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furiousgoldfish · 2 years

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socializing after you’ve been abused:

am I being useful right now?

useful enough not to be kicked out or considered a burden?

what if I ruin everything with my presence

is there anything else I can do to make sure everyone approves of me?

I haven’t done anything useful in a while, everyone must be mad at me

why is everyone ignoring me right now? am I being abandoned?

are they about to leave me? how did I deserve this?

I’m going to be alone, forever, I’m beyond help

everyone must have hated me all along and now they’re happier without me

I can feel them thinking horrible things about me. They must think how I’m stupid and don’t deserve to be here.

Is anyone seeing thru me? Can they tell I’m scared? I have to hide it better.

I’d do anything for reassurance that things are okay but if I ask for it I will be seen as annoying and too demanding so I can’t do that

It was a mistake trying to fit in, I’m ruining everything, this would all be better if only I wasn’t here

They’re all secretly blaming me for everything bad that happened, and I too am thinking of all the ways I could have stopped it and didn’t, it’s my fault

I’m being left behind, I don’t even understand what is going on right now and nobody is explaining anything to me. They want me to be left out.

I just want to be away from this, I can’t handle looking at everyone else being close to each other while I’m dying for this and will never have it

Was I wrong for thinking I could do this? Was I stupid for imagining for a second I would feel okay talking to people?

I’ve said something wrong and I’m embarrassed and ashamed. I can only imagine what everyone is thinking about me right now. It hurts so much I wish I wasn’t alive.

I just want to be alone again, and I’m terrified of being alone again.

#abuse symptoms #trauma symptoms #social anxiety #social abuse #trouble making connections #struggling to socialize #struggling to communicate #self deprecating thoughts #projecting awful things into everyone else's thoughts #believing the worst #self critical #self blame #toxic shame #toxic guilt #did anyone ever resolve this #i keep away from groups of people for these reasons

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serialunaliver · 3 months

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free socially awkward men from automatic association with incels

#incels portray themselves as simply struggling socially meanwhile they're on gore forums requesting photos of..yeah i'm not finishing that

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hussyknee · 5 months

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Freedom for Sudan! 🇸🇩

Freedom for The Congo! 🇨🇩

Freedom for Armenia! 🇦🇲

From River To The Sea, Palestine Will Be Free! 🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸

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poorly-drawn-mdzs · 3 months

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Lan Wangji Goes To Lotus Pier AU: Part 1: Dread on Arrival

(Part 2)

#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #lan wangji #jiang fengmian #jiang cheng #wei wuxian #Yungmeng Jiang Training Arc AU #MDZS AU #The AU name for this idea is something I am 100% willing to change if someone has a better one.#There will be at least 2-3 more comics so *please*. Ideas and feedback welcome.#The core idea behind this AU is that LWJ goes to study with the Yunmeng Jiang sect instead of JC and WWX going to Cloud Recess #But why? Well I imagine Lan Xichen set it up to give LWJ a challenge (more social than skill based) and LWJ rose to it (begrudgingly)#Sort of a 'You've mastered so many Lan techniques but Other Sects have styles that are worth learning.' set up.#Lan Qiren agrees mostly on the basis that...well it's LWJ. Yunmeng Jiang is unruly but LWJ is beyond that riff-raff. He'll rise above it.#This is the story of a boy who thrives on routine and rules spending time in a place that is his apparent antithesis.#Also it is so warm there. He is used to it being cold and what do you MEAN just take off some of my layers?#I just want to see him struggle and flail in many situations. And get him in Jiang Purple. Is that so wrong of me?#(Soaking wet JC is part of my 'JC was born to swim; forced to hold a sword' agenda. Do not remove him from the water)#((Politeness notes: JFM would *not* call LWJ 'lan wangji' nor would LWJ be vocally impolite to a sect leader.))

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pixiedreamclub · 1 year

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Zack de la Rocha of Rage Against the Machine, 1997 [x]

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uncanny-tranny · 10 months

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Social transition being seen (by some) as this super easy thing that isn't as hard as real transitioning (medical) is bullshit. Be critical of the idea that there are some trans people who just "have it easy" because they are trans or because they are trans in ways you may not be.

Social transition is just as difficult, hard, and rewarding as medical transition. Maybe it is not as hard for some, sure, but that is not the same as thinking that social transition is inherently easier or lesser. If you're socially transitioning, your voice still matters.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #not to mention that so many people DO want to medically transition but *can't*#so it can be even harder for some when they feel social transition is their only option when they don't want it to be #but social transition carries its own risks and challenges and again rewards #and i've seen this idea plenty where it's like 'oh you don't GET my struggles because you're SOCIALLY transitioning'#and while yes i am different than some trans people to say i'm struggling *more* if i'm the only one medically transitioning is??? huh????#i don't buy into this idea that social transition is never scary because you don't have the boot of the medical system on your back #(though non-med or pre-med transitioning people still face issues in medical settings so even THEN we aren't seperate)#like there's very few ways you can separate my issues as a medically-transitioning person and the issues of somebody who isn't...#...and by that i mean there's few ways you can separate our issues so that mine trumps theirs or that i'm seen as like... trans but More #does that make sense?#medical transitioning is important but that doesn't mean it is *more* important or that only *it* is important #you can support us who are medically transitioning without erasing the experiences and struggles of other trans people #and plus... so many of us who are medically transitioning NOW are the people who socially transitioned THEN #and dare i say i despised social transition more because of how hard it was? medical transition has been (more or less) easier...#...in that i can just *be* now

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stuckinapril · 1 month

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It really is so true that you never know what someone’s going through behind closed doors. I’ve made being gentle and kind my default bc I’ve had super put together friends disclose the most harrowing time of their lives to me and it’s like oh?? You were going through that???? I would’ve never guessed

#It’s easy to reduce people to side characters or caricatures but you never know. You truly never know what someone’s going through or what #Could push them over the edge. Cruelty will never be worth potentially causing someone permanent damage #I’ve realized this after having a conversation w a friend of mine who sailed straight to med school #Tons of leadership roles #Thriving social life #Yet she just told me her hair was falling out from anxiety. Never in a million years would I have guessed that she was struggling #But she was and lots of people play things close to their chest like that #I really wanna be kind each time I can and to also come from a place of compassion #Bc ik I’ve been misunderstood by people before who reduced me to a caricature or just didn’t know what was happening in my life #I want to actively work on extending the benefit of the doubt to the same people I would want to extend the benefit of the doubt to me

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rattusn0rvegicus · 9 months

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Man I feel like a lot of leftist activists would do a lot better to just use common fucking language to talk about things rather than dense academic shit that's only understandable to people with PhDs and people who spend 95% of their waking life on Leftist Twitter lmao

Like, you're talking with other academics? Great, use academic language. You're a social media account trying to interact with the general public? Don't say "decarcerate", say "find alternatives to imprisonment". Don't say "collective liberation", say "freedom for all". By GOD don't say "bodymind autonomy", say "the ability to have control over our own minds and bodies".

Yes it takes a little more effort to explain shit in common language but I promise you people will stop looking at you like you have two heads and dismissing everything you say as Woke Bullshit if you like, actually get on their level, goddamn it. Not everyone has the privilege to have a graduate-school level understanding of this type of language or spend so much time reading leftist theory that they can perfectly understand this stuff.

#being a public health student has made me even more passionate about this too #like. You want to make a change? You have to make sure the general public UNDERSTANDS WTF YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT FIRST #Like for example I think Project LETS is a great concept and is doing great stuff #But my god their public outreach needs some MAJOR work #By using this type of language you are isolating the type of ppl who can benefit from your services to 'college educated Twitter leftists'#Social justice is a MAJOR INTEREST OF MINE and even I struggle with making sense of some of the shit y'all say!!#Like I have to translate it in my head to normal speak #And like. These types of spaces constantly talk about accessibility for disabled people? Bullshit man #What about those with intellectual disabilities or cognitive impairments who struggle with this shit?#What about people who are just learning English? What about people who work full time and don't have the time to learn this terminology?#Goddamn #It's all performative!!!!

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rllymilerlly · 1 year

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Literally all the fics of Bilbo absolutely killing it as a Consort is so accurate. Hobbit culture trained him so well in the art of diplomacy. LIKE he would excel in social relations between everyone. He's friendly and respectable, but also not afraid to speak his mind. He'd be one of the best consorts Erebor has ever seen

#i just think about him a lot #like i think he would have his fair share of struggles with it #but all the social aspects of it he would learn so easily #bilbo baggins #bagginshield

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the-woman-upstairs · 3 months

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In the universe of the film, there is ABSOLUTELY a contingent of fans that fervently ship Argylle/Wyatt and have the dominant ship on AO3 and trade elaborate fan theories about their hidden relationship and are convinced they’re meant to be endgame but the publishers won’t allow it. Of course, they go totally BALLISTIC when they learn they’re based on the author and her boyfriend.

#argylle #argylle spoilers #my only real complaint with argylle is that we were robbed of a henry cavill/john cena kiss #there’s so much fun to be had with the universe of this film especially in regards to the book fandom #i like to believe aidan stirs up ship drama on fandom forums and social media #the minute rachel’s spy past gets declassified it’s OVER for her in fandom lol #i can appreciate not everyone being into the film’s bait and switch #but i can’t help but love a spy film that lets the female lead be a whole women struggling to define herself #while also kicking ass and having a sweet goofy guy be head over heels for her #this really is the kind of movie that fandom could have soooo much fun with #don’t even get me started on elly/rachel projecting all of her badass spy escapades on a super manly fit dude #like if he’s done everything she’s done…girl memory-holed her own bisexuality lol

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fuckyeahmarxismleninism · 2 months

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"Venceremos!"

Popular Front for the Liberation of Palestine, 2024

Via Communist Posters

#PFLP #FreePalestine #GazaGenocide #Israel #armed struggle #communist #national liberation #socialism #revolution

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erophonemic · 10 months

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Is my autistic awkward girl swag appealing to you

#I promise I'm really silly and deeply caring I just struggle with understanding some social signals and such #which makes me nervous because I want to make a good impression and not hurt people #but I prommy when I am fully comfortable around you I am just the happiest and most caring girl of all time

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queerism1969 · 1 year

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#pro choice #responsibility #purpose #failure #choices #focus #culture #class war #class warfare #anti capitalism #eat the rich #fuck landlords #class struggle #anti capitalist love notes #anti capitalists be like #fuck capitalism #late stage capitalism #capitalism #socialism

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silence-ofdeath · 1 year

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“I am alone with my own thoughts and it’s dangerous.”

-cress

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luthienne · 6 months

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Angela Davis, from Freedom is a Constant Struggle

#angela davis #freedom is a constant struggle #words #essays #typography #free palestine #social justice

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the-all-seeing-l · 2 years

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Whenever someone asks me how I'm feeling, how old I am or what I like to do in my free time, I feel like an alien who took over some random human's body and now has to prove that they are, in fact, that human.

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