i've seen a lot of people express the worry that they can't claim they're nonbinary until they start hormones or get surgery. i just wanted to say this absolutely isn't true. you don't even have to change your presentation, the way you dress, the way you speak or act, or anything. you don't have to change anything to be able to claim that you're nonbinary. you are a nonbinary person from the moment you realize and accept it. it's okay to call yourself nonbinary before transition. it's okay to call yourself nonbinary if you never transition

brick is a transfem aroace abrolesbian nonbinary woman

bone is a biflux aspec agender trans man

boulder is a transmasc nonbinary aegolove achillean

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shoutout to nb folks who were afab and are extremely sick of being reduced to their assigned sex for being "one of the good ones", for the constant struggle of being seen as "basically woman"

shoutout to nb folks who's gender is "woman lite"

shoutout to nb folks who were amab and have to struggle with ostracization from the queer community and simply aren't seen or mentioned

feel free to add to this post! there's a lot I want to say but I don't feel like I can put the thoughts clearly into words

Happy tummy Tuesday fuckers

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Go easy it's my second time ☠️

And as a bonus 💋

Oops ☠️

THE TERM TRANSGENDER IS OFFICIALLY 50 YEARS OLD 🎉🎉🎉

(Note, this is the birth of the TERM transgender, not the idea)

transition goal <3

so glad im a lesbian because every time i feel bad about my transfemme body i ask myself "would i find this ugly on another woman" and the answer is always no. lesbianism beats the disphoria and stomps on its skull for good measure

Submitted April 26, 2023

The weird thing about my asexuality is that it’s kinda like watered down bisexuality in which everyone around me is so so so beautiful and I want to give them all the kisses but anything more and I will bite your hand off

The conversation of when is too late to medically transition is coming round again, which it does periodically, but I have never really resonated with the phrase "it's only too late when you're dead" before. But now I realise it is so incredibly true. It fucking sucks to wait, seeing everyone around you start medically transitioning sooner and faster than you is so disheartening. I came out at 11 and tried to start hormones, I've been on the NHS waiting list for years and I desperately tried to convince my transphobic parents, I tried to get a job to pay for it etc. So it wasn't for lack of trying that things happened as they happened and I didn't start hormones until I was 18.

For 7 years I watched everyone around me transition and it felt like I was running out of time. Whenever the conversation came around about when was too late to transition I always thought to myself "its too late for me". Still these days I feel like I'm running out of time for top surgery. I have been binding ever day for 7/8 years and I'm kinda coming to the end of my rope with it, every day it's just a little harder to bind, which is devastating. I don't know what I'll do when I can't bind anymore but for me at the moment surgery is prohibitively expensive and I'm not in a safe environment to get it. I'm looking into alternatives like trans tape (but I do have a larger chest).

ANYWAY I do understand when ur in the moment of waiting that it feels like you are running out of time, my life didn't even feel like it started until I was on testosterone. A few months in after seeing some changes and finally being convinced it was real and not just hand sanitiser I finally took my first breath tbh and I have not looked back since. But before starting it was just a waiting game and I thought I'd be too old for there to be any differences which is silly really because people start in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond.

Its only too late to transition when you're dead also applies to coming out. Not everyone "always knew" not everyone had the language or ability to express themselves at 3 years old, not everyone understood or thought about gender aged 3. People come out as kids and teens and young adults but people also come out at every stage of life.

I don't admire Caitlyn Jenner by any means but she was 65 when she came out

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2022/jul/16/we-really-are-trailblazers-coming-out-as-trans-in-later-life

Article about people transitioning later in life ^

It really is only too late when you're dead

Mizu from blue eye samurai is like if scientists were asked to syntehesize a person who is queer in every possible way

What will you do with me 🤷

needing reassurance is okay when you are trying to figure out who you are- it's natural and it's not a sign of weakness. many trans folks ask for reassurance at every step of their journey and it's okay to need feedback from someone else. it's how we grow.

Finally showing off my split

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Could use some practice though