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underthevveather · 5 days

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its kind of sad that if I, a trans man, decide by my own free will to wear a dress, I have to specifically tell people that I'm not detransitioning. Trans men, boys, mascs, and neutrals can wear feminine shit. Just because we want to be fem doesn't make us suddenly not trans or faking it or whatever the fuck else.

we get to decide how we identify.

not the clothes we wear.

and not you.

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underthevveather · 6 days

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Question For Any Trans Person:

What is one thing you like about being trans?

Please reblog with your answer and please try to keep it positive. It would mean the world :)

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underthevveather · 8 days

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underthevveather · 8 days

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i love being bisexual. even if it's messy, confusing, chaotic - even if my internalized biphobia has me questioning myself to the point of insanity (working on it), i'd never ever change it. bisexuality is home. bisexuality is a fundamental part of my essence.

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underthevveather · 9 days

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If you've ever had suicidal thoughts, but found some - or any - reason to continue living and not act on any urges, I'm incredibly proud of you.

When your brain is so against everything, including its own survival, it can be extremely difficult to stay alive and be safe.

I want everyone to know that if you struggle with thoughts of suicide, relapse, or any kind of harm towards yourself/ others, but you actively choose everyday to continue living, that shows a type of strength that not everyone is equipped with.

You are so much stronger than you may believe.

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underthevveather · 12 days

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"I respect you and won't stop you from being who you are" and "I'm not ready to call you by a new name and pronouns because it hurts me" can not co-exist when the speaker is your parent who has a huge amount of control over your life.

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underthevveather · 20 days

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Friendly reminder not to hurt yourself. We have an empire to run and we need to outlive our enemies.

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underthevveather · 20 days

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#me #because im trans #and addicted to dr pepper

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underthevveather · 24 days

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Coming Out: My Story + Advice

*CW: Mentions of internalized transphobia, transphobic interactions, dysphoria, etc.*

*Please DNI if you're anti-LGBT, a terf, or a general asshole. This blog isn't for you.*

Hello, friends. So I know I don't have the biggest blog out there, but it's continuously growing and I figured I should make a post about this. I don't usually talk about myself or my identity too much on here, even though it's literally an LGBT-related account. So I'm very nervous to post this, but here we go:

I'm coming out to all of you as a trans man.

This is most likely not shocking (because this is Tumblr and everyone is trans or queer in some way), but I wanted to clarify because I'm so tired of hiding who I am. I've had so many people doubt me, be hateful, be disrespectful, be judgemental, and be utterly horrible to me for being trans. But honestly, I'm slowly coming to a point where I want to be authentic with people.

So, when I was 13, my therapist was the first person that I came out to. I told her, without being able to look at her in the eyes, that I thought I might be transgender. I remember she smiled, asked me a little bit about it, and was generally so supportive and handled it amazingly.

On my 14th birthday, I came out to my mom as trans. She was also very supportive, though more surprised and a little confused than anything else. Slowly, over the next year, I began coming out to all of my friends and family.

I had negative experiences along the way. One of my closest family members called me selfish for wanting to change my name and pronouns because it would be "too difficult" for everyone else. I was told that I was "being childish" for asking for support and love from certain family members. I even experienced a lot of hate from my partner's parents at the time (my partner being cis with transphobic parents).

Regardless, I had a supportive single mother that believed in me and supported me and let me start testosterone when I was 15 (yes, I was young and no, I don't regret any of it). Despite T being a very powerful hormone for most AFAB people that go on it, it took a very long time for it to fully kick in.

I had a lot of difficulties with T. My voice, for example, never fully dropped and it's something I've always been dysphoric about. I even remember being told by random people that I "sound like a girl" or that they "can tell" that I'm trans because of my voice.

About 2 years on T, with very little changes, I decided to get top surgery and my mom allowed it because she could tell how much this meant to me. She saw all the struggles that I was going through and she could tell how much my chest bothered me, considering I would wear binders an unhealthy amount of the time.

So I got top surgery and I'm currently 4 years post-OP. Though I received top surgery at a fairly young age, there is not a single part of me that regrets it and not a day goes by where I'm ungrateful for it.

Although my transition has been a struggle (due to external forces and a lot of internalized transphobia), I'm still slowly learning how to appreciate who I am. I've been out for 7 years now, transitioning for almost 6 years, and although I still get misgendered occasionally, it's nowhere near as bad as it used to be and that's something I'm very thankful for.

Now that I've shared all of this, I'd like to be a tiny voice amongst the many different trans people that've given advice on this (or any other) platform before.

To Any Closeted Trans or Gender-Questioning People Out There:

Please be kind to yourself. Please take care of yourself. Please be patient and take your time figuring out who you are. Please only come out when you are safe to do so.

Remember that it gets easier, even when it's just a little bit at a time. Every day gets a little easier. Remember your strengths. Remember that you are who you are, and that is enough. The right people will know it, too.

And never let anyone tell you who you are. Only you can determine that.

If you've read this far, I would like to say thank you and that I hope you have a wonderful day. Remember to be kind to yourself and others :)

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underthevveather · 29 days

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Happy trans day of visibility! Especially to those who have to live invisibly <3

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underthevveather · 29 days

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this is my barbenheimer btw

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underthevveather · 29 days

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underthevveather · 29 days

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happy trans day of visibility y’all! have some memes from my transgender meme collection

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underthevveather · 29 days

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underthevveather · 1 month

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So my friend came out to me recently and said that she only likes girls. I did what I usually do when someone comes out to me and I told her that I was proud of her, that I supported her, and I even told her that I hope she finds a really nice girl for herself.

Even though I've had suspicions for awhile that this friend is actually a lesbian (she identified as bisexual for awhile), I still made sure not to be like, "Ha, I told you so!" or "Yeah, everyone had a feeling about that."

And I started thinking about how important it is to let people figure out who they are on their own.

It doesn't matter how long it takes. It doesn't matter if "everyone knows" or if "everyone thinks you're *this* or *that*."

What matters is that you are who you are. You realize it when you realize it. And please become comfortable with who you are because this is the only life you'll get and you shouldn't spend it being uncomfortable with yourself.

That is all.

(Also, all lesbians and wlw out there have my heart. I wish you the best.)

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underthevveather · 2 months

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To any woman of any race or ethnicity,

To any woman of any background,

To any woman of any religion,

To any woman of any sexuality,

To any woman of any size,

To any woman with any disability,

To any woman with any experience,

To any woman with any struggle,

To all those who identify as women,

Happy International Women's Day!

(We're so glad that you're here)

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