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How to reach goals as a neurodivergent person by not creating them from a neurotypical standpoint
Make the tasks fun & engaging
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If you DON'T HAVE ADHD PLEASE DO NOT VOTE this is not for you i want to hear adhd voices if you want to see just use the answers option
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if you have ADHD and struggle with cleaning/keeping things clean, I’m going to offer some aggressively practical advice that may or may not work but has been so helpful for me to keep a base level of tidiness without losing a whole day to cleaning hyperfocus or ending up stressed to the point of crying about how much stuff I have to deal with.
(It’s best suited if you’re in your own apartment/house and have multiple rooms to manage.) But just start moving. Walk around your place. Put on some music or a YouTube video or whatever floats your boat in your headphones and go for a stroll. See some scissors on the coffee table? Snag em on your way by and drop them off where they go. A dish in your bedroom? Bring that bad boy to the sink as you round the corner. Going room by room or breaking tasks into smaller chunks honestly just stresses me out more lmao but wandering around aimlessly emptying trash bins and tossing socks into the hamper as I notice them?? Now I’m just playing one of those object spotter games babey. No pressure there. If I’m feeling extra ambitious I’ll carry a trash bag with me. Can’t get overwhelmed by a room if I leave it two seconds later. Something doesn’t have a place to go? Make one! Or leave it! Who cares!
A bonus tip is to go to Target or Goodwill or Homegoods or any place that has cheap bins/baskets (little ones that you’d keep pencils or rolls of tape or something in not large storage totes) and keep a few sets on hand. If you realize you’ve accumulated a comical number of sharpies you can go grab a little pencil tray for them and suddenly they have a place to go and now when you find a sharpie on the ground you can toss it in the sharpie bin. Doesn’t matter if the sharpie bin is still on the ground, I’m not going to slip and die in a marker-based Looney Tunes incident and I know if I need a sharpie I go to the spot on the floor next to my bookshelf.
And if you go for a walk and don’t pick up anything that’s also fine you at least moved around a bit. Familiarized yourself with the landscape.
It also tricks my brain into seeing “moving from one room to the other = picking up a few things to put away” which just generally helps keep piles from getting out of hand.
Once I’ve made a few laps things are generally tidy enough to do the same thing with vacuuming/wiping down surfaces/dusting etc.
(side note but if you’re in HS/otherwise living with your parents and being constantly squished under a hydraulic press of shame and pressure about your inability to keep your room clean without actually being given coping skills or help, I see you and I love you and I was you and having a messy living space is not actually a moral failing it’s just a thing that happens sometimes)
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rediscovering shame and giving yourself compassion (how to deal with shame as someone with ADHD)
this is directed towards my fellow ADHDers who have trouble with reoccuring shame while leads to hindered productivity.
signs that your productivity is hindered by shame (compiled by my own experiences):
you feel negative physical symptoms when you think about your responsibilities
you find ways to avoid the responsibilities
every time you make progress, you feel like you don't ever wanna touch it again
when you present your progress, you feel ashamed of yourself because it's not finished (on time & according to ur standards).
you feel like you are a constant failure. you never win, despite achieving good things here and there.
you are a walking ball of anxiety
you have a fear of being perceived
there's probably more, but eh those are just from my own experiences
below i will write down what y'all should remember, what you can do to help yourself, etc. this is compiled from dr k, my own journaling time, and my firsthand experience from having shame 24/7
some things u gotta remember
shame is what exists in the gap between your ideal self and where you are currently.
your ideal self doesn't have to be unrealistic, it can be yourself when you were at your peak or someone who is very similar to you.
shame brings negative thoughts, because it makes you see progress as a negative thing.
instead of being happy that u made progress, u grumble to urself and ask "why didnt i just do it sooner? im so stupid". it's a reminder of your failures, so u avoid progress altogether.
shame can become a part of you, to the point where you feel uneasy or vulnerable if you dont feel ashamed at yourself
shame doesn't do anything to ADHDers in the long run except self-loathing and hindered productivity.
what should u do?
basically self-therapy, but instead of stopping at why, i try to solve my shame one-by-one.
examine past moments where you felt a LOT of shame. this can go back to elementary. the stronger the emotions, the better. now, write them down. you're probably cringing, but that is good. feel all the cringiness running through ur veins.
why did you feel shame? why did it happen? what did you feel?
reframe your thoughts. instead of immediately running away from it, accept it and justify it. give it compassion. give it a hug. was it your 7 year old self? hug yourself. it's okay to fuck up and do silly things sometimes, and it's okay to have ADHD. it's not our fault.
remember that ADHD is a lifelong nerudivergency, you can't just push it away. coping mechanisms and tools help, but give yourself some grace when you screw up. it's our first time living anyway.
calm your body down. make sure your physical body is doing okay.
now... think of one thing you want to do but can't because of shame and do these steps carefully. think of the reasons why you might be ashamed, and reframe your thoughts.
WARNING!! TAKE IT ONE PRESENT ACTION AT A TIME. don't do this for every action you want to take, let your body slowly learn that it's okay to make progress despite the shame you feel, and you are allowed to feel compassion for yourself.
train your body to accept compassion slowly. life is tough with ADHD but it's even tougher knowing that shame will get in your way. give yourself a break, it's fine to fuck up, we all go through different things anyway. even if it's not fine, you will learn and make those mistakes a lil bit lesser in the future.
ok hope this helps.
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Writing with ADHD: Three Tips for Participating in Prompt Challenges
I recently made a post that included some tips I've found helpful when writing with ADHD, so I thought I would make a separate post. Hope they help!
Aim to keep your prompt fills short. That way, you don’t get overwhelmed with writing something long, and you’re less likely to get bored with your own writing. (Funny how that happens!)
Set aside 5-10 minutes and jot down ideas for the prompts. Basically, have some sort of loose plan about what you’re going to be writing for each prompt. That way, part of the work is already done ahead of time (coming up with the idea) and you’re less likely (in theory) to get distracted by trying to come up with the premise for the day.
Don’t try to fight distraction all the time. It can be your friend. I know it sounds paradoxical, but I find that having an easy TV show in the background often helps me write. For example, I’ve been doing March of Pain with the cooking show Chopped in the background. Do what works for you!
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”Failing doesn’t mean you have to quit”- Tips from a university student with ADHD📚
So I’ve been in uni for like….*squints at calendar* almost 5 years, (yikes) and in that time I’ve learned the value of failing.
More specificly I failed a lot of tests, handed in a bunch of assignments late and what I learned from these experiences is that failing an exam…or several of them, is not the end of the world and perhaps more importantly not the end of your plans for the future. I was convinced at several points during these years that because I failed an exam or even a whole course, it would be the end of my academic future and possibly career. I never thought I’d ever graduate but here I am five years later with a bachelor’s degree and now on my way to a master’s.
Failing doesn’t mean you have to quit what you’re doing or give up on your dreams.
It just means you have to get up and try again and if it’s one thing people with ADHD are good at it’s trying. We’re always trying to do better, improve our lives, and as long as you keep trying you’ve never truly failed.
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adhd tips i stole from jawz.jpeg on instagram
these have actually helped me so much
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Just wondering.
Ever got an actually helpful ADHD advice?
I posted someplace that "I got ADHD-lost a while ago and can't find my way back. Deep in overwhelm whirlwind. Any tips for managing life again?"
And received this tip: "make a list and cross out what you did."
🙄
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This is far, far from this blog's theme, but as a 30+ year old with ADHD, I have a few words for the kiddos:
It's gonna be fine.
Right now everything probably feels overwhelming and like the world is going way too fast, tumbling around, and you can't keep up. Everything is so big, so much all the time. and the future looks scary.
But it will be fine. Time will pass. You'll grow, and learn your strengths and limitations. You'll develop strategies to work around your memory lapses and concentration issues. You'll learn how to manage the chaos in your brain. You'll get used to compromise with yourself and not feel guilty for it.
You'll surround yourself with people that accept you and leave behind the ones that don't. (YES, even the parents. It doesn't have to be the scary cutting of all ties, but even moving two towns away can do miracles for your relationship with them).
You'll endure bad jobs and exhausting work enviroinments, and carreers where your nd holds you back. But eventurally, you'll find a path that works for you and doesn't make you miserable or sick.
Trust me. You'll be just fine. Just give it time and work on yourself bit by bit. For yourself. Set phone reminders for everything. Take hot showers. Drink sparkling water. It'll be fine.
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Pro tip:
On days you have a low appetite, just eat whatever your brain registers as edible. It doesn’t matter if it’s grape Jello or carrot sticks or unseasoned white rice or chicken nuggets. You need to eat, so at least try to eat. And if you feel bad about what you’re eating, just treat yourself like an exasperated parent treats a toddler who’s going through a picky eating phase and when you eat a few bites from your meal of plain buttered noodles, chocolate chips, and cranberry juice just think to yourself: “hey, at least I’m eating”
Also, I’ve found that eating little snacks every hour or two while consistently distracting yourself from the fact you’re eating is much more effective at getting calories in my body than sitting down for a full meal
#totally not saying this because that’s exactly what I’m doing right now#adhd#autism#neurodivergent#adhd and autism#adhd advice#autism *jazz hands*#autistic experiences#autistic adhd#neurodivergencies#neurodiversity
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Does anyone here know if people with ADHD can also have sensory overloads, auditory or visual under/overstimulation etc.? I've only ever seen those things discussed in context with autism. I'm considering getting a diagnosis for one or the other and the overlap in some of the symptoms is confusing as heck
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adhd culture is needing to give yourself permission to take shortcuts. mouthwash when you can’t bother to brush your teeth. changing clothing when you won’t shower. 5 pushups when you can’t go to the gym
adhd culture is sometimes forgetting that we don’t have to do 100%. because we internalize our disabilities as laziness, it’s hard to step back and realize we’ve been fighting an uphill battle our entire lives. can’t finish the essay? write 200 words, and feel good about it.
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my therapist wants me to bring up seeking an adhd diagnosis with my parents
i’ve exhibited symptoms of adhd my whole life, and my therapist has said a few times that she suspects i have it. Friends i’ve known my whole life with diagnosis say that i probably have it. I’ve looked up criteria, read articles, and educated myself on symptoms and all the jazz that normally comes with researching a neurodivergence that could be affecting you.
so what’s the problem
i don’t know how to bring it up to my parents
i’ve talked to them before about feeling frustration and disconnect from peers and difficulty focusing and getting to start on things i like and need to do but they always play it off as me being dramatic attention seeking or looking for excuses.
i have sever time blindness and the symptoms of rejection sensitivity disorder put words on a type of emotional disregulation that i’ve struggled my whole life.
i’ve interrupted people in conversation been unable to not fidget unable to be quiet to be normal to be the kid i was supposed to be since day one. my good grades and so called gifted status kept me just as the annoying kid that was doing fine.
but i’m breaking and it’s affecting my school and social life and that’s why my therapist thinks seeking diagnosis is the right route.
how do i bring up seeking an evaluation with my parents in a way that doesn’t come off to them as me just trying to be ✨qUiRkY✨ (i don’t fucking agree with saying people are just trying to be that being different and weird is isolating and heartbreaking so much of the time)
also i’m terrified i don’t. what if i am just lazy. what if i am just weak or stupid. what if this is just me and i’m normal and i can’t figure it out right. what if i am lying for attention. what if i am making excuses. what if this is how it is for everyone and i’m just unable to handle it. what if i’m lying for attention. what if i’m just failing.
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ADHD and me aren’t on the best of terms with cleaning my room
But I do have some factors that’s helping to work a bit, so just wanna share (definitely not procrastinating for a moment on the cleaning):
-Listening to a stim playlist that’s fast paced; Keeps my brain stimulated and hyped with dopamine to let me push through with sorting through stuff
-Working in small sections; Like going with “Clear all the books off my bed” instead of “Clear my bed” as it helps make it a little less overwhelming than the overall task at hand
-Having a ‘deadline’ to meet; I have relatives coming up soon that need my room to stay in, so having that coming up fast helps fuel the need for a panic-fueled drive to get moving; Even if you don’t have guest coming, having the idea of a deadline you need to meet to get the thing clean may help push you to get it done
-Having the idea that someone is going to go into your room to clean things up instead of you can get myself moving to get cleaning, as I’ve seen with other ADHDers and Autistic folks, having someone ‘threaten’ to go clean your space can be stressing and to avoid having them go in to where needs to be cleaned can drive you to go get it done before they get the chance
These are definitely not a catch all advice and stuff, but some strategies to have in mind that could potentially help, and I hope that someone can find this helpful!
If anyone else has any advice or strategies of their own to add, please do! You are more than welcome to share and I would be happy to see what else that could be helpful c:
Rather try to connect with the ADHD tumblr community than search google and get shit like this as ‘helpful advice’:
{Image description: a screenshot of a google search link that reads “73 ADHD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life Now” end description}
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What to do if you get caught by the Adderall shortage:
So, it’s not getting picked up by the news much (at least not that I’ve seen... NPR, BBC, AP), but there’s a pretty serious Adderall shortage happening right now. It’s been building for awhile helped along by the usual suspects (labor shortages, limited manufacturing facilities, shutdowns due to illness... blah blah) and some not so usual ones (More people getting diagnosed with ADHD... when you take away someone’s coping mechanism, which for some people it’s their in-person work environment and social activities, people start to have more issues!). And it looks like this could last until the beginning of 2023... so... what to do?
Please note, I’m not a doctor or medical professional of any kind. I just had to deal with this, and it’s worrying and a little troublesome to manage, so I thought I’d pass on some advice from my experience. It might not be one size fits all but it might help someone to know who to talk to and what to ask.
Also, if you’re going to use this as a moment to spout some drivel about “Maybe we don’t neeeeed all these meds, you guysssss!” please kindly fuck entirely, completely, and all the way off into the void. Same goes for people who are looking at this as an excuse to whine about “addicts” or drug related crime. Read the room. This post is not your soapbox.
SO! You’ve gotten a call from your pharmacy that they can’t fill your Adderall prescription because your scrip is on backorder. Wat do???
Step one:
Don’t panic. It is one pharmacy out of one version of a drug. You’ve got options, though it might take some legwork. If your prescription is at a chain like CVS, Target, Walmart, etc see if the pharmacy tech will call around to other stores in the area and ask about their stocks.
Step two:
Call your prescribing doctor, inform them of the situation, and ask for a paper prescription. Go pick up the prescription. Ask them for their advice and for information on which pharmacy to call (they might know of a pharmacy with the med in stock).
Step three:
Start phoning pharmacies. Begin with the big chains. Places like CVS, Walgreens, Target, Walmart, and major grocery stores... places with multiple locations in town. Start here because they might be able to check with other stores in their chain to find out who has your prescription in stock, which will save you a phone call or three potentially. They also have more integrated supply networks and will have a better handle on their inventory. Fan out from your location with the help of Google. If you live in a big city, don’t be afraid to start checking in the ‘burbs or outlying towns. Also, if the pharmacy tech doesn’t seem like they’re in a rush, ask them if they’ve got other options... the generic form, other measurements, other types (long acting, short acting, etc). That will potentially save you this rigmarole a second time if you come up dry.
Step four:
If you call every pharmacy and have no luck, call your prescribing doctor back. Tell them you’ve phoned literally everyone and no one can fill your prescription and ask if there is a way you can change it by a few milligrams or switch to generic for this month? Could you get a shorter prescription (fewer pills, thus easier to fill)? Could you do short acting instead of long acting or vice versa for a few weeks until backorders get filled? In short, see if you can get an alternative to tide you over. Go get that paper prescription, and then start over (this is why asking some of those questions to the pharmacy techs could pay off).
Concluding advice:
-You do not have to do this by yourself. You don’t even actually have to do this yourself. Someone can do 90% of this for you. Other than the call to your physician for the script, a parent, spouse, friend, sibling or otherwise can help with this. They will just need the paper prescription, your insurance card, your name and date of birth, and your prescribing physician’s name and place of business. Get someone to help you if you can.
-If you’re not getting bit by the shortage, take this as a sign to stockpile your meds a bit. And this kinda goes for everyone, not just the ADHD/Adderall people. Shortages and supply issues are not going to go away any time soon. Next it might be blood pressure meds, or a particular steroid... who knows. Talk to your doctor about how to effectively plan for this with the meds you’re taking. Future you will thank you.
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Here are some ADHD tips that genuinely changed my life
-You are allowed to have more than one trashcan in a room. Put trashcans where ever trash accumulates. Lot of trash on top of your desk? Put one next to your desk. A lot of trash on your night stand? put one next to that as well. Hell get 3 or 4 trashcans, you make the rules
-If your trashcan has a lid and thats stopping you from using it as often, just take it off.
-When you are feeling under stimulated, like you want to do something but you dont know what and its making you want to explode, the best thing you can do is exercise. Not even a lot, just a little bit. Under stimulation happens when there is a lack of dopamine in your brain. And even doing a very quick amount of exercise releases some dopamine. Normally i just do like 15 sit ups and i instantly feel so much better.
-If you take medication, use one of those daily pill things. I forget if ive taken my medicine like,,, 15 seconds after i do it. So those help a lot
-i sometimes have a hard time brushing my teeth. One thing that helped was putting a dice (a d20 for me) in my bathroom. Every time i brush my teeth i roll the dice. If i get the highest number on the dice, i get to reward myself. Which for me means i buy something frivolous.
Another thing that helps with this is if you live with someone else, try to brush your teeth around the same time they do. If someone else is reminding me to do it its easier.
I may add more in the future. Feel free to add on yourself :]
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