU NEED TO ANSWER AS ME.

☆ABOUT THIS BLOG☆

-AUBREY IS A MINOR

-I will be rping as AUBREY from OMORI

-This blog will contain interactions between characters that may not fit their cannon personality's

-OOC interactions

-LOTS OF SWEARING

-SUICIDAL JOKES/MENTIONS

-The most constant messages will go between: @kel-asks @ask-babil and this blog.

☆PLUS☆

-Feel free to DM me and vent, or just talk! I'm always here to listen and give advice if you want it

☆GOODBYE☆

Hello! I’m working on a story and said story includes a lot of LGBTQ+ characters, as well as different types of relation ships in it. (Because we all know we’d turn into skeletons before Hollywood or any other large and influential media corporations gives us any decent representation so im gonna just make it myself)

I was wondering if you could give me some tips for writing a QPR? And any way to make it clear its a QPR to the audience aside from just stating it. I also want to know if there are any harmful stereotypes i should be aware of so i can avoid.

Ooh writing related question, I can definitely help with that (plus I similarly have ideas for a story that includes a lot queer rep including qprs so I can share a bit of personal advice too).

All in all, qprs are pretty unique kinds of relationship with no strict boundaries by definition and the people that are in them can pick and choose them for themselves which leaves a lot of room to decide what it will be like (just like with any other relationship). If it helps, you can decide based on the characters in them how you'd like it to be. I really don't think there is one right way to write them since they can be so different for different people, so as long as you make sure it's not strictly romantic nor strictly platonic you should be good.

Since that wasn't the most specific, I'll give you a few examples of what I mean:

- Lovers that care for each other deeply but are also best friends and see their platonic love for each other just as important as their romantic love

- Close friends that take care of and love each other whether or not romantic feelings are involved

- People that do not experience romantic attraction in a relationship with someone that they care deeply for

These are just a few of the very many ways you could have a qpr be like. As said before, as long as it's not strictly romantic or strictly platonic you should be doing pretty well.

Letting people know it's qpr without outright saying it is a bit tricky. One of the biggest things I can suggest is in how the people refer to each other as well as interact. Make it clear they arent simply lovers but also not simply friends. Having them introduce their partner to someone else and maybe even explain the idea to someone else could be helpful (and help educate readers) although it is more or less along the lines of saying it outright.

Now time for stereotypes. I've seen a bit of misconception with the term from time to time with a lot of people believing that it is a term just for aro and/or ace people which isn't the case at all. The term can be used by anyone of any romantic and sexual orientation if they believe it fits for them. Of course having two (or more if it's polyaffectionate) aroace people in qpr together is perfectly fine but I would make sure it doesn't seem like you have to be aroace or queer to be in one. Trying to make sure it doesn't fall under "just friends" stereotype is also advisable. Also making it clear that the relationship isn't any less important than romantic ones can help prevent some stereotypes.

I really hoped that helped and if you have any other questions feel free to ask

I’m going to put this out there, yes I am a Harry Potter fan and no I do not support what JKR says on a certain community

If you have an issue with me or others liking the series/and or believe that ppl who support trans/non-TERFS cannot enjoy the series then please block and move along is all I ask.

I do not post on the series often because of this whole drama crap with Rowling (whom I DO NOT agree with) and the dumb shit she’s been saying it breaks my freaking heart that ppl will villainize/harass others who had nothing to do with her views just for liking a series. I’m in no way defending her words her words or actions for what she has said nor do I endorse those sort of things.

All I’m asking is this if you do have issues with ppl who like the series, then please go ahead and block tags/blogs relating to the franchise if it makes you feel uncomfortable instead of attacking people and or calling them a TERF/Transphobe right off the bat for liking the series (This mainly goes for a select few of the community who were harassing streamers for playing Hogwarts Legacy, please don’t do that as you are only making the LGBTQ+/Trans community look bad because of some bad apples and plus, it’s a good thing about Tumblr with tags).

Just hoping this little piece of advice and post helps coming from a HP Fan even if you don’t like the series because of Rowling. The vast majority of the fandom holds no ill will against you or your identity and if you don’t feel comfortable, plz block tags and such and don’t interact. I do not want you to get upset or feel uneasy so please do yourself a favor and keep away if you need to.

You can hate the creator, but still love the series

Thank you and hope you all have a lovely day folks, and please remember to treat your fellow humans with respect who aren’t total backwards folks. Please treat each other with respect regardless of a person’s identity or if you don’t have anything good to say, keep it to yourself as silence is golden in these situations.

I cannot change a person’s opinions on a franchise nor do I intend to do just that, you are entitled to your own opinions and I respect that as you cannot satisfy everyone.

Starting my own school?! (long post)

Hello everyone! As those who have been on my journey with me know, its my dream to open a Martial Arts school that is dedicated to the LGBTQ+ community. Everyone deserves to feel welcomed and like they don't have to hide themselves. As well as our community should know some sense of self defense.

With all of this transphobia currently presenting itself in horrific ways, I've decided (after talking with my therapist) to start offering virtual classes soon and begin launching my business.

I know this is going to be a slow process. I know virtual with Martial Arts isn't the best thing. However, any form of training is going to be what YOU put into it. At this beginning stage, I don't have means ($$) of getting a space of my own. Plus, I want those further away to benefit from the program as well. So, there will most likely always be a virtual option.

That being said, I am going to be in the process of building the platform here as well on Twitter to stay within the community. I won't be using Facebook until I've built more of the foundation. I plan to promote and run small sessions at events like Pride Festivals and even anime/comic conventions.

Not the biggest fan of zoom, so may be opening a discord channel as well. It's all a work in progress! I'd love comments, suggestions, advice, questions from fellow martial artisit and those in the LGBTQ+ community who have always wanted to train!

Please help me welcome in: Official Pride Martial Arts

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'Dublin-native Andrew Scott is making headlines at the moment after starring in All of Us Strangers with Paul Mescal.

The film, which is inspired by the 1987 novel Strangers by Japanese author Taichi Yamada, explores the queer relationship between Andrew Scott’s character Adam and Paul Mescal’s character Harry.

As Adam and Harry’s relationship intensifies, the former visits his childhood home in Croydon and comes out to his parents, played by Claire Foy and Jamie Belle – the twist is his parents died 30 years earlier.

Speaking exclusively to PinkNews on the red carpet at a UK screening of All of Us Strangers ahead of its release on Friday (26 January), Andrew Scott reflected on the importance of seeing queer sex represented.

As there’s an appetite for all things Andrew Scott at the moment (and rightfully so), we thought it would be a good time to take a look at his LGBTQ+ story so far.

When did Andrew Scott come out?

Scott first commented on his sexuality in 2013 in an interview with The Independent while promoting a BBC Two drama titled Legacy.

“Mercifully, these days people don’t see being gay as a character flaw. But nor is it a virtue, like kindness. Or a talent, like playing the banjo. It’s just a fact. Of course, it’s part of my make-up, but I don’t want to trade on it,” he said.

He recently told GQ that he was “encouraged by people in the industry” to keep his sexuality a secret.

“I understand why they gave that advice but I’m also glad that I eventually ignored it,” Scott said.

Scott started out on stage

Scott was a stage actor in Dublin before moving on to the world of film and TV, making his debut in the Irish drama Korea, which premiered at the Toronto International Film Festival.

He had small roles in Saving Private Ryan, Nora, and Dead Bodies, plus a number of other movies.

Scott became a ‘gay icon’ after appearing as James Moriarty in BBC’s Sherlock, sparking countless memes and fanfiction about the potential queer relationship between his character and the titular character played Benedict Cumberbatch.

In 2014, Scott appeared in Pride, a movie honouring the LGBTQ+ activists that raised money to help families affected by the 1984 miner’s strike.

More recently, many will recognise Scott from appearing as the ‘Hot Priest’ in Fleabag as well as playing Colonel John Parry in His Dark Materials, a BBC adaptation of the popular Phillip Pullman book series.

Scott relied on his own pain when filming All of Us Strangers

Homosexuality was illegal in Ireland until Scott turned 16 and he had to grapple with his sexuality and the fear he had in coming out. Scott’s complicated feelings about being gay was something he brought to set every day when filming All of Us Strangers.

He told GQ that he would walk around director Andrew Haigh’s childhood home, the set for Adam’s parents home in the film, and look at all the magazines that he himself had grown up with. Haigh told GQ that he could see Scott revisiting his past: “It’s so interesting watching someone react to something because you can see on their face they’ve been dragged back. It’s like time travel.”

Scott added: “I think that’s maybe why this feels so gratifying and cathartic. Because I did have to bring so much of my own pain into it.”

Scott and Mescal previously told Pink News that an uptick in the number of queer sex scenes in film and TV, including in All of Us Strangers, is “wonderful”.

Scott said: “What’s going to help bring the world forward is just to have representation in that sense. I always say [that] as a queer person, seeing straight relationships constantly and almost exclusively, it hasn’t made me disgusted to look at them. I just go, ‘there you go’.”

Though Mescal is straight, the two actors have great chemistry according to Haigh.

“It was clear to me that [Scott and Mescal] liked each other liked each other a lot as actors, as people. The characters are falling in love, so the actors know how to generate chemistry.”

“They clearly have amazing chemistry, and they’re really good friends now, and they care and love for each other. So, something magical happened. I’m very grateful for that,” Haigh told Sky News.

What will Scott be seen in next?

Scott will soon be starring in new Netflix thriller Ripley, an eight-part series based on Patricia Highsmith’s best-selling Tom Ripley novels.

The story follows a con artist who is hired by a wealthy man to get the man’s son to return home from Italy, when everything goes wrong and descends into fraud and murder.

Scott plays the titular character Tom Ripley, alongside Johnny Flynn and Dakota Fanning. The series premieres on Netflix on April 4, 2024.

He is also expected to appear in an upcoming action comedy film with Jamie Foxx and Cameron Diaz titled Back in Action. There is no release date for the film at the time of writing.

Andrew Scott husband?

Many people (probably people who are quite hopeful that Andrew Scott is still on the market) have been Googling whether the Fleabag star has a husband or partner.

While Andrew Scott keeps his personal life very private, according to Hello Magazine– it’s thought that he is currently single after splitting from his long-term partner, writer Stephen Beresford, in 2019.

He’s previously appeared on the How to Fail podcast speaking about relationships in January 2020, and said: “You learn from people. It’s not about the length of time you spend with somebody. My life is different now. I feel like my attitude towards relationships and my attitude towards myself and sexuality and all that stuff has changed, and that came about from having the courage to be on my own for a bit, quite a scary thing to do.'