Worldbuilding notes for queer normative fantasy societies... I have a lot of thoughts about this so here are some notes and questions around 3 of the main ones I have been thinking about recently.
1. How many different structures of formally recognised relationships are there outside of the monogamous spouse version?
If you want a society where relationships themselves are queered, moving away from a monogamous default, think about different forms of union and commitment and whether these can be legally recognised and what the legal/civil ramifications are.
Who recognises these relationships? What is the legal process to get them recognised? If there is no legal process then are we looking at a society where taxes are a communal responsibility and not levelled at individuals?
Is there freedom of movement and if so how much is affordable and feasible - does this have a bearing on queer people even in a queer normative world? What happens if the village is very small and has 3 queer people in it none of whom really like each other? Where do you go to find a partner if you can't travel far?
If the society thinks arranged marriages are normal and there is no concept of marrying for love, and no expectation of attraction only reasonable companionship, and you can have multiple spouses/formal partners for political reasons and to unite families (perhaps to formally team up and spread the cost of those communal taxes, etc) then you may end up with the situation of lots of different relationship structures and someone married off finally coming out as straight, and their formal partner wingmanning them to find someone else to be with.
2. Inheritance law and family connections
In a queer normative society, it would make sense for both biological kids and adopted or fostered kids to be equally accepted and no distinction drawn between them. This has extensive knock-on effects for how society is structured and
Legitimacy may not even mean anything in a society with multiple relationship structures. So how does this all work legally and socially and culturally and politically and economically?
First off: does it matter who your parents are and whether you have a firm grasp of your personal genealogy, or would people just give up on all that because it gets so muddy.
E.g.::::
"I am Bran son of Brom" means nothing when you actually mean, "I am Bran, my mother Ceris was the wife of Carl and she carried me to term and Brom didn't impregnate her, that was Roan, partner of Brom, but to be fair it might also be Carl because we can't really be sure on the timing there, and then Ceris and her other partner Sara both nursed me as a baby and then as a kid it was decided I would have more opportunities in life if I went to live with Brom and Roan and learned their trade, and then Brom as the higher earner and the one contributing most to the communal taxes thought he should be the one to formally adopt me, even though I still mostly lived with Ceris and Carl and Sara until I was 16, because then I would inherit more and be able to pursue a different career path and have money to travel, so when I say I am Bran son of Brom I mean only in the technical legal sense".
It also makes no sense here to say, "I am Bran son of Brom" and erase Ceris, Sara, Carl and Roan from that picture of yourself, particularly if the society is not patriarchal and therefore less likely to reckon lineage in a strict patrilineal way.
In this example, the implications of saying, "I am Bran son of Brom" are that you don't KNOW who your other connections are and you have had a childhood lacking in all the other communal connections others have had. You only know Brom. Were you hermits, living apart from society in a lonely, mountainous region somewhere? That would make sense. But people might still look at you once you say "I am Bran son of Brom" and wait a bit and then be like, "...Brom, and...??"
Like you wouldn't say that. You would instead say something like, "I am Bran of Seven Oaks" because the place is what everyone has in common, or you might say "I am Bran, of the Seven Oaks community" if the people are more important than their location.
Or would communities like this have their own assigned name, if not based on location, then on something else? A symbol or glyph that represents different groups and people adopt this glyph when they enter into a new community, but keep records of the previous ones they have been connected to until there is a whole string of glyphs after their name as a shorthand record of their entire network of relationships? Is this marked on their skin or on some item they wear? Formally inscribed in ledgers and public records?
Do these glyphs appear as a straight line, a row or column, or is there a cobweb or star shape with different sections/points meaning different things, and these symbols/glyohs/letters or whatever are placed in the web or star points?
That might be a cool item of jewellery with things carved on beads and beads added to it, or a massive back tattoo that gets added to all the time until for some it covers their whole body like a map of all the people they have connected with in some official way through their entire lives, especially if you adopt a kid and add in that kid's connections that are now connected to you.
How would people react to those with very few beads and few connections? Would they treat them with pity or with suspicion? What is the story of "Bran son of Brom"??
3. Patriarchy vs Matriarchy vs ....????
First, let's not pretend Matriarchy is a utopia. It is the same thing as patriarchy except women are in charge, and is equally as toxic in terms of structure. A society where 50% of citizens are subject to gender-based power structures is not a good one regardless of which gender is in charge.
Also, this still presents the normative of a gender binary, so you would still have structural oppression of genders who do not conform to or are perceived to undermine that binary. Up to you if your society is like that, but one to consider.
Also if we are talking about a queer normative society with one of those "gender plague" situations so everyone with an X or Y chromosome is dead, trans people and non binary people would still exist, still presenting in the applicable way. Intersex people would still exist, and people who present as "the sex that doesn't get the plague" may still contract it and die of it if you have it linked to chromosomes, because unless you do chromosomal testing you won't always know to look at someone what they have. So there is all that to think about.
Eliminating all cis men from a society doesn't actually get rid of men or masc-presenting people, but it does open things up for a less binary society in general.
If we aren't playing with dodgy science, and we have a queer normative society but you do want to explore some hierarchical structures within it, there are lots of other ways you can do that unrelated to gender.
In fact it doesn't make sense for this fantasy society in the "Bran son of Brom" example to have "gender roles" at all, so what is the internal family structure like in terms of power balance? Is this more about dominant personality vs democracy (just because you agree one person is in charge means nothing in practice if there is a more charismatic option that undermines this elected choice). Is it to do with earning power? If things are decided at communal meetings, who chairs them and why? What is the knock on logical effect on society on a larger scale?
So much stuff to think about there tbh
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How To Bury Your Love - short story
#Content Warning for spooky stuff and mild body horror#
I recognise Xander the way I would a wax figure. An uncanny approximation of my friend standing in my kitchen, familiar in ways both unnerving and kindly. He is Canadian by catabolism now. His long British vowels drowned in maple; the sharp gravel of his bass notes softened to a pine-fire purr. Even the mass of him, his imposing granite shape, square shouldered and reaching the height of the doorframe, is softened at the edges. Smooth and autumnal, with an un-English gentility.
He is back for the winter, he tells me, and leans in for a hug. His body is a thick, rustic object, made for labour, but his eyes show the softness that kept him indoors; molasses brown with a ring of cinder toffee, cracked and dispersed into the surrounding syrup. Raised eyebrows and the flash of a canine in his smile as he pulls me into him. Skin prickles at the warm-stone kiss on my cheek, campfire and salt on his collar as I breathe him in, and something else. A dryness like mould on bread that catches in the back of my throat.
I raise my arms and hold him firmly, unsure for the first time in my life of his solidity. I press the flesh of my cheek into the buttons of his coat and my fingers find warmth beneath the green corduroy and I know, inflexibly that he is here in my kitchen, holding me. The evidence of his hands, large and square like paws on my neck and lower back, and the soft purr of his comforting coo that vibrates in my hair, is unshakable against the equally inflexible truth that Xander Hollinsworth – my best friend and great unrequited love of my life – had died a week prior.
I step back from the hug and begin to ask him how he got in, appearing as he did seemingly from nowhere in the doorway of my galley kitchen as I absentmindedly finished making two cups of tea instead of one. As if some part of me expected this strange company. An odd behaviour made odder by the knowledge that I don’t get much company – undead or otherwise – anymore.
He waits for me to finish, one eyebrow cocked in anticipation, but the words stick in my throat and instead I turn my gaze to the counter. I stare at it for a while before quietly handing him the prophetic second mug of sweet, milky tea.
‘Cheers, darling,’he says, and my chest blossoms.
In the past, my friends in the know had scolded me for letting him call me that. Tutted their tongues and shaken their heads when I explained how it made me feel like a wildflower shrapnel bomb had exploded in my gut whenever he called me darling, or sweetheart, or handsome.
‘He’s leading you on. And what’s worse, you’re encouraging it,’ they would say, exhausted by the repetitive, futile explanation, like the tired owner of a dog that won’t stop pissing on the rug. ‘It’s not healthy. He’s never gonna fuck you, Ben.’
I would agree with them, only in part to keep them quiet but also firm in the knowledge that they were right. Then later, in the proximity of him and his all-encompassing solidity, all such pretences would be shed, and I would go out of my way to be dutiful and attentive enough to illicit those words.
When he announced his permanent departure to Canada, more than four years ago now, there were some among my friends who couldn’t contain their glee at being proven right. He was never going to fuck me, and now he’d be too far away for me to keep pretending like he would. This, for reasons I could never quite explain, would not be the case. My imagination, despite my own protestations, knew no obstacle it couldn’t overcome, and I pined and hoped harder in his absence than I ever did in his presence.
Weeks turned to months and years, and I still held out a childish hope that he would one day return and sweep me off my feet and we would fall madly in love somewhere with green mountains and caramel doughnuts; the scent of sandalwood and acoustic guitar following wherever we went. This was not – as I was reminded for a time until my friend’s patience depleted – a healthy way of being for a thirty-three-year-old man.
There is a significant part of me, standing in the kitchen, watching my dead but not dead friend sip his tea in awkward silence, that feels a grim smugness at being proven right.
Conversation is stilted as I ask awkwardly how his journey was and he laughs dryly. I join in the laugh after a few moments of quiet shock, shaking my head as I try to rationalize the situation. Xander is dead. He is also in my kitchen, swirling the dregs of his tea in a Starbucks Pumkin mug, and shooting me glances with those molasses eyes of his. Both things are true. I decide that to examine things much further is a waste of sanity, and lead him to the living room to sit on the sofa.
The silence here is gentler. A warm, familiar thing that was always easy to come by between us. We could sit for hours in each other’s company, never saying a word. I would sometimes, as I did now, count the freckles on his neck, imagining constellations in the flecks of brown, and he would, as he did now, pull my legs onto his lap and make cat-like biscuits on my calves in a feeble half-massage.
As I chart high-sailed ships and bears swiping at salmon and juggling jesters, I notice the skin between the freckles is paler than I remember, with a shimmer of oyster shell like spoiling ham. I hear the tendons of his fingers, mashing into the flesh of my calves, crack, and grind like stones in sausage casing. I choose to ignore these things, for now.
+
I don’t remember how we met. We seemed just there, in the periphery of each other’s lives. Planets in the same system. Friends of friends of friends. Over the years the Venn diagrams swelled and contracted, twisting in a spirograph pattern until we became our own little circle in the middle of the page.
I do remember, however, the moment I fell in love with him. It came long before our planets fully collided; long before we were the one person the other would call in a crisis. I suppose there was a perversity in me allowing us to grow so close in friendship, knowing what I did.
It was the week before my Birthday, not one of the big ones, and I had been a sulking child for the better part of a month. I hate Birthdays, specifically my own, and had been oscillating wildly between not wanting to bring it up for fear of anyone making a big deal of it, and wanting to tell everyone so I could demand they didn’t.
I’d just finished work, an evening shift at a massive arts and crafts store. I walked to the bus stop in a grim silence, rubbing at the knots in my shoulders, and didn’t even notice him until we were separated by a mere few feet. He stood by the bus stop bench, just under the shelter. The structure was dwarfed by him. His height, his breadth. The measure of him made everything around him look so small. But it wasn’t just his size. It was something else. A weight of being. The world was smaller for him being in it.
He held a golden balloon decorated with white smiley faces in one hand, his other behind his back. A dopey grin spread across his bearded face, flash of white in the dull glow of the streetlights, and I couldn’t help but smile in response.
He started singing Happy Birthday. Loudly. Voice like coffee grounds and whiskey. I cringed, eyes rolling. I turned on my heel and started to walk in the other direction. He rushed to follow, feet dancing on the pavement, balloon bouncing against his wrist as he continued his song. Hot breath on my cold ear. I started laughing, calling him a dickhead and swatting at the balloon when it flew too close to my face.
‘What are you doing?’ I asked, slowing to a stop as he circled me. He didn’t answer until he’d finished the song, ending with a bow and a flourish, revealing a gift-wrapped rectangle in his free hand.
‘Happy Birthday, Ben.’
‘It’s not my bloody Birthday, Xander,’ I said, taking the present and the balloon offered to me. I felt foolish, stood on the pavement of an industrial estate, clutching childish party favours.
‘I know,’ he said, pulling a menthol from a half-crushed packet and lighting up. ‘But, I’ve heard you don’t like to celebrate your Birthday.’
‘I really don’t,’ I said, breathing in the smoke as it drifted towards me.
‘Well, that’s a problem for me. Because I always have to make a big deal about my friend’s Birthdays. It’s a sickness. I’m a sick man, Ben.’ He paced the narrow pavement back and forth in front of me, gesturing like Columbo giving his final thoughts. ‘So, if we celebrate it today, when it’s not your Birthday, I get to fulfil this admittedly selfish, irrepressible need I have, and you can’t be mad about it.’
‘Oh, I can’t?’ I asked, with as much impunity as I could muster through a smile.
‘No,’ he said, shaking his head grimly. ‘It would be completely unreasonable of you. And rude. And possibly homophobic? I’m not sure, but just come with me for one drink, which I will buy, and we won’t have to speak about your day-of-birth again. For exactly one calendar year.’
I laughed, tapping the present against my thigh, and weighing up his disturbed logic.
‘One drink,’ he pleaded, eyes catching jewels of amber from the streetlamps. ‘And you have to be very pleased with the present or I’ll cry. It’s a copy of Frankenstein. One of the posh ones. The book is posh, not the monster. Or the Doctor. Scientist? Creator.’
That was the moment. Him stumbling over his words in the middle of nowhere, in the dusk of an unremarkable day in April, pleading for me to celebrate my existence solely for his benefit.
+
He asks me how I’ve been since we last spoke. It’s been a little over a fortnight since our last call. A week before I heard the news. He’d said ‘Love you, buddy. See you soon.’
I look around the room, at the collection of coffee and tea mugs, two dozen strong; the Pot Noodles with forks still embedded in the crusted remains; torn scraps of brown envelopes, notes and numbers scribbled, languidly. Pen strokes dragging across the paper. Details for his funeral in Canada that I couldn’t afford to attend. An appointment date for free grief counselling.
‘Stupid question, I guess,’ he says, and I’ve missed his smile so much. I’d thought about it often the past week. Imagining it in my mind. Picturing the way his mouth pulls up unevenly, higher on the left side. One rogue canine sliding out from his under his upper lip. I’d gotten it almost perfectly in my memory, though his lips are darker at the corners than I remember. An aubergine purple, almost fading to black.
‘You need to look after yourself better,’ he says, drumming an arrhythmic beat on my shins. If he knows he’s dead, he hasn’t yet mentioned it. ‘Honestly, I go away for a few years, and you really let yourself go. Hideous.’
It takes me a moment to realise he’s joking. His voice is flatter than I remember, the edges round and indistinct.
I wonder why I’m not scared. Shocked, yes, but searching my body I find no trace of fear. Even the shock is a dull emotion, tempered by the nearness of him. The weight of his forearms resting on me. The sound of his breathing. I’m crying. Not a hysterical thing. Tears, thick and heavy roll down my cheeks and collect in the scruff of two-week stubble.
I pull myself closer to him across the couch. My hands moving under his jacket to grab at him hungrily. Xander yields and shrugs himself free from the extra layer. He shushes me gently, stroking my neck and thumbing at the dampness in the corners of my eyes, but does nothing to stop my grasping.
‘Hey, it’s okay,’ he whispers.
I push my face into his chest, breathing him in. Fire and ash. Wood and leather. Dry mould.
‘Xander?’ I start. Unsure of where I’ll end. ‘Why? Why are you here?’
He holds me for a long time in silence. My salt tears dampening his chest hair and the ribbing of his shirt. Eventually, he answers.
‘I owed you that much, I think.’
He doesn’t elaborate, and he doesn’t need to. We both know what he means, in some way. ‘You don’t owe me shit, dickhead.’
Fingers firmly on my chin, he raises my head. Our eyes search for each other’s in the dim light. His dart rapidly, as if struggling to focus on mine. Carousels of brown and gold, flickering like tracking on a VHS. The edges are cloudy, like cigarette smoke.
I remember the last time we were this close, in this way. The electric anticipation of possibility that went unfulfilled.
‘Can I?’ he asks, barely more than a whisper. I should say no, or at least think further. But before I can find protestations, something slick and warm in my bones moves, and I shakily nod my response.
His lips touch mine and I crack open. A tectonic shift of plates under pressure, finally yielding after years of friction. I am split in two. In this moment we are both of us dead men. I know this like I know anything. How to breathe. The sound of thunder. Universal knowledge that lives in the blood.
I am certain that beyond this kiss, the man I was, who waited and craved, will be no more, and the man who knows a hunger sated will continue. This dead man doesn’t know which is more cursed.
Xander’s mouth tastes like curdling milk.
+
I was always terrible at flirting. I came out too young and learned too quickly to fear the violence of threatened masculinity, and so I never felt comfortable around men.
Well, most men.
Xander had an ease to him. An assurance in the way he carried himself. I’d watch him flirt and seduce, casually slipping from relaxed, friendly conversation to something more primal without a hint of fear.
I wasn’t even jealous, most of the time, but fascinated by an aptitude that seemed impossible to me.
I remember seeing him strike out only once, though I’m sure there must have been other times. It was less a miscalculation through incompetence and more the effects of mixing Tequila and Prosecco.
It was New Years Eve 2015, and we’d spent the night hopping around house parties in Nottingham before finding ourselves outside some tiny black-box gay club down by the canal. The entry price was more than either of us had left to spend, and Xander instead had the bright idea of seducing one of the door staff; a stout, burly bald guy with ginger stubble.
Xander dwarfed him, practically having to lean at the waist to speak into his ear over the din of whistles, fireworks, and general homosexual commotion.
I kept my distance, steadying myself on a safety railing, swapping between swigs of water and drags from one of Xander’s Superking menthols. I expected I’d soon be watching them make out by the river. I was wrong.
I didn’t hear what was said, but I saw the shove. This guy with the stubble, not much more than five feet tall caught Xander off balance. He tumbled onto the cobbles, rocking like a see-saw on his head before crumpling into immobility. It was a strangely morbid spectacle, but oddly impressive. Like watching a tower block fall while a lone resident waved from a balcony. It wasn’t a fight. One push and it was done.
I stood frozen, as if unable to process what I’d just seen. By the time I’d summoned the courage to walk over and help, Xander had somehow already charmed the guy into apologising.
Throwing out some apologies of my own, I promised to get Xander home and waved off the forming crowd. His weight on my shoulders as I walked him down the street was a beautiful burden. My cross and my cause in one drunken package, slurring nonsense into the cold air.
Later, we sat together further down the canal. Shoulder to shoulder with a greasy slice of pizza between us, feet dangling through the safety rails over the still water.
‘Don’t think either of us is getting lucky tonight,’ he said, wiping blood from his hairline with a balled up pizza napkin. I ignored his commentary and took the napkin, and gently tried to clean up the blood that he’d missed.
He smiled at me, glassy eyed.
‘One of these days,’ he began. I could tell what was coming. Something that always happened when he was drunk, and horny with no one to shag.
‘Don’t say it,’ I said, wanting him very much to say it.
‘No, shut up,’ he said, grabbing my wrist and looking me dead in the eyes as though delivering some important speech. ‘Ben. Ben, one of these days, I am going to ruin our friendship so hard.’
‘Shut up, you’re drunk!’ I laughed, pulling away.
‘So hard! I’m gonna-‘ his voice dropped to a pantomime whisper. ‘I’m gonna do things. To you. Weird shit. Like, crazy animal shit. We’ll never speak again, and you’ll hate me, but it’ll be so good.’
‘You’re an idiot, Xan,’ I said, pulling him to his feet and he wrapped me into a hug.
‘One day, handsome,’ his voice, hot and wet in my ear. Thick and sour with alcohol. ‘One day.’
+
We don’t mention the kiss. We settle back into our comfortable silence, his hand stroking my head as I curl into a ball in his lap. The motion of his hand feels stunted. Mechanical. His fingertips are cold
‘Now what?’ I finally ask. The tears have stopped now. I can still taste him on my lips. Sweet and sour.
‘No idea, handsome,’ he says with a soft chuckle. He makes a strange sound that might be a yawn. I hear something snap as he does.
For the first time since his return, I’m scared. A cold, weightless fear that lives at the base of my spine and swims in circles.
I wait for the night to turn black. Then a little longer. Finally, I suggest getting some rest and reluctantly climb off of him. As he stands his bones and flesh crinkle and crack beneath his clothes. A cruel percussion that makes me wince. He cracks his knuckles and one of his fingers splinters like a cinnamon stick. Neither of us mention it, but he gives an apologetic smile and strokes my face with his remaining solid hand. I don’t even flinch at the cold.
‘Lead the way,’ he says, and I take him by the hand, across the hall into my room.
I haven’t slept in my bed in two days, curling on the sofa instead; sleeping with a mindless drone of YouTube playlists of our favourite bands for white noise. I’d forgotten the state I’d left it in.
Xander walks around me, beelining for the bed and the pathetic shrine I’d been sleeping in since his first death. Pictures of the two of us; the copy of Frankenstein, the gold leaf embossing almost entirely worn away; the wrapping paper it came in, unfolded and refolded a thousand times; postcards, letters, Birthday cards, and gift tags. A littering of desperation.
He smiles as he brushes his fingers across them one by one. I wonder what this must be like for him. His expression gives away nothing. He looks tired.
We clear the bed and undress. His feet and hands are blue now, pearlescent and shiny, with thick grey veins visible up to his knees and elbows. When he’s done he helps me peel of my last layers. Somehow still delicate with hands of stone.
We lay down and pull up the blankets. I curl instinctively into him, my feet finding place behind his knees and my hands snaking beneath his shoulders. It feels natural. A slotting of bodies that makes a strange sense, and I imagine a world in which we did this every day.
The cruelty of it pulls me back into the present moment.
As if sensing my mistake, he pulls me closer. Stone-lipped kisses on my forehead. I stroke his back and a piece of him falls away.
The fear snakes its way up my back and I know I’m not ready for what’s to come. I wish that pieces of myself would crumble. I wish that we could turn to dust together.
‘I’m so sorry,’ he says. His voice sounds distant, and hollow. Bouncing off the insides of him.
‘Don’t apologise. Don’t you dare fucking apologise.’ I whisper into his chest, stock still so as to not break him further.
His breaths grow quick and rough. A rumble of quiet thunder that feels like a lullaby.
+
‘Don’t apologise,’ I’d said to him, staring at the nauseating shapes on the carpet of the cinema lobby. Xander had just told me his latest trip to Canada would be permanent. He’d taken me to a Halloween horror night at the Odeon to soften the blow, and it ended with me crying into the dregs of a bucket of popcorn, skeleton facepaint smeared into a lopsided rorschach.
He hadn’t been able to look me in the eye since he told me. He was standing by the window. He never sat when he was nervous.
The sounds of the busy lobby buzzed around me. They droned, distant and muffled, as if underwater, and for a moment I imagined I was drowning.
‘Say something, handsome,’ he said. He was keeping his distance. I wanted to ask him to come hold me, but I was afraid he’d think me weak. I was afraid he’d think I was manipulating him to stay.
God how part of me wanted to manipulate him to stay.
A bigger part of me knew I couldn’t, and that hurt somehow more than the knowledge that he’d be gone.
‘I’m happy for you,’ I said. And it was true enough. ‘I’m gonna fucking miss you, Xan. Really fucking miss you. But I am happy for you.’
I forced a smile. He was crying. I stood and it felt like the world was off its axis. I stumbled and he grabbed me. He held me. The solidity of him righted the globe. Soon that would be gone.
‘It won’t be forever,’ he said. ‘I’ll come back.’
+
I open my eyes and he is still. The world expands.
I must have fallen asleep, and for a moment I fear that I’d imagined it all. But he’s still here, in my bed. Pieces of him. Solid, but broken. His hands still hold me, unattached to his wrists. Cold stone fingers gripping me tight enough to bruise.
I whisper his name in the darkness, knowing there will be no response from his fractured face. His mouth and nose have rolled off the pillow. One eye, set solidly in place in a petrified lid stares at me sightlessly. No molasses. No cinder toffee. The sweetness of him a memory.
I leave him there in my bed for too long. Resting next to him each night, stroking at the remains of him until he turns to smooth edged stones that glitter like snow and smell of fire and mould.
When the spring comes, I sweep up the jewels of the man that I love, and bury him in a ring of stone. I water the soil until wildflowers grow.
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