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facts-i-just-made-up · 5 months

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could i get some facts about me to recite when new people ask me to tell them something about myself and my mind goes immediately blank

This is a problem that happens to many people with much on their mind. Here is a set of things you can tell people, no matter what the occasion:

I am not made solely of pine-wood or pine-derivative plastics.

I have between zero and four thousand limbs, inclusive.

I contain several liters of my people's water.

My name is comprised mostly of real letters (Musks may differ).

I am unaware of the contents of soil on most exoplanets.

My spleen is smaller than the Chicago metropolitan area.

I am not, have never been, and may never be you.

Telling people these facts will always put them at ease and quell any concerns they have about your normality.

#fact #facts #small talk #conversation #unreality

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csuitebitches · 3 months

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Do you think you speak too fast/ too slow?

Here is what I learned from a speech coach.

warm up:

start this exercise by taking a deep breath and saying “aaaaah” - try to extend this to 30 seconds. Now if it doesn’t go till 30, that’s fine. Aim to work your way to that. If you can work it up to 30, go for 45/60 seconds. Do this 5 times.

next. Download an app called Metronome beats. It’s basically what singers/ musicians use for beats.

Settings: keep beats/bar as 1,

clicks/beats as 1

start at 90. It will start with a click sound and continue “beeping.”

Match your words to the beep. One beep = one word. Now slowly, increase the beat by 5 till you reach 110. Increase it at your own pace but try to spend at least 20 seconds on each number (90 for 20 seconds; 95 for 20; 100 for 20….) That’s when you stop.

either start by reading something out loud and matching the beat, or select a topic and speak freely.

do this every single day. This will help with your breath, if you’re speaking on a topic it will help you think better and improve over time. The best way to further complement this exercise is to improve your vocabulary. Try to learn 1-3 new words a day and incorporate it in your vocabulary.

This is a great tool to use when learning new languages too. You can practice your speaking skills and see how fast you can remember/ read words.

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itsaspectrumcomic · 3 months

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Disclaimer - meanings can differ depending on context

#autistic #actually autistic #small talk #neurodivergent #communication #autism comic #its a spectrum #by the time I realise it's too late :(

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tumbler-polls · 5 months

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This prompt was submitted by @mystical-dorito

#tumbler polls #actually autistic #small talk #intj #intp #infj #infp #psychology #autism #neurodiversity #(we can't add polls to submissions)

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pratchettquotes · 10 months

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"You're out late, Mr. Dibbler," he said, politely.

"Ah, Mr. Worde. Times is hard in the hot sausage trade," said Dibbler.

"Can't make both ends meat, eh?" said William. He couldn't have stopped himself for a hundred dollars and a cart load of figs.

Terry Pratchett, The Truth

#william de worde #cmot dibbler #the truth #discworld #terry pratchett #small talk #compulsive #puns #setup #punchline #hard times #can't stop himself #a hundred dollars and a cartload of figs #can't make both ends meat

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themaskedlady · 10 months

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rivias · 8 days

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if i don't have a silly little youtube video playing in the background at all times i get taken over by the thoughts

#small talk

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defectivegembrain · 20 days

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Thing is knowing that small talk has a function doesn't stop it feeling like it clouds up my brain and blocks out more important information you know

#actuallyautistic #small talk #social shit

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introvertlifestyle · 8 months

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#introvert #introversion #introverted #infj #infp #isfj #istj #istp #isfp #intj #introvert memes #introvert meme #introverts unite #introvert fun #small talk #deep talk #introvert problems #relatable #introverts be like

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thegoodmorningman · 19 days

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Who doesn't love barbershop conversations?

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astronomergrump · 16 days

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Tbh if I was ever in actual bugsnax I'd 100% eat those stupid googly eyed things, idc if they're parasites and make me mentally unstable. I'm a fat ass and I'm hungry, and they look cute. Idc what they do to me or how many calories those things have I wanna eat them

#bugsnax #bugsnak #Small talk #Idk #Reese speaks

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itsaspectrumcomic · 2 months

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I've noticed that sometimes when I don't complete the script the way other people expect, they kind of just… answer as if I asked the question anyway?

#actually autistic #autism #comic #autistic adult #neurodivergent #small talk #its a spectrum

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super-oddity · 7 months

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don’t make small-talk with me unless you want a rant about my current hyperfixation

#hyperfixation #small talk #loki #loki season 2 #owen wilson #mobius #mobius m mobius #rafael casal #hunter x 5 #mcu #marvel #neurodivergent #adhd

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thecollectedquotes · 8 months

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I cannot stand small talk, because I feel like there's an elephant standing in the room shitting all over everything and nobody is saying anything. I'm just dying to say, "Hey, do you ever feel like jumping off a bridge?" or "Do you feel an emptiness inside your chest at night that is going to swallow you?" But you can't say that at a cocktail party.

— Paul Gilmartin

#Paul Gilmartin #small talk #life quotes #quotes #quoteoftheday #quote #thoughts #spilled ink #aesthetic #zitat #life #text #words #writers #writing #books and libraries #empty #prose #poem #love

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pratchettquotes · 3 months

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"I take it there is no Mr. Ogg?" he said, eventually.

"Oh, yes, there's a Mr. Ogg," said Nanny. "We buried him years ago. Well, we had to. He was dead."

Terry Pratchett, Lords and Ladies

#casanunda #nanny ogg #lords and ladies #discworld #terry pratchett #courtship #small talk #awkward #widowed #necessity #semantics #we buried him years ago

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copperbadge · 1 year

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It's very weird but apparently true, according to the research, that Adderall doesn't just help with focus and clarity, it lowers rejection-sensitive dysphoria for some people. Those don't seem like they'd be governed by the same brain chemicals but nature is wild I guess.

Taking an Adderall before attending a social event doesn't make me behave differently, because my behavior was actually fine to start with, but what it does do is soften the impact afterward. I don't spend the hours and days following the event dissecting every interaction for what I did wrong. I knew intellectually that I was fine and my faux pas weren't that memorable when they happened, but now I know it intrinsically as well. The memory of the awkward (which wasn’t even awkward!) is dulled, which is nice.

It does bring a certain clarity about what the real issues are, though -- like I can see through the insecurity and pinpoint what was actually awkward. I think something I need to work on is accepting compliments gracefully, because I'm not good at it. I don't process them very quickly and usually respond...not incorrectly, but not appropriately either. Not so much random people, like the dude who complimented my hair as he passed me on the sidewalk today, but friends and acquaintances in a social situation, that requires more work.

The correct thing to do would be to say thank you, say something brief about what was complimented, and then turn it around and say something nice to the other person. I just get shocked that someone thinks there's anything particular about me to compliment, and I don't know how to reply without mitigating the compliment and then going off on a tangent. There’s a pretty easy script for all this, it’s just remembering to employ it rather than panicking -- just say “thank you!” brightly, which I already do, and then some nonsense like “I’m very pleased with X” instead of “Yeah it’s cheap but I like it” or whatever, and then “Hey you’re also XYZ, nice” instead of talking more about myself.

This all sounds extremely neurotypical I think you will agree.

Anyway, I just need to remember when I hear a compliment not to be weirded out that someone else thinks something nice of me, and instead remember to say thank you and compliment them in return. There is no reason people shouldn’t think nice things of me, I was literally diagnosed as being extremely charismatic. Also I am forty three years old and have two college degrees and own my own home, I am capable of learning to make better small talk. Lord I hope, anyway.

#sam has adhd #small talk

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