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bloompawz · 7 hours

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[Image ID: A screenshot from a parent who says, "I promised my son a PS5 if he got straight A's and he did, but I don't want to give him a PS5. What should I do?" End ID]

A lot of parents don't seem to understand that promises to their kids work both ways. If you want your kid to be productive with their school work, chores, etc. they need an incentive to do so, and you need to hold true to your promises. You need to build trust with your kid. If you don't, then what reason do they have to listen to you? They have zero reason to trust your input.

Kids are people too. They're complex individuals with their own thoughts and needs, and your actions as a parent will impact them for the rest of their lives. You need to care about maintaining their trust and upholding your promises.

A few weeks ago, my mom complained about my younger brother refusing to do anything on his own. Now, I know how it is over there. I know how they (don't) parent him, and I know how they (don't) spend time with him. Before I moved out, I felt like I was more of a parent to him than either of his actual parents, and I'm not supposed to be. We're brothers.

It's true that he doesn't really do things on his own. Like, "Can you put away the stuff on the counter?" is answered with "No" or "I won't unless you put some of it away too."

That's not good, because it's important to be capable of self sufficiency. He won't even wash himself a spoon if he needs one. But you can't sit around complaining and expect things to change. He's a little kid, and it's his parents' job to guide him. So, I gave some advice.

I told them that they need to set up a rewards system so he has an incentive to do stuff on his own. They said "he doesn't care about rewards; he only cares about video games."

I know for a fact that he wishes his parents spent more time with him. I've seen him complain about it many times before, and he had good reason to. And I know he would absolutely love it if they engaged with his interests. So, I came up with the perfect idea:

"Get some star stickers and something to put them on. Every time he does something on his own, put a star sticker on the sheet. Pick a number- five, ten, doesn't matter- and set that as the weekly star goal. If he meets the star goal by the end of the week, he gets to pick any game he wants out of the games he owns, and you have to play that game with him."

The response to this suggestion?

"But then I'd have to play with him."

YES. That's the point.

I said, "If I still lived with you, I'd do it myself. But I don't. Parenting is a two way street, and if you want him to put in effort and change how he acts, you need to put in effort too."

They said "He'd just try to find a way to get the reward without doing the work."

I said, "Don't let him. Have a backbone. Make the rules clear, and don't bend them for him or for you. You need to have a backbone and keep your promises."

But they don't seem willing to try it. It's almost like I knew this would happen once I moved out. The solution is right there. It didn't take long to come up with it. It kills two birds with one stone: incentivize him to be more self sufficient, and spend more time with him.

But nah. Fuck that. Too much work. It's easier to just blame the kid.

Parents really post stuff like this online and wonder why their kids don't trust them

#parenting #parenting advice #child development

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bloompawz · 2 days

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ive been seeing a new wave of transmedicalists lately I think we gotta start being vocal again about how nasty they are. you don't need to take hormones or have surgery to be a trans person. changing your name and pronouns is gender affirming care. wearing new clothes and hair and makeup is part of transitioning too. you dont need to pass to be trans, you don't need to be male or female.

nonbinary, agender, genderfluid, genderqueer people are trans too if that's a label they want to use for themselves. and anyone who says otherwise is a piece of shit. it's not "anti-transitioning" to say so, it's anti-telling other people what to do with their bodies. it's pro-minding your own fucking business and letting people do what they want with their gender and treating them with compassion and enthusiasm

#transgender #trans #nonbinary #enby #genderqueer #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer

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bloompawz · 2 days

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I'm not sure what you're having difficulty understanding, but I'll try to explain as much as I can.

AFAB = Assigned female at birth. Doctors usually assign babies as female if they don't appear to have been born with a penis.

AMAB = Assigned male at birth. Doctors usually assign babies as male if they do appear to have been born with a penis.

Intersex = An umbrella term for sex variations which don't fall neatly into the binary categories of male or female. This includes things like chromosomal variations, genital variations, etc.

Intersex people are usually assigned female or male at birth. However, AFAB intersex people don't always have vaginas, and AMAB intersex people don't always have penises.

Bottom surgery also exists, as in the surgical changing of a person's genitalia. This includes things like vaginoplasty, vulvoplasty, phalloplasty, metoidioplasty, nullification, etc. So, a person won't necessarily have the same genitals that they had at birth.

If a person was assigned female at birth, that does not necessarily mean that they have a vagina. Likewise, if a person was assigned male at birth, that does not necessarily mean that they have a penis.

AFAB/AMAB tells you which gender a person was assigned at birth, and that's it. It tells you nothing about their actual anatomy or medical needs.

Some of y’all forget that bottom surgery and intersex people exist.

Amab ≠ penis

Afab ≠ vagina

There are people who are afab who have penises and people who are amab who have vaginas.

So please for the love of god stop saying afab when you mean ‘someone who has a vagina’ and amab when you mean ‘someone who has a penis’

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bloompawz · 4 days

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Please take some time to read this post. Yes, romantic love is not the only form of love that exists. I've never seen a loveless aro deny that. But that does not mean that love is a universal concept or experience, nor is it inherently what defines a person's queerness.

"being queer is about love" hmm actually being queer is about defying societal norms about gender and sexuality and does not depend on feeling love at all

#aromantic #aro #arospec #aro spec #aro spectrum #aromantic spectrum #loveless aro #loveless aromantic #aromanticism #aromanticity #aspec #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer

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bloompawz · 4 days

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The double sports bra method is not safe. I know that gender dysphoria can make people desperate sometimes, but it's not worth it. It can cause harm to your body, and can even negatively interfere with top surgery down the road. Use a proper binder, trans tape, or loose/layered clothes to give the illusion of flatness if possible.

Please remake the poll with a disclaimer. This feels irresponsible.

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bloompawz · 6 days

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I'm gonna copy/paste this:

Non-SAM aro is a term for aromantic people who don't use the split attraction model (also known as the SAM). The split attraction model separates attraction into different labels/experiences. For example, being asexual and aromantic is an example of the split attraction model in use, because sexuality and romance are labeled separately.

Non-SAM aros don't use a separate label for their sexual orientation. They might label their sexual orientation in the same way that they label their romantic orientation (e.g. "my sexual orientation is aro"), or they might leave their sexual orientation completely unlabeled.

Non-SAM aros may or may not label their nonrose orientations separately*, as the split attraction model is most commonly used in reference to sexuality and romance specifically. It is generally accepted that non-SAM aros can use separate labels for their nonrose attraction or lack thereof. For example, a person could be an aplatonic non-SAM aro, a bisensual non-SAM aro, etc. as long as they don't label their sexuality separately.

*Nonrose is a term for attractions and orientations which are neither sexual nor romantic. This includes platonic, queerplatonic, alterous, aesthetic, sensual, etc.

hii. i've seen the term non-sam aro. do you know what it means? thanks! <2

well, the SAM (split attraction model) is a way to separate romantic and sexual attractions.

it’s not always accepted within the aspec community, so I would assume a non-sam aro would be someone who didn’t use the model?

if anyone knows more about it, please feel free to comment :)

#aspec #aromantic #aro #arospec #aro spec #aromantic spectrum #aro spectrum #aromanticism #aromanticity #non sam aro #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer

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bloompawz · 9 days

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hey i've been like pretty low on money the last few months, which has generally been surprisingly fine (though definitely stressful) but i'm now at a point where it's potentially about to get difficult. while im excited to finally about to be debt free i currently also have an open bill for legal fees im late on that's almost an entire months worth of my current regular income (which is only around 800-1000 USD).

any donations on my ko-fi (and especially monthly subscriptions) would help me tremendously with getting over this hump next month and allow for me to continue and expand my work (the big article im working is already like 3 months of work by two people and over a hundred dollars in expenses).

#maia arson crimew #donations #mutual aid #fundraiser

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bloompawz · 9 days

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I've had thoughts about this for a while. I talked about this through the lens of shipping once on Discord, which I'll paraphrase here:

Does anyone else sometimes feel like alloromantic people ship aro characters in queerplatonic relationships, just as a substitute for a romantic relationship? I'm aromantic and romance-indifferent, and I don't dislike romantic or queerplatonic relationships personally. But when I see alloros ship aromantic people (even queerplatonically), it sometimes just feels... off? How do I put this... it feels like it's just another way to pressure aromantic people into relationships. If we don't want a romantic relationship, we're expected to want a queerplatonic one, or another form of intimate nonromantic relationship. Meanwhile aros who don't want any of that continue to be ostracised. It feels like an extension of amatonormativity. Sometimes, when alloromantic people ship aros together queerplatonically, it feels like they actually just want to ship them romantically, but they label it as queerplatonic so it "doesn't cause any issues." I think this is true particularly when it comes to alloros who only ship aro characters queerplatonically, but never ship two (or more) alloromantic characters together queerplatonically. It makes it obvious that they just see queerplatonic relationships as "aromantic romance," at least in my opinion.

(This is almost verbatim. I mainly changed some grammar, and also changed how I referred to myself in this message, because I identified as aroace at the time and no longer do. I'm just aromantic.)

Anyway, it was a conversation about how alloromantic people ship aromantic characters, but the sentiment applies to real life as well. It often feels like people see QPRs as an "acceptable substitute" for romance. There's still an insistence that a void exists, and some sort of relationship needs to fill it, and especially a monogamous one.

"Aromantic people need a romantic partner to be happy" is an amatonormative statement.

"Aromantic people need some sort of partner to be happy, but not necessarily a romantic one" is a statement which is just as amatonormative as the former.

Please don't act like romance needs a substitute. It doesn't.

I swear, if "aromantic people need a queerplatonic partner to be happy" becomes an actual societal expectation, I'm going to actually cry.

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bloompawz · 10 days

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Chuzzle Deluxe (2005)

#MY CHILDHOOD #I LOVE THIS GAME #CHUZZLE AND PVZ AND BOOKWORM AND BEJEWELED #POPCAP GAMES WERE MY JAM

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bloompawz · 10 days

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I would also like to mention that this is legally recognized as a form of Holocaust denial in Germany, where it can be prosecuted as a crime.

JK Rowling has used her billionaire legal team to silence a Jewish woman for telling the truth about her contempt for trans victims of the Holocaust.

Scotland’s network of “freedom of speech” organisations, as per usual, have nothing to say about the use of wealth to gag critics of the wealthy.

However fast they race to condemn the LGBT+ community for saying the names of those who harm us. Statements at the ready to insist that transphobes no one wants to work with anymore must be given every possible opportunity to gain from their bigotry.

But it's not the billionaires who are being silenced, as our media breathlessly echo their every hateful proclamation.

It's journalists and activists forced to publicly humiliate themselves under the weight and the threat of billionaire legal teams or be driven into destitution.

We deserve better. Freedom of speech needs to mean something

#holocaust denial #holocaust #jk rowling #transphobia #transmisogyny #antisemitism

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bloompawz · 10 days

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Another bambi-sexual background, for fun :3

Bambi-sexual flag

Definition of bambi-sexual

Bambi-sexual, also spelled bambisexual or simply shortened to bambi, is a term for people who prefer nonsexual touch over sexual touch. The term originated in the 1980s or earlier.

The term was featured in The Alyson Almanac, which was originally published in 1989, with its second edition published the following year. In The Alyson Almanac, the following definition was given:

BAMBI-SEXUALITY. Physical interaction centered more about touching, kissing, and caressing than around genital sexuality.

Bambi-sexuality is often associated with lesbians (i.e. bambi lesbians), but is not exclusive to them. The term can be used by straight people, gay men, nonbinary people, aromantic people, and people of any other orientation and gender, so long as there is a preference for nonsexual touch.

Bambi-sexual people may or may not be additionally interested in sex. Bambi-sexuality also may or may not be an asexual/ace-spec sexuality, depending on the individual.

Explanation behind the flag

I based the colors on Bambi, from the 1942 Disney film by the same name. Each stripe also has its own additional meaning.

Yellow represents light and/or nonsexual forms of touch

Orange represents energy, joy, and warmth

Red represents nonsexual passion and intimacy

Purple brown represents asexual and ace-spec bambis

Yellow is a light color, which feels fitting to represent touch which does not involve genital contact, as genital touch/sex is often associated with darkness (dim lights, nighttime, etc). The lightness of the yellow can also allude to touch which is, in and of itself, considered a "light" form of touch, such as gentle caressing.

Orange commonly represents energy, joy, and warmth. This stripe highlights some of the positive emotions that can come with physical intimacy, whether of a sexual nature or not.

Red is commonly depicted as a fiery, passionate color. It is often used to represent things like love, sex, and intimacy. In this case, this is nonsexual passion and intimacy.

Purple brown represents asexual and ace-spec bambis because purple is commonly used to represent asexuality, and there is a lot of overlap between asexuality and bambi-sexuality. Some consider bambi-sexuality to be somewhat of a precursor to asexuality; people who identify as asexual now may have identified as bambi-sexual a few decades ago. While I'm not asexual/ace-spec myself (I'm just a bambi), I felt that this was important to include.

On a similar note, I decided to use only four stripes, specifically so it would look good/blend well with the asexual flag, due to the overlap in communities and identities.

LPS flag and bambi pride backgrounds for fun!

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bloompawz · 10 days

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welcome to my food blog i guess. transgender oreo

#trans #transgender #nonbinary #enby #trans meme #trans memes #transgender meme #transgender memes #genderqueer #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer

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bloompawz · 10 days

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If someone tells you that they don't want to be called bro/dude/man, you can often just drop the word from the sentence. This actually works perfectly with both examples you gave:

"C'mon, man." -> "C'mon."

"Bro, did you hear..." -> "Did you hear..."

But if you want to substitute it with another word, rather than just removing the word, here are some good options:

If you're using it as a pause or a call to attention, try "hey" or "yo" instead. For example, "bro, did you hear..." becomes "hey, did you hear..." or "yo, did you hear..."

If you're using the word to emphasize an emotion as a reaction, try another word that can express the same thing. For example, if your reaction is "bro..." try:

woah

nooo...

yo

oh...

yikes

jeez

jinkies

zoinks, scoob

girl (if they're fine with it)

And if you're stumped on what's appropriate to use, you can always just ask whoever you're talking to. If someone says "Don't call me bro," you can just say "Oh, sorry, what should I use instead?"

Why do some people get so offended when trans women say “hey can you please not call me dude/bro/man?”

Don’t try to justify/defend yourself by going “ohh I use them gender neutrally!” and then just ignoring that it doesn’t matter if you think it’s gender neutral - if someone doesn’t want to be called certain terms you should respect that! Even if those term are being used gender neutrally.

You just gotta go “I’m sorry for calling you that, I’ll stop using those terms to refer to you.”

It’s really simple. Most trans girls I know aren’t gonna be mad if you call them those stuff once and then after being corrected apologize and stop calling them those terms.

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bloompawz · 10 days

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Tumblr is still actively endorsing transphobia on this website. Reblog the fuck out of this.

Tumblr got back to me about a report for once... Just to tell me that the blatant transphobia I reported "does not violate community guidelines."

These are the posts which Tumblr staff decided should be kept on the platform, with screenshots.

Also, I apologize in advance for censoring the usernames of the transphobes in the screenshots. Tumblr does absolutely nothing to protect its trans users, so I wouldn't be surprised if I ended up getting in trouble instead, just for including their usernames. I will mention, however, that every transphobe had transphobic dogwhistles in their usernames and/or bio. Transphobes are not difficult to spot. Staff are just apathetic at best, and actively transphobic at worst.

Exhibit A: A post in which someone repeatedly and explicitly misgenders trans women, fearmongers about "trans ideology," uses transphobic dogwhistles, and denies the existence of transmisogyny. This isn't even the full post; it was an incredibly long transphobic tangent. The comments were full of transphobes as well. None of them were banned. Tumblr staff think this is okay.

Exhibit B: A post in which someone delights in the idea of a trans person hurting themselves by "ripping at their surgery scars," with additional ableist undertones. Not a hypothetical trans person either; a real individual trans person. She was not banned.

Exhibit C: A post in which a self-proclaimed TERF refers to consensual gender affirming surgeries as "forced surgeries" and frames trans people as "Nazis and fascists" just for trying to become comfortable in our own bodies. She did this in direct response to trans people celebrating their own surgeries. She was not banned.

Exhibit D: A post in which someone says "transgenderism is erasing women" and blames the existence of misgendering and degendering on trans people, as if we aren't also hurt by those things frequently. She also said that trans women are "not women" in comments on her own post. She was not banned.

Exhibit E: A post in which someone engages in a blatant form of Holocaust denial, by saying trans transgender and queer people "were not targeted" (while simultaneously casting doubt on the validity of those identities themselves by putting them in scare quotes). Trans persecution and book burnings are a well documented aspect of the Holocaust. This post was also reblogged by other transphobes. None of them were banned.

@staff care to explain why you think these posts are okay? Would you like to tell us how and why these "don't violate community guidelines"? Did you learn nothing from the lawsuit that happened because of transphobia among staff? After everything that has happened, why is there still nothing being done about the rampant transphobia on this website?

Just curious.

Also, in case I get banned or this post gets deleted, here's an archived version of my post. Keep it tucked away somewhere.

#transphobia #transmisia #transmisogyny #bioessentialism #queerphobia #queermisia #holocaust #book burning #misgendering #degendering #trans #transgender #genderqueer #nonbinary #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer #ableism

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bloompawz · 10 days

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Thumper-sexual was proposed in 2015 as a counterpart to bambi-sexual, in an article about bambi-sexuality. I don't think it ever really caught on, but I it seems like a pretty good equivalent to me. The idea behind it was that Thumper is also a character from Bambi, and was additionally a rabbit (a species commonly used as a sex symbol), so thumper-sexual would be the term for people who prefer genital touch over non-genital touch.

I've also seen "aphrodite lesbian" and "eros gay" coined specifically for lesbians and gay men/nblm who prefer sex over nonsexual physical intimacy.

Bambi-sexual flag

Definition of bambi-sexual

Bambi-sexual, also spelled bambisexual or simply shortened to bambi, is a term for people who prefer nonsexual touch over sexual touch. The term originated in the 1980s or earlier.

The term was featured in The Alyson Almanac, which was originally published in 1989, with its second edition published the following year. In The Alyson Almanac, the following definition was given:

BAMBI-SEXUALITY. Physical interaction centered more about touching, kissing, and caressing than around genital sexuality.

Bambi-sexuality is often associated with lesbians (i.e. bambi lesbians), but is not exclusive to them. The term can be used by straight people, gay men, nonbinary people, aromantic people, and people of any other orientation and gender, so long as there is a preference for nonsexual touch.

Bambi-sexual people may or may not be additionally interested in sex. Bambi-sexuality also may or may not be an asexual/ace-spec sexuality, depending on the individual.

Explanation behind the flag

I based the colors on Bambi, from the 1942 Disney film by the same name. Each stripe also has its own additional meaning.

Yellow represents light and/or nonsexual forms of touch

Orange represents energy, joy, and warmth

Red represents nonsexual passion and intimacy

Purple brown represents asexual and ace-spec bambis

Yellow is a light color, which feels fitting to represent touch which does not involve genital contact, as genital touch/sex is often associated with darkness (dim lights, nighttime, etc). The lightness of the yellow can also allude to touch which is, in and of itself, considered a "light" form of touch, such as gentle caressing.

Orange commonly represents energy, joy, and warmth. This stripe highlights some of the positive emotions that can come with physical intimacy, whether of a sexual nature or not.

Red is commonly depicted as a fiery, passionate color. It is often used to represent things like love, sex, and intimacy. In this case, this is nonsexual passion and intimacy.

Purple brown represents asexual and ace-spec bambis because purple is commonly used to represent asexuality, and there is a lot of overlap between asexuality and bambi-sexuality. Some consider bambi-sexuality to be somewhat of a precursor to asexuality; people who identify as asexual now may have identified as bambi-sexual a few decades ago. While I'm not asexual/ace-spec myself (I'm just a bambi), I felt that this was important to include.

On a similar note, I decided to use only four stripes, specifically so it would look good/blend well with the asexual flag, due to the overlap in communities and identities.

LPS flag and bambi pride backgrounds for fun!

#bambisexual #bambisexuality #bambi-sexual #bambi-sexuality #bambi #thumpersexual #thumpersexuality #thumper-sexual #thumper-sexuality #thumper #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer

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bloompawz · 11 days

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Bambi-sexual flag

Definition of bambi-sexual

Bambi-sexual, also spelled bambisexual or simply shortened to bambi, is a term for people who prefer nonsexual touch over sexual touch. The term originated in the 1980s or earlier.

The term was featured in The Alyson Almanac, which was originally published in 1989, with its second edition published the following year. In The Alyson Almanac, the following definition was given:

BAMBI-SEXUALITY. Physical interaction centered more about touching, kissing, and caressing than around genital sexuality.

Bambi-sexuality is often associated with lesbians (i.e. bambi lesbians), but is not exclusive to them. The term can be used by straight people, gay men, nonbinary people, aromantic people, and people of any other orientation and gender, so long as there is a preference for nonsexual touch.

Bambi-sexual people may or may not be additionally interested in sex. Bambi-sexuality also may or may not be an asexual/ace-spec sexuality, depending on the individual.

Explanation behind the flag

I based the colors on Bambi, from the 1942 Disney film by the same name. Each stripe also has its own additional meaning.

Yellow represents light and/or nonsexual forms of touch

Orange represents energy, joy, and warmth

Red represents nonsexual passion and intimacy

Purple brown represents asexual and ace-spec bambis

Yellow is a light color, which feels fitting to represent touch which does not involve genital contact, as genital touch/sex is often associated with darkness (dim lights, nighttime, etc). The lightness of the yellow can also allude to touch which is, in and of itself, considered a "light" form of touch, such as gentle caressing.

Orange commonly represents energy, joy, and warmth. This stripe highlights some of the positive emotions that can come with physical intimacy, whether of a sexual nature or not.

Red is commonly depicted as a fiery, passionate color. It is often used to represent things like love, sex, and intimacy. In this case, this is nonsexual passion and intimacy.

Purple brown represents asexual and ace-spec bambis because purple is commonly used to represent asexuality, and there is a lot of overlap between asexuality and bambi-sexuality. Some consider bambi-sexuality to be somewhat of a precursor to asexuality; people who identify as asexual now may have identified as bambi-sexual a few decades ago. While I'm not asexual/ace-spec myself (I'm just a bambi), I felt that this was important to include.

On a similar note, I decided to use only four stripes, specifically so it would look good/blend well with the asexual flag, due to the overlap in communities and identities.

LPS flag and bambi pride backgrounds for fun!

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bloompawz · 11 days

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Tumblr polls aren't the best way to get answers on this. This poll is really just a reflection of "What are the sexualities of trans people who use Tumblr, would see this poll, and would vote on it?" which is going to result in a small sample size, as it did here with only 367 votes.

I'm going to use numbers from the USTS. It unfortunately doesn't capture experiences outside the US, because it's a US survey, but it's the most large-scale trans survey I know of, so that's the one I'm going with. I'm going to be using the numbers from the 2015 USTS, since the full results for the 2022 USTS aren't yet publicly available.

The 2015 USTS had 27,715 respondents.

Asexual results:

10% of overall respondents were asexual.

4% of crossdressers were asexual.

17% of nonbinary people were asexual.

6% of trans women were asexual.

7% of trans men were asexual.

Bisexual results:

14% of overall respondents were bisexual.

29% of crossdressers were bisexual.

10% of nonbinary people were bisexual.

20% of trans women were bisexual.

12% of trans men were bisexual.

Gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving results:

16% of overall respondents were gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving.

13% of crossdressers were gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving.

8% of nonbinary people were gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving.

27% of trans women were gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving.

12% of trans men were gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving.

Pansexual results:

18% of overall respondents were pansexual.

6% of crossdressers were pansexual.

21% of nonbinary people were pansexual.

16% of trans women were pansexual.

17% of trans men were pansexual.

Queer results:

21% of overall respondents were queer.

3% of crossdressers were queer.

34% of nonbinary people were queer.

6% of trans women were queer.

24% of trans men were queer.

Straight/heterosexual results:

15% of overall respondents were straight/heterosexual.

41% of crossdressers were straight/heterosexual.

2% of nonbinary people were straight/heterosexual.

19% of trans women were straight/heterosexual.

23% of trans men were straight/heterosexual.

Other sexuality results:

6% of overall respondents were a sexual orientation not listed.

4% of crossdressers were a sexual orientation not listed.

8% of nonbinary people were a sexual orientation not listed.

6% of trans women were a sexual orientation not listed.

5% of trans men were a sexual orientation not listed.

Overall TGNC results:

10% of overall respondents were asexual.

14% of overall respondents were bisexual.

16% of overall respondents were gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving.

18% of overall respondents were pansexual.

21% of overall respondents were queer.

15% of overall respondents were straight/heterosexual.

6% of overall respondents were a sexual orientation not listed.

Not counting unlisted sexualities, overall respondents were most likely to be queer, and least likely to be asexual.

Crossdresser results:

4% of crossdressers were asexual.

29% of crossdressers were bisexual.

13% of crossdressers were gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving.

6% of crossdressers were pansexual.

3% of crossdressers were queer.

41% of crossdressers were straight/heterosexual.

4% of crossdressers were a sexual orientation not listed.

Crossdressers were most likely to be straight/heterosexual, and least likely to be queer.

Nonbinary results:

17% of nonbinary people were asexual.

10% of nonbinary people were bisexual.

8% of nonbinary people were gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving.

21% of nonbinary people were pansexual.

34% of nonbinary people were queer.

2% of nonbinary people were straight/heterosexual.

8% of nonbinary people were a sexual orientation not listed.

Nonbinary people were most likely to be queer, and least likely to be straight/heterosexual.

Trans woman results:

6% of trans women were asexual.

20% of trans women were bisexual.

27% of trans women were gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving.

16% of trans women were pansexual.

6% of trans women were queer.

19% of trans women were straight/heterosexual.

6% of trans women were a sexual orientation not listed.

Not counting unlisted sexualities, trans women were most likely to be gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving, and least likely to be queer or asexual.

Trans man results:

7% of trans men were asexual.

12% of trans men were bisexual.

12% of trans men were gay/lesbian/same-gender-loving.

17% of trans men were pansexual.

24% of trans men were queer.

23% of trans men were straight/heterosexual.

5% of trans men were a sexual orientation not listed.

Not counting unlisted sexualities, trans men were most likely to be queer, and least likely to be asexual.

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Hopefully I didn't mistype anything, I've been awake for a while and this took quite a bit of time to type up. But hopefully this helps to give a broader idea of what TGNC sexuality looks like!

Interestingly, the top two identities for trans men in that survey were queer and straight. Was almost a tie! Honestly, as a transmasc person who identifies as queer, experiences attraction to women, and is uninterested in binary men (as far as I can tell anyway; I am at least very hesitant), I feel pretty represented by this.

Hey tumblr, I’m a heteroflexible trans man. Since coming out I’ve really noticed how little representation straight trans men get in the media. I’ve always known that trans people are some of the least represented people in the LGBT community, especially trans men, but since I’ve started looking for representation that represents me I’ve maybe found two things that cover the two bases (trans guy that likes women). Don’t get me wrong I still love to see representation for trans women and nonbinary people (nimona is probably my favorite movie of all time 87 million/10) but it makes me feel misrepresented when every trans guy I see in the media is gay.

Added some extra answers cuz I’m wondering how many trans people are actually straight. If youre bisexual please select whatever feels right to you whether that’s what you’re primarily attracted or who you primarily date.

Feel free to add your favorite trans media or if you know any straight ftm media please let me know what it is.

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