sure there’s a ramp, but is it steep? is there a curb at the top? is the ground uneven? do i need a key for the elevator? are the aisles and doorways wide enough? do i have room to turn? is there furniture and clutter in my way? is the carpet difficult to wheel on? can i open the doors myself?

accessibility to wheelchairs is more than just a ramp.

Sometimes u just need to sob and scream and cry and bitch about ur disability

I think a lot of people feel like they need to be at completely at peace with their disability

And you don’t!

Be mad be sad be pissed off!

cleaning is extremely difficult. cleaning your home, your office, your car, your personal space, your clothes, your body, anything- cleaning is an intensive process that involves a lot of small movements, focus, and stamina. many people struggle with the various aspects of cleaning, whether it's the executive function involved with executing or conceptualizing each step involved, fatigue from having to gather supplies and move around, pain from long periods of time on one's feet or repetitive motion, drain from struggling to focus, or whatever else,

a lot of people are affected by the difficulty of cleaning. depression, adhd, schizophrenia, autism, fibromyalgia, hypermobile joints, EDS, POTS, MS, chronic GI problems, chronic pain, chronic fatigue and other disabling conditions can make cleaning and keeping a space clean over time very difficult if not impossible for a lot of people- please be kind to those who struggle with cleaning, and kinder to yourself if you struggle to keep up with cleaning. it is a very difficult task. it's not your fault you struggle with it.

Friendly reminder that if you support reproductive rights and bodily autonomy but say that disabled people shouldn't have children because they'll pass down their genes which is "cruel" or "abusive", you do not support reproductive rights and bodily autonomy. Reproductive rights do not only concern abortion for cis white abled women.

Wheelchair users:

Hey, the main entrance to your business is up some stairs, is there a wheelchair accessible entrance with a ramp or something available?

non-disabled business owners:

No, we don't get any customers in wheelchairs so there's no point

Wheelchair users:

...do...do you think there might be a reason for that?

Non-disabled business owners:

Because disabled people don't need [whatever product or service we provide], obviously.

Being a disabled cosplayer I've had some very jarring interactions at conventions. Actually every single day people make remarks, say slurs, look at disabled people with petty. Say they hope your well soon, refuse to believe you can be disabled do young, tell you to try a new diet.

So first off:

Cripple is a slur reclaimed by disabled people, don't say it otherwise

Gimp is a slur reclaimed by disabled people don't say it otherwise

Stop trying to push people's wheelchairs unless they ask you too.

Telling me to go gluten free with not make my disability go away

So funfact at a convention earlier this year I went to cosplay and disability panel. I was actually really excited for it, and it was great. Later that day a person I didn't know called me a gimp. Someone gad to give up their seat to me, because I was on forearm crutches. The woman I ended up seated besides said. "Oh, doesn't it suck being a gimp right?" And I was just confused, my immediate reaction was to say. "Oh your disabled too!" And then she told me no she wasn't and she just felt bad for me because clearly it sucked being unable to stand without help. It took me a few days to process the fact she said a slur so casually.

hey just a psa : never ever tell a mobility aid user , even as a joke , that you were thinking about stealing their mobility aid

that’s my fucking leg i need it to walk

fuck

Y'know people became INSTANTLY less curious and invasive about my disability as soon as I had my crutches painted.

Once there was no more medical stickers all over them and the crutches were now a matte pink instead of hospital metallic, there were no more questions about "what happened???" Or "I hope you feel better soon". And I think I know why...

When people see crutches that look metallic and have stickers on them, they think you've just gotten out of the hospital and that this is some new development (maybe a sport™️ injury or something) but with customized or non standard medical aides, it looks like something more permanent...

And that makes them uncomfortable.

The permanence of a disability, something that won't go away, weakness that won't go away, and knowing that it could happen to them as well. Not to mention that no one is taught how to interact with people with disabilities that are permanent (I might talk about non permanent disabilities at another point, but that's not important here) there only people that they're taught to interact with who have permanent disabilities are the elderly or children who are terminal, and they are extra nice to them and expect them to die at any time. But they don't know how to handle someone who has a permanent disability and aren't going to die any time soon.

People still stare at me. But people aren't willing to interact with me about my disability. Which is actually sort of sad. When I got them painted, I was so proud of my matte pink crutches, I was wanting to hear compliments from people who know me, or even strangers! This whole time, I've only received one compliment on my crutches, and I believe it's because the other person also has a disability.

If you're not disabled, yeah, we don't want you all up in our business about our disabilities, but it's totally okay to compliment us on our medical equipment and aides and stuff. Don't just ignore us

I am begging non disabled people to please be normal about disabilities and please be more accommodating

Please stop staring at people with mobility aids or medical devices, it’s just uncomfortable for everyone.

People with visual disabilities don’t need to be told they’re “beautiful anyways”, they more than likely know that they don’t fit societal beauty standards and that’s more than okay!!! There are 5 million other things to compliment that mean way more, tell them you like their style or just something else that is actually below surface level.

Stop fetishizing and infantilizing people with incontinence. This one really bugs me. The amount of diaper fetishists is so weird and gross. Stop putting your fetish content under incontinence or disability hashtags.

STOP BRINGING PETS INTO AREAS THAT ARE NOT PET FRIENDLY!!! This is for multiple different reasons, some people are severely allergic to pets and a service dog that is working does not need to be yapped at or harassed by your pet.

I’m autistic but call me out if I say something that makes you uncomfortable. Like you would with anyone else. I may not understand some social things but that doesn’t mean I don’t care to.

ADHD is not a disability in any sense and people with mental disabilities also need to just stop acting like they are treated the same as people with physical disabilities, especially ones that people can see. As someone who is autistic with a physical disability, it is not the same.

And finally, please stop acting like disabled is a dirty word. “Specially abled” or “differently abled” just sound demeaning.

Using mobility aids as a young person is having kids walk in front and run into them.

For some reason parents will often not correct their kids and leave it to me to either:

a) move my mobility aid out the way of their child

or

b) wack their child with my mobility aid

PLEASE teach your kids to make extra space for people using mobility aids, even if the person using them is a young person.

So it's fine when I walk around with a cane, but when I run on all fours it's "unacceptable" and "terrifying"

Disabled people will be like "what the hell is going on with me today" and then remember "oh right I'm disabled".

It's me. I'm disabled people.

Self destructive behavior pertaining to disability isn’t talking about enough

Forcing yourself to do activities that you know will hurt your body is bad!

Making yourself not use your mobility aid when you know you need it is bad!

Not taking your medicine because you want to get worse or just don’t care anymore is bad!!!!!

I think that mental illness can definitely manifest differently for disabled people. It’s not rlly talked about because this all stuff that ableds see as inspiring or us pushing through. It is just harmful behavior.

Since every single disabled person is or has been mentally ill this stuff is just seen as normal.

support every disabled person, especially those of us with symptoms and bodies you don't like or find "gross". support incontinent disabled people, support disabled people who struggle to or can't bathe, support disabled people who cant dress themselves, support disabled people stink, support disabled people with missing and no teeth, support disabled people with deformities, support disabled people with skin conditions, support disabled people who drool, support disabled people who have intense gastro intestinal symptoms, support disabled people with unkempt homes and dirty clothes. support all disabled people, not just "presentable" ones

One thing (among many) that people need to keep in mind when they say things like "oh if you think you have a mental disorder, consult a professional" is that a lot of professionals will not consider evaluating and/or diagnosing you with something you bring up yourself. Especially the more uncommon/complex the disorder is. For things like MDD or GAD you likely won't have that problem, for things like OCD or ADHD they'll likely be suspicious but still comply somewhat, but for things like personality disorders or DID most professionals will completely brush you off and refuse to evaluate you. Because they think you're attention seeking and diagnosis shopping, and that you couldn't possibly have it, even if you haven't done anything to earn that suspicion.

For disorders like that, unless the professional themselves suspects you have it and comes up with that idea themselves, good luck getting evaluated at all. Especially when it comes to disorders most professionals don't even think they'll encounter, like SzPD or DID.

It'd be nice if we lived in a world where you could go see a psych, say "hey I think I have this", and they'd do a proper and fair evaluation for you the way a physical doctor would (moreso should but that's another can of worms).

It just isn't as simple as "ask a professional".

Doing "my best" is doing as much as I can without being in unbearable pain and/or injuring myself. I am glad that you have a body that has never made you reevaluate the definition of this term, but that is not the case for some people.