It's okay to feel disappointment

It's true that there's nothing to be ashamed of if you take longer than other people to graduate college, or wait until you're older to get married or have kids. It's true that it's okay you're not seeing anyone or you didn't get the job you wanted

But it's also okay to take a moment and feel disappointment if things haven't gone the way you thought they would

I don't understand people that mock others for not wanting to go to therapy

Like when a man is unsure about it or whatever, and then you see people making fun of him for his masculinity being "fragile"

It's just interesting that they'll look at an individual as needing help, believing they should get it and then....mocking them?

Do you really think that's going to somehow make them try therapy?

Because it won't

I couldn't believe it when I saw the news on Facebook :(

I love her music. Back to you, what scars are for and he is with you are a few of my favorites

If you claim to care about mental health and wanting other people to care about their mental health too, then maybe don't say "get therapy" or "seek help" as an insult

knowing that the final exam is optional is making me super happy right now lol

It's completely okay if you experience hair loss at a young age

You're no less desirable and loveable because of it

People that walk slow in stores because they're on their phones test my patience

Just a reminder that your mental illness does not make you weak or any less of a man.

friendship between guys is such a beautiful and amazing thing and nobody can convince me otherwise

Shout out to men who, because of their sex, didn’t get the help they needed as young boys, and now it’s affecting them in the future.

To clarify:

Shout out to men who were raped  in the past, but had no resources to turn to due to your sex, or no one to help them, and now in the future it’s still messing you up.

Shout out to men abused by women in the past, who’s lack of resources and the stigma surrounding female-on-male abuse prevented them from getting the help they needed. And if it still bothers you today, we’re here for you.

Shout out to men who were abused period—by anyone—and still could not get the resources they needed because they were men.

Shout out to those men trying to move on, trying to hide what they want through, and trying to get through it by themselves. Shout out to those who haven’t gotten through it, who’s lives it’s ruining. Know we’re here for you.

fyi to you men out there

if your girlfriend fucking bans you from talking to certain people; that is a controlling relationship, it’s not healthy, that’s abusive behaviour. if she doesn’t let you have friends who are women, that isn’t right, that’s not normal. if she’s so controlling that it’s getting in the way of you enjoying a social life, that is a big problem.

If he seems reluctant, don't take it as a sign of consent

I dated a man who belittled me, threatened to hurt my family, stalked me, and made me cut all my friends out of my life. And people are pretty quick to agree that he was abusive.  My brother dated a woman who made him quit his job because she didn’t want other girls looking at him, repeatedly locked him out of the house in freezing temperatures in the middle of the night to “teach him a lesson”, and refused to be seen with him in public if he wasn’t dressed to her standards. And almost no one calls her abusive. People have called her “crazy”, “high-maintenance” and “jealous”, but not abusive.  And that’s not right. 

In relationships, women and girls can get away with a lot when it comes to their male partners. When women are belittled and manipulated by their male partners, they often hear “leave him, he’s abusive, he’s no good”. When men are belittled and manipulated by their female partners, they hear “that’s just how women are!”, “uh-oh, someone’s in trouble!” or “you’ve got to keep your girl happy!”. We pretend that women are naturally jealous and toxic, and that men are supposed to quietly deal with being put down, spied on, or even hit without complaint.  That’s bullshit, and no gender benefits from this nonsense.  Women are capable of abuse. We aren’t innocent little kittens, who bite and claw because they don’t know any better and aren’t capable of causing real harm. It’s not cute when we mistreat our male partners. We are completely capable of doing real, lasting damage to a man’s mind, body and self-esteem.  Women are capable of controlling their jealousy. I see a lot of pictures and quotes shared by my female friends, boasting about being crazy or proudly declaring that being jealous is a part of who they are. We shouldn’t feed ourselves this sexist garbage. Women are perfectly capable of respecting their male partners’ privacy and trusting them to interact with other women. 

Women are capable of calling out other women. If you see your girlfriends humiliating their boyfriends or intentionally messing with their heads, put a stop to that shit. Call out abusive behaviour when you see it. Women often see exactly how their friends treat their partners, and this kind of nonsense makes all of us look bad. Fight domestic abuse in all its forms.  Male survivors of female abuse often feel lost, weak, and ashamed of what they’ve been through - there are very few resources out there for them, and virtually no shelters or safe places for them to go. Their stories are not believed, or they are made to feel that the blame lies with them -  as if this is happening because they are not manly enough, they are not tough enough, they are not strong enough. Enough is enough. Women can be abusers. Men can be abused. It’s time to believe them. 

Life doesn't end when you're older than 30 either

Life doesn’t end at 23. 30 isn’t old. Fetishising youth as the ultimate desirable characteristic in a person is actively harmful to both young and old people. Some of us lost our teenage years to abuse and recovery, and can only begin living when we’re at a different life stage.  Literally knock it off, the lot of you.