it's actually kind of fascinating to me when people automatically equate "improve social programs" with "become a communist dictatorship". they're basically admitting that they would never do anything to help other people unless forced. as though their whole concept of freedom revolves around being able to be as selfish as possible, and getting to treat others like garbage, and they don't see anything wrong with that.

I will never understand why so many folkes are unwilling to simply ignore things they dislike or disagree with which are not harming or encouraging the harm of anyone.

This principle applies to everything. 💚🌈💜

The post that was screenshot: [Link] This post with the reply by catgirlforeskin: [Link] A convenient post that I wrote going into it about my gender yesterday: [Link]

obviously I would suggest reading the original post, as it has context for what was being said in those screenshots.

ahem

So Like, We Just Hate People Who Aren't Binary Huh?

We See Someone Come Out About Being Genderqueer And Talk About Their Own Presentation And Sense Of Self On Their Own Post And It's Immediately Responded To With "You're Fetishizing Trans Women By Thinking That You Have Anything In Common With Them."

let's review !

1: I made a Vent Post where I responded to a Cis Person, I made my own post and crossed out their username because I didn't feel like they did anything Wrong, but I wanted to discuss my feelings on it anyways!

2: these feelings were that it's upsetting that people don't seem to think about the trans perspective when discussing gender Stuff, or how marginalization in general plays a factor when discussing representation in media.

3: within Two Notes I got someone crawling into my replies and dms to talk down to me for being trans masc, so I expressed frustration that That's something that happens to me.

4: THEN somebody responded to That to insist that me expressing frustration about people lashing out at marginalized men was harmful to trans women.

you'll notice ! I was a trans person speaking about my own feelings on my own post, responding to a cis person and someone who explicitly harassed me. I did not mention trans women in this post, because it was a vent post. I explicitly say in my response to that post different kinds of trans people venting about their experiences does not imply or take anything away from other sorts of trans people.

so ! what we're left with is !

1: people being Furiously Angry that I would say that all trans people are capable of being hurt and that all trans people deserve to speak about their feelings, enough to rip things out of context and lie

2: People Just Unironically Saying With Their Entire Chest That A Trans Person Who Considers Themselves Both Masculine And Feminine Is Transmisogynistic, Because Being Genderqueer Implies That You Don't See Trans Women As Real Women. Somehow.

so like. where do we go from here huh.

firstly, there's an awareness. I need people to be Aware that this is something that is happening. that we've reached a point where people hate trans mascs so much that they're willing to tear them down for talking about Their Feelings in response to Cis People.

that we've reached a point where people get so blindly Angry when someone suggests that trans people should all be treated with dignity and respect that they're willing to act like this.

I Need people to share things like this, even if it's not this post specifically. because I Need People To Understand the kind of vitriol and hatred that trans mascs are facing simply for being visible At All.

if people aren't aware then they Will end up supporting and spreading this kind of harassment without realizing.

amatonormativity is one of the most harmful forces in society, actually.

it’s incredibly structural, and invisible, and if you don’t live outside striving for the monogamous ideals, it can be incredibly normalised to a very toxic extent

amatonormativity:

- contributes to abuse (people staying in relationships because they are manipulated into thinking that some romantic relationship is better than none)

- high divorce rates

- unhappy marriages

- unhappy relationships

- inability to live alone

- devaluing of friendship

- is underpinned and underpins ableism (disabled people’s humanity is often judged on their capacity for sex and love, particularly romantic)

idk, maybe we should take this seriously? all a lot of freedom movements - particularly feminism - are striving for are giving people choice on what to do with their lives.

amatonormativity is the societal norm. it is real, it is not good for anyone. relationship anarchy is cool.

anyway.

"Don't force me."

"I force you? Li Xun forces me! You all force me!"

where is Nie Huaisang when you need him to destroy a scum man?

The most underrated character relationship dynamic, imo, is how a captain loves their crew, and vice versa

look, i love witnessing characters Loose It or themselves in their work, their life's work. to the point where they're inseperable from it because they've put so much of themselves in it it might aswell be a child or and extension of their body or whatever. i love it when characters can conveniently solve literally any problem because they are the Smartest Person Alive. but also i think it'd be cool to see scientists who are Generally Healthy People, for, if anything, to help project a better view of science. romanticization of things falling apart for a scientist is entertaining, sure, but it presents the idea that we should always sacrifice our on self care, health, and connections to our community in the name of "innovation". which becomes a slippery slope to toxic capitalistic working culture. (un)fortunately, nobody really spends hours in candlelight scrawling a new thesis over night or conduct lifechanging experiments made from kitchen tools in their basement. most of the time, at least. exceptions exist. people work in teams now!! huge, huge teams. and they ALL help make the discovery. i think it's important to maybe represent science as a team effort and something you can do that won't damage your mind or body, and especially as something you don't have to be extraordinarily good at all the time - depictions of scientists should be realistic and accessible. so, here are some prompts/alternative tropes/things i think would be cool or just generally communicate the vibe i'm going for here:

scientists who've regularly failed or struggled in their courses/research but still go on despite it because they're passionate or optimistic or whatever, demonstrating perseverance and resilience.

people who are still learning. who are very earnest and curious but sometimes need to have the same thing explained to them over and over and over again.

academics who are fighting the system that has rather systematically screwed them over. who continue out of spite. ex-gifted kids and people who were denied their accommodations in one way or another.

disabled scientists who need to expend more time and energy on their research/field work/whatever but aren't in any way shape or form shamed, ostracized, or threatened because of it.

one team member who isn't personally doing anything breathtaking, but instrumental and irreplaceable to the overall thing.

biologists who often make reference to (earth) classification guides, and who try very hard to break the habit once they start studying aliens

academics who start taking care of themselves more just as they start taking their research more seriously, leading them to produce quality stuff!

there are plenty more but yeah. theres so much to be done beyond the mad scientist or super-ultragenius trope. take care of yourselves this finals season, fellow students.

i think being on tumblr is slowly degrading my ability to argue effectively. i studied philosophy and argumentation/logic in higher ed for a long time and i used to be half-decent at putting forth well-reasoned, thorough, clear, articulate arguments. but now??

now, my response to everything is “hm okaye but what if I bit u?? >:)”

Gregory Edgeworth is a Christ figure. I will not elaborate.

*pauses episode to deconstruct the themes of gender, professionalism and patriarchy and the implications of the FL's whorephobia*

I mean seen from another perspective, her obsession with the idea that he's a sex worker and her reaction to that belief seems to indicate an ego-protective mechanism at work, a cognitive dissonance that allows her to avoid confronting her feelings about how she was treated in her previous job, where she was ostensibly employed as a legal professional and then expected to entertain handsy clients after hours. And the irony that it was overhearing *his* conversation in that same restaurant with a client who wanted sexual favours from him, and how he flatly rejected those advances, that gave her the courage to walk out and resign on the spot - but even that inspiration was ultimately whorephobic because her takeaway from that scene was if he, a mere sex worker, can assert his right to walk away from a deal he doesn't want, then she, a highly educated lawyer, ought to have even less qualms about leaving an undesirable job. But then again her whorephobia is integral to this narrative tension that's being established, where she has fundamentally mistaken the power dynamic between herself and him, her accidental temporary roommate. She's being set up for a grand reversal when she realises he's not a sex worker, he's her new lawyer employer and named partner in the firm she's just taken a job with. But is the narrative going to punish her for assuming he was a loser/traitor under the patriarchy, a man who inverted the power dynamic by serving women's sexual needs, rather than the other way around? Or is it going to take her to task for the way she treats sex workers?

*browses tumblr, sees the ML actor's shirtless bathroom selfies*

Nice!

Seeing people say hormones are comparable to street drugs is really telling... like we all have hormones - testosterone and estrogen - inside of our bodies. Pretty much every human being has some level of hormones in them - this is why "hormone imbalance" is an indication of some diagnosable conditions.

What HRT does is readjust your hormone levels to reflect what you are administering to yourself, such as a trans person taking testosterone to reflect a testosterone-dominant endocrine system, for example. Cis men and women go on hormone replacement therapies all the time, and trans and cis people are able to do this in the first place because our bodies naturally produce both in varying quantities.

transphobes always have such weird shit to say about archaeologists sexing bones and a lot of it’s just outright horseshit, but for anyone who legitimately doesn’t want to dispose of their body in a way that would leave bones like that, you likely have more options than you realize. this is very much coming from a us perspective and is something that varies heavily by state, but body disposition methods like aquamation and human composting are increasingly being legalized and worth looking into if a “traditional” burial or fire cremation isn’t something you want. thinking about end of life care and your death isn’t a pleasant thing by any means for most people, but having your end of life wishes clearly stated in legal writing (advanced directives are your best friend) and having someone who you know you can trust to follow through with what you want done to your body after death is Incredibly Important not only for yourself and your own peace of mind, but also those who are dear to you and in mourning when you’re gone—grief and the loss of someone you’re close to are never easy, but having a roadmap and a clear idea of what you want done after you’re gone is one less struggle they have to deal with and makes people far less able to be exploited in the aftermath of someone’s death by parts of the funeral industry that prey upon grieving folks in order to get them to unnecessarily spend exorbitant amounts of money.

I think I'm one of the only three people on earth who actually quite likes Paimon (barring some... interesting situations) and her voice.

So many people say she's annoying but I'm like. But I love her, your honor. She's so supportive and empathic, your honor. She's excited about everything and feels a bit like a little kid and I want to protect her, your honor.

Like idk. I like her. I think her voice direction is pretty neat. I'm in the minority, but I'm also pretty set on it, so.

(I'm playing Ei's second quest and just... Paimon's voice is killing me. I'm having cute agression feelings and nowhere to vent them so)

"adult diapers are made for disabled people not those gross disgusting kinksters so dont conflate us!"

or. or. how about in pushing back against ableism we dont throw people under the bus. people wearing diapers shouldnt get harrassed for it regardless of why they wear them thx for coming to my ted talk

i might seem like just a mentally ill eccentric. but deep down i care about the children

I’ve been thinking about that one post about being your own friend and it might seem obvious, but it’s not just about giving yourself grace (though that is important).

It’s also about holding yourself accountable and being honest with yourself the same way you’d want someone else to, without being needlessly cruel to yourself. If someone you know were fucking up and you cared enough to tell them, you probably wouldn’t want to come out swinging and saying “Are you serious? Are you fucking for real? What’s wrong with you?”

So why do it to yourself?