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Stop assuming he did something to "make her mad."
Stop assuming she only reacted that way because of mental illness or trauma so we need to go easy on her
Stop assuming she did what she did because you think she's reacting to abuse she's dealt with from him
Stop assuming that all will be okay if they just do a little couples counseling
When abuse is happening to men, we don't take it as seriously as we should. We're quick to think that he's the problem or she's just dealing with a lot and that's why she did what she did. Female abusers need to be held accountable
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I'm convinced men point to Aileen Wuornos as “THE female serial killer” (instead of Juana Barraza, for example) is because she is the embodiment of women they hate.
Many people would use the excuse that they point to Wuornos because she is American. There are more than a handful of examples of female serial killers in America who have killed more people than Aileen Wuornos ever did (Christine Falling, Genene Jones, Nannie Doss, Belle Gunness, etc), so she is not special in that regard.
People would argue that her method was just so unspeakable. Most female serial killers murder by poison or similar less violent methods than their male counterparts. Her method of killings was by shooting her victims, which is not very atypical of female murderers.
Aileen Wuornos is singled out as “THE female serial killer” because she was a lesbian, she was a prostitute, and she killed when she knew she would be r*ped.
It is undisputed that Aileen was most likely raped by the first man she killed, Richard Mallory, because he has a history of s*xual assault and rape. People scoff at the idea of a prostitute being raped, but every time you make a person decide on food for dinner or not having sex with you, that is rape.
These men view her as “THE female serial killer” because she is the embodiment of women that are subhuman to them, yet they still believe they deserving of sex from.
Aileen Wuornos was mentally ill; she had a psychopathic personality and likely had ASPD and/or BPD as well. She was severely s*xually abused as a child. There are definitely red flags of someone who would become a disturbed individual, I'm not arguing against that. I'm just asking, “Why do they focus on Aileen Wuornos?”
Reason 1383929 I hate “true crime communities”
#aileen wuornos#true crime#tcc#serial killers#s*xual assault#gender roles#sa mention#sa#radfem#radical feminism#radical feminist#libfem#liberal feminist#liberal feminism#feminism#feminist#feminist theory#marxist feminism#marxist feminist#male victims#male violence
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The Sexualization of Male Teen Idols
So, I'm currently making an article on how many male celebrities who were teens when they became famous (like Justin Bieber, Harry Styles, Taylor Lautner, etc.) were extremely sexualized and violated by grown adults and fans at a young age. I want to talk about the effects that kind of exposure took on the men and how (or more so, why) was this behavior seen as acceptable for so long.
Did you know that Taylor Lautner was only 16/17 years old when the first Twilight released in 2008? Do you remember how crazy women were acting around him?
Have you ever seen this video of teenage Justin Bieber being groped by actress Jenny McCarthy? Or listened to the radio interview of a grown woman asking 15 year old JB if she can have the "sex talk" with him?
Recently, this topic has been talked about on platforms like Tiktok and Twitter, but I think its need a bit more spotlight. Male victimhood in the entertainment industry should be speak about more often. Why was it normal to make teenager boys uncomfortable? Why was it percieved as a funny bit and not predatory?
#my post#my writing#article writing#justin bieber#harry styles#taylor lautner#male victims#tw sa mention#tw sexualization of minors#tw grooming#male victimhood#tw
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A monster witch who murderer her poor husband: This story makes me sick to my stomach
⚠️Trigger warning: violence, murder, torture, strong language⚠️
I was looking up murder stories because I was bored and I found this. When I read it, I actually cried. It made so mad and so sad. The psychological and physical torture this man had to go through is just horrific and this woman got a pleasure out of it.
This worthless fucking whore beat and tortured her poor husband and starved him. If someone did that to brother/cousins/whatever, I’m LITERALLY ripping their teeth out.
Edit: she was given a 32 year minimum sentence in 2010 when she was 28 and IIRC she could possibly be eligible for parole when she’s 60 (though hopefully she never leaves prison)
#Andrew Gardner#crime#tw violence#tw torture#tw murder#Clare Nicholls#female murderer#male victims#I just want to bring light to this and have people to speak out about this#this is just fucking horrible#people like this Clare Nicholls bitch#deserve all the hell they can get#sometimes people die when they don’t deserve to#and sometimes people don’t die even when they deserve to#This is to spread awareness about a sadistic woman who took advantage of a meek mentally disabled man#andrew was a beautiful kind hearted angel who didn’t deserve this#rip Andrew Gardner 🙏#this story may be old but please spread the word 🙏
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To male victims of abuse
You are valid
Don't let others put you down just because you're a man.
You did not deserve to be abused; do not believe those who think you do.
You are wonderful, and you deserve a lot of love and good encouragement.
Don't let the Radfems get to you; they just want to promote negativity.
What happened to you matters. Don't believe people who say what happened to you is meaningless.
💙 You are amazing! and you deserve to be loved! :) 💙
#male abuse victims#radfem dni#anti radfem#male victims#support victims#men can be victims too#male survivors#mens mental health#Radfems dni
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It really says something that the Helluva Boss fandom is willing to excuse every evil action Stella does and every evil thing she says, especially her abuse towards Stolas and begging for her to have sympathetic traits, yet not once have I ever seen an HB fan desperately wishing for Crimson or Mammon to be portrayed more sympathetically than they are in the show and call it bad writing when they don't show any redeeming qualities. The fandom just accepts the fact that those guys are pure evil without batting an eye. Nobody asks why they're the way they are. But Stella? Nope, there MUST be a sympathetic reason for her being an abusive bitch to Stolas because it's apparently "unrealistic" for a woman to abuse her husband out of spite never mind the fact that those kinds of women actually exist in real life.
These images pretty much speak for themselves.
Crimson, Striker, Mammon, Andrealphus and Valentino are no less two-dimensionally evil than Stella is. What reason did Crimson have to murder his own wife and make his son experience it? Just to traumatize him? The show never really says why he does it, he just does it so the audience can have a reason to hate him. What reason does Striker have to help Stella try to kill Stolas? None, as far as we know. What is there to Mammon's character other than abusing Fizzarolli and being a greedy asshole in general? Why does Andrealphus flirt with his own sister and participate in her scheme to have Stolas murdered by Striker? Because reasons. Why is Valentino a rapist who takes advantage of Angel Dust and sexually abuses him? Just because he can. What makes Stella any different from these guys other than being female?
Fans are just asking for her to be more sympathetic because she's a woman and they can't accept the fact that women are capable of abuse without trying to justify it. The whole "behind every bad bitch is a man who made her that way" bullshit. People who see a woman beating her husband in public and automatically assume he did something to deserve it even if they have no evidence or context for what actually happened. Even though Stella has been treating Stolas like shit before he cheated on her, and he likely wouldn't be sleeping with Blitzø if she wasn't so horrible to him in the first place. He never even puts his hands on her and allowed her to abuse him so that Octavia could live and grow up with normal parents. (As normal as Stella and Stolas could possibly get with each other, anyway.)
Stella made fun of Stolas for not participating in sex with her and laughed about it while he was standing 2 feet away from her, and knew he was there. Whether or not she raped him to produce Octavia is a discussion for another day. If anything, Stolas cheating on her was revenge for treating him like garbage for so many years. She humiliated and embarassed him in public before getting a taste of her own medicine when Stolas does the same to her in return. She wouldn't even let him divorce her because she enjoys being mean to him. I wouldn't mind if Stella was given more charaterization outside of "abusive wife" but honestly? I don't really care if she's given sympathy or not. I don't want to sympathize with her. If Valentino isn't gonna change his ways any time soon, I have no reason to believe that Stella can. FFS Stella apologists make me mad. Even if you type in the "anti stella" tag on tumblr there are more posts defending and excusing her actions than those actually opposing her and saying "uh, no, she's just a cruel bitch" meanwhile if you type "anti Stolas" that's exactly what you're gonna get, pretty much exclusively.
Goes to show how hyper-sensitive tumblrinas are over female characters rightfully being portrayed as in the wrong when they fucking are.
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I'm going to be honest, I really don't like the whole "as someone who's bisexual, I love women and tolerate men because I'm attracted to them" thing. Firstly, I'm Side B and I'm not going to settle for a guy that I only tolerate because I can't marry a girl in my church, okay? I love women and I love men. I don't have to put men down to show how much I care about women — and this doesn't just apply to my sexuality, but to all aspects of life.
Secondly, imagine being a guy who's been told for years that you were basically disgusting to like guys in that way and finally you found a community where you felt accepted... only to find that apparently hating on that connection is all good there now too. It must suck. You should not be made to feel gross for your attraction to men, from homophobes or from LGBT people.
Thirdly, I wish I could say I was exaggerating, but I know someone who have actually told me that they were being horrifically abused by a woman (to the point where they genuinely feared for their lives), but they didn't realize it because they thought women were supposed to be pure. They thought they were the problem. And I've known other people with less extreme examples, but still cases of abuse that they said they felt like they needed to put up with because it was at the hands of a woman. I've seen this in straight relationships, gay relationship, whichever, but the point is — women can be abusive. And when you make it seem like they're not, you are hurting people.
I get it. You don't mean to be, you just think it's funny. But it has terrible consequences. And I know I must seem like a killjoy. I really, really wish it wasn't this serious. But it is. We need to teach respect and boundaries, yes — and we need to teach it to all people and that it applies to all people. If a girl is harassing you and abusing you that is not okay. If she's justifying it with "you're a guy, you should like it/man up" or "we're all girls here", that's not okay. Please please please don't dismiss this. Please don't think I'm being a drama queen. I get it, I used to make jokes about things too, but now I realize how serious it is. I have seen far too many people suffering because they didn't realize women could be abusers — not just in my own life, but all over. It's not okay.
#bisexual#men are cool women are cool people are cool#and some people suck lol#male victims#female abusers#side b catholic#side b christian#side b bisexual#serious post#tw abuse#tw misandry#tw homophobia#tw biphobia
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Stop victim blaming male victims
Stop asking why they didn't fight back or push them away
Stop asking why they didn't just move away from the person
Stop asking why they didn't leave
Stop asking why they waited to speak up
Stop acting like they're not really a victim because you have this idea of what they should have done
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#sneakers#socks#smelly socks#smelly sneakers#converse all stars#converse high tops#converse chucks#duct tape#kidnap fantasy#male socks#male victims#bound male#gay sneakers
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Does anyone remember that episode of Friends were It was revealed Ross was mugged as a teenager, and when it turned out that Pheobe did that to him, everyone mocked him and laughed?
Like, "Hey, that traumatic incident that scared you for life was done by a girl? Wow, Ross, that's so funny. You're so pathetic, what a pussy."
Sitcoms from the 90s and early 2000s have aged like milk.
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My brother was with a girl who threw things at him and constantly hit him. And he would just stand there and take it because he didn't want to hit her back knowing what the result would be. My sisters didn't like that so they went after her. Huge fight among them, but my brother still didn't break up with her. She finally chose drugs over him and left. At least for my brother we all believed him. But I doubt other people would.
His current GF (might be an ex now, waiting to hear back), hit him and then threatened to tell the cops he hit her. She's an alcoholic and would fight everyone. She went after my niece and they called the cops, and the first thing the cops did when they got there was arrest my brother, who had just gotten home from work. My mom came out screaming at them that he didn't do anything. But that's how bad it is, they go after the first male they see for a domestic violence case when it was between two women,!
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I was 15, sexually abused by my manager at my first job, one of the biggest fast food joints, Not once, but four times. Someone spotted the abuse and reported it to corporate and she got a promotion. I quit and my father ignored it. Police said the company handled it. Men who are abused are ignored... because it’s not “supposed to be possible”
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I once had to do a presentation for a gender studies sort of course, and so having a friend who was abused by his girlfriend I chose to discuss the double standard in physical abuse. You'd think I was the devil incarnate - the women in the class glared and glared and glared for me raising the possibility that a woman hitting a man should be taken seriously.
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My dad went through something like this. She threw plates and a bunch of other random objects at him, he was bleeding in several places and she called the police.
Despite that me and all of her kids told police that she was the aggressor they didn't care. He was arrested and a restraining order was on him before he even got out a few days later. We ended up homeless and lived in an old boxing ring for about 2 weeks before our local church helped out.
It was also his 3rd time dealing with police completely ignoring him when a woman was aggressive. It made me feel like women could just do anything they want as I grew up and I completely avoided them and relationships in general for a long time.
I'm 38 now and it still makes me uneasy
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I lost my virginity bc a girl (who I had said NO to) mounted up and rode me while I was passed out drunk. I woke up from what I thought was a wet dream finishing inside her with no protection. It messed with me pretty hard because I'd been trying to save my virginity for a serious girlfriend or someone other than just some girl I barely knew. Not to mention the fact that I had no idea if I was about to be an unwilling father (thankfully that was not the case).
My friends just kind of said "well...at least you got laid, right?". I can't really blame them because it took a while (like, years) for me to even realize that what happened was clearly rape. Wrapping our college-age heads around the fact a guy could get raped was tough, I guess.
I also got sexually harassed by a pair of women at a job in college and telling people about it was met with attempts to high-five me.
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Laughed at, mocked, put down. Even had video of her hitting/kicking/ abusing me and people just made fun of me and the situation even worse. It was not real to them.
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The sexual abuse hotline counselor asked me if I was even into women when I told her what happened and then made excuses for her bc “she was drunk and acting on instinct”.
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Tried to tell a few people. No one really believed me in my circle of friends. They were able to convince their friends that I was the abuser. The last straw was when they used a taser. That shit hurts and left burns. That truly was the last straw because it left enough evidence that I could use to document the abuse and get out. Without physical evidence it was word against word and as the male, no one believed me.
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They didn’t believe me at first. And then they saw her do it to me. Her friends believed me before my own friends did. They said that they knew she was like that and that she was aggressive and physically abusive to them sometimes and her own mother.
I was with her for 18 months of hell. At first it was normal and cute and fun and then she started being really strange. First it was telling me I couldn’t have friends who are girls. Then it was I couldn’t have friends. Then it was the hitting and punching and kicking me. She said she was pregnant before she was pregnant and didn’t let me use protection with her and if I wasn’t into fucking her then she’d just fuck me anyways.
The kicker that really stuck with me all these years is when she was beating the fuck out of me and accidentally called her mom and she heard her yelling and screaming and thought I was hurting her so she called the police and her parents and police both showed up at my house asking if everything was okay and if I was hurting her. She said confidently “He didn’t hurt me I was hitting him” and the police and her parents both just kinda accepted that and told her to leave my house and go back to her parents for the night. No arrests. No talking to her about how wrong it was. Just a slap on the wrist after flat out telling police she was hitting me. Didn’t ask if I wanted to press charges. Didn’t ask if I was okay. Just were relieved it wasn’t me hitting her.
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I had been attacked by now ex wife. I said something that made her mad and it wasn't the first time. She hit me in the back of the head with a rolling pin. I yelled and the neighbors called the cops. When they arrived I was still beading. I was then handcuffed and sat on the curb while they investigated the issue. My ex eventually confessed she hit me because she was mad at me. I never raised a hand at her during the incident but I was then taken to the police station and I was booked. I was released the next day after they determined i wasn't the aggressor. I was told on my release that if I antagonize her again its my fault and I deserve what I get.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jidoph/men_who_are_abused_by_woman_and_tried_to_tell/
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duluth_model
The feminist theory underlying the Duluth Model is that men use violence within relationships to exercise power and control.
According to the Duluth Model, "women and children are vulnerable to violence because of their unequal social, economic, and political status in society."
Criticism of the Duluth Model has centered on the program's sexist insistence that men are perpetrators who are violent because they have been socialized in a patriarchy that condones male violence, and that women are victims who are violent only in self-defense.
https://home.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/htdocs/assaults_bib343_201307.doc
Abstract: This bibliography examines 343 scholarly investigations; 270 empirical studies and 73 reviews and/or analyses, which demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. The aggregate sample size in the reviewed studies exceeds 440,850.
#SystemicSexism
#The Tin Men#intimate partner violence#abusive women#violent women#male victims#domestic violence#feminist theory#duluth model#systemic sexism#misandry#tHe PaTrIaRcHy#religion is a mental illness
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[Feminists can call me heartless. I don't care.]
No one would've cared about Terry Crews or Brendan Fraser if they were sexually assaulted by women. As seen with other men in similar positions.
Also, funny coi winky dink that feminists are insisting upon caring about male victims and pull up famous, rich men that were sexually abused by men.
I'm sure MRAs might've still cared, right?
We did and we still do! The narrative that men don't care about [example of a famous man who was abused] except to score points against feminists comes from people who made up an MRA in their head to get mad at.
Also, a teeny bit of projection given how whenever we bring such examples up we more often than not get "YEAH but he was abused by MEN so clearly the problem is MEN". The fact that this angle does absolutely nothing to help those victims never seems to occur to them.
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Sending my support to all the people hurt by female abusers. To the lesbian and bisexual women who'd been victimized by men and thought they'd finally found peace in the arms of women who hurt them. To the men who never dared speak up and the ones who were laughed at when they did. To the nonbinary folks that people seem to completely forget exist. To every single person who's been overlooked because their abuser happened to be a woman, I see you and I support you. And if nobody's told you this today, you deserve better. Don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise. Nobody gets to dehumanize you or call you weak or mock you. If they do, they're assholes and not worth giving the time of day.
#this is not an attack on women abused by men this is just support by people who have been victimized by women please don't derail#male victims#female abusers#women who've been abused by women
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#Andrew Gardner#murder#meme#rip Andrew Gardner#justice for Andrew Gardner#male victims#justice for the vulnerable#please reblog
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