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radykalny-feminizm · 1 month

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Heroine of the day - Sally McNeil

Born September 30, 1960 is an American former sergeant, professional female bodybuilder and muscle worship practitioner, who was convicted for the murder of her husband Ray McNeil, a Mr. Olympia competitor.

Her husband Ray has been physically and mentally abusing her for years, cheating on her as well. He liked to choke her, and did it multiple times during their relationship. On February 14th 1995, when he attacked her again, she had enough and she shot him. I say GOOD FOR HER.

But obviously the misogynistic society labeled her as an aggressive bully. Just because she was extremely strong physically, people didn't believe that she could be a victim of domestic violence. Even though a professional psychologist evaluated her and confirmed that she was abused, the absolute asshole of a prosecutor named Dan Goldstein kept denying this fact. He thought that a victim should be a perfect, helpless, delicate woman and Sally wasn't like this. So he did everything he could to destroy her in court and she ended up spending 25 years in prison for murder.

When watching a documentary about her (Netflix's Killer Sally) there are a couple of things worth noticing.

Sally's children confirmed that she was abused and they were 100% on her side. They SAW what was happening and knew she didn't have a choice.

As for Ray, his friends who are in the documentary are straight up ridiculous. One man said (with a smile on his face!) that Ray once gouged out some man's eyes. Then he proceeded to describe Ray as a gentle, harmless giant. And THEN he said how aggressive and dangerous Sally was 🤡 Ray's friends also found it very entertaining that he cheated on Sally. They were smiling while talking about it. They didn't give a single fuck about how hurt this woman was. And they wouldn't care if it was Ray who killed her.

Sally was not only a victim of domestic abuse. She's also a victim of misogyny, which robbed her of 25 years of her life.

But now she's free and thriving and I wish her all the best. She did NOTHING wrong. Every woman who kills her abuser is a heroine and should be praised.

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sometimes-men-need-help-too · 7 months

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"Why did you even marry her then?"

"You knew what you were getting into."

"You should have noticed before you married her."

This is another one of those things you don't say to an abuse victim. I tend to see this when men post about their situations and somebody, if not multiple people, question the guy why he didn't see the red flags beforehand. Some of them will even say they don't have sympathy for him because it could have been prevented.

Here's the thing, people can change. They can hide that part of them and make you believe they're the sweetest person ever. Or you already know what they're like but you feel trapped in the relationship so you just move on with it hoping things will get better.

This is where people need to have more compassion. Instead of judging them, be kind to them

#mens rights #double standards #male abuse #male victims #male victims of abuse

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redhatmeg · 1 year

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I must say, I’m a little disappointed by how the newest Spy x Family chapter turned out. Specifically - how Thomas Austin’s issues with his wife got addressed.

So it turned out that an Eden teacher - Thomas Austin - developed acute stress disorder symptoms, presumebly due to Red Circus hijacking the school bus. Henderson recommends to him to go see Loid Forger on therapy. Soon Loid says that he conducted enviornmental interviews and based on that he concludes that ASD symptoms started even earlier than the hijacking. Moreover - it turns out that the symptoms were caused by Austin’s wife.

And then we get to this little montage:

When I saw this for the first time, chills went down my spine. Especially the last one sounds heartless and abusive, given that - as far as Mrs. Austin could know - her husband was in danger. And yet all she could say is: “Now that you’re not here grinding your teeth all night, I’m finally getting good night’s sleep.”

This woman is emotionally abusing her husband to the point of him being scared of her and it’s affecting his every day interactions with others. I was really intrigued by how Loid will resolve the issue.

Austin is, of course, surprised by this revelation and everything Loid says (like: “Every person fears different things.”) isn’t half-bad...

Up until this part:

So basically:

He had it comin' He had it comin' He only had himself to blame~~

Of course, a wife has such valid reasons to emotionally abuse her husband as: “He forgot their anniversary.” or: “He leaves socks around.” I get that this can be frustrating in a relationship, but it doesn’t warrant death glares and half of the words she says to him. Remember that he’s afraid of her to the point of ASD.

(And according to Loid’s investigation, Austin “doesn’t participate in housework or childcare”, and yet one of the things his wife says is: “While you’re doing the laundry, go ahead and give that brain of yours a good cleaning too.”)

But look - there’s more:

Rubbing onions to his eyes?! We’re breaching into physical abusive territory. And, once again, the reason for it is petty.

What a let down.

#spy x family #spy x family spoilers #loid forger #thomas austin #male abuse

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noncompliantbi · 1 year

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Gotta reframe our trauma to understand I guess.

#lgbtq #liberal #lgb drop the t #terf friendly #radfems please touch #lgbtqia #feminism #male entitlement #male abuse

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fenesst · 11 months

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How come you only ever hear "she's radiant"?

He's radiant too✨️

#half awake #art #digital aritst #artistic #artists on tumblr #artwork #my art #male #male abuse #male perfection #unrealistic #standard #expectations

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grunge-samurai · 2 years

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I'm perplexed at the amount of people here in Tumblr that still want to follow Amber's narrative and are against the veredict even after all the evidence shown in the courtroom. It feels like a dejá vù back to Michael Jackson's trials, when not only was he acquitted of all charges, but they weren't able to pin a single piece of evidence against him. Just because Johnny Depp is a man does not makes him an enemy. We men can suffer from abuse, too. I did so in my first serious relationship, by a woman older than me, when I was 17 and she was 20. I never spoke about it, and will continue to do so, not only because she had the nerve to paint me as the real abuser and tried to drag my name until all of my friends came to my defense calling her out on her bullshit, but because people will probably think that I'm doing it out of malice or petty sympathy from others. This only goes to show the very long way we have to go before male victims of abuse are taken with the seriousness and empathy that they deserve.

Today, the truth has won, and it did set us free.

I STAND WITH JOHNNY DEPP, AND ALL THE FELLOW VICTIMS OF MALE ABUSE OUT THERE THAT HAVE NEVER SPOKEN ABOUT IT. YOU ARE SEEN, YOU ARE HEARD, AND YOU ARE LOVED. YOU WILL MAKE IT, AND YOUR TRUTH WILL DELIVER YOU IN PROPER TIME.

Love y'all.

#johnny depp #amber heard #depp v heard trial #male abuse #victim of abuse #i stand with johnny depp #justice for johnny depp

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trenchcoat-dino · 3 months

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Trying to find people talking about abuse towards boys and men only seeing things about men abusing women is kind of heartbreaking to see. I’m here, I went through that, I want to feel seen and recognised.

#abuse mention #child abuse #male abuse #male victims

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radykalny-feminizm · 1 year

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I feel so sorry for Elizabeth Taylor. She was beaten by her father when she was very young and she was defending him later in life, saying that she understood why he did what he did. And that's because as a movie star she was earning more money than him and he felt "emasculated". It makes me so angry that so many women had and STILL have a similar mindset. Girls, you're allowed to earn more money than any men in your life. Husbands, boyfriends, fathers, brothers. Doesn't matter. You're more talented/skilled/ambitious than them. Or just lucky. And that's not YOUR problem, it's theirs. Never give up your career because it may hurt some asshole's fragile manly ego. Be better than him in every shape and form and let him choke on that.

#radfem #radical feminism #radfem safe #radfems do interact #radblr #feminism #radfems do touch #women's rights #women's liberation #domestic abuse #male abuse #male violence #father #male ego #masculinity

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sometimes-men-need-help-too · 2 years

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Gender should never be the reason why you believe or not believe someone

#mens rights #anti misandry #misandry #male victims #male abuse #male victims of abuse #men can be victims too #abuse against men #abuse is abuse

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maidenthatwrites · 1 year

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This young woman and the other young woman commenting on this. None of you are professionals , have studied psychology, and i see that many of you have traumas yourselves. You should never engage nor say you were trying to help when you obviously did the opposite. Only males with a sane mind can be a therpist for males; never you. Males who have female therapists are more then ten times likely to un-alive themselves. All women need to refer to Dr.Jordan Peterson if you ever want to understand men or at least desire to attempt to.

#menmatter #mensmentalhealth #mental health #male abuse #food for thought

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basic204 · 2 months

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Hmmm wish I could find the original video.

Don't know who this guy is but the video he's reacting to is interesting.

I've seen alot of men get verbally abused and because it's not physical it's not taken seriously.

youtube

#misandry #male victims #abuse #male abuse #anger #men #Youtube

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613robertbass · 1 year

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#male abuse #healingjourney

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forbidden-sunlight · 3 months

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yandere!Alastor with Violet Evergarden!reader scenario

Warning: aged-up!reader [in early to late twenties], obsessive behavior, implied violence, implied emotional and physical abuse, implied brainwashing, knowledge based on spoilers from the first two episodes of the 2024 series.

There may be possible triggers in this story.

If you do not feel comfortable venturing any further, please hit the 'back' button on your device or computer and read something much more pleasant than a possible series of unfortunate events.

You are responsible for your own Internet consumption!

Hey guys, welcome back to another Hazbin Hotel fic, starring Hell's one and only Radio Demon, Alastor! This is a collaborative piece written with @isuckatwritingsobenice, whom I share a mutual adoration for Violet Evergarden, the anime and titular character who is in my humble opinion, one of the best written female protagonists I have seen in anime.

As always, bullying is not tolerated here. If you have nothing nice to say, please do not say it. Furthermore, if you believe the warnings listed above will make you uncomfortable, please leave now.

For those who have decided to stay, sit back, relax, and let's see what's going for tonight's broadcast :)

Alastor is someone who thrives on entertainment and chaos. Seeing the scourge of Hell striving to redeem themselves in Charlie’s hotel, only to fail as soon as they gave into the vices they’ve been trying to cure themselves of? That’s the only reason he agreed to help the princess with her passion project. He needed some inspiration after lacking it for so many decades!

When you had arrived at the hotel with nothing except the clothes on your back and a suitcase that protected your precious Remington typewriter, the Radio Demon would not deny that he was amused to see a sinner who actually saw his advertisement on the television. After all, no one was taking Charlie seriously, and who would? Apparently you did, but for a different reason: you were looking for a job, a purpose. You said so in the interview, and you were willing to learn. When Vagatha asked what would be considered a flaw in your work ethic, you took off your leather gloves and showed her and Charlie the alloy prosthetics that acted as your new limbs after losing them in the war.

Why you still had them and why your appearance was wholly human, you did not know. Would this be considered a flaw? You were not sure either. You are still learning about modern technology, especially the handheld devices called cell phones.

Although the staff was in dire need of someone who could advertise the Hazbin Hotel on the Internet, the princess found something you could do and might be adequate at: gardening. More specifically, being the hotel’s groundskeeper. Someone who can maintain the hotel’s outward appearance and make sure the hell-grass or weeds don’t get too out of control. You stood up from your seat, feet planted together and saluted Charlie, promising that you will do your best in a monotone voice.

The poor dear did get a little flustered from your actions, but Vagatha did not seem to mind, asking you to follow her upstairs so that she could show you your new room and give you the key. Your first day will be tomorrow.

Oh, this will be fun~! Alastor thought with a wide grin. Someone new to antagonize and watch fall into the fiery pits of failure! Husk was starting to bore him anyway.

And he was not disappointed.

He saw you struggle with holding a garden spade, laying down carpets of fresh grass neatly without trying to crush it between your prosthetic limbs, carrying fertilizer and what flowers to plant! These entertaining events happened within the first week of being here. Is he sorry that his shadows purposely swapped the fertilizer bags and replaced the seed bags to plant roses with rat bait? Absolutely not!

The more chaos that he created, the more entertained he will be. The anticipation to see you crumble from the pressure and expectations of dear Vagatha and Charlie is almost palpable, he couldn’t wait!

However, you were not someone who gave up as easily as he hoped you would.

You kept showing up every day at the exact time, and worked in the garden until Niffty had to drag you inside to have lunch. Then you stayed outside for a bit longer, making sure everything was ready for the following day. You even tried to help out in the kitchen, though you were still struggling to properly hold a knife and chop up vegetables for his jambalaya or cracking eggs in a bowl to help Niffty bake a cake at nine o’clock in the evening because she was bored and wanted something sweet.

You carried heavy crates of liquor for Husk and even massaged his temples when he complained of a headache. When you discreetly switched out the liquor in his booze for water one time he held a grudge against you for pulling that stunt for almost a week. He eventually forgave you by preparing a Shirley Temple on the house after you politely rejected a whiskey on the rocks because you did not drink alcohol.

Sir Pentious, the wannabe overlord, was utterly fascinated with your prosthetic limbs and had asked you to let him examine them. That comment earned him a low, menacing growl from Vagatha, spear in hand. The Egg Bois seemed to like you well enough that they tried to help you out in the garden when all they really did was make your job a bit harder. You still thanked them anyway.

Angel Dust tried to take you shopping for a new wardrobe since you always wore the same outfit every day, but his definition of fashion bordered on risque and flaunting his assets. You were not here to flaunt your appearance, you were here to work, but you thanked him anyway. When he came back to the hotel, staggering inside on wobbly legs and his face covered in black-blue bruises, you were the one who caught him and helped him settle on a table as Husk pulled out a first aid kit. You allowed Angel to put all four of his arms around you and cry on your shoulders, carefully placing your skeletal prosthetics around his back.

How is it that a single sinner could empathize with everyone here except him?

This singular thought, this curious idea, is what motivated Alastor to find out more about you. And there is no else in Hell who can spill the tea on someone as accurately as his dear friend Rosie.

A trip to Cannibal Colony was in order~! So he did go there, proclaiming he’ll be back before dinner and ignoring Vagatha’s cursing as well as the princess trying to calm down her short-tempered lover.

As it turned out, he had heard about you, it’s just that the topic in question did not interest him at the time. Rosie conjured up some old newspaper clippings, pointing at the image of you fighting against an exorcist in hand-to-hand combat during the Extermination. This article had been written five years ago, and the one before that? Three years ago. It seemed like you were simply at the wrong place at the wrong time, and you fought back because that is what your life had been before; surrounded by violence, vanquishing enemy forces when they crossed your path. Yet when you did make an appearance, everyone in Hell clamored for any scraps of information. Anything to find out who is the mysterious sinner who looked like a human and could rip off an exorcist’s head bare-handed.

Now, you were staying at the hotel trying to put whatever remained of your afterlife together. That is your true purpose and now the Radio Demon knew.

Alastor thanked Rosie for the information and the company, leaving Cannibal Colony in a merry mood. Everything was in place. Everything made perfect sense now.

If you were looking for a way to be useful in his newest project, he can make that happen. All he needs to do is nudge you in the right direction without Charlie and Vagatha around.

They are adorable when they are taking turns being a guard dog around you, you sweet little darling~.

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trenchcoat-dino · 3 months

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I’m so angry at the world. What did I do to deserve this?!???

#abuse survivor #child abuse #csa recovery #abuse recovery #male abuse #angry vent

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gay-otlc · 1 year

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Actually I think we should talk about how incredibly fucked up it is for sapphic women to say shit like "I'm no better than a straight man 😔" when attracted to a woman in a way that isn't 100% pure and wholesome, or act like men's attraction to women is inherently dirty, predatory, or objectifying.

#like i mostly get impacted from this as a straight trans man #and the way people- even my friends- have acted like my attraction to women is now morally worse since i came out as trans #but this also affects like. bi/mspec men? it's shitty to shame them for their attraction to women!#and even cishet men. acting like objectification or predatory behavior is just inherent to male attraction to women #let's shitty men off the hook because 'they can't help it' or whatever #or victim blames anyone abused by a cishet man because 'what did you expect from being in a relationship with him'#yeah so like. sapphics stop saying this challenge #transhet #anti-transmasculinity #again i'm tagging because that's my personal experience with that sentiment but it has a ton of other issues too #antimasculism

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balkanradfem · 2 years

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I feel like m*n have figured out to use this script instinctively: If a woman gets mad/upset/confrontational I should just get angrier, look more threatening, start yelling and calling her hysterical, then she’ll be too scared and ashamed to continue being mad, and she’ll back down and act timid so I don’t attempt to injure her or admit her to a mental hospital. Things will always go my way if I do that.

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