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#and post their literal shit takes in there. literally started blocking every single person who liked that post
dmclemblems · 2 years
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it’s halfway past 2022 and we still have idiots who insert their ship hate into people’s ship keywords and then go “dimitri and claude are distant cousins and it makes me uncomfortable”
lmfao bro do you have any idea how blood or ancestry works bc this ain’t it
update: found another idiot who thinks “most sources” saying “their related” (yeah, they rly tried to argue about misinformation being spread while saying “their related”) automatically means incest!
newsflash: incest is not a romantic relationship between two people who had a common ancestor 300 years ago. “it was only ten generations ago” is ten generations of thinned blood to the point it literally doesn’t matter anymore, and even less between two guys if “incest babies” is what ppl are worried abt.
also, let’s not forget the fact that this was written in a presumed time period where people died young (which they do anyway in FE), often because of things like war and illness. there were probably more than ten sets of genetics passed on. 300 years = ten generations does not equal ten exactly perfect set amount of genetics being passed down.
#imagine trying to put your hate into people's search keyword(s) or tag(s)#and you can't even argue against it with correct information#you just go oh it makes my stomach turn but the reason you provide for that is not even logical#and is factually false. like. bro. grow a brain before you argue against something first of all#second of all get your filthy vent hate out of people's ship areas why are people so SHITTY#oh boo hoo someone had a distant ancestor 300 years ago so they are banned from a romantic relationship with someone#who was born 300 years after their ancestor#like do you know how many people would be related if that shit even remotely mattered? do you?#do you realize how many people would be related if you thought about every single marriage#every single child every single sibling every step/half relation in that 300 years?#literally fuck off with your bullshit hate that can't even stand up on its own. ppl search for ships to see content#not to see literal idiot assholes go into their spaces which should be a fun space for them#and post their literal shit takes in there. literally started blocking every single person who liked that post#and ngl it's pathetic how many ppl lately have been tagging their hate since Hopes came out#the amount of ppl I've blocked recently has increased tenfold and it's fucking ridiculous#the world is stressful enough why do you gotta go into people's safe spaces and unload your hateful bullshit on us there too???#y'all wouldn't like it if someone did that to you but you sit around doing it to other ppl. real fuckin' nice bud#yes i am angry at this point lol this is umpteenth time i've tried to look for new content and found someone#putting their hate there instead like no you're not just venting you're putting the full name of a ship in your post#which is going to show up in that ship's searches and yet you didn't even censor it so that it would not show up there#so instead of doing the respectful thing to actually vent on a website that would pick up a keyword#they just don't bother and uwu it makes me uncomfortable that two ppl had an ancestor 300 whole ass years ago uwu#pity my discomfort uwu#bitch if a fictional ship makes your stomach turn and it's that bad you need literal HELP. OFF the internet#last time I was that uncomfortable with a fictional ship I literally needed HELP and wasn't in a good mental state#at least I didn't post my hate for it in anyone's safe spaces. assholes are so fckn tiringgggg#get your ''uncomfortable'' snowflake ass out of people's safe spaces with your illogical hate#also no dw anyone following me it's not you guys lol#DCB Comments
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peachdues · 4 months
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This shit is annoying asfk.You have all ur followers sitting here waiting on netherwood and all u keep doing is pushing back,I get you have a life and all but if u really don’t have time for it to be done then tell us that instead of doing things like “going to try to have it done this weekend”or the week after that.i understand u may have a life and things outside tumblr but u can’t blame people when u literally created a mini fic that people are waiting for,if u knew there was going to be multiple parts you should have saved them in ur drafts and then published them once they were all finished instead of leading us on with mini little parts that u post of things in the story..
And instead of trying to start new fics..maybe finish the ones people are waiting on?Like why are u posting ur written fics about other characters and starting on new fics when people are sitting here with their notifications on for netherwood because u said it may be dropping soon.
If u don’t have motivation to finish something,then don’t lead people on with ur little mini spoilers.
You know, I went through a range of emotions while reading this. Annoyance. Upset. Anger. I thought of a plethora of replies that ranged from whiny to downright hostile.
And then it clicked.
You’re not a follower of mine and you’re not someone who enjoys my writing.
You don’t want me to finish Netherwood at all.
You want me to quit and leave tumblr.
That has to be it — because any true supporter of mine wouldn’t send this shit. Any true supporter or friend I’ve made on here would know and understand that I have a life and beyond that, that the writing process is not linear. There are fics I have teased since July that are still WIPs — why? Because writing takes time. I don’t write things from start to finish (so your insipid little suggestion to ‘save in drafts and post in installments’ is as useless as you are).
My followers — my friends, mutuals or not — know this and respect this. They have been so supportive of me since I first debuted on here. They were here cheering me on while I studied for and took the Bar exam. They celebrated my becoming an attorney. They ask about my writing and my personal life because they are sweet and kind and successful in every way you aren’t, you miserable quim.
Your lack of reading comprehension makes me question the school system in whatever country is unfortunate enough to bear your existence. Because I’ve never said I’d lost motivation to finish Netherwood (no matter how much it is clear you hope I do). It is my top priority among any of my works; that I work on other fics has no bearing on that and is frankly none of your pathetic concern. I have never asked anyone to turn on their notifs — turn them off and fuck off if it bothers you so much. No one is forcing you to be here.
As much as it’s clear you want me to give up and leave, I’m afraid I’ll have to disappoint you once more — I’m not going anywhere. I will finish Netherwood on my time and on my terms and if that means you lose interest, then so fucking be it. It’s not for you, anyways. If you had a modicum of creativity, you’d understand that, but your brain, much like your life, is so devoid of any true substance that I feel sorry for you. You pathetic, miserable little speck of wasted dirt.
On behalf of writers everywhere that have to deal with this shit, and as disrespectfully as possible, fuck off, you wart. 🤍🤍🤍
And next time, at least put your name on your ask so I know who to block 🤍 at least you can’t send this bullshit on anon anymore. Now you have the freedom to say it with your whole chest 🤍
PS — you’re likely lonely and single and ugly as sin, and your ask is precisely the reason why 😘
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sunghun · 2 years
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enhypen as your best friend
requested; yep :p
warnings; mentions of food in jay and niki’s, minor mention of bullying in sunghoon’s
note; this took me so long to write 😭😭writer’s block is truly a bitch, but hopefully i’ll be posting more often in the near future!!
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희승 - heeseung;
for some reason i see him as being that low-key annoying hipster friend
that you lovingly put up with <3
has a song for you to listen for literally every occasion
he’s also the friend that makes you wonder how he even survives
bc you swear he just never sleeps??
you could text him at any time
and he always answers within a few minutes
so either he has some kind of sixth sense for when you wanna talk to him
or he has no life and is always awake waiting for you to message him
and ofc you like to tease him about it
“wow heeseung i didn’t know you were so obsessed with me”
“well i can’t let you have another breakdown at 3am by yourself now can i”
touché
you guys also go on lots of platonic ‘dates’
so many midnight coffee runs
and you’ll just sit on a bench in some park and talk until the sun is coming up
the best friend that’s always there for you
제이 - jay;
the grandpa friend <3
always complains about being out too late
scolds you if you do anything dangerous
impromptu lectures on life even tho he’s like the same age as you
but you know he only does it bc he cares <3
if you’re nervous about doing smth he’ll immediately offer to do it with you or for you
but also encourages you to go out on your own and do things for yourself :))
likes to use you as his “guinea pig” when testing out a new recipe for something
which you honestly don’t mind bc his cooking is just chef’s kiss tbh
definitely the friend who just buys stuff for you
“here.”
“what’s this?”
“that necklace i saw you looking at in the store for like 5 minutes”
he’s low-key kinda tsundere about it sometimes tho
“hey y/n what do you want?”
“oh no i’m good i didn’t bring any money.”
“did i ask if you brought money?”
“but-“
“What Do You Want?”
so yeah
even if he’s a lil rough around the edges
at the end of the day you both know that you’d do anything for each other
the best friend you can always count on
제이크 - jake;
being besties with jake means you question why you’re friends with such a dumbass
legit has the humor of a 12 year old boy like the amount of stupid memes he sends you…
rip my dude
but he’s also the sweetest guy you know so!!
i guess that evens it out
comes over so often he practically lives at ur house
like he just worms his way into your family so subtly
suddenly it’s not a complete family reunion if jake isn’t there
but you also like to hangout at coffee shops/cafes!!
especially the aesthetic looking ones
ur number 1 hypeman
takes the best pics of you for ur social media
“yes y/n! work it bro!”
lots of sleepovers where you’ll stay up watching movies or playing video games until the sun is coming up
you guys probably volunteer at a pet shelter too
and you have to talk jake out of adopting every single dog there almost daily
even if you don’t physically see each other every day
you still text and call each other every day
bc the two of really are like family to each other
the best friend that makes you feel loved no matter what
성훈 - sunghoon;
to this day people still wonder how you and sunghoon are friends
bc like. you’re just so opposite??
plus when you first met you both hated each other
and for literally no reason too
but one day you guys found out there was some dickhead bully at school that you both hated more than you hated each other
like they’re just talking shit about you until suddenly sunghoon walks up and starts defending you?? like what universe did you land in
but anyways ever since then you two got closer and now you’re bffs
people mistake you for a couple all the time mostly bc you’re the only person sunghoon will allow to hold his hand
he isn’t the most affectionate person but if you are he’ll begrudgingly allow you to cuddle up to him when you watch a movie
is so so so observant
which means he always gets you the best gifts
lots of hanging out at the mall bc you both enjoy people watching
so you’ll usually get some coffee and then just sit on a bench and rate people’s outfits
when you guys first started hanging out sunghoon was pretty shy
but the more you got to know each other the more he came out of his shell
and now he tends to match ur energy <3
the best friend that always understands you
선우 - sunoo;
the best bff you ask for
literally the first person you tell anything to
if you’re there you can bet sunoo isn’t far off
the two of you haven’t gone a day without speaking since you became friends
and you both love making fun of each other
all in the name of love, ofc <3
lots of good natured bickering and fake arguing
you guys go on lots of walks and like to have little picnics
and weekly movie/drama nights are definitely a thing
where sunoo will catch you up on the latest rumors and gossip around school during the boring parts of whatever you’re watching
you two also call each other pet names a lot
whether it be normal ones like babe or weird, over the top ones like snuggle bunny-poo
he also likes to randomly surprise you with flowers every once in a while
just because <3
you guys know everything about each other and know that you can always trust the other with your secrets
the best friend that you sometimes wish was more
정원 - jungwon;
is basically ur adopted sibling whether you like it or not
he can either be your favorite person or the person u loathe the most
he lives next door so you both are at each other’s house constantly
and your mom may or may not low-key like him more 3
which he loves to rub in ur face /3
but it’s okay bc maeumi likes you more <3
which you love to rub in his face <33
you both like to go on ‘adventures’ whether it’s going to mcdonald’s at 3 am
or exploring the woods by your house in the middle of the day with a backpack that only has a couple juice boxes and some fruit snacks in it
you also build pillow forts in rooms all the time!!
bc it makes the sleepover experience 10x better, can confirm
he’s always the first person you send the weird videos you find late at night to, and vice versa
and you both love to give each other random little gifts from time to time even if they seem really weird to other people
sooooo many inside jokes
the best friend that you know you’ll always have
니키 - niki;
literally the most annoying person u know
u call him brat affectionately <3
and he calls you his grandparent not affectionately 3 (jk jk)
bc even if you’re the same age or younger than him
i can assure you he is going to tease you about your age/the way you act
also you both will occasionally ghost each other for a few weeks
like sometimes to the point where ppl wonder if you’re still even friends
but when they ask ur like “wdym we’re literally bffs??”
and then continue to talk like nothing ever happened
you guys make fun of each other all. the. time.
lovingly of course, but still
like you guys will be at a thrift shop or smth
and riki will find the most horrendous looking stuffed animal there and buy it
and when you ask him why he got such an ugly thing he’ll just be like
“bc it reminded me of you! ^-^”
jokes on him tho bc a few weeks go by and suddenly he can’t sleep without it so
also lots of park hangouts in the evenings!!
especially in the summer like you guys will get some ice cream or popsicles and just hang out at a playground
pushing each other on the swings or seeing how long you both can hang on the monkey bars
the best friend that makes you feel like you never have to grow up
taglist: @mochisnlix @yizhoutv @heatrache @vantxx95 @enhacolor @sunoo-bby @ilandsghost @hiqhkey
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nubinublado · 5 months
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So weird vent but the whole drama with James Somerton is making me think about this more and more and I just gotta write it out at this point.
So, he deletes comments, i know this because he deleted one of mine. It was on the shipping video responding to the end or it when he started taking about RPF. I believe he made a point about how companies often have their idols queerbait cause #straight women are more comfy with male idols having sex with other men because it "doesn't count" so the idol maintains virginity (NOTE this is me paraphrasing by memory i was literally going rewatch or read the transcript but it is completely gone now holy shit).
But ya, because i'm a huge bts fan i wanted to give my thoughts on what he said about kpop and those problematic games on variety shows would make idols play that were designed to make them accidentally kiss. My comment was basically (again paraphrased from memory)
"Ya it's sucks that idols have to do queerbait-ey things," note the I meant talking about the aforementioned games not anything that would come down to cultural differences like the standard of how affectionate men can be with each other, "especially considering there have to be closeted idols who are queer (but we shouldn't be speculating ppl's sexualites) who are scared to come out because it would jeopardize their careers (not to mention they live in a very conservative country) but then all of a sudden they have to almost kiss their friends/groupmates"
In my comment I wanted to emphasize a fuck the industry cause in general I don't like the whole accusing real ppl of queerbaiting cause even in seemingly cut and dry scenarios like what I've described that person could still be queer and in an even shittier position than their straight counterparts who have to do that crap.
But I digress. Cause I swear the comment wasn't inflammatory at all I didn't name any idols or groups. Just a typical opinion that was left open to discussion. And it confused me on why he deleted it. Now I never tried to get an answer b/c I am of the belief that getting blocked or having a comment deleted is a hint and you should take it. But I'd be lying if i said that whenever that James comes up I don't think "what about that comment bothered him so much?"
Maybe I made a massive typo and accidentally said that we should speculate idols sexualities and I accidently called for a campaign of outing celebrities in a youtube comment section
Maybe I was too unnuanced with the whole no speculation point. Like, if an artist puts queer imagery in their work in a "if you get it you get it" kind of way towards queer fans. Is it problematic if queer fans pick up on the clues, does coming out only count if straight ppl can understand it etc etc. But still I feel like he could have just replied instead of deleting the whole thing. Again wasn't an aggressive comment very much open to discussion.
But he just deleted it. I wasn't mad just confused, still confused. Now that he's been figuratively exposed at every single angle I'm even more confused.
Like ya, it is tempting to say "oh I just wasn't misogynistic enough how dare I suggest that the industry is the real big bad" or "he thinks assuming sexuality is ok because then he can't brush off criticism by just assuming it's coming from a (straight) woman"
But, I dunno I have more integrity than that. Maybe it is a bad take. Still open to discussion it over 3 years later lol.
I've gone back and fourth between whether I should post this or not. But seeing that he's now deleted the video despite neither Hbomber or Todd in the shadow mentioning it their videos has sort of pushed me to archive its existence in some way even if it's just for a petty reason lolol.
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dimiclaudeblaigan · 8 months
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Okay I don't do this normally but out of curiosity, I looked at that guys' posts and yeah they're going around sealioning anyone who likes Dimitri being all like "how can you say Dimitri/AM is your favorite when you didn't play all the routes". Buddy it's called having preferences, subjectivity and opinion. I'm sure if we twist their behavior around back at them, they'll be like stop bothering us for liking Edel cause double standards is their bread and butter.
Yeah, I had taken a brief scroll through their blog the first time I saw them argue with Random about Claude because I had a pretty strong feeling that they were just another stan running around around against Rhea and Dimitri fans because I knew that person didn't follow Random when they started pulling the bad faith Claude takes.
I scrolled through a few posts before I was like yeah I'm not even gonna bother looking further because I could see all they were doing was arguing with people whose names I recognized, and the only people who ever do that are the stans. They also have absolutely nothing else but discourse on their blog.
It's crazy to me too, because I've seen those same Dimitri fans try to talk about anything else FE related and yet they still get pulled back into discourse. Like, I'm at the point where I believe everyone in that immediate group is just actively being stalked by the stans (and I recall one of them mentioning they are being stalked by them, but my guess is if one of them is, all of them are).
Also, the stans tend to pull the "you didn't play xyz route" when I'm quite certain most if not all of the Dimitri fans on Tumblr have at the very bare minimum watched the full route on YouTube of anything they didn't play. All these people have the information they need to know where they stand opinion-wise, and like you said, it's just... having an opinion. The stans have their opinions, we don't agree with them, and we don't engage with them unless they engage with us first.
Something I've noticed about the group of Dimitri fans that gets stans going after them is that it's always the stans who start it. They always respond to asks sent to those people. In other words they go onto those people's blogs, look at their posts/their replies to their anons, and start arguing at them over literally anything they say in thsoe ask responses.
Every single time I see a post reach my dashboard from any of those people (you might know the Faerghus/Dimitri group I'm talking about), it's always a stan going after them when they were just answering one of their own anons and posting something on their own blog. I'm sure there are people who think they engage in discourse too much, but they don't even start it. They get harassed and can't just blog in peace.
Unfortunately those same stans have been targeting Random as of late (and I've noticed it's more and more different ones so they're probably going after someone as soon as they notice their buddies are doing so) so it's not that surprising that they've taken notice of me since she and I interact regularly. They basically go through the chain of who interacts with who and try to start shit.
Oh nonnie honey, you better believe if even a single Dimitri fan did to them what they do to us, they'd be all over that and whining about it and posting callouts and shit.
I just want to be able to post whatever my feelings are about Dimitri without worrying that people will try to tear it down because "it's not about Edel-chan and it portrays Dimitri in a good light".
I've blocked every Edelstan I've come across but more of them keep popping up, so... I guess the blocking never ends. My block list is basically just Edelstans and bots at this point with few exceptions.
Funny how the stans don't block Dimitri fans who hate Edelgard to avoid seeing them (it's because they don't actually want to, because they want to argue), even though we're all over here trying to block them, but some of them block evade to keep going. Literally like Dimitri fans have tried to block them and move on, but they persistently find ways to keep harassing. And like I said, they go down the line, so eventually they'll just find every active Dimitri lover who posts about him and whine at them.
#DCB Ask#it's fucking wild to me how many times the same people have tried to block and move on and avoid these people#and how many times they've tried to talk about anything else or whatever they want in their own space#but the stans keep coming back and bothering them#there are even people whose favorite isn't Dimitri but they've ended up hating Edelgard because of the stans#and are wary of discourse bc of them. and like... their favorites aren't part of the general discourse much if at all#but they still hate Edelgard bc they just don't like HER but her stans made them despise the sight of her#it's tiring stressful and pathetic tbh. maybe I'll just like. write an analysis about a character I love#from another game so I can write about something fun and that I love and try to help#convince people in a happy positive way that he's GooD. bc like if you want someone to like your faves#the best way to change their mind is to have fun and talk in detail without discourse about them#if you're talking about them in a good way and explaining the depths of the character#and people can tell you're passionate about the character then they're way more likely to walk in open minded#than if you come at them insulting them and bitching at them for who they DO like or for not liking your fave#when ppl get interested in Dimitri and want to hear from me why I like him and stuff#I tell them all the great things about him that I love and gush about him. I don't start going#AND EDELGARD -INSERT EVERYTHING I HATE ABOUT HER- AND THAT'S WHY I LOVE DIMITRI#and I don't include why I hate Edelgard when ppl ask why I love Dimitri. I tell them why I love Dimitri and am happy to talk abt it#I LOVE getting ppl to enjoy my faves and sometimes it works! and that's bc they enjoy the vibe they get#when I'm talking abt my faves. they like seeing the passion and interest and positivity#I do this with my faves in another franchise all the time with an entire group of side characters who are sides but#also very plot important and it always makes people see them in a different light and appreciate them more
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dwn024 · 1 year
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i love uuu im so sorry you had to deal with that guy
thank you anon have i made it explicitly clear that i straight up was only regularly talking to him for maybe about six months before he asked me out and All of our interaction at that point had been within the context of RP or talking about OCs like i barely knew this dude personally and vice versa before he asked me out, then a week later i was like "actually i don't think i'm ready for this and would like it if it stopped" but in response he went "noooo let's try to make it work:(" and then got mad at me when it didn't
he also repeatedly assured me he would be patient and understanding about the AvPD thing but then that was his primary reason for ending it and actually might've been basically the Only reason now that i think about it?? idk i don't have the Fucking Essay he wrote memorized and i don't want to look at the discord DMs in case he sent more shit after i blocked him. also seriously he literally sent a whole goddamn multiple paragraph essay that did not have even the Slightest indication he would accept blame for anything He did wrong too like it was 100% "you suck as a person you are completely the only one at fault for everything going wrong you're childish i can't believe you wouldn't get over a personality disorder for my sake and was too busy with animation crunch to look at DMs for a second"
sorry i don't mean to vent about it so much but i literally have been keeping my mouth shut about how miserable i was with him The Entire Time cuz i was paranoid about him stalking my tumblr and Hey Guess What Happened. also i was mutuals with one of his friends who almost definitely is the one that was like reporting back to him about shit i was posting on my close friends instagram story or posting At All on tumblr so i have had so much goddamn shit bottled up i'm sorry for unleashing it all suddenly right now in multiple paragraph form and taking up the whole dash if the readmore doesn't work i'm putting a readmore beyond this point but tumblr has been breaking readmores lately so i hope it actually works and i deeply deeply apologize in advance if it doesn't
like the INSTANT not exaggerating INSTANT i agreed to go out with him (which by the way i only agreed to because at the time for the first couple days i genuinely did think it was mutual attraction but in hindsight it was Definitely just being happy to have a friend i interacted with semi regularly that's literally it he was just the Only Person i spoke to with that much frequency and 100% of it was talking about OCs or RP) INSTANTLY he suddenly increased the interaction frequency by like 400% and constantly nonstop DMed me every single second he was awake and ALL of it was extremely intimate lovey dovey shit like to an overwhelming degree i was NOT prepared for the friendship to suddenly turn into "actually now i want all your attention all of the time and i am going to message you the instant you pop online or start posting and it's all going to be Way more personal intimate shit than you're used to with me" like i probably overreacted but that shit scared me off BAD that's why i wanted to break it off after a week i had to stop using social media and pretend i was just Not Active for a few days just to get a break from him constantly messaging me and even then he'd still be like "hey i notice you're not online yet today but i'm gonna message you anyway^_^"
like granted he eventually Realized he was probably overwhelming me and agreed to back off a bit but that was in exchange for Not Ending The Relationship Immediately, like i TRIED to break up with him at that point because i got soooo scared but he didn't want to, he Agreed to stop demanding 100% of my attention all the time and said he understood why AvPD might make that more difficult and that's STILL the reason he wanted to end it!!!! because i was too busy with animation crunch to keep paying attention to him!!!! we literally talked about it and he said he was fine with it!!!! if something changed there and he Stopped being fine with not getting 100% of my attention all the time he should have told me instead of getting mad at me for ignoring him when i was fucking working!!!!
and he would always start really REALLY sexual conversations with me in semi-public discord servers that i Was Not Comfortable With granted i totally should have maybe asked him to stop but i didn't want to be the weird one for being uncomfortable with NSFW conversations happening in a designated NSFW channel it was just like. daily, and other people could see the messages DMs exist for a reason i really wish i had the spine to have asked him to not do that it kinda makes my skin crawl in retrospect
there's also the whole "constantly treating my self insert OC like shit in RP specifically as punishment for the OC showcasing AvPD traits that i have explicitly and repeatedly stated are me projecting my own AvPD traits onto the OC" thing. like the worst i've done to that character is made him get forced to eat a lizard and there's a running joke of him getting mugged all the time but my ex literally and unambiguously had his own OC beat the shit out of mine for apologizing too much and being a spineless pushover that got freaked out making decisions for other people and never wanted to state any of his own opinions in case they were the wrong ones, that is all shit i have stated repeatedly i was projecting onto him and my ex's OC berated and again Literally Beat The Shit Out Of Him for. and this wasn't just One of my ex's characters every time my OC had an AvPD moment no matter which of my ex's characters he was interacting with they would Always shit on him for it that does not feel good
i know there's other shit i've been bottling up i just can't remember it at the moment my memory totally sucks in general. uh he asked for my address after like two months of regular conversation and then again when i moved to my current apartment that feels weird i think that's too quickly to ask for an internet acquaintance's address
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rune-folk · 2 years
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two ramble posts in a row, im sorry. again, block the tag if it annoys you. this post is going to be long, sorry
anyways, i am going to introduce a new code name. while Reidar is the guy i have this weird friendship/dating situation thing with and Halfdan is my good friend, i am introducing a non norwegian now. he is from central europe so i will call him Manfred. just as for the other two, not his real name
anyways, Manfred is my coworker. his desk is next to mine. he does not speak any norwegian and is not very comfortable in speaking english, so as i speak german he speaks (according to my boss) more with me than he had in the previous 4 years of working there. (his german is also very unclear, so that even i have to often ask him to repeat himself)
anyways, he is this typical guy who does not go out, only goes from his home to work and back. he has no friends in norway outside of work, and even there he never joins when we go out (we are a very social group and meet up almost every weekend).
he is this kind of guy who thinks not giving a shit about how he looks makes him cool, he has always top everything you say or mame snarky comments. criticising womrns makeup, how people dress or behave, while himself wearing old af shoes, washe dout jeans and a black shirt every day, despite having the money to buy anything he wants. nothing wrong with that but hypocritical. he also complains about norwegian women on tinder, that they expect so much, while looking like sjit. he also thinks it is cool that he does not work out and eats frozen pizza.
he also is older than most of us and even older than my boss (he is 35 she is 32) and thinks this means he is therefore better and treats the rest of us like children in a condescending way, and always says that im such a child even though i am 27 and have my life more in order than he has.
oh wait no, wrong. he does not treat all of us like that. just the women.
he treats us as if we dont know what we are doing (we all have a masters degree in the same field, and i took less than half the time for it than he did), he does not take us for full and acts as if he is the only adult in the room. he also makes fun of us women because we are all pretty short and he is tall. wow such adult. so mature.
then comes the part that only i get to suffer because i speak german.
maybe people who have suffered through my ramblings a bit have noticed, i am a talkative person. i am shy at first, but after a time im friendly and like small talk. so as i started during covid and he was the only other person also coming to the office (i could not be in homeoffice as i literally did not have any furniture in my apartment because i moved for the job) we started talking. he went to the same uni as i, we knew the same people and professors, so of course there was much topic
anyways, he started to make more and more weird comments. like he uses the german word "Schatz" at me, which literally means treasure and is a term you would usually use for your romantic partner. he only does this with me.
then e.g. i dont want kids. i am even one of those people who actively dislikes kids, and does not want to be around them. i am a spoonie. i never want to have children and even if i would never curse them with my fucked genes.
when this came up he just laughs and is like "yea yea you will change your mind", "yea call me when you are pregnant" (mind you i am single). he does not know me or my life, so it is so inappropriate for him to say stuff like that. i also find it highly disrespectful tbh. i am also very easy to startle, and flinch with every loud noise. he constantly says how cute it is. yea.. not something to say to a coworker imo
but i am nice i dont want trouble, i keep it to myself.
but now, in september i was on a work trip in the alps, and he was with me. i met an old colleague there but other than that i knew no one, so he was the only one to talk to outside of the meetings for the week. we also added two days in a nearby city after the work trip because there were no direct flights back home.
during that time the comments just grew more and more inappropriate.
he knows my ex, who studied with him. he said "we should go back and pretend that there is something going on between us just to bother him"
first of all, no. weird. second of all. no. that is so cruel, the thing with my ex is still quite complicated. i told him no.
then again, a few days later, because apparently my boss told my male coworkers not to hit on me when i would start my job.
"we should pretend in front of your boss that there is something going on between us, that would be fun" (she is not his boss, he has a different boss, but his boss is also my second boss.. it is a bit confusing i know but we are still working in the same group)
no it would not. that is weird..stop suggesting that.
he also made a comment like "we're not married yet, Schatz" when i joked that he could finish my food at a restaurant. again, weird.
after the trip i was super sick of him. but now suddenly he joins all the outings with work people where he usually would not even bother. im so sick of him. and now those outings are annoying because i try to keep away from him but he always goes so he walks next to me and then throws in side comments or german comments
im trying to ignore him and sometimes i think he notices but he still tries to engage so i just pretend i am super busy and stressed. then he constantly looks over the small wall dividing our desks to look at my work and makes comments. usually that is not a problem and i dont mind, we work together and it can be useful but i am so sick of him that every breath he takes annoys me
so, yea.. now idk what to do. i told some of my coworker friends that i am creeped out by him, but they dont know what to do either.
should i tell my boss? she is italian and very direct. idk i dont want stress. i should add he cannot be fired because of this i think, but it would make things weird. i can also not change desks. my second boss who is his boss is also very non confrontational so idk if telling her would do anything.
his contract would run out this month but he got an extension, so my hope to be rid of him is sadly not going to happen. idk.. this is sjit
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oyasumi-dove · 5 months
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‘Afab writers are a problem because I’m afab and I don’t like femininity.’ Isn’t the take you think it is, hon. And don’t give me that “that’s not what I said” bullshit, cause you literally did. From an afab person who loves my femininity and writes *tagged* fem!reader, it brings me joy that my very existence pisses you off. Must take a lost of effort to be that fragile…
Hating anyone who’s afab and a writer just because some ignorant people don’t tag fics is genuinely the worst excuse I’ve ever seen. It’s not that big a deal. What, did the scary fem!reader fics reach through the screen and bite you or something? A lot of afab readers tag their fics, a lot of non afab readers don’t tag their fics, the x reader niche has way bigger problems with tagging than not tagging the gender of the reader. But I guess none of that matters because god forbid you go five seconds without showing your obvious bias.
Honestly, stop pretending you’re doing this in good faith and actually trying to help. You’re doing it to get on people’s nerves. Your spam posts are vague and don’t actually tell people what you want them to tag, you’re a massive hypocrite, and you respond hatefully to anyone who doesn’t suck your dick. I hope your ultimate goal is for the problem you’re complaining about to get worse, because that’s the only thing you’re accomplishing here.
Hhhhmmmm
Well…!
I did say that it was a personal issue for me and I had a bias. I don’t think I tried to hide that fact! However, I stated that the writers who didn’t tag their posts as fem!reader were the problem for me. It’s only some of your guys existence that pisses me off 😍
I can see that my response was worded horribly, though, I don’t know how to explain myself to you. If you think of me as a hypocrite then how exactly am I suppose to change your views on me..? Like ok, I guess im a hypocrite to whoever you are.
I never said I wanted to be the “good” guy in all this LOL. I am open to change my opinions on certain things, but I haven’t exactly always been nice about it. You can tell in my posts. Of course I’m going to start lighting up when people agree with me and actually hear me out. Literally who wouldn’t!??? With all the people who do not agree with me, I’m just arguing back with them?? Am I not allowed to counter their messages when half of them are spewing shit my way 🤦
You aren’t my problem! At least you (proclaim) to tag your work. I don’t think you write for every other fem!writer. Also I don’t know where you got those statistics from with the “a lot of non afab writers don’t tag their fics” yadayada, ok. Try to block every variation of fem reader and scroll down an x reader tag right now!
I really am that fragile though!! Because who the hell doesn’t feel dysphoric when coming upon an untagged posts and get hit with she/her pronouns 💀 Spoiler alert: Not every afab is happy or as comfy as you are with their femininity. YES, it will kill me if I see an untagged fem reader fic. If I see a another one I will actually succumb to the sweet relief that is death :(( Not even my FILTERED TAGS will be able to stop this…!
There’s so many posts about tagging your work correctly, how to actually use your tags and what to do with them. My first fucking post is showing you how to add tags. Unless you WANT me to start adding text on every single one of my posts on how to use tags, because that sounds like a great idea :3
Hhhnmmm
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odinsblog · 10 months
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i usually use the anon function bc im embarrassed to ask people things sjfjfjhs but I've never sent anything horrible to anyone!! I'm sorry you've had negative experiences with the anon function before, you don't deserve that at all!! sending love!
[re: this post]
Thank you. I genuinely appreciate you rn
People like you are literally the only reason why I don’t completely disable the anon feature, because I understand that sometimes people are shy, or they want to express themselves without taking shit. I actually dO get that
But alas, as with everything, there are those who abuse what really should be thought of as a nicety, or privilege—some people just abuse it
Very long rant, incoming
So here’s the thing, right? Sometimes when people are online, they act and behave in ways they wouldn’t dare to irl
I’m not the government. I don’t have a staff to edit my posts. I’m not anybody special. I’m just some dude on the internet who enjoys sharing my opinions and other things. If YOU don’t like or agree with my opinions or something else that I post, you are completely free to keep scrolling or to block me. That’s fine. But when anons begin demanding that I phrase things the way that they’re more comfortable with, then we got serious issues
And another thing: people need to not be so quick to assume malicious intent where none exists
For example, I have accidentally typed the number 500 in a post when I meant to type 50–now, in the specific post, it truly was a significant error. But an anon immediately jumped into the comments and self righteously accused me of lying to make a point, rather than saying to themselves, “Hm, maybe Odin just made a typo”
And my personal favorites
them: YOU’RE SPREADING MISINFORMATION AND DISINFORMATION !!!!
me: um, it was a fucking joke? do they have jokes where you come from?
Or,
me: posts a video of an alligator and some cranes, and adds a bit of whimsical commentary
them: WELL ACTUALLY, THAT IS PROBABLY PREDATORY BEHAVIOR AND I THINK YOU SHO-
me: no. goddamn, I can’t be fucking whimsical on a social media site? eat shit. stfu
And also,
them: well technically, it’s not really fascism
me: maybe not, but it’s fucking close enough. I’m not gonna wait for people to start getting marched into ovens and say, “now can we call it fascism??”
I have literally had all of these dumb, stupid ass conversations (almost verbatim) here on tumblrdotcom, and lemme tell ya, it’s frustrating af
And other times, when I author a post containing a hyperlink on desktop but then later edit it on mobile, sometimes the hyperlink doesn’t carry over to mobile and you’re left with a post that may say “source,” but is not clickable. It happens sometimes, and it’s not a big deal, right?? WRONG! Instead of sending an ask to ask me what happened to the link, I’ve had anons accuse me of “not crediting” a source
I’ve had people use anon to accuse me of cropping videos so that I could somehow “steal” credit from others, and I’m just like … What??? Who does that? Who has the time for all of that? Are you aware that sometimes people on the internet see something like a video or a photo from somewhere else (also uncredited from twitter, reddit, facebook, etc), and then just post it here on tumblr??
And no, I am not talking about reposting someone’s art or other works
Look, if YOU get your thrills from finding out who/where/when the very first instance of every single cat or dog video came from, that’s great! Do you. Knock yourself out. Have fun. But don’t try to shame others because we aren’t all humorless poindexters like you
If I post something from tiktok, the video generally tells you where to go to see it there. If it’s a tweet or from reddit, again, there are usually twitter or reddit handles in the tweet. And NO, I am not putting a link to every single tweet or reddit thread or facebook post — if that’s that important to you, then figure it out. It’s not hard, and in the year 2023 most adults should have the necessary skills to find an original tweet, if that’s something that’s important to you. I’m not doing it for you, not sorry
(SN: I’ll never forget when I took my first college English literature course, and at the end of the semester I was on the bubble for getting an A or an A+ in the class, and our final exam was a written essay that would decide my final grade. I didn’t quite score the A+ that I wanted, and when I looked over my essay, the professor wrote on it: “Odin, you are the quintessential college freshman, and your inquisitiveness has made this semester one of my most enjoyable.” And after class, I walked up to him and thanked him, and asked him what quintessential meant? He opened his mouth and was about to answer me, but then he smiled, wagged his finger at me and said, “you should learn to look things up.” He was one of my favorite professors (had a British accent, eyeglasses and reminded me of Giles from Buffy), but I’ve never forgotten that lesson. Some of you very obviously need to learn it too)
I’ve also made what are very obviously jokes online, only to have people accuse me of misrepresenting facts—and then I’m like, do I really need to explain the concept of what a joke is to you people??
Like, I could see if it was something racist, trans/homophobic, Islamophobic, antisemitic, etc, BUT I DON’T DO THAT
I think that some people need to be seen as, or have a desire to be known as a gatekeeper, and instead of using just a tiny bit of common sense, they try to make mountains out of molehills to elevate themselves in the eyes of their followers
The people who act this way are truly joyless human beings, and they probably suck all the fun out of parties and other events that people are forced to spend time with them
Maybe try socializing a bit more? Learn to read (online) cues. Don’t be so eager to accuse everyone of doing something wrong just so that YOU get to look like the good guy
And all of that’s without even addressing all of the straight up racist anons that I constantly receive
Like, do people even understand that we aren’t inside of each other’s heads? Sometimes we’re all dealing with life and other stuff. And just maybe people are busy trying to have just a tiny bit of fun, and then the mf fun police come along and try to ruin shit? Because I don’t use a word exactly the same way you do?? Or because of an obvious joke?? You guys who do this kind of shit really SUCK
I feel sorry for you
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I almost can’t believe this is the piddling little shit that some people choose to be upset over
Please find some REAL things to be upset over
Try learning to use the feature that lets users (gasp) make a post of their very own! instead of fixating on one goddamn mutha fucking post that wasn’t worded to your liking
I am not here for the discourse with anyone with an internet connection and a keyboard
Please go touch some grass
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kirinoodles · 1 year
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[vw: ab*se, racism, d*ath/s*icide mentions, childhood trauma]
i do not need to get off social media, i need to absolutely DIVE IN IT as much as i can. shit happens way too worse irl than in my cellphone, besides that if i don't like something i see on my dash i can just scroll past it, or, even sign for the algorithm not recommend that type of content. while in real life, you just can't escape your problems, you can't just 'block' someone physically to stop seeing them, you can't just act as if there's a setting as an escape for your problems, a "do not disturb" is mostly unavailable for most people, most targeting teens without privacy and people with disturbed lives and minds who need a break but sometimes even they can't bring themselves to relax, and i get that way too well. about the first phrase, i just had to literally step out of a serious conversation about my abuser (a-hem a familiar in which i have to keep more contact with than i wished) saying racist shit and i just couldn't take it by being overloaded with that so i literally felt the NEED to scroll through tumblr continuously until i felt better. gladly now i live away from my abuser and live sorta relieved, but only heavens knows how i felt embarrassed, suffocated and helpless at the time i lived with that person. i literally had my phone at ALL TIMES, actually all the time when i was home, or around them, or people I didn't know. i noticed a time ago of being free of that bout how much anxiety it gave me, feeling like i was being watched at all times, that i couldn't let my guard down with anyone, that i had to hide and blend in, never be in the spotlight, and specially by having such post-traumatic fear of adults. of talking to them, and specially opening up or talking about my feelings, god forbid i ever talked about how i felt. i could try, but every time i did i felt so overwhelmed, as if my whole world was gonna crumble and if i would only be frozen up so i wouldn't be able to do nothing about it. had times i would rather literally kill myself than to speak of my feelings with them. my trust issues started out with everyone, but as being easier to relate and talk with those around my age, i felt it was easier to have a conversation about problems with my teen friends, as a specially concerning detail being that subconsciously, i knew they wouldn't be able to solve or help me with my problems even if they knew about it. i always had this fear of people being interventional in my life and feeling like i was bothering them. so, coming back to the first topic once again (i get lost by problem roots more once than never) that's why i also felt relief in having internet friends, specially by insecurity of my own appearance and being visibly weird and anxious around people. i didn't had to worry about them sharing my secrets to anyone i may know and concern, plus i always felt so much comforted and heard, which seeing texts messages meant much more deep in my eyes than be hearing those same words from an acquaintance. i felt like in my online identity, i didn't had to worry about who i actually was and i didn't had any issues that couldn't be dealt with. i felt like, i actually had some structure and control over my life, even though it technically wasn't my "real" one. it was an air vent out of hell, and i held by that through my entire childhood. that might serve as a problem now living in a healthy environment for trying to make friends outside of my phone, but i know i'll work it out and make it through. i just wanna thank the internet for being there (yes i know how stupid that sounds) and that i'm so grateful for being raised in the tech era, that feeling of warmth by it miiiight be by the 'emotionally unavailable parents and social anxiety led me to fuck up the stranger danger lesson' trauma archetype, but eh, who cares at all? it made me survive and made me surprisingly still be alive enough to try graduating. so, thank you every single cool being online for making my life better and my child self laugh while sailing through the storm, so i hope you have a great day today <3.
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rawralittlerawr · 1 year
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A New Year
A few hours before midnight on New Year's Eve I realized that someone had written a review for my newest story. My very first review!
I had been taking a break from doing much writing or even checking my reports while my wife was home on a staycation, and since I hadn't checked my reports in a few days, when the review was left on the 29th, I hadn't even realized.
Imagine how excited I was though. I decided to go on my reports and save screengrabs of my EOM and EOY numbers so that I wouldn't fall too far behind on my reports. And low and behold, there was a review.
I was excited until I went to the review. Then it felt like my stomach was gonna bottom out.
The first thing that caught my eye was that the person had left a 1-star, 4-word review but had not read a single episode of the story before or after leaving it. (I can see in my reports when someone reads an episode and I had 0 reads that day and for several days leading up to the review and for several days afterwards)
The next thing that caught my eye was that the very first word was a mistake. It was clearly intended to be the word "wasn't" but instead a different word had been autocorrected in its place. Basically, it was clear that they misspelled the word "wasn't" and it autocorrected to a different one. The autocorrected word was so out of the ordinary (and not even close to the word wasn't) that there is absolutely no way the person's device/phone would have autocorrected it to that specific word unless it was a word they use ALL THE TIME.
I know only one person who uses that specific word ALL THE TIME. They literally use it in every single social media post as some stupid signature, in some made-up quote of theirs.
After a ton of digging and speaking to someone else who knows this person better than I...we determined that, most likely, after my former main meta accounts were hacked and disabled in November, and I started using an old account, they realized they could see me on social media again as I did not have them blocked on the ones I'm using again now. It didn't even occur to me to look for and block them since it had been a while since I'd had any problems with them.
All the evidence points to them going on my facebook and clicking the link for one of my stories and leaving a nasty review to try to get at me.
After speaking to this other person, we also realized that it's possible he was the one who hacked my accounts to begin with. He has experience in hacking and has done it before apparently. Which I didn't know about in November. I also found out he'd been trying to harass this other person, this other family member, and had been posting shit that made it clear he had been experiencing manic episodes, which is no excuse. But it felt like another clue, another piece of evidence that he is the culprit.
Am I overreacting? I don't think so. A one-star review can really hurt an author when they don't have any other reviews yet. Especially a new author. And it feels like a punch to the gut to see that damn review every time I look at my story now. For many reasons. But the biggest one is this! It's a reminder that I'll never be 100% free to live my life without having to look over my shoulder as long as he still exists. He's supposedly been "d*ying" of cancer, or of this or that, for several holiday seasons in a row now. But it's hard to trust a single word that comes out of his mouth, so who knows.
***TW***
The person in question is my birth father, who I have not spoken directly to or seen since I was a little girl, FOR GOOD REASON. He is a horribly evil, conniving, manipulative, abusive, person who has over the years, when he gets in a mood, threatened, stalked, harassed, and attempted to cause harm to me and/or other members of my family. The whole reason I haven't seen or spoken to him in so long is because of horrible physical, mental, and s*xual abuse. He is a serial abuser who has never really had to pay for his crimes. It took years for my mom to get herself and my sister and me away from him. And when she finally did, I vowed to never see or speak to him again.
The last time he popped up out of the blue trying to start shit while wallowing in self-pity, and playing the woe is me game, was a few Christmas' ago. Around the holidays always seems to be the worse. And apparently this holiday season was no different, although I didn't realize it until it was too late.
Now I have to either wait until someone else comes along and (hopefully) leaves me a better review, or find someone who is willing to read a few episodes and give me an honest review, that again, will HOPEFULLY be better than 1-star. And honestly, I feel if someone willing to leave a review actually reads the episodes I have so far written, they would find it worthy of more than 1 star.
Is there a chance that it was someone else? There is always a chance! But the chances of someone I don't know and who isn't in any of my vella groups, just coincidently finding that story amongst all the tens of thousands of others, someone just stumbling across it (it's not in the top or featured or anything so it wouldn't have been easy to find without either searching for it specifically OR going to my facebook and clicking on it) seems pretty slim. And then when you factor in that the same person would have to be a reader who is hateful enough to leave a shitty review, without having even read a single episode...well, the chances of it being anyone else just keep going down in my mind. I've seen some pretty scalding, almost ignorant reviews, but most REAL readers wouldn't just leave a review without actually reading any of the story.
I was already experiencing a bit of writer's block before all of that. And all this crap certainly hasn't helped. In addition, I'm caught now between a rock and a hard place. Could I block him again on my social media? Sure I could. I've done it before. BUT - then how am I to know, how am I to have a heads up that he is in a mood, and is starting his shit again if I block him? And because I am using my social media to promote my stories, I can't lock down and make my social media as private as I used to have it, before I started writing again and actually publishing this time. And because of being hacked and disabled and losing my accounts, I am having to tread lightly. The account I'm using now was an old account I had created to make a business page back in the day. And M*ta STILL won't let me create brand new accounts because the hacker left MY phone number and email address on my account even after hacking and changing everything else, like profile name, account profile, friends, etc. They also won't allow me to report that I was hacked or dispute any of what happened or submit proof. So I can't use my personal information to create new accounts, can't report the theft of my old ones...just kinda f*cked all around.
It hasn't been the best start to a new year, and the last three months of 2022 were nothing short of shitty! But I'm trying to press on. No way I'm gonna just sit down and give up. He can kick rocks and get f*cked.
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honeyrisuke · 2 years
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Re: baby gays
Sending it this way so you can decide to publish or not
it certainly depends. hand waving minors away from having meaningful contributions to discourse (which later becomes generational thought) requires a little bit more precision consideration.
Minors, in a few short years (relative to the perspective of Being Old) become young adults who in a way they don't necessarily always notice do have a significant influence on cultural futures.
Like yea, brains are still developing and its good to proceed with awareness of that, but whipper-snappers set the tone for immediate cultural progression (or regression, in fairness, and ngl its not always looking too good).
As people who may have accrued greater experience, the net effect of trying to gently induct them into knowing shit is greater than saying like "quiet child you yet still smell of milk!"
The alternative is losing touch with how cultural thought changes with time, and becoming Old Weirdos in a world which has moved away from the world we thought we understood, and there's numerous hazards in that.
It took me a few decades to figure out that young people should indeed be respected, with the understanding that each and every one us were kinda stupid when we were young.
im literally not talking about cutting young people out of discussions
im talking about how we shouldnt let 14 year olds be the loudest voice with the new input in the entire discussion. i dont know a single person who had a proper nuanced and informed political and socio economic take before they turned at least 16. this isn't about "I hate young people they suck they're all stupid" but more so about how having an informed opinion in our political landscape requires a lot of research, historical knowledge, and a fair bit of life experience beyond your peers at school
I am VERY bothered by how these children voice their very uninformed and misguided takes online and the whole community starts to engage with it as if there was any fucking sense to it. and this isn't about me disagreeing- I find takes like "feminine gay character bad homophobic because stereotype" EXTREMELY harmful, because anybody who has ever been in queer circles realizes that those spaces are very femme driven, and while it's a stereotype, it's also that there are a lot of feminine queer men- and calling that representation homophobia and having people actually have a discussion about it as if that was a reasonable take to have is hurtful towards feminine queer men in general.
These kids don't yet have the experience or knowledge to tell persuasive homophobic takes from properly nuanced progressive takes, and they certainly don't have the knowledge or far-sightedness to think about what their public statements mean and in who's hand they're playing. Hell, most grown adults don't have that yet, but a 14-16 year old literally not capable to do that. I'm not expecting it from them, and so far I've not seen even one of them have it.
I already find some discussions started in queer circles quite problematic because they only further infighting and exclusion, and are usually based on literally zero historical or social knowledge- but with a 14 year old starting it you can almost expect these arguments to be based on absolutely fucking nothing of substance. and that's okay! they're 14! how tf would they know detailed queer history of the last 50 years?
people online are crying left and right about "protecting minors", but only ever when it comes to relatively safe interactions where the minor in question searches up an nsfw term on their own volition bc then apparently the content creators and artists who post into that tag are Bad Evil
but I genuinly think it would be a lot more productive if we ignored their public political and socio economic opinions and collectively blocked away everything they say, because god knows in 3 years they will wanna die only thinking about their post history
oh, and this isn't even mentioning that I already wanna bite off the heads of many americans, especially american minors, when it comes to queer discourse, because they obviously can't even imagine how queer history and queer culture is different in other countries and other cultures and that's how you get people canceling queer spanish speakers for saying "maricon" just bc in their subtitles it gets translated as the f-slur.
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Hi! I don't want to start anything on here and am always willing for civil conversations. At this point there's so much I've found out about Seb (besides the video he liked, the tommy lee thing, and the girlfriend thing) that I feel so guilty if I would continue to support him. I love him sm but it just doesn't look good rn. He is associated/follows an organisation (for helping veterans) that has posted a blue lives matter flag picture and who's co-founder has sexual assault allegations against him, and worked with him in 'The last full measure'. His friend Paul Walter Hauser has done blackface in the past, and when called out on it he just listed a few people that also did blackface. There's more, I found a discussion on here that I can link. I seriously don't support "cancel culture" bc I don't think it helps anyone but there are just a lot of 'mistakes' and shady people that can be linked to Seb, I wish it wouldn't be that way. I honestly don't know what to think about it anymore.
Hi! I’m also open to having civil conversations and I don’t believe you’re trying to start anything. I really do think this situation of dragging up a four year old video and taking it completely out of context is harmful not just to Black people, but to fandom/activism in general. This is gonna be long because I’m going to take your points one by one, and I want to preface this by saying that I will not answer any derogatory, sideways asks pertaining to this subject. I will delete every single one and will block your silly ass. I’m not going to argue with people who think I’m blindly supporting Sebastian because I’m just trying to get fucked by him, or people who think I hate myself and am trying to appease some white man.
So, on with the discourse!
The video he liked - this video was taken completely out of context and that is my main issue with this whole situation. It was not a video of a white man saying that he thinks he should be able to say the n word as everyone claimed it was. They were quickly debating on whether or not it's okay to say in rap lyrics. He was told no, that's not okay, that's never okay and they moved on from it. That's it. End of story. That somehow was twisted into a click bait style headline of "Sebastian Stan likes a video of a white man defending his right to say the n word" when that is absolutely not true. My other issue is that people are more upset that Sebastian liked the video than they are about the white man in the video literally saying the n word. So, do you really care about the use of the n word like you're claiming? Cuz if you do, you'd be more upset at the white man that said the word than you would be about the white man simply liking the video. Or, are you just using this as an excuse to grandstand against a white man you don't like?
The Tommy Lee thing - Sebastian Stan playing Tommy Lee does not make Sebastian Stan a bad person. Is Charlize Theron a bad person for playing Aileen Wuornos, a prostitute who started murdering men? Is Leonardo DiCaprio a bad person for playing a slave owner? Is Edward Norton a bad person for playing a nazi sympathizing racist? Actors play bad people. That doesn't mean that they themselves are bad people. 1990's Tommy Lee was a bad person, but that should have no bearing on who Sebastian Stan is or his character as a man.
The gf/Paul Walter Hauser thing - Why are we holding Sebastian accountable for what the people around him are doing? Again, why are we more upset that Sebastian is associated with people who have done questionable things than the specific people themselves? I'm not going to speak on the kimono wearing -- I'm not Asian. It's not my place to say whether or not its offensive because it's not my culture, but she posted that picture and attended that party before she started dating Sebastian, quite possibly before she even knew him. Same with Paul. I think that black face thing was long before he knew Sebastian. Now, if Sebastian was defending these actions, going around saying "I think it's okay for white women to wear Kimono's" "I think black face is fine" "I think white people should be able to say the n word" then we'd have a different story, wouldn't we? But that's not what we have, and that's not what he is doing. He is not responsible for the things his friends do or have done in the past just because he's more famous than they are, and he is not required to speak on them. Let's put it this way -- would you be comfortable having to be responsible for something a friend of yours did before you knew them? Would you want to have to be forced to answer for your friend when you yourself had nothing to do with the questionable behavior?
The organization that supports the military/blue lives matter - Sebastian cannot control what message that foundation puts out and it does not mean that he is or is not pro-police himself. There is not enough concrete evidence -- if any evidence for that matter -- that Sebastian is a blue lives matter supporter. Did Sebastian donate before they put up the blue lives matter post? Or after? I don’t know, cuz I don’t follow him that closely, but if he donates before they come out with a particular stance, that means he should be held accountable for that? I know I donated to an organization once and they turned out to support something that i���m 100% against. That means I’m a bad person because I couldn’t see into the future? Another point, how can we be certain that Sebastian saw the blue lives matter post in the first place? I know I’m not online 24 hrs a day, I miss posts all the time and I’m just an average person. I make three or four tumblr posts a day, and I’m gone. I have to play catch up on social media, and even then, I still miss stuff. So I’m sure the same happens to a working actor. As for the co-founder, I don't know who this person is and would rather not get into any allegations against them because I don't want to trigger anyone who comes across this post. If Sebastian knows about these allegations, is a willing participant/supporter of this person then yeah, that's pretty shitty, but we don't know the inner workings of this friendship/acquaintance/work relationship. We don’t know how close they are or if they even still speak.
I’m a pretty big fan of Don Cheadle. He’s a stand up guy, he’s a great actor, he’s funny, he’s political and stands up for what he believes in and in a very public way. I support him. Don Cheadle is also friends with Chris Evans, RDJ, Mark Ruffalo, and Letitia Wright (just to name a few). Chris Evans has a bipartisan forum that highlights/promotes right wing politicians, RDJ defended Chris Pratt during the whole “he’s the worst Chris in Hollywood” crap, who’s technically done black face, and who once said to a female reporter “nice tits” when she walked into the room, Mark Ruffalo just walked back his support of Palestine, and Letitia Wright retweeted/supported an anti-vaxxer/anti-trans Pastor who equated an ingredient of the covid vaccine to the devil because it contained some parts of the word Lucifer. Does that mean Don is now a bad person because he’s friends with these people? Why isn’t he getting any heat for his friendships with them? Why isn’t he being held accountable for what they’ve done and said? Oh right, because he’s not a white fave. So people don’t care one way or the other, which brings me to my next point. 
I can guarantee you that if Sebastian’s gf or Paul or this co-founder were not associated with Sebastian in any way, nobody would give a shit about her wearing a kimono, about Paul doing black face, or about the co-founder/organization being blue lives matter supporters and in that lies the actual problem. Being critical of people and their actions should be consistent and should happen all the time -- not just when they interact with your white fave. That’s when it becomes performative and looks like you just want to be able to show internet people that you follow/support/stan unproblematic celebrities, when really, you don’t care.
I think the moral of this post is that I think it's unfair to hold a complete stranger to a standard that I cannot hold myself to. I also don't view celebrities the way most teenagers/twenty somethings do, and that’s because when I entered fandom we didn't have social media, so I grew up with a wall between myself and said celebrities. There is no wall now with the presence of social media. "Fans" nowadays have a weird ownership feeling over celebrities because they can read their personal thoughts or view personal pictures and think that they have this personal quasi-friendship with them. I can't get on board with that. I prefer having the wall and I still keep the wall.
If supporting Sebastian makes you uncomfortable, then by all means, stop supporting him. Just make sure you are making this decision for yourself based on credible sources and concrete evidence and that you're not letting this fake woke activist mob make you feel uncomfortable. Internet activism means nothing unless you put your money where your mouth is in your real life and 90% of the social justice internet warriors do not. Real activism is bigger than changing your avi to a black square.
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things they do when they love you
Characters: Kageyama Tobio, Tsukishima Kei, Tanaka Ryūnosuke, Yamaguchi Tadashi, Kozume Kenma, Tendō Satori, & Ushijima Wakatoshi, all with a Fem!Reader
Warnings: literally nothing - pure fluff <3
A/N: sorry for the lack of content lately! I’ve been super busy with work and school and I feel myself starting to get selfconscious of my work again so I’m hoping I can break through the writers block it comes with! Hope you enjoy! Also thank you to @thisnoodlewritesao3​ and @satan-ruler-of-hells​ for listening to me talk about this fic probably a million times lol
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Kageyama is awkward with telling you how he feels so he just tries to give you things to show you. like you mentioned once you liked the protein bar that Coach gave you guys and now he bought every single one of them from the store and is bringing it to your house. Oh did you say you liked milk too? Well I guess he’ll just have to bring you the whole fucking vending machine. Just wants to show he will provide you with all the things you love, pls love him back. I feel like he’d also be bugging his older sister all the time - asking her all sorts of questions about girls. She’s the reason your first date wasn’t at a volleyball game (and also the reason why he no longer thinks your first date was the first time you attended his games. “Tobio, a date is supposed to be where the two of you are hanging out together.” “But.... we are together. She’s watching me play.” “.... somewhere where your whole team and the whole of the Miyagi prefecture isn’t!”)
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Tsukishima will let you pamper him lol. He likes the attention so when you’re doing face masks, he’ll like look through them and ask you questions about them. Sometimes it comes off as he’s judging you for spending money on this stuff but he’s really just waiting for you to ask if he wants to try one. You bought a dino face mask specifically for him but you thought he’d laugh at you if you asked. So you just kept it with the rest of your sheet masks. You’re putting one on one day and he’s like …. is that a dinosaur. And you’re like…. no? And immediately he’s like well now I have to have it please show me how to put this one. Lol cut to: it does nOT look like a dinosaur (have yall seen those ones that’s supposed to like look like a penguin or lion or something and just looks psychotic??? yeah that). He still likes it and even lets you take a picture of his first face mask cause you just look so happy that you’re doing it with him. It becomes a ritual and any time you’re doing face masks, he’ll do it with you and you just spill all the tea to him about shit you’ve heard at work or school and he just listens and aggressively calls everyone stupid  lol
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Tanaka aggressively praises you non stop but like in a good way haha. Did you just post a photo on instagram? He’s liked it first, commented a thousand different things about how he loves your outfit and your expression and how you’re the light of his life, and then he sHARES the photo to his story and is like look at how pretty my girlfriend is yall wish this was you. Oh did you just get a good grade at school??? Non stop bragging to his teammates about how he’s dating a genius (“I mean anyone’s a genius compared to you” “Tsukishima that is NO WAY TO TALK TO YOUR UPPERCLASSMAN YOU ASSHOLE”). If you’re feeling upset about something, he’ll comfort you and all but also tell you that you’re such a badass you could handle anything. And it’s not like empty compliments either - he genuinely believes that you are the most amazing human being to ever walk the planet
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Yamaguchi (okay I got this idea partially from @/paige.ipairs on tiktok but it’s so cute that i had to put it here) likes doing anything with you so he likes it when you’re out shopping and you help him pick a new outfit or you style something for him. But his favourite thing is when you’re painting your nails and he’s like … that’s a nice colour… and you’re like Yamaguchi would you like… your nails painted? And at first it’s just the one finger and it’s a matching colour with you. Like on his ring finger to symbolize he’s with you but then soon he’s with you at the mall looking at different colours and picks out one’s he would like for you to paint for him and he just carries them over to you like .. o.o pls
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Kenma will actively look for 2 player games that he can play with you. He’ll pretend like it’s nothing and that he just wants to try the game for the 1 player story but he’ll leave a controller out and just kind waits for you to ask to play or pick up the controller. He really likes it when you play, even if you wander around a lot and aren’t super focused on the story line. Minecraft with the two of you is always fun. He thinks it’s really funny how aggressive you get trying to save your animals from the zombies even though they won’t get hurt. You teared up once cause the pen you made for your chickens got blown up by a Creeper and he actually felt so bad even though you told him it was definitely not his fault. Cut to: you screaming aggressively when it comes to any Creeper as revenge for the chickens who were lost in the battle.
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Tendō starts reading your favourite mangas and watches all of your favourite series/movies before you two really started dating because he wanted to know what to talk to you about. But now that you guys are together, he’ll plan dates where you can binge-watch all of your favourite movies/shows or just lie around and trade mangas (you had this man actually crying at some of them, he wasn’t ready for the hURT). If you’re not the biggest fan of horror films, he’ll insist that you guys don’t need to watch them but he loves when you stick it out with him cause it means extra cuddles and more snacks as comfort! If you do love horror films, he’ll always buy tickets to the new movies so the two of you can watch it together right away.
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Ushijima will hold you no matter where you guys are. Big beefy boy doesn’t really understand why he wouldn’t hold you, even if you guys were in public. When you guys first started dating, you’d avoid reaching out for his hand because you figured big stoic guy like Ushijima, he wouldn’t really be a PDA kind of guy would he? Wrong. Well right, but also wrong. Boy probably doesn’t even realize what PDA is but he’ll reach for your hand and hold it anytime. And if you guys are waiting in line somewhere, he’ll just hold you in his arms in front of him. He has no sense of when not to do this. It’s like you’re his comfort person (which you are). In front of his Coach? Suddenly has you in front of him, hugging you to him. Being interviewed by some reporters? Oh look, you’re here too. Reminding Oikawa that he should’ve come to Shiratorizawa? You’re right in front sticking your tongue out at the Aoba Josai boi like the child you are lol. Honestly, he doesn’t think it’s weird but he knows deep down that he’s just really scared you’ll leave. He likes knowing you’re around because it reminds him you’re always there. 
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So you have been named in participating with ironpines in sexually harassing someone and I want to know if it's true. If it's not then what really happened and do you have any receipts? I would like to know your side of the story and if alta confessions is lying. There is user asks that say you participated and have proof on atla confessions blog.
Is that blog still around? Sorry, I've literally had them blocked for months now because they are a cesspool of toxicity contributing to, well, things like this, I suppose. Posting unsubstantiated and completely false allegations and taking them completely at face value because that's easier than, like, asking for evidence to support these accusations, and the only thing they care about is kicking up shit in the fandom.
Ok, so, here the fuck we go. (And if it isn't obvious, I don't want anyone who interacts with @atla-fandom-confessions positively/approves of their behavior anywhere near me at this point. Please block me, they are a disgusting and toxic presence in this fandom and I don't trust anyone who thinks that their behavior is reasonable or appropriate.)
First of all, this blog is run by someone who happily espouses radfem rhetoric such as, at one point, calling a twenty-two-year-old woman a child and saying she 'doesn't know any better' because she happens to enjoy darkfic such as incest. They believe that enjoying things such as rape and incest in fiction is indicative of, apparently, being sick or twisted or traumatized. (They were, in that post, going after @/dragomer for -checks notes- interacting with an adult when talking about sexually explicit headcanons and fiction? Oooooh, so predatory, I'm so scared lol) Infantilizing grown women is disgusting no matter how you slice it, and the antikink rhetoric I saw on their blog was why I blocked them in the first place.
They are also transphobic, as recent posts have shown them publishing asks and misgendering one of the blogrunners of @ironpines (aisling, whose pronouns are they/them and listed in the pinned post on the blog), such as right here as well as consistently posting asks misgendering them like here (they seem to be using the right pronouns in a more recent post but there's no excuse for misgendering someone and NOT going back to edit it if it was unintentional--and there's even less excuse for not correcting anons who are being transphobic in your inbox, fucking sorry), and they also posted an ask fakeclaiming aisling's trauma (which has been doubled down in in other asks and frankly posting every single link would be fucking exhausting at this point, they are gross as hell) which is absolutely horrific and i'm sorry but nothing makes posting shit like that uncontested ok.
Now, apparently, they are publishing asks claiming absolutely appalling shit about people they do not know and have not interacted with (I know because I've had them blocked for months), with zero evidence given, and people are just... believing them. Because that's a totally reasonable course of action. (Not you, anon, I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt in you coming to me and asking for a response, but so many anons on that blog now have submitted pure libel about me and it's disgusting that people are eating this shit up without any evidence at all.) The alleged sexual harassment being referred to is a post on aisling's blog, which the 'victim' in question (@spicyswordlady, who also runs@zuko-is-straight, and no I'm not bothering to protect her identity, I have a feeling that she is encouraging this bullshit from behind the scenes since she got kicked from the server this all started in, but put a pin in that for now) claimed to have blocked some time ago.
Sorry, but talking about someone on your personal blog is not sexual harassment. I don't give a shit if I say someone can deepthroat my nonexistent dick--if I'm not saying it to them, I'm not interacting with them in any way. It's not fucking harassment. And the post in question was a horrible and invasive (also highkey transphobic, dont fucking question why or how someone discovered they weren't cis, hello) anon ask, and it also referenced something that could ONLY have come from someone reading the conversation in that discord channel. Given that Izze had just been removed from the server, Aisling's assumption was that the anon was from her (and turnabout is fair fucking play, since Izze had accused us in that channel of sending her the nasty anon she'd gotten around that time). But the real point here is the fact that Izze would never have seen the post in question if she hadn't been stalking Aisling's blog to begin with. And, frankly, there's no evidence she even saw it, since she's been conveniently silent the last few days and the only asks Aisling received about the situation were likewise anonymous.
I also want to point out something interesting about that last anon. They claimed Aisling was 'publically harassing' someone, except... they weren't interacting with Izze at all. And if they were, it's because Izze sent that first anon to begin with, and she can just fucking deal with the fact that people don't generally react well to transphobic anons in their inboxes! This whole time, by the way, Izze had the ironpines blog blocked. So if she saw anything Aisling posted, it's because she was deliberately searching out and looking at the posts on their blog.
Either that, or it's because someone showed the posts to her, and like, it's still on her for ignoring her own stated boundary rather than, like... just fucking ignoring the blog she already had blocked lol
Sure, I'll hatestalk people when I think they're talking about me, and I might even get pissed seeing their vague posts or whatever. But it's still not harassment, and frankly, the fact is that no one who didn't already know Izze and how to find her blogs would've known who the fuck Aisling was talking about. It's not like they dropped a link to her blog, and it certainly isn't like the @'d her or made any attempt at contact. They didn't even drop the posts in any fandom tags, or anywhere that someone could reasonably have come across them without deliberately looking at Aisling's blog, just waiting for them to respond to the anon they were sent.
Just a little suspicious, if you ask me, but whatever.
Now, the original incident that kicked off this whole mess? A discord conversation that, evidently, Izze has been lying her ass off about.
I'm not going to post screenshots from the channel in question, and frankly, I shouldn't have to. I've had my privacy violated once already specifically because of Izze and her radfem rhetoric (and she is now a proud radfem, so go fucking figure), and I'm not going to contribute to that feeling for anyone else. I'm sure that whoever was lurking in the channel already has their 'evidence', and I'll tell you what those screenshots will show:
Izze being explicitly anti kink, making horrifically insulting claims (such as claiming that women--and she always focused on women, because apparently as far as she was concerned women are always subs and men are always [abusive] doms, and that doesn't have any concerning gender politics tied up in it lmao--who enjoy aspects of BDSM and kink of which she doesn't approve are self-harming, rather than just... explicitly enjoying sex in unconventional ways), and the rest of us telling her to knock it the fuck off. (Considerably more politely than she warranted, tbh, since this isn't the first time a conversation about bdsm&kink devolved this way, specifically because she refused to listen to adult women explaining that liking something in a sexual fantasy is not the same as condoning it in real life and masochism and self-harm are not the same thing either good fucking grief.)
Furthermore, she fucking started it. This entire incident started a few days ago with Aisling posting this ask in the fandom salt channel in the server in question. Izze immediately chimed in with 'ew, isn't that the person who spammed a bunch of stuff about rape in the zutara tag a while back'. It should be noted that we have separate channels for nsfw topics, including discourse, and Izze was the one bringing up rape in a regular channel that all members--including minors--could have access to.
That started the conversation. Because rather than listening to a survivor explain why maybe they had a different perspective on bdsm and kink and no they were not sick or self-harming because they like CNC in the bedroom, she doubled down on her 'the only reason a woman might enjoy pain or consentplay in the bedroom is because she was conditioned By The Patriarchy to think that abuse is normal' rhetoric. By the way, if you doubt her views on this topic, here's a link to her reblog of that post I mentioned above (where the OP called a twenty-two-year-old woman a 'child who doesn't know any better' for enjoying certain dark topics in fiction), and here's a link to her talking about rape/noncon in fiction as if the only reason to like it is 'violent misogyny'. Which, like.... if the sentence 'I don’t see why it should be impossible to liberate women from the violent misogyny plaguing our sexuality.' when specifically talking about women exercising sexual agency in their fantasies and fiction isn't a radfem dogwhistle, I don't know what the fuck is.
Now, if Izze was triggered in the course of that conversation, that sucks. But it isn't sexual harassment to tell someone to quite being a misogynistic asshole to real people talking about their lived experiences, their fantasies and their kinks! And, frankly, Izze had every opportunity to simply... disengage from the conversation, even though she started it. And trying to drag sneezy and ari into this mess is wild, because Sneezy came in after the conversation happened and talked about the topic of CNC and rape fiction more generally, I don't think she so much as spoke to Izze directly, and the extent of Ari's involvement was trying to diffuse what had become a very heated conversation because of Izze's misogynistic radfem rhetoric.
No one harassed Izze, sexually or otherwise. No one fakeclaimed her trauma--unlike people that the atla confessions blog is encouraging wrt Aisling--no one threatened to send Izze explicit material (Aisling talked about having some ideas for fics once we'd decided to ignore Izze, and there was never any suggestion or hint of sending this material to her), and no one made it personal until she started making bullshit statements about women who like bdsm and kink, while speaking over someone involved in kink who was telling her she was wrong. (Oh, by the way, Izze was speaking from a place of complete ignorance, as she admitted herself that she'd never been involved in kink scenes or bdsm communities.)
I suspect, incidentally, that's why none of these alleged 'receipts' have surfaced. Because only other radfems would look at the conversation and think that Izze was in the right, nevermind being harassed in any fashion. Especially since, again, this is a conversation she fucking started and chose to partake in. And it is downright dangerously irresponsible of atla-fandom-confessions to continue posting these anonymous accusations and allegations with absolutely zero fucking evidence, and treating them all as true.
TL;DR: Yes, @atla-fandom-confessions is lying. They do it quite frequently. So are the anons sending in these bullshit confessions. What happened was a discussion of kink and bdsm which devolved into personal attacks because Izze chose to make horrible claims about women who choose to engage in sexual practices she doesn't personally approve of--and a lot of those personal attacks were from her. She's no fucking victim, and it's frankly disgusting that she's sitting back and letting other people act as her attack dogs (I do not believe for one second that she isn't aware of, and encouraging, what is going on right now).
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Forgotten [DISCONTINUED]
Pairings: Tony Stark x daughter!reader, Peter Parker x Stark!reader (platonic)
Request: 
Hello i love your story could you do angsty tony x daughter reader. Wherein the reader has a twin brother and Tony and the avengers prefer the twin brother and becaus of that, the reader became rebel and badass. She always getting trouble and almost drop out student. The avengers and her father were seem disappointed and dont know what to do. Not until the reader involve into car accident and she's critical injured. The reader also slipped to coma. Everyone is devastated about the reader conditione. And they realized that the reader only rebel because she wants to get attention from them. It depends to you what the end come, I just want a full angst this week and I hope you dont mind my English. Anyway I hope your alright.
Word count: 1,627
A/n: (to anon: I’d like to apologize for not finishing this) I don’t think I have any intention to anymore tbh so- I’m just posting this for fun now lmaolmao
hella big update: the continued version is here!
Warnings: bad angst and writing hee hee. no I’m serious this is bad
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Being a genius/billionaire/superhero’s kid doesn’t always sound nice like it usually does.
You were one of the Stark twins, the other half being your brother, Ethan.
The both of you showed signs that you inherited the commonly known Stark trait (intelligence) at a young age. But Tony mostly focused on his son, showing him all his inventions and gadgets, teaching him everything he knew while you on the other hand, were being babysat by Happy or Pepper, sometimes Rhodey.
You tried so hard to get your father’s attention but he always had his excuses:
“I don’t have time for that.”
“I’m busy with Ethan right now.”
“Maybe later.”
At first you didn’t mind if your brother got all the praise and attention. It wasn’t until your mid-teens that you really started to feel left out and ignored.
You were left to frown when the other Avengers never found anything interesting about you, just like Tony did. They all liked Ethan better. The topic of him being the next Iron Man when Tony retires is getting exhausting.
There was this one time when Tony announced that they were all going out to dinner since Ethan got, yet again, a full set of A’s on his report card.
“Did you get my card?” You tapped on Tony’s shoulder lightly.
He gave you a side glance, “ah shoot, I forgot. I’ll go get it tomorrow.” Then returned his attention to your brother.
But he ended up forgetting again the next day and you had to convince your teacher to give it to you instead. Your marks had A’s, but littered with B’s as well, of course that was no match for your brother’s perfect marks.
And that sort of scenario wasn’t just a one time thing, Tony forgets to pick up your report card every. single. time. The messed up part was you and Ethan literally attended the same school, he was just in a more advanced class than you.
As time passed, Tony went from ignoring you to getting annoyed and pissed at you for everything you did. In his eyes, you were always in the wrong. And the reason? You didn’t know.
“Dad? Can I borrow Bruce for a minute?” You knocked on the glass door of his lab to get him to look up.
He didn’t, but responded, “kinda busy with him right now.”
You looked at your fractured arm, regretting your decisions. “W-well, Ethan was training with Nat, and... and he wanted to try the new moves he learned on me. He went a little hard and - I think my arm’s broken, I just wanted Bruce to check it out-”
“Goddammit!” He shouted after you heard a glass shatter. Bruce covered his face with palms, muttering an ‘oh no’.
Tony glared at you, striding to where you were standing. All that was left for you to do was to brace yourself for what was about to come. “See, this is why we never let you do anything with the team,” he spat. “That right there?”-he pointed to your arm-“that’s on you. Things go wrong because you’re in the way!”
“I’m... I’m sorry-”
“Just get out of here.”
Your arm remained untreated after that.
Then Peter Parker came into the picture. Friendly guy, he was actually nice to you. Him and Ethan got along right away when Tony first recruited him. The fact that he treated Peter better than you made you even more miserable. It made you think he never wanted a daughter in the first place.
You first met Peter when he accidentally entered your room without warning, thinking it was the bathroom. Cliche, but that’s what happened.
“It’s on the first door to your other left,” you stated.
“Yeah, yeah okay, thanks,” he turned around to leave but stopped to look at you again. “I’m Peter Parker, by the way.”
“Y/N Stark.”
Peter’s eyes lit up at your last name. “I... I didn’t know Mr. Stark had a daughter - no offense! It’s just-”
You sighed and waved him off. He didn’t even notice the similarities you had with your twin. “It’s fine. I get that a lot.”
After many events of being, to be blunt, treated like shit, you finally had enough. You neglected your studies, only went to school when you felt like it (which was rare). No one cared your grades anyway, so what’s the point? You became a whole new person, you surrounded yourself with the wrong sort of people, causing you to dabble into smoking and alcohol.
Since you were always in trouble, you could recite Cap’s detention speech at school by heart now.
The principal of your school wanted to see Tony to talk about your behavior. Normally he’d make an excuse not to go if it wasn’t that important but he got flooded with messages from the school, so he couldn’t say no.
You had your legs crossed, sitting across from Tony who had his eyebrows furrowed as he listened to the principal. For some reason you didn’t feel nervous. “Y/N barely attends her classes. I’ve seen every attendance. Are you aware of this, Mr. Stark?”
Tony only maintained his usual relaxed posture and avoided your gaze.
“Some students have also seen her smoke in school grounds. We gave her a few weeks suspension for it, but it doesn’t look like she’s learned her lesson.” They pulled out a couple boxes of cigarettes from the desk drawer. “We found these in her locker.”
“You went into my locker?” You shot up from your seat. “You can’t just do that!”
Tony cleared his throat and got up, gripping your wrist. “I’ll take it from here - will that be all?”
On the way out he doesn’t say a word to you, only that his grip on your wrist got tight as you near the car.
“So,” he started the car. His voice was calm, but it screamed that you were in deep trouble. “What do you have to say for yourself?”
You sighed and slouched in the passenger’s seat, crossing your arms. “I’m... sorry you had to know...?”
“Yeah, I’m just gonna be honest with you here,” Tony still doesn’t look at you. “When I found out I had two kids, I got worried about Ethan.”
You let out a snort. Of course he would.
“I didn’t want him ending up like me. But surprise surprise, my daughter did instead.”
“I’m not ‘ending up’ like you, Dad-”
“Then what do you call - this,” he referred to you. “What, you’re just gonna waste your life, drop out of school? You’re a fucking mess, Y/N, and here I thought I raised you right. Sometimes I think: why can’t you just be like your brother?” He had a hard grip on the steering wheel as he drove, the way he spoke affected the speed of the car greatly.
You opened your mouth to speak but you couldn’t fine the exact words you wanted to say. “I... well, I’m sorry I’m not a goody two shoes like him!”
“That’s not what I-”
“Please, that’s exactly what you meant.”
He scoffed, shaking his head. “Look, I’m grounding you until you pull yourself together, understand?” And he did. He gave new orders to Friday when the both of you got home. You weren’t allowed to leave the compound without Tony’s permission.
Were you giving up that easily? Of course not.
You were on your laptop for the rest of the day, hacking into Friday’s system, the security to the elevator and the entrance. That night, your executed your plan and everything went smoothly.
“This is why you never underestimate me,” you sighed, deactivating the hack once you were out of the building. 
Your friend who was picking you up was already waiting a few blocks away from the compound. “I hope you’re cool with me staying over for a couple days.”
“If a bunch of Avengers come and destroy my place to look for you, I’m not going to be friends with you anymore.”
You laughed at out, “oh trust me, they don’t care.”
----
The next day no one noticed your absence, nobody did for another two days. Tony just assumed you were mad about your punishment, so he didn’t think of it much.
Not until Peter came to the compound on the third day, wanting to hang out with you.
“Whatcha got there, Pete?” Ethan asked.
“Star Wars movies. I wanna watch them with Y/N - she could use some company, don’t you think?”
The older Stark twin shrugged, “yeah, I guess she could.”
Peter then headed to the elevator and stopped at the floor where your room was. He knocked on your door and waited a bit, after a few minutes of silence he knocked again, still nothing.
“Y/N? Is it okay if I come in?” He called out. No response. He hesitated a bit, for all he knew you were probably changing or something, or you could be in danger. He went to open the door anyway. “I’m coming in, I’ll close my eyes just to be-”
To Peter’s surprise, your room was empty.
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You were at a 711 parking lot, waiting for your friends who were buying supplies for a house party. You gave them your wallet, not really caring about anything anymore. Your phone was starting to pile up with messages and missed calls from Tony, Edward and Peter, occasionally from the others as you scrolled pass more.
Without thinking you threw your phone to the ground, cracking the screen, breaking it completely. They’d be able to track you through it now that they know you ran away. You really had no intention of coming back. You weren’t wanted, what’s the point of going back?
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