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So I had a fun gender affirming experience.
My partner was showing his friends pictures of me and they were all asking what my gender was because they were genuinely confused. This is what I'm going for. I want someone to look at me and be like, "What the hell is that" and I have achieved that.
Confusion euphoria is real, I’m glad you had a good experience!
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SHOUT IT
SAY HIS NAME: Nex Benedict, another 16 YEAR OLD was murdered in Oklahoma, news channels are deadnaming and misgendering him, just like with Brianna Ghey here in the UK. But I urge you to not let your grief drive you to despair. GET ANGRY. Do not become apathetic, do not let grief numb you. Stand united as a community, lean on each other, have each others back. Reach out to any trans individuals of any age and make sure they have support in some capacity. Speak with your family, your political representatives, your school, anywhere, with anyone, that may be able to make some change, whether big or small. Everything builds, that is the power of a movement, of solidarity. If you make life a bit safer for one trans youth once, then you may have saved their life that day. And that kid might then show some other kid that there is hope, and so they live as well. And it grows.
Fly high Nex.
#lgbtq#transgender#nonbinary#nex benedict#speak out#shout it#trans community#solidarity#anti trans violence#hate crime#our queer experience
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Rest in Power, Nex Benedict
A 16 year old kid who loved nature and looking after their cat Zeus. Who enjoyed reading, watching the Walking Dead, and playing Ark and Minecraft. They loved to cook and would often make up their own recipes. They did well in school, being a straight-A student.
Rest in power a teen who was human and had interests and ambitions and challenges and friendships.
A trans youth who was brutally murdered just for being trans, when that was only a fragment of who they were as a person.
Nex Benedict, Jacob Williamson, Brianna Ghey, and other trans youth like them were real people with real lives.
They deserved better, longer, happier lives. They deserved to grow up and not fear for their lives. They deserve to be remembered as who they were, not just as another trans kid who was killed, as people with families and normal human lives.
#trans youth#our trans youth experience#trans kids#transgender#enby#nonbinary#trans#queer#protect trans lives#protect trans kids#nex benedict#child death tw#tw murder#rest in power#brianna ghey#jacob williamson#trans people are people#trans genocide
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It's so wild to me that as a community we're still so hostile to multigender and genderfluid people existing in gay and lesbian spaces.
You...are aware that people who are both men and women are allowed to be gay, right? And lesbian? Their other genders doesn't cancel their connection to womanhood, or manhood, or whatever else they id with. They are allowed to be gay despite their fem-alignment, and they are allowed to be lesbian despite their masc-alignment.
It comes from these weird online spaces that the standard to be gay or lesbian is to be a "non-woman" or a "non-man," which is inherently transmultiphobic and...extremely ahistorical. And completely misunderstands nonbinary identity. So if you're both then you just don't belong anywhere I suppose.
#they treat these people as abnormal when really shoving anyone into categories of non-women and non-men is fucking#completely out of touch with how identity works#like i saw a demiboy lesbian flag and the comments are just FILLED with teenage queers getting so mad for no reason#saying shit like im in your walls or your father left you or whatever#please this is so CHILDISH grow UP#multigender#genderfluid#gay#lesbian#lesboy#turigirl#queer#lgbtq#just a he/they transmasc nonbinary boydyke lesbian VERY tired of this nonsense#actually erasure of multigender experience and that one of our genders will cancel out the other#made me very resistant to the fact that i may still be connected to feminity and girlhood#even though i am undoubtedly am#transmultiphobia
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Social transition being seen (by some) as this super easy thing that isn't as hard as real transitioning (medical) is bullshit. Be critical of the idea that there are some trans people who just "have it easy" because they are trans or because they are trans in ways you may not be.
Social transition is just as difficult, hard, and rewarding as medical transition. Maybe it is not as hard for some, sure, but that is not the same as thinking that social transition is inherently easier or lesser. If you're socially transitioning, your voice still matters.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#not to mention that so many people DO want to medically transition but *can't*#so it can be even harder for some when they feel social transition is their only option when they don't want it to be#but social transition carries its own risks and challenges and again rewards#and i've seen this idea plenty where it's like 'oh you don't GET my struggles because you're SOCIALLY transitioning'#and while yes i am different than some trans people to say i'm struggling *more* if i'm the only one medically transitioning is??? huh????#i don't buy into this idea that social transition is never scary because you don't have the boot of the medical system on your back#(though non-med or pre-med transitioning people still face issues in medical settings so even THEN we aren't seperate)#like there's very few ways you can separate my issues as a medically-transitioning person and the issues of somebody who isn't...#...and by that i mean there's few ways you can separate our issues so that mine trumps theirs or that i'm seen as like... trans but More#does that make sense?#medical transitioning is important but that doesn't mean it is *more* important or that only *it* is important#you can support us who are medically transitioning without erasing the experiences and struggles of other trans people#and plus... so many of us who are medically transitioning NOW are the people who socially transitioned THEN#and dare i say i despised social transition more because of how hard it was? medical transition has been (more or less) easier...#...in that i can just *be* now
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"abinary people can be gay, lesbian, veldian & straight" & "orientations that are explicitly inclusive of abinary people need more visibility and to be taken more seriously" are two statements that can and should coexist.
i see way too much "abinary people can be lesbian etc." and not nearly enough people lifting up orientations that are more explicit in our genders or in people's attraction to us. tbh, this is true for midbinary genders too. there's way more "nonbinary people can use [orientation with binary connotations]" and not enough "look at these orientations that honour us".
trixic, toric, enbian and other mestric labels for specific genders deserve as much love as lesbian, sapphic, gay, achillean, veldian.
not to forget there are many people who are both! for some people, "gay" just doesn't tell the full story and they might identify as a toric gay specifically.
all abinary experiences of orientation deserve visibility.
#abinary#our abinary experience#nonbinary#enby#lgbt#lgbtq#lgbtqia#non binary#queer#trans#transgender#outherine#agender#xenogender#aporagender#maverique#neutrois
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When discussing things like privilege and oppression, people seem to have one of two ideas about transmasculinity depending on what suits them best at the moment. They either picture a passing masculine trans man or a femme-presenting non-binary person. Both of these prototypes are skinny and White and relatively palatable to the general public. They find it easy to paint both as basically having cis privilege anyway, just wanting to play up their oppression to make people feel bad for them or excuse their (trans)misogyny. They’ll call the former a misogynistic dangerous Aiden and the latter a basically cis theyfab. There’s no room at all for people like me, people on T but still perceived as a butch lesbian. Closeted transmascs. Intersex transmascs. Multigender transmascs. Gnc transmascs who’ll wear a beard and a dress, but are allegedly exempt from experiencing transmisogyny. And yet even those two prototypes still get discriminated against, assaulted, and killed in cold blood. But that must have been despite their male/cis privilege.
It’s funny that those narratives are so dominant. Have you considered you’re seeing transmascs as privileged because you’re only hearing from the most privileged transmascs? That the handful of skinny White transmasc youtubers and musicians and celebrities you can name only got that far because they fit the picture? But invisibility is a privilege, so I guess the rest of us should shut up and be grateful.
#you people treat transmascs like absolute dog shit and we’re just a supposed to man up and take it since we’re So Privileged Anyway#and consider that treating White as the default when considering privilege is not as fucking progressive as you think#some of us have our gender interact with our racialization. believe it or not.#transandrophobia#transphobia#misogyny#<they’ll be so misogynistic to afab nonbinary folks while probably also telling them they don’t experience misogyny since they’re not women#mine#intracommunity issues tag#long post#so much sarcasm in this to be clear
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hey you!
yea you!!
your gender’s looking great today!!
whatever you identify as
however you prefer to present yourself
however you look
it looks great on you!!!!
#transgender#nonbinary#demigirl#demiboy#demigender#maverique#genderqueer#agender#genderfluid#transfem#transmasc#bigender#trigender#lgbtq+#queer#trans positivity#lgbtq positivity#our demigirl experience
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I originally struggled with picking a name. I didn't feel drawn to any of the standard gender neutral names (Sam, Parker, Alex, etc.) and I wanted to keep my first initial because I signed stuff with my initials a lot.
At the time i was getting really into horror and cryptid stuff and I really liked Mothman. And despite wanting to be able to have the illusion of being Normal(TM) (i'm ADHD and live in a pretty ableist/transphobic town) i couldn't shake the temptation or find a Normal(TM) name that I liked. So I took of the "man" part for obvious reasons and that's why I'm named Moth!
It's funny because it's a very uncommon name irl but I get jumpscared with other nonbinary people online who have the same name as me.
Moth is a lovely name!
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I love being both a boy and a lesbian. I love redefining what it means to be a boy. I love making people angry when I do it
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Some quotes I have from people speaking out against KOSA, please reblog, tag people, cross-post on other platforms, and share with everyone you can, all quotes are fair use <3
“This law is a scam, created with the express purpose of persecuting LGBTQ+ people and silencing victims of abuse. That is the only possible outcome of these kinds of bills.
Oppose them on principle. Be skeptical whenever they are even brought-up.
This isn’t about safety—it is a takeover of THE major avenue to disseminate information in the modern world. It is more than censorship, it defines the avenues that thought may even take.
It will lead to identity verification companies like Clear or ID.me getting more of people’s private data and guaranteed, exclusive government contracts for surveillance and data collection, in violation of the spirit of the 4th Amendment, if not the letter.
It is also an absolute certainty that conservatives in positions of authority will use this program to persecute LGBTQ+ people, with the force of the State, under the guise of protecting children from pornography and "grooming". It has been an explicit misdirection tactic the right has invented to poison debate on trans rights issues and the (unconnected) growing evidence of sexual impropriety among the powerful, particularly conservatives.
Furthermore, I and most others will not abide by this law, if it is passed, and will take whatever actions necessary to safeguard our personal information via VPN, encryption, onion networking, etc., regardless of their permissibility.”
“This is a violation of basic rights on the Internet. Whatever happened to Freedom of Speech? Or are we just gonna ignore a literal Amendment in favor of “protecting the American children" while many of those children are the ones against this??”
“having full privacy on the internet may have saved my life growing up. don’t take away kid’s privacy, there’s already perfectly reasonable ways for parents to monitor kids.”
“I think that people have a right to privacy online, especially children. This doesn't seem like a bill that would actually protect children from anything, it would just make important resources more difficult to access, increase censorship online, and increase surveillance, all of which I oppose.”
“There are three things you never give out on the internet for your safety. 1) Name, 2) Face, and 3) Home. This bill guarantees that all three will be easily available to those who wish to hurt the children this bill falsely claims to protect. If you actually care about children, stop this bill. Listen to what those of us that actually use the internet are telling you. Children and adults deserve a private, anonymous space to be.”
“i'm a queer teen and i know full well the importance online spaces have in supporting lgbtq+ youth, especially ones who don't have supportive environments in person. censorship doesn't actually erase the information, it just makes it harder to access.”
“I’m writing to urge you to reject the Kids Online Safety Act, a misguided bill that would put vulnerable young people at risk.
KOSA would fail to address the root issues related to kid’s safety online. Instead, it would endanger some of the most vulnerable people in our society while undermining human rights and children’s privacy. The bill would result in widespread internet censorship by pressuring platforms to use incredibly broad “content filters” and giving state Attorneys General the power to decide what content kids should and shouldn’t have access to online. This power could be abused in a number of ways and be politicized to censor information and resources.
KOSA would also likely lead to the greater surveillance of children online by requiring platforms to gather data to verify user identity.
There is a way to protect kids and all people online from egregious data abuse and harmful content targeting: passing a strong Federal data privacy law that prevents tech companies from collecting so much sensitive data about all of us in the first place, and gives individuals the ability to sue companies that misuse their data.
KOSA, although well-meaning, must not move forward. Please protect privacy and stop the spread of censorship online by opposing KOSA.”
“Censorship doesn't keep kids safe. Censorship does not save abused children. Censorship does not save queer children. Censorship will not save any of us. Freedom for us all. Freedom for the internet. This shit cannot stand.”
“This bill is a massive overreach on civil liberties and freedom of speech in particular. It should not be within the government's purview to determine what content is acceptable, no matter which party is in power.”
“As we all know, the major threats to American children today are books, bathrooms, and the Internet.
Not getting shot in their own schools or attacked on their own streets.
Since graduating from the public school system in 2007, I haven't seen anything from elected officials to contradict this.”
“KOSA is a censorship bill in sheep’s clothing. It would erode Americans’ rights to privacy, especially that of vulnerable and marginalized Americans, and gather information about the whereabouts and identities of the children it play-acts at “protecting”.”
“This is a ridiculous law
KOSA is a giant bill that is pretending to be about child safety, but is actually overreaching government censorship. It is a violation of free speech and the 1st amendment.
This bill would require that internet users upload their government ID to access any site, and state attorney generals could sue to remove any site that contains content deemed "harmful" to children. The government will be able to censor ANYTHING - such as abortion info, LGBTQ+ resources, and any content relating to protesting or organizing. They will also be able to ID you if you search for any of these topics. This is the opposite of a free internet!”
“The law is pretty much just a trojan horse for censorship.”
“frankly i dont want to be put on a list the gov has of every queer person who opposes their anti-lgbt laws”
“I care about actually helping people instead of making a bill that is going to kill any ability for anyone to get help. That is going to be used to police anyone who disagrees with the absolute mess everything is right now. The conservative morals don’t allow for anyone not white, cuz, straight, or male; and I won’t have that enforced on the fucking public forum.”
#transgender#trans#non binary#nonbinary#lqbtq#pride#lesbian#gay#asexual#pansexual#bisexual#our queer experience#queer positivity#queer community#queer#say no to kosa#kosa act#kosa bill#stop kosa#kosa#bad internet bills#stop kids online safety act#kids online safety act#internet censorship#human rights#women's rights#trans rights#reproductive rights#abortion rights#society
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Hello! I started a new blog to join the our-[blank]-experience blog group!!
My name is Teddy and my pronouns are they/xe/ze/he/it (in order of preference) and I’m an intersex transneutral androgyne.
I’m really excited for this blog so please submit your experiences and stories about living in this world as an androgyne!
Non-androgynes are welcome to follow and interact as well ♡
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I know you already received an ask saying basically the exact same thing but. I'm angry for Nex Benedict. And I'm scared for myself. Nex was 16, which means I'm fucking angry they didn't get any longer. Nex was 16, meaning I'm fucking terrified because I'm 15. Nex was Native American, which means I'm angry people won't address that when there's no way it wasn't a factor. Nex was Native American, meaning I'm scared because I'm aboriginal Australian. Nex faced violence, harassment, and bullying. I'm mad about that because its unfair and its cruel. It scares me because I have faced all of that too.
Nex was just a kid who loved their cat. And loved The Walking Dead and Minecraft. That sounds like me. That sounds unjust.
Nex should have lived to follow their dreams as an adult, to graduate school, get a job, maybe even get married. But they didn't get the chance, because they were murdered for being trans. What Nex went through was horrifying and unjust. No one deserves to go through what they went through. We will not forget their name.
#trans youth#our trans youth experience#trans kids#transgender#enby#trans#nonbinary#transmasc#transfem#queer#nex benedict#protect trans kids#protect trans lives#trans genocide#hate crime#tw murder#child death tw
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Don't forgive. Don't forget.
Nex was 16. They were a child. And they were murdered.
They were dismissed and abused and then murdered for being trans.
And no one is talking about it.
A child is dead and no one cares.
Do not forgive. Do not forget.
Their name was Nex Benedict. They enjoyed drawing, reading, playing video games, they had straight A's and a cat named Zeus. They were a person. Do not forgive. Do not forget.
#nex benedict#transgender#hate crimes tw#nonbinary#our queer experience#trans#trans rights#transgender rights#trans rights are human rights#It Talks
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It's really frustrating being trans sometimes with cis loved ones because other cis people will go, "oh but it's such a huge adjustment for them! They're grieving for your pre-transition self/they aren't used to the change yet/it's hard on them!"
It's just so frustrating that people forget that trans people's feelings on this matter, too. Cis people aren't the only ones who have adjustments to make. Frankly, as much as I sympathize with cis people in this position, I can't help but be really jaded about it because so often, cis people jump to the defense of other cis people and they will seemingly forget to or refuse to give the same grace to trans people.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#like at what point is it 'they aren't used to it yet!' and it morphs into 'that person is actively refusing to acknowledge you'#i'm at a point now where i have been out as trans for half my life. at what point is this willfully refusing to see *me*#it's just amazing that it doesn't matter what the trans person could do because it's their fault for bringing 'burden' onto cis people#i UNDERSTAND that it can be hard for family for instance to flip a switch with their trans loved one...#...but i can't help but notice that so often it's because they *refuse to try*#why is it that cis people can do almost anything to trans people but trans people must be perfectly understanding and perfectly...#...content with whatever cis people in our lives have to say about how hard it is on THEM...#...like that's insulting to me. imagine being so willfully incompassionate...#...i'm worried about if i'm safe in my own workplace or in my gym or in a medical setting...#...i feel like we need a sense of scale about who is most affected by transness in this scenario...#...because i would RATHER be grieving over somebody's transness than worrying if i'll be hatecrimed...#...there's a difference in the experience between a trans person and the cis people in that trans person's life learning to adjust to...#...that person's transness. which is why i don't think it's comparable to say that cis people have it just as hard in this case#transphobia#transphobia tw
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What does "abinary" mean and how is it different from being nonbinary?
nonbinary is an umbrella term for any gender that does not fit into the gender binary, as well as genderlessness. nonbinary also includes experiences of partially relating to manhood or womanhood, fluidity that includes manhood or womanhood or having multiple genders including manhood or womanhood. these gender experiences that aren't binary but still relate to manhood or womanhood can be called midbinary. common midbinary genders include demigirl, demiboy, androgyne or people simply identifying as a nonbinary man/woman.
abinary on the other hand is a subset of nonbinary that describes genders that are not related to manhood or womanhood (sometimes people take it to mean they're not related to masculinity or femininity as well). in my book this also includes genderlessness as that is very much not manhood or womanhood, but not everyone does. some of the most common abinary gender labels include neutrois, maverique, aporagender, xenogender and possibly agender.
it's important to note that midbinary and abinary are not mutually exclusive, someone can be both if they are multigender (e.g. someone who is both neutrois and a demiboy) or simply have a more complex experience of gender (e.g. nymgirls/women whose womanhood has nothing to do with binary womanhood/being a woman in an abinary way).
to oversimplify a bit: all abinary people are nonbinary, but not all nonbinary people are abinary.
i hope this helps!
#abinary#our abinary experience#nonbinary#enby#lgbt#lgbtq#lgbtqia#non binary#queer#transgender#midbinary
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