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had this problem of fantasizing of guys after i meet or spend time with them. to end this i just started not paying that much attention, being kinda dry and purposely not thinking about them when they are not near me. (Never purposely been mean ew) This results in me literally ignoring guys who just wanna have short convos with me in my friend group esp in school. I just want to strike a balance of not fantasizing but still talk to guys without being rude
đź’žHey bestie,
I think it take a level of maturity, and self awareness. A lot of woman think about their “dream guy” from a very young age. We underestimate all of the romanticized scenarios we consume from a young age (Disney, tv series, movies like the notebook, twilight or the classic “popular boy falls for the shy quiet girl” movies”) 
I would try to just take things for what they are and not what you want them to be, it’s hard but hear me out:
- it helps when you get the game, it’s easy to talk about it & it takes time and hard work to fake being about it but guys will do this for as long as they can babe. Waiting it out and taking it for what it is will help.
If a guy compliments you, receive it and leave it there. If the conversation gets deeper, actively listen and ask important questions, this will help you establish a connection without getting carried away.
- it helps to have trustworthy friends/family member/counselor who can give you their perception of the situation, key word trustworthy! If you have someone who gives you the real on what they see, be prepared to take it in and not be so consumed by your feelings. (It’s a maturity thing, takes time) and if you don’t have a trustworthy companion, journal it out. Write out all your feelings and then reflect. Is it based off realistic expectations and actions or fantasies and feelings?
- don’t completely close out the idea of it becoming something, this is where self awareness comes in, you can allow yourself to feel what you feel, but you know what you want, what you need and what you won’t tolerate for the sake of what you want it to be. Boundaries are important and when we fantasize that’s one of the first things we abandon!
And finally, TAKE YOUR TIME! Focus on building a friendship first! This will keep it authentic and not so nerve wracking. By building a solid foundation of friendship, you can better gauge if the connection has the potential to grow into something more meaningful.
Don’t rush into things: This is key, I know sometimes the rush of new feelings can be overwhelming and sometimes even feel like a dopamine rush but this is where you have to remind yourself: it takes time. Feelings come and go, you need to know for sure this is something you want take serious and if this person will take you serious.
I hope this helps!
Best of luck,
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Why would a guy I’m talking to saying he wants to get to know me and a relationship be (it seems to be) only complimenting me swiping up on my stories then be dry otherwise and not be opening up?
Hey bestie đź’•
Thank you for trusting us enough to share your situation with us! We love you and are happy to give some perspective on this.
#1 Actions speak louder than words
I feel like as woman we forget this truth, a man who wants to get to know you will put in the effort, period. Just swiping up is not enough; what we truly require is consistency and true attempts to get to know the person past the pretty face.
You deserve more effort đź’–
I don't know if you met up with him yet, but I would see if the vibe changes before you let him in your presence. Talk on the phone a few times instead of just texting and interacting on social media. This will avoid any potential discomfort or unpleasant situations that may arise from not being aware of his true intentions. It's always important to trust your instincts and pay attention to the energy someone gives off. Sometimes, people can put up a facade or hide their true nature, so it's crucial to be cautious before inviting them into your personal space.
#2 As a woman, your intuition is a valuable asset! Trust it.
Another thing we do as woman is ignore the red flags & our gut feelings because we get caught up in what we want and what it could turn out to be.
Your gut feeling is often a reliable indicator, so trust yourself. If something doesn't feel right, it's always better to err on the side of caution. This doesn't mean you have to completely shut him out immediately, but it's important to prioritize your peace, guard your heart and well-being.
#3 Learn how to reciprocate energy!
Again, this doesn’t mean you have to completely shut him out but in the early stages of meeting anyone: friends or potential partners, you are teaching them how to treat you! Don’t bend your boundaries or make yourself more accessible to him than he is to you. Keep leveling up, in the meantime, do what you love and try not to romanticize this situation too early!
Hope this helps, please comeback if you need to vent, get more advice or even just an update! We got you!
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🔥HOT TOPIC: The Girls Are Talking, Should We Bring Back GATEKEEPING 🔒🤔
Hey queens, gather 'round 'cause we're diving deep into something that's been buzzing on TikTok lately and we are interested in hearing each and everyone of your thoughts and opinions.
Welcome to our cozy corner of the web, where black feminine society is all about vibing in our divine feminine energy and linking arms with sisters who get it. We're here to uplift each other and our communities, 'cause, let's be real, we're stronger together. 🌱✨🤎
Now, onto the tea that's got everyone typing away: The Girls Are Talking, Should We Bring Back GATEKEEPING?
It's the convo that's lighting up our group chat (join us on discord) and, honestly, it's a vibe worth examining.
Some of our sisters are saying, "Hold up, gatekeeping ain't all bad." They're all about keeping certain things on the DL to maintain that exclusivity and authenticity. And, okay, there's a point there. Like, imagine your signature scent being your little secret sauce. It's special 'cause not everyone's in on it. Here's why some think a lil' gatekeeping can be a good thing:
Preserves uniqueness:
When something is kept under wraps, it stays rare and unique. It's like having an insider secret that only the cool kids (aka us) know about.
Builds a stronger community:
Sharing secrets within a tight-knit group can actually bring us closer. It's like, "You know, I know, and we're in this together."
Encourages self-discovery:
When you're not spoon-fed everything, you gotta dig deeper and find what truly resonates with you. It's all about that personal journey, babes.
But then, there's the flip side. Not everyone's on board with the gatekeeping vibe. They're saying, "It’s not that deep!"
Here's why they're anti-gatekeeping:
Inclusivity is key:
Sharing is caring, right? By ditching the gatekeeping, we're welcoming everyone into our circle and spreading the love.
Promotes diversity
When we share, we learn from each other. Different perspectives and experiences only enrich our community.
Fosters growth
Knowledge is power. The more we share, the more we grow. Why keep all the good stuff to ourselves?
So, besties, where do you stand in this garden of thoughts? Are you team #Gatekeep or team #AntiGatekeep? 🤔💖
Drop your vibe in the poll below and let's see which way the wind's blowing. Your voice matters, so don't be shy. Let's make this a convo to remember, 'cause together, no matter how big or small the topic, we're rewriting the script for our generation!
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No lies told !đź’“ @thevirgodoll
I just found out my bf has been lying and cheating on me since day 1. We’ve been together for a year and four months. We had the best relationship in my experience. My first ever healthy relationship. I thought I landed a good man with good morals. Hard working. Great communicator. Family man. Etc! But all through out the relationship he was talking to others, even met up with one of them during the Christmas holidays back home!!! He invited her out for a drink. According to her, he was single. It’s so shocking to think he could live a double life. Not once throughout the relationship did I have a single clue. We planned on getting engaged and married and having a family. Says he wants to marry me and I’m the girl of his dreams. The one he wants.
What’s your advice on infidelity in relationships? Pack up and leave? Try to rebuild the trust? Has any of your followers gone through this and were able to rebuild trust? What’s the process? What steps did you two take. Any advice, insights would be helpful. From you or your followers. Thank you.
I have the opinion that if you’re not legally bound by marriage or even children then you have no reason to stick around and struggle. You are going through emotional labor for someone who could potentially not even marry you in the future and even bring diseases into the relationship. Ultimately, it is your choice but you’re young and can find someone who actually means what they say. Even if you’re able to “rebuild trust”, it’s never the same and you will constantly be looking over your shoulder waiting for the other shoe to drop.
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