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sureuncertainty · 1 year

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love reading an amazing book with some of the most fantastic aro/ace rep i have ever read, and then going on goodreads to see the most willfully misinterpreted acephobic garbage in the reviews, like allos literally die when something’s not about them for .5 seconds huh

#win rambles #character in a book 'wow i don't like sex and it's annoying how it's everywhere'#someone presumably allo reading it 'WOW THIS CHARACTER IS SO SEX NEGATIVE AND JUDGY AND SHAMES PEOPLE FOR HAVING SEX'#the reviewer that was like 'wow i hate how this author tries to act like platonic relationships are BETTER than romantic ones'#when it's literally like hey what if romantic relationships weren't treated as vastly superior to every other kind of relationship #for two seconds and they see that as such an attack #like do you HEAR yourselves???#you literally sound like the 'these gay people shove it in our faces' for existing crowd #the ones that are like 'oh so you're saying that gay relationships are BETTER??? you're saying that cishets should die??? is that it???#and don't realize the hypocrisy... like that's what your'e doing #within our own community #allos cannot STAND things not being about them for two seconds #and they see aro/ace people existing as threatening them #(also no one is saying that being sex repulsed is the only way to be ace just bc the mainc haracter of the book was dear god)#but also consider.... being sex repulsed repulsed is....okay #like it's LITERALLY like looking at homophobes and reminding them that we're not saying THEY have to get gay married #just that it's good that gay marriage exists and that's fine #it's the SAME FUCKING THING like no one is telling you that you can't have sex or judging you for having se #but people deserve to be able to choose not to and not feel like they're broken or wrong for doing so #anyway sorry for the tag rant

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peachypinkygloss · 10 months

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Hi! congrats on 2k followers ♡ The trope would be Idol!Namjoon x non Idol!reader, and actually just something smut & fluff is okay, like in a new relationship, please.

Thank u ^^

(I'm not a minor dw)

thank you for your support, lovely ): 🤍 means so much to me x love u, mwah 💋 xox

sweaty and steamy

Namjoon is very busy with work so you decide to visit him at his studio. You both end up sweaty and steamy.

pairing: idol/bf!namjoon x non-idol!reader

genre: established relationship, idol au, smut, fluff

warnings: namjoon's the best bf obvi, unprotected sex, studio sex 👀, praising, clit stimulation, a little under 1k.

a.n.: the first thing that came to my mind was studio sex... i mean, can you really blame me? 🥺

This is part of my 2k milestone celebration! Here is the post for the drabble game if you want to participate and send in a request of yours! 🤍

♡・2k celebration masterlist・♡

Namjoon is a very busy person. Not surprising considering the job he has, but sometimes he really dedicates his whole day to his music. It's not a bad thing, he's always productive and hardworking, all of that amplified because he's genuinely passionate about what he does.

You try not to be jealous. After all, he's not replacing you or ignoring you for his lyrics. You know that because he makes it a priority to call you at the end of each day, reminding you how grateful and happy he is to be your boyfriend.

Despite the relationship being new, Namjoon isn't afraid to show his emotions and that's what you like about him. His ability to express what he feels in such a meaningful way, with beautiful and poetic words, makes you fall in love with him over and over again.

Dating an idol is not easy, especially with one who has such a tight schedule, but you both make it work. For example, you like to visit him at his studio whenever you're free from work. You go support him and bring him some food.

You usually don't stay long either because you have to go back to your office or because he has to get back on what he's working at the moment. But sometimes, like right now, it happens you get a little bit distracted and stay longer than you're supposed to.

"Fuck, baby," Namjoon breathes out, throwing his head back against his desk chair. His hands are holding your hips, guiding you over his hard cock. His chest heaves fast, out of breath with you bouncing on his lap. "What a good girl, feels so fucking good."

You whine in response, also having an irregular breath. Your hands are on his naked shoulders, nails digging into his soft and tan skin, leaving behind crescent forms all over his flesh.

You're still not used to his size, being so big he stretches you out really well. It's a bit painful, a burning sensation making you moan, but the feeling is addicting, exhilarating.

"I love it," you admit, having Namjoon's cock nestled deep inside your pussy. You circle your hips, his tip brushing against your sweet spot and making you want more, always more.

He smiles, showing off his cute dimples and straight teeth. "Me too," he agrees. "Love these," he adds on while groping your tits in his big palms, gently pulling on your hardened nipples.

You mewl in his hands, doing a grind motion with your hips. He seems amazed to see you using him to pleasure yourself, finding it hot of you, being so turned on he feels his dick twitch inside of you.

He lets go of your breasts and watches them jiggle on your chest, licking his plump lips at the sight. He won't lie, this must become his new favourite position. The other positions are going to be tasteless compared to that one and all of this will be your fault because you can't just ride him like that and expect him to not become obsessed.

Your slick covers his pelvis and even the inner of his thighs, cock slipping in so smoothly by how wet you are. He knows his studio will smell like sex after that and he doubts anyone who enters won't notice. The odour is strong, but nothing repulsive in his opinion, on the contrary, he adores it.

He won't forget this moment that's for sure. He even believes nothing will surpass it, unless you decide to ride him with that much determination from now on.

It must be because of his work, of how badly you miss him every time he's not with you. He feels guilty, he doesn't like being so busy it stops him from seeing you, especially when you're a new couple. Honestly, sometimes he would drop everything and spend the entirety of his day with you, but he can't do that, which really sucks.

But if moments like these can make up for the wasted time, then he's satisfied.

He feels you clench around him and grip on his shoulders, hiding your face in the crook of his neck. "God... baby, are you close?" Namjoon asks and you nod, moaning sweetly against his ear. "I got you," he announces, his voice husky and low, making you shiver.

One of his hands slides between your bodies and reaches for your pulsating clit, massaging it with his thumb. Your moans start getting louder and he grunts, feeling his balls tightening.

He plants his feet on the floor and thrusts up into you, your thighs shaking as your high approaches really fast. "I'm close too, fuck," he curses under his breath, circling your clit as he fucks you, a hand on the back of your head to keep you close to him.

"I'm cumming-!" You squeak, bucking your hips as your orgasm shoots through you. Your walls close around him tightly and he groans, your high bringing him to his own.

His thighs tense under you, big and strong, hips coming to a halt. "That's it, fuck," he moans and he finally comes undone into your pussy, painting your walls white with his cum. His cock twitches, spilling the last bit of cum he has.

He pats your hair, trying to catch his breath as you do the same, boobs squished against his chest. After some time, a comfortable silence settles between the two of you and you push yourself off him.

You face him and can't help but smile, biting down on your lip. You kiss him, a way to thank him for being with you.

You're happy and he is, too.

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#🍑 [drabble game]#requests #bts fanfic #bts fanfiction #bts drabble #bts smut #bts x reader #bts fluff #namjoon fanfic #namjoon fanfiction #namjoon smut #namjoon drabble #namjoon x reader

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ahungeringknife · 1 month

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Let's talk about Aspec characters and relationships!

I'm aroace. I write a lot of characters who are aspec in some way. I have a lot of aspec friends. And this is why your aspec character is driving me crazy. There's also sex talk in here so if you're not mature enough to handle it please scroll past.

Edit: Allos also should reblog this if you found it helpful.

First lets get some terms right:

Aromantic (aro) and Asexual (ace) are two distinct things. Aroace means you're both aromantic and asexual at the same time. It is generally referred to as 'aspec' (aro/ace spectrum) when you fall on one or both spectrums. If you are not aspec you are allosexual/alloromantic (allo). It just means someone who isn't ace or aro. You can also be aroallo or aceallo (aromantic allosexual, asexual alloromantic). All these terms are neutral and not used in derogatory ways similar to trans/cis. It's a descriptive word not a put down.

Now about those characters and their relationships. Because that is the most :))))) to me as an aroace is when people just don't know how to handle an aspec character. Usually because they're allo. But that's okay you probably don't know and we're all here to learn from each other. Here's some things to consider when you want to make or write an aspec person.

Ace's do sometimes have sex. They just aren't motivated by sex. That's it.

Along with sex your ace character may also masturbate and feel good being touched. They also might only like touching themselves and hate when other people do it. They usually also know when someone is hot/sexy and will comment on it. Finding someone sexy =/= we want to fuck them. Thinking someone is hot =/= we want to fuck them. We're still human. We know what a hot human looks like. Your ace character might be attracted to someone's appearance aesthetically but have no interest in their bits. Your ace character might fall in love with the most beautiful person in your story and never show any interest of wanting to bed them.

They can have boyfriends/girlfriends/romantic partners they do or don't have sex with. But they can be anywhere on the spectrum of sex repulsive, to sex positive, to absolute sex hound. Some of the horniest people you know are probably ace. Some of the horniest people I know are ace, and I have a lot of ace friends.

And we're not all virgins. Some ace's had sex and realized 'nah fam. Didn't do it for me' and never did it again. Others are virgins and have no intention ever of having sex. Others are virgins but don't care either way? It just hasn't happened. Others enjoy sex with their partners. Some are parents! You can be ace and had enough sex to procreate. Some also think sex is icky or it squicks them out. Some might be squicked out at the thought of sex with another person but they're fine looking at porn or doing it themselves. There is a wide range of what asexuals are into just like allos.

Aros also sometimes do the sex. They are not motivated by romance. That's it.

That being said your aro character can have a boyfriend/girlfriend/partner and it can be 'romantic'. It doesn't have to be a queer platonic relationship. Your aro character also might not want to be in a relationship at all. It is not weird for your aro character to call their partner their partner or bf/gf or if they're married their husband/wife.

Aro people do not get butterflies. They don't really get flustered around people they like. There's no spark. And they don't feel that romantic attraction allos do when they meet someone and fall in love with them. I've found that aro people are also terrible at flirting or picking up flirting cues. At least in my own personal experience when it took my aro ass 3 years to realize some girl was flirting with me and I just thought she was being nice to me. Take the 'useless lesbian' trope and take it to 11. We just don't know. Aro people also know when other people are hot. Just like aces just because we're aro doesn't mean we don't know a baddy when we see one. We just probably won't realize said baddy is flirting with us...

Aro character still love. They love their family, they love their friends, they love their partners. And it's all real love. The love is still there. Aro characters also probably know what they should do to mimic being in love. Even if we don't love someone more than platonically they may still do the things romantic partners do with their partner. Some don't! And that's fine too. Sometimes you're boyfriends and you share the same bed with him, and sometimes your girlfriend is just your roommate. Both are totally valid aro relationships. Maybe your character kisses their partner passionately and they like it, or they might only kiss during sex, or they might not kiss on the mouth. All valid and correct, still no romo. Kissing =/= romance for aros. Sex =/=romance for aros.

Aroace characters do all those things! At once! They can do the sex, and the boyfriend/girlfriend/partner and loving their friends. They just are not motivated by sex or romance. Kissing =/= sexual attraction. Sex =/= romantic love.

Being aspec is looking at the most beautiful and delicious cake in the world and going 'neat, cake' and walking away not even wondering what it tastes like, not even for a second considering having a bite. It's a cake. Neat. You are not motivated by cake. You don't even really care about cake. It's nice that other people fucking loooooooove cake but it's just not for you.

We also know what love is supposed to be like, what a 'healthy sexual' relationship should feel like. It's everywhere. All around us. Constantly. It's also sometimes fucking exhausting! It's why some aspec people can be a bit agro. We get it you're in love/got a new partner/are sleeping with someone/really sexually attracted to this person/keep spamming us with your celeb thirst pics/etc. It does get tiring sometimes. We don't care about the cake and sometimes listening to you talk about the cake drives us crazy. Consider that too when writing aspec characters. Sometimes their friends and their cakes are annoying no matter how much they love them platonically or romantically.

Anyway just some things to consider for your aspec OCs from an older aroace. Should be said aspec is a wide spectrum and I'm drawing on my own experience as an aroace with aspec friends, and my writing of those characters. If you have more questions about writing characters on this spectrum feel free to ask!

#writeblr #writblr #writing advice #character advice #asexual #aromantic #aroace #aspec character #writing tips #writing #character tips #writing help #character help #writers on tumblr

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onesidedradiostatic · 2 months

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On the one hand, I’m with you on it being hilarious if Alastor doesn’t know about Vox’s crush because it means 1) Vox has never directly spelled it out (coward), 2) Alastor is too oblivious to figure it out unless you spell it out for him (mood), and 3) miscommunication is funny.

On the other hand, as a romance repulsed aro, I also really like if Alastor knows or can tell because, while I do love having an aro character who doesn’t eventually magically develop a crush upon finding the mystical Right Person™️, I also love seeing aro characters reacting to romance with the thoughts and feelings I’d get. I’ve needed this for so long I’ll even take a tired sex repulsed ace character doing this with sex and I’m allosexual. I live for tired, annoyed, and mildly disgusted Alastor having to deal with sinners subjecting him to their crushes on him, and Vox just happens to be the most pathetically obvious case of Down Bad. This is why, despite my personal soft spot for Wet Cat Men, I have too much fun watching him suffer like this.

okay but consider, he doesn't know AT FIRST, when it happens. but he finds out later. be it through the hotel crew telling him vox's request sounds like a confession or husk spilling what he knows of their past relationship. (or maybe he finds out through vox somehow hell if I know.) and then that's when he gets to have his reaction to it. which is 5 minutes of silence followed by a "what." and all interactions with vox after finding out are in a new context (he knows vox has a thing for him now and he has to deal with knowing it now and he hates it. and even worse, the hotel crew is encouraging him to...... take advantage........ of it... by using certain..... methods.............. of course they say, he doesn't have to if he doesn't want to! but on one hand, messing with vox is funny so he might be willing to do it just for that. on the other hand..... eugh.)

#ask #osrs.txt #radiostatic #staticradio #hazbin vox #hazbin hotel vox #hazbin alastor #hazbin hotel alastor #alastor #aroace alastor #aromantic alastor #asexual alastor

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confused-disaster32 · 3 months

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Hi! So you can call this a rant or a vent or whatever I don't rlly care - I just wanted to put some of my opinions out there bc it is eating me inside out to keep my opinions on Alastor's sexuality and all of the discourse about him being shipped to myself.

Also i'd like to state that I'm writing this as someone who is aroace but has no actual wish to be in a romantic relationship and actually struggles to so much as picture what that's be like for myself. I would also like to state how I'm not speaking for the whole community and others will have different opinions to myself.

Firstly - aroace is a spectrum (as someone who is on the aroace spectrum btw) and I completely agree with ppl who say that it is a spectrum and shipping has always existed and you can't rlly stop an entire fandom. My only problem is when ppl completely ignore that he is aroace while doing this, bc to me it seems like there's so much potential to having him have to go through those types of emotions and to write him off as if he's completely allo not only can make some people feel unseen but also just isn't as fun.

Also I kind of believe that he'd possibly date someone for the entertainment - like even if he didn't exactly feel romantic attraction maybe he'd be willing to be around someone closely bc he might like the reactions he'd be getting. (example: he might've stayed in a relationship with Vox maybe not out of pure attraction but if he found out that affection could make the TV short-circuit? He'd be interested)

Adding to that, I personally do not actually ship him with anyone romantically due to his character + the fact that I am projecting my own distaste for romance on him but you do you ig.

Also, on the note of nsfw around him - sometimes you cannot stop a fandom, rule 34 exists and some people who are asexual sometimes may want to have sex and all of that stuff. Personally I think he'd probably be sex-repulsed due to the fact that he canonically has issues with being touched.

ALSO, i personally think that way too many people are brushing over the idea of putting Alastor in a QPR - like that would literally be so awesome.

Alastor x Rosie? Cute af (to me Rosie gives of aro vibes too, but more romance - favourable) like they're already besties and honestly I think that Rosie would defo help him figure out about his identity considering that he's quite obviously not all that sure about slang and stuff.

Vox x Alastor - It has the potential to be SO FUCKING FUN like, you get to experiment with how they feel for each other, maybe what Alastor's got going on bc he died before being aroace was rlly a thing and he'd be confused about how he felt about Vox for sure.

Lucifer x Alastor - I quite like it, ik that Lucifer is supposed to be with Lillith but she did take an extremely long hiatus on her family up in heaven so i think it's okay. Plus the idea of them bonding and becoming close due to Charlie is wonderful.

Even angel and Alastor - maybe after Val Angel doesn't want a super sexual relationship - maybe he's not all that interested in something purely romantic either and though I love huskerdust this would still be pretty cool.

Really all I'm saying is; be considerate. Incorporate the fact that Alastor is Aroace, even if you do ship him - in or out of QPRs - and ofc sometimes writing someone who is part of a group ur not in is difficult (coming from someone who often struggles in writing especially when it comes to romance) but taking a crack at it might actually turn out to be rlly cool.

But please don't ignore his aroace-ness, there's not a huge amount of aroace characters out there and acting like someone isn't can be annoying for ppl who want to find rep around their identity, esp if they haven't seen much before (I can relate and he was one of the first aroace characters I was introduced to after I found out what it meant).

So yeah, that's my piece.

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entropy-sea-system · 10 months

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Because not many people are talking about it, I'm making a post on what constitutes platonormativity!

Platonormativity here refers to the idealisation of friendship and viewing friendship as essential and mandatory.

Im putting this under the cut as this is a long post

[If this personally offends you or you're an exclus or think I am not aware of how friendship is also deprioritised, etc. honestly this post is not really for you lol]

Things that can be platonormative:

-Assuming that everyone has friends, and viewing it as a red flag or a sign of mental illness if someone doesn't have friends, and/or expecting them to be actively looking for friends

-Claiming that one must be 'friends first' before a romantic or sexual or other relationship in order for it to work out

-Treating friendship as inherently more stable and long-lasting than other relationship types

-Using the term friend for people without considering whether they actually are okay with that term or whether they actually want to be your friend, or otherwise considering someone your friend when they are not explicitly okay with that

-Claiming that aros and aces must "at least have friends" or experience platonic love or platonic attraction because of their 'lack'

-Claiming that everyone should have friends

-Profiling people who don't seem to have friends as a "suicide liability"

-Being ableist towards people whose ability to make or keep friends or want friends or otherwise engage in social bonds is diminished by their (physical or mental) disability and/or neurodivergence

-Assuming that everyone is alloplatonic and friending and plato-favorable

-Assuming that no one is monogamous for friendship

-Considering it inherently "unhealthy" or "increasing risk of abuse" if someone has a partner(s) but not friends

-Forcing friendship as something mandatory even when people are toddlers or very young children

-Assuming a couple/other partners are solely "friends" due to them being polyamorous, queer, or other reasons

-Assuming that people who interact in certain ways must be friends

-Treating friendship as something inherently more "wholesome" or as something that can never be used for harm unless it was a pretence

-Blaming a lack of friendship rather than the harmful behaviour itself when it comes to 'pickup artists' and other people who act entitled to sex, romance, or other things

-Calling aplatonics with a connection to romance "amatonormative" for existing

-Treating the dismantling of amatonormativity, relationship anarchy, and aro activism as an excuse to enforce friendship as something that is mandatory

-Claiming that 'aro culture' is basically (insert alloplatonic and/or plato favorable experience)

-Assuming that ALL demiromantic and/or demisexual people must require friendship as the bond after which it is a possibility for them to experience attraction

-Assuming that every alloaro must want a 'friends with benefits' type of relationship

-Assuming that anything thats nonromantic and/or nonsexual has to be platonic(friendship)

-Reinforcing a platonic-romantic binary

-Claiming that friendship cannot involve sex or romance ever

-Assuming that queerplatonic relationships are friendship or always involve friendship

-Looking down on others for not giving priority to friendship or not engaging in friendship

-Media being saturated with friendship and not many media existing without having friendship in it

-Not understanding that people can be repulsed by friendship and/or platonicism

#platonormativity #platonormativity discussion #aplatonic #aspec #apl #aplspec #aplphobia #aplmisia #suicide mention #ableism #amatonormativity #aromantic #bc I discuss those things too under the cut #A bit

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lepoppeta · 2 months

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Vox x Alastor?? For the ship bingo

oh my god okay so radiostatic means everything to me

its so gut-wrenchingly sad and also hilarious and also off-putting and also so steeped in devotion and romance it makes me want to scream ??? i want them to metaphorically kiss and make up but i also know that would never fucking happen and thats also good ??? they make my head spin.

alastor is a shameless theatre kid who LOVES being the center of attention — vox is OBSESSED with alastor, and is thus a consistent source of that attention. vox is distressingly easy to tease and alastor feeds off of his passionate responses like a leech. theyre so codependant on each others apparent hatred. i need to bite something.

my favourite version of their relationship that ive made up (and this only works with their series iterations — imo their pilot/comic counterparts have never even considered an acquaintanceship, let alone a romance) is that their falling out was one huge, violent misunderstanding. alastor began to lose his power and status within the overlord hierarchy when he refused to adapt over time (can you IMAGINE how fucking powerful he would be if he just stopped being such a stubborn asshole and decided to start including podcasts under the "radio" umbrella?) and vox swiftly surpassed him. vox didnt want alastor to be left behind, and offered a partnership where they could operate in tandem and basically control almost all media output in hell. alastor mistook this for vox saying that alastor wasnt interesting enough as he was and HAD to change, and as we all know alastor DESPISES being thought of as uninteresting. he tells vox to fuck off and vox is left wondering what the hell just happened.

objectively i dont think theyd ever make up — alastor is FAR too prideful to ever consider the idea that HE was the one who was mistaken, and i dont think he particularly likes the idea of emotional or physical vulnerability either. regardless, what i would love to imagine is that eventually, SOMEHOW, they do, and that their relationship is... actually so easy. this is most likely just me projecting, but i like to think of vox as just wanted alastor as an actual partner, not a fuck buddy (his "relationship" with valentino is a coping mechanism for his anxiety and confusion and doesnt necessarily reflect on how he would be with alastor, someone i like to think he actually appreciates as a person). vox is a complete lovesick FOOL.

this is so long already so im sticking some extra spicy headcanons below the cut!

if their relationship ever edged (hah) into sexual territory, i actually think it could work, but it definitely wouldnt be vanilla (absolutely zero penetration in this relationship). i think a fair amount of voyerism, dom/sub play, and hypnotism is involved — vox obviously has his hypnotic stare, and i like to personally headcanon that alastor can hypnotise people with his voice. like... idk, alastor i feel like would get a lot of enjoyment (sexual or not) out of toying with people and seeing them squirm, and vox would respond really well to some level of praise + orgasm denial.

for me i can imagine alastor ranging from completely sex-repulsed and having no libido at all, to being appreciative enough of the sensation but disliking the vulnerability and general grossness of bodily fluids that comes (ha-ha) with it. i think vox wouldnt care either way — as long as he gets to have alastor, hes beyond thrilled.

i LOVE thinking about the potential for predator/prey dynamics too. i like to headcanon that alastor actually has to spend a lot of energy fighting off his very annoying prey instincts on the daily and maintaining a mask of indifference. deer/elk iirc are naturally very skittish — alastors hearing is terribly accute and a lot of the time hell ends up being too LOUD for him. his ears are a huge indicator of his emotions so he has to force them to be still so no-one knows how hes feeling. compared to this, despite not being an actual shark, vox has a lot of shark themes, and his obsession with alastor may be in part due to having the desire to "hunt" him and eat him (not that he actually would — the most he would do would probably be to chew/drool on him a little bit). in point of fact, i think is he ever let this desire slip, alastor, being a maybe-cannibal, would probably be find it to be weirdly flattering — after all, some say consumption is the highest form of devotion.

tying back into the hypnotism thing — alastor generally avoids looks vox directly in the eye, both because of the hypnotism thing and also because his face is literally one big bright light ("deer in the headlights"), but in a more sexually-driven situation i think hed actually find it oddly comforting because it dampens his prey instincts for a little while, and (eventually) he trusts that vox isnt going to embarrass him or make him look the fool. vox lovingly coaxes him through orgasm and takes care of all of the gross stuff before alastor even has a chance to be fully coherent.

#ask game #answered ask #hazbin hotel #alastor #vox #radiostatic #alastor hazbin hotel #vox hazbin hotel #my headcanons

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gummy-axolotl · 4 days

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identity wise i don't know if i'm a nothing or if i'm a dude. i love masc-aligning stereotypes and things and i love being called he/him and a dude but i'm also super super comfortable just... being. i've considered identifying as a demiboy or bigender but for now i'm going to stick with trans as an umbrella labelling and just use he/they/it. romantic wise i love men. dudes. men. dudes. guys. that's not hard to figure out. i love all besides women or femme-aligning identities. there's nothing against boobs here i'm just personally not a boob lover. i'm gay, MLM. nwlnw. i love enbies, too. i love masc enbies, androg enbies, just.... damn, dude. sexual wise i'm pretty sure im aspec? i think i'm demi. i am quickly overwhelmed by the thought of sex and me being involved in it but i'm not disgusted and would probably partake in it but i dont wanna do that with someone i dont know personally or hell even a fict. character i am not that attached to or just super recently got hyperfixated on. it feels unattractive and repulsive to involve *myself* in that if it means nothing and is just a one off. it needs to be personal. but also the thought of doing it irl? huh? what? maybe i'm aceflux.

1: Sounds like libramasculine to me

(basically Agender but masculine stuff is neat too)

2: easy peasy cheesey we love achilleans here fr

3: definitely feels like demisexual to me. Aceflux is more about the fluctuation of attraction in orientation as well as strength. You could also look into Aegosexual, which is the label I use.

Aego has two main definitions that I've seen: only liking sex as long as you aren't involved (for example, smut fics between two characters) or only liking sex as long as it remains a fictional concept. (I am the latter. I'm okay with it involving me as long as it isn't real)

But there are even more asexual spectrum identities if those don't quite fit.

Hope this was helpful 💜

#gummyanswers #lgbtq #libramasculine #demiboy #transgender #achillean #mlm #nwlnw #demisexual #asexual #asexual spectrum #ace spec #aegosexual #aceflux

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taking-thyme · 2 years

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Lesser-known Signs that you might be Aspec

This applies to all Aspec identities like demisexual, aceflux, graysexual, lithsexual, etc … It is a companion piece to my older post about Arospec identities

Also, fair warning, this talks about sex a lot because that's the easiest way to know if you're not into it. If you know you’re sex-repulsed, this might not be for you. I apologize for that.

You make up reasonable excuses to stay away from sex, like saying it would hurt too much or you’re afraid you wouldn’t be satisfied

You tell others and yourself that you have more important things to focus on anyways, possibly without realizing that you’re just not interested in sex at all

You like the idea of sex, but shy away when it’s actually presented to you

You always feel deeply uncomfortable or leave during sex scenes in media

Your fantasies are a little off. Like when you see an attractive person you think about cuddling them or doing fun stuff with them but not actually having sex

You get confused by what turns others on. Like, how do you guys get turned on by seeing a stranger or possessiveness? It doesn’t make sense to you

You just find sex absolutely disgusting to the point where you never want to do it

You’re only okay with certain types of sex, like exclusively oral, because that’s the only kind of intimacy you can tolerate

Certain aspects of sex freak you out more than others, which is totally fine

You want to be desired but not reciprocate anything sexually. This is totally okay. You can like being seen as sexy without actually wanting to have sex

You only think of having sex with people you can’t have, like fictional characters

You only consider sex after knowing someone for a really really long time and basically being best friends

One night stands and hookups confuse you

You’ve tried sex before but discovered it’s not your thing or didn’t like it, even for multiple different reasons

OR maybe you did like having sex, but have yet to find anyone else you really want to do it with

You greatly prefer taking care of your desires yourself instead of doing it with someone else

You just plain don’t see the appeal of sex

You feel more aesthetic attraction than romantic. To you, people are like sunsets - they’re gorgeous, but that doesn’t mean you want to fuck the sun

Your opinions on sex vary wildly, but when given the chance you’d say No more often than not

You make up excuses to get out of sex or not have to talk about sex

You’d be “fine” with sex and go along with it, but don’t have any desire to do it yourself

You have sexual feelings but are completely fine not acting on them

Lust confuses you, especially with the way people act during it. Why would they do something so gross or be unable to control themselves? It doesn’t make sense to you

You want a romantic relationship without the sex

You like sex in theory but not in practice

You worry when you’re in a relationship because it feels like sex is inevitable and you can’t avoid it, which makes you nervous maybe even to the point of breaking up

You like dirty jokes but not having sex which is absolutely valid

You find yourself relating to asexual memes a little too much

Sexual stories, gossip and rumors are unnapealing, boring or upsetting

You’d have sex but only if you’re 1000% sure nobody would ever find out about it

You don’t think about sex that often, or you’re known for having a very low sex drive

You give a lot of physical affection and get confused when people assume you’re trying to flirt or get in their pants

You really don’t understand why anyone would spend money on toys or items used for sex

Physical attractiveness doesn’t mean shit to you. If you ever do feel sexual attraction, looks don’t really factor in much

You know what your romantic identity is, but are confused because you still don’t want to have sex despite that

#asexual #asexual pride #asexual memes #ace positivity #ace pride #ace

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copper-16 · 24 days

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this is quite a personal question so feel free not to answer this! <3

you said somewhere a bit ago that you're ace. how does that translate into your relationships with non-ace people or when you are writing about people who are not ace? I hope this doesn't come across as disrespectful I just wonder whether that is a form of compromise for you. I hope you understand what I mean? Hope this is fine to ask!

Hello! First of all, you asked this question so kindly, and I want you to know how much I truly appreciate it! I have a lot of thoughts that I am more than willing to share, so I apologize in advance for the length of this.

For starters, from a writing perspective. I write smut in stories most of the time because it furthers the narrative, not really because I enjoy doing it. Every once in a while I might feel the urge to do so, but those moments are few and far between. I write it from more of a clinical perspective, and a lot of my smut writing is me kinda copying/drawing from what other people write, especially for things I have never experienced before. I have amazing friends who love to share about their experiences, so I also ask them a lot of questions if I’m curious about something. But overall, it’s a bit like pulling teeth, and it’s not ever something that “turns me on” or makes me feel the need to go sleep with someone. Just is what it is. I’ve considered writing a story where one of the characters is ace, but I’ve always been a touch too scared to do so, and it’s not something I ever thought people would want to read about.

For myself personally, I think it’s been a bit of a journey. I slept with a lot of people, both guys and girls, trying to figure out if there was anything about sex I really liked. Sex for me is again more clinical in the sense that I don’t really enjoy the actions myself (it doesn’t turn me on), but I kind of enjoy getting to fulfill my partners needs, if that makes sense? It was about a year ago when I firmly decided that I was ace, though it is something I still think about a lot. I’m asexual and not aromantic, so I worried that I would never be able to find a partner who understood me, and that I wouldn’t get a chance to fall in love.

I’m no longer with this person, but I did end up finding a partner who I was with for several months who knew about me being ace, and still chose to date me. It is possible for a relationship to exist without a lot of sex, or any sex. The person I was with was not ace, but they didn’t find sex to be that important, and understood it wasn’t something I loved doing. I was willing to still have sex sometimes because it made them happy, but it can be a hard thing to balance with yourself when in a relationship. I was only willing because while I don’t enjoy sex, I’m not sex repulsed. I considered it a compromise in my relationship at the time, but sometimes I wonder if it was just me sacrificing that part of myself. I’m not sure if moving forward I would ever want a relationship that included sex, but I consider these things to be fluid and ever changing. That being said, if someone has never told you, I am here to point blank tell you that it is possible to still fall in love with someone without sex. Sex isn’t all that exists in a relationship, there are different ways you can be intimate with someone. I would say, however, that it’s best to be upfront about your preferences/needs going into a relationship. It’s not fair to the other person (or yourself), to not communicate about that and allow it to be something that is talked about.

I’m also lucky that I have amazing friends who have always validated how I felt, and encouraged me to be honest with myself. My best friend specifically has always tried to remind me that my feelings are valid and it’s okay for me to be myself. Similar to when someone comes out as gay, realizing your ace in some way can be very challenging. It’s difficult to navigate, and it can be hard to understand yourself when the way your body works doesn’t feel “normal,” compared to what you read about or see in major media. You are normal, I promise, your body just might work a little bit different than others! I really recommend the book “ACE” by Angela Chen for anyone who thinks they might be ace. It’s nice to know that there’s others out there who feel the same.

Just a final thought, for anyone who has this on the brain/is maybe struggling or thinking about it - I am ALWAYS here if you would like to discuss it. One of my friends on here is also ace, and it was so liberating and just filled me with relief to finally be able to acknowledge that maybe I wasn’t alone in feeling this way about sex. My messages/asks are always open, so feel free to reach out if you would like to talk to someone!

#copper 16 asks

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irondad-defensesquad · 3 months

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You get to exhale now

Also posted on AO3!

This was originally sillier, but it grew deeper. There's nothing too heavy about it, it ends well! However:

TRIGGER WARNING - discussions of acephobia and biphobia.

DO NOT SHIP PETER AND TONY. P/ROSHIP DNI.

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Peter has been planning this in his head for quite a while. The right time comes when he aces his last test, and a cartoon light bulb pops above his head.

He’s holding the paper in his hands and wearing clothes colored for the occasion. His stomach reacts with anxiety, which is not necessarily dread. He’s more than sure that Tony will be fine with Peter not being straight. The teen just wonders if his mentor even knows what asexuality is.

Peter has only come out to Aunt May and Ned for now, and obviously, they’re both okay with it. Ned already knew about asexuality, but even if May didn’t, she didn’t see anything “unnatural” or “odd” about it. Peter sometimes finds his aunt reading articles about asexuality probably to learn more. Seeing this, he thought Tony could know, too. In fact, Peter told May and Ned that he wanted to tell Tony as well. They encouraged him, but they also reassured Peter that he doesn’t need to come out to him or anyone if he doesn’t feel safe. But Peter does feel safe around Tony. He can be himself when they spend time together.

Even then, his mind already catastrophizes everything, no matter how unrealistic it is. Peter doesn’t expect to be kicked out or anything, but the last thing he wants is for his identity to be dismissed. Peter also has this in mind considering how Tony is, well, a playboy. Or used to be. It’s strange knowing this while Peter is sex-repulsed. What is Tony going to think about that?

The trip upstate feels too long and too short at the same time. Peter is bouncing his legs, trying his hardest not to crush the test with his hand. And now that he’s finally here, the anxiety increases. Happy even asks him if he’s okay, when the driver usually stays silent. Peter just says he’s excited to see Tony, which is half true. Fortunately, Happy doesn’t question him anymore.

Peter finds Tony in the kitchen this time. He’s kind of relieved about that, because he doesn’t want to get in the way of Tony’s work.

“Hey, kid!” The man greets. He hums. “I like the palette you’re going for today.”

He really just notices everything. “Y-Yeah, hey, Mr. Stark,” Peter chuckles. He hates that his hands are trembling.

“What’s up?”

“Ah, um…”

Peter mostly stares down at his paper, the A+ facing him, telling him to go for it. Tony waits.

“I… aced my Spanish test.”

“Oh, that’s great, kid!” Tony sounds happy for him, even though he probably wonders why Peter is so nervous to give this kind of news. “We’re definitely gonna celebrate, your pick.”

“A-Awesome, thanks.”

Why can’t he just say it?

“Is… there anything else you wanna tell me, Pete?”

To Peter, it’s obvious. He’s wearing black, gray, white, and purple clothes. He has the black ring on his middle finger. He aced his test. He’s basically a walking pride flag, but of course, Tony might know anything and Peter is just looking too pathetic. He’s probably not real to him.

He gulps and opens his mouth.

“I’m… I-I’m asexual, okay?” Peter sounds defeated.

Maybe Tony doesn’t know the term either.

But his mentor gasps.

“Oooooh! That’s why I was recognizing the colors. And the black ring, too. Sorry I didn’t catch the hints at first, kid.”

Peter blinks, perplexed. “What? You- You actually know what asexuality is?”

“Yes, of course.”

Of course? “Seriously?”

“You think I live under a rock?” Tony teases, not sounding annoyed.

Whoa, okay. That’s so weird. Of all people, he never imagined Tony Stark to know what asexual is.

“And… you’re okay with… me being asexual?” Peter asks like he’s a toddler wanting approval.

Tony’s smirk fades. “Why wouldn’t I be?” His voice softens a lot.

There are a lot of reasons Peter could list, but he just shrugs. He already knew Tony would be okay, and considering Peter doesn’t have to pull the slide presentation he made, he should be happy, right? Why isn’t he, then?

Why does he feel stupid?

Tony sighs. “Alright, come here, kiddo.” He stretches out an arm, inviting Peter.

The boy complies, so Tony wraps an arm around him and he guides them both to the couch. The man still respects Peter’s space while letting him know it’s okay.

“First off, I’m glad you told me. I’m relieved that you feel safe around me to come out,” Tony smiles at him.

Peter is unable to return it. His eyes are watering.

“I-I’m sorry, Mr. Stark,” he apologizes. Why does he want to cry?

“For what?”

“I dunno, it’s just… I-I knew you would be fine with it, but… I didn’t think you’d know what asexuality is or if you’d think it’s real at all.” Peter sniffs. “A-And I should be happy that you know, but…”

He’s met with silence, the kind that gives him time, that allows him to cry.

“You know, Mr. Stark… being asexual can be so… lonely sometimes. All the other kids my age talk about sex. All the adults I know also tell us we’re gonna find the right person one day. I see it all the time in movies, series, everywhere I go. I never liked it. But since I’m just a kid, everyone tries to convince me I’m gonna change my mind one day. I don’t get the appeal, I don’t get why it matters. I never felt like this for anyone, and I wonder if there’s something wrong with me,” Peter admits. “And as if that isn’t alienating enough, I have these super powers that make me less of a human being. I’ve never been normal, but that feeling just gets worse. Sometimes I wish I could be a normal kid who likes sex and who doesn’t have mutant powers. Maybe things would be easier, then.”

A few quiet tears roll down his face. Peter doesn’t think he has ever opened up about this facet of his sexuality. He never even told May or Ned. He never knew how to verbalize these feelings of inadequacy.

Peter almost forgets Tony has been listening this entire time, when the latter breathes in, probably due to the weight of the former’s words. He might be close to crying, too.

“Look, Peter,” Tony starts, “I’m not asexual, but as you probably know, I’m bisexual. I only came out when I was older, otherwise my dad would disown me if he found out. But what I want to say is that, to some level, I understand what you mean. Everyone sees bisexuality as a ‘phase’ or ‘confusion’. In a way, it’s not ‘real’, either. Like, pick a side, you’re either gay or straight.” Tony exhales. “Again, our experiences are not the same. From what you told me, yeah, asexuality sounds invisible. I just hope you know that you’re not invisible to me. You’re real and there’s nothing wrong with you. Like you said, society can be alienating, so many of us have to hide to be safe. It’s heartbreaking.” He’s then rubbing Peter’s back. “You’re safe here, Peter. You’re not any less of a person for having powers or for being asexual.”

The boy suddenly feels lighter. Thus, he leans against Tony, who gladly wraps his arms around him.

“It’s so tiring having to justify your existence,” Peter vents.

Tony doesn’t answer, but he silently agrees.

“Thanks for listening, Mr. Stark.”

“Sure, kid. I like the hints you showed me. They were very creative.”

Peter chuckles. “Yeah.”

“I think purple fits you.”

“I might wear it more often.”

Tony spends a while rubbing Peter’s back, until he hums.

“Asexuals like cake, right?” He wonders.

Peter grins. “I love cake.”

“Alright. We can order one for you, any flavor you like. I would bake it, but I haven’t baked since… a while,” Tony clears his throat, probably not wanting to say “decades” or else Peter would just make fun of him. “I don’t wanna ruin it for you.”

“It’s okay. Thanks, Mr. Stark.”

“You deserve it, kiddo.”

Peter just chooses a regular chocolate cake. It takes a while to arrive, of course. Until then, Tony shows him the bisexual flag he bought a long time ago, as well as pictures of him attending pride events over the years.

“Hey, what if we went to the next pride as Iron Man and Spider-Man? That would be so cool, right?”

Tony’s smile grows bigger. “That would be great, kid.”

As they eat the cake together – mostly because Peter urges him to eat with him –, Peter thinks of several ideas for the next pride month. Tony listens all the way, still grinning and looking at him with admiration.

Indeed, Peter Parker is real. And Tony loves him.

#irondad #fics #my fics #acephobia tw #biphobia tw #bi and ace solidarity let's gooo

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aroaceconfessions · 1 year

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Context and tw/cw's; I have a friend whose fully aroace and romance+sex repulsed(okay with jokes as long as they're just jokes and you arent 'hitting on' them), and our friend we have doesn't quite seem to get it so mild possible aphobia :/(which is awkward because I'm right there as an asexual person myself, and they know)

Me, the friend I'm just gonna call A(for aroace, get it?), and the other friend I'm gonna call J, we're all hanging out outside during a school soccer game, A was talking to another friend of ours' brother, of which was considered shocking because the brother is..a typical high school jock boy, tall, buff, blonde, blue-eyed, and homophobic(queerphobic if you wann get specific, he once insulted Genderfluid people and called the Identity stupid with me right there, but that's another story), but they were getting along, and being even..friendly, with each other. J noticed this pointed it out to the sister(our friend) who was confused at first, but then we explained it(I noticed it first and brought it to attention to J), and they also started just looking at them in shock, J then turns to me and says "Y'know, maybe he will find somebody after all." Since I was already tired, and not having that today, I turned and said "But A's aroace, he doesn't want that. And he's romance and sex repulsed as well." J just..shrugs and says, "Well maybe he'll eventually change."

How the hell do I explain to them that, that's incredibly aphobic, and I'm glad that A didnt hear J? Sorry for the longer post and a rant but..what the hell. Aphobia is so normalized, even in the queer community, but what should I do?

Submitted May 13, 2023

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #aro #ace #arospec #acespec #arose #romance repulse #sex repulsed #aphobia #acephobia #arophobia #homophobia #queerphobia

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moroser · 1 year

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About your human au - I just want to say Lilith was confirmed to be just aroace, not on the spectrum, and repulsed by romance and sex. I’m trying not to word this badly but you saying she would have one night stands is…not good or like accurate to who she is. Also it’s weird there seems to be so much importance on Hunter being her biological son, it kinda comes off as if him being adopted isn’t good enough. As an aroace person myself, knowing you’re also aroace, I just wanted to point these concerns out. I hope it doesn’t come off as rude or anything, and I’m not saying you meant for these things to come across badly either, just asking you to consider this.

i wasn't aware it was confirmed she was repulsed by sex (romance yes, but i just recall her being confirmed ace.) but, even so,

i honestly don't know how to take this ask because as an ace person who is repulsed by sex (physically almost all the time, but in stories and movies and whatever, not always), it took me a LONG time and many shitty situations to get there and realize this was the case for me and realistically there are ace people who also take a similar journey to reach that point in understanding themselves. i am almost 32 and i spent a lot of time thinking i could get over not enjoying sex and understanding that i didn't HAVE to have it, sometimes putting myself in uncomfortable situations for it to try and 'fix' myself. i am STILL struggling with the mentality that it's okay to be repulsed by sex.

i'd applied that to her for this au, because it's an outlet for me. saying she has one night stands was NOT meant to be taken like she'd been going out and having a bunch of sex all the time like at all. i perhaps could have worded it better to explain this, i apologize for that. but to be honest, it was very difficult to share and explain this au for This Reason. it's embarrassing for me to even talk about because i don't even like admitting how much i've tried to not be ace. like idk how else to explain this but i have had breakdowns to my friends about the concern of this and feeling guilty, when ultimately i probably shouldn't have to. people have different journeys into figuring out their sexual (or non sexual) identities.

as far as the biological son thing, it has absolutely nothing to do with him being adopted not being good enough, at all. i am a bit offended that this is assumed of me because i would never think or say something like that. this was just a situation i had created for this au. i didn't do it because i didn't want him to be adopted, i just wanted the situation where he wasn't and how it would go. it didn't feel realistic to me that she'd adopt a baby or she'd just choose to have one, so i wanted to explore a different route.

like i have thought a lot about this, i didn't just throw this shit together without considering a lot of things and this type of ask was why i was fearful to even share it. i don't think there is much i could say that will help you in particular feel better about this, but i have most definitely thought about it all and considered things. i don't like feeling bad for using a character that i really love and respect, as an outlet (as someone who is aroace who does want a child) that isn't harming anything. you do not have to agree with me, but i don't think you should be telling me that i'm doing something wrong and making me feel bad just because my aroace journey is different than yours. i really, really care about this and lilith. like in an autistic and very strong way.

#curious sharks #none of my tone is snotty or mean i am just trying to be blunt and clear and im actually really upset by this #im not trying to make you feel bad and i know you weren't trying to make me feel bad either #i really love this au and it's not at all meant to cause discourse #i feel bad i have to elaborate this all so deeply #human au

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wren-kitchens · 9 months

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talk to me abt ace noel gruber

oKAY SO

first of all, noel loves tragedy. he adores to play with the idea of ‘waking up in an alleyway in my own vomit- missing teeth!’, and so the idea of being a sex worker of course just adds to the tragedy of it all

because no one likes sex, of course. thinking of it is akin to pondering his own mortality, at least to noel. that’s why the whole tragedy is a fantasy—a distraction from the very real problems he has right now.

a little while after the cyclone accident, someone asks noel about why he’d want to live as monique, and he explains that it was mostly just a coping strategy—your own problems seem a lot smaller when you consider what could have been. (it stopped working so much after he actually. died, but at that point he had found a group of friends who would support him so he didn’t need the fantasy anyway)

noel expected people to point out that it was a weird coping strategy, but what everyone seems hung up on was that he thought sex was equally as bad as the dying part. there’s a bit of back and forth and some slightly pissed off googling until noel discovers the terms ‘asexual’ and ‘sex repulsed’

(also I imagine ocean had a very similar moment of ‘wait what’ at the same time as noel, and that penny realised that neither of them knew they were ace. she’d assumed they knew the whole time)

#ride the cyclone #noel gruber #ocean o'connell rosenberg #penny lamb #rtc #wren wrambles #asks

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catsockpuppet · 2 days

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Okay so I made this Ethan playlist and now I’m going to explain a few songs. (A lot of these are really angsty, whoops! Also I’m completely ignoring the intentions of these songs here.)

i like the way you kiss me - Okay! I really think Ethan intentionally tries not to get attached to people/makes sure no one gets attached to them. They feel unworthy, unlovable, maybe even disgusting, so they try to make sure no one gets close enough to realize that. A few lines like; “You said you’re scared I’ll let you down, stick around and you’ll found out” (Afraid of being less interesting than people assume/being unreliable) And “Not tryna be romantic, I’ll hit it from the back just so you don’t attached” (I think they are ace but this can apply in any context) Really fit Ethan’s personality!

Fifteen Minutes - Okay! There’s less of an analysis here, I just think that Ethan is pretty paranoid about losing friends/partners so they constantly are asking questions like this and need a lot of reassurance that they matter and people would think of them!

Crash - (I didn’t steal this song from Ders, wdym??) I think Ethan has a habit of running into relationships, not considering the consequences or if they are really compatible with that person. They just, dive right in and reap the consequences. The line: “How long did you think we could make it? How far did you think we could take it? We couldn’t be bothered, we didn’t have time, to think so far ahead.” Is good example! They didn’t bother thinking about how long the relationship could last, they went right into it because they need to feel like they are loved.

Strawberry Blond - (This one is going to be very Radford x Ethan, sorry!) I think when Ethan genuinely falls in love it hits them hard. And I fell like they’d be a lot more positive because, this is like, the first time they’re genuinely falling for someone. Sure they are nervous, but they’re also ecstatic because they thought love was something they would never get to experience (not in an aro-ace way, but more of a not-deserving-of-it way). “Can you hear the bumblebees swarm?” Is really important to me because (as I’ll mention later) I feel like Ethan was, for a while (before and after Tender Treats), not completely there. Like they were a bit of a robot, but a while after Tender Treats, when everyone is healing, they fall in love and start noticing all these things they didn’t notice before. Small things, small details about everyone, not just Radford. They are more attentive. “I love everybody because I love you” Could also be an example of this!

Juliet - I feel like they genuinely have such a hard time like, taking care of themselves and all that. “I wanna make a colour, that no one else has seen before. I wanna be so much more.” I feel like, they are constantly trying to be better. Trying to make themselves seem more worthy of attention, more lovable, etc. I also like “Sometimes I act like I know, but I’m really just a kid” for them because I imagine that they really try to pretend they understand everything, like they know exactly what everyone thinks.

Good Luck, Babe! - Honestly, I have no words. This is just so them.

Are You Bored Yet? - Okay! I really think that Ethan is a quiet, chill, relaxed person who would prefer staring at the stars in silence than going out on dates. As a result I feel like they see themselves as boring, especially because people assume they are going to be so much more… Exciting? And I also see them as asexual, and, projecting a bit but, sometimes in relationships they feel boring. Like, they can’t fulfill that for a partner and it’s hard not to feel like a disappointment after telling someone. Even if they aren’t entirely sex repulsed I don’t think they have much sexual attraction.

Loved - I think this is like, how Ethan believes their parents perceive them. They are a freelance artist, they didn’t go to college, and that makes them feel worthless and they are constantly worried their parents are disappointed in them.

Fear and Delight - They willingly enter abusive and dangerous situations because, for a while, it was the only thing that made them feel something. Sure, it was pain, but it was still something. They’d probably take an obviously dangerous situation over a seemingly safe one because, at least they know they’re going to get hurt in the first one. They don’t know what’ll happen in the second.

Francis Forever - OKAY! I know this is a love song or whatever but we are pretending it’s platonic because I do what I want. After Streber got attacked, I think Ethan got even worse. Firstly, they probably found Streber, secondly, Streber is their best friend and now it’s just. Gone. Streber is probably the first person they really cared for, and once he got hurt their entire worldview shifted. Once he got out of the hospital I think they gave it the biggest hug out of everyone.

Pork Soda - THIS SONG IS SO THEM OH MY GOSH!! Okay, as you’ve probably assumed, I think Ethan has had a lot of bad relationships in the past. Platonic and romantic. “How come you only looked pleased in bed?” Is a really Ethan-y line, I can’t explain why. Like their relationships were definitely like that. “Got nobody ‘cause I’m braindead!” Is also very them because, as I stated earlier, I think they really didn’t feel alive for a while. They probably felt unlovable because of that, like they didn’t even deserve friendships. “Why can’t we laugh like we did now and then?” They don’t understand why their relationships are falling, they have ideas, but they don’t actually know. Also, that line is them and Streb after Tender Treats (platonically) because, I imagine Streber didn’t do much small talk after getting attacked.

I have problems, whoops!! there are a lot more songs but i don’t have analysisea for them (these are shorted explanations too…) anyway anyone with others songs should 100000% show me

#ethan spooky month #my bullshit rambles #radford spooky month #radford x ethan #ethan x radford #rants #hnnnnghhh i’ve been wanting to do this all day om insane #streber spooky month #tender treats

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heirscrchd · 3 days

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serious ask:

do you think azula met a/a few trans women during her time post atla?? what would her thoughts be??

(disclaimer: anon is trans)

Okay I'm going to be forward here, I don't know a lot about the subject of being Trans.

Identity for me is extremely difficult and while I could be considered under the umbrella of trans (I identify as sorta-NB, demi-girl? IDK where this falls) and sexuality also is extremely difficult for me to get into because of the complexities of it and how simple labels can be when we boil it down.

I don't know how to answer a lot of these difficult questions and I'll fully admit my ignorance and faults I've made.

I'm putting this under a cut so I don't put a giant post on the dash for people who don't want to get involved in it. Please let me know if you need this tagged

When I first made this blog I did see Azula more as a female-leaning bisexual with not a disinterest in men but more a lack of appeal towards them but wouldn't be entirely repulsed. After more speculation brought on by the mutuals I made here, I thought I might as well call her a lesbian and be flat out with it, but as me, personally, tends to be unsure how the term lesbian is seen in trans community for how Terfs like using it to discriminate against trans woman as they see lesbian as "females loving females"

I used the term lesbian and sapphic interchangeably in an attempt to be more inclusive to trans woman because there is a distinct difference between the complexities of sexuality with labels, social inclusivity, and how one personally might have a genital preference for certain sexes.

I have been informed and take responsibility that phrasing things this way does not help, or can do harm to lesbians and others by making it feel like it's a "bad" word so to speak. I accept that and you are in your full right to criticize me for it. I will do my best to keep this in mind going forward and you always are welcome to call me out for it in the future.

As to say, I'm not good and knowing how to address all this of a fictional character, let alone my own life! I call myself lesbian but I don't even know if that's true because sexuality is fluid the more we understand ourselves. My ow nsexuality has been difficult to understand with the deconstruction of what preferences are okay, what do i prefer, how my trauma impacts me being unabel to handle certai nthings, ive constantly been put into question of my label as lesbian because what if it is just my CSA trauma that stopped me from feeling safe with certain things that remind me of it, but i dont know how to fix it if it can be and i. i dont know

but its not something everyone will understand (sexuality and identity being flexible) because it can come off as "you can forcibly change someone's sexuality" which no. No I'm not saying that, but we can discover more about ourselves and change labels when we better understand ourselves and our likes and wants. (my gf for example identified as lesbian when we first met but under more analysis of herself she feels more comfortable being called pan now)

I don't genuinely know how to project all these complex thoughts onto a fictional character who in the canon is only like 14, and in the comics is 17, and genuinely am trying not to think about what the genital preference of a minor would be when they grow up because it lowkey makes me feel kinda gross.

When it comes to Azula, I don't think she personally holds any ill perspectives on trans women or trans men.

Azula holds a respect for power, honor, and a strong will. Whether the woman she speaks to or recuits is anywhere on the woman or non binary feminine leaning line or nb line in general I don't think she would discriminate against them.

I don't think Azula is a Terf, if that is what you're asking. Azula doesn't discriminate on that

she's very much someone who holds ill will towards people who personally harm her or slight her. Even the Earth kingdom and it's people she didn't hold an animosity for like she did Zuko, during the final Agni Kai, or even Mai and Ty Lee who she showed much more hatred towards for betraying her.

Trans people existing doesn't hurt Azula. Trans people living their lives, doesn't personally insult her.

Azula is fine with and would accept trans women and would accept them all the same as women or whatever they want to identify as.

*Edit, forgot to really answer the question: She probably had met at least a few trans individuals while traveling and wouldnt have any issue with them

** This also comes from Azula who was 110% fine with being called "Fire Lord" - Lord being what we see as a more masculine term than Fire Lady, so she 100% would be accepting of trans and NB individuals since she herself is willing to take on a masculine/male/whatever title despite identifying as a girl.

#lost in the temple // ooc #;; my DMs are open if people want to talk about it more #;; but i think the subject would be best laying to rest on the blog here #;; but i encourage you to call me out and talk to me because iam ignorant #;; i dont know everything #;; and i dont know how to say things right always either #;; the last thing i want to do is hurt someone here and i want to be educated on these topics because my perspective wont ever be perfect #;; but i can polish it with others pointing out my flaws

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