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justanisabelakinnie · 2 months

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"We need more strong, fleshed out, well-developed female characters of color!" you bitches couldn't even handle the Madrigal women.

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princessefemmelesbian · 8 months

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Thinking about how i was talking about fandom lesbophobia with my(pan) irl friend, and she told me the wonderful news /s that ao3 often has rankings for the most popular ships in multiple fandoms, and how not only were most of them m/m or m/f, but there were so few f/f ships that made the top rankings that they had to make a separate ranking just for f/f ships, because of how uncommon they are. 😢

And I was just like, well, if that's not indicative of how little fandom cares about female ships that don't involve men, then idk what is.

#lesbian #lesbophobia #fandom lesbophobia #androcentrism #misogyny #double standards #lesbian erasure #op

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mariathechosen1 · 1 year

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Idk just sorta sucks how because of the centering of male characters in fandoms I (and other lesbians) feel isolated from queer media creating a culture where a lot of us prefer mlw ships to (cis) mlm ships because those have at least one female character present and because almost all wlw ships are ignored by non-lesbians

In other news, Sara is my favorite character in Young Royals and y’all are really ignoring how awesome she is

#young royals #yr sara #she’s literally the best #i loved her in s1 and love her even more in s2 now that we get to see more of her #wlw #sara x felice #them<3 #I also think Simon is a rlly cool character buuuuuut tbh I’m not ~that~ interested in Wilhelm #idk how to explain it he’s just generally not my kinda character #but back to the main point: obviously an mlm show like yr is focused around the mlm pairing #it’s just that there’s barely any wlw centric content (CENTRIC) for the fandom which is strange considering how queer the fandom is #it’s almost like androcentrism racism and misogyny all very much affect queer spaces…

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autistic-sidon · 1 month

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The way that a decent chunk of the Zelda fandom still insists on denying one of the most classic and easiest to spot forms of fandom misogyny annoys me to no end. Often in their quest to prove that the way they act about Yona isn't based in misogyny, they unknowingly prove my point. Popular retort being, "she's boring/badly written" even though Link is just as boring and poorly written due to reasons that are worse than Yona's, as well as Sidon's writing being pretty bare bones. I never ever see anyone hating Link and Sidon, nor any other characters who also "came out of nowhere." This, whether people like OR INTEND it, shows misogyny because of the double standard. Male characters are allowed to have bad writing and come out of nowhere, female characters are not.

In fact, another character who came out of nowhere and gets in the way of a ship is Tauro! Nobody and I mean NOBODY complains about him being new, nor do they complain about him getting in the way of Linpaya. (Do not lie to me and say Linpaya isn't as popular as the other ship. Do not.) I hope the reason is obvious. Yona is doomed to be torn apart by the fandom, because she is a newly introduced female character that gets in the way of an androcentric ship. Even if it weren't an mlm ship she got in the way of, people would still be awful of course, but the fact that it's 2 men instead of one, it's completely androcentric and results in people being 200% more awful about it. Because a woman who gets in-between something that is focused only on men is automatically the devil.

If you want a quick example of this same misogyny but instead with m/f ships, a good example is how the fandom treats Mipha. She also "gets in the way" of a ship, Zelink. People constantly call her a groomer, and basically any other evil word you can think of despite the fact that she literally cannot get in the way of Zelink. Because she's dead. And their relationship is still written as unrequited even when she's not dead.

People also like to say that the people who ship Miphlink and Sidyona are evil, which confuses the hell out of me because I've never met a mean Miphlink shipper, and the only evil Sidyona shipper is me. So where do we go from here. I'd also argue that hating a ships fandom because of it's misogyny and making such known isn't evil but I digress. Some people get called evil for simply saying they don't like the ship so idk what these people's qualifications for evil even are.

#loz botw #loz totk #sidon #prince sidon #lady yona #discourse #fandom misogyny #Sidyona #miphlink #zelink #you can see which group of shippers has harassed me the most by which one I refuse to say haha #sucks because I do really want to tag it so some of them can see it and MAYBE change their minds...maybe #and be normal about Yona for a change #but it's not worth the harassment risk 😭#and if you're curious as to why I think Link is badly written #it's because the writers tried to make him a player insert and character simultaneously #and the main plot suffers because of this decision #it's very hard to read Link's character and to relate to him because the writers made him so distant from us

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randmsapphic · 15 days

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I think it's time we just all accept and admit that "fandom" culture is insanely misogynistic and androcentric.

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pyrobassist · 1 year

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my thoughts on art, fandom, and women's part in it.

men consume pop culture solely as a source of entertainment. all they create within fandom is porn. most of the fan content is created by women. they draw fan art, write fanfiction, cosplay, and create many posts analyzing and celebrating every detail of their favorite piece of media. creative women spend most of their time developing other people's ideas, narratives, and characters.

the problem here is not necessarily everyday escapism. after all, living as a woman in a patriarchal society is hard. everyone needs rest from time to time. however

our culture is androcentric. all ideas, concepts, discourses, tropes, and archetypes are the products of men's conversations with each other throughout our history. we have very few stories by women, original stories that express our experience. stories that are not additions or continuations of something else (most often, something else created by a bunch of men). we need to recognise our creative streak and show it to the world. i encourage women to create original art. i want us to bring our projects, characters, and stories to life. it doesn't have to be perfect, so many male creators are actually mediocre you can't even imagine. we're more than capable of it.

#radfems do interact #radfems do touch

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azuremist · 2 years

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✧ — My favorite original posts

Dead Plate 3DS theme

Web weaving (Dead Plate)

Cohost sucks, too

On Marina in “Suffer No Fools” (Splatoon)

Pearlina as a princess x knight dynamic (Splatoon)

Haruka has an intellectual disability (and why that matters) (MILGRAM)

Needy Streamer Overload anime

Marina’s Dev Diary #8 (Splatoon)

“TME” and “TMA” are intersexist

Marina’s Dev Diary #1 (Splatoon)

Let Agent 8 rest (Splatoon)

The Furret walk being recognizing by Pokémon’s YouTube (Pokemon)

Papicoco’s wedding armor (Flip Flappers)

Trial 2 thumbnail scenes (MILGRAM)

Papika in episode 7 (Flip Flappers)

The balcony scene (Cherry Magic)

Papika really loves Cocona (Flip Flappers)

Guilty Kotoko propaganda (MILGRAM)

All references in Shiver’s Frostyfest dialogue (Splatoon)

Intermission animation (I’m In Love With The Villainess)

Kieran being 14 years old (Pokemon)

Hopeless romantic aromantic Mahiru (MILGRAM)

‘Alterhumanity and Autism’ follow-up survey

Kieran never hates the MC (Pokemon)

Bisexual Pokemon characters (Pokemon)

Kieran’s eye shines return (Pokemon)

How you would fall if you were an angel

The parallels for each prisoner pair (MILGRAM)

Lumity x “My Love Is Mine All Mine” (The Owl House)

Doki Doki Literature Club’s twist would have been better if Monika was a male character (DDLC)

Amane, Kazui, and how your childhood follows you (MILGRAM)

Panels from “The Bravest Prince” (Adventure Time)

An analysis of Marshall Lee’s nightmare form (Adventure Time)

Gumlee development (Adventure Time)

Princess Bubblegum vs Prince Gumball vs Gary Prince (Adventure Time)

Bubbline and Gumlee parallels (Adventure Time)

A resource for making your personal site accessible

“Bubbline vs Gumlee” (Adventure Time)

Analyzing ‘(Not) a Devil’

Crowley’s wings (Good Omens)

What did Neil Gaiman mean by this (Good Omens)

‘Alterhumanity and Autism’ panel script

Irony and the Barbie movie’s feminism

Vote against KOSA

The great implosion of ArtFight 2023

Bakugou is a funny character concept (BNHA)

Masterpost of art made about and during the AIDS crisis

Autistic bullying as portrayed in Ruby Gilman, Teenage Kraken

The hidden message of Swadloon (Pokemon)

Gen work June fanfic recs

Sun Wukong and Macaque flashback (LEGO Monkie Kid)

The original meaning of hanahaki

Autistic people writing robots / AI

AO3’s old racist mod

What is and isn’t menhera

Transphobe / TERF blocklist

Hunter and the ‘curing the disability’ trope (The Owl House)

Ships that are just teenage boys are good

My list of “internet archeology for old fandom drama / events” video essays

Every OT3 has… (LEGO Monkie Kid)

A compilation of every time that DBK and PIF are bad parents (LEGO Monkie Kid)

“Non-man” is a bad phrase

My guide to tumblr etiquette

Courtney analysis (Dead End: Paranormal Park)

The Golden Guard as a metaphor for masking (The Owl House)

My problem with “Thanks To Them” (The Owl House)

Bisexual Hunter is canon (The Owl House)

The androcentric desire hypothesis

Analyzing the themes of ‘Bad End Theater’

Canon autistic representation in cartoons

Male/female multigender advocacy

Religious themes to describe queer experiences

On the 2020 Moomin revival

Being a grimwalker as a trans metaphor (The Owl House)

Disability education resources

Character proportions (The Owl House)

Red Son and his parents (LEGO Monkie Kid)

Shadowpeach and songs (LEGO Monkie Kid)

Sun and moon bigender flags

Red Son is autistic (LEGO Monkie Kid)

Shadowpeach web weaving (LEGO Monkie Kid)

“Galar’s friends” card art edit (Pokemon)

Bambi bisexual flag

Gundham Tanaka is autistic (Danganronpa)

MLM/WLW flag

Digitalized Bede Pokemon Center art (Pokemon)

Bede character analysis (Pokemon)

Brown-eyed Goh edits (Pokemon)

Randall Ascot skintone edits (Professor Layton)

Mousier Scarlet story rework (Bug Fables)

That one time I predicted that Entrapta was autistic and made an analysis post on it immediately after season 1’s release (She-Ra)

#masterlist #blog info #azure does a thing

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allisondraste · 2 years

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I don't know if this was intentional on the writers part, but the way the Circle route is framed as the 'best' option for Bethany has some unfortunate implications to say the least, considering that for the majority of this route she basically suppresses/compartmentalizes most of her negative emotions in favor of compliance. I know it's for her own survival, but people seem to really only tolerate a female character when she doesn't complain or express any bitterness. Thoughts?

I am not sure that I would say that the game construes the Circle route to be the best route for Bethany, and maybe we have different fandom spaces, but I also don’t know a lot of fans who interpret it that way either. The Circle/Templar path for Bethany/Carver is represented as the path of the status quo. It’s them fulfilling the roles that they think they need to or are supposed to. Neither of them experiences a ton of personal growth, and you’re right, Bethany *seems* happier! But if you pay attention to her at all, you know that it is shallow.

The Grey Warden path is not what either wanted, but it is a path that is their own, not dictated by society or their family. It allows them both openness by removing them from their big sibling’s (mostly unintentional) influence. Carver is able to relax, and Bethany is able to be honest. She is allowed to express all the negative emotions that she has been keeping pent up for the sake of being a “good” mage. I feel like the game writing made that point pretty clearly.

I do agree though that people in general are quick to assume that female characters are better off when they’re quiet and happy. It’s androcentrism for ya.

#dragon age #dragon age 2 #DA2 #bethany hawke

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lonemacaron · 2 months

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Still mad that Uraraka got totally sidelined for Bakugo. Bakugo is lame and annoying idc fight me. Female characters always get shafted for an objectively less cool male character. It's better than it was in the past but still. I notice girls who like a character romantically are more willing to explore his or her character while boys who like a character, especially if female, will just objectify her. I think this leads to a fandom culture that is predominantly focused on the male characters. I'm not gonna judge anyone for enjoying a male character or demand that they change their interests, but I do think it's worth pointing out the fact that most media is still heavily androcentric and that it can be valuable to try to examine how that may form a hidden bias in how you view characters and tropes.

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justanisabelakinnie · 1 year

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“Just because she’s independent and single doesn’t mean she’s a lesbian, you’re being stereotypical” shut the fuck up shut the fuck up SHUT THE FUCK UP.

As if every single female character doesn’t already have to be attracted to men and center men in their attraction. And now the second we headcanon a female character who doesn’t have a romantic relationship with men as a lesbian suddenly we’re the bad guys?

Lesbians get no representation ever but oh I get it, female characters are allowed to be strong and independent and not need a guy to be fulfilled and all of that crap you spew in the name of feminism, so long as they’re still attracted to guys that is.

God forbid a female character is actually independent from and fully de-centers men by not being attracted to them at all. God forbid lesbians have an ACTUAL CHARACTER to see themselves in to remind us that we are not “incomplete” for not liking men. But y’all don’t care about that, I already know. It’s not forcing independent girls to be lesbians and it’s not “stereotyping” you guys just see lesbian as a dirty word, and you see us as perverted, gross, forceful, man-haters, or less than women because your identity is wrapped up in liking men and you center them at every turn, straight women will always complain about female characters being lesbians with “why can’t she just be independent” meanwhile y’all exclude us from conversations with your endless jabber about boyfriends and crushes, lol fucking jokes.

The truth is lesbians are the embodiment of what womanhood looks like without the centering of men and that threatens y’all somehow, so the second a female character is seen as a lesbian you come out with the pitchforks screaming “nuh-uh, she’s STRAIGHT!” It’s not the “independence” that is the problem, you’re just mad and offended by female characters not being available to men or depending on them to find love and be happy, that’s the real problem that you pretend is the opposite.

And don’t pretend that you treat canonical lesbians any better either, because when we do get them you erase their sexuality by calling them straight or bi and writing fics about them being shipped with male characters they have no chemistry with(because they’re lesbians), or making them aroace(because if they can’t be into men then you’ll make sure they’re not into women either), you don’t give a shit fuck about independent women and even less of one about lesbians, you just see a woman not being attracted to men as not fulfilling their proper role as women because you still define womanhood as revolving around men even when they are “independent” and thus you need to “punish” them somehow.

So, disrespectfully, fuck off, and don’t come after us lesbians with our headcanons about characters as lesbians with “but but but can’t she be strong and independent without being a lesbian?! Can’t she still be straight!!! I can respect her not getting with a man but I still need her to like guys please!!!” Because you WILL get embarrassed and you WILL get your feelings hurt.

#shut up #isabela madrigal #isabela my beloved #isabela is best girl #encanto #encanto headcanons #encanto queer headcanons #isabela madrigal is a lesbian #i understand that much of this debate with isabela is also because of white lgbtq+ people ignoring the theme of the movie #but that doesn't mean i don't see the lesbophobia radiating off of some of y'all #and it's not cute 🤨#queen elsa #frozen #princess merida #brave #lesbian #lesbophobia #fandom lesbophobia #androcentrism #fandom androcentrism #why tf was this in my drafts for so long to the point where i completely forgot about it lol #but anyway yeah #lesbians aren't beating you straight women with battleaxes and telling you to break up with your boyfriends or else you're sexist traitors #just let us relax and hc in peace and stop trying to be the lesbian police please #all right thank you

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thebroodysocialist · 1 year

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The Changing Conceptualizations of the 'Global Man': the Rise of K-pop and the Search for Alternative Masculinities.

Departing momentarily from purely demographic analyses, to what reasons can we attribute the explosive growth of a transnational K-pop fandom? Transnational cultural consumption is primarily a two way process- an exaltation of the mainstream, or exoticizing of what lies beyond (or what digresses from the mainstream, from within it). K-pop has demonstrated, over the years, a shift from androcentric performativity in popular entertainment- opening up a space to locate an alternative masculinity, a less toxic, subversive world view of the 'global man' that otherwise hegemonizes western and eastern popular entertainment. I use the term 'subversive' here in a somewhat partial context, owing to the recurring evidence of certain ideals and standards, and the resultant enforcement of heteronormativity that features as we try and trace at the idol as a product of a late capitalist art industry.

Non-conformity becomes the focal point of a transcultural consumption, as well as the grounds for criticism, of which Asian masculinities are at the receiving end. Academic discourses have made efforts to refine the narratives of such terms as “effeminate” or “androgynous” , thereby offering alternative conceptions such as "soft masculinity". At a conference on Global Consumption of K-Pop masculinities, the panelists take up and challenge such predominantly western theorisations on Asian masculinity, suggesting an alternative model that applies to a more localised reception. Significant arguments are also raised on how Korean female fans’ homoerotic fanfic narratives and male idols’ homoerotic fan service performances do not emancipate the Korean LGBT+ community but rather reaffirm South Korea’s heteropatriarchy.

Taking points from such studies and examining popular conceptions, we will try and locate answers to such questions as to what extent, in a global and local context, does K-pop challenge gendered styles? Are the shifting radical implications in their gender performativity rooted in a changing regional cultural framework?

Is subversion a word that is relevant in the context of a space that has evolved as a fitting model of aesthetic capitalism? If this study were to move from a thematic to an economic analysis, could 'subversive' tendencies still be perceived as voluntary?

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mariathechosen1 · 2 years

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I’m not saying I don’t trust you if you go around making Hadestown AUs about your favorite cis white mlm ship, buuuuuuuuut-

(Imaging replacing literally all the female and colored characters in a musical known for good representation just to make space for your basic ass white ship)

#hadestown #something something fandom spaces obsess over cis white male characters #something something this leads them to push out any female non cis and or colored character #something something androcentrism and colorism #(this is also just as relevant when it comes to hadestown content because some of y’all only make content about Orpheus and Hades)

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thisismisogynoir · 2 years

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Men will literally clamor after a female-dominated work of media in herds, (try to) make the fandom all about themselves and the male characters, and then turn around and bleat and whine about “misandry” in the show/story/book/movie/video game and “why aren’t there enough boys for me to see myself in?” and “why does this show hate masculinity, I’m calling toxic femininity” and “the main female character is such a selfish dumb whiny annoying bitch, the male character should put her in her place” and “let’s make male-centric versions of the work and make the female characters either look bad, be sexualized, be villainized, or be male, let’s turn this show into our cute girls doing cute things wish fulfillment.” Tag whatever fandom fits this bill.

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chaoticookie · 2 years

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There's something bothering me. I was scrolling through Encanto tags, and found some... really stupid and messed up things.

Aparently, there are people who think those who have Bruno as their favourite character are nulifying the importance of the female leads, and the fact that "We don't talk about Bruno" became the film's hit means the fandom is "androcentric".

They also keep saying that the drawings in wich Camilo isn't drawn with his normal (and adorable, may I add) curly hair are whitewashing him. There is also this stupid misconception that the part of the fandom who like Bruno and/or Camilo ONLY likes Bruno and/or Camilo, wich is untrue.

They talk about how the women in the fandom are "villified" - I think they're talking about Abuela bashing fics, wich I understand, but then again, she is not a villain, but an antagonist - and this shows how the fans make women unimportant. You know who else has Villain Au? Fucking Bruno! The statement simply makes no sense! I mean, would you please stop trying to find problems where they aren't? Here in Brazil we call this "procurar caroço em ovo", wich means overdramatize something simple or overinvestigate something inocent.

They say things like "look at the girls, look at them! There are so many female characters why are you so fixated in this male one?" Like that is actually a thing. I mean, I like Bruno because sometimes I feel so useless that if living in the walls was an option I'd take it, I identify with him the most. Wich DOESN'T means I don't identify with others.

I am the second oldest sister in a family of 5 sisters, wich means I gotta be strong to keep a lot of shit together, and since I've sucken up many of my autistic breakdowns for the sake of being normal, my family seems to think that's what autistic people should do all the time, so no one tries to just be there for me. Thus, I identify with Luisa the best out of the grandkids.

My ears have a special talent of hearing every single sound in this house, being the dripping of the bathroom on the second floor or one of the pets crying on my room's door. I feel like Dolores suffers a lot more, but I too suffer in crouds.

Anyway, I identify with many of the characters and absolutely love all of them, just like the most part of the fandom. So it made me real mad to see someone degrading people for their prefferences in a fictional work of art. It's not nice to do so with race, or gender, or sexuality, wich are things you don't get to choose, so please don't do it for simple and everchanging opinions, that's stupid.

Just let people be. You're not changing the world with a post. And so aren't I, I'm simply stating facts and how I feel about them.

Anyway, have a good day everyone! Thanks for stopping by and reading this... thing I did.

#encanto #bruno madrigal #mirabel madrigal #pepa madrigal #dolores madrigal #isabela madrigal #luisa madrigal #casita madrigal #casita encanto #encanto casita #camilo madrigal #antonio madrigal #julieta madrigal #alma madrigal #abuela madrigal #we don't talk about bruno #encanto fandom

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fourdaysofrain · 4 years

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Self-Made Man

Summary: A Trans!Tony Stark AU.

(Lengthy, personal author’s note below the cut, if you’re interested.)

Natasha Marie Stark was born twelve minutes before midnight on May 29th, 1970. She weighed a healthy seven pounds and two ounces when she arrived. She was the most beautiful thing that either of her parents had ever seen. And she was screaming loud enough to scare the pigeons from the trees outside.

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Well, hey everyone. It’s been a handful of months since I’ve been on here. I want to apologize for being gone, but that feels kind of phony. I don’t know. I missed this, though. I can tell you that much. I still checked my notifications every once in a while. It made me really glad to see people still commenting on my fics or passing my links around. Love y’all.

I guess it’s about time that I tell you that I’m trans. I have been this whole time. To answer a few quick questions, I first knew sometime in late high school, but it was always kind of in the background my whole life, I just didn’t know how to isolate the feeling. I started socially transitioning (i.e. dressing male, coming out, going by he/him) after my high school graduation, and I started HRT (Horomone replacement therapy, that means I inject myself with testosterone weekly. .33mL subcutaneously into my tummy, if you’re curious) on Oct. 12, 2018. So it’s been almost two years since, and I’ve been completely passing as a man for quite a while. Ass-crack hair, sweat, and all.

This is a pretty personal fic for me, given the nature of it. I’ve wanted to write it for a long time, and I’ve actually had words in the Google Doc since January. It took a lot of long nights to write. It helped that I was back home. I always have an easier time tapping into Trans Emotions when I’m in my home town, for better or for worse. All the memories and relationships I formed pre-transition follow me like ghosts.

I’m leaving for college in two days, conversationally.

I see a lot of trans!Peter Parker fics. I’m not dissing them, I love them to bits. But it makes me wonder why fandom is so quick to headcanon Peter as trans instead of one of the other characters. He’s petite, has a higher voice, and has softer features than the other male cast members. I feel like those attributes definitely play a role. It can be easy to see trans men as “uwu soft bois”, or as Men Lite, or as a more palatable version of “normal” (that is to say, cis) men. Those ideas are often flawed and based on transphobic foundations. The reality is, trans men (and by extension, all trans people) have the ability to be indiscernible from their cis counterparts. Everyone likes to think they can pick trans people out from a crowd, but you’d be surprised how quickly I started being read as male. Androcentrism for the win, I guess.

I won’t be entirely pessimistic. I understand that people my age project onto Peter (I am by no means exempt from that), and that there’s a greater number of young trans people than old, due to a series of depressing reasons. But I still wanted to try a different take on a trans character.

My experience as a trans man is vastly different than the one I write about here. If anything, I’m closer to fandom’s idea of trans!Peter. My parents were accepting, I had the financial and social means to transition relatively early, and I can fly under the radar easily. The most important difference is the time period.

I don’t know a lot about the trans experience of the 80s and 90s, which is what Tony would have gone through. I know of one single trans man who began his transition back then, one of the gender studies professors at my university. Even then, he’s from Canada, which I’m assuming has an entirely different culture around trans lives. There aren’t many older trans men. It’s depressing. There’s a lot of reasons for this. I don’t want to get too deep into them, because it only makes me feel sad. The final scene in this fic is extremely self-indulgent with regards to this. I wrote what I needed to hear.

That’s not to say I don’t relate at all to what I wrote. There are themes that are almost universal for the trans experience. I hope you can parse those out here.

I also wanted to talk about how I showed the change from “Natasha” to Tony. In the early stages of this fic’s development, I wasn’t sure if I wanted to openly say Tony’s deadname (the name trans people are given at birth, and often, but not 100% of the time, change as a part of their transition), but I soon realized that it would make the story much clearer with the inclusion of it. If you’re wondering, I got the name from Earth-3490, where Tony is born a woman (and marries Steve, lol). I chose to show the change between the two with the use of past tense for the first half of the fic, and switching to present for Tony’s life. Often times, it feels like that when you transition. You start living in present tense.

I also want to make it clear that transitioning isn’t as simple as shown here. From the beginning of mapping out this fic, I was stressed about “Oh, how will he be able to graduate as Tony if he doesn’t start transitioning until after he gets to college,” and “How will Howard react to him coming out?” and “How will he have a playboy persona if he isn’t able to have sex with someone without them knowing?” and a zillion other ideas. It was very freeing for me to let go of some of these obstacles and leave it up to the reader to decide. I alluded to some of the solutions that I came up with, but for the most part, I glossed over the paperwork and bureaucracy aspect to transitioning. But in real life, there are countless red tapes you have to cut for even the simplest of actions. I went to the state court to change my name and sex in March of 2019, and I still have cards in my wallet with my deadname. I had a consult with a plastic surgeon for top surgery (the colloquial name for the double mastectomy that trans men often go through to masculinize their chests. If you’re wondering, genital reconstruction surgery is normally called bottom surgery to mirror this) last December, and I still don’t have a date set. It took me a few months to start T, and I only got it so easily because I went through my unviersity, which does informed consent. Some places have to have proof of 6 months of social transitioning and a letter from a therapist. There is a lot of medical gate keeping in the trans community. I don’t know what I would have done had my parents not been accepting enough to help me through the processes. I am extremely thankful for their support.

But it’s a lot easier to write about transition happening smoothly. Money helps, which I don’t touch on a lot in this fic, but oh my God, does money help. I’m lucky enough to be able to afford my ~$20 a month T prescription (which I will be taking until the end of my days, likely), and I’m in the process of saving for top surgery. Thankfully with Tony, I can just presto most of the problems away because he’s canonically a billionaire. Eat the rich, folks.

There’s also the intersection with race that is very impactful for trans people, as it is for everyone. Both Tony and I are white, which gives us societal privileges that trans people of color don’t have access to. As well as the fact that transitioning from female to male is a much different experience than transitioning from male to female. We don’t experience trans misogyny, which is a special kind of misogyny specifically related to trans women. (Think of old sitcoms where the joke is that it’s a man dressed in women’s clothing, and that’s what makes it funny. That’s a fairly tame example of trans misogyny. It gets ugly fast.)

I’m veering dangerously off-topic, but it’s important to talk about. It’s easy for white trans people (and LGBT people as a whole, I suppose) to distance themselves from talking about white privilege or male privilege because they aren’t straight and/or cis. But it’s important to recognize that while we may face unique oppression, we also still benefit from historical white supremacist and patriarchal structures present today in society.

Sorry, not sorry for getting political. And if I haven’t said it on here, Black lives matter. Of course.

If you end up having trans-related questions, I want to be a resource for you. Seriously, I’m narcissistic and love talking about myself I don’t mind helping you understand the trans experience. I can’t promise that I know everything, but I also have my own group of trans friends who might know what I don’t, and we can learn together.

Again, love y’all. Thank you for the continued support you give me. I can’t promise that I’ll go back to my normal level of activity on here, but I might dip my feet back in the pool. <3

#irondad #iron dad #spider-man #iron man #trans #ftm #art speaks #art writes #read under the cut if you want to know my Emotions and Feelings

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[JayDick] You Are in the Gutter, But I WIll Fly You to the Stars 你身處陰溝，而我會帶你飛向群星

read it on the AO3 at https://archiveofourown.org/works/26188273

by Anonymous

Dick was kidnapped by random Alphas and gang raped for a few months before Deathstroke came to rescue him. After being rescued, Dick is in panic and trying to kill himself. Wintergreen brings Jason to Slade’s wooden house in the mountain, to calm him and to take care of him. Slade takes revenge on the prime suspect who planned to kidnap Dick and also planned to abandon the corpse once Dick can’t bear their treat and dies. 大要：迪克被網路母豬教徒鎖定綁架，喪鐘在幾個月後找到了迪克。喪鐘是A，單箭頭迪克，21都是O。傑森本來就喜歡迪克，最後會是迪克跟傑森在一起。

Words: 27370, Chapters: 11/?, Language: 中文

Fandoms: DCU, Batman - All Media Types, Nightwing (Comics)

Rating: Explicit

Warnings: Graphic Depictions Of Violence, Rape/Non-Con

Categories: M/M

Characters: Original Male Character(s)

Relationships: Dick Grayson/Jason Todd, Dick Grayson & Slade Wilson, Tim Drake & Dick Grayson & Jason Todd & Bruce Wayne & Damian Wayne

Additional Tags: Rape/Non-con Elements, Rape Aftermath, Rape Recovery, Alpha/Beta/Omega Dynamics, Omega Dick Grayson, Omega Jason Todd, Alpha Slade Wilson, Alpha Bruce Wayne, Alpha Tim Drake, Explicit Sexual Content, Sexual Assault, Suicidal Thoughts, Suicide Attempt, Sexism, Sexist Language, Slow Build, Angst, Hurt/Comfort, Protective Jason Todd, Protective Slade Wilson, Killing, Original Character Death(s), Infertility, Revenge, Misogyny, Omega Hater, Androcentrism, Patriarchy

read it on the AO3 at https://archiveofourown.org/works/26188273

#IFTTT #ao3feed #fanfic #jaydick #dcu

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