The Importance of "He lives rent free in each of our hearts"

No, I am not exaggerating when I am saying this joke has layers of subtext. What Cyno says in the Parade of Providence is not only a joke about the nature of Alhaitham in their friend group, but also a hint towards the evolution of Cyno and Alhaitham’s relationship. 

1- The Context

The first thing to note is the conversation that surrounds this joke. Previously, the conversation was:

Collei: That’s a good thing… It means you have integrity.

Kaveh: Thank you, oh my god, thank you… See, you get me Collei!

Kaveh: It’s a good thing Alhaitham isn’t here right now… He’d be quick to explain why you’re wrong.

Collei: Seems you always include him in the conversation, even when he isn’t here…

Tighnari: Yep. No dinner with Kaveh is complete without a few words about Alhaitham.

Now, the easy thing to latch onto is the fact that Kaveh apparently talks extensively about Alhaitham. However, let’s consider what else is said. Kaveh’s statement is certainly an insight into the nature of his and Alhaitham’s relationship- that being one of opposing forces, people who fundamentally do not mesh due to differences in experiences and worldview. 

Tighnari’s following statement is sarcastic, and is an obvious indication of the familiarity of this. Because of Kaveh and Alhaitham’s opposing natures, it is only natural that they clash. 

But how does this tie into what Cyno says? Well, Kaveh’s statement is antagonistic, meant to express his negative feelings towards Alhaitham by assuming that he’d say the worst about him. Tighnari’s is not positive either, but not exactly negative- simply, it’s exasperation towards the entire situation. However, what Cyno has to say is more positive, both that it’s a lighthearted joke, and that offers a glimpse at the much more friendly feelings that Cyno holds towards Alhaitham.

2- The Joke

Cyno: I sense that Alhaitham has in fact been here with us all along…

Kaveh: He’s here? Where!? Why didn’t you tell me?

Cyno: …He lives rent free in each of our hearts.

There’s a lot to unpack here. First to note, is that this is all too easy to brush off as a friendly joke. And on some level it is, which is in of itself, really telling. When Cyno and Alhaitham first fought in Aaru Village, neither… liked each other, let’s put it that way. But throughout the Sumeru Archon Quest, they clearly grew to respect one another’s characters and grew to form a partnership. The fact that Cyno can joke so easily about Alhaitham speaks to a major change in dynamic.

Now, the punchline. This is by far the most fascinating part to me. Saying someone or something “lives rent free in [your] head” is a common term on the internet now, and put in simplest terms, means you think about it a lot. But then, why heart? 

Well, the brain tends to symbolize rationality, thinking, and planning. If something lives rent free in your head, you think about it a lot. While the term is usually connected to a positive connotation, that what you are thinking of is something that makes you happy, it can easily dip into negativity. However, the heart is different. It tends to symbolize emotionality, love, and sometimes life. Cyno saying Alhaitham lives rent free in their hearts and not their heads creates deeper intimacy, making the statement very clearly personal. And tying back into the previous section, neither Kaveh nor Tighnari were expressing positive emotions about Alhaitham, making the statement seem out of place. But it makes much more sense when it is not taken as a mere joke; rather, it is an expression Cyno’s connection to Alhaitham. 

3- Conclusion

One final thing to note is that Alhaitham is not present when Cyno makes this joke. So, one, this could mean that this is an expression of emotionality that Cyno is comfortable making about Alhaitham, just not towards him, implying that he has come to terms with his feelings about Alhaitham but has not deciphered what Alhaitham feels about him. Two, the Traveler is unaware of their relationship, hence why the player doesn't pick up on anything, but everyone else is, and Cyno just wants to express that he loves his boyfriend very much.

In short, Cyno loves Alhaitham, even if no one else has anything good to say about him. 

Can you make a yandere main 4 with a Uchiha s/o like there s/o is a survivor of the Uchiha clan like sasuke

You meant from Hunter x Hunter, right? I left out the whole older sibling thing since I didn’t want it to be too similar.

Tw: Yandere themes, unhealthy mindset, unhealthy relationship, possessive behavior, obsession, delusion, clinginess, touchiness, paranoia, overprotective behavior, isolation, abduction

Last Uchiha s/o

Gon Freecs

 🎣 Likely assumes at first that his darling is also from the Kurta clan before they explain it to him. He’s quite shocked to find out that your entire clan has been wiped out and that you seek out revenge for them. Gon is really overprotective so he tries to convince his s/o to not leave alone and fight alone since he’s terrified that they will die or be fatally wounded. He sort of understands that he can never fully understand your pain though since you lost everything, something you sharply remind him of in heated moments. Gon won’t let you leave on your journey for revenge, you have to let him accompany you so he can protect you at least. Hearing their story changes things for Gon though.

🎣He grows more paranoid as he fears that you’ll be hunted for your unique eyes. Also grows very clingy as he grows quite distraught with the thought of what you had to go through. He projects wrong assumptions into your behavior, if you want to be alone he already believes that you’re suffering emotionally. For that reason he starts coddling you quite a bit with affection, perceiving it as attempts to comfort you. At one point he goes full blown overprotective mode, rejects your determination to avenge your family as he’s too horrified that you might not survive. He lost someone too, he doesn’t want to suffer the same trauma again. He’ll do it for you if it truly helps to put you at ease, he’s grown to hate the person who killed your clan too since they could have murdered you just as well.

Killua Zoldyck

🪀It’s a bit freaky for him to hear from his s/o how similar their life is to the one of his friend Kurapika. On the other hand it describes your lonely attitude. Without a doubt you awake a more paranoid and overprotective mode inside of Killua too now that you’ve let him in on your secret. Rationally he knows that you’re strong with the power of your eyes but his emotions interfere with his logical mindset. Losing possibly your life to murder the one who slaughtered your entire clan and throwing away your whole life isn’t something he could ever accept. Killua doesn’t want you to go down that path, you can’t just waste your entire life living for revenge. He knows that sounds selfish coming from him since you lost your entire clan but that doesn’t stop him from acting on his desires anyways.

🪀Killua fears the possibilities of people attacking you due to you being an Uchiha so he grows even more protective, either by glueing himself to your hip or by essentially becoming your second shadow. He tries in his own ways to cheer you a bit up since you’re quite withdrawn but differently from Gon he has a sense of respect when you request some privacy. If you still carry on with your quest, Killua will follow you. He feels bad for you so that keeps him from stopping you but the moment you get into a fight, he will interfere immediately and urge you to leave. He couldn’t stand watching how you get fatally injured. Killing the one who slaughtered your entire life means protecting you though so he won’t have any qualms to murder them.

Kurapika Kurta

⛓️He’s so caught up in the belief that you’re another survivor from his clan at first that he just straight up doesn’t believe your own story. It takes you a good while and a closer look to your eyes and overall abilities that he realizes that he’s misunderstood the situation. That leaves him at first upset and a bit heartbroken since he thought for a short moment that he wasn’t the last one. Kurapika initially understands your goal the most though since he has the same goal, you two even join forces for a while. He’s uncharacteristically protective though because he sees so much from himself in you. In the end you letting him join you becomes a bad decision when Kurapika just goes into full-blown obsession mode. He seemingly snaps because you two are too alike, from your past to your eyes.

⛓️Surely it must be fate for you two to have met each other. He suddenly never strays away from you and is immensely paranoid as he fears that you’ll be wanted and targeted for your eyes just like his clan was. He’s overly hostile towards others and starts doting on you a lot as he understands the grief of losing everyone the best. He’s definitely delusional, thinks you two were made for each other since only you two could understand all the suffering and pain you went through and he feels weirdly comforted by that thought. Because he understands so much, he shares your desire to avenge your clan, hating them as much as you do. You can’t expect him to want you to fight against them too much though as he’s terrified that you’ll be reckless enough to risk your own life. He really isn’t one to talk but what counts for him doesn’t have to count for you.

Leorio Paradinight

🧳Leorio feels his poor heart break when you finally admit to him what you went through in the past and what you plan to do in the future. He has a spitting image of Kurapika in front of his eyes. You lost everything and are driven by grief and hatred to murder whoever took your clan away from you so that they may rest in peace as much as you. There is this sense of helplessness washing over Leorio for a while since he doesn’t know how he can help you. He feels like comparing his own past to yours would be like insulting you since he thinks that you’ve gone through the worst someone could go through. He ends up dedicating himself to just being there for you though. He wants to make you feel better and make you feel happy again, drags you a lot outside with him so you can rid your mind of negative thoughts for at least a while.

🧳Considering that he wants to be a doctor, Leorio also starts listening to your problems and feelings if you decide to open up to him about them. He’s patient about it. It shouldn’t be a surprise that he advices you to not go down the path of revenge though. He knows that he could never understand your sorrow and pain but he knows that you’re going to risk your life if it means killing your sworn enemy. This isn’t what your family would have wanted and it isn’t what he wants either. He’s the most incapable to stop you though since he doesn’t have the heart to knock you out and he lacks the fighting experience so you could easily beat him in a fight.

pot, meet kettle

pairings: kaveh, itto x reader

synopsis: whiny and hot men smartly decide to date the only one who can match and even beat his charisma and annoying remarks, and everyone is stuck dealing with both of your dramatic characters

tags: you are very much annoying, sweet names except for babe or baby because i hate it, fluff and cuddles, they are very sweet, fun fact the creation of this fic was made because a little birdie told me to do this i just added itto because he is my man,

Kaveh swears he is a logical man, a rational man who desires nothing more than peace and tranquility. no one really agrees with him, with all the bickering with alhaitham and squabbles with dori his reputation of being sensitive is set in stone.

But with you around it truly feels that what he said was right. Compared to Kaveh and you, Alhaitham would rather spend time in hell and dead in a casket. So whenever you were around and in his house, the scribe just seemed to disappear out of nowhere. And you were now always alone with your man.

"Why would you use that as a painting, its too abstract?" you comfortably conquered the couch while watching Kaveh hang the ugliest portrait you have ever seen since the last time he hung one. "I literally went on this five minute walk to Alhaitham's house just to see you hanging this ugly portrait rather than spending time with ME."

He gasped at such comment, he can't believe he heard such nonsense from someone as attractive and ethereal as you.

"Darling, this isn't just some painting, this cost me--"

"So? Is my worth also measured in material value? Hang that painting in the wall or you'll continue to be my lover." With the painting out of the way, you were soon delivered with happy cuddles from a beautiful portrait such as he.

"Now will I continue to be your one and only?" you pat his head, thinking about it.

"Do you really think such measly act is worth my time," he shook his head. "Now let's sleep."

He obeyed and went to sleep smoothly and always remembered to bring you to every art auction after.

Everyone had their own opinion about Itto. He was loud, obnoxious, and the reoccurring theme about his public display of affection. It was getting out of hand, even to some member of his gang (Shinobu). But to you, it was simply not enough, the mediocre singing, the wilted flowers and most recently, your very own cow.

You keep on telling him that this is not what you want and say that you will eventually return feelings once he had given you the right thing. The fact of the matter is you already fell, but he really thought a cow will make you happy. I mean it did, but let your pride take you away.

Also a goat will be nice next time, and then you saw him once more, no longer with his trusted companions, but just him.

"So pumpkin, how is your amazing self today?"

"And that is the first thing you say to me? I am here offering my time and company for you!" you huffed and he immediately apologized. "Also I'm doing great! Want to commit some crimes today?"

And just like that both of you went on a spree, you insisted he holds your hand or he never will hold your hand ever again, and also that he will bring the cow with you. It seemed that Shinobu has a lot of explaining to do, but it seems you are not in trouble.

As the day came into a close, Itto realized that commiting war crimes are even better if the person he likes is around him. But as the day comes to close, and this day of temporary joy has reached its end. The lovebirds said goodbye.

"Until we meet again, my dove." you walked away slowly, the sunset brightening you eyes.

"Farewell, my fair master." he bowed and...

You saw each other again after 45 minutes.

It has been brought to my attention that people can't know me unless I let you in. You're not mind-readers or actively remembering every detail. So let's get vulnerable *awkward thumbs up*

Here are some answers to not frequently asked questions:

You can use my real name, it works for me, Saffy's a chosen name for online (and offline if people struggle with pronunciation). I like both.

Don't worry about french timezones. I sleep 14 hours a day, awake about 12, resting for about half of that. I do have to go AFK regularly to do household stuff and rest, but if i'm online it's ok to assume i'm around =)

I can't drive. Haven't learned. Finally open to the idea though.

I don't have a DNI and don't talk about squicks and stressors because Tumblr has good curation options that i use extensively: So if I don't engage with a post, it could be that it contains a specific word. Things I haven't been able to filter but can set off a spiral are gun ownership 'for protection' (science says nope). Disability and labour (specifically the idea we have to be productive and also the fact that many disabled folks are maimed by attempting work). Breath play (extremely dangerous), sloppily defined 'kink' and ill-defined long term relationships. The word glioblastoma makes me cry. Tween pregnancy, death from childbirth, covid, long covid and various aspects of rape culture get greylisted at more difficult times.

I'm ace but have no issue with erotica and nudes or most sex scenes. Doesn't do much for me, doesn't disgust me most of the time. However, I can't stand products of the porn industry: zero interest in watching the adventures of a near disembodied penis in a woman who's clearly performing. You can be sex positive, support sex work and still see the industry as detrimental. Stunt and porn performers deserve so much better.

I'm currently more financially stable than ever. It's also not much at all. Enough to choose + buy my own food and clothes. Enough to have savings for a dog's vet expenses and someone to give her 15-minute walks. It's precarious and at the whims of having a really good doctor (she's retiring soon) but it's been nice to not be scared all the time. Lily the dog is my most precious luxury and worth it.

I went a decade only seeing a GP for emergency antibiotics after medical trauma. I had to put on makeup, drink lots of sugar to stay sat upright during the visit and pretend to be weller than I was to not get put in a psych ward because he didn't "believe" in autoimmune illnesses in the young, despite being cleared by a psychiatrist and a weekly psychotherapy session for 3 months. Getting healthcare and getting it paid for has been a mixture of very good luck and a long-term uphill battle (huge amounts of online research).

I'm probably not autistic (the online science tests point towards ADHD, you could probably armchair dx that from a few posts!) but use the term 'on the spectrum' because I've been perceived as autistic since childhood, especially when I'm happy or comfortable. Can't figure out if how I identify internally matters more than how I'm seen. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I'm often assumed to be a lesbian. eh.

I can be easily gaslit so long as it's a very slow boil. But if pushed to think about it, a core self that I've built in the past few years emerges suddenly to give me the rational overview. The clarity of that view is brutal. just brutal. Makes me question everything about myself for a while. I feel like someone trying to walk next to a car blaring 'oonst oonst' music trying to not match the beat in steps but falling into it anyway.

I'm allergic to cats but not exclusively a 'dog person'. Papaye slept just outside the door in a dog transport cage after Christmas while upstairs neighbour was busy. I just think cats are neat, they seem fine with me.

I can't explain why the main hobby ended up being dolls, it just clicks: they're bite sized and candy coloured and cute, there are so many crafting and art options for doll collectors, always loved repair. I feel very lucky to have found such a lovely community and i'm constantly getting into new crafts, new stories and making new acquaintances because it's a place where dolls get to be just one facet for connection.

I'm going to be 41 in april, my fave flower is daffodils, my fave plant is moss, all colours are nice: pastel rainbows and shades of green from lime to teal make me happiest.

'manifesting' is my current bugbear, it's stupid, it's harmful, it's just world theory repackaged, did I mention it's stupid?

I don't like onions and garlic, not unless they're super in the background. I respect the allium lovers and can (and do) put up with the smell daily but really dislike the taste. Same with coffee except that smells amazing.

Emoticons and emojis have made typing more like real language to me, I speak with my hands and accentuate words and even emote at the screen while i'm writing. I don't find it childish, not even gifs or memes, just an extension of language.

I've changed my mind about David Fincher in the past 5 years: brilliant director yes, not great at human stories after all.

If you feel like sharing your own, let this be your prompt. 💜

Why isn't Effy an INTJ 5w4?

In my opinion she is IF(S) / ISFP sp4w5sx VFEL

And now I will explain why:

At first glance, she may look like an INTJ, as she seems to be emotionally detached, in her own world, as if on a different wavelength. But this is not true.

High Te controversy

Effy's character is centered around her ambiguous motives, which emerge from her inner thought process and make life difficult for everyone around Eff. This is contrary to Te aux. They tend to form groups based on desires that stem from objective criteria.

Te types are defined by an intellectual formula based on objective, rational and logical ideals that are used both individually and collectively. Manifestations of this type include reductive and collective thinking, obsession with the principles of society. And if we apply this to Stonem , then we will understand that this does not work, from the word at all. Equating it with extraverted thinking is simply not logical, erroneous and not true.

Elizabeth never relies on her environment, she seeks to control and influence it.

But if not Te aux, then probably Ti? Nah, Effy is also completely devoid of it.

To classify her as a person who is looking for some kind of justification and a logical chain in her actions and evaluates situations on her own understanding is complete nonsense.

Effy does not interact with new information in any way in order to fit it into a logical system and look for a connection in it. She doesn't care if something makes sense or not, she only cares about what feels right to her and what's comfortable for her. Effy's judgments pass through the prism of subjective feelings and uses them as an objective measure of her sympathies.

That's sorted out, so now why is Effy Fi dom?

Fi dom in most cases are silent, inaccessible and others do not understand them: they seem cold and reserved, it may seem that they have no feelings at all. But in fact, their feelings are very intense. They are guided by their emotions and their true motives often remain a secret.

She is aloof, ambiguous, her judgment process is internal, with no desire to influence emotional experiences and impose her principles on others, because of this, it is difficult for others to truly understand her, no one understands what she feels and what she wants.

We were shown that Effy supposedly suffered for many years, because of this she is inaccessible and keeps everything to herself.

In Season 2 Episode 7, Stonem blackmailed Sid into completing an art project for her, but he was later handed over to Pandora. Because of this, Effy improvised her art project and presented her emotions, stating that her lack of preparation was "conceptual art". And when somehow people came to the conclusion that this scene was a sign of introverted intuition, just because she used the word “conceptual” when it is the embodiment of introverted feeling. Effy looks cold and unfeeling, but inside is a fire of emotion. She says she experiences many emotions but no one sees them, isn't that literally a Fi function? This quote captures the essence of Elizabeth's character.

She is observant and judicious as she seeks to form judgments and categories in order to change people and analyze perceptions based on these chosen criteria. In addition, in her character, emotionality is quite common.

Several people have claimed that Effy is supposedly out of touch with reality because she is detached from her interactions with Pandora and Julie from the first season, but this is not only false (since Effy can reasonably answer Pandora's questions by watching what happens). This is a look at Stonem's friendship with two girls. While we see Effy eventually getting closer to Pandora, it's pretty clear that Effy hangs out with Julie and Pandora because they're willing to do whatever she says, they don't pose a threat to her popularity and she used them to feel better.

A lot of people call Effy someone who is out of touch with material reality and lives in her imagination, and that's just not true. The fact that Effy conveys the appearance of a cold, mysterious and withdrawn person does not automatically make her aloof intuitive. There was simply no time when Effy wandered into the realm of her linear vision of the world or focused on abstraction. Just be in silence or think with an intuitive process and activity.

With raw observation, Se is also focused on sensory stimuli and the pleasure of feeling. When we get to know Effy, it's quite clear that Effy is quite bored when she doesn't indulge in forms of pleasure, even when she ignores her friend, she is still bored, looking for something to keep her busy, be it playing with her lighter on the bus or flirting with a stranger on the same bus, because of this, she looked for stimuli in the outside world, and not looked for them in the realm of intuition.

And you might think “God, this is just a low Se or Ni transition at home into stress!”

Many who type her as INT* have come to the conclusion that Effy's craving for stimuli was the result of a lower Se and a desire for physical escapism. Which doesn't make absolute sense when you think about it, for various reasons. The main reason is that Effy didn't experience much stress in her first season episode, there was no need to run away with physical stimuli or an excessive need for sensations to help her stress. This was simply the result of her ideal that sensual enjoyment is the manifestation of life. Ultimately, this is Effy's primary way of perceiving.

The fact is that an introverted intuitive is often not aware of external factors, so he tries to be more careful. He can lie a lot, simply because he has his head in the clouds and does not notice the real world, he misses a lot of external factors and simply does not accept them. Effy, operates primarily with objective facts. As an example, when three guys are addicted to her, she gives them a list or a receipt of mushrooms, etc...

IF(S)

[From CognitiveType]

“Although this type derives its understanding of the external world from a literal and proactive process of perception, it is primarily driven by Fi, which is a subjective process. Consequently, the end result of this type of inner experience will be one somewhat divorced from the world or its reality. It will remain colored by its own interpretation of cause-and-effect relationships. Life becomes, firstly, and above all, the subject of personal emotional care, and secondly, a reality flowing sensually and comprehended by sensual influences. Their inner world can become the predominant theme of the heart, often leading to the exploration and expression of these sensations."

Why Effy VFEL?

You can find fault with the fact that, Fi dom can not be with 1V. But do not forget that this does not work for fictional characters that are not particularly well written / and developed (Effy is one of them). In principle, it is difficult to fit her into any kind of typology framework.

Effy cannot be E1V3, such a type has through measured emotionality, one might say hysterical. (3v makes the first function hyperactive) Elizabeth, on the contrary, hides her emotions very well, yet 3V is not like it, because Eff does not need decision support, she doubts nothing, she follows her whims and does as she wants, which is typical of 1V3E . 3E is perfect for her, as she hides and suppresses her true feelings and holds them until she breaks, she seems cold and filters her emotions by hiding them, unlike 1E. As Effy, 3E does not show much of her inner world and emotions, so she acts cold and heartless, although we later learn what she really has inside and how much is hidden there.

Ooh, and another request, The Waifus with an S/O that has photophobia due to the Oltura situation?

Sure! Sorry if it's short! *Photophobia = Fear of Light*

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The Waifus (Kyle, Reverto, Cheval, Alwin, Lilia, Ena, Kayna, and Avinia) with an S/O That Has Photophobia

Kyle

-He's probably the least understanding, and it's because it's hard for him to show it. Kyle is still young compared to our other bachelors and bachelorettes, so it's hard for him to hide some of his annoyance and misunderstandings when it comes to your situation. I mean, how can someone be afraid of light? You're supposed to be afraid of the dark, at least, that's what he's learned. But he supposes that the Oltura situation has brought out some hidden fear in you. And that, he can understand.

-The hunter doesn't really know how to help you besides what you tell him to do. I mean, to him, there's light everywhere, so how can he help you. This involves you telling him what kind of light frightens you and so forth. He should've known that sunlight wouldn't scare you. But bright lights, flashing lights, anything that reminded you of that elder dragon...that's a no go. Well, Kyle keeps his bow close, promising to shoot any light that starts to bother you. That's how he helps.

Reverto

-Reverto is pretty understanding of your feelings, even if the fear itself leaves him boggled. Like Kyle, he also doesn't understand how the fear of light can be a thing. Light is all around you after all. But when you explain that this fear only started after Oltura, it all started making more sense to him. He'd be terrified too after encountering a bright beast that was capable of destroying the world, especially if he was the only one capable of fighting it. I mean, he has a fear of bugs, so he really has no place to say that your fear is irrational.

-Like Kyle, he doesn't really know how to help your fear. If anything, he just offers support and comfort when you need it. Reverto even goes as far as offering to get through your fears together, you with light and him with bugs. You guys could talk about it and support each other, like group therapy. But at the very least, you have his big strong arms to go to when things start scaring you too much. Because at the end of the day, it was the monster who's at the root of your fear, which he understands more than anything.

Cheval

-Cheval is probably the most understanding out of everyone. He's gone through his own cycle of intense fear due to the nargacuga attack and the death of his mother. It's taken him years to overcome that, and he still really hasn't. So, he knows what you're going through with the whole Oltura thing and the photophobia. If you think your fear is silly, he does not. Cheval is always looking out for you. Granted, he can't exactly solve this problem with a sword, but he can support you.

-He's extremely caring when it comes to you. Cheval doesn't talk about your fear unless you want to talk about it. He respects your boundaries with the whole thing, just like how you did with him. If you come in for a hug or some cuddles, he's there to provide. But he's also here to protect you. If you can't handle going somewhere or need to take a break from a quest due to whatever your fear of light was causing, he's there and doesn't get irritated over it. Rathi is also here to give you dragon cuddles when needed.

Alwin

-Alwin, like every time he has to deal with some new human thing, is confused. Wyverians aren't really educated on phobias. Well, they understand fears of things, it's just the naming that gets all confusing. The word "photophobia" earned some head tilting from him. You were a bit embarrassed to explain things. After all, the fear of light sounded just as childish as a fear of the dark. At least, that's what you'd assume Alwin would think. But he doesn't think that at all. He thinks every fear is rational, and he too has his own fears due to some close calls.

-He listens to you when you want to talk about the incident that started this whole fear. Alwin knows that getting to the root of the problem might help cure it. The wyverian gets surprisingly helpful after you explain things to him. He keeps the lights dim in the house if that starts to make you anxious, and stuff like that. Alwin will also just be there to hold you if you need a calming moment. He never wants you to feel ashamed because of this, especially since it was an elder dragon that caused it.

Lilia

-Lilia understands your fear, and she tries to rationalize it to the best of her ability. Her entire life revolves around facts and evidence, and that's how she understands your photophobia. Of course, that makes you feel a bit embarrassed to share it with her, in fear that she'll think your childish. That said, Lilia knows that your encounter with Oltura has left you shaken up. Truth be, she can be a little blunt when it comes to accessing your fear, but that's just how Lilia is sometimes, and you've learned to love it despite how it makes you feel sometimes. She isn't trying to make you feel bad.

-She's busy most of the time, but that doesn't stop Lilia from making sure you are okay. She tries to check up on you or has someone check up on you if she knows you're having a rough time with your fear. Any festival that comes up in town, she'll always go with you if you're feeling up to it. Lilia will also give you plenty of hugs if that's the medicine you need that day or wrap you in a blanket to keep you in the dark if you need that as well.

Ena

-Like Cheval, Ena is probably the most understanding of your fear because she was there with you when you defeated Oltura. That is where your fear of light came from after all. Like Alwin, she doesn't understand the concept of phobias, but she understands having fears. In all honesty, she also has a fear of light due to Oltura. Maybe not to extent that you have, but every bright light or flash makes her anxious for a second. So, she relates to you the best out of everyone, making things a lot easier for you both. Because you have each other to depend on.

-She's the best help that you could ever ask for. Ena is understanding, she doesn't think your fear is silly, and is soft and gentle when it comes to dealing with it. The wyverian keeps things dim and quiet for you, even if you don't really need it. You guys discuss your fear with each other, the whole Oltura thing and so forth. Ratha is also there for you both, covering you guys with his wings when needed.

Kayna

-Kayna has known you for a long while, and she's never seen you scared of something like this before. Of course, everyone has their own fears, but you've always seemed so fearless. To see how one monster gave you a fear of light broke her heart. Light is something that should bring happiness and cheer, so this makes Kayna feel bad for you. But as your lover, she knows that it's her job to make you feel better and help you overcome this fear. If that doesn't work, then Kayna will just make you wear a blindfold. Can't be scared of what you can't see. Well, that's her logic, even if it doesn't work like that.

-She's always a bundle of energy, so getting you to smile is an easy feat. Even though your photophobia comes and goes with what light is around you, Kayna is ready to support you whenever anxiety overwhelms you. She doesn't know how to help you all that much, but she's always ready with hugs. Also, a ride around on some monsties during the night to calm your nerves if need be.

Avinia

-Avinia has always been a little judgmental, but she has a good heart. She doesn't understand your fear all too much in the beginning, thinking that it's difficult to be afraid of something that's been there all your life. But after learning about Oltura, Avinia understands how that can spark some trauma and fear in your life. She doesn't know what it all fully entails because if you were afraid of all light, you wouldn't go outside. However, she believes, and you might even tell her, that it has to do with the brightness that would resemble Oltura. After the pits and everything, she can't really blame you.

-She isn't the touchiest type of person, but she is a good listener. If you want to talk about your fear, Avinia is there to listen and rationalize things out if that's what you need. If you really want to hug or cuddle because you feel overwhelmed, she'll do it, but she'll get flustered. Avinia will even go as far as to admit some of her own fears if it might make you feel better. Ratha and Frostfang are also there to make you feel better.

Two Incompatible Hulks

I'm not referring to She-Hulk and the Hulk. Just different versions of Bruce Banner.

In the endlessly revolving door of Marvel comics writers, the rules of what the Hulk is have... flexed. And the MCU hasn't particularly cared to clarify which rules it uses.

But I feel there are basically two different kinds of Hulk that are fascinating character concepts, and both are mutually exclusive.

Green Adrenaline

First is the surface-level Hulk, where what you see is what you get. Bruce Banner suffers from a pseudo-magical condition where his adrenaline triggers a purely physiological transformation.

As he explained to Betty Ross in the pre-MCU movie, it's still very much "him" in the driver's seat, but his senses and emotions are cranked up to inhuman levels of sensitivity, so rational thought and self-control become difficult, especially when the USA military is shooting bullets and explosives at him.

This Banner isn't suffering from disassociative identity disorder. No amount of therapy can change his situation; the "Professor Hulk" is impossible. If Bruce can't cure himself or otherwise introduce a new change to his biology, the best he can do is live in controlled isolation while continuing to improve his self-control to avoid triggering his transformation, and possibly to better control himself while transformed. Getting the military off his back would work wonders.

If none of that happens, Bruce Banner’s life remains a compelling tragedy.

This version of the Hulk seems mutually exclusive with the existence of the She-Hulk (and Doc Samson). If Jennifer Walters contracted the exact same condition as her cousin, she should likewise become the same sort of hyper-sensitive, fight-or-flight creature when her adrenaline kicks in. Likewise Samson.

For the existence of She-Hulk and Doc Samson to make the most sense, the Hulk needs to be...

Multiple Identities

This version of the Hulk isn't triggered physiologically by adrenaline. The trigger for the physical transformation is instead entirely mental.

For someone like Jennifer Walters, her transformation (as I remember it from pre-MCU sources) was tied to her self-confidence. When she felt comfortable with herself, she became big and green. If she lost confidence in herself and began to feel like her old, mousy, timid self, that's what she turned back into.

As for Bruce... well, the exact picture depends on how bad his mental damage is. Did he suffer from DID before the gamma-radiation accident? Did the accident or the traumas following it build upon pre-existing issues so that he began to suffer from DID afterwards?

Is the Hulk the primary personality; the abused child who never grew up, who retreated behind the persona of a genius child who went on to become Bruce Banner? When he transforms into the Hulk, is the child responding to external threats by shoving Bruce out of the way to fight for survival?

Or is Banner the primary personality, and the Hulk is the persona he would use as a child to vent the rage he felt towards his father? When he transforms into the Hulk, is Banner trying to avoid responsibility for acting on a desire to hurt people, or is he retreating from the fear of danger and pain and using the Hulk as a survival mechanism?

Either way, it makes for a fascinating character drama, and that's where Doc Samson comes in: someone who contracted the same condition as Bruce Banner, but who remains completely in control and doesn't fly into violent rages. A trained psychologist and therapist who can help Bruce accept "the Hulk", while surviving the experience thanks to his similar levels of strength and durability.

Where Doc Samson acts as the mediator between the Hulk and Banner, Jennifer Walters acts as the mediator between her cousin and the world. She not only legally represents her cousin against the abuses of the government and the media and anyone else, she also displays by her very existence that her cousin CAN become a safe and productive member of society if that society will stop hunting him and start offering him the help he needs.

And there's also the Hulk villains like the Leader and the Abomination, who likewise contracted gamma-radiation transformations without ending up with Bruce's Jekyll and Hyde situation.

If I may propose another possible time for when the swap happened, I believe it was during the time skip. We know Claude invites Shez to stay in Leicester at the end of the Prologue yet, during the two-year time skip, Claude effectively left Shez to fend for themselves. Why would Claude invite Shez to stay if he didn't plan on making use of their skills whatsoever?

My theory is that Claude likely tried to dig up info on Shez's powers and may have gotten too close for comfort for TWSITD, so they swapped him with the swap happening very early on during the time skip. This would explain why he so suddenly becomes a different person by the time Part 1 begins but also explain how nobody, at least on the Fodlan side, has noticed it.

I actually think that this particular point could go either way in terms of when the swap occurs. It's entirely reasonable to think that the swap happened at some point early in the timeskip after Claude invited Shez to the Alliance, with him sticking his nose where he shouldn't have and getting grabbed because of it.

But I also think it stands to reason that Claude was already swapped before the timeskip, and the Agarthan recognized Shez' Awakened state in combat and realized that this mercenary has their own Agarthan connection. The invitation therefore could be the Agarthan wanting to have them close to keep an eye on them and try to figure out who Shez is and where their power comes from, since it is so familiar despite Shez themselves being an unknown factor.

At least to me, Claude isn't acting differently by the time Part 1 begins: he was already acting differently from his Three Houses self in the Prologue. His very swift declaration of trust in Shez, after just a few months of knowing them, is wildly out of character to me -- even with Byleth, he was pretty open about how he wanted Byleth on board because of their power and how he felt that could help him achieve his dreams, not because he trusted them. Claude is a schemer and someone that most people aren't inclined to trust, he's not all that dishonest -- but most of his lies are by omission, rather than whole-cloth inventions.

And then there's how he talks about his fellow students. There really does feel like a distinct difference between how he introduces them in Three Houses vs Three Hopes. Lorenz, for instance:

Three Houses: He's the heir of Gloucester territory. If you haven't already picked up on it, he's a bit arrogant and fancies himself a lady's man. That said, deep down he's really devoted and honest… Though I wouldn't mind never hearing him talk about his noble obligations ever again. Three Hopes: Have you met him yet? At first I thought he was real serious and persnickety. But that image shattered pretty quick once I noticed him chatting up every girl in the monastery.

He brings up of his own volition in Three Houses that Lorenz is devoted and honest and implies that his noble obligations are vital to him; in Three Hopes, he only discusses the surface level aspects -- the noble pomp and his apparent flirtatiousness. Or what about Ignatz:

Three Houses: He's the second son of a merchant family. Since his brother will inherit the business, he's training to become a knight. If you ask me, doesn't seem like he truly wants to be a knight… He's probably just doing it to please his parents… Three Hopes: Ignatz likes the great outdoors. Definitely more than the rest of us, anyway. He's the second son of a merchant family, but says he wants to be a knight. He doesn't really seem suited for it, though. Maybe his parents are making him do it.

In Three Houses, Claude is clearly attuned to the fact that Ignatz doesn't want to be a knight, and rationalizes that this is probably a move to please his parents. In Three Hopes, while he brings up Ignatz' love of the outdoors (something he didn't do in Three Houses), he says instead that Ignatz doesn't seem suited to it, which implies it's a physical insufficiency, rather than his heart not being in it. Then there's Leonie:

Three Houses: Leonie enrolled because she wants to be a mercenary. I think she said that her father is a hunter. She's pretty blunt and as stingy as they come. A habitual saver, too. I think she's hoping to repay her village for helping to send her here. Three Hopes: Leonie wants to be a mercenary. I bet you two would have lots to talk about. You're both pretty frank, too. I just hope you're not as obsessed with saving money as she is.

In Three Houses, he's not only aware of her father's profession, he already knows (or at least suspects enough to mention) that her stinginess and saving are to repay her village for helping get her to Garreg Mach. In Three Hopes, he knows she wants to be a mercenary, but then complains about her money saving, rather than offering an explanation.

So there actually is a pretty solid basis to say that Claude may have been replaced by the time we met him. And given that they never knew the real one...how would anyone know to bat an eye when he turns the Alliance into a monarchy and invades the Kingdom? He's the same as he's ever been, to them...even if he's not himself.

So would you agree that Roman’s nihilism probably stems from the abuse he suffered (and continues to)? I’ve been thinking about it and it makes sense for him to view himself as sort of useless and weak in comparison to Logan and even in comparison to Kendall. Remembering the dog pound story and Connor saying “Dad’s theory was: you have two fighting dogs. You send the weak one away, you punish the weak one. Than everyone knows the hierarchy, than everyone’s happy.” If Roman was continuously shamed, belittled and deemed useless and weak in his childhood, and if he formed this belief that Logan is strong, practically immortal and infallible, it would make sense for his nihilistic outlook to be born from that. In the end he is left with this primal need for Logan’s love (as well as primal fear of Logan) and he doesn’t believe that he is big or significant enough to exist beyond his father. He may be aware that Waystar is toxic but it is something his father created and he (weak, useless, fragile compared to his father) goes along with it because, well…he was born into it. It doesn’t make sense to give it up, it doesn’t make sense to defy his father. And he rationalizes it all by explaining that if it wasn’t them in this position, doing what they are, it would be someone else. (I could probably have explained it better but hopefully this makes sense)

I think it's sort of that but, his passiveness gives him a bit of a predisposition to nihilism because nihilism, as in having that "last man" mentality, is inherently passive and Roman's passiveness is kind of an early developed trait, I would guess? Like, it's part of that identification with the feminine role and then, how his mother, the parent whom he identifies with, is very passive as well.

The dog pound wasn't so much an event that made him that way (as Roman had been saying in Prague) but, it gave him an awareness of certain traits in himself and shamed him for them, seeing himself as being at the bottom of the hierarchy. So, the dog pound becomes the corrupting event. This is mirrored in how Roman has an awareness of his body that's far more intense than that of any of his siblings. It's similar to how eating the fruit from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil made Eve aware of her own body, resulting in immediate shame. With Logan's gender politics, it was almost inevitable that Roman have an event like this occur because he is incidentally the antithesis of Logan's ideal. He believes in and exists within his patriarchal ideology for the most part but, Roman identifies with the "wrong" role, the feminine one which is not what he, as Logan's son, is "supposed" to do. We see this repeated throughout the show. Every time someone references Roman's "wrongness," this is an instance of that. Through shaming his femininity, it reinforces the idea of masculinity as inherently virtuous.

There is, however, a comfort in being reminded of his place in the hierarchy because it's what he's used to and it establishes order. The point of having Logan as this big strong God-like figure is as someone who will protect him from a world outside that is seemingly scary and chaotic as well as his inner world which is also scary and chaotic. Roman feels like he does need to be disciplined, in that sense. So, the nihilism does also meet this desire for comfort which is a huge part of the "last man" condition that Nietzsche talked about. It's kind of a "social contract" situation as well because in exchange for his protection, comfort, and the tentative prize of affection/attention, he has forfeited much of his freedom and has made himself vulnerable to violence (physical or otherwise) from the state Logan. Obviously, it's not really a contract in that it's like, forced by birth. The expectation that he change or rather, the way Logan tries to force change in him is kind of a form of psychological violence and to Roman it does seem to feel that way. He knows it's not possible but, he kind of tries to make it work by hiding the "bad" (read: feminine) traits in hopes that it appeases Logan or even earns him some affection. Logan, however, thinks it is possible to change him because he refuses to accept Roman as he is. If he did that, then he'd realise that Roman's role is as his antithesis, someone to dispose of.

Regarding Roman's relationship to Waystar and the world outside it, you are right in saying that actively participating per Logan's request is just part of that "social contract." Like, he loses everything if he defies Logan so, obviously, he wouldn't. Roman, being his natural antithesis, is already an afront to him just by being himself so like, he is vulnerable in that sense already so, y'know... the fear is there. Like the rest of his family, Roman doesn't really know happiness so, I assume that he sees suffering as essential to the human condition so, there's not really a point in trying to like, achieve happiness and he's not really trying to get that either because happiness isn't inherent to love in Roman's book. So like, within his immediate situation it is that but, in a broader context, I think the way he projects his nihilism outward is that he sees the world outside as functioning on a very similar hierarchical system where people like his father will always win over those who are at a disadvantage via happenstance or whatever. Like, all that is just very arbitrary and meaningless as well. I don't really think he sees it as "Well if I wasn't gonna do it, someone else was" because I don't think he thinks of things in such a teleological manner rather, I think he just sees it as the natural state of things in a way. Like, that's just what the Roys do and there's just a cruel indifference to the world that makes life so brutal on all levels-- to live is to suffer.

One of your asks said they felt uncomfortable with Tae taking the condom off and cumming on Dae-un and couldn’t explain why. That’s because it’s wasn’t consensual. Especially for someone who has little to no prior sexual experience, being jizzed on like that is an invasion of space and comfort. I believe Taehyung forgot she was virgin and got really caught up in the moment. Lost control and his rational thinking. I also don’t think he was also very attentive to her afterwards. Losing one’s virginity carries a lot of heavy weight especially on women. Dae-un is going to have think about how cold (literally) and rushed her first time was even though it was with someone she cares about.

I am glad you didn’t write their first time as magical because most couples’ first times aren’t. They are unplanned like this. But knowing how Tae can get, he should have just paused and thought about some things first and stop thinking with his d!ck.

I’m neither team Cass or Dae-un. I’m team Tae do better lol.

Yes, I think just that. Luckily, I don't think she actually felt upset about it, and I do think there would have been aftercare that sort of made up for it in her mind (him cooking for her, them cuddling after, her staying over and wearing his shirt), but I do think immediately after, and then possibly a few days after that, it'd occur to her that she felt a bit sordid about the experience. I think she (as some readers have!) would come to the conclusion it was because of what happened the last time with Cass, and that it was a sure way of making sure she didn't get pregnant, which she'd get and think in hindsight was responsible of him. I actually don't think Tae was logically thinking of MUCH at all when he did it. Subconsciously, yes...maybe there was a part of him that wanted to be sure, but also as you say, I think it was mostly just him getting carried away and forgetting for a second she wasn't a virgin. For Da-eun, I think her immediate thoughts would be along the lines of, is this what people do during sex? Or, is this how it usually finishes?

I should mention that this entire scenario came immediately a long while ago, as 99% of our fics do, whereby it feels like we aren't even coming up with it or trying to figure out what should happen next. Logically, we always pictured their first time together would be as I'm sure most readers also imagined. But then we realised...nope...THIS is it. People might not be happy, but this is how it goes. It makes complete sense to us. And maybe once some readers recover from a bit of shock, it will just make sense to them too.

Morality Bites

Since my last post ive been having to deal with of course more flashbacks with panic attacks that last longer than i think should be possible in humans. Most of the flashbacks are from back when i was in high school. i had to deal with a lot of homophobia and just a lot of overall bullying from my dear classmates.

Like when i would ask one of my nice classmates to tell me more about his old tech collection my other classmates ran around telling each other that i was bullying him and calling him names. Every time he would stand up to them when they tried to "comfort" him (they just wanted to talk shit about me to anyone). That was super out of his comfort zone and im still very grateful for both him telling me what was going on and him standing up for honestly the both of us. This kinda thing would happen a lot and i mean a lot. So much so that even the super quiet kids in school began to openly insult me about things i would never do. Then i would go home and get treated the same by my biological mother. I hate being "back" in that place in my life. No matter how much i would stand up for myself everything would be twisted against me over and over again so much that people would often just assume most if not all those things about me had to be the real truth. To be fair i think it didnt help i never explained my morals set fully. i never thought to at the time and now im not sure if it wouldve even changed anything at all. Everything i believe in my moral set is pretty understandable but im not sure how it looks to others looking back. my moral set is mine tho. i never would force ANYONE to adhere to it just because they dont live the same way but i would tell them i disapprove, why and that if we dont see eye to eye on this THATS FINE(depending) BUUUT that also meanings i would rather not be close/friends anymore and just be more polite acquaintances(now that im adult i can tell people to fuck off nowadays! yahoo!!)

heres the large bulk of my moral set:

i am against discrimination based on sexuality, gender, ethnicity, heritage, and non-hateful religious followers. 

i am against child abuse, child neglect, DV, SA and theres NO excuse for any of it. Monsters who do these acts are monsters and theres no going back from that.

i am against cruelty, excessive) selfishness + selflessness(these things must be in a good balance), bullying, cheating, lying (unless its a life or death situation), people refusing self-improvement/growth, being disingenuous/fake.

Kindness is a gift. Be kind, be understanding but be rational because there will always be people who want to abuse others' kindness.Its a gift you have to give to YOURSELF first so that you will also have enough to be able to share with others. Being kind includes setting appropriate boundaries, being assertive and clear, letting yourself BE HUMAN.

If you see a chance to help someone no matter how small it may seem at first it DOES matter. 

When you make a mistake you do your best to right your wrong because youre yourself during your best and your worst times so make sure you can be proud of yourself even in the worst times. Mistakes are opportunities to grow and learn- take them!!! 

Life is short but also long- keeping/finding good mental health is a must, being able to be yourself is a must- never live a lie, you want something you work for it- passion is a wonderful tool, surround yourself with like-minded people but don't be afraid to be open to others- you may learn something new!

im only 23 rn but i feel ive learned a lot in my lifetime and im also know i have so much more ahead of me. i know some of these maybe hard for other people and it may feel lonely at times but for me thats okie. i dont preach or force these things on other people, mind you. i believe if someone truly wants to change, grow into living with this kinda moral set and sticking to it they need to find their reasons themselves. we're all on our own journeys.

Anyways most of my life i have found everyone around me has often just expected the worst of me in every situation and treated me as if i am evil in human form no matter what was proven. i dont live to make others like me so i do my best to stand up for myself but if they dont believe me or not care enough to think of me even neutrally now- thats fine with me. i just dont want to be treated poorly. i will never understand excessive cruelty that has been done to me. i dont know what they tell themselves at night to justify it all. it makes me feel scared since i feel like if any of them got the chance to be cruel to me once again none of them would flinch to do so. i understand i maybe cringe and annoying but i like myself, who i am and who i am always working on growing to be. im not gonna change for people who dont care about me as even a fellow human. i just wish and hope they ever hear or see my name or face anywhere its because my comic im currently working on made it big!

Before i close this post off i would like to say i understand my demeanour and overall hopefulness maybe seen like just plain ol' naivety and ill be honest maybe it is but i am passionate and i am determined to never give up, to use this life for all its got and do my part to make the world even just a little kinder. If that makes me seem stupid to you then i wonder what does "stupid" even mean to you.

"There's a difference only you can make." - Barbie in The 12 Dancing Princesses

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He has no trouble choosing a movie, deciding where to eat, or telling you which dress he likes best. It also reminded me that there is one characteristic exclusive to Doms that I failed to include:ĭesire to Lead- Does he take on opportunities to decide? A man who craves leadership takes on decisions easily, and without sign that they are burdensome. Someone worth waiting for won’t mind the wait.ĮDIT: I want to say, in response to some comments that have been made, that YES these characteristics are the same as any other relationship. Often we feel eager for that secure feeling of being cared for and that can muddy a submissive’s judgement. (Yeah, that means you can’t rush the process) Do these characteristics go out the window when things are stressful, or emotional, or are they integral parts of who this person is? You need to see them face adversity and show consistency over time in order to know their true metal. You couldn’t possibly know them for sure after a week of talking with someone. It’s probably a good sign if he knows where you went to college before he knows if you enjoy anal.Ĭonsistency- You’ll note that many of these things are traits you can only see develop over time. All the things a normal love interest would. He should show an interest in your hobbies, your family, and your favorite books/films. This is after all, first and foremost, a relationship. How does he react to a controversial blog post you show him? Does he shut it down immediately? A Dom who is thoughtful and open to learning will have a valid and well thought reason if he does.Īn interest in YOU- Look for someone who wants to know about you. (So will you.) His willingness to change his behaviors based on new information, and to grow as a person are very telling. Willingness to learn- Adaptability and enough humility to know that no man is an island is very important. He doesn’t need to raise his voice to feel heard, and when you do something like forget to call his default is concern and not anger. You’ll notice his focus under pressure is on how you’re doing, and on what step to take next. He behaves rationally in crisis and is quick to find solutions. This doesn’t mean he’ll owe you an explanation for every order until the end of time, but his transparency during vetting is very telling.Ĭalmness- A great Dom is cool under pressure. Most especially during vetting he should be more than willing to explain his reasoning. A great Dom will be open about his process, because he has your best interest at heart. Transparency/A willingness to explain- The whole “pay no attention to the man behind the curtain,” thing is best left in The Wizard of Oz. These small truths or lies tell the story of a person who is either comfortable, or uncomfortable, with dishonesty. You won’t find him making up some story about why he was late for your date because his character is more important to him than saving a little face. A man who values honesty has no place for them. Those little white lies are very telling. Honesty- This should go without saying, but sadly it doesn’t. Is he quicker to apologize than he is to provide excuses? If he is someone who agrees a Dom sometimes needs to be humble, then you should watch and see what happens when he makes a mistake. Integrity- He says he values family, does he take the time to see and call his own? Men with integrity hold to their moral principles even to the detriment of their own comfort. Reliability- Can you depend on him? When he says that he will do X thing, does he take concrete steps or is it just words? He says he’ll be there for you when you need him, does he call when he knows you have a big interview, or check on you when you’re sick without your having to pick up the phone first? Do you feel you can depend on him? A man like this is unlikely to engage you sexually on a first date. You shouldn’t feel as if you’re being dragged along by their wants and demands. They should also show patience with you, and a willingness to wait until they have earned your devotion and trust. Patience- Look for a Dom who is willing to build a relationship and doesn’t expect to materialize one from thin air simple because you are a submissive and they are a Dominant. Perhaps other people have their own ideas about important characteristics, but these are the things that are important to me. But it got me to thinking about the flip side to that equation, which of course is what should you be looking for? I’ve been asked this question a lot, and while it’s easy to say, just the opposite of what the red flags are, I thought it would be helpful to write a little something. I know I’ve written more than one myself. There are a lot of post out there about red flags and things to avoid when looking for a Dominant.

Skdhajdjsjadbnwbs bad ending ew *COUGHS AGGRESSIVELY* HELL NAH, I STILL NEED TO DO 3 MORE TO BE DONE WITH SAEYOUNG I'M-

SJDBS

Can I get Saeyoung with an S/O who tends to fake their emotions through difficult situations? (Toxic family/y'know that part with the bomb, they seemed calm but inside they were scared but hid it well) and he finds out later when everything was okie dokie-

I noticed I fake smile and laugh a lot when I'm with family that makes me tense but when I'm alone or with people I trust, I usually drop the act slska something like that? They do it so they don't get hurt easily or sum-

Also can I write something for you too? Think of it as a thank you gift for everything skdjah-

Please take your time!! You're doing amazing and I love you!^^ ❤️ /p

I DID THIS SOONER RATHER THEN LATER SINCE YOU SUFFERED THROUGH THAT ROUGH ENDING AND ALL THE DAYS LEADING UP TO IT. AND YOURE DOING MORE AS WELL, TAKE CARE AS WELL

thank you v much for the offer!! if it worked i put it in your ask box!!

ALSO THATS VERY SWEET I LOVE U TOO AND YOURE ALSO DOING AMAZING!! THANK U!! <333 /p

hope you enjoy!!

- mod kokichi

Saeyoung x reader

-> reader who hides their emotions in stressful situations

he does question it a bit during the later days. when you're both preparing to drive off to the mint eye, but you always reassure him you're fine, and your smile is so convincing he just shrugs it off. perhaps you're just very rational, is his thoughts.

you seemed so calm to him. oddly calm for someone with a bomb under their feet, let alone when you consider the hacker that had just smashed through your window moments before. at the time, he ignored it.

perhaps you honestly felt everything would be fine, perhaps it was a denial response, he wasn't sure, and honestly he felt even just thinking your name made his heart feel funny, so he avoided the thought entirely. he focused on his work. (as best he can with all the calls from you)

you didnt even react to his attempts at getting you to give up on him, at his harsh words or straight up blanking. nothing.

it slipped his mind after that. the next few days were a whirlwind of a mess. he only makes a lighthearted comment afterwards, having exhaustedly sighed and rested his head on your shoulder while you held him. "how d'you always manage to stay so calm... you should teach me one day, I'll be the most diligent student."

it's only then you kind of make an 'ehhhh....' noise in reply, and he goes to look at you questioningly. you confess that you're not as calm and unphased as he once thought - of course you were absolutely terrified throughout the whole ordeal, you felt paranoid and miserable in that apartment at times.

he kind of just blinks at you. he's surprised you managed to appear so calm, but also feels instantly guilty for not working it out sooner and comforting you more during those days. he'll tell you such as well, applauding your skill, but apologising sincerely. he does wonder if this means you've done this before, many times before, which would explain your skill level.

but he doesn't question it now. if and when you wish to tell him about anything from your past he'll be ready to listen.

now he's just more careful on keeping an eye on you. he tries to learn your behaviour and find anything that gives away your emotions. if its over something not so serious then he'll lift you in the air with a declaration that you can't hide your feelings from him! he was the 707 of course.

if it something serious then he's not as intense. he'll reach for your hand and hold it firmly, he silently tells you he's guessed your emotions, and he's here for you, but he won't make you talk if you don't want to. as you two stay for longer and you drop the act more, he's also going to be there for you to rant to or vent to.

no seriously he'll always be there, even if he's busy this man adores you he would drop almost anything to simply say hi and kiss your cheek, let alone if you were upset

Fic for day 3 of @jonmartinweek for the prompt "Healing & Recovery". We've all been saying jmart need a lot of therapy after the finale, so...yeah.

Disclaimer: I have never been to couple's therapy. I have done some reading on it, but this is not intended in any way to accurately reflect real world therapy practices. Please just assume that anything "off" is due to the way couple's therapy is practiced in AU-land (though of course feel free to let me know if you spot anything egregious).

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“Why don’t you start,” Judith suggests, “By telling me about the incident?”

The two men on the sofa give her identical startled looks, as if she’s uncovered something incriminating. Martin seems to regain his composure first; he clears his throat, and his hand moves to cover Jon’s, unconsciously protective.

“Sorry, wh-what do you mean by “incident”?”

“For most couples who come to see me, there’s an...inciting incident,” Judith explains. “Something that makes them realize they could use some professional support to work through things. Of course any couple can benefit from seeing a therapist together on occasion, to deal with small issues before they become big ones. But, well, it’s the same way that everyone knows they should go for regular check ups with their GP rather than waiting until they actually get sick—it’s just not something most people get around to until they need it.”

She pauses to give them time to consider that, and after a moment Jon nods, looking mildly embarrassed.

“Right,” he says. “That’s, ah, I think that’s fair.”

“There are pretty strong extenuating circumstances, though,” Martin huffs defensively. “We didn’t exactly have the option for therapy in the a—wh-where we lived before.”

“It’s not intended as a criticism,” Judith tells him. “You’ve chosen to talk to a therapist, and that’s a big step—one that many people never take. You’re ahead of the curve, Martin.”

Martin looks mollified at that; he’s clearly a bit touchy about perceived criticisms of their relationship, and Judith doesn’t want to get him on the defensive. She gives them both an encouraging smile.

“So,” she says. “Is there an incident you’d like to talk about?”

The two of them look at each other expectantly, as if each is waiting for the other to start. After several long moments of silence, Jon raises his eyebrows meaningfully, and Martin sighs.

“Fine,” he says. “So, we, uh, we recently realized that our...garden was a-a bit of a mess. So we—Jon and I—we get together with our...housemates, to figure out what kind of flowers we should plant. Fuschias or—or hydrangeas. ”

He pauses to glance nervously at Jon, who gives him a reassuring nod, squeezing his hand.

Right, Judith thinks, This is probably not about flowers.

“We agree we all want fuschias,” Martin continues, “Except Jon—he wanted hydrangeas. But we took a vote, and it was fuschias.”

“Except of course most of our—our housemates weren’t there for that meeting,” Jon interjects, folding his arms across his chest.

“Yes, but we agreed we couldn’t wait to ask every single person,” Martin says sharply, back on the defensive. Jon’s brow furrows and his mouth opens as if to say something, but he changes his mind and shuts it again. Conflict aversion is one of the most common dysfunctions Judith sees in the couples she treats; very few people want to disagree with the person they love, and even fewer know how to have a constructive conflict. She makes a mental note of it for later.

“Go ahead, Martin,’ she suggests gently. Martin looks unhappy, but continues.

“So we agree to plant the fuschias the next day, but Jon—Jon sneaks out in the middle of the night and starts, uh, planting hydrangeas. Without telling anyone.”

Without telling me, Judith hears in his hurt tone. Jon’s arms are still folded, and he’s almost squirming in his seat with the effort to not interject; Judith decides it’s a good time to invite him into the story.

“Jon, why did you feel so strongly about the hydrangeas?”

“It’s—it wasn’t that I wanted hydrangeas, I just couldn’t a-accept the idea of—of fuchsias.”

“Couldn’t allow it, you mean,” Martin grumbles. Judith lets it pass and continues to focus on Jon.

“Why is that?”

“They, uh, they spread…” Jon waves his hands vaguely. “Their—their...roots? They would get into the, uh, the neighbors’ gardens, completely take over, destroy everything.”

“Potentially,” Martin insists. “There was no guarantee—”

“There was no reason they wouldn’t,” Jon snaps.

By now Judith is not only sure that this has nothing to do with gardening, but suspects that neither of these men has ever seen a fuchsia in their lives. It’s fine, though. This is far from the first time a client has invented a story out of whole cloth so they can work through something uncomfortable without actually describing it. And this is their first session; Judith hopes in the future they’ll trust her enough to give her the real story.

“Remember,” she tells them. “We’re not here to decide that someone was objectively right or wrong, we’re here to help you understand each other and improve your communication skills.”

“Right,” Martin mutters, unconvinced. Jon’s expression is distressed, but he continues.

“There was no other choice,” he says wearily. “The only other option was—was azaleas, and I know you didn’t want that, Martin.”

“Absolutely not.” Martin sounds horrified. “But hydrangeas, Jon? Do you really think that was a better option?”

“You have to see the difference.” Jon’s tone goes stiff and incredulous, as if he’s winding up for a lecture, and Judith decides to cut that off before it starts.

“So what I’m hearing,” she says, “Is that you both had very strong, conflicting opinions on this topic. And that’s okay—it’s okay for you to disagree, even on something important. You’re not always going to agree on what the right thing to do is. Often there is no single “right thing,” so it comes down to how the different choices make us feel.”

“That doesn’t seem like a good way to make a decision that affects the wh—a lot of people.” Jon clearly considers that his opinion on not-flowers was the objectively correct one. Judith smiles.

“People aren’t computers, Jon. Even the most logical minded person in the world is influenced by their feelings—about important issues, about other people. You’d be surprised at how much of our decision making is rooted in emotion; either how we anticipate the outcome of our decision will make us feel, or how we are feeling in the immediate moment of the choice.”

A spasm of something that might be grief or pain flashes across Jon’s face, and he leans unconsciously in Martin’s direction. Martin’s arm instantly goes around him, offering comfort without thought. It’s clear that these two love each other deeply, unquestioningly—and that’s also part of the problem. When someone you love thinks that you’re wrong about something that’s important to you, it can feel like a rejection of your entire self.

“I’d like to pause this discussion for now, and try a little exercise,” she says. Jon nods, sitting back up and disengaging from Martin’s embrace; Martin looks attentively at her, though his expression is unsure.

“One of the biggest challenges we face with people we love is recognizing that they are separate from us. I know—” she says, raising her hands to stop the objections she can already see forming on their lips. “Of course you know that you’re separate people. We all know that, rationally. But emotionally, it’s natural to see the people you’re close to as extensions of yourself—it’s an evolutionary impulse to aid group bonding. It happens with friends and family, and it’s an even stronger impulse between partners.

“We have to do a lot of work to truly internalize the idea that the people we love have their own inner emotional lives that drive their opinions and decisions. But once you are able to fully grasp that truth, it makes disagreeing with the person you love feel less emotionally fraught; it’s a powerful tool for navigating conflict constructively.”

Jon is frowning, but it’s in consideration rather than disapproval. Martin still looks skeptical, his body language defensive, though he doesn’t say anything. That’s probably the best she’s going to get for now, Judith thinks.

“So,” she says. “The exercise is this: I’d like each of you to take a few moments to think, and then tell the other person something about yourself. Not a fact, but something that you feel. And I would like you to listen without interrupting when your partner tells you their feeling. Can you each do that?”

“I, ah—” Jon’s frown deepens. “That’s...rather difficult to do on demand.”

“I know,” says Judith with sympathy. “That’s why I’m here, to support you both in doing the difficult things. If it was easy, you wouldn’t need a therapist to facilitate.”

“Right,” says Jon. “Okay.”

“Martin?”

“Fine,” he says, but his tone is reluctant. Judith gets it; vulnerability is hard enough in front of someone you love, never mind with a stranger in the room. It’s easier to pretend that it’s pointless, that you’re not really putting yourself out there to be hurt. She has the feeling that Martin is someone who would rather avoid being hurt, even if it means closing himself off.

“All right,” she says. “When you’re ready, Jon, would you mind going first? No rush, take all the time you need.” Hopefully, seeing Jon take the first step might help Martin get over some of his defensiveness.

“Oh,” he says, and for a few moments his expression devolves into one of intense concentration. Then he nods, turning towards Martin.

“Start with “I feel”,” Judith suggests.

“All right,” he says, breathless with nerves. “I, uh, I feel...responsible. For—well, for everything, basically. And for everyone. Bad things have happened to people, and it’s my fault, because I should have done something. Everything that happened, back there, it was all because of me.”

“It wasn’t you, Jon!” Martin protests. “Annabelle told us—”

Judith is about to remind him that he’s supposed to just be listening, but he cuts himself off first. Jon laughs, an ugly sound that’s more like a sob.

“And how is that supposed to help? Knowing that the—that they were using me my whole life, how does that absolve me of any responsibility for what I did? For the fact that I failed to do anything to stop them? I couldn’t even go through with the one thing that could have actually meant something, because—”

He clamps his mouth shut, his jaw locked tight; Martin looks down at his hands, his expression distraught.

“Because of me.”

“Martin—” Jon’s tone is wounded, and he reaches for Martin’s hand. Judith sees reflections of a shared pain in both their faces, though she doesn’t understand why; this would be a lot easier if they’d just tell her the truth.

But you didn’t get into this profession because it was easy, did you?

“Thank you for sharing that, Jon. I think there’s a lot more for us to explore there, but let’s give you a break and give Martin a chance to share, okay?”

Jon nods, clutching Martin’s hand in his. Martin gives a long, slow exhale.

“Righto,” he says with false, brittle cheer. “”I feel,” wasn’t it? Right. Jon, when you do something stupidly self-sacrificing for other people, I feel like everyone else is more important than me.”

Jon flinches.

“Martin,” Judith says, keeping her tone level. “Let’s keep the focus on what you feel, not on what causes you to feel that way, okay?”

“Right,” Martin mutters, and glances at Jon. “Okay. In that case, I feel...like I’m not important. Like the only thing I can really do is—is take care of you. And if I can’t even do that, then what bloody use am I? That’s it, I suppose.”

“Martin…” Jon says again, softly. His eyes are wet, and he’s clinging to Martin’s hand like a drowning man to a plank. Martin swallows hard and shakes his head, but he makes no move to extract his hand from Jon’s grip.

“Thank you, Martin,” Judith tells him. “I know that wasn’t easy to share, for either of you. But this is the kind of honesty that we need, in order to build strong communication. Let’s all take five minutes—if either of you want to take a bathroom break, or get some water—and then we can talk about where to go from here. All right?”

Martin disappears to the loo, while Jon wanders around the office, looking with polite interest at the shelves of books and ornaments. Judith writes a few notes for herself, to follow up in future sessions. She hopes there’ll be future sessions. Both of these men seem deeply hurt, traumatized by events that they’re just barely alluding to, and have clearly been struggling through as best they can with less than ideal coping mechanisms, trying—and likely failing—not to hurt each other in the process. They both need individual counselling as much as couples’ therapy—maybe more. She’s certainly going to recommend it..

They clearly love each other, though. And they want to make it work. If they’re willing to put the effort in, they have better than even odds in their favor.

Martin’s eyes are red-rimmed when he returns; he sits on the sofa as near as he can to Jon, who presses their shoulders together. Judith can’t help smiling at the sight.

“How long have the two of you been together?” she asks. She always asks new clients at the end of the first session, rather than at the beginning; that way she can get a feel for the relationship without preconceptions based on longevity. The two of them look at each other properly, for the first time since Martin came back in, and matching, sheepish smiles break out on both their faces after a moment.

“So it was three weeks in Scotland,” Martin begins, ticking it off on his fingers. “And then—how long?”

“Uhh, it’s...let’s say half a year, give or take?” Jon makes a face that says he’s really not all that sure.

“Right, and then we’ve been here nearly six months. So...about a year, all in all?”

“But we knew each other for over three years before that,” Jon insists earnestly.

“It sounds as if the two of you have been through a lot,” says Judith. “And not all of it gardening related?”

“No,” Jon says with a self-deprecating chuckle. “Mostly not.”

“We barely scratched the surface today—and that’s normal. Relationships are complicated, and it takes a lot of time and hard work to build understanding and communication. But I promise you, it is worth all the effort. You both made a really strong start today—it takes courage to be that honest, even with your partner.”

The two of them give each other a long look, and the smile they trade is tentative, but genuine. They haven’t solved anything today, have only just begun to reveal their hurt and their insecurities; they have a long journey ahead to get to a truly honest, healthy place both for themselves and their relationship. Judith has a feeling they’ll persevere, though—that losing each other simply isn’t an option.

“So,” she says, “Should we make this a recurring appointment?”

Jon glances questioningly at Martin, who bites his lip and then nods firmly, taking Jon’s hand in his.

“Yeah,” Martin says. “We’ve done much harder things. We can do this.”

“Together?” says Jon, and Martin smiles.

“No matter what.”

hello! may i request the genshin boys with a bimbo gf :)

Note: this is an interesting request, anon :o I tried my best to fit in some bimbo traits! Since you didn't specify who, imma pick 2 boys to provide you some headcanons. Enjoy!

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Genshin Boys x Fem Bimbo!reader pt.1

Part 2 - Part 3

Characters: Diluc, Zhongli

Genre: fluff, comfort, established relationship

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DILUC

it was a bizarre sight for the people around to see the silent man be accompanied by you. You were seen as the polar opposite of Diluc with your unique way of thinking

you are not the best at perceiving social cues and reading the atmosphere. Diluc could not comprehend this initially until he gradually got used to it after spending time with you. But from this, he learned how to be patient with you and ways to handle your behavior

Diluc will keep a close eye on you because of how easily distracted you get, then losing focus on whatever you were working on. Your clumsiness will also stir up some trouble

maybe you were in the middle of a meal at a restaurant, but something caught your attention. You dropped your utensils without much thought, causing a ringing clank within the vicinity and heads to turn towards you. The food splattered on your face and clothes, "Diluc, Diluc, look at that!" You pointed frantically at the source of your distraction

he would sigh to himself, but he will also pick up the paper towel to help maintain your hygiene, ignoring the eyes on the both of you. You can count on Diluc to assist you in getting out of attracting unwanted attention. He would be a reliable partner to make sure you feel safe when there are others passing their criticism towards you

although you may not come to fully understand the malicious meaning behind their words, Diluc will try his best to make sure you do not have to sit through it

"What do they mean I don't know how to act like a proper lady?" You shrugged at Diluc, to which he shook his head in response, "It's alright, just ignore them."

if you head out with a revealing outfit that accentuates your curves, Diluc would not mind as he thinks you looked gorgeous and allows you to dress however you desired. Though, he would give a stink eye to anyone who sends you suggestive leers

ZHONGLI

honestly, Zhongli would get along very well with you even pre-relationship. You are always brimming with questions to ask him and he loves answering them. The questions may be repetitive, but Zhongli thinks it is an endearing trait of yours and would not ask for otherwise

processing your thoughts rationally proves to be a challenge most of the time, so Zhongli attempts to help you communicate them better, with your consent, of course. Though, you comply with things too quickly without a second thought, causing your concerned boyfriend to lecture you in the most gentle tone possible

"Zhongli, how do you say that you like someone?" Grabbing his attention, he answered, "Try saying I love you?"

"Oh, alright, I love you. But how do you say you really really like someone?" Zhongli chuckled at your question, "Just I love you will do."

failing to wrap your head around it, you endlessly inquired him throughout the day. He does not view your nature as bothersome or anything, but surely you could spare his poor ear

regarding your clothing, again, revealing ones are fine with Zhongli as well. Beauty should be shown to others. Be prepared, because a heap of compliments by him will surely come your way

he will also stick closer to you compared to usual. You would not catch the drift behind his actions since he never explained. It was just his way of asserting his presence to be known by the people around you

Hey, there! Stalker Rook anon here! Just my opinion, but I think that Ruggie (my girlfriends favorite) would be a huge stalker yan, too! It just sort of radiates off him. And based off your horrortober post, Cater would stalk, too! Who else do you think would stalk?

tw yandere, tw stalking

The better question is who doesn't dhdhd it's a trope I'm quite fond of when writing yanderes so it might pop up for a lot of characters I write for if the thought suddenly comes to me djdje So here I'll talk about some twst characters that I definitely think are stalkers in one way or another!

I already talked about Rook and Cater I wrote for in horrortober so let's get to some other twisted boys shall we? ^^

Ruggie didn't have a lot of things growing up so now he definitely wants to be with the person he loves the most at all times! He's always close behind them and greedily taking in any new information he gets on them. He would also be someone that would try to manipulate every interaction you have with the other guys and his unique magic is perfect for that! He can make them do things like tearing up your books without them wanting to or make them hurt you so you will start to hate them! And then, you will have more time to spend with Ruggie, yay!

Hm I definitely think Idia would be a very big stalker too, but not actually in person but from the hundreds of cameras he has set up in the school ( and your room on a day when he felt particularly brave and you weren't around). He's too nervous to actually talk to you and go outside so he watches your every move from the comfort of his own home as you go about your day. I think he would be very jealous when he sees you talking to someone else, wishing that they would all just stay away from you. He's fuming in his room as we speak!

I think Jack might also stark his darling but not as much in a "I have to know absolutely everything about them/ I don't want to approach them" kind of way, but more so that he wants to protect them from any possible danger. At a school like NRC where everyone can use magic and lots of not-entirely good people inhabit the place, you need someone that can keep you safe from harm! Will watch you very carefully and if anything seems to go wrong he will step in and help you deal with the matter, there's nothing to worry about when he's here!

Deuce also gives me some stalker vibes but I can't quite explain why. He would definitely know that what he feels and what he does is wrong but he just can't help himself. You're most likely the first crush he ever had and the feeling just completely overwhelms him. He loves being close to you but lately you've been spending a lot of time befriending other people at NRC! He's been with you the longest and aside from ace and grim there hasn't really been any other people interacting with you so now he's kind of experiencing withdrawal symptoms? Like he's just used to you always hanging out with him and now that your time is more divided because of your new friends he feels left out. So of course, the most rational thing to do is trail after you and study what he's missing out on, right? He often secretly watches you when you hang out with other people and he feels hurt seeing you get along so well with them.

It will become a very bad habit of him to just follow you wherever you go, he feels like he needs to make up for the time you are away from each other now!

To a lesser degree I can also see Riddle and Lilia as sometimes stalking their obsession.

For Riddle it's mostly because he wants to make sure that they are upholding all the rules while he isn't there. There's no particular reason why the boy you talked to suddenly had way more tasks to do, of course ^^

For Lilia, it's actually just more for his own amusement. He doesn't really crave watching you all the time, he just enjoys how unnerved you get when he does it. Your paranoid expression is absolutely adorable to him and he keeps wanting to see it! And then when he suddenly pops up from the ceiling you always let out a sigh of relief, relaxing knowing that it was just "Lilia being Lilia again". He can't help but be amused. You're putting a lot of faith into a shrew fae like him, aren't you, darling?