Can we please stop considering famecels as coquette.

Lapvona in not coquette is literally a disgusting novel.

The Virgin Suicides is about a submissive childhood within the protection and social isolation of a Catholic family.

The femcel movement arises from the rage and incomprehension of the thoughts of a woman capable of expressing her hatred of the world.

Please, please, stop thinking that by wearing a ribbon you understand Sylvia Plath.

Fashion trends are fleeting, interests are not. You can be a femcel and coquette at the same time, but I don't think they are even related.

i'm genuinely having a hard time that this picture is even real...on the other hand, if varg can get laid, so can we

So I’m writing an informational speech for school.

I chose to speak about incels. More specifically how the incel movement became so hateful. It started out as a supportive group and now it’s the opposite.

Does anyone have any viewpoints they’d like to share? I bet nobody does lol. But IF you do please tell me about it.

i am a femcel but not in the nymphette-lizzy grant-lolita-pro ana- kinda way, im a femcel in the fiona apple-fight club-radiohead-taxi driver-4chan-radiohead-pearl-sylvia palth kinda way. what im trying to say is, im basically an incel in woman form.

This pride month, I am reminding y’all that for the love of God, ace people are not incels.

One is a sexuality. The other is a mental framework/ hate group. And as a sex repulsed bi ace who has been called an incel because I haven’t had a partner (at times BY OTHER ACE PEOPLE), I am telling you it’s fucking hurtful and needs to stop. We don’t owe you sex, and we’re not broken because we don’t want it.

Be careful about how you set boundaries or talk to a dangerous, vindictive, mentally unwell person bc they get paranoid very easily and will take anything you say the wrong way, and if you genuinely word something off on accident an apology won’t suffice bc they will come after you and try to fuck your life up or rape you over it and extreme people like this have no innate morality or heart. Just full of paranoia and anger issues. Best to keep your words MINIMAL meaning just say “leave me be please!” Or “I don’t wanna be bothered, thank you.” MIN-A-MAL.

Even then they’ll find a reason to hurt you;

for an example I set a boundary with a person when I was younger and when I said I didn’t want to talk and was sitting in my history class waiting for my teacher to arrive (to save my ass) the girl gave me a dirty look and accused me of talking shit, when I emphasized I just didn’t wanna talk, she said I obviously hated her bc “everyone did” and I didn’t know how to respond to my intentions being interpreted and my boundaries being set. Toxic response of her, although I sympathized with where she was coming from I didn’t realize the malice intentions this kid actually had.

So when I say mentally unwell, toxic people…if you notice red flags, and they can be subtle, you MUST steer clear of them always, set boundaries as nice as you can, and run! And don’t try to feel bad for them bc that’s a mistake that’ll get you hurt, just LEAVE. Make up any excuse or lie you can if you want, but set HARD boundaries and say you’re simply not interested in talking.

If you feel in immediate danger, esp a man, give a fake phone number if they ask for one (you can have one ready on a fake number app that’s downloadable, and temporary number websites) and act enthusiastic about seeing them “later in the week” bc you’re busy and gotta go somewhere rn and try to stay with a group of friends or family members when going out. Keep mace on you always and even a recording device and dash cam on your car for police evidence.

Here’s a life saver: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C2gkABqLt3G/?igsh=eXN0NmM1aTlvbTFz

Here’s another link for this gem: https://www.instagram.com/_joshuasummerfield?igsh=b3FmaWo2dHpsdzZ5

Why I Still consider myself a transcel/incel even if I have a bf.

LISTEN LISTEN. (Not a volcel)

I know what you’re thinking, that I’m no longer an “incel” because I eventually found someone, but I beg to differ.

This is NOT me trying to attach myself to this label because I like it or romanticize it, I honestly am not proud that I’m involuntary celibate but shit happens.

The reason why I still consider myself a transcel, even more then before, is that this relationship is long distance, VERY long distance because I’m strictly t4t, and yeah. I feel for someone online. Now I know what your thinking.

“Just date someone near by so you’re no longer celibate.”

With who? I can’t be t4t here, let alone if most people can’t find trans people irl, the trans ppl Ik are ether taken or NOT in the mental space to be in a relationship. (Or just trenders.)

2. “Then try dating cis people.”

LMAOOO. I’m not putting myself through that again. Dating a cis woman is the absolute worse, they manipulate and play mind games with you, so you can fit in their butch lesbian fantasy. Absolutely disgusting. Cis men are slightly less horrid, they’re at least a bit more direct/obvious about it, attempting to make you more woman.

3. “Ok but you still got a bf at the end of the day, so why’d you call urself a transcel?”

The definition of celibate according to the Oxford dictionary is:

Since my bf is 1,175 miles away, we can’t do anything sexual anytime soon. And honestly, based on our distance, where he lives, and our current life circumstances, it’s most likely we aren’t going to meet, like, ever.

And no, I don’t consider “E-sex” or whatever as actual intercourse, sure it’s an inmate thing, but not actual sex.

4. “Okay, hypothetically if you did meet up with your bf, and did do the do, that’d no longer make you an incel.”

I need you too understand, that I do want to have sex. One day or another.

But due to the world we’re living in, and that I’m a dude with out a dick, I mentally can not agree too it. This is where the phrase I have in my bio, “mentally castrated”, cause that’s what I am.

I’m going to get real personal here, I was S/Aed by lesbians. Therefore can not have sex with a cis woman. Yes, that might be “transphobic” towards me, but I can’t let that 12 year old boy sobbing while being traumatized feel betrayed because future me was horny.

And It’s unfortunate, but I feel the same is true for trans men. I KNOW I KNOW that’s sooo “transphobic”, but come on, we have the same parts, female parts. And that disgusts me. Sure things like strap ons exist, but those were made for lesbians. Hell, I might have a break down if i recognize the sound.

I can’t have sex with cis guys, no matter how sexually satisfying that might be, because I’ll know he’ll see me as just a woman.

I feel t girls wouldn’t be as humiliating or traumatizing as the others I listed, but I’d say it’s pretty demasculizing for a chick top you. But I’d still take that chance, because if you couldn’t tell. I’m desperate. However, I only met two trans girls irl, and they’re both in long term relationships so we can rule out.

As you can see, this is why, even with a wonderful online boyfriend who lives in the middle of nowhere. I’m still, unfortunately, a transcel.

TLDR: I crave sex but cannot have it with my bf bc of the distance, cannot have it with any other individual ether bc of Trauma and gender.

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As I've learned and grown and my relationships have progressed, I've started to become more and more convinced that enforced monogamy is actively harming society. Now, I want to start by clarifying that I have nothing against monogamy. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, I don't think monogamous relationships always fail, none of that. I just think that as an enforced institution, it creates some insanely harmful learned attitudes and behaviors. These are purely my opinions and the only people I know for certain my preferred style of relationship works for are me and the people I'm with.

First off, I feel like the learned jealousy that monogamy enforces can do a lot of damage to a relationship. The idea of being jealous or threatened when a partner is attracted to, spends a lot of time with, or is even intimate with someone else is entirely a social construct. Like, I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but it is a common consensus that getting jealous of a partner's close friend is unreasonable. And yet it is considered completely reasonable to take issue with your partner even being attracted to other people. It doesn't make sense.

For another thing, it inextricably binds sex and romance in a way that I think harms a lot of relationships. The amount of times I've seen or heard of relationships being destroyed because of sexual dissatisfaction is ridiculous. The general societal response to this is to assert that the romantic connection should be more powerful than the sexual one, and I agree, but people never take that to what I feel is often the logical conclusion. Uncoupling romantic love from sexual attraction means that people aren't forced to make an arbitrary choice between two things that, frankly, I don't feel have much material connection. I have a hard time understanding why we allow loving relationships to be destroyed because something that some people consider a basic need must go unfulfilled for them to prosper.

And drawing on that concept, a lot of issues that we see today with toxic masculinity and incel culture also draw on this notion of this enforced link between sex and romantic relationships, in this case in that many men are incapable of separating one from the other. When you examine incel culture, what you realize is that these are people who don't want a relationship. They want sex. These ideas of basically pretending to be someone's friend just so that you can sleep with them and that being "nice" entitles you to a woman's body are direct products of a few ideas reenforced by monogamous culture. One is that the criteria for a romantic partner and a sexual partner are exactly the same. This inability to realize that a woman's standards for who they would date, who they would be friends with, and who they would sleep with stem in no small part from the fact that many people are trained to believe that the ideal romantic partner is just a really good friend who you sleep with, while also being taught that a romantic partner is by definition a sexual one and that the criteria must therefore be the same. This creates cognitive dissonance when one realizes that physical attractiveness does often factor into one's sexual preferences. It creates this twofold false assumption where the criteria for a friend and a romantic partner are the exact same, but also somehow the way you look factors into the criteria for a romantic partner because the criteria for a romantic partner and a sexual partner are somehow the same. It is utterly false nonsense, makes no sense, and I doubt even many monogamous people would agree with that logic. When sex and romance are uncoupled, what you realize is that someone wants some things in a romantic partner, some things in a sexual one, and those things don't always line up. A romantic partner is not just a friend, and a friend is definitely not by definition a sexual partner. It dashes away that learned fantasy. Additionally, it prevents romantic feelings from being manipulated and used as tools for sexual purposes. Now I'm not saying for a second that this is the sole factor in these gross cultures, but enforced monogamy does definitely feed into the mindset.

None of this has even begun to acknowledge the existence of asexuality. That sounds like it's own rant and this is already a disjointed midnight word vomit. Please be kind if I haven't made my points well, for I am unfathomably eepy, and please keep in mind that this is not meant to be an attack on monogamy as anything other than an enforced institution. I have lots of monogamous friends, I swear!