Cluster b culture is “I need something very badly, but I don’t know what. I can’t think of anything that would satisfy me.” like pacing back and forth between the fridge and the pantry, but never being interested in anything. Just stuck in this mind-numbing cycle of closing and re-opening doors, as if doing that enough times will somehow change what you see. It’s that exact feeling, but with life in general.

I’m the opposite of a lot of fans of characters in the sense that most people REALLY enjoy a blorbo who is outwardly cold and guarded but is Secretly Such a Sweetheart

But like. In my perspective, a character who consistently tries to act with kindness despite not ‘thinking’ kindly or having ‘ulterior motives’ is a better person.

I despise how people tend to change their mind on a person or character as soon as their thoughts seemingly contradict their actions, and use the thoughts as character appraisal instead of how they ACTUALLY TREAT PEOPLE. Like yes, people who are inwardly ‘kind’ but suffering can act cold as a defense mechanism. But why is a person who actively makes an effort to counteract their ‘nature’ suddenly a bad person?

(Yes this is from an NPD perspective)

abused ≠ ‘good’ person

Say it with me: Action matters in terms of doing good. Intent and thought mean nothing. If you do nothing bad, then it is not bad. ‘Ulterior motives’ are not inherently a dealbreaker. If no harm is or will be done, why the hell do you care?

reblog to blow up an ableist

People with psychotic disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with personality disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with substance abuse disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with tic disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with bipolar disorder are neurodivergent too.

People with dissociative disorders are neurodivergent too.

Neurodivergence isn’t just ADHD, autism, anxiety, and depression. (Plus those last two also get left out sometimes!) Neurodivergence is anything that affects your brain.

“Neurodivergent people hate loud noises” is actually just as valid as a statement as “neurodivergent people have delusions,” “neurodivergent people have tics,” or even “neurodivergent people have low empathy.”

If you advocate for mental health awareness, but joke about things like intrusive thoughts and schizophrenia, think it’s disgusting and lazy when people who are depressed can’t do things like showering or cleaning their room, use terms like “narcissistic abuse”, and believe that having ASPD, BPD, or NPD makes someone a bad person, you are not a mental health advocate. You don’t actually care about helping people or de-stigmatizing mental illness, you just want to make yourself feel like you do. You can’t pick and choose what disorders and symptoms are acceptable, and which ones make someone a bad person. Either you support everyone, or you support no one.

and if you’re neurodivergent/mentally ill and you do any of those things, you are part of the problem. there’s no such thing as “good/moral” disorders, or “bad/immoral” disorders. We all need to have each other’s backs.

victim of severe childhood abuse: the trauma made me depressed and hypervigilant

mental health allies: you are so valid and I feel so sorry for you

victim of severe childhood abuse: the trauma made me lose the ability to feel empathy

mental health allies: YOU'RE DISGUSTING AND EVIL I HOPE YOU DIE!!!!!

Sending my love to those with "bad person" traits.

Those with low/no empathy.

Those who can be manipulative.

Those who use their own experiences as a way of showing support to other people.

Those who lie frequently.

Those who get jealous of other people's success.

Those who get angry a lot.

Those who hate physical touch.

Those who cry so much that it comes off as manipulative.

None of these prove whether you're a good person or not. A lot of us have developed them as a result of trauma, or we've lived in an environment where this was our normal. And even if you haven't, you still deserve support.

Unfortunately, I think stigmatised disorder (personality disorders, psychotic disorders, etc) culture is realising something you experience has a name and finally feeling seen, but you go to google it for more resources and only find people talking about how horrible and morally evil you are for daring to have that symptom you never chose in the first place.

behold; how the public sees cluster b personality disorders

-"omg haha ur crazy thats so hot"

-evil abuser disorder 1

-evil abuser disorder 2

-"whats that?"

tired of people on tiktok acting like BPD and HPD are the ‘good cluster b disorders’ or the ‘victim cluster b’s’ meanwhile NPD and ASPD are the ‘evil mean abusive cluster b’s’

stfu.

we’re in the same cluster for a reason, you can’t support some whilst demonising the others.

sonic sez

Tips for Cluster B Anger

~ coming from someone who has BPD and a psychology special interest Have you been feeling like your anger is completely uncontrollable and all encompassing? Do you feel like your anger controls you more than you control it? Me too! But here are some things I've found to be helpful: - Taking notes. Write down triggers for what causes your anger episodes (as well as other episodes e.g sadness or paranoia) once you come down from it and start looking for a pattern. Not only will this help you to slow down and self reflect, you can begin to either avoid those triggers or find ways to regulate the effects. - SLOW DOWN. If something is making you want to hurt someone else or yourself, slow the FUCK down. Push against the grain, step back and let yourself have a good cry or scream into a pillow. Do whatever you can to (healthily) process the emotions, no matter how long it takes, before making major decisions. - Avoid self harm, substances or unhealthy habits like disordered eating or emotional self harm. It's so tempting, believe me, but it will only serve to make things worse. You might feel like you want it to get worse now, but in the future, you WILL regret it. If you start feeling these urges, refer to the urge surfing diagram below this. - Get outside advice. Think you're splitting but you can't tell? Run the situation by a close friend or loved one and see how they feel about it. Try to relay it with as little bias as possible and see if they agree with the decision you're about to make or if you perhaps need to reevaluate some things. - Take care of your heart. I know this is cliche, but a good sleep schedule, hearty food consumption habits, hydration, exercise routine and mental health care go a long way in helping you succeed in the above tips. You are struggling with an illness, and ill people need as much care as possible. Become your own parent. This works for anger in all Cluster B personality disorders, as well as with autism spectrum disorders! Urge surfing:

Not a day passes by without me being mad as shit that ableism against demonized mental illnesses is normalised.

We are not criminals. We are not dangerous. We do not owe neurotypicals a complete explanation on why we developed our disorders and why we aren't serial killers that kidnap people.

Fuck hollywood, fuck ableist criminology and fuck saneism.

i got a b in personality disorders??? did i not study enough?