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ask-sonata-dusk · 2 months

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February/March 2024 Update: Extended Hiatus

Hey guys!

So, ASD’s hiatus might be a bit longer than I expected…

You see, I think my life is starting to take a bit more of a different direction than it originally did, with the main reason is me considering making my first Visual Novel (which is based on a canon series that I know). So of course, it's going to require a lot of practice, watching tutorial videos, time, effort, and dedication. However, I am uncertain about the exact amount of time it will take. While I would like to believe that I can manage both a VN and ASD simultaneously, the truth is that it won't be easy. Therefore, I have decided to focus solely on my visual novel project as it would be more manageable for me.

I hate to make this decision, but as I’ve said countless times before (sorry 😅), the truth is that ASD is based on a story that has ended long ago. Although I don't want to let go of ASD yet, I want to focus on developing this new Visual Novel, in which I plan to work on alone also as an indie developer. This project may take a few months to a year, or even longer. Therefore, I must be honest and say that I don't know exactly when I'll be back (or if I am coming back). I want to come back, but it will take longer than one month. So, I'm technically going on an indefinite hiatus, but I hope to return to ASD in the future.

You are still allowed to send asks, but this blog might be inactive for quite a while, or at least the story itself will take a break. Maybe I’ll come back within time to post some EQG & ASD-related art from time to time. Now, do I recommend that you unfollow me? No, I don’t. I mean, I wouldn’t want you to. However, it wouldn’t be right to hold you here either 😅 So the choice is solely yours.

If your still looking for some Sonata Dusk askblog content, I recommend @sunsets-serenade. It’s the only MLP/EQG blog that I know it’s still active at this point. So all in all, the Ask Sonata Dusk story is on a semi-indefitnite hiatus, but it might post from time to time for art. I’ll let you guys know when I’ll return to continue the story!

Thank you everyone for following Ask Sonata Dusk for all these years. I hope to return soon one day!

- @ask-sonata-dusk Moderator

If you to reach me, contact or follow @misssakurapetal27

Please take care everyone 💖

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butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway · 2 years

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I was talking to a client today about "how to identify masking" as part of the process of learning how to shift masking from a reflexive coping strategy to a voluntary and conscious one and I feel like it led to a really important shift in framework FOR ME about masking and social distress.

Paraphrasing, the ideas we came to are as follows:

One of the reasons masking can be so difficult to recognize is because, essentially, masking is the act of performing "yourself" as a mirror for the other person you are interacting with. It's this idea of "I will micro-manage my own mood, affect, behavior, mannerisms, and environment in order to reflect back to you whatever version of "self" you need from me because if I don't there will be consequences". So because masking is essentially performing "mirroring" as selfhood by amplifying or minimizing aspects of yourself based on what you think the other person wants to see in you, it varies significantly from one context to another. The major commonality is that it takes up an INCREDIBLE amount of energy, mental and emotional resources, cognitive processing power, etc. So you don't identify masking by specific behaviors so much as by the feeling of "having a significant amount of your mental/emotional resources be occupied by the act of social interaction" to the point that it doesn't leave enough left-over for other cognitive tasks, or leaves you feeling exhausted and worn out, or basically by the impact that masking has on you during and after.

In this framework, part of why we get so anxious about new or unfamiliar people or situations is because we don't know how to mask in that context yet, and so until we get there and figure it out, we're basically just terrified of what could go wrong since we don't know what we're walking into.*

*This is the underlying framework of anticipatory and obsessive anxiety as well. Anticipatory and obsessive anxiety functions as the mechanism by which we conduct both predictive reasoning-basd advance planning and review/self-correctionof our mental predictive model.

Autistic aversion to uncertainty has a lot to do with our need to be able to use predictive reasoning-based advance planning to cope with "social deficits" aka how much harder it is for us to interpret subtextual/nonverbal cues, learn/meet social expectations, and work through/around disordered sensory processing. That predictive reasoning requires us to be familiar, in advance, with the stable constant factors that influence decision making in social contexts. If we aren't familiar with the constant variables than we can't plan, if we can't plan than we are more likely to make noticeable social mis-steps, and if we take notable social mis-steps there are consequences. It becomes necessary for us to be hypervigilent to observable patterns in other people's behavior in order to try to reverse engineer the social interaction playbook on the fly. That ends up making us more likely to assume personal responsibility for predicting and managing the emotional regulatory needs of people around us at all costs, replicating the behavioral/cognitive impacts of chronic traumatic stress due to the activation of our sympathetic nervous system from chronic hypervigilence.

Essentially, masking is a cognitive defense mechanism to severe and/or persistant traumatic interpersonal stressors. As the neurological impacts of chronic traumatic stress heal, we mask less frequently. But in order to heal from chronic traumatic stress, the human brain requires a safe environment that does not trigger a retraumatization episode or replicate feelings of helplessness/fear for safety. In other words, reducing/terminating masking safely requires us as autistic people to have consistent access to social environments in which we are able to utilize autistic interpersonal boundaries without fear of consequence or chonically unmet need. This requires the people around us to be able to respect not only autistic interpersonal boundaries, but also autistic self-expression/advocacy modalities and mediums.

I feel like a lot of the pieces of this framework have been rattling around in my head for a while but the flavor of words hit just right today and all the connections snapped into place.

Anyway, I'm still sort of sorting through the clinical implications of this framework but I think it's a direction I want to keep exploring for sure.

#i love my ASD client sessions it's so fucking MAGICAL how much those clients are thriving as we work together #like I don't know how to describe how well therapy goes when the client and clincian are speaking the same language it's really cool #anyway I feel like this is going to be part of how I assert the validity of my new modality because hot damn does it sync up perfectly #this framework so perfectly outlines the logical justification for the modality's clinical foundations #which will be really helpful in asserting the extant body of literature/evidence base for those clinical foundations as relevant #i need to update the files for my thesiiiiiiiiiiiiiis #actuallyautistic

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wanderingmind867 · 6 months

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Can people stop making jokes about tumblr dying!? It's not funny and it's just making me more nervous it's actually happening! This website over the past few years has given me some of my best (and only real) social interaction outside of my interactions with my dad. To think about it dying is not funny, it's stressful. I don't get why you all seem to think it's not big deal!

#autistic #asd #autism #neurodivergent #actually autistic #adhd #audhd #tumblr update #tumblr

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theorahsart · 5 months

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paupers Prince 6 pt 15

Please see #paupersprince6 for previous and future updates~

Alfred opens up a little bit about how parties cause him to feel 'very unwell' (that's sensory overload in regency-language lol)

#paupersprince6 #webcomic update #comic update #webcomics #autism comic #autistic oc #webcomic #webtoon #regencycore #sensory overload #autistic #sensory issues #actually autistic #comic art #comic #autistic things #neurodivergent #asd

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inperspecter · 4 months

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Anonymous asks have been permanently turned off!

Having them enabled is probably Not a Great Idea™ so I'm just gonna turn them off before anyone abuses them.

If they want to play Peter Pan and act like they're perpetually a bratty kid, they're gonna have to do it on main, yo.

I cannot stand it when people use autism as a free pass to be a completely crap excuse for a person. If you're smart enough to operate a computer or phone you are entirely smart enough to know what right and wrong and good and bad behavior are. You're not fooling anybody by saying "You can't be mean to me because I have autism (or some other disability)! You're so ableist!" My dude, I am disabled.

No, you're a whiner who got caught with their pants down and you can't accept the fact that you can't use your get out of jail free card in the real world.

I'm sorry your parents never knocked you off your high horse and gave you a face full of that horse's road apples but that's not anyone else's problem but yours.

If I say something 'wrong', I'm not doing it on purpose I just may have misunderstood/be ignorant about the topic; please just let me know (civilly) and give me a (legit) reason(s) why.

I'm not an asshole (though I'm not a doormat either) but I'm not going to cater to anyone and I'm going to respond to the "tone" you set. I'm too old to be putting up with drama and I'm not gonna. You can think I'm the biggest b!tch in the entire world. Call me Count Pidge without the "O" if you want, I don't care.

I'm not your dad and you're not my problem, so.

I'm not shy about the fact that I just don't get most social cues, subtle or not- or sarcasm. I'm not gonna ever play mind games because I think that would lead to a legitimate brain hard drive failure for me.

You could tell me the sky is green and I'd probably respond by telling you to unplug everything that uses an outlet then because that means a big storm is coming, NGL.

That doesn't mean I'm stupid or mentally retarded, I just sincerely don't understand why people take the time to say something that they don't mean.

Just... say what you mean. It's not hard, right, what do you want to waste your breath for?

¯_(ツ)_/¯

(If you pitch a fit over the fact I used the word retarded, I literally have gotten called that multiple times over my entire life. Please, shut up. Thanks.)

#text post #psa #blog update #txt post #ask #anonymous asks #anonymous #asks #ASD #actually autistic #inperspecter

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maccas-strawbi-sundae · 5 months

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✨💗 Late November! 💗✨

Hey everyone! I hope that you all had a wonderful October especially to those who celebrate Halloween! Hopefully everyone's November has been good too. This post is massively scatterbrained as I have kept going in and out of this post in my drafts also, photos at the bottom of this post! :)

♥ I am in my food prep era! I've always struggled with eating the same foods (unless I really love them) multiple nights a week but, my partner and I are now committed to spending a day a week to cook up an assortment of meals to freeze so we can go from A to Z whenever we feel like eating something different which is a nice thought.

♥ Last month was difficult, my pop passed away and his funeral was the first I've ever attended, it was very difficult but beautiful and moving.

♥ Christmas is on the horizon and I have spent a wee bit of money trying to get to everyone presents wise! I've also committed myself to attending the family Christmas which I haven't done for a few years now.

♥ I went out for the first time since my stay in the APU and it was difficult. I froze up in public as the place was very crowded and my partner kind of had to pull me along. I was okay after a while but it felt like a panic attack was imminent.

♥ I have my last two tattoo appointments for the year coming up! More spots on my legs and above my knees on both thighs.

(My partner got COVID after a shift and I then got it from him so I unfortunately missed those two appointments but, they've been rescheduled for January!)

♥ My partner has suggested we do a membership with the local leisureplex as that way we can both use the gym and the pools. My partner really enjoys swimming and it's a good way to get some work done on our health.

♥ I have been practicing on false nails as I applied for two courses for study (nail tech and pathology) so I included those below! I would like to do nail tech as it can allow me to work from home as well and I like 'junk nails' (with all the charms) but I think I'd specialise in natural nails. I have been wanting to go back to work despite being burnt out so I have been trying to find jobs that are more one on one in environments that aren't as busy so if I finish the course I'll be in work before I get married in October. I hear back next week so I'll post an update on whether I've been accepted or not into my choice courses!!

♥ I have to now buy my wedding dress (bridal shopping on Monday) as my partners Oma has declined a little and is no longer able to do so. So, I've had to rearrange my budget but also I am also a bit worried over losing some weight and then needing to get it altered. Never the less, I called the bridal store to confirm everything and they got me to upload photos of what I was looking for so that they can narrow it down for the appointment. I am hoping it goes well!

♥ It is essentially summer in Australia now so, the days are hot and I am struggling to do a great deal honestly just to get motivated and get things done but I am trying! I have a doctors appointment to sort out trialing a new antidepressant and to get a blood test done. I have so much to sort out but the year is coming to a close so I am trying to wrap it all up neatly.

♥ An update photo! I look horrendous and I fried some of the lower half of my hair (hence the change in tone) as I wanted to go partially green so now I have to get it fixed up aha. Beyond that I have included some of my favourite products! Vetta is a brand of pasta that can be found at Woolworths (if you're in Australia) that do high fibre, high protein and also low-gi pasta! Muscle Nation is also an Australian supplement and gym wear brand (I already had their protein custard and some other products but, with the black Friday sales I have purchased some new products which I will review on here when they arrive!) that I quite like. I may like variation in food but I do tend to like the same flavours so for me the choc mint reminds me of the choc mint Sipahh straws from way back when. They offer a lot of flavours including banana which my partner loves (he said it tastes similar to banana Nesquik which was discontinued here years and years ago) so if you wanted to give them a look they offer a fair few things. Protein pancake mix, protein jelly sachets, protein waters, casein protein custards, protein powders, pre-workouts, daily greens, energy drinks, aminos and protein bars! They also offer vegan friendly plant protein and they even have recipes online (mostly for their casein protein custard).

#mental health #weight loss #health & fitness #nails #junk nails #personal #me #life #life update #product #protein #pasta #aesthetic #picsart #ASD #autistic adult #blue #aestethic

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autisticdreamdrop · 2 years

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please use your accommodations.

today's post is another reminder to autistics to use accommodations. use stim/fidget toys, use ear defenders/ noise canceling headphones/earbuds. use sunglasses. use AACs. use whatever helps you cope, what gets through the day. whatever gives you support, gets you through life easier

Shane was nonverbal and semiverbal for about 4 days. Very overwhelmed. We're scared they're gonna go dormant again but we're doing our best to keep them engaged. They're very fearful and scared. The system has been stressed out for lots of reasons we can't go into right now.

Shane doesn't want to front. We're doing our best to support them. They need love and support and care right now. We're talking about hard things in therapy. We're they've been fronting for small amounts of time cause they're so overwhelmed.

They have been regressed lately. Usually they age slide around from an older to a teen, lately they've been a toddler or a bit older. (around 4 to 10) they're doing a lot of nonverbal communication because they feel bad when they speak/hate speaking. Lots of meltdowns and shutdowns. For them, me and other alters.

Shane has been non/semiverbal more and more lately.They can be semi/nonverbal. That's okay. Any alter can be non/semivebral, as long as they're communicating it's okay. We have plenty of nonvebral alters.We use a lot or nonverbal communication in headspace.

Right now our homework in therapy is to take breaks and try to get a grip before we're too overwhelmed and have anxiety/panic attacks or meltdowns/shutdowns. We go to our room away from our family and start using coping mechanisms. dim/turn off lights, use ear defenders/noise canceling headphones/earbuds, sensory friendly clothes, stimming, chewelry, do things we enjoy like draw, listen to music and stim.

we actually bought Loop noise canceling earbuds and it was a very good purchase. We are gonna make a post reviewing it. We got the regular Experience pair, we want to buy a Quiet pair as well. Next month we will order those (the Quiet ones).

we wear our ear defenders/noise canceling headphones or earbuds pretty much all day. We wear our sunglasses outside. We use diffrent AACs in headspace but want to start using them more IRL. It's hard because a lot of our family would not support us/ it's not safe for us and forces us to be verbal. But we plan to use them around our mental health team

we are working on a lot of stuff, but if you can use your accommodations. Sending love

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henryzin · 1 year

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A realization I had today

I mean, it's not a bad thing

#the counter of people who said im autistic in on 5 now #i think its the time to self-diagnose...#i love my blorbos #theyre all just like me fr #autism spectrum disorder #autistic artist #autism #asd #aaaaaaaaaaaa #updating myself

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dolugecat · 2 years

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Finally

(Wholesome story)

I finally feel safe and happy. I just burst into tears randomly after a good day. I have a roommate who is extremely supportive of my autism and has never judged me no matter how embarrassing my meltdowns are to me. I got off some meds that were making me gain weight and I have been working out so I’m fit. Im far away from my abusers. Im in a racist-free environment; the weight of my race finally off my back. I’m finally comfortably and openly non-binary and gay (sapphic). I finally have a gf and she’s very kind. She on her own wanted to rewatch my favorite anime (favorite is understatement, it’s special interest) and she loves it. Season 3 of my fav anime is coming out this fall (mob psycho). I have a job being a parapro for the ASD classroom at a high school and feel so normal around them. This might seem like just a typical life but (TW: suicide mention)

Last fall I had a plan to kill my self, got rejected by my birth family, betrayed by the very friends I loved so much I was gonna give them my stuff when I ****, experienced significant maltreatment at two forced hospital stays, and was unemployed.

I’m alive, I’m actually finally living freely and happily. It’s possible guys. I didn’t expect to be here still. But I’m glad I am

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ask-sonata-dusk · 4 months

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As of today, December 22 2023, Ask Sonata Dusk is on a Mini Hiatus!

Hey guys! This is the mod of @ask-sonata-dusk here, letting you know that ASD is going on a short hiatus. I’m home with a sickness and I won’t have enough energy to do anything 🤒 I would like to apologize on the behalf of this and I would hope to come back well and ready to send out more ASD content for you guys. Happy Holidays everybody and I really hope to see you guys soon, whether if it’s late December or January!

I still recommend to look out for any more Ask Sonata Dusk updates!

-Ask Sonata Dusk Mod

If you would like to reach me, go to @misssakurapetal27

#misssakurapetal27 #ask sonata dusk #sonata dusk #merry christmas #equestria girls #the ex dazzling #my little pony equestria girls #mlp fim #mlp #eqg #my little pony #my little pony friendship is magic #ASD update #ask sonata dusk update

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fumifooms · 2 years

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You see this is why I switched my college program from science to art, yeah I may be doing research on the neurological effects of sugar consumption and how sugar addiction can tie in with self-medication but I’m doing so at midnight in the goal of doing an analysis of a fictional character then posting it on tumblr

#fumi rambles #asd #character analysis thoughts #i can’t word what’s the journaling update term. Ah yes fumi updates #can you guess who i’m talking about #i’ll give you a hint #death note

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wanderingmind867 · 5 months

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There's a real paradox here that makes it impossible for me to get a new hyperfixation/take a break from Tumblr. I usually use tumblr to access things about my new interest. This was easier when I never had an account and just scrolled through the tags and endlessly bookmarked things. But there's no way to go back to that now: for one, the tablet I did all that with is nearly dead (and I still never use it anymore because the thought of it dying terrifies me), and two: Tumblr is nearly impossible to use without an account. If I log out of my account and attempt to search for anything, this screen inevitably pops up:

THIS! THIS RIGHT HERE IS MY PROBLEM! It's impossible to scroll without an account, but I never want to leave my dashboard once I log into my account. It's a cursed paradox!! I hate it!!! I'm reposting this now because nobody has seen this post in a long time, and yet I still strigg with it. What was tumblr thinking when they implemented this policy!?

#autism #asd #neurodivergent #adhd #tumblr #problems #tumblr issues #tumblr problems #tumblr update #tumblr design #tumblr updates #tumblr bs #autistic #audhd #actually autistic #actually audhd #what was tumblr thinking!?#what was the goal here?#because this probably would have only deterred me from making an account

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theorahsart · 3 months

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Paupers Prince 7 pt 4

Please see #paupersprince7 for future and previous updates~

Autistic excitement is like a whole different level of excitement (that Sofia is evidently used to from Alfred, somehow haha)

#paupersprince7 #I need to draw more bows with Alfreds outfits #I rly like his giant bows lol #webcomic #comic #autisticrep #actually autistic #autism comic #regencycore #webtoon #comic art #comic update #webcomic update #webcomics #comics #art #actuallyautistic #asd

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capseisen · 11 months

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Happy 6/9 (or 9/6), Lío [he/xem] 🎂🦎

#art by capseisen #digital art #drawing #painting #portrait #character sheet #my works #artists on tumblr #throwback: I made it his birthday all b/c my bigoted HS classmate has this birthday #and I'm gay so it felt spiteful to do so #Líonard [he/xem]#I updated his Toyhouse in celebration #shout-out to all the stoic ASD-havers #and the vulture culture freaks (affectionate)#you're hella valid #and this character is both #I'll set up the art queue now #Had to add alt text to all of my art before posting #image description in alt

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maccas-strawbi-sundae · 4 months

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✨💗 December 💗✨

♥ I got accepted into my course! It starts late next month, three days a week so hopefully I can go back to working outside of study just to help out my partner in regards to income (so long as it isn't customer service). I've been so anxious, I attended an info session with my partner and it would seem my class is primarily on the younger side and as we have to work on one another for practice it made me even more stressed.

♥ I am slowly getting around to trying all of the Muscle Nation products! I have been really unwell physically so I have been doing the minimum honestly.

♥ I picked out my wedding dress which surprisingly wasn't too bad of an experience? I had always expected the worst being someone on the bigger side e.g: nothing will fit, nothing will look flattering on me, I'm going to never find anything I like etc. Well, I did find something I like and ironically, it is by the same designer of the dress I originally fell for but, could not have as nowhere in the state where I live had it. I'll include a photo below but, for anyone who is interested in the finer details, the dress is the 7177+ by Stella York and the dress I had fallen for was the 7322+ by Stella York. Both dresses have a similar flow in terms of applique and design aha (you can also partially see my sternum tattoo hence the pink being visible on my chest).

♥ I had to cancel my rescheduled tattoo appointments as they were not feasible in terms of time (they were booked for days in which I'd be studying as, at the time I hadn't heard back) or money as I had all these things come out of nowhere all at once but, my regular tattoo artist thankfully was understanding as always and is willing to hold onto the designs for me for when I am able to come in.

♥ One of the more tedious tasks this year has been cleaning. It is an every day task but, I've always struggled with cleaning (outside of just regular dump whatever in the bin kind of cleaning). I can organise things but the actual take the time to clean has always been difficult for me. I get these odd moods now and again where I will spend hours cleaning, even deep cleaning appliances. Thankfully I had that happen today, I'd been wanting to clean out the fridge properly before Christmas and today that happened, I got down, pulled out all the shelves and cleaned it all, got in all the grooves and hard to reach spots too. I then spent some time doing all the dishes that were by the sink, re-organised all the cupboards and finally worked on the bedroom. It honestly came at a much needed time. Tomorrow I aim to organise all my clothes as this time of year I do a cull on clothes to donate.

♥ Alongside the cleaning, I've been trying to sort out what can go into storage (I have a storage locker, it costs $250AUD a month in rent) as our bedroom has been piled up with boxes but also little knick-knacks for a while not to mention my limited edition Care Bear plushes (which I keep in the box). I am part way there, just need to see when it can all go out to storage as my partner chose to put majority of his presents for me out in the storage locker.

♥ I think everyone tends to experience some kind of stuff around with grocery shopping for Christmas, unfortunately I am encountering it this year. Due to financial constraints it has been picking and choosing when and where can we get X, Y and Z. There is still 14 or so items that are needed (most go hand in hand for certain dishes) on my end since I cook every Christmas. This year there will be less than what we had last year however, we are attending my family's Christmas lunch this year so all that I'll be cooking is the dinner aspect but of course, a trifle will also be done up.

♥ Wedding planning is on the minimal side at the moment but, I've been thinking of having a sunset theme for photos e.g: people wear colours of the sunset so that when we take photos everyone stands out with different colours of the sunset. I think it would look really pretty. Oranges, yellows, pinks, purples and blues too. I actually have to order in a dress for my younger sister to try which is a really pretty 'dusty' blue.

#mental health #weight loss #health & fitness #personal #life #life update #ASD #autistic adult #studies #me #wedding #wedding dress #picsart #green #aesthetic

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pi-jessicajones · 1 year

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I BROUGHT MYSELF A CRYSTAL ADVENT CALENDAR AND FUCK MY ADHD IS LIKE.....LET’S OPEN IT ALL NOW!!!!!

#the mun talks #the mun updates #the mun talks about the mun #adhd #swears #on the spectrum #asd

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