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uncanny-tranny · 8 months

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Important tip for trans men/transmascs/whoever needs the reminder: Even if you pass as a man to cis people, you still need to have either some form of self-protection on you (e.g., mace, knives (if you can use them effectively), ect.) or know some form of self-defense. Please take it from me, you don't know what will happen out there at any given time.

You might assume that if you pass as a cis man to cis people, you will be safe from any harm. While I wish that were true, it simply isn't the world most of us live in. Please do whatever you can to protect yourself out there.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #ask to tag (genuine)#there's this idea that once you start passing as a man as a trans guy* that all your worries about attacks... disappear...#...but i'm going to be real my fears of being followed/sexually harassed/heckled/ect have increased by double...#...and i never felt the need to have self-protection before (which was kind of foolish even if i felt certain i was physically safe)...#...but honestly i think i really ought to start investing in this shit the more i pass #anyway please learn from my mistakes ♡#i talk about this a lot but it is a life-or-death level of importance to me #yes this goes for all trans people...#...i just call out other trans guys specifically because so many of us assume or are told we're immune to this type of violence

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thegoblinboy · 11 months

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Ok so random thought, but what if Steve was trans (ftm) and no one realizes it. Not even Robin. Just hear me out on this.

The first question out of this I know I’ll get is “Why wouldn’t Steve come out to Robin as well? Why doesn’t Robin know?” Well in my head cannon I believe Steve is aware that he’s trans but just simply forgets. He’s just a guy being a dude in a very judgemental world. That and he’s under stealth mode, he doesn’t want to be treated differently. He’s proud to be trans but in his mind he’s like any other guy, he doesn’t stand out. He’s transitioned socially that he doesn’t even think to much about it unless he’s in the men’s bathroom.

(Also for this au that is being built from scratch this is going to be modern, because I don’t want to accidentally put my experiences as a trans man on a transguy in the 80’s. I’m fully aware that they are different which is why I’m turning this into a modern au.)

There’s loopholes in this idea but I don’t care. Just Steve Harrington who is still getting used to being treated like a man socially. He doesn’t understand the hand shake thing with Lucas or the other jocks and he’s still a bit nervous about all of it. Like he’s finally fitting what he feels and he loves it but hates it at the same time. Because now he has to learn how to be a proper “gentleman” in public, which is a lot easier then hoe he was taught to be a lady. Now both of his parents are not conservative. Shockingly. So they are more open to things then most. Though secretly his father has always wanted a son to pass the business down to and this is the perfect opportunity. His mother isn’t to happy but she finally gets on board. Once he’s sixteen he starts hormones and switches schools, where he becomes king steve. Where he falls into a toxic masculine group of Tommy’s so he can “fit” in.

But then things start to go down hill with the upside down. And everything goes by normal. He meets Robin and they are two pees in the pod. Just missing one, that they are not really searching for but are?

The whole trans thing comes up when they are all in the boat and Steve’s a bit panicked because this means he has to take his shirt off in front of them. This can go to so different ways.

A) He hasn’t had top surgery yet and is currently wearing his binder. Which is skin toned but doesn’t match. He’s beat red as he catches the curious eyes of all of them on the boat. None of them knowing what a binder is. Robin of course asks what that is, and avoiding the question he jumps in and goes under. (You aren’t supposed to swim with your binder on) and he regrets all of his life decisions before coming back up and then being pulled back down. Everyone of course follows along, and after all of it Steve is in a lot of pain. Between the bite and his ribs he has no choice but to pull his binder off. Everything is explained and he’s really embarrassed as he finally gets the damn thing off while holding his chest. Trying to hide his boobs, in which Eddie ends up coming over with the vest. Wrapping it around Steve carefully with the most awkward back pat ever. Like it’s not brought up, but Steve does end up wearing one of Eddie’s old baggy shirts from what’s “83” but really a different year because it’s modern. And his vest as well to help cover his chest and it’s the most gender euphoria ever. (Also he still has a hairy chest, so before he gets the shirt and the vest is covering most of his moobs Eddie nearly dies seeing his chest hair)

Or it goes B) where he’s had top surgery but it’s been a bit more recent. He’s still recovering and he has to awkwardly check his wrap his on properly before diving in. Like he shouldn’t be swimming either and he has to awkwardly explain what top surgery is to them. And robin who can’t help the jokes

“I thought you liked boobs!”

But just Steve being fully accepted. And after everything Eddie just sneaks some more baggy masculine clothes that Steve has been wanting to wear but weren’t preppy enough for his parents.

Like there is so much with this idea

(This all started because I pictured Steve with top surgery scars with Eddie’s vest, but also pre op steve with his vest is also equally as gender. Though do not feminize his chest or else I’ll bite you.)

#steddie #stranger things #eddie munson #steve x eddie #steve harrington #bxb #steveharrington #steveddie #eddie stranger things #steve and eddie #trans steve harrington #modern au #Steve and testosterone shots #trans steve in Eddie’s vest has me

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chrliekclly · 23 days

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if you ever want to talk about your thoughts on joyce .. Peeks over the corner of your blog. i love talking and hearing ppls thoughts on joyce sooo much even if they're different from my own!! and your analysis and stuff is always so well thought out

i hope u dont mind if i answer this publicly to take advantage of th request nd get my ideas out ther (also tyvm im happy u like my insane takes on these idiots, iv ben thinking abt them for almost 10 years)

i said a lot here so gnna 'read more' it

iv ben building trans charlie n my head fr, like i said, nearly 10 years. i used to view him as cis bcuz i always try to take as much frm th source material as i can wen i craft my HCs nd i had v personal (stupid) hangups insofar as him explicitly referring to his junk multiple times nd bottom surgery simply not being on my radar as a naive littl trans idiot deep in th sauce tht transmen oftn fall into w phallo being viewed so so poorly

evn still i leaned towards transmasc charlie nd always lovd moments tht let me imagine, for a moment, it being true, like his discomfort w taking off his shirt [hundred dollar baby, charlie kelly: king of the rats, the gang exploits the mortgage crisis, young charlie and mac deleted scenes, etc etc etc], or bonnie yelling abt ppl stealing her "charlie-girl" [the waitress is getting married] which i lovd to see as her accidentally misgendering him while drunk off her ass.

having grown out of my phallo issues (nd if ur reading this and u still view phallo super poorly, please do some research and grow too), ive in recent years fully subscribed to transmasc/nb charlie, and view his timeline something like this:

baby -> elementary: charlie refers to himself as a boy, doesnt "come out," simply has no idea he's afab. bonnie lets him dress however he wants and refers to him as asked. when charlie gets confused about his genitals, bonnie says his dick will grow in later lol, makes charlie wear a dress in public restrooms and tells him its just a game

middle: puberty hits and charlie gets confused and scared. bonnie puts him on blockers w.o explaining them ("my mom used to vaccinate me like every month" [the gang gets quarantined]) charlie goes on content and oblivious. STP acquired because hes "a late bloomer" and his dicks still not growing in?? weird. confides this in mac once, but he doesn't understand.

high: charlie finally registers that he's trans after forgetting theres a health class 1 day and not being able to skip it. throws him for a loop a bit but he becomes actively invested in his goals. he gets to start T and wants to have surgeries. "what guy hasnt done some extensive research on his own genitalia?" [mac is a serial killer]

college (aged): able to surgically transition (ty medicare) and continues on with life as we kno him now

joyce, imo, fits neatly into these views.

as a transmasc nb who came out young nd prefers to be seen as just A Guy by strangers, i grew up v vehemently against anything girly that might get me misgendered, but th more i began to 'pass,' th more @ home n my body i felt, th more and more comfortable i am w femininity, th more i wdnt mind putting on a dress, as long as th general public wd see me as "a man in women's clothes." n my mind, i prescribe something not exactly th same but v similar to charlie.

i see charlie "i dont really identify" kelly as afab and nb. i see joyce as a "character" he originally created to distance himself from the dysphoria of putting on a dress as a young trans boy, but that became part of him as the hard lines he drew in the sand as a child became blurry with age and self acceptance. charlie's comfort with himself allows joyce to evolve into a more solid persona, one he enjoys embodying and allowing to become a permanent facet of who he is. he's ok with being referred to as either. they're both him.

so maybe joyce comes out a bit more outside of the bathroom now.

#ask #pariskim #charlie kelly #joyce kelly #ramblings #i hav lots of thoughts nd feelings nd smday ill draw out charlie's whole timeline th way iv ben meaning to #th same way charlie holds th gang togethr charlie holds my whole viewpoint of iasip togethr #i gave myself a headache writing this post i spent more time xplaining my years of tboy charlie thinking than joyce im sry lmao #but i do lov her

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ccalhoun · 5 months

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Hihi! I was wondering if I can send a request of a Brahms Heelshire oneshot angst? The plot would be like you guys got into a fight of some sort, making him angry and violent. He would accidentally hit you or push you, or anything that can cause you death? What would be his reaction? You can decide that :D

If you decide to do it, thank you so much! No rush at all! Take your time and have a lovely day💕

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brahms heelshire x m!reader oneshot!

warnings: male reader, can be trans or cis, toxic brahms (its brahms lets be real), arguing, mutual comfort, mentions of blood, descriptions of abandonment, hurt to comfort

wc: 900+

cut for length!

you stormed out of your room, brahms following quickly behind you.

"wait, please! just listen to me! why are you so upset?" brahms' voice was a mix between begging and yelling at you. he was horrified you were going to abandon him and leave him (how would be survive without you)? however, he also thought you were being irrational, how bad was it really that he killed the most recent grocery boy? its not like he deserved to live, how could someone like him try to flirt on someone like you? it was disgusting, really, he views you as an angel, a higher being when all you really do is love him and sort of put up with his stalker-y bullshit. he couldn't let such a lowlife entertain the idea of doing impure things with you, obviously he had to kill the man.

"brahms! just leave me alone, i need to be alone, okay?" you snapped, still keeping you voice low but sharp. brahms let out an almost noiseless growl, barely hearing it himself.

"what's gotten into you? why aren't you listening to me?" brahms' tone now had more of an angry tone, you backed up slightly out of fear. you knew brahms loved you and just had problems with getting told no and being in healthy relationships, but he was still scary. and unstable. almost like you predicted it, he shoved you, hard, and you hit your head on the edge of a small hall table holding a vase with plastic flowers in them. the vase quickly fell off as well, smashing on the floor next to your hand. the sound not only scared you, but also made you flinch and get a few pieces of glass in the palm of your hand.

"damn!" you shouted out of shock before staying seated and trying to take deep breaths so you didn't pass out. brahms just looked at you in shock, millions of thoughts running through his head. his hands were shaking and his heart was beating in his ears, he started silently crying without even thinking about it. "brahms?" you whispered softly once you got your breathing under control and noticed the poor horrified man.

the sound of your voice woke him from his mini coma, looking at your face before starting to sob. his first thought was to get you a rag with water on it and some bandages, since thats what you used to clean him up when he got scraped. he quickly ran off to get the items despite your yelling for him to come back.

you wanted to get up and try to find him but you felt way too dizzy, you were just gonna have to wait until you could stand and walk around. hey, at least maybe he'd be more calmed down by the time you actually do find him! you started to doze off without realizing it when you heard the sound of him softly stepping close to you. your eyes slightly opening wider to look at the man in front of you. he was holding what looked like a cloth of sort and a box of band-aids, how sweet.

he carefully and slowly knelt down, making sure to avoid any of the glass on the ground. you quickly noticed the glint of silver in his hands and realize he was holding your tweezers, you instantly thought of the time he got a splinter and you used the same tweezers to get the small piece of wood out of his hand. you wanted to cry in a good way, he was being sweeter than normal and you missed seeing him like this.

"i'm so sorry," his voice was shaky and slow as he started to carefully and slowly look for glass in the cuts on your arm, trying his best to clean it up and make sure you'd be ok. it was at this point you realized he was still crying, it must have really freaked him out. your heart filled with warmth as you looked at the poor man, scaring himself because he's still trying to learn, him apologizing at all is a massive step. you were less scared, now just convinced you could help him to be even better, and make this the last time this ever happens.

"it's ok, brahmsy," you made sure to add his nickname so he listened better, you knew he loved it when you called him any nicknames, "you're still learning, it's ok. you're helping me now, you're doing such a good job," his crying seemed to stop as he froze and looked at you. the tears started up again after a minute and he hugged you tightly, avoiding your arm, letting out small 'thank you's and 'i'm so sorry's. he really did feel bad. you gave him a soft kiss on the forehead before interrupting the soft moment.

"sorry to rush you, but can you go back to getting the glass out of my arm? i want to show you how to do it properly, if that's ok with you," you smiled softly at him and he nodded slowly, handing you the tweezers and towel, setting the box of band-aids on the floor closer to you. you showed him how to find glass, take it out, clean the cut, and carefully put on the right sized band-aid, once you knew his attention was fully drawn from what happened, you relaxed as well, just enjoying showing him how to help.

and he did listen, he was able to clean up the rest of your arm without any problems <3!

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#brahms heelshire #brahms heelshire x reader #brahms heelshire x male reader #brahms heelshire x you #male reader #hurt to comfort #angst #fluff #the boy 2016

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ghulehcirice · 6 months

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Papa Emeritus Headcanons

Primo

- I love the idea of Primo having had a secret prime mover whom he had a child with. Not wanting either of them to be used by the ministry like him and his own mother, he had to say goodbye to the love of his life. He wrote a song for her, he listens to it when he needs that comfort.

- No one really knows why this old man loves gardening so much. If you as him he’ll tell you it must have passed down to him from his mother. But that doesn’t explain the area of his garden that no one is allowed in..

- He doesn’t let many people help with the garden, just one or two ghouls to water the plants, and a few siblings of sun to help transporting the fresh herbs, fruits, and vegetables to the Ministries Kitchen.

- Primo is one of those stubborn old men, he likes having his freedom. Hardly uses the walker which Sister Imperator insists he uses.

- Primo has a bit of a soft spot for the children of the Ministry just like brothers, he designated a little spot in his garden for any children who may need some quiet time.

- Primo has been know to have another soft spot for some of the trans and non binary siblings of sin. He has a calming tea for dysphoria that he doesn’t distribute via the kitchen, rather he keeps in safe in the greenhouse stored in its walls. He only allows those who need it, the location.

Secondo

- No matter how scary this man looks, kids fucking love him. No one’s really sure why but if the Papas are attending an event where there are children, most of them will rush for Papa Emeritus II. Not that he seems to mind that much.

- Secondo has a poodle, fight me.

- I’m sorry but if no one else will say it, I will. This motherfucker drips in that “scary trans man” juice.

- He was the entire reason Primo began keeping the tea blend.

- Secondo has had to surgery but still wears his binder. If you don’t remind him to take it off, he will wear it until his nipples fall off.

- Despite all of that work Secondo has Moobs. The amount of times he has had people accidentally run into them is astounding.

- If you’re dating, He treats you like absolute ROYALTY. We all know what a party animal this guy is, but if you asked him to stop he would. This man is WHIPPED (honestly they all are)

Terzo

- Need I say this again? FRUITY.

- I don’t think anyone will fight me on this one, but there ain’t no way there wasn’t A FEW hookups between him and Omega. Maybe the others if he was feeling extra.

- Many people think Terzo was the first to actually treat the ghouls well but I don’t think that’s true. I like to think they’ve always been treated well but they weren’t really acknowledged by the public until Terzo.

- We all know Terzos rebellious but ive never heard anyone talk about this man probably got so many tattoos !! Secondo has some too, but he likes keeping them a surprise ;)

- Probably has a lot of stupid, small ones. Dates from his many nights drunk and playing truth or dare.

- Can’t tell me this man didn’t try and convince Copia into getting a tattoo when they were younger, eventually he relented and Copia picked. Terzo now has a little rat face on his rib cage.

- Despite how flirty Terzo shows himself to be, he can really be a good shoulder to cry on. Not to mention how good his hugs are.

Copia

- Oh rat man. When he first started being groomed for papacy, he was petrified. Sure he had been Employee of the Month many times, and Papa Nihils right hand many moons ago he was scared.

- He knew how beloved the papas before him were, and he couldn’t help but think little old Cardi C would never live up to them.

- No matter how much ~~His Mother~~ Sister Imperator said he deserved this just like they did.

- And thus Copia had to find his place in the ministry once again.

- It was almost refreshing for him at the same time, once he became papa he could shed from what everyone had known him as ever since he stopped wearing a sisters habit and begun wearing a Cardinals Cassock. He would be that shy little kid anymore. He was Papa Emeritus IV.

- The past papas took to him rather quickly, Terzo almost not recognizing Copia from their younger days.

- Primo gave him access to the tea hidden away in the green house, helping to make him a glass as the poor man scrambled to try and help the old man

- Secondo seemed as stoic as he was, but he seen himself in Copia. He gave him a few nudges and shoves without really letting anyone realize it.

#the band ghost #ghost band #papa emertius #papa secondo #papa emeritus iii #papa emeritus iv #papa emeritus ii #papa emeritus primo #ghost bc #headcanon

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soggywert · 2 years

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Top Gun: Maverick hcs that live in my head rent free (based off of imos and me and my life) Pt 4

you heard it here and now folks, it’s part 4! I have more commitment to this series than to my homework. yall are lucky af

- mav can and will flirt with anyone in any given situation; he will give petnames out the more the other reacts (cyclone getting pressed being called honey)

- maverick has a favourite spoon he always uses to eat breakfast with. it is patterned, and is from the last set he received from his parents before they passed. it means a lot to him, so if you use it, he’ll state: ‘that’s my spoon’ and then proceed to stare at you for the rest of the day. only ice knows this. everyone else just comments on not to use that spoon or else.

- the spoon has made him superstitious, so if he cannot use it for breakfast (when he does have breakfast...) it instantly means that he will have a shit day.

- maverick is usually a black coffee guy. straight black coffee. most mornings? just that. sometimes a proper meal if ice or roos nags enough, but mainly just coffee. ice has either an iced coffee (wow aren’t i original) or a latte.

- maverick, after showers, uses his towel to do his hair up to dry it quicker. his hair is too short for that, but he’s been doing to long enough that it’s too awkward to tell him that it won’t work it’s also just funny to see him walk out of a door with a towel wrapped around his head like if he had just come from a salon

- phoenix is everyone's best friend. if you don’t like her; you’re a walking target and that one is on you. she’s a fucking queen and y’all can’t tell me different.

- phoenix is also a great therapist friend, though, sometimes you gotta just give her a hug so she’s reminded that you’re just as there for her as she is you.

- hangman has dyslexia, but is too good at masking it until it comes to writing reports on paper. it’s his worst nightmare, so he usually gets help from rooster by saying what he is thinking and rooster helps write down the important parts for hangman to write on his own

- iceman is a sucker for romance novels and picks up random quotes in them to write on a piece of paper for mav to find, read and collect (based off of a hc @justmiilo made with our ocs)

- mav loves animals; he will be at a party and only hang out with the pet there; he will be dragged around by ice or goose to meet people, before departing back to the pet - loves dogs frfr

- ice is a cat person ice has said: “honestly i am more of a cat boy” the rest of the juniors trying not to cackle: youre a cat boy??

- rooster got mav high once and gave him a flipping heart attack (not actually) mav: bradley is this how im supposed to be feeling i dont know if ive hit right rooster: chill man just relax, youre gonna give yourself a heart attack mav, now really panicking: im gonna have a heart attack???? rooster: no thats not what i- mav: UN-HIGH ME RIGHT NOW BRADLEY PLEA-

- Mav is banned from most public spaces especially train stations. very specific, but he’s made it a thing that he has to get banned from as many stations as possible

- ice and mav cuddling includes mav squaring up to be the big spoon but then melting in ice’s arms when he gets to be little spoon

- mav loves captain jack harkness from doctor who/ torchwood

- hangman complains about when he kisses rooster, his moustache gets in the way, but secretly, he doesnt mind it

- ice took mav to a wine couple art class (based off of the idea that ice can draw from my other hcs) and mav drank the wine while ice did the art

- mav helped bob get out of his comfort zone, to start not wearing a shirt around the beach (based off of the trans!mav and trans!bob hcs) so now they go visit the beach together sometimes to help grow each others confidence (like if mav needs anymore). theyve both had top surgery so

- goose has had a soccer phase, and would make the crew go into teams of two after volleyball to kick the ball around. he loved playing attack, so he could be in the front seat of the action for once.

- mav joined in, but was soon told to just stay in his teams box, because he would run all the way across the field to tackle the ball off of someone yes, soccer doesn’t allow tackling, but mav never got the message in his head, so they just added it to their games. mav then proceeded to become the most tackled person there.

- slider and ice are the biggest supporters of one anothers careers; they see each other like brothers so much it is crazy.

- mav and slider ride their bikes together (slider has a harley)

- ice usually goes out collecting either a drunk slider or a drunk mav off the side of the road

- THIS IS A POPULAR ONE BUT HC THAT ICE RARELY EVER GETS SICK, SO WHEN HE DOES IT TAKES EVERYONE BY SURPRISE - MAV ALSO GETS SICK OFTEN, BUT ITS NEVER THAT BIG. WHEN ITS MORE SERIOUS, EVERYONE IS ONTO HIM TO TRY LOOKING AFTER HIMSELF

- mav teaches the team MA fighting. he dared cyclone to go into a match with him; ends up cyclone is a secret MA fighting genius and mav got his ass beat. the whole team watched.

- cyclone and mav are close from just having to deal with each other. mav giving cyclone headaches, while cyclone gives mavs lectures brought them together. they share a beer here and there at a local bar when they can

- mav hates the city. like, really hates it. over stimulates from it hard.

- mav has ocd; those instrusive thoughts can sometimes be hard for him to control, which can sometimes explain why he does some erratic moves. he never got diagnosed about it till later in life.

- mav and commitment issues follow him everywhere for everything

- when hangman and rooster are exploring areas to carve their initials into around the base, they find mavs and ices old ones (yes, multiple) hidden behind a few desks

- ice dyes his hair to be bleach blonde; it’s actually a golden blonde but he hates it, so he makes it bleach blonde. mav likes his hair either way, but makes fun of ice when he dyes his hair. ice doesnt take kindly to this one day, mav was asleep and woke up with bleached highlights to his hair from ice. he wore a cap everywhere for months

(Part 4/?)

hope you enjoyed these head cannons! i want to do some more when i have the time, but for now, i might try drawing some of these out :)

got any suggestions? leave them down in the comments below! thank you for supporting the series so far!

start here at part 1!: https://www.tumblr.com/blog/view/hangman-puzzlesolver/692152151697473536?source=share

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sa1t0r1 · 1 year

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wondering if you would do hc’s of mercs w reader that comes out to them as trans? happy new years btw man!

Coming out as trans to the mercs

I am so sorry I can’t even lie but I totally forgot about this page also this might not be entirely accurate because I’m a cis guy, I apologise if anything sounds inaccurate </3 I did try to research a little bit before writing this though so I hope I’m using the right terminology

I tend to repeat myself a bit sometimes as well so these might start to sound similar at points

Scout

He is so clueless, he’s never considered that maybe some people aren’t happy in their bodies before. The concept is foreign to him so you’re going to have to sit him down and explain the ins and outs thoroughly. Once he wraps his head around it he’s very conscious of catering to your new identity wether it’s through gifting you things to help you pass or through trying his best to refer to you with the correct name and pronouns (although he will definitely slip up for the first few months, you’re going to have to correct him sometimes)

Soldier

Similar to Scout, he is very uneducated and might need some help fully comprehend the topic at hand. It might take longer to get Soldier to understand though, he’s a little bit slow. Once he understands he is very happy to refer to you with labels that validate your gender more although he doesn’t think before he speaks, he’s a very sporadic person so he’s going to slip up a lot at first. Despite his little mistakes he would do his best to correct the others frequently and make sure you’re comfortable. After you first come out to him he runs off to begrudgingly find either Spy or Medic to ask for advice on what he can do for you.

Pyro

Pyro is a little bit different to the others, they understand your situation but as they’re muffled by their gas mask you can’t quite hear how they refer to you unless they’re signing. They are, however, very happy to switch the gendered signs they use when talking to or about you. They don’t mess up at all, it’s very easy for them to accept you and they’re happy to sit and listen to you talk about any troubles you might experience.

Heavy

He understands but if you can’t explain it in Russian you might need the help of a translator for him to connect the dots. He’s foreign but he’s not stupid, he has heard of people struggling with dysphoria before and he’s very sorry you have to experience that. He takes the information with a grain of salt in that he feels terrible knowing you feel discomfort, as a result he does the upmost to help you through giving you tips on how to present better and clothing that better suits your true gender.

Engineer

Engineer has a vague idea of what you go through but he urges you to teach him more about it, he’s very curious and would love to know how he can help you feel happier. He adjusts to the changes pretty fast and once he does he helps to correct and educate the rest of the team.

Demoman

Demo is similar to engineer but he’s going to need a little bit more thorough of an explanation. He gets the hang of it after a week and he goes out of his way to incorporate more pronouns into his sentences just so he can validate you. He’s happy to go shopping with you rather than surprising you with gifts, he wants to see the smile on your face as you try on things you’re comfortable with.

Spy

Already familiar with the topic and understands your situation. Being rich he’s very happy to buy you anything that will help you feel more comfortable with yourself and ease your dysphoria. He’s definitely one of the better mercs when it comes to keeping up with your name and pronouns, he doesn’t forget often and when he does he’s quick to correct himself and apologise to you. Overall he’s both very respectful and very helpful.

Medic

Very familiar with the topic, he hasn’t helped treat dysphoria before but he’s delighted to offer his help. He would eagerly offer you top surgery (deny him, it’s a terrible idea and he just wants to experiment on your organs) aside from that he’s respectful and mindful when it comes to your name and pronouns. He would do his best to give you gender affirming care when he realises how important it is to you, he’s happy to assist in your hormone therapy if you ask and if you don’t he will research the treatment and suggest it to you.

Sniper

He has as very limited knowledge on your situation, he tries his best but he messes up frequently and it eats away at him every time. If he screws up he will apologise to you for 5 minutes straight as he knows how hard it is for you, he’s very sincere and it’s clear that he’s trying his best. Eventually he gets the hang of it though. Similar to Pyro he offers a seat in his van to you wherever you want to tell him more and vent to him about your troubles with dysphoria or transphobia in public. Hearing about your negative experiences never fails to make him angry.

#tf2 headcanons #tf2 x reader #headcanons #tf2 medic #tf2 demoman #tf2 engineer #tf2 heavy #tf2 pyro #tf2 scout #tf2 soldier #tf2 spy #tf2 sniper #team fortress 2 headcanons

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mlm-writer · 2 years

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Beyond Saving (Dick Grayson x M!Reader)

Pairing: Dick Grayson/Nightwing (Young Justice ver.) x Hunky Male Reader (trans-friendly) For the pride prompt: Perfectly straight man finds something awakening in him after getting picked up like he weighted nothing by hunky reader Rating: Teen and Up Words: 693 POV: Third Summary: You find Dick with a broken leg on your morning run and then carry him to your car to get him to a hospital. Dick never realised before that being manhandled is really hot. Notes: Happy Pride! See all works for pride 2022 here. Only thing specified about the reader’s looks is that he is jacked af. Tags: gay awakening, reader is a dudebro, Dick is having a sexuality crisis, it is short and kinda cute, fluff I guess, meet cute and Dick is basically looking at the reader like ‘oh no he’s hot’

Thinking about it, it was kind of ridiculous. He fought criminals on a daily basis, worked with and against metas and got at least once a week punched by an alien. All that and yet it seemed his way to go was starving to death in a sinkhole in the woods with a broken leg. It was a nasty fall. He shouldn’t have gone running while texting. “Help,” he sighed, knowing that he was the only one out here at four - or maybe it was five already - in the morning. He had no idea what time it was. His phone had broken as well, when he fell on it.

The sun had started to make itself known, when Dick heard footsteps of another runner. “Anybody out there? Please! I need some help over here!” However, just as quickly as the footsteps had appeared, they passed by. Dick cursed to himself. Not only did he have to hope for someone to pass by, but also for them to not be wearing earphones. His leg hurt like hell, but he kept his hopes up. One of those people had to be his golden ticket out of here and to a hospital.

The eighth runner that passed by seemed to stop at Dick’s screams for help, motivating him to yell some more. “I am down here in the sinkhole! My leg is broken!” He looked up to the bright morning sky, the blue as blinding as it was beautiful. To accompany this natural elegance, a man hung his head above the hole Dick found himself in. “Hey, a hand please?” Dick called out again.

The man pulled his other earphone out of his ear. “That doesn’t look good, buddy,” he called down, before his head disappeared. Dick was about to cuss him out for just leaving him there, but then the man full on jumped down. His powerful legs left deep footprints in the dirt where he landed. Dick watched in awe as the strong individual approached him and knelt down to look at his leg. “Yes, that’s very broken,” he commented, before looking up, captivating Dick with his mesmerising eyes. “But don’t worry, I’m going to get you out of here and to a hospital.”

Dick wasn’t sure what it was. Maybe it was just this man being his saviour, but there was something about the assuring confidence in his eyes that brought heat to Dick’s face. “Th… thanks. I’m uh… I’m Dick, by the way.” The man gave his own name, before doing something Dick never thought he would witness anyone do. As if he was made out of packaging foam, the guy lifted him up like he weighed nothing to him and swung Dick across his shoulders. The superhero was at a loss of words as the man climbed up the side of the hole and walked down the trail at a fast pace that did not jostle him too much.

Dick was aware of the people seeing them, but he was more aware of those strong arms holding him in place and solid shoulders radiating heat. He was positively gobsmacked, unsure of how he felt about the situation, but also pretty sure he wanted this man to manhandle him for the rest of his life. “You okay up there, Dick? You’re awfully quiet.”

“Yeah, I’m… I’m fine, thanks. Just not used to being uh… carried like this.” The man let out a hearty chuckle that vibrated through his body. Dick could feel it.

“Yeah I can understand that, you’re built like a log man! When your leg has recovered, you could pay me back by sharing your workout routine.” “I’m amenable to that.”

Was he being too forward? He did not really care. As long as this was not the only time he got to speak with this Adonis, he would gladly go to the gym with his guy. They could spar… in the gym… and… other places… Dick was gently put into the back of a nice, but old looking car and driven to the hospital nearby. His leg would be fine. His heterosexuality, on the other hand, was beyond saving.

#dick grayson #Young Justice #dick grayson x reader #dick grayson x male reader #yj #dc #dc x reader #dc x male reader #dc x you #dc x y/n #male reader #pride #pride month #pride 2022

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symbioticsimplicity · 1 year

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I’m in the business of pissing people off so trans!Steve

Stephanie Harrington started requesting to be called Stevie at first because like her mom, she was a fan of Stevie Nicks and wanted to be just like her. Her mom was thrilled by this and the nickname stuck really easily, to the point that by second grade outside of teachers and doctors almost nobody knew she had a full name.

By the time she got to third grade it was apparent to her that she did not like the set of things girls were supposed to do. Sure, there were a few things she liked, like getting her hair done and helping her mom cook and some of the songs her Dad distastefully called “women’s taste”. But dresses? Sitting politely through church services instead of running around outside like the boys were? Burping quietly? Dresses????! No, those were not for her.

She figured out what a tomboy was around fourth grade, despite her father’s constant disapproval and her mother’s repeated attempts to get her into something “propper”, she was stubborn enough to wear them both down. One of the few times she ever dug her feet in and refused to budge in her entire life. She didn’t care what else her family asked of her, would do it without complaint, if they allowed her this one thing.

The summer before middle school she cut her hair short. She cried, her mom cried, her Dad wasn’t there but she was sure if he had been, he would have made some sort of comment she wouldn’t want to hear. After the initial emotion of it passed, she found she liked her hair better this way. It was easier to deal with, and actually made her face stand out more. It the first time the little heavy feeling in her chest she couldn’t name eased a little bit.

In her second year of middle school she met Tommy. Tommy is everything she’s ever admired. She thought she had a crush on him for the longest time, couldn’t explain why else her eye would be so drawn to him in certain outfits that emphasized his shoulders or the narrow taper of his waist. But thinking about kissing him made her want to gag so she stayed confused enough to powder a little bit of tension into their friendship.

It’s not until the summer before high school that she figured it out, and only by total accident.

She walked past a TV shop, playing all different kinds of movies all at once. She wouldn’t normally have stopped but there was one playing a movie she’d never seen before. Later she’d learn it was the Rocky Horror Picture Show, but at the time she just recalled seeing a man dressed as a woman and thinking “YOU CAN JUST DO THAT?!”

She thought about it for weeks after, the idea of just being able to dress up as the opposite gender. Of what it would be like to have people see her as a guy. The more she thought about it, the more she wanted it like she had never wanted anything before. And Stevie Harrington was nothing if not determined when she put her mind to something.

She spent the entire summer at the library, researching anything she could think of to find out a way to make this work. She ended up researching history more than anything those first couple weeks, finding out that her feelings weren’t exactly new. That there were people going all the way back to ancient Greece who thought like she did. That it was something while not necessarily normal, it was still something humans just did sometimes.

She’d cried a lot that summer, but she’d also made a plan.

The first time she asked Tommy just to call her Steve, he’d given her a weird look but he’d done it. The first time she’d asked him to start calling her ‘he’ though...that had been a talk.

She’d never told a soul about what she’d learned and how she felt, had never really worked up the courage to start referring to herself as ‘himself’ even in her head before that. But Tommy hadn’t been hostile, just really really confused. Once she’d explained it, he just nodded and said that it reminded him of the way he thought he should be taller and wore lifts to fix it.

It wasn’t the grandest acceptance speech she’d ever heard but it was better than expected.

Steve’s first year of High School was the first year he started living as himself.

It was grating, the disadvantage of having been popular growing up is that everybody knew her and everybody judged him for it. Honest to God if it weren’t for Tommy he wasn’t sure he could have dealt with it. Tommy was like a guard dog, snapping at anyone who was fool enough to mess with Steve. He was witty enough about it, antagonistic enough to the right people too, that they stayed roughly as popular as they used to be.

Steve didn’t stop researching. His parents hadn’t been home often enough in the last couple years to drop remarks on his growing sense of masculinity. He didn’t get made fun of enough in school to really feel too bad about it. And while a councilor had taken him aside and asked him what was going on, she’d also given him the number of a professional psychologist to call.

Steve had been wary, of course he had, he wasn’t actually stupid. But he’d called all the same, since was sure the councilor would be following up with him later. The last thing he needed was her calling his parents instead.

The psychologist he talked to was surprisingly knowledgeable. Sure, he called it a ‘disorder’ which rubbed Steve the wrong way, but he told him that there were treatments for it too. Things to help make him feel more masculine, which wasn’t what he’d been expecting but the prospect was too good to ignore.

By sophomore year of high school, Steve had officially started HRT. He’d snuck the consent form into his Dad’s stack of business papers, knowing he’d sign it without looking. He’d done the same with the waver for the surgery he’d known he’d wanted as soon as he’d heard of it. No more binding, no more sore ribs or aching back. His medical bills were easily explained away as sports related injuries to parents who weren’t there to take him to the appointments anyway.

Steve had finally reached a level where he felt comfortable with himself. The people around him seemed to have mostly forgotten they’d known him any other way, and the few that hadn’t were now too frightened of him too to start shit about it.

His life was about as good as it could be, he thought.

And then the summer of ‘83 came.

#trans!steve harrington #stranger things #this got much longer than I meant it to be as usual #i'm making characters trans and no one can stop me #your faves are trans now sorry not sorry

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nofoundboy · 2 years

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I'm a trans guy and struggle with my dysphoria which leads to panic attacks. Could I get a one-shot where Norman comforts to reader during a panic attack? Pet names are always good also thank you :)

I'm so sorry for the lateness, I wasn't in my best state but now I'm here, I hope you really like it

Tw: Panic attacks due to dysphoria

It started to get very cold in the place. You were in the living room, which had once felt comforting and familiar, now it seemed to shrink as you spent more and more minutes in there.

Your mood hadn't been the best in the morning, and Norman's absence didn't improve it either. You had thought that reading would help a little, but the feeling began to become much more oppressive.

Your image on any reflective surface looked stranger, weird, more and more wrong. As if you were distorted every time you looked at yourself.

Hurtful words, voices from the past mixed with your own began to crowd your head, putting a weight on your shoulders that, as the minutes passed, felt much more suffocating.

You felt your breathing hitch to the point where your hyperventilation echoed in the room.

"I brought the juice you told me" You heard Norman's pleasant voice in the distance, coming in from his grocery shopping.

You couldn't respond, you could barely even think. You tried to speak, to utter just one word, but a choked sound was the only thing that managed to come out of your lips.

"Y/N?" The voice came closer until you noticed his feet. You had no idea how you had ended up on the carpet, staring at Norman's polished shoes to try to focus on something, anything that would keep your mind from wandering completely.

Norman knew immediately what it was about. After enough time in the relationship, you had trusted him with everything about yourself, the good and the bad, what hurt you.

"Honey, put your hands up, over your head," Norman said, his voice clear and firm.

You did, quickly. Your breathing was still as hectic, but at last you felt the storm of thoughts and feelings subside.

"Count to ten" Norman moved closer to you, as he always used to do. He avoided hugging you, holding you against him so as not to overwhelm you, that too you had explained to him.

Instead, he sat cross-legged in front of you, placing his hand gently on your knee.

"Thank you..." You replied once your breathing had stabilized. You lowered your arms, which were already burning with fatigue. Norman smiled.

You knew he was thinking. He was probably starting to blame himself for not being with you.

"Is it apple juice?" you asked, changing the subject to his shopping.

"Uh, yeah! It is" you made sure to take his hands, smiling broadly.

"Perfect! Shall I help you with dinner?" Norman brought your hand to his lips. Timidly, he placed a kiss on your knuckles.

"Yes, thank you," he stared at you for a while longer, until, seeming to take courage, he said in the same firm voice he used to speak to you during the bad episodes.

"You are the most capable, smartest and handsome man I have ever met, I want you to know that, okay?" you felt the way your cheeks started to hurt thanks to the huge smile those words of your sweet partner had brought out of you.

"Norman..." you leaned over and kissed his lips, as if you wanted to pass on to him all the pleasant emotions you were feeling.

You knew you could always rely on him.

#slasher fandom #slashers #slasher x reader #slasher headcanons #norman bates #norman bates x reader #norman bates headcanons #norman bates x male reader #norman bates x transmasc reader

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pansyboybloom · 3 months

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I think maybe my tone and language may out sent the wrong message because I agree with you and a lot of the points you are saying. We probably also are just in different spaces online and my use of the term "anti trans masculinity" was wrong and misconstrued.

When I say anti trans masculinity, I don't mean anti trans men. I mean anti masculinity in the context of being trans. Probably not the best term.

My "not immune to terf propaganda" was taken out of context. I'm saying that I've seen a lot of trans people online still propagate the idea of trans women are predatory and ugly for being masculine, and trans men are victims of grooming. Especially with poc trans people. Black trans women are almost immediately clocked as groomers, even by fellow trans women.

I've seen other transmascs fall into a pipeline of "feminine transboys are the only valid ones", with those transboys tell others that masculine features are disgusting. I've seen transmascs hold off from transitioning because they are scared to turn "ugly". Because feminine = attractive and masculine = ugly.

Also I talked about the uwu cunt boy fetish of trans men because it's become incredibly more popular, including in "trans friendly" spaces from what I have seen. I didn't mean to say that trans women aren't fetishized, they most definitely are. Trans people are very much seen as a kink to a lot of people.

While you are fair to call bs on my claim that transfems are ripped apart if they don't immediately transition, I have seen it. Though I definitely did word that statment wrong. I've seen trans women online post videos of them in makeup and wearing wigs, then a video of them out of that, and told in the comments that they "look prettier when passing", "you should only do content while passing", and "be glad you aren't a man anymore".

While we can agree to disagree about transmen experiencing a specific kind of bigotry (oppression wasn't a good word), I was talking about the very small communities of trans women saying that trans men are "betraying them", and how that isn't an excuse to turn around and be misogynistic to them. Even if a transfem is saying something slightly annoying, transmen will rip her apart.

I'm sorry that my anons came off the wrong way. Also not trying to immediately push off the blame to me being uneducated. I try my best to hold up my transfem friends and I do try call out fellow trans guys for being misogynistic.

once again giving the heads up that the schizo word/brain salad is making articulation hard and that my hand tremors are really bad today, so any tone or misspellings or anything is bc of that! just in case

thank you for your reply, i know my own was super long, so i appreciate you taking the time to read and digest that giant wall of words. i hope it didn't come across as aggressive, as that wasn't my intent (i hate to keep giving the same excuse, but I'm schizo spec and have a very hard time articulating myself)

i will agree that we are likely in different areas online-- I've actually made it my new year resolution to spend less (for lack of a better word) time in online spaces and more irl (PFLAG has been wonderful to me <3) so I'm a little behind on the attitudes on tumblr, so to speak, and was coming more from what I've seen in person and in literature (once again recommending whipping girl! it is a great place to start on transfeminist theory, though it is long. if that's something you're interested in, Julia Serano, the author, reads her audiobook and you can likely find it at your local library/on libby)

I apologize that i didn't realize the context of the terf comment! that's on me. I agree that a lot of trans people regurgitate the "trans women are predatory and ugly for being masculine, and trans men are victims of grooming". the amount of trans men i have seen (specifying trans men since that's the space i spend the most time in) who have detransitioned into 'dysphoric females' and buy into the sudden onset dyphoria theory so they can have more of a community with radfems.... shudders. I think this serves as an example of how the unique experiences trans men have can turn into bigotry. not excusing trans men who go full radfem's actions, bc they are hurtful and dangerous, but i see radfems twist a lot of young trans men's fears surrounding men developed by the sex binary and sex essentialism to convince them they are being groomed and have to stay women or will lose their whole community/safe space. i see this a LOT with young adult straight trans men who are so scared of being rejected by their lesbian radfem community that they turn on fellow trans people. as i said in the last ask, the idea that women are 'abandoning' their girlies to go be with the enemy is definitely dangerous when put to the extreme by communities like radfems. i wouldn't call it a systemic transmisandery (or similar word) issue as much as i would a symptom of misogyny, essentalism, & transphobia, but it should be something we as a community talk about, esp since these 'dysphoric females' genuinely hurt the rest of us. especially since, in my experience, these communities tend to be predominately white, so like you said, Black trans women get the brunt of the vileness. the whole community at large has failed Black trans women and fems, and transmisgoynoir is something that must become the forefront of community discussion.

okay back on track lol.

i misunderstood your point on the 'fem tboy is the only valid one' earlier, so sorry. trans men as a community most certainly do that to other trans men, but, just speaking as a gnc trans man, I've noticed that like, it comes less from a fear of masc-ness and instead from a fear of fatness/loss of conventional attractiveness and also this misunderstanding of gnc as a whole. not wanting to start t bc 'i'll get fat/i'll go bald/i'll have to stop wearing skirts' is a fear i see a LOT in pre t gnc trans men circles, especially the young ones, and i think that really shows how we as a community have failed young trans men. i think by showing love for fatness/bears, 'non conventionally attractive' men, be it balding, acne, whatever, and showing how to play with gender outside of fem/masc would solve that problem, or start to. but that's just coming from my perspective as a white, fat, gnc gay guy, so i cant speak for everyone and every trans kid.

and oh my god just adding onto the 'cuntboi' thing-- as a guy who wants phallo, the idea that we're all white thin sexually ambiguous bottoms who enjoy vaginal penetration makes me want to eat my pants. i think that affects all trans people-- femininity is synonymous with submission, sex, and fetish for a lot of people-- it def is frustrating when you see even other trans guys perpetuate it. i think it's less a hate of masculinity and more a fetishizing of femininity and using that fetish to fetishize trans men. it's like how autogynophilia is used all the time to denounce trans women but autoandrophilia is rarely mentioned for us, bc why would we want to be men during sex? we're all bottom-submissive cunt boys, we would never want to imagine and get off on being men during sex!! that's why im not the biggest believer in autoandrophilia being a modern internet problem as much as it could be.

As for your comment on trans women getting ripped apart for not passing: i personally think that is a product of effemimania, which is a term Julia Serano coined in Whipping Girl (i know, i know, this is like the 5th time I've mentioned it) to describe our cultural obsession with “male femininity,” specifically the manner in which such expressions are routinely sensationalized, rigorously policed, and pathologized, instead of any specific anti trans masculinity. Basically, it is spurred on by an obsession with what womanhood looks like and a near fetishistic need to watch trans women practice it the way you want them too to enforce control over them.

once agian, thanks for reaching out. i'm glad to know we could have a conversation, ya know? if you have any other questions, don't hesitate to reach out again

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Hello to my fave polypunk blog!

Now, it's totally okay if you don't feel like giving advice on the matter, since it's not directly about poly relationship stuff (although I am), but, I've got no better ideas on who to ask since my partners have all pretty much shrugged and been like "IDK I don't know the best play here either." But yeah, feel totally free to just leave this one in the ask box.

So, theoretically, if you were a trans guy flirting with a gay man over the web who has never seen you, how would you go about gauging his interest in trans guys without necessarily implicating yourself and ruining whatever image he's got of you in his head?

Technically, I suppose it doesn't matter, since I doubt we'll ever really meet. But it would be nice to be able to flirt without like, avoiding mentioning aspects of your own body, hence, wanting to find out. But also, it's fun to be casually flirty, and it would be sad and would hurt if he suddenly viewed me as a girl and started treating me like one. So I'd rather keep the illusion of being a cis guy alive for him if he doesn't have interest in trans bodies. Not because I want to "trick" him, but more because, since we're never gonna meet anyway, I'd rather he imagine me as a cis boy than a girl, and therefore talk to me as one, because it's been cathartic to have that kind of unhesitant acceptance of my masculinity.

Again, ultimately, it doesn't really matter. It's casual, for fun, unserious flirting. It's fun enough as it is, and we both know it isn't gonna go anywhere so a little bit of feeding into a fantasy isn't really a problem. I can keep playing the role of a guy who has been a guy the whole time. But it would be doubly nice to let that last bit of guard down.

As it stands, I've already often mentioned that "people mistake me for a girl all the time", and that "puberty didn't treat me well so I never got a deep voice or any height, but at least it gave me a fat ass and nice tits in exchange", and shown my tiny delicate hands after mentioning how they aren't very manly-looking, which aren't particularly damning factors on their own, but I feel like if I outright ask how he feels about trans guys after all that, the pieces are gonna click and change his mental picture of me whether or not I want him to change it yet, so I was hoping you might be able to think of a subtler method.

No I totally feel that. That’s why it’s so much easier for me to be like online as a trans guy (ish) instead of like irl because like. I do not pass at all. And right now I’m not looking to pass. But when I have an unrealistic crush on a gay guy a part of me always wants to be like “hey… ya like… boys… who don’t look like boys… or sound like boys… or ID as boys 90% of the time….” Like yeah the amont of gay dudes I have a crush on is. Sad. Like. Yeah.

I’m in kind of a similar place, perhaps like a tangential place, where I’ve been playing the “no gender, no problem” game a bit and I kinda wanna be like. Actually yeah this is my gender.

Like it’s nice when people online see you as just “a guy”, not cis, not trans, etc. Or see you as not even a girl or a guy just a person. I think it can be subtle enough if you can say something like “so do a lot of gay guys date pre-op trans guys or is it like they gotta have a dick and if that’s the case do they date a lot of post-op trans guys?”

Or, go the “character” route where you pick a [identity] character and talk about them. Like, this is SUCH a bad example but I know in 911 Lone Star there’s an arc where a trans guy is trying to date and he gets outed or outs himself or something and it goes bad because the trans thing like idk bringing it up as a “fictional character” is something I’ve seen suggested for polyamory and also suggested for polyamory. I hope that makes sense.

Or you could talk about how YOU have dated trans people and see where that leads. Like “yeah I dated a trans guy once it was great” and they maybe say something idk.

I hope something like that helps and as always if anyone else has any advice I’m open to them dropping it.

#punk gets mail #the punk gives advice

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olderthannetfic · 2 years

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Can confirm, as a fan of anime and who's done some research for fic, the stereotype for a gay man I usually see isn't a feminine twink, it's a cartoonishly buff man wearing garish make-up, loud clothing, and with visible stubble, exaggeratedly feminine body language, and usually making aggressive passes at men (especially younger, "obviously straight" men) because "oh no! this man is propositioning to our straight character and not taking no as an answer! what a pervert!" and then everyone makes shocked faces. Once you start noticing it's hard not to. Like, look at the entire character of Puri-Puri Prisoner from One-Punch Man who's entire theme and design is "gay superhero who's in prison for sexually assaulting guys" for an example and you'll get a good idea. The only character type in Japanese media or (anime at least) I have seen even infrequently that holds some vague resemblance to the "feminine = predatory homosexual" stereotype we have in the West are characters like Orochimaru or Hisoka who are rather slim, androgynous character's and who's sadism and obsession with often young male characters can cross into sounding kind of sexual at time but... I honestly don't think that's how they were intended to come across. They're just meant to be creeps.

(tbh the make-up and feminine or loud clothing combined with obviously masculine traits such as stubble or muscles in a way clearly meant to inspire discomfort or amusement reminds me of a lot of negative stereotypes in the West against trans women)

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Are you simplifying this for my benefit?

The stereotype we were talking about previously was the sort of thing you'd expect to see in gei komi. That tends to be more like a chubby bear with a buzz cut.

The stereotype you mention above is of an "okama" and is found more in mainstream anime aimed at a presumed straight audience. I'll reblog satans-tiddies' famous post after this.

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ragecndybars · 1 year

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hello gonna slide in here with 🍉🍌🍈

sorry for the wait, i misclicked close instead of post and had to rewrite this 😭 thanks for the ask! <3

🍉 Do you prefer to write short fics or long fics? Multichaptered works or single ones? Why?

I tend to go for oneshots, although the length of said oneshots can get... a little out of hand... 😅 I like to write stories that mainly focus on one event, or else several short connected scenes, because it's very easy for me to get bogged down in small details and ruin the pacing of a longer work that's trying to have a more fleshed-out overarching plot, y'know? I do still like to meddle in chapter fics from time to time, though!

🍌 In your opinion, what’s the funniest joke/reference/pun you’ve made in a fic?

I'm not one to crack many outright jokes in my fics, but I do try to sprinkle some humor throughout. I suppose what came to mind first was the moments from my akimina fic where Akihiko briefly wonders which ones are called stalagmites and which ones are stalactites, but doesn't ask Mitsuru because he knows she'll make fun of him if he does, only for Junpei to ask a minute later and immediately be made fun of. Poor guy, lmao

🍈 Who’s your blorbo and what are some of your favorite headcanons/ideas about them that repeatedly show up in your fics? Free pass to rant about blorbo opinions.

I hope you're aware that this question made me enter my second phase, and my attack patterns are about to get much more difficult to dodge. Enjoy the orchestral arrange of my theme song while I go on my requisite evil monologue.

AKIHIKO SANADA. FROM HIT JRPG PERSONA 3 FOR THE PLAYSTATION 2, AS WELL AS ITS REMASTERS, PERSONA 3 FES FOR THE PS2 AND PERSONA 3 PORTABLE FOR THE PLAYSTATION PORTABLE, ALSO AVAILABLE ON THE PLAYSTATION VITA, AND SOON ON MOST MODERN CONSOLES, INCLUDING PC.

He is my everything and here are my headcanons that I do not shut up about in my fics <3

He's an extremely focused person, but his focus is the kind of hyperfocus where he gets tunnel vision and becomes extremely inattentive to his surroundings. So he can focus on things like battle or studying with ease, but he can come off as a little airheaded at times because he's filtering out everything else. ADHD king, what can I say?

He worries about the others, much like the other members of the Senpai Squad do, but his form of looking out for them involves more pushing them to be prepared than anything. For instance, if one of the other members of SEES were to get sick, while Mitsuru might call a doctor and Shinjiro might bring them medicine, Akihiko would be the type to start getting on them to get more vitamins, eat fruit, get exercise, are they getting enough sleep?, etc. Or, if they get hurt in battle, he might start pushing them to train or spar with him more often once they've recovered.

Similar to the above, he tends to take on a lot of responsibility, sometimes unnecessarily. So, while he might get on the others to train hard for battle, if they get injured, he'll be beating himself up about it -- not just for the fact that he couldn't protect them in the moment, but for the fact that he didn't get on their case even more about training. If they're unprepared, he thinks of that as his problem.

He can be very picky with his food. But some of the foods that he can tolerate are utterly unhinged. Read: whole lemons inside rice balls. My mans will eat straight protein powder without even mixing it into anything but he doesn't like burgers because the texture's weird. Autistic king, what can I say?

I think he has burn scars on his hands from the orphanage burning down in his childhood, which is part of the reason he wears gloves. :'(

Generally, he's not goaded very easily, but one trick that works on him almost without fail is to imply that he's "chickening out" or "being a wimp" when he refuses to do whatever stupid shit you're trying to goad him into. Competitive Nature Activated; Common Sense Immediately Discarded.

Trans Akihiko >>>> all those posts about characters who did their own top surgery are about him

ALRIGHT I GOTTA REIN IT IN A LITTLE BUT ONE MORE... he's the type to think out loud, even in front of other people, when he's lost in thought. Like, if Junpei says something that confuses him, he'll be mumbling "What is he talking about? Is he just being weird again?" while Junpei is literally standing right there

#thank you for the ask!!! even tho i lost my first response this was a lot of fun <3 #ask

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I suppose I'm ready to talk about this now. It's definitely like a novella of drama and shitty relationships, it's a commitment to read so buckle in if you want this tea.

I met somebody outside of the kin community and they coerced me into a relationship with them after years of entitled treatment ("I deserve you because I love you the most" type shit). Once I started identifying as kin, they did too. Not that they were actually kin, more they realized this was a way to exert control over me.

Kin was used against me as a manipulation tactic for years, they would always kin whoever they shipped with my kins. Regardless of who I was actually in love with, my kins were expected to pair off with their 'partner' kins, and I would be emotionally abused if I didn't pretend to be in love with theirs. If you, gentle reader, are thinking "that sounds like it fucking sucked", it's because it absolutely fucking sucked. I wasn't allowed to even post pictures of characters they perceived as 'competition' without them treating me like I had wronged them.

Years pass and my fear of being abused gives way to my exhaustion, and slowly I stop pretending I feel ways I don't feel to protect myself from their abuse. I get treated worse. I'm trying to get away from this person by no longer being what they want, but they expect more of me, they treat me like I'm doing them wrong because I don't have the will to perform the role they want me to anymore.

I'm no longer prime victim material. I'm bitter, I'm tired, I'm beginning to form my opinions independent of theirs, I disagree openly with them. Textbook abuser, treats me worse for the perceived slight that is me trying to establish boundaries, and begins cheating on me with my friends by claiming to be kin with every character my friends kins have crushes on, or were in relationships with. It's a 'coincidence' that they almost exclusively kin characters somebody they're after desires.

They pit me and my friends against each other to destabilize my friend group and force me out of it. They phase me out and start over with people who were primed for years of bullshit. Again, textbook abuse, this was how they started and ended every relationship I was aware of - by wearing a partner down until they got tired of poor treatment, and moving on to somebody who believed they had been victimized, when in reality they were the one victimizing others.

Skipping over the dirty details, it's been so long that I don't want to let the abusive relationship go, I defined all of my lives by the love of one person, who was lying to me about being the people I loved. Nothing I offered was good enough, they told me to move on and stop bothering them. So I listened. I accepted that it was over, and I vowed would never love again. I decided if I wasn't enough for the person I believed I had shared all my lives with, I wasn't enough for anyone. I isolate, I reject the idea of positive interpersonal relationships of any nature.

This all sounds awful so far, right? But this is my first taste of freedom in almost ten years. I'm alone, I lost nearly everyone I cared about. It hurt, but now I was able to live my life again. I was able to spend time in the real world and stop spending my every free moment checking in with my abuser. I start lining up my future, I start relearning how to talk to people. I engage with the people in my life, my coworkers, my neighbours. I make friends. I learn to enjoy other people's company again. I learn to stop fearing them. I gain a lot of insight in the quiet hours I have to myself, just to think. I heal, gradually. Losing everything I thought I wanted was the best thing that ever happened to me.

I struggle for months with the reality that I have fallen in love with somebody. It's becoming agonizingly apparent that I love this man, despite my intentions. I'm a trans guy, he's cis and straight as far as I know, there's no way that ends well for me, right? Best case scenario is I walk away without getting hate-crimed. But I love him, and it kills me to even think of saying it to myself, because then it becomes real. I live in denial. I stress myself out trying to pretend that I don't want to spend the rest of my life being his best friend if I can't have more than that, it begins to cause depression.

Eventually, prepared for rejection and ugly crying over a keyboard because Facebook Messenger was my choice for revealing my secret feelings for my friend, I tell him that I love him. This all goes a lot better than I expected it to, he loves me too, he isn't here to make any assumptions about my transition or my body (this blew my mind, I didn't think this brand of cis guy existed), and I feel a little silly for the amount of sheer anxiety I had over telling him the truth, but I get it, I've had bad experiences with this shit.

We're together for months, maybe a year before my abuser returns and I stupidly think they've really changed this time just because they said they did. Spoiler alert: it's a lie, because it's always a lie. I try to be friends with them. They expect more. They keep pushing for romantic affection and deliberately misinterpreting all my friendliness as romantic interest. I'm told that I'm leading them on. I'm not, they just really seem to think that if I'm decent to them I have to be with them. I'm not the first person they done this to either, I know from consulting their other victims: they assume if somebody is legitimately friendly to them, there is always romantic interest present.

I try to have friendships with my abuser, over and over again, every time realizing that they want more from me than I'm offering. They expect me to leave my boyfriend for them, because "we spent all our lives together, I know you'll be happier with me than anyone else". I, however, know that I'm already with the person who's right for me, that I'm happiest with, and they refuse to believe this, because he isn't kin. I am expected to treat that relationship as if it were just me practicing to be better in relationships for my abuser's benefit. I have, in the years apart, realized my abuser wasn't offering anything I wanted. I did exactly what they told me to, which was to move on, but now that they had run their other options dry, I was expected to un-move-on and just revert back to whatever mindset I had that made me such a great victim. I physically can't do that because my brain just isn't the same as it was when I was in an abusive situation. I'm treated like I'm somehow being unfair because I won't reserve my relationship status exclusively for them and drop somebody who I've been with for years out of nowhere, just because they want me back years after telling me to move on and stop wanting them. It makes about as much sense to me as it likely does to you: it's an unrealistic and cruel expectation that only a selfish, entitled dickhead who doesn't respect you can place on you.

This shit goes on and off for a year or two before I just leave. I don't want to do this dumb jig for the next three years until they finally listen to me and accept that I've moved on (like they told me to), and frankly I'd just be told I was 'leading them on' for all that time if I tried to let them down gently. I tell them to stop sending me inappropriate, emotionally loaded emails begging me to come back, or telling me how much they've changed and how good they are now, how ready they are to be nice to me. They continue sending these emails regardless. I tell them to piss off. They immediately revert back to verbal and emotional abuse, proving once and for all how much they've truly changed this time.

So, long story short, I made a decision not to date anyone who identified as kin a few years ago, and it's been the best decision I made. I'm engaged to that nonkin boyfriend now, and I couldn't be happier.

Also just, be careful, right? You get in with somebody who seems too good to be true, who has an endless conga line of victim stories and never seems to be at fault for anything that goes wrong in their relationships, just… be careful, right? Be sane. Don't force yourself to be who they want. Wait for the one who loves you as you are, not for the things you can be to them if they just put the right pressure on you in the right places. Thanks if you stuck with me through that whole thing, you're a champion. Take care guys.

#fictionkinfessions #fictionkin #abuse cw #manipulation cw #domestic abuse cw #cheating cw #long post #ableist language cw #i read all this and I am so glad you are happy #mod party cat!

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