PSA

Feeling sexual attraction for someone and wanting to have sex with someone are actually two completely different but very similar feelings, and don't let any allosexuals (for whom this feeling is largely the same and very difficult for them to differentiate) tell you any different.

As an asexual (I identify as greysexual), I rarely feel sexual attraction even to my husband, but I want to have sex with him because he is awesome 🥰.

I'm still ace and it's still completely valid.

Every character is aspec if you're not a coward 🤷

accidentally made all my ocs aspec. oops

My mom: “oh I can’t wait till you grow up and get married and have children”

Me: “Mother you do realize that the only grandkids you’re getting from me are cats.”

My mom: “Oh, you’ll change your mind! You just have to find the right person.”

Me: “Hmmmm… no. I’m going to live in a house filled with books and plants and a minimum of 21 cats.”

Happy Valentines Day! Ink is asking Broomie on a date

Ink belongs to comyet/myebi

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i saw a beautiful piece of fanart featuring al’s limp wrists so uh i’ll just drop this compilation here for you people

there are a couple ones i wasn’t sure about but i figured it’s better safe than sorry lmao

Harriet and Emma

Reading queer things into Jane Austen. Emma the demisexual.

The aces, they up in everyone else's love life and totally uninterested in their own.

Painting reference by Angelica Kaufmann (1741–1807) - The Artist in the Character of Design Listening to the Inspiration of Poetry 

Are you normal about aspec people or will you try to find ways to fit them into amatonormative standards regardless?

Shipping is so much more FUN when you're aspec.

I'm not super fandom savvy, having only ever been active in one of them in any meaningful way, but I am familiar with the online culture surrounding shipping fictional characters together. Something I've personally witnessed is that the thinking around platonic v.s. romantic is extremely binary; a relationship can be one or the other, and a platonic relationship is the failing outcome if you, as an audience member, preferred the latter. This reflects much broader societal thinking, so it makes sense that most people approach shipping this way.

However, when you're aspec (anywhere on the aromantic and/or asexual spectrums), this idea doesn't necessarily apply. Suddenly, platonic and romantic are not opposing ideas, they're just two potential options on a very, very wide sliding scale / multi-dimensional graph wherein the significance of a relationship is completely disconnected from its label.

A huge part of shipping culture (again, just from what I've witnessed) is that Explicit Confessions and/or an onscreen mouth kiss are necessary to make a ship canon, and that not happening means Your Ship Isn't Canon And Therefore Isn't Important or Valuable (and gets used as a way of invalidating other people's ships). However, for a lot of aspec folks (and others, of course), romance is not automatically more valuable than friendship, and an end goal for a particular character dynamic becomes a lot less about fulfilling A, B, and C to verify the couple as "real" in the eyes of the mainstream or even the fandom as a whole, and instead is more about wanting to see characters happily in one another's presence. Specifics vary wildly case to case, so I'm gonna leave that fairly broad.

Ultimately, I have found myself shipping characters in the usual way less and less as I've learned more about my own aspec identity and experience. I care less if characters kiss; I care less if characters declare three little words...though I also am very familiar with the history of queer erasure and definitely root for explicitly romantic queer rep. And all this doesn't mean I don't have couples I support - I very much do. But whether their relationship is specifically romantic matters very little to me, with rare exceptions. (In fact, I often find myself "shipping" characters platonically - seeing a couple that would make great best friends being forced along standard, heterosexual romantic beats.) Mostly, I want the characters I ship to be around each other, to support each other, and to love each other in whatever capacity is fulfilling to their arcs and to the narrative.

Or, to put this all in a more digestible meme format:

Allos: If the couple doesn't kiss then the ship isn't canon

Me: but have you considered that the real kiss was the friends we made along the way?

Recently remembered The Upturned exist so

Reblogs greatly appreciated!

"Why am I horny?"

*looks at calendar*

*period is due in a few days*

*hormones are going crazy*

*(all women's bodies are different, this is just how mine is)*

"Ah, that makes sense."

not me saving every panel with Laius and Izutsumi being aro and or ace 🫣

a concept: fuck marry kill for aroaces: kill kill kill, where you start off with three people but instead of choosing to marry one and sleep with another, they all die but you get to choose how. the challenge is to come up with increasingly fucked up ways to kill them.

₊ ⊹ Adult WLW Manga ⊹ ₊

How Do We Relationship - Set in college - Band lesbians - Angsty

Run Away With Me Girl - Maki fell in love with her girlfriend in high school, but when graduation came their relationship went. Years later, they meet again with the love never having faded - Maki's love interest is now married and pregnant! Is she really happy though?

Days of Love at Seagull Villa - Mayumi runs away from her ex fiancé and asshole bff to the countryside - At first, she refuses to open up to anyone. However, she eventually grows to accept the manager of her housing complex and her little sister - Found lgbt family!

I Married My Best Friend to Shut My Parents Up - Machi is a working woman who doesn't wanna settle down with some man; However, her parents want her to have a traditional life. Instead, she marries her best friend! - Short, fast read

I Don't Know Which One Is Love - Soraike is determined to find a girlfriend in college, but she didn't know she'd have so many options!| - Yuri harem / romance comedy

Doughnuts Under a Crescent Moon - Two asexual women who meet at the office fall for another - Kinda angsty but with doughnuts

Trying Out Marriage With My Female Friend - Don't worry, they gay - Marriage pact

There are definitely more, these are just some I've read! Hope you enjoy <3

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