As a fellow aroace mumbo enjoyer I think you'd enjoy my insane rambles-

So I think Scar and Mumbo are both aroace. They're both a bit different tho- Mumbo never really thought about romance too much. He's never really found someone attractive and he's never had a crush.

He finds some people aesthetically pleasing and I think that he thinks that's what romantic and/or sexual attraction is supposed to be like. He's never thought about it too much, he just though "huh that person looks nice.", classified it as attraction in his mind and moved on.

He doesn't think about romance and he just simply doesn't care.

Scar on the other hand had quite a bit of difficulty figuring stuff out. He finds people attractive, he likes the idea of having a partner and he likes the idea of dating, but any time he thinks he likes someone romantically and tries to imagine dating them he gets uncomfortable. It just doesn't feel right.

I think Scar would randomly stumble across the the term aroace and it sends him into a bit of a rabbit hole. He finds the terms he thinks fit him and it puts him on ease knowing there's other people like him out there and that he's not just broken or something.

Now he knows that there's other people like him out there, he just never thought It'd be someone on the server!

I think Scar would randomly mention something about being aroace or complain about something allo people do and Mumbo would kinda stop in his tracks and ask scar to elaborate or explain.

I think that's how Mumbo figures out that no, not everyone feels like him.

Idk I just think it'd be nice if they then bonded over that and if Mumbo found out a bit about himself through Scar

oughhhh my heart

Thinking about how maybe Mumbo started to figure himself out during s8 specifically, because him and Scar were so close living wise and got closer as friends as well

Imagine Boatem having their usual sleepover, all the others are dead asleep while the two are awake, catching up and talking. Suddenly Scar mentions about being aroace, and Mumbo perks up at the word, questioning what it is and to elaborate further (he always wants to be supportive of course)!

The more Scar talks about it and how he feels, the more Mumbo just starts getting the realisation like "Oh shit." and suddenly blurts out that he might be the same

Cue them bonding about it more the entire night, and them becoming even closer

I’m going to be really honest, I’m the one who mentioned death note and I wanted to send a request for awhile but I kinda chickened out. I gained the courage so I hope this reaches you. I’m aroace and you believe L to be aroace. I’d like to know if the relationship between the reader and L would be just friendships or something deeper or more personal like queer platonic partner (qpp). In other words I’m asking for a L with an aroace reader headcanon a (no pressure of course)

Platonic Yandere L Lawliet x Aroace reader

As someone who is asexual, I'm really happy agrees with me that L is Aroace. I am more than happy to write these headcanons. Also, sorry if you didn't want this to be yandere, but I think it's pretty soft for yandere headcanons.

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I personally believe L has known he was Aroace since he was young. He's known sex and romantic relationships were not something for him, but I see him as someone who still desires platonic friendships. See how he is with Watari; someone he views as a parent. I think that if given the chance, L can and would want to develop a strong bond with someone.

There's a strong possibility that L figures out your Aroace before you even tell him, he's very smart like that. He catches on to it when you're asked if your dating, about your sexual experience, about if you ever plan on getting married. It doesn't take a genius to tell you're uncomfortable by these questions, and so it doesn't take much to put two and two together. He never asks you himself, instead he waits until you tell him yourself, incase what he was seeing was incorrect. I think from there your relationship would bloom slowly into something more.

I 100% believe that if you were to enter a queer platonic relationship with L, you wouldn't know about it. Not that he necessarily manipulates you into one, he just doesn't ask you because your relationship doesn't change. You were already very close to L; nothing really changes once you enter into a q.p.r. So, whether or not you consider him your "partner" is really up to you. L doesn't care what you call him as long as you're with him.

L has always cared about you deeply, but he shows that care through actions more than words. Of course, if someone asks him, he'll tell them that you're his deepest friend, but his actions express that way more than words ever could. He uses all his resources to keep you safe, makes sure you are in good health both mentally and physically, and overall does everything to insure your happiness.

L doesn't believe anyone understands him like you do, not just because you're Aroace, but because you're able to notice things about him that others don't. You can tell when he's hungry before he calls for Watari, handing him a piece of cake. You're the only person who can tell when he's joking around, not feeling afraid to laugh at his dry sense of humor. You share your interests in him, knowing that he's listening even if he doesn't say anything.

L doesn't feel the need to explain your guy's relationship to anyone. If someone asks if you're dating, he says no, just because you two were holding hands, going on dates, sitting close together doesn't mean you're dating. If someone asks who you are to him, he says that you're his dearest companion. He doesn't care what other people think about your relationship, what he cares about is you.

L doesn't really get jealous, especially with a reader who is Aroace. He knows there is no likelihood you're leaving him to be in a relationship, so he never feels challenged by people trying to take you from him. In fact, he doesn't really do anything about it. He doesn't want to dignify the person with a reaction, knowing you're mature enough to tell them you're not interested.

However, he is possessive. If you live with him, he makes you stay home on days when he knows he's going to come across someone who is going to take up all your time. If you are with him at work, he makes you stay near him he can keep an eye on you. If you call him out on is possessive behavior, he'll say it's nothing more than him keeping you safe, whether or not that's a lie is hard to tell.

Speaking of moving in together, I can definitely image you two having separate rooms. He'd thinks it's important to have lives and interest separate from each other, and I personally don't see him ever being close enough with someone to share a bed with them. Though, even if you do have separate rooms, he spends most of his time in yours, even taking his work to your room just so he can be with you. He doesn't view himself as clingy, but his actions betray him.

L doesn't exactly know what that future looks like for him and you. For so long, marriage has been pushed on to the both of you as the ultimate end goal, so once L is done with the Kira case (in this he doesn't die), he fears that you'd leave him, and he'd be alone once again. But he's comforted by the fact that you don't plan on leaving him any time soon. Your relationship might not be conventional, but it's one he wouldn't trade for anything in the world.

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the basics:

'hazbin hotel' is a tv show being filmed by a famous director with by the 'stage' name 'blitzø' for his production company I.M.P. the show is supposed to be a social commentary on genocide, classism, the black and white views of good vs evil, and the effects of trauma on a person, whilst also being a musical comedy

blitzø will not show up all that much in anything i write as it will be focused more on the friendships between the actors than between the crew!

the cast are all friends with one another after meeting over the years in different ways/through each other/etc. they're all relatively famous for something with the exception of husk who just got dragged into it for alastor's amusement more or less

they all have a decent amount of creative freedom when it comes down to it. blitzø may be a bit of a dick with a bit of a temper to him, but he wants his actors to enjoy their job and is happy to let them tweak things as long as it doesn't effect the plot too much. he's happy for them to design their characters however they wish.

they will be 'out of character'. they're actors, so they won't be exactly like the characters they're playing. they have the essences of their characters but they are their own people. they will be referred to with their names (names i have made up), not the names of the characters they play

i tried to keep their identities as canon as possible (angel being gay, husk being pan, alastor being aroace etc.) there are some of my own personal headcanons thrown in there though

alastor and angel are in a queerplatonic relationship. alastor is cupioaroace meaning he doesn't feel romantic or sexual attraction but he still desires a relationship (i am cupioaroace myself and would like to explore my complicated feelings towards relationships through him. he's still aroace and i'm not erasing that, just wanted to point that out!)

val and vox are in a happy open relationship. they are in love with each other but they're also both happy for their partner to see others if they wish (important info for further development!!!)

stay tuned, because soon you will find links to an in-depth dive to each actor below!

alastor

angel

charlie

cherri

husk

lucifer

mimzy

niffty

rosie

sir pentious

vaggie

valentino

velvette

vox

can we please talk ab how amazing issac's storyline was in season 2???

he's bombarded with all of his friends in romantic/sexual relationships and is just so confused because he met someone who he might like but he simply doesn't know

he asks someone he trusts how they feel around their partner and the main takeaway is just ✨kissing✨ and that only makes him more confused and inadvertently invalidates issac's feelings

when finally faced with the person he thinks he likes, he realizes that he just doesn't. want. to. kiss. him. and the person later tells him he "just hasn't met the right person" (which btw is one of the worst possible thing to say) and again, his feelings are invalidated

throughout the show, issac is told that kissing is how you show love, making him feel that he is incapable of love, until he finally meets someone who understands what he is going through, who helps him realize that how he feels is normal. that he is normal.

i think this season showed his journey beautifully l and EXTREMELY relatable for anyone on the aroace spec. idk how issac identifies (ace, aro, gray, demi, aroace, etc.) but representation is an amazing thing and i hope he that we see more of his story in season 3

I'm not aroace(mayybe some flavor of ace...) but my version of Mikey is aroace so I do kinda wanna talk about it

he doesn't feel anything about relationships for himself but for other people, real or fictional? oh he is ALL OVER that bs!! like. he's not gonna have a partner and he's cool with that(maybe he'll have a QPR or two down the line? he doesn't know!) but he is the #1 fan of every relationship he knows practically XD and if someone tries to homewreck(??) his family oh FUCK does he have beef. also I don't know why I added this little tidbit but he often struggles with speech and has dyslexia- he laughs at himself sometimes about it. also sleep talks

please let me know(you or someone else-) if any of this is disrespectful I don't know if it is or isn't-

Disrespectful?? Nah bro these are facts.

Like I've said in the tags of one of my previous posts, just assume all of my Mikey's are some flavor of aroace unless stated otherwise. HEA Angelo specifically has never felt romantic or sexual attraction towards anyone before (aside from the occasional fictional character).

His feelings toward his eventual partner are tough for him to wrap his head around. He loves them, but he isn't sure what kind of love. What is romantic love even supposed to feel like? Is it really any different from platonic love? He loves his friends, and his family. He heard that romantic love makes you want to be with someone forever. He wants to be with his family forever. Is it just the label that makes it different? He's not sure. Maybe it doesn't matter.

No matter how much research he does or how many questions he asks Raphie and Lee, he just can't understand what makes romantic love so special. And what's so cool and epic about sex?? It seems pretty gross to him, honestly. He can just take care of himself, thank you very much. He'd rather not waste his time smashing bits with someone when he can be cooking or drawing or doing literally anything else.

He'd only really have sex with someone he really trusts and wants a more intimate connection with. And it wouldn't really be about him- he'd mostly just be focused on how the other person feels. Cuz he's just not that interested in the sex itself, just how close and connected it would make him feel to his partner.

But OH MAN is he invested in other people's romantic lives. He's the ultimate wingman- The best hypeman you could ever ask for. As much as he doesn't get romance, BOY does he live for romantic media. Books, movies, fanfics, actual people's lives- you name it. Romance is dumb but wow does it create some great plot (and also really bad plot but at that point it's just funny).

Cringe ass Headcanons about the Don't Starve Together Gang's gender and sexuality

Wilson - Aroace He cares more about science and being a smart ass than he does romance or sex.

Willow - Lesbian She seems like the type of girl that scares men away on purpose... Gremlin woman.

Wolfgang - Aroace He would rather settle down with a friend than a lover. The man also sees most of the people in the group as friends.

Wendy - Aroace She is a kid but even if she was an adult, her grief for her sister is stronger than any love for someone (be is romantic or what not)

WX-78 - Non-binary & Aroace They are canonically non-binary so the obvious is obvious. They don't feel romantic feelings but they can feel many other forms of love... they are not truly emotionless.

Wickerbottom - Asexual Biromantic She wouldn't mind a partner to help her at her library but she might not go with any of the people here... except maybe Wanda.

Woodie - Pansexual More like axe-sexual... Wait wouldn't that make every ship with him a polycule? He loves Lucy but if he was to love someone that wasn't a talking axe, he wouldn't care what gender they are.

Wes - Demiboy & Asexual Wes feels like the type to be referred to with he / them... Be it because of the character he plays or because that's what they refers to themself as.

Maxwell - Bisexual "I miss my wife, Wilson... I miss her a lot... I'll be back." he swings both ways but uh... who wants this pathetic man outside of Charlie?

Wigfrid - Demigirl & Bisexual This queen of theater (Sorry Charlie) uses she / them much the same way Wes does... that and she is just cool like that. Oh and she likes people.

Webber - Demiboy & Aroace His reasoning for being demiboy is because he is literally two beings and the spider is a they / it... also same thing as Wendy, his fixation on bugs and critters is stronger than dumb romantic love. (If he was like an adult)

Winona - Butch [Lesbian] Obvious thing is obvious, she has a girlfriend back on Earth that thinks she's dead. Also like look at her, she is straight up very butch leaning.

Warly - Gay The other side of the spectrum, Warly is probably gay... Totally not because Waokevale and another person influenced me with Warly x Woodie...

Wortox - Aroace Mortal concepts as "love" and "sex" doesn't interest this imp, he is only after chaos and fun.... Also Wortox gives zero DAMNs what pronouns you use on Wortox.

Wormwood - Non-Binary & Aroace The lad doesn't know or really feel that type of stuff [And it's not because he is a "kid", he is an adult.], Wormwood only uses he / him pronouns on himself because they sound nice but he doesn't mind any pronouns really.

Wurt - Aroace Wurt is a kid and she's more focus on creating a merm kingdom and learning to really care.

Walter - Aroace Kid doesn't care about romance but probably had a crush at some point.

Wanda - Asexual Lesbian Wanda doesn't have time to have sex with your mother, she is trying not to turn into dust.

Wonkey - Literally not even a real character.

If you scrolled down this far or read this, thanks! this is probably hell to read for people with like... reading issues (I have some form of it, don't worry)

I might do the DLC characters from Don't Starve next but uh... maybe never, just need to remember they exist.

ALSO!!!!!!! If none of the headcanons suit you then be happy knowing they are HEADcanons and are not real...

ALSO Also... sorry for no art bros, been doodling ocs shit for discord server and no one would be interested in that.

I feel like this is a risky question but if you don’t want to answer you know what to do. Reading 666 I questioned so many things on love and relationships that I’d already started to question before, but not to such extent. Inevitably this led to a talk with my psychologist (you know how people joke “my therapist will hear about you” well yeah that happened) and asked her what’s the difference between romantic and platonic love if we exclude social expectations. To this she replied it’s sexual chemistry you can have with more than one person, and nothing more. Beside that, it’s technically still just “platonic”. The more I think about it the more sense it makes. In which case, I wanna ask if you agree as an aroace, and in the terms of 666 does that technically mean Alastor loves Vox in that sense? I think you’ve said before he wouldn’t go as far with anyone else, so I guess I’m asking you if he feels genuine sexual chemistry with him, because I do have a hard time figuring that out while reading (unreliable narrator is my enemy) and most of the time I’m even more confused than Vox is on how much Alastor is enjoying anything sex related

I have a couple of things to say about this one, haha. It was interesting to think about, and I'm admittedly more delighted than I should be that I've made it into someone's therapy session, hahaha.

Firstly, I disagree with your psych about how to define romantic love and I think the same would go for a ton of people both aro and allo. "Friends with benefits" is a known concept that is different from "romantic partner" for a reason, and I don't think we'd have so many "we started out friends with benefits but, oh no, we caught feelings down the line, how unexpected!" romance plotlines if friends with benefits was the same thing as a romance apart from social expectations. Also, this way of describing non-platonic love makes it impossible for non-aro ace people to love romantically purely by definition, and I think many non-aro ace folks would disagree with that.

Secondly, Alastor isn't sexually attracted to Vox in 666 regardless. He enjoys the things they do, which is very different. Not to get too clinical about it, but he doesn't even tend to experience sexual arousal unless they're getting up to the very specific type of acts that he's personally into, which is why every time Alastor is taking on the dominant role his internal narration is pretty much just going on about wanting to eat Vox whole - it's entirely a non-sexual sadism thing for him, even if Vox is still getting off. It's possible to enjoy sexual activities for reasons other than sexual gratification, and that's about 80% of what Alastor gets out of their encounters.

If you want to see what it looks like when I write from the POV of a character who is sexually attracted to their partner as a point of comparison, I recommend reading How to Bag an Angel: Take That, Depression! and then contrasting that to Alastor's internal narrative in the 666 chapter where he fucks Vox. But as a straight answer, I write Alastor as a character who sometimes gets off on being forced into submission/humiliation, and not really all that much else.

I think defining romantic vs platonic feelings can be very personal, and both psychologists and philosophers have been trying to do it for ages, so it's something that you kind of have to define for yourself - but that's my view on it as pertains to this fic, at least! I hope that was helpful!

I just decided to ramble a bit about my sexuality hcs, ships etc about Wesker.

(I never thought I'd make so many text posts)

These are not going to be extremely precise analyses and will be influenced by my personal wishes and hopes. If I've written something that goes absolutely against the canon feel free to inform me.

It may become a bit uncomfortable since I wanna address some serious topics.

And it'll be too long again.

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1. General headcanons

Personally I see him on the aroace spectrum and/or as pansexual. He's not easily romantically or sexually interested in someone. I'd even say it happens almost never. He may be able to sleep with people he isn't into (maybe to manipulate them) but rarely does so (I also don't think he slept with Excella like some do, she clearly wanted it but he was able to manipulate her without sex). To be into someone this person needs something that intrigues or excites Wesker e.g. their intelligence, willpower, physical combat skills etc. But I don't think he would care much about the gender of his partner. He probably has more experience with women (e.g. he says in the OG RE1 that "he's not used to escort men") but is also open for men. As far I am aware his VAs Richard Waugh (a) and DC Douglas (b) said that he's not gender specific (a) and probably wouldn't limit himself (b) to one gender.

Either way I see him as queer.

2. My ships

As you see in my reblogs I ship him and William Birkin. He was Weskers only real friend whom he admired and trusted. That's a really big thing for Wesker so I like the hc that there was more than friendship between them and I would love to see them interacting more and learn more about their shared past.

The only other ship I like with Wesker is himxChris Redfield even tho it's kinda problematic. I like the STARS version of them where Chris looked up to Wesker who was fond and proud of him (but probably doesn't want to have feelings like this since he knows he will betray them at one point). I also kinda like the hc that Wesker maybe wanted Chris (and perhaps Jill) to join him if they hadn't make fun of his tyrant. Since I kinda like enemies to lovers and complex relationships like that I also enjoy post RE1 Chrisker. I'd love if it's not sheer hate between them but more like a mix of disappointed expectations, obsession and that they need eachother and the secret wish to have eachother on their side.

I am not the biggest fan of huge age gaps so Chris and Wesker having a difference of 15 years is something I am not too happy about. So early 20s is the lowest age I'd accept (like Jake's mother was).

3. My hopes and wishes

As I said I don't like huge age gaps so I dislike the ships WeskerxRebecca and WeskerxClaire. Rebecca was 18 und Claire 19 when they met Wesker and they are way too young for him. Because of that I really hope that Wesker isn't attracted to Rebecca. That would be a no-go even tho it's fictional and it'd destroy Wesker as a character for me. So I really hope Capcom won't make him someone who absolutely does not care about age to the extent where it's becoming creepy.

(that isn't meant to offend those who like these ships, it's just my personal opinion)

CW: r@pe

I also came across people claiming that he may be a r@pist (for e.g. controlling Jill in RE5). That's another case of yeah he is absolutely evil but that does not mean that he has every evil trait or crime committed. I am pretty sure he didn't do anything sexual to Jill (who had the control device on their chest not because Wesker is a pervert but because the devs wanted more fanservice). I don't think Capcom would make a important character like Wesker (who you can also play as) a r@pist (unlike Irons who was a really hateable side character who was hated even by Wesker)

Thx for reading 😅

I recently came out to my mother, father and stepmother out as aroace again because I learned about lithromantisim (thanks this blog!) and it finally clicked, almost 20 years of questioning and doubting myself finally made sense.

My dad said that for all he cared I could love who and whatever I wanted, I would still be his daughter and it doesn't matter to him. My mother and stepmother both said it was interesting and that as long as I was happy so were they. I even sent my stepmom a long article about lithromantisim so she could understand me better.

It was all well until I had a conversation with my dad and stepmom about a completely different topic and she told me that "I wouldn't even have time to worry about such things if I had a partner" and how great it is to love "your other half". I can not count the times I told her that I do not need another half (because I am complete just the way I am) and that I think it's stupid, regradless of sexual or romantic orientation, you should never make your partner the centere of your life (meaning you should have hobbies, friends, interests of your own).

My stepmom also asked me if I brought up the topic of my sexuality and romantic interests up to my therapist which I did (and dismissed as irrelevant to my anxiety disorder and most of my life in general). I told her that it sounded like she thought being aroace was a reason for therapy and if she would've said the same thing to me if I told her I was gay. Of course, she wouldn't.

My mother recently asked me what the disorder I am in therapy for is called. I told her and she said "No, that one because of which you can't fall in love with (the guy I have fancied for a while now but I am fine with him not wanting me back)." I got offended and told her that I was not in therapy for my romantic interest and it was not a disorder to feel and think the way I do. She doesn't understand why it is so important to put a label on everything and discuss everything in such detail. Back in her day, people weren't talking about their sexuality that open (meaning people probably didn't have the knowledge we have today and lived their lifes according to society's expectations and disregarded their own happiness and desires.)

It makes me sad and angry to no end that these two women I love and respect, whose advice I have asked for countless times, who have always supported and understood me think that something is wrong, even ill about me because I live (without a romantic partner and children) different than they do.

Submitted February 17, 2023

I love ur Rook is aro headcanon. Do u have any similar headcanons for other TWST characters?

Thank you! And I indeed have a few ^^

I can see Deuce being a bi-curious person. He ain't committing but he'd try it if he found the right one.

I view Cater as a demiromantic (but his [somewhat HC] commitment/trust issues keep him from making deeply emotional bonds). I can view him as a pansexual as well - "If they can love every side of me, that's all I need". He'd be down for poly for multiple reasons though.

Ace? Despite his name, I don't think he's Ace but I can definitely see him as an aromantic person! And the Anti-Romantic type of Aro as well.

Trey is one hell of a bisexual, no questions asked. Cater once mentioned poly-relationships and it made him curious but he's unsure if it would be smtg for him.

Riddle is a little more difficult though. I feel like he's a Gay in denial (or better said: unaware of his true feelings). "I'll find the right girl eventually."

Ruggie? In theory: Bisexual. In practice: Too busy for love or adulting.

Given Leona has a strong personality but a certain.. respect of women, I don't think he'd go in a relationship with a lady. But I also can't really see him in any relationship with any gender. He'd be more up for sensual relationships and there it doesn't matter what gender you have - As long as you accept him.

Jack on the other hand.. Idk, I can't picture him as anything else than being straight. He definitely suspected being bi or Gay because he thought he had a crush on Vil as a kid - It turned out that he just wanted to be friends with him.

Now Azul is an interesting thought: As far as I'm aware, an Octopus dies as soon as they reproduce - Therefore I believe that Azul would be rather asexual (Doesn't matter if Merfolk works just like their animal counterpart or not). Additional with his insecurities about his body, I'm pretty sure he's repulsed by the pure thought of exposing his body to someone else. I feel like he'd be quite the romantic though but I'm not sure what/if he has a gender preference.

While I can picture Floyd as a Gay guy, I'm not sure if the Leech Twins actually have sexual or romantic interests - Floyd just wants a partner either as a victim for his shenanigans or someone who joins him. Jades argument would be that he's too careful of people - He could never be too sure how much he could trust his partner, so he avoids dating at all.

Kalim.. definitely panromantic but not interested in adulting. He just wants to Love.

Jamil labels himself in front of his and Kalims parents and friends as straight "for the Al-Asim family's image", in school he says he's a bisexual because he doesn't want to explain further - In reality, he just doesn't see any point in dating.

Vil is straight in front of the cameras but "doesn't date since it would mess with his career" - In reality, he's demisexual and demiromantic. He wants to know that his love is blooming for the right person.

Epel is a very convinced straight guy - Until he had his first male crush (which I HC as Deuce but that's just me). It took him a while (and a long talk with Rook) to figure out his feelings.

Both Shrouds don't date - Idias reasons are unknown and I refuse to put Ortho in any kind of relationship beyond friendships.

Since Lilia is pretty much bi in canon, I've got nothing to say to him - he certainly had to teach his kids a lot though. I mean, it's also somewhat Canon that he taught Malleus about feelings - So I'm guessing the Lizard would be demiromantic with no gender preference. Silver is not interested in anything like that - Or better said, he never thought about it because he had no reason to do so. Sebek on the other hand.. Oh boy. I can see him being the typical homophobic straight guy but 100% supportive towards Lilias bisexuality (and his arguments that "love is just hindering him in his duty" would make him a technical Aro and or AroAce but he ain't understanding that).

I... ended up listing all of them 🕴 Welp, at least I didn't left anyone out hahaha

me, an aroace Rantaro truther:

I just think he's non-partnering, 100% loveless

Ves: HE BASICALLY SAYS IT Fast: HE DOES I dont wanna say that people hcing him as bi or gay or whatever is aroace erasure but like. Idk i dont like it

he could be honorary member of the greater Akamatsu-centric polycule, but like, he's better off in his element, being the big brother to his friends

any of his ships is just better and feels more in character when it's platonic

and it'd be good for him to have friends he doesn't see as little siblings/therefore also feels responsible for & get some that are equals that he can rely on, but that doesn't mean they have to date

Ves: it was solidified for me the first time i saw the nailpainting scene and it just kept going the more i watched

Fast: I've always been upset abt this but i never brought it up here bcs. A lot of people here ship Rantaro w someone

well, those ships? platonic now

Ves: tsumugi says 'you know how to paint nails because you have a girlfriend??' and he says No and she says 'you don't have a girlfriend because you're such a player???' and he says Double No and it's SO funny, she wants him to be marketable so BAD but all romantic and sexual implications slide off him like an aroace duck his greatest sexual fantasy??? doesn't have one, he just wants a sibling figure who he can protect

Fast: I remember he talked abt how he's never been interested in anyone in his ftes And its just like "Wow I'm so glad there's an aroace character :-)" goes to the fandom "what the fuck "

he's got a classic case of people can't deal with attractive person being ace going on

Hina: Is there something wrong with headcanoning him as not aroace?/gen Ves: i wouldn't say there's something wrong but so many people just completely ignore all of The Words That He Says With His Mouth and headcanon him as a FUCKING PLAYBOY and it's so insanely frustrating. if you use ~ at the end of his dialogue you owe me 20$ he is, at the very least, disinterested in sex and romance. so i'd say not reading him as some kind of a-spec is upsetting, even if you do ship him

Mauri: demi rantaro GOOD aroace rantaro GOOD gray-aroace rantaro GOOD

I don't want to gatekeep, but, I'd be happier if more people kept it in mind, maybe make him an oriented aroace, or put those ships in relationship anarchy in some way

Mauri: reject amatonormativity embrace avocado man

oh yeah, gray-aroace is a excuse for shipping I would accept too, just acknowledge canon and work around it, don't act like he doesn't have the coding at all

Today is the 1st day of prideeeeee!! So we're gonna talk about sexualities/relationships to expect and stuff for the Not The Tea Au!

Let's start with Boba! (My baby) Boba is aroace! When Boba first came to terms with that he freaked out, a tad terrified before Rex just gave him a look and bluntly informed him that he had to have gotten it from somewhere. After that, Boba confided in his father to which Jango told him that he didnt care, and all that he wanted was his baby loved. Hower he got that love didn’t matter. That being said, Boba has no romantic love interest. (Obvi) He does indeed have a platonic soulmate though! (a few tbh) Who? None other than his number 1 fan, ride or die, best friend Fennec, of course! He and Fennec are very close, and have see each other through thick and thin. If something were wrong? These two have each other on speed dial. (She teases him about the brief time he dated Han and asks him if that turned him aro. She knows that's not how that works, but it's still funny.)

The asexual train leads us tooo- Jango Fett! (the love of my life) While Jango is not aromatic, his view on love has always been

"If it happens its happens, if it doesn't that's fine."

He was raised by a single father, and doesn't remember all that much about his biological parents or their relationship. (They were great loving parents, just fyi! Arla talks about them and tells him stories) So he's never been the most concerned with finding his forever person. (Romantically he's interested in just about anyone gender wise) That in mind, he's always wanted kids. (Mando genes) But, relationships are tricky things, and finding a partner to settle down with was iffy sooo....He took matters into his own hands. (Jaster STILL isn't quite sure where Cody, Rex and Boba came from. And at this point, he's too afraid to ask) When Jango meets Obi-Wan for the first time...its not exactly love at first sight but he definitely found the man intriguing. It was never more than a crush, though. And then, about a year later, life hit the Fett household like a train and well...romancing Cody's teacher was the LEAST of Jango's worries. Once everything settled down though, and realizing just how much of a help during this time Obi was, and how amazing and loving he was with the kids well, let's just say that crush was a tad more than a crush.

Tgats our segway into Obi, our Bisexual king. Similar to Jango, Obi developed the slightest crush on the man upon meeting him. All in all though, his focus was on his students and getting to know them! He already knew a little about Cody simply because Ahsoka and Rex are best friends, but getting to know the family on a more personal level was nice. When tragedy struck, Obi-Wan offered a his help in anyway he could, trying his hardest to try to make sure Cody wasn't overworked with school. After all of it died down, Obi-Wan found himself getting to know this family more and more and it's safe to assume that it developed into more than a crush.

Padme, Anakin, and Rex are all also bisexual.

Han identifies as unlabled. He likes who he likes.

Din is Demisexual. (He and Cobb do eventually end up together raising Grogu)

Fennec is bi with a heavy female lean.

Cody Echo, and Cobb are all gay.

Fives, and Ahsoka are pansexual. (And Lando but he doesn't have a bit role in the story)

Fox's sexuality is 'sleep & coffee' (he doesn't label himself and he's not exactly looking for a relationship but he's into both men and woman)

Alpha-17 is AroAce just like Boba.

I've been drawing more of this au (hopefully I'll post some soon!) and I have some scenes written/plenty of scene ideas it's just a matter of putting pen to paper. (Or fingers to keyboard in this case) Hopefully I'll post again soon, and I'm glad to see people enjoy this au as much as I do^^

Hi! I'm a charlastor shipper and also Ace with some side Aro, I'm still discovering/struggling with my own sexuality, but I can say I'm Ace.

This is a small rant and I speak this for myself and myself only.

There are lots of things I wanna say about the ship but I can simply say I love it. I think having Alastor in a relationship isn't a bad thing, AceAro can still be in a relationship, it's not black and white, it's a fluid spectrum (for me tbh, idk about what others think).

One thing I felt frustrated about the antis or the fandom in general, they used Alastor own Ace(Aro) card to dismiss charlastor. Now we have the bs father-daughter relationship excuse, not to mention, the bi-erasure.

Bi-erasure aside, people comments under charlastor contents with "but Alastor is Ace(Aro, usually Ace)" screams AceArophobics to me, it implied AceAro people can't have sex, can't be in a relationship, can't have a normal healthy sex life .

At first, it didn't bother me much until I kept seeing "but Alastor is ace" under charlastor contents everywhere. Maybe they didn't realised how AceArophobics they are, but that doesn't mean they should weaponized Alastor own sexuality and comment it under charlastor (or any ships!) posts.

It's hurtful how "X is AceAro" commented is, how the antis or the fandom didn't actually care about AceAro and just weaponized the ace(aro) cards of a fictional character to passive-aggressive toward X ships.

Not all Ace people is sex-replused! Not all Ace people doesn't like sex! Not all Ace people doesn't want to be in a relationship!

There are some personal rants I didn't put it here, but in the end, I don't speak for all AceAro. Nor others AceAro with different opinions speak for me.

But this is how I felt about antis and the people with "Alastor is ace" comments, to me, you're all Ace(Aro)phobics without realising it.

Tw//A lot of swears and rude words. I mention word BDSM and word dominated

Not gonna tag it.

I. Agree. SO much.

AroAce people or people on the spectrum CAN be in relationships and CAN have sex. They can kiss. They can do everything people in relationships do BUT they just would feel it differently! Not all people like this but a lot of aroace people I know like Queer-platonic relationships. The secret third thing between platonic and romantic. I have a friend who is AroAce but she's into BDSM! She doesn't feel sexual attraction AT ALL. But she likes the feeling of power or being dominated in a non-sexual way. (If I see people say "Well, then she's not Ace!" I will kick you.)

Even Markiplier, talking about Lady Demitrisu (how do I spell her name), said he would like to be dominated by her but not in a sexual way. It's about power. If people can fuck without feelings as FWB why can't Aces do the same?

I once was asked "Would you have fwb relationships with someone?" And I said "well, I won't be full on board with that but if it will help my friend - sure"

And you know what answer I got? "This is the most asexual answer"

Yeah. Alastor is ace - but ace people can have sex if they know it will please their partner.

Yes. Alastor is aromatic (I won't say on the spectrum.) but he clearly cares about Charlie and thinks of her as charming. So they can have something even if it will be different.

And since when did people care about sexuality?? Why do we care about fictional character's sexuality instead of real people? I know some people ship Vaggie and Angel. I also know people that ship Angel and Valentino. And you know what? If this person is not someone disgusting and they did no harm. Let them do whatever they want on the internet (it's a slippery slope. But I mean that people do whatever they want RESPONSIBLY). Let them ship some the most amoral things. Let them have their own corner as long as they realize the difference between fiction and reality. My policy will mark me as a "problematic shipper" but I honestly don't care. Pro shipping was never about problematic shipping - it was about respecting all kinds of shipping and ships.

If you are not into something - block it. Control your own space, set boundaries and be the one who makes the first move. A lot of times in life no one will stop talking about the things they like just because you don't like it. It will just make you an asshole to them or they'll think of you as someone weird and irresponsible.

Instead, you leave. You don't go to the place that makes you unhappy. You don't go somewhere just to rant and say "this is unacceptable!" When it's about INTERESTS.

If someone is actually concerning you because they CAN and WILL harm someone - then be aware and go hunting. Otherwise you are a boy that cries wolves.

ROTTMNT sexuality Headcanons!

All of the turtles are LGBTQ+. Leo's gay and asexual, Donnie's aroace and bi, Mikey's aroace and straight (projecting, but I'm a lesbian) and Raph is pan. Also, April is an asexual lesbian.

• Leo was the first one who came to terms with his sexuality. He knew since he was a kid that he didn't like women. He realized because of how he never felt the “butterflies” around them. Before, when he read books or watched stuff and saw the falling in love cliché, he thought that the only reason why he couldn't relate to that was because he never met anyone else besides his fam. Then, he sneaked out and saw a human boy. Poor guy was so in love he almost fell and let the humans discover him. His true gay awakening.

• Mikey at first thought he was pan, because he didn't really care about gender. Then he realized he didn't care at all. He didn't mind it. In fact, he was actually happy to discover his sexuality. The only problem he has is that most of the people who are around his age he meets fall in love with him. I mean, that guy's a sweetheart, who wouldn't love him? He always panics because he doesn't want to hurt their feelings. After a while, he decided to use Doctor Delicate Touch on them (instead of spinning around the love confession, he'd just say “yeah no i'm aro”).

• Raph only figured it out recently. At first he thought he was bi because he was attracted to both genders. Then, after a long talk with April, he came to realize that he wasn't bi, he was pan. April had to explain the term to him because he didn't understand it. Why would you be attracted to pans??? April sometimes laughs at him because of that. With love, of course. He has yet to have a serious relationship with someone because the very few partners he had either left him, or they fell apart. If it was because of the second one, then they definitely stayed friends.

• Like Mikey, Donnie thought for the first seventeen years of his life that he was pan. He only came to realize he was aroace about a year after the movie. He doesn't deal with the “oh no everyone falls in love with me” problem because he scares most people away (he does that on purpose. Whenever he realizes someone is staring at him in a non-platonic way, he scares them off. It's hilarious to watch). He thought he was in love with April when they first met because almost all of the TV shows he saw had a straight relationship as the main cast. Then, he realized that he only thought that because she was the only girl he knew and he didn't know how romantic love felt like. They love eachother like siblings btw.

• April has always known she was a lesbian. It started when she was like five, when all of her friends were crushing on this boy who was like, the hottest guy in kindergarten for the kids (the hottest guy turned out to be the teacher after he came out as trans. Idk why I added that). They would come to her like “omg he talked to me!! Isn't he amazing?” and she would be like “uhh no??”. Anyways, she started crushing on the girl all the boys were in love with. It was complicated. They dated for like a month before she moved out (plot twist: the girl was Sunita, who was trying to experience a human life for a while).

What's your take about bonsars relationship

if you're looking for me to slander bonsar or go "it's romantic or platonic no in between!" you are in the wrong place, compadre. I'm aromantic. I don't believe that a relationship has to be romantic at all to be considered a relationship. I'm romance-repulsed and still date people, and it's rarely ever a problem. I'm someone's (more than just one someone, technically) girlfriend and I'm still avoidant of explicitly romantic scenes.

so the question for me is more like, would bonnie and caesar, as characters, want to label each other as partners?

like, when I look at bonnie, I see someone who may not be wholly comfortable just jumping into labels like that. as they said in the romcom ep, they just got used to having friends, and rushing into relationships seems like something that would ultimately be bad for them.

caesar seems a little conflicted on what he wants, but he understands his personal feelings a little more- he's said it himself, he and bonnie are soulmates. they're a team. but he's hung up on what that means of them, and how they should proceed.

we had a similar argument back in the day about the rr ice dancers. there were people arguing for them romantically, people arguing for them platonically, people stating that they wouldn't be attracted to each other because x is gay and x is pan and x is so-and-so, and my stance has always been Who Give a Fuck.

sometimes people are just in love with each other in a way that's not platonic, nor romantic, nor sexual, but a secret fourth thing that either combines some or all of these elements or exists completely outside of them. I would consider my relationship with gideon to be something on its own entirely, and I think a lot of aro4aro couples (whether they include aroace or alloaro people) would share a similar sentiment.

if I had to explain bonsar in terms of my own relationship, it's this:

they're not quite in love in the traditional sense, but they are absolutely not friends. they love each other more than anything. they understand each other like no one else can. if everything goes to shit and they end up furious and alone, they'll still love each other, even if they could never admit that. they have a playful, friendly dynamic that's observed between friends, and a deep love of each other that most would associate with lovers. they hold hands in public like it's the most natural thing in the world. caesar is the only person bonnie feels comfortable expressing physical affection to. bonnie is the only person caesar feels comfortable talking to about his thoughts. bonnie started carrying bandaids on them after they met because caesar trips a lot and never remembers them. caesar was the only person to remember bonnie's birthday one year. they don't necessarily understand each other's taste in music, but that's okay, they know they don't have to be the exact same to enjoy each other's company. sometimes bonnie will start talking and then realize they've been going on for ten minutes straight because caesar doesn't stop them. when caesar rambles, he always gets surprised that bonnie will add on and listen actively because he's so used to people ignoring the mundane details about his life. sometimes bonnie gets quiet and doesn't want to talk about what's going on in their head and caesar holds them until they feel good again. sometimes it's the other way around. they cut each other's hair. they have sleepovers. they kiss, and it isn't a big deal. they talk about bad movies and good albums. they send each other pictures of the sky when they're apart. they share clothes. they argue about whether spring or autumn is better. they go over to each other's houses and bake cakes at midnight because they couldn't sleep. they go to the library together. they sit on swing sets and share earbuds. they can talk for a week straight or not talk for a month and their relationship remains unchanged. what they have is undoubtedly, irrefutably, love. not romantic love. not platonic love. just love.

is that so hard for people to understand?

Honestly as much as their marriage sucked I feel like natsuhi's and Krauss's relationship could have worked if they didn't have all of those heterosexual pressures

Like, instead of dividing the work based on what is suitable for a man/ woman they could have been such a strong couple if they divided it based on theor individual strenghts- if natsuhi was the one to managed the financials since she is good at judging character and forming long term plans and Krauss handled the work that required more social graces due to how good he is at projecting a larger than life image they (well, mainly krauss) wouldnt have gotten themselves in as much trouble

They wouldn't even have to stop pretending to be heterosexual since they could just pretend krauss is making all the descions while natsuhi is advising him

Like, there's clearly love between them, it's just nor that type of idealised straight love, what with them sleeping in seperate rooms and krauss always gushing about his financial buddies, (I know what you are krauss ushiromia)

(That’s also why I don't like shipping natsuhi with eva, natsuhi is ace as shit, she even wears the aroace colours)

If they just allowed themselves to be themselves rather than trying to fit themselves into a mould this would also mean that jessica would feel more comfortable within her own home, you know?

Basically, krauss, stop trying to emulate your father and ask for advice from your wife. She clearly knows this shit better than you.

The thing is that it's incredibly hard to built a healthy marriage when it's based on the resentment of being a forced one (also that thing about women not being able to see their family once they move to their husband family registry thats hm... thats not helping). They definitely could have been a better team (and with ALL thats happening, it could ALSO have been worse) but they just follow the rules they're being given, if they were to do otherwise, I think they would also crumble under the shame of failing at their assigned role even if they find more pleasure at doing something they're actually good at. Its complicated. And Kinzo's shadow is just way too big. They just represent a traditional couple thats slowly is being replaced by more modern dynamics.

For the love and sexuality part, I think they do have love for each other as partners who were together for years, not a romantic one like you say. The thing about sleeping in separate room I think it's more of a traditional thing that specific choice.

I don't really want to weigh too much on Natsuhi's sexuality, or a lot of other characters very hard tbh (I see that as a catbox too a lot of time, happy for the EvaNatsu and those who don't like it. And some of my friends are EvaNatsus i support with all my heart lol) because theres also a lot of cultural and time period context to take in consideration. There was a lot of expectations around a woman's sexuality that usually normalized being repressed and unsatisfied (whether they were het or not but if they were not, it was even harder to figure it out because "well i guess its normal for a woman to never find pleasure with a man/never have desire for a man because they have natural low sex drive and sex is just useful for kids" kind of thing.) so she could be ace, or lesbian or both or something else, totally, but theres a lot of baggage around it. I'm not going to debate all of that lol.

As for Jessica, I think she especially suffers from them not being able to communicate with her outside of criticisms (especially from Natsuhi). I think Natsuhi is trying to connect with her daughter (conflict is a way to maintain a relationship), she just... doesn't know how to convey her thoughts... Which is too bad :(