Lori Harvey is living life to the fullest 🥂

I don’t know who needs to hear this but you don’t need to get cosmetic work done (especially if you’re under the age of thirty)….simply limiting your gluten intake, changing your diet and prioritising your gut health, will drastically improve your appearance.

Brown skin.

Sitting by the phone

Patiently awaiting a long overdue message from you.

I get anxious pretty easily

so instead I’m grieving

Each minute that passes by

Where your name doesn’t pop up across my screen .

I know we’re both fighting demons

And we do the best we can.

I’d love to skip this bump in the road

To get straight to the Passion.

To create a love with you like nothing else I’ve experienced.

I push you away sometimes but I’ve got a big heart for you

I gotta let myself in first

Sacred. 🖤

btw i love men actually and i love that i love men and given the opportunity to change the fact that i love men i would not change my love for men because i love loving men ty for asking

Going out with my man is my favorite activity 🤭🥰💐

fuck dat nigga lmfaooo these pictures are still cute so imma repost 😘

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I can't fully relate to you situation but I understand the part about questioning your identity as female and wondering if it's just because of bigotry that I feel that way

(also you can turn off reblogs on posts now!)

(I keep forgetting I have that power now lol)

Thanks this is my predicament exactly 😩

I absolutely adore Brooke 🤍

I love being feminine . I love dressing in pink and feeling cute and being nice.

I love listening to pop music and the sway of my gait in heels. I love sweet drinks and the sensation of my hair on my shoulders.

I love reaching out to the introverts needing a friend at the party and telling other girls how beautiful they outfit is.

Femininity is so routinely stigmatized when it’s simply a necessity, the other half of the coin. There’s light and dark, yin and yang, femininity and masculinity. And it so constraining to restrict it one gender.

Change is not easy

It knocks , we ignore

It knocks again, and again we ignore

-5

as a teacher, reading about nex makes me fucking furious because I've seen that hate in the students I've taught. people who say young people aren't bigoted and once the old fucks die off the world will be perfect have no idea how cruel children can be when influenced by society's bigotry. while working with 8th grade, i had multiple situations of children harassing lgbt students, screaming slurs at black students, and mocking disabled, especially autistic, students. i was misgendered and degendered by these kids daily without them even knowing i was trans or gay, just that i was a feminine man. i had to dress hyper-masculine to have a smidgen of respect, and god forbid i let my disability show.

but what sticks with me the most when thinking about nex is when i had to intervene when a child proudly announced that she would murder her baby if they were trans (specifically nonbinary) because nb people were freaks, fully aware the person sitting next to her was trans. when i tried to intervene, i was disciplined because i was 'teaching my personal politics'.

this is what our schools look like. when people say they cant believe these girls could do this, i shake my head because, to me, it's no wonder nex is no longer with us. nex was a child with intersecting minority identities. our society is cruel and bigoted, and it is influencing our children. we HAVE to fix society because until we do, kids will stay cruel and kids will keep dying

A Word.

People will literally try to assassinate your character or project their character flaws onto you, all because you pulled their card while addressing a certain issue, without you even knowing you pulled their card.

What is happening is… Now that you’ve stated some truth and fact that triggered them, they want to hurt you when you’re intent wasn’t to hurt them, you just told the truth about society and a certain group of people within society and they happened to fit that description of people you were addressing (all while you were not even addressing them, at all).

Just because you happen to be apart of the group of individuals I’m addressing in a intellectual discussion about society, doesn’t mean invalidly attack me over it and try to “insult me” or attack me by using a comment that I made against me, that is a comment made in truth of what the real situation is (that is a fault in society). That’s very low vibrational of a person to do… attack the addresser over a valid intellectual comment all because you fit that description of that particular statement.

The statement was not even about you, or toward you, but you’re upset because you fit the description of the people the statement addressed and in that moment you take your insecurity out on the addresser.

That’s wrong. Totally wrong. And all about projection, deflection, and self preservation of ego, and trying to “shoot the messenger” all because you don’t like the message that is being said in truth and fact of the situation at hand within society.

Grow up people and get over yourselves… and stop projecting your faults onto others and invalidly attacking others all because your ego and low vibrational self feels “under attack” by a truthful comment being made while addressing the general public and not even addressing you at all.. but you’re offended by the truth and want to attack the truth tellers.

Stop it people. Stop it.

- The Modest Blog

In contrast with professional drag queens, who were only playing at being women onstage, [Esther] Newton learned that the very bottom of the gay social hierarchy was the province of street queens. In almost total contrast to professional queens, street queens were "the underclass of the gay world." Although they embraced effeminacy, too, they did so in the wrong place and for the wrong reason: in public and outside of professional work. As a result, Newton explained, the street queens "are never off stage. Their way of life is collective, illegal, and immediate." Because they didn't get paid to be feminine and were locked out of even the most menial of nightlife jobs, Newton observed that their lives were perceived to revolve around "confrontation, prostitution, and drug 'highs'." Even in a gay underworld where everyone was marked as deviant, it was the sincere street queens who tried to live as women who were punished most for what was celebrated-and paid-as an act onstage. When stage queens lost their jobs, they were often socially excluded like trans women. Newton explained that when she returned to Kansas City one night during her fieldwork, she learned that two poor queens she had met had recently lost their jobs as impersonators. Since then, they had become "indistinguishable from street fairies," growing out their hair long and wearing makeup in public-even "passing" as girls in certain situations," in addition to earning a reputation for taking pills. They were now treated harshly by everyone in the local scene. Most people wouldn't even speak to them in public. Professional drag queens who didn't live as women still had to avoid being seen as too "transy" in their style and demeanor. One professional queen that Newton interviewed explained why: it was dangerous to be transy because it reinforced the stigma of effeminacy without the safety of being onstage. "I think what you do in your bed is your business," he told Newton, echoing a middle-class understanding of gay privacy, "[but] what you do on the street is everybody's business."

The first street queen who appears in Mother Camp is named Lola, a young Black trans girl who is "becoming a woman,' as they say'." Newton met Lola at her dingy Kansas City apartment, where she lived with Tiger, a young gay man, and Godiva, a somewhat more respectable queen. What made Godiva more respectable than Lola wasn't just a lack of hormonal transition. It was that Godiva could work as a female impersonator because she wasn't trying to sincerely live as a woman. Lola, on the other hand, was permanently out of work because being Black and trans made her unhireable, including in female impersonation. When Newton entered their apartment, which had virtually no furniture, she found Lola lying on "a rumpled-up mattress on the floor" and entertaining three "very rough-looking young men." These kinds of apartments, wrote Newton, "are not 'homes.' They are places to come in off the street." The extremely poor trans women who lived as street queens, like Lola, "literally live outside the law," Newton explained. Violence and assault were their everyday experiences, drugs were omnipresent, and sex work was about the only work they could do. Even if they didn't have "homes," street queens "do live in the police system."

As a result of being policed and ostracized by their own gay peers, Newton felt that street queens were "dedicated to "staying out of it" as a way of life. "From their perspective, all of respectable society seems square, distant, and hypocritical. From their 'place' at the very bottom of the moral and status structure, they are in a strategic position to experience the numerous discrepancies between the ideals of American culture and the realities." Yet, however withdrawn or strung out they were perceived to be, the street queens were hardly afraid to act. On the contrary, they were regarded by many as the bravest and most combative in the gay world. In the summer of 1966, street queens in San Francisco fought back at Compton's Cafeteria, an all-night venue popular with sex workers and other poor gay people. After management had called the police on a table that was hanging out for hours ordering nothing but coffee, an officer grabbed the arm of one street queen. As the historian Susan Stryker recounts, that queen threw her coffee in the police officer's face, "and a melee erupted." As the queens led the patrons in throwing everything on their tables at the cops-who called for backup-a full-blown riot erupted onto the street. The queens beat the police with their purses "and kicked them with their high-heeled shoes." A similar incident was documented in 1959, when drag queens fought back against the police at Cooper's Donuts in Los Angeles by throwing donuts-and punches. How many more, unrecorded, times street queens fought back is anyone's guess. The most famous event came in 1969, when street queens led the Stonewall rebellion in New York City. Newton shares in Mother Camp that she wasn't surprised to learn it was the street queens who carried Stonewall. "Street fairies," she wrote, "have nothing to lose."

Jules Gill-Peterson, A Short History of Trans Misogyny