queersquirrelhere
A willow below the rainbow
She/They • A 5 yo kid stuck in a 24 yo body • Queer • Neurodivergent • Feminist • Full-time anxious • Nerd
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#ace#aro#asexual#aromantic#asexuality#aromanticism#aspec#acespec#arospec#aroace#queer#lgbtqia#amatonormativity
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Not experiencing romantic or sexual attraction apparently equals "antisocial narcissism," lmao. Apparently not wanting to fuck everyone is now a hate crime?
Also take note of the "taught to children" bullshit, I would bet $100 that this is a person who also demonizes the rest of the LGBTQ+ community for being "groomers." Which doesn't even make sense in this context (not that it ever makes sense, mind you) because aroace people are all about not wanting romance and/or sex, and Jaiden's entire video is about her journey of self-discovery and figuring out that she doesn't want a romantic/sexual relationship with anyone?
This is just a great example of how aro/ace people are demonized. Whereas other queer people are demonized and dehumanized for being "sexually deviant" and having their sexual/romantic preferences treated with disgust (if they're not outright treated as evil), aro/ace people are demonized and dehumanized by treating us as if we're missing something fundamentally human. Like we're mentally ill and broken for not experiencing sexual and/or romantic attraction (preferably of the heterosexual sort). It all ties back to an effort to control people's sexualities because to these people the only "acceptable" way to live is in a cis hetero relationship that produces kids.
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Hot take: the majority of queer coding relies on the assumption that platonic relationships cannot be as deep or caring as romantic ones. I recognize that queer coding is important to many people, but I think it can and should be done in a less amatonormative way. We as a society need to get better at facing the hard truth that many things that bring comfort, joy, and belonging also perpetuate truly harmful ideals.
#aro#ace#aromantic#asexual#aromanticism#asexuality#arospec#acespec#aspec#aroace#queer#lgbtqia#amatonormativity#queer coding#bi aspec#oriented aroace#angled aroace#bi oriented aroace#bi angled aroace
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From Six of Crows:
“Some people see a magic trick and say, ‘Impossible!’ They clap their hands, turn over their money, and forget about it ten minutes later. Other people ask how it worked. They go home, get into bed, toss and turn, wondering how it was done. It takes them a good night’s sleep to forget all about it. And then there are the ones who stay awake, running through the trick again and again, looking for that skip in perception, the crack in the illusion that will explain how their eyes got duped; they’re the kind who won’t rest until they’ve mastered that little bit of mystery for themselves. I’m that kind.”
This quote says a lot of things about Kaz, but I’m going to focus on one aspect: Kaz doesn’t believe the magic trick. He can’t say “oh that was cool” and forget about it because he needs to know how. He needs to understand how he was fooled, how the trick works, how it fits into his worldview. He can't rest until he figures it out.
Magic is when something happens that we can’t explain. Kaz needs to find the explanation.
But we also have this quote:
“The harbour wind had lifted [Inej’s] dark hair, and for a moment Kaz was a boy again, sure that there was magic in this world.”
“A boy again” — this is suggesting that Kaz’s disillusionment with magic is because of everything that happened to him because of Pekka. Pekka fooled Kaz and Jordie; Kaz failed to figure out what was going on. It seemed like magic, but then it wasn’t. Now, Kaz doesn’t believe that there’s magic anymore. Pekka shattered his belief that things could be inexplicable.
But Inej is the exception to this: she makes him feel like there’s still magic in the world. Kaz can’t explain her (or doesn’t want to).
Now, Kaz often seems to function by figuring out what drives people and using that to his advantage.
“It was a guess. Pekka’s pride in the Dime Lions is plenty predictable. Kid probably has a thousand lions to play with and a giant wooden lion to ride around on.”
“How did you even know he had a child?”
“I figured it out that night at Van Eck’s house. Rollins wouldn't stop flapping his gums about the legacy he was building. I knew he had a country house, liked to leave the city. I’d just figured he had a mistress stashed somewhere. But what he said that night made me think again.”
“And that he had a son, not a daughter? That was a guess too?”
“An educated one. He named his new gambling hall the Kaelish Prince. Had to be a little red-headed boy. And what kid isn’t fond of sweets?”
Kaz figures out what motivates Pekka — the explanation for Pekka’s behaviour — and uses that to beat him.
He even does that with his own people, like Big Bolliger at the beginning of SoC:
“You’re lazy. I know it. Everyone knows it. So I had to ask myself why my laziest bouncer was getting up early twice a week to walk two extra miles to Cilla’s Fry for breakfast, especially when the eggs are so much better at the Koperoom.”
That’s how he realises that Big Bolliger is a traitor. He analyses people and figures out how they work, friend and foe alike. That’s why he wins.
But Kaz doesn’t know how Inej works — if he did, she wouldn’t be magic, would she? Kaz trusts Inej to gather secrets for him, even though he can't control her the way he controls everyone else.
And then we have a quote about Inej:
“But what about the rest of us? What about the nobodies and the nothings, the invisible girls? We learn to hold our heads as if we wear crowns. We learn to wring magic from the ordinary. That was how you survived when you weren’t chosen, when there was no royal blood in your veins. When the world owed you nothing, you demanded something of it anyway.”
“To wring magic from the ordinary.” Inej is talking about herself, but that's what she does for Kaz, too — she shows him the magic in the ordinary. She tells him that not everything is ordinary; not everything can be explained; not everything is a magic trick. Sometimes, it’s just magic.
This is why I am obsessed with Kanej. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
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#me fr fr#neurodiversesquad#adhd culture#queer culture#queer community#queer stuff#neurodiverse stuff
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#OMG#me fr fr#adhd memory#adhd struggles#adult adhd#adhd memes#adhd brain#adhd life#adhd#adhd problems
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*mark as unread several times so I don't forget about it while I try to think of a reply
#adhd#adhd memes#executive dysfunction#neurodivergence#adhd mood#neurodiversity#adult adhd#adhd things#adhd brain#neurodiverse stuff
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Source: @adhd-alien
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#me frfr#my whole life in a nutshell#adhd#adhd memes#neurodivergence#adult adhd#executive dysfunction#time blindness#procrastinator#adhd mood
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Credit: Autistic Bride (Facebook)
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Here's the thing, when you're a trans non-binary person especially when "you don't look androgynous enough", people just allow themselves to misgender you, don't ask your pronouns and just use whatever pronoun they seem "fit", and give you all kinds of dysphoria or even dysmorphia. And you wanna know what's the cherry on top of it all? That we gatekeep ourselves too! Like, I've seen plenty of trans non-binary folks (present party included) that tend to believe they're "less" of a trans than a binary trans person.
It really sucks. The definition of being transgender is clear: any person whose experience of gender is different to that assigned to them at birth. That includes ALL the non-binary folks too. We should stop gatekeeping any person who in any way falls under non-binary umbrella, validate their (=our) identity, and show respect.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
coming out as nonbinary, genderqueer, agender, "other" gender, an androgynous trans person or what have you should not be viewed as secondary to a binary trans person's coming out. when I came out in 2011 i came out as trans, but as a genderqueer person, which made people force me into the "male" box in their mind in order for it to be easier for them. i should not have to be forced into binary transition in order to be seen. no one should- you should be able to come out as who you are, not the closest/easiest to digest label.
#nonbinary#enby#non binary#trans#transgender#trans rights#trans pride#genderqueer#neutrois#agender#bigender#genderfluid#genderflux#transneutral#transneu#trans neutral#lgbt#lgbtq#lgbtqia+
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- Can you multitask?
+ Yes actually I'm loosing my mind and chilling at the same time.
#when you don't have your shit together and just drown yourself in your fav fandoms#everything is fine
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