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strangermask · 1 day

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Aight, never thought I would be making a post about the #savemyboycole thing but here I am

Listen

With all due respect

Cole is heavily queer coded, and most people in the fandom interprets Cole being queer. Whether he’s gay, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, aromatic: it all depends on how you see it (the great thing about headcanons)

Was it ever stated he was gay in canon? No

Was it ever stated he was straight in canon? Not really.

Now you might say: “But the season three love triangle!” Literally it was confirmed by the writer that Cole wasn’t attracted to Nya during that. (If anyone is able to find the link to that post, please share)

Also: may I remind you that people can realize they aren’t straight after dating or even marrying a person the opposite gender. Hell, people can even know they aren’t straight and still present as one if they aren’t out yet. My brother is an example of the latter.

Now again, I don’t wish to be disrespectful because this is fan media and we all interpret things differently. I know we all don’t see the characters same. If you think Cole is straight, that is your interpretation and I can’t change it. But throwing a fit like this and trying to shove “make Cole straight” propaganda is not going to end well on your part. Especially in a fandom filled with mostly queer people

Another problem: contacting the new writers to make Cole straight? What happens if they don’t answer. Are you going to harass the writers to adjust to your likings? Like how the Voltron fandom did with Klance and ruining the ship for half the people? Like how the bmha fandom constantly harassed and sent death threats to the team to make certain ships canon? I don’t want to bring these up, but these things that have happened is exactly why we shouldn’t contact show writers to fix something we don’t like. Even if these events centered around ships, they were ruined for people. This could lead to Cole being ruined as a favorite character (and I hope it doesn’t come to that point)

All I ask, is that to please think critically about your actions and how it can affect everyone. This is not the way to go. Right now, we are only making jokes. But if it escalates beyond that, expect a much worse backlash

#mask talks #ninjago #hate im putting this under the ninjago tag #but its important #apologies if this worded poorly #i am very tired

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whichofmy100fandoms · 11 months

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I’ve seen a lot of discussion about how bisexuality and pansexuality are the same things, so here is a very general diagram with some basic differences.

It’s important to remember that no one has the right to police anyone else’s sexuality or how they identify. However, saying that the two sexualities are the same can be extremely invalidating for people of either identity.

Also, it’s important to remember that labels aren’t everything, and you don’t need to label your sexuality for it to be valid. But for many people, labels help them better express and understand themselves. Also, for some people, labels can be comforting and validating because they allow the people who use them to feel understood and seen by others.

So this is just a friendly reminder to respect people’s sexualities and how they identify and not to invalidate or erase other people’s sexualities.

Let’s all take some time this pride month (and every other month) to respect and understand each other better.

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existennialmemes · 1 month

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What's the difference between Bisexuals and Pansexuals? Obviously it's that Bis prefer purple while Pansexuals are more partial to yellow.

#bisexual memes #pansexual memes #bi pan solidarity #bi pride #pan pride #the difference is it doesn't matter #the difference is it's none of your business #for me it was definitely the purple thing though

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spinningintheshadows · 7 months

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the token straight -> sexuality crisis -> unhinged bisexual/pansexual pipeline is so real and personal to me

#lgbtqia #bisexual #pansexual #someone said the difference between bi and pan is that bi people have a thing with raccoons and pan people have thing with frogs and so true

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ineffablelvrs · 1 year

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me when im the best sapphic stranger things ships

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haemosexuality · 9 months

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memories i have of being a child and a lesbian:

-first week of 3rd grade, i walked in class and thought "ok i need to pick a boy to have a crush on this year". i thought that was just what you did. picked one bc i thought he had a cool haircut, proceeded to never have a conversation w him

-thinking "girls are naturally so much prettier than boys. this is common knowledge"

-being really jealous of the Cool Girl in my 4th grade class that was One Of The Boys. she played football with them. she sat really relaxed in chairs. she doesnt care about being pretty. isnt that just so cool? starts consciously trying to imitate her. also, even before that i always made sure to INSIST that my favorite color was blue and i did NOT like pink!!!!

-playing barbies with my cool, older cousin (she mustve been like 11? 12? i was around 8). her barbie was a mess because she had just broken up with her other barbie. i was confused. she explained to me what lesbians were (i knew men could be gay, but not women). immediately after that every single doll i had was a lesbian in a relationship. after figuring that it was probably a bit weird i was so obsessed with making my dolls lesbians, i came to the conclusion i would "probably like girls when i grow up". decided to tell my other, deeply religious cousin about this. she went "WHAT" and i went "HAHA JUST KIDDING IT WAS A JOKE" and never thought about it again

-a year later me and the deeply religious cousin were making ever after high dolls fuck. i was the one that came up w that idea (i also didnt know women could have sex at that point, i thought i had invented lesbian sex) and this haunted me for years bc i thought that that cousin had become homophobic after we grew up. recently found out shes also gay, good for her

-being just Really obsessed with marceline from adventure time for some reason. whenever i saw her on tv my heart would beat really really fast. wonder whats up w that 🤔

-being grounded for like, 5 months when i was 10 because my mom found out i was watching youtube videos from a lesbian couple. and also some videos with sex jokes. i wish i remembered that the lesbians channel was so bad

-i also watched lubatv. hes a brazilian youtuber famous for being openly gay. he introduced me to the concept of shipping, because ppl shipped him with another youtuber, t3ddy. he (plus facebook, and the cool older cousin from before) also introduced me to social activism

-asking permission from my parents to put a rainbow filter on my facebook pfp, in support of gay people. i thought i was such a good straight ally. i dont remember what happened but i think something negative mustve bc a lot of ppl were doing that in 2015. wait fuck now that i think about it that mightve actually been in 2016 because of pulse

- (we are still in 2015 im still 10) watching clips from Steven Universe Season 1 Episode 53 Jailbreak on youtube. they were (badly) subtitled bc i didnt speak english yet. i was absolutely shocked and could not believe they would show two girls kissing in a childrens cartoons, not bc i thought that was bad but bc i was like. would cartoon network really allow this??? i proceed to memorize the entire episode (again i didnt even speak english. and i watched it so many times i memorized it anyways lmao)

-being 11, and having my friend introduce to me this cool new thing she had found online, "fanfics". she linked me a college au fanfic of marceline and bubblegum from adventure time. it had a fade to black implied sex scene. i was hypnotized

-i was a very anxious child and every morning before getting to school i would prepare step-by-step what i would do when entering class. one day my internal monologue went "walk in, say good morning to teacher, kiss [previously mentioned girl best friend] on the mouth, say hello to- wait. where did that come from". start wondering if i was really Just A Really Good Straight Ally

-few days later, me and my friend group were discussing gay people. one of them asked "like i wonder if any of us are gonna be gay?". i thought for about 2.5 seconds and said "i think im bi", being the first one on my class to come out. they were all p chill ab it. i am not bi but its the thought that counts

-cutting off 30 inches of my really long hair and shaving one side at 11. my dad was mad at me for a week and he told me "i dont understand why you did this. you're looking like a dyke". originally i had planned to cut all of it really short "boy style" but the hairstylist insisted on at the very least letting half of it be longer. i did think half shaved hair was Cool so i was fine with that

#the ''i like blue not pink'' thing is interesting #bc i think that subconsciously i knew that was i Different from other girls but i didnt realize it #i was trying really hard to imitate the boys and separate myself from girly girls even tho i 100% was a girly girl #separate myself as in like. say that i was Not like them. not as in not hang out w girls i prefered being friends w girls #and like i had no idea why i felt the need to tell people i was not girly like them and that in fact i had more in common w boys #i know now obv but i think its interesting that that is how it manifested #also i came out as bi at 11 then as pansexual at 12 then as a panromantic agender girl w some obscure asexual label i no longer remember #at 13 #then just bisexual again at 13 then wait actually idk and finally lesbian at 14

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theloveinc · 7 months

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ok yall someone needs to explain to me... just saw bisexuality defined as "attraction to two or more genders, for example women and non-binary people but not men" ....

is that true lmfao???????

#i am a really terrible gay person i have no idea abt these things i mostly ignore them LMFAO #but honestly i thought the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality was like ... personal preference in labeling #what is going on #i am so baffled like huh??#sx talk #caitie blabs

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chickenisamazing · 11 months

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Dear lord what did I do wrong to have to get into bi/pan discourse with a teenager on the internet in the year 2023

#T #The thing I did wrong was befriending teenagers online #Bro straight up told me I'm pan and not bi and when i said no I'm bi he said you're only into cis people #I wanted to scream #Like listen I do not care if you refer to yourself as pansexual. I truly don't. If you like that word better good for you #But you cannot tell me that pansexuality is ineherently different from bisexuality #Use at least one brain cell please #I do not know any bi people who say they are only attracted to cis men and cis women #And most bi ppl I know are nonbinary #Most trans ppl I know in general identify as bisexual #And they do not exclude other trans people from their definition of their sexuality #Anyway I said a lot of things and by the end of it he was like 'I'm gonna stick to my own definition' like bro ur just wrong #And if u call me pansexual thappor dibo #The word pansexual doesn't bother me but saying I'm not bi...how are u gonna tell me what I am or am not pipsqueak

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that-was-a-bit-stupid-of-you · 2 years

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Weird how people go that a charecter cannot be bisexual or pansexual (or others) because it's never mentioned, cuz I didn't see them being described as straight either, Sharon

#heterosexualilty is not the default sexuality #lgbtq #lgbtqiia+#bisexuality #bisexual #pansexual #pansexuality #biphobia #panphobia #homophobia #bi headcanons #bisexual headcanon #bisexual thoughts #bisexual things #pansexual headcanon #fuck panphobes #fuck biphobes #i said bi or pan cuz those characters are generally in a relationship with someone of a different and usually cis gender #and people think that makes them straight #heteronormativity #also there is always vast amount of proof and hints that they are attracted to the same gender #not saying that everyone who is bi or pan is attracted to the same gender #but just that those characters are always in a relationship with another cus person of different gender but has many moments #where they talk about their attraction to the same gender #wow i ranted #straight people are weird #harry potter #brooklyn 99 #and others #lgbtq characters

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marioyuri · 1 year

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Bisexual is transphobic vs pansexual is transphobic argument FIGHT

#yall r so annoying #personally im on that bisexual includes all grind idc about anything else #like i personally default to bisexual #i understand when pansexual was like. the same as bisexual but the difference was that like. bi means theres a difference in how u feel #depending on gender but pan means it feels the same everywhere. that was the one definition i didnt mind? but yk its kind of unnecessary #like i just dont think its really necessary to be hung up on so many details #and then when yall start being transphobic by involving trans ppl in these arguments its too much for me..#overall i just findd this unnecessary. i kinda hate this trend of making a label for every single little thing #fun fact but its tied to the fact yall beed to fit everything into strict boxes with rules #its nothing i hate more #sexuality labels arent rulebooks .. their aids of expression #i try so hard to be understanding and nice but like its terminally online behaviour

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joywizard · 2 years

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truly the arguments surrounding the inclusivity of the word “bisexual” make my blood boil lmao. i wish it were just terminally online discourse but ive been told IRL that i cant be bisexual because im nonbinary/my definition of bisexuality is Wrong. its so strange. i dont get it.

#fyi. i have no actual problems with pansexuals at large or even the label itself (to me its a synonym of bi but i have friends who have #a different definition of pan #usually that its just bisexuality but you dont have a gender preference #which. to me isnt important enough to have an extra label for but thats a personal thing #i dont want to act like pansexuals are mostly weird about bi people cause i personally dont believe that to be true #idk. its just frustrating. the discourse #jan Tojo li toki

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unleaveable · 2 years

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all offense if someone came up to me and called me a queer I’d spit in their face I hate y’all for normalizing that word bc now it’s everywhere and str8 ppl even use it in conversation because y’all like to label and compartmentalize every little aspect of your sexuality you all have brain worms

#I’d rather str8 ppl go back to calling me a faggot then have a conversation with somebody who thinks they’re the fruity professor explain #why pansexual and bisexual are different things because actually according to the encyclopedia of fkdkjdjAjman’s just #your toothpaste flags are fucking ugly btw

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bixiaoshi · 2 years

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the rage i feel in me when i see ppl say "bi or pan" as if pansexuality wasn't the same as bisexuality

#like. they r the same... why do ppl act if it weren't #it's worse when its a bi person like. u rlly decide to ignore what bisexuality in essence is #i hate this need of naming every single thing even tho it doesn't need a definition #like. explain what makes pansexuality EXPLICITLY different from bisexulity without the 'pan ppl date trans ppl'#or the 'bisexuality cares abt gender' or the so condescending 'pansexualkty focuses on ppl's feelings'#feeling like a hater rn im so sorry #jo.txt

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kafkaguy · 8 months

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just remembered a reply to a post abt the difference between pansexual and bisexual that was like "linguistically speaking bi means two and pan means bread" and its still to this day one of the funniest things ive ever read

#biggest hits

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trendfag · 11 months

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remember when people were saying that the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality was that pansexuals had a type

#‘well pansexuals find the same things attractive in all genders but bisexuals find different things attractive in different genders’#what are you talking abouttttttt 😭

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tactfullyinappropriate · 1 month

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Ohhh boy, I'm gonna get a lot of flak for this one but... masc lesbian =/= butch. You can be the most masculine presenting person the world has ever known and that does not automatically make you butch.

Butch is an identity and you kinda need to fit that identity, not make the identity fit you. E.g. "lesbians" who are attracted to cishet men. Sorry, hun, you're just not a lesbian. Find your own identity that fits. You are allowed to be your own kind of bisexual or pansexual but what you are not, is a lesbian.

Sure, there is a lot of room for being your own person within an identity. I am not the same kind of lesbian as the next dyke. But if I did not fit (or if I no longer fit) the definition of the lesbian identity, I wouldn't call myself one and insist that lesbians expand the definition to include me.

'Butch' as an identity exists within a certain context. It *is not* a synonym to man, and it's also not a synonym to 'a masculine presenting lesbian'. If you don't vibe with the whole 'chivalry' concept and the specific ways in with butch/femme courtship (as an example) happens, maybe consider if this is the right label for you before insisting that we expand or rather completely rewrite the definition to exclude those things from it.

Some of the discourse around 'we should redefine butch!' reminds me of the discourse around redefining manhood. "It's not fair that men are expected to have masculine hobbies," they say. "It's not fair that men cannot wear glitter and makeup and retain their manhood. It's not fair that men are expected to open doors, and carry heavy things, and to-to---" Yes. You are exactly right. But butches are not men.

'Butch' is an opt-in identity, not something that society at large expects and requires from you. In other words: if you think femmes gushing about being courted by their butches in what to you appears to be a 1960s play-pretend of patriarchy, is silly, objectifying or demeaning toward one of the parties... consider that maybe 'butch' is not the identity for you. That maybe you are a masculine person with their own unique take on masculinity.

But insisting that we redefine butch is like me insisting that we redefine 'yoga' because I vibe with the gymnastics but I don't like the spiritual aspect of it. I can just go to Pilates instead. Or do yoga and accept that other people in the practice experience it differently.

What I am endlessly tired of, as a femme, is being lectured on what I *should* and *should not* find attractive. I am not somehow betraying feminism, objectifying people and degrading myself by daydreaming of a butch who opens the car door for me or - the absolute horror - brings me flowers on a date. I recognize that other people have the right to their own attraction and that masculine lesbians deserve the freedom to explore masculinity on their own terms and be treated with dignity and respect regardless of where that exploration takes them and regardless of who does or does not find them attractive.

That being said, the whole narrative of 'if you find chivalry hot, then you are objectifying butches and you are, in fact, an entitled selfish person' is tiresome. Not all femmes are women but in being chastised for our turn-ons and romantic daydreams (unless we're the Cool Girl who doesn't like flowers and rolls her eyes at romance) I see a lot of the admonishment directed toward cis straight women who dare to swoon when they read romance where the male lead is courteous and generous.

Except, again, butch/femme *is not* man/woman. It's a particular subculture within the lesbian identity and no one is pressuring anyone into conforming to it.

#butch #dyke #butch lesbian #dykeposting #stone butch #lesbiansafe #butch4femme #femme4butch #femme lesbian #femme #sapphic #lesbian #wlw

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