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thepeacefulgarden · 9 months

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mental-health-advice · 10 months

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Hello, I need some advice on what to say or do with a person who is saying that they will do dangerous things to themselves. They're a friend, and we're not from the same country, but, I really do believe that I shouldn't be standing them or dreading talking to them, I feel like I am taking the role of a therapist when I really don't want to.

I really do think that you can say everything, but, it's just words on a screen for them and the effect lessens, I've said things to them that could be really uplifting and I feel as if they aren't very impacted by them or as if it didn't help, at all.

I don't know what to do, I don't think staying in this kind of friendship is healthy for either of us.

My previous therapist even told me to stop being friends with them.

Thanks in advance.

Hey there,

I think that you have done a really great job in trying to help this friend. But as your therapist said, it’s not helpful for you to stay in the friendship with them as it’s not good for yourself and there is only so much you can do for your friend when they live in a different country to you.

One thing you could try to say to this friend may look something like this..

“I know your really struggling right now but I am finding it difficult to support you fully when I live so far away from you. Have you ever thought about seeking help from a counsellor either on the phone or on web counselling. Maybe they will be better able to support and help you right now, more than I can..”

By saying something like this you are acknowledging that they are struggling but that there is little that you can do (without telling them that this friendship is becoming unhealthy for you) and you are directing them to other support that they can seek out if they are wanting to.

You have to keep in mind though that whether they access that professional support is completely up to them. You cannot force someone to get help if they do not want it. But at least you will have known that you have replaced yourself with other more suitable support for them if that makes sense?

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!

I’m thinking of you and hope that you are going well!

Take care,

Lauren

#mha-lauren #advice #advice blog #mental health advice #anonymous #unhealthy friendship #directing them to other supports

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herssian · 1 year

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therapy? in MY fantasy game?

#art #ffxiv #xau #thancred waters #final fantasy xiv #comic #doodle #thancred's character development after ShB was because there can only be one unhealthy bitch in this friendship

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dontbelasagne · 1 month

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Alice and Samama would have survived the fearpocalypse out of sheer spite to see which one of them could hold onto sanity the longest

#healthy (debatable) friendship with your ex? yes #unhealthy obsession with daring each other to be in close proximity to spooky things? also yes #i honestly love their dynamic so much #tmagp #the magnus protocol #tmagp sam #tmagp alice #samama khalid #alice dyer

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askthebadkidz · 4 months

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Hot take I Think if Sklonda heard Pok tell Riz that work is his version of love she would have decked him so fast.

-Mod Fig

#fantasy high #d20 #dimension 20 #This is probably 100% incorrect but #I do not trust the man that went to workaholic heaven to give his son advice like that ya know #Riz’s ‘work as a form of love’ is unhealthy and physically exhausts him and he has not reason to work that hard as a form of love #He is not providing his is working because he perceives himself to not be good enough for natural friendship #And I think Sklonda knows that

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lollytea · 3 days

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If Amity & Willow had stayed friends, they definitely would have ended up in one of those homoerotic codependent teen girl friendships

You're correct and I think about this all the time. It would not have been romantically compatible at all but they still would have been obsessed and clingy with each other and gotten so overwhelmingly jealous if they felt like they were being replaced. Amity would literally want Hunter dead.

#co-dependent teen girl friendships bad and unhealthy and makes you sad #im not saying they SHOULD have had one of those. im saying WOW wouldnt it be crazy if they did

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swkbiggestdefender · 6 months

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People who says swk and mk friendship isn't healthy like are you blind did we watch the same show I mean sure swk have Communication problems but he's trying to fix FOR MK you know because he CARE about him just because he needs to work on his issues doesn't mak him toxic to be around and mk is patient with swk not because he have to but because he knows that swk is trying so hard and swk is soft on mk in training and other stuff he doesn't want to push him too hard he want him to grow in his own pace and don't forget how mk felt comfortable venting to him in season 4 about the past villains he fought their relationship is far from unhealthy

#lego monkie kid #lmk sun wukong #sun wukong #lmk monkey king #monkei kid #lmk #lmk mk #qi xiaotian #lmk season 4 #lmk sunburst duo #sunburst duo #lego monkey kid #monkie kid #if you think they're friendship is unhealthy you're just stupid sorry not sorry #people who say swk is a bad mentor and friend i hope you step on a lego <3

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sciderman · 12 days

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Sometimes i remember a comics moment i randomly came across somewhere, where Sam Wilson mentiones a musical and Steve Rodgers says he doesn't like musicals, to whitch Sam goes "Guess that means you really are straight" and even tho i don't care about Cap America or the Avengers, the moment stuck in me for that quote by Sam. And like....Sci, any ideas if straight men actually don't like musicals or is that bullshit?

actually i think i know more gay men who hate musicals than i know straight men who hate musicals. i've had a drag queen stop me point blank when i was about to sing a barbra streisand song, and i know so many gays who pointedly hate abba. so based on my experience i think the inverse is true. most of the straight men i know are kind of impartial about musicals, but gay men? hate.

my theory is that a lot of gay men don't want to fall into stereotypes, maybe. but thaaaaat's just a theory! a gay theory.

#sci speaks #i'm trying to understand the gays. they are a mystery to me.#i've seen a lot more toxic masculinity coming from gay men than i have from straight men.#i think it makes sense. they have less women in their lives. so they reckon with a lot more masculinity. more dick measuring.#also gay men have some of THE most unhealthy romantic relationships i've ever seen in my life.#this isn't a blanket statement on everyone but just from what i've seen. it's such a strange pattern i've observed.#lesbians? healthy. straights? usually healthy. gay men? universally a tire fire that makes me say “if you hate each other so much ??”#“why are you together??????????”#i have never met a cis gay mlm couple in real life that was healthy. every single one of them made my eyes widen in horror.#i want them to be healthy. please treat each other better.#the number of bitchy bitchy fights i've seen between mlm couples in public that make me so terrified #but i know mlm relationships in general are usually less... affectionate than wlw relationships. even and especially friendships.#just an observation.#i hate to say that there is a definite difference between amab vs afab experiences when it comes to relationship dynamics but.#of course there is. there is. as much as i want to say gender and sex do not matter. it really does.#it makes a difference. it does.#which is kind of why i'm glad i was born in the body i was. when people say “trans means you feel you were born in the wrong body”#im like.. i don't think that's true. i don't think that's true for me.#i wouldn't be me if i wasn't born the way i was. and i want to be me. but i'm a boy. i'm a boy but in the body that i have.#my body is still a boy's body. because i live in here.#sorry this went off on a tangent.#but yeah i know my brain would be different if i was amab. and i don't want all those other issues.#i think the only reason i'm so peaceful and serene is because i'm afab. and afabulous.#i see cis guys and im like.. yeah i don't want what you got.#once again! lucky to be me! i'm lucky. im lucky i have a vargooba. thank fuck for that!#couldve been so much worse off. could've been born with a dick and would be fighting for my life right now.

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threedotsfromstardom · 9 months

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THE AFTERPARTY S01E05 X S02E05

We're gonna be friends forever.

#the afterparty #theafterpartyedit #s1: e5: high school #s1: ch: xavier #s1: ch: yasper lennov #s1: ship: yasvier #s2: ep5: sebastian #s2: ch: edgar minnows #s2: ch: sebastian drapewood #s2: ship: sebedgar #post: gifs #mine: gifs #sorry to my friends who had to witness me freak out over this parallel in real time last week. they make me crazy.#unhealthy yaoi best friendships that fall apart you are so loved by me.#paralleling yasper to edgar... feels good feels great. the writers did this for me and my friend.#long post

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thepeacefulgarden · 3 days

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thenixkat · 2 months

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[Thar be spoilers]

That bit where Thistle/Sissle decided that he liked Laios and Laios has great monster advice so he was gonna *keep him*.

Like boy, young elf, I am aware that you were either purchased or stolen at a young age, and the whole pesudo-adoption into the royal family/being a slave held by the royal family and put into a job as entertainment that clearly didn't suit you until you were old enough to be a court mage as a status symbol/flex on Delgal's dad's part that most certainly fucked you up six ways to Sunday before a demon started eating holes in yer memory/soul...

But you can't just keep people. They aren't ...pets. That's not a good way to make friends.

#nix meows #spoilers #dungeon meshi #thistle/sissle dunmeshi #laios touden #like i think they could have been friends in another timeline #but deciding that yer gonna keep someone and strap them into a perpetual forcefeeding plant #to keep them docile and prevent them from being able to escape from yer care #is a tremendusly unhealthy mindset to bring into a friendship

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now-a-witch · 28 days

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Every time I see manga Dazai's neck I think of this thing a boy said to me in elementary school that roughly translates to: "You have such a pretty neck, so delicate, so easy to strangle"

Which is a weird thought to have about real people but thankfully Dazai is not and let's be real he would probably appreciate it.

#dazai osamu #bsd dazai #bsd #just some thoughts #bungou stray dogs #sometimes kids say the weirdest things #me and said boy were vest friends back then by the way #true friendship is telling your friend you've been thinking about how to murder them #also my elementary school class had an unhealthy obsession with strangling #as I said kids are strange

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jasontoddssuper · 11 months

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Nico:Percy,look!They got girl skateboards!

Percy:Oh my gods!

Nico:You can skate now!

Percy:They got gay skateboards!

Nico:Di immortales!

Percy:You can skate now!

Nico:We're fuckin' set!

@1clown1 @voradtras @thingsenjoyer @peachyblkdemonslayer @palerubyart

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ellizz123 · 2 years

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I think Nico would be scared of Will. Not in AHHH!!! MEAN AND DANGEROUS PERSON COMING TO KILL ME!! way, but because he is so nice. Will would make him a cup of tea when he was tired, apologize after he got mad and yelled, walk him places, and ask before hugging him, all that stuff. Nico would care for Will too, but something about it would leave him on edge.

The thing is, Nico is used to being hated, and people only interacting with him because they want something. He's used to the bare minimum. So with all that overwhelming love coming from Will... he goes to hide out with Reyna in camp Jupiter for a while.

Maybe he would stay for a day or two until she figured out what was wrong and talked some sense into him. Cue the teary reunion and confessions with Will and booking an extra therapy session with Dionysus.

After that, Nico would still be scared of Will's love. But little by little, he would be getting better.

#percy jackson #pjo #pjo headcannons #nico di angelo #nico pjo #will solace #will pjo #reyna ramirez arellano #reyna pjo #nico and reyna friendship #dionysus pjo #solangelo #nico di angelo headcanon #tw caps #tw mental illness #yes nico gets therapy from dionysus #it would be so unhealthy to get it from your boyfriend #anyways this is based on a true expirience of a friend of mine

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qprstobin · 1 year

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if robin and steve don't want to crawl into each others skin are u really writing their friendship right

#stobin #platonic stobin #platonic with a p #i love my stobin with an unhealthy dose of codependency #digarigjser it makes me get very picky with steddie fics sometimes bc a lot of steddie fics kinda shit on their friendship to prop up stedd #ie #walkie chatter #steve harrington #robin buckley #steve #robin

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rocketbirdie · 1 month

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i would love to enjoy everything that stardew valley has to offer but unfortunately i approach this game the same way i approach real life: avoid all social interaction and tend to my garden in belligerent silence

#people posting screenshots of their stardew valley spouses and i'm just sitting here like.#y'all have time for relationships in this game?? wtf #i feel every second of every day ticking by. and i must dedicate each and every moment to my beloved potato field.#but seriously it's lowkey distressing. like. goddammit what do you MEAN the autism still happens in-game.#HOW am i supposed to know what gifts to give? WHY do my friendships decay so fucking fast just because we haven't talked in like. two days??#WHERE are players finding time in their days to interact with the npcs?????????#i can't relate to any of the npcs anyway! nobody shares my unhealthy obsession with agricultural economics!! i literally don't get it.#listen i know there's a wiki but #the problem is that the wiki only applies to stardew valley and not to real life. and i need a cheat sheet for real life.#don't even get me started on the multitasking hell that this game represents. goddang feels like a 50 hour work week playing this game #[I LOVE IT]#ok rant over back to your regularly scheduled pathetic rpg twunks

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