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ash-th3-fae · 6 months

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*clears throat*

Trans women do not have it easier.

Trans women are not just a fetish.

Trans women can be asexual.

Trans women are not ‘begging for attention’.

Trans women are not ‘asking for it’.

Trans women are just as equal as trans men.

Trans women are just as equal as cis women.

Trans women are just as equal as literally anybody.

Trans women deserve respect.

Trans women deserve rights.

Trans women deserve to feel safe.

Trans women are women. If you cannot wrap your head around that; get off my fucking blog.

#i myself am a trans man #and it’s fucking sickening the attitude i see towards trans women #yet i haven’t gotten even an ounce of that disrespect myself #it’s fucking disgusting #it’s fucking vile #and it’s not fucking okay #trans women are women #that is final #trans #transgender #trans feminine #trans woman #trans girl #trans rights

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just-your-average-tangerine · 1 year

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The line between binary and nonbinary trans people is nowhere near as clean as some of yall think it is

#transgender #trans #nonbinary #like i guess i would be considered a 'binary' trans man #i wouldnt consider myself that for two reasons #first because the idea that gender is binary is bullshit to begin with so why would i identify within it #and second because i am a man only in that i am a gay man #i dont identify outside of manhood im terms of gender #but my gender is so linked to my sexuality that it cant be neatly tracked onto a binary view of 'man'#but because i am a man other consider me 'binary' regardless of how i feel about it #and yet will still refuse to use he/him pronouns in favor of exclusively using they/them #but thats a different discussion #op

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transmascissues · 5 months

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just had my 3 week post-op and i’m officially done with the bandages! i’m so glad i can really enjoy my chest now and not have it covered up 99% of the time. i still can’t believe how good it already looks, shoutout to my surgeon for doing a fucking incredible job.

#have i tried really hard to keep myself anonymous on this account the whole time ive had it? yes #am i going to keep posting pictures of my results anyway even if it means someone could recognize me from elsewhere on the internet? yeah #the gender euphoric urge to post my results everywhere no matter what will always be stronger than anything else #top surgery adventures #top surgery #top surgery results #double incision #trans man #transmasc

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nekhcore · 1 year

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mirrors - me and my body over the years.

a short comic i've had bouncing around in my head for a few months.

when i was a kid, every morning felt like flipping a coin on whether i'd feel like shit that day. something was wrong with my body. i didn't know what it was. i was a tomboy and my family wanted me to be ladylike, so i thought i just wasn't femme or white enough.

then i got groomed out of high school, by a worthless excuse for a man who told me he understood me and liked me as i was. i wanted to reconnect with my femininity and asked for help, but he took a mile. he tried to feminize me and neg me into his perfect fantasy bangmaid. every day it was being compared to women who weren't me and being made out to be the bad guy if i didn't cave to one of his demands.

when i got away from him, i could finally examine who i was as a person without anyone else's influence. no family, no high school classmates, no abusive boyfriend. and finally figuring out the answer to that question (what's wrong with me?) didn't make things any easier. turns out i'm not a girl. now i have to live with that knowledge.

i turned 22 this year. i started HRT. i finally have a voice that i like. i have hair on my arms. i have hair on my chin and a little dirt stache. on my birthday, for the first time since i can remember, i saw myself in the mirror and thought "hey, looking good." i think i'm going to be alright.

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uncanny-tranny · 6 months

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At this point, gender nonconformity is about what the person says their experience is.

If a woman with a beard or a man with lipstick and a mustache says they're gender nonconforming, then they are! If a woman with short hair or a man with long hair says they aren't, they aren't! And that's not even getting into the awesome nonbinary, abinary, genderqueer, intersex, and general genderfuckery that may both be and not be conforming.

So much of what is even considered gender conforming or gender nonconforming is based on a world of exclusion. When we start defining one's conformity with whether they fit into white cishetero perisex standards or not, we play into the idea that there's only a very narrow window of what is considered worthy of time and thought.

#gender nonconformity #gnc #queer #like. for instance a native man who keeps long hair might be considered GNC by white standards but for him it's absolutely not nonconformit #there's an aspect of white supremacy that silences everything else while saying that other culture's silence is indicative of whiteness...#...being 'correct' or 'moral' or 'neutral'#and as somebody who's trans and last i checked white i have my own thoughts from my own experiences #like how i don't consider myself to really be a GNC man. i'm just. man+#i'm a weird concoction of weird soup that tastes like a man but if it were Wrong #and i just don't see that as not conforming to manhood like it is seperate. i see it as irrevocably linked TO manhood #it is others who have excluded and exiled me from manhood because of *their* understanding of me and how i 'fit in' in cissexism #while i will never ever say i know what it's like to not be white i will say these conversations that PoC have started have been INVALUABLE #i am forever grateful to have been extended the patience and faith to listen in on the experiences of people...#...who are racialized in terms of gender and how they do/don't 'fit in' with often white supremacist views on gender/dynamics #may have made a post like this years back but. eh. arrest me officer i will not back down #i've been more and more 'gnc' as i go into my transition and i don't see it as nonconformity but as an outlet for my masculinity #which is why i'm not insecure about my crafts and creations. because it is coming from a male whether or not it's considered 'manly'#i have little to *no place* in cissexist society so why should i put any stakes into if they ~accept~ me #made this post while jamming out to skyrim's tavern OST (paused my game to write this)#why the HELL does the skyrim tavern music have to go SO HARD. i NEED to slam down BARRELS of mead while listening to this istg #i don't even LIKE honey so i haven't tried mead but. for skyrim i would.

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feminetomboy · 1 year

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I guess I'd just like to make an appreciation post for any non-binary people out there who speak heavily gendered languages. The folk who cannot just "make pronouns everyone else's problem", because their language doesn't allow it. People who are forced to choose a binary gender to even just articulate their thoughts. Who have to choose a box, even if they don't like it.

I promise I see you. I know it's tough. I am holding your hand tightly, as we walk this road together.

#nonbinary #queer #lgbtq #i just. made something I personally really needed to hear #the online lgbtq spaces are full of english speakers and this is just a cultural thing they do not experience #i have to misgender myself on the daily and there are days I don't mind and days I hate it to pieces #but I'll pull through I'll pull through I am not the only one #there have been people who have walked this road before me #the thing is that I've been told I should choose masculine pronouns. because that's what most nb people do here #and I hate it. I'm not a man. and so I just use the pronouns I've used all my life and now I'm not trans enough

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distortingbones · 2 years

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hey. autistic transmascs. it's okay if your autistic perspective influenced your discomfort with femininity, and that doesn't mean you're any less trans or that you shouldn't transition/should detransition. if transitioning makes you feel happier and more at ease with your body, then it doesn't matter "why" you're trans. womanhood is not inherently sacred and it's ok to not be a woman if you don't feel like one. a feminine body is not inherently superior to a masculine one, so you aren't "ruining" your body by taking masculinizing hormones or undergoing masculinizing surgeries. do what makes you happiest and don't drink the radfem koolaid.

#transmasc #trans man #trans #ftm #mine #worried i am poking the t**f hornets nest but i saw a post earlier that made me mad af #transitioning was the best thing that i ever did for myself #i (physically) detransitioned for a few years in my early 20s because i internalized that shit abt masculininity being bad #and i'm really happy that i recognized that during those years my dysphoria was CRUSHING me #i am so much happier since retransitioning. it was the right choice for me #i may be autistic but i am also transmasculine. they aren't mutually exclusive.#actuallyautistic

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zeb-z · 11 months

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Every scene where Gwen is terrified to talk to her father about who she really is, because who she really is is vilified, is who he hates…..when she stands there and says this isn’t how I wanted you to find out and begs him to listen, and it’s terrifying and she knows just a moment ago he could have killed her, and she pleads for him to be a dad instead of a cop……the scenes always fading to just trans colors.

When Miles’ mom gives him the speech about knowing his own self worth, about knowing how loved he is, about being himself unapologetically and knowing that if he’s not accepted for himself, that he’s not in the wrong for that, that he’s loved as he is and will always have his family….when him and Gwen struggle with leading double lives….when their reveals both started out with ‘I’m sorry I’ve been lying to you about who I really am, I hope you can accept me.’

Something about how radical it is to carve your own path, to be something that nobody else wants you to be. Something about how conforming is uncomfortable and wrong, something about found family, something about the consequences of your secret identity being found out, or the way that true family will always love you for who you are….

I dunno. Happy Pride Month

#I’m just I’m beside myself I’m iughshfhs #Gwen is trans and I am in shambles. queer allegories hitting me over the head with baseball bats #god #atsv #across the spiderverse #across the spiderverse spoilers #atsv spoilers #spider man #miles morales #gwen stacy #spider woman #z speaks

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orcelito · 4 months

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Like OK so I've been reading a fic with trans wolfwood in it that is so. HONEST. About how it affected him and still affects him. In a way that's very much not an average cis writer portrayal of a trans character.

Like. Either this writer is trans or did plenty of research, but it just feels REAL to me. And it has me thinking about my own way of writing trans Wolfwood.

I'm not there yet. But I've been thinking about it. The ways that what the EOM did fucked him up... but it also acted as HRT that affirmed his gender. So what do you do when you're in a body you don't recognize, but looks much more like a man than ever before? There's some gender euphoria in a way, but dysphoria at the same time bc you didn't grow into this. You didn't watch yourself transition. Suddenly you just Were this, and it's not you, but also it's nice to finally be seen as a man, but it also feels wrong to feel grateful for any part of what they did to you...

On and on and on

You see? This is what I want to think about with him. This is why trans Wolfwood is so compelling to me. It's just so Complicated, he'd have such Complicated feelings about his body and the way he lives with it. He learns this new body, it starts to feel more like his, but he also mourns the fact that he didn't get to watch it grow into this like he should've.

That kind of thing.

#speculation nation #itnl shit #tagging it bc these r things relevant to itnl ww. because. he is trans☺️#TRANS WOLFWOOD MY BELOVED!!!!!!!!!!#i wanna do more research into trans things. ive already done a lot. but like #into the actual physical side of it all. the effects of HRT. all those messy little details that people dont often focus on.#some months ago i skimmed thru this writing guide on how to write trans men. and i think i wanna revisit it #read it more slowly and thoroughly.#bc im confident in my ability to write trans characters. considering the fact that im not cis myself.#but im not a trans man. so there r some Things that i just dont know about by virtue of not having experience with HRT #so. research! supplementing my existing knowledge with the perspectives of the actual people im writing about.#and so it goes when ur writing about an experience that is not entirely your own.#it matters to me to make my writing of trans men as realistic as possible.#even with the messy details that people normally shy away from. Especially them.#i pride myself on my realism as much as is within my means of capturing it.#realistic emotions. realistic reactions. realistic bodies.#i am Going to write a trans wolfwood that is So realistic. as much as possible.#(i keep specifying ww with this even tho vash is trans also just bc vash is a bit more uhhhh not human lol #so the definition of what makes him trans is a bit more loose. still inferred by real life experiences #but he wouldnt have the same sorts of experiences with HRT. or gender expression in general #so i feel less of a pressure to capture it as fully accurate to the real life human experience as possible. if that makes sense.)

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zerodaryls · 6 months

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it's so funny (read: sad) that if bigoted fuckheads didn't insist i was a woman simply by virtue of my body at birth, i'd probably be chill with she/her pronouns in addition to he/they. if my mom didn't insist i was her daughter, i'd probably let her call me that, and we could still have a relationship.

i'm nonbinary and 'gendered' words are hypothetically meaningless, but because there are so many people who are more interested in telling me who i am rather than lovingly and curiously letting me express my own sense of self, those words carry trauma.

there's no reason a nonbinary person like myself can't be a son and a child and a daughter. there's no reason a nonbinary person like me can't go by he, they, and she.

'she' is not a slur. 'daughter' is not derogatory. 'beautiful' 'pretty' 'gorgeous' 'feminine' are not insults.

to the contrary, they're parts of language that express certain facets of a multi-faceted human existence, like mine.

and i have this sad, mournful feeling that if it weren't for unloving, condescending people, i'd probably be down to be called any of those things alongside my usual masculine/neutral terminology.

but i'd rather die than let anyone tell me what i have to be called.

#i try to reclaim 'feminine' words for myself in private #calling myself 'babygirl' when i need to chill out. or saying i feel pretty. or going 'she needs help' when i'm struggling lmao.#but there's still so much fucking trauma in those words from the people who've forced them on me #who've snarled in my face that GOD made me ONE THING and ONE THING ONLY and that's a WOMAN (stepdad)#who've guilted me for taking their precious perfect daughter away as if i'm fucking dead (mother)#who've mocked me and everyone like me as if we're not the experts on our own sense of self (general transphobic public)#like. i'm not a fucking man. i'm not a fucking woman. i'm nonbinary. gender is absurdity as a concept. i'm done with it.#but being called a man or a son or a guy or 'he' or WHATEVER in that vein is fine and dandy because i've never had anyone say #'that is all you can EVER be'. or worse: 'that is what GOD made you to be and you have a ROLE to fill'#(christianity pls die approximately yesterday thanku 💖)#so yeah. idk. ranting yet again about Cis Audacity.#the complete lack of empathy. the lack of curiosity even.#the condescending bullshit. the 'i understand you better than you do'. the fucking AUDACITY.#i am the expert on myself. i am the ONLY expert on myself. period. no contest. not a debate.#i understand myself better than anyone else is CAPABLE of understanding me.#i could call myself 'she' and understand that i meant it in a nonbinary way.#in fact i could even see myself letting other trans people call me feminine terms at some point in the future. when i've healed more.#but cis people? probably not. they can call me 'he' or 'they' or they can fuck off & never get to know me because they don't wanna know ME #/end rant #any terfs/bigots that try to touch this post will be swiftly blocked and quite possibly cursed. have the day you deserve <3

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i-hate-yuo · 9 months

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I can’t wait for the day I drift away

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stopgorepeat · 2 years

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While we're all talking about Andhra being ace and Rue coming out extremely publicly can we talk about that beautiful moment. Immediately after Rue reveals their true form, Andhera goes to them, embraces them, which we know canonically is the most true demonstration of comfort and platonic affection in the unseelie court, and expresses sadness that they ever felt the need to hide as well as a reassurance that they are not alone.

The soft eyes and queer solidarity had me more choked up than anything yet. Oscar said it is always a dice role to come out, and is correct. But I hope everyone has their moment of terror in the face of being out balmed by the comfort of understanding and the validation of not being alone.

#a court of fey and flowers #D20 Andhera #delloso de la rue #personally i dont know if i ever would have come out to anyone #including myself. if i did not have Lorant by my side.#if i had never met them i possibly never would have accepted my own identity or at least taken years longer #and i wouldnt have had queer support other than my cis queer friends. which dont get me wrong is an absolute life saver #especially during high school #but i wouldnt be out as trans #and i DEFINITELY wouldnt have come out to anyone in my family other than my sister #and even then. maybe i wouldnt have #i have so many friends and loved ones due yo coming out that i never would have met #so many of the most beautiful pieces of my life wouldnt be #i am out and proud as a trans queer man(non-binary flavor added based on trust) married to the love of my life who is also queer and trans.#and living what will probably be an amazing year with some queer friends #and my family knows and loves me #and those who don't have been excused from the family role #personal #dimension 20 #d20 acofaf

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halfusek · 11 months

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happy pride month to all the sillys :3

#pride month #pride 2023 #halfart #fursona #its a me #100%#intersex #trans #transgender #nonbinary #pansexual #asexual #polyamourous #gay #YIPEE YIPEE YIPEE #okay so if you care for an explanation why there are so many flags #im intersex #and its very hard for me to label myself and as for my identity technically publically i go as a trans man with he/him pronouns #but honestly i've always felt like im nonbinary and discovering that im intersex is funny because like #wait. am i *canonically* enby?? fjkfdjdf cuz intersex is. yeah. so. yeah. ive been thinking about that a lot #ive just stuck to the trans man identity and he/him pronouns because i wanted to get away from trying to be pushed to being a girl #so it feels more comfortable when strangers address me like a man #because they respect me for who im telling them i am and not who they think i am #the other flags well pansexual and asexual are there at the same time because im uh. im pretty sure i am aroace but i dont #i dont really feel like that captures the fact that i can date people of any gender. and the way pan is defined makes me interpret it as #a kind of synonym for bisexual aromantic fbgjhdfbgfdhj #also idk if the drawing conveys it well (i am aware theres a lot going on in it but i had FUN so i dont care)#but the shirt my sona is wearing is the lgbtqia+ progress pride flag :3 #and yes my sona has 6 arms. someponys gotta hold all these flags

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hyper-unfocused · 5 months

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Do any other genderfluid people desperately feel the need to go on hrt, convincing themselves they’re binary trans, whenever they feel like the "opposite" gender?

I have no clue how many times I’ve convinced myself I’m a trans man and started looking into hrt options in my country.

#genderfluid #gender fluid #lgbtq #trans #transmasc #and like i do consider myself transmasc #me turning into a man whenever i see a man #idk #i cant tell if i just like men or am one

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fooltomery · 8 days

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any other nb ppl who are transmasc and ID'd as binary trans for a while have a "im not a man" moment and it was a relief? like thank god i dont have to put up this front anymore type of relief

#i also keep getting into my own head that i'm detransitioning and then i go ''im a woman'' and theres still the ick #i dont care if someone calls me a man as long as they know thats not the only thing i am #its just. so hard to be masculine. i hate it.#esp at work i have to put up this front of ''oh im a guy'' just so i dont get misgendered in the other direction #i love you androgyny. i love you people not knowing what my gender is.#i love you reclamation of the pronoun ''she'' for me meaning me and not the faulty perception of me #i love being nonbinary im so glad i dont have to be a man!!#im done forcing myself to be a man so i can be put into an acceptable box.#MY TRANSITION GOAL IS TO BE UNPALATABLE ‼️‼️‼️#tagging with various things so i can get some response maybee #lgbt #lgbtq #nonbinary #trans #good enough.#cj chatters

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