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The Dadvocate called it the martyrdom of boy moms.
It's these videos where these mothers are speaking about how they are teaching their sons, usually under eight years old, some sort of basic life lesson anyone should know all for the sole purpose of making life easier for her son's future partner.
Payal Desai has nearly 40 videos on her tiktok/instagram that are like that. Her playlist is titled no dusty sons. Here is an example of a video she's posted:
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She's not the only one. The Dadvocate reacted to another woman who made a tiktok where she said she was showing her son to look for things so her daughter doesn't have to use her brain space to know where everything is. And I'm sure there's tons more if you look for them
Now one of my issues is that she's blatantly exploiting her sons. Because of her no dusty sons videos, she has been on TV at least once, has had articles written about her and what she's doing, and has a lot of supportive comments like way to go mama, you're a queen/icon/legend, as a girl mom THANK YOU.
I despise it when parents use their kids like this. This woman is showing her kids' faces to countless strangers online. She has 289.9k followers and her account is public. It's bad enough to post about your child on a platform like facebook without caution, let alone what she's doing. And a lot of people are overlooking it because they think she's promoting a good message so it's 'fine.'
The other problem I have are these "lessons." A good majority of them are things she should be teaching them anyway, not directed at a future partner. She has another video where she's teaching her son to brush his teeth and tongue so his partner doesn't have to deal with a man who didn't learn the basics of dental hygiene. You don't teach them to have a good diet or to brush their teeth because it could be inconvenient for their future partner, you do it because it's good for their health. You do it because future adults need to know that sort of thing.
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kittycomrad · 5 months
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I might have said some questionable things online but at least I didn't believe men crying about their "abusive" partners and didn't fall for their darvo tactics.
Most m*n you see online, besides having victim complex and trying to take away the voices of female victims, don't actually face abuse but rather complain about how it's great injustice that their exes didn't coddle them enough. A m*n would be calling his ex "abusive and manipulative" only for some dumb libfem to add fuel to the fire n call a woman she doesn't know "narcissistic and controlling gf". And then you find out that the "AbUsive" gf had been groomed, raped and exploited for years before she finally snapped. I don't know about y'all but I would never believe when my oppressors would claim to be victimized. I don't believe m*n, good luck to y'all tho.
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facelesspassport · 11 months
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Today I heard someone say that there is an "insecurity epidemic among young men" and I am just so fucking happy someone has FINALLY given me the words to describe what is happening to the world. I keep hearing whinging about "men's mental health crisis" and "male loneliness" and "male suicide rates" blahblah in spite of the fact that none of that stuff is actually an issue. Women's depression and rates of suicide attempts have remained consistently higher than men's over the years, and if we look at sex stats you'll see that the rise of loneliness is actually affecting women at very similar rates to men (12% and 14% celibacy rates in the US, respectively). Not to mention the suicide attempts of young women and girls have sky-rocketed in the last couple of years. Suicidal ideation in girls in my country is currently double that of boys. In spite of all this we still see males lashing out en masse, claiming that "men are under attack", "women are privileged", and feminism is "ruining men's lives". Even though none of their claims have any basis in reality there is still an obvious problem here- something is very disturbed in the modern male psyche; but I have not seen anyone accurately label the issue until today. There is an insecurity epidemic among men. Women are finally attending classes, entering the workplace, and gaining voting rights in most countries around the world. These changes are a recent development and they are making modern men question their place in society- as they should. Sadly, instead of taking this time to self reflect, men are desperately trying to stop women's suffrage and cry "abuse" whenever we hold firm. What we are seeing is a big, glorified tantrum, not a "mental health crisis". I am not sure how we would go about fixing this problem but I'm glad that I am finally able to name it!! I thank D'Angelo Wallace for the help.
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one-time-i-dreamt · 4 months
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My mom and I went to see a ballet, but the director announced that the opening act would be a men’s rights podcaster doing a talk about how to make women want to date you after you’ve rejected them. I walked out of the theatre in disgust, and my mom tried to convince me to come back, saying that the podcaster was only going to be on for an hour.
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libertarianneko · 11 months
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There’s no meaningful difference between these two pictures unless you have an intense fear and hatred of men.
“WhY woUlD a mAn wwAnT tO wEaR a DrEss anD hEeLs tO rEaD tO kiDs”
Idk why does Dolly Parton? She wants to entertain kids & help them get into reading. It’s only because of stereotyping men (especially gay men) as predators that people lose their minds over drag queen story hour. Or they’ve mistakenly labeled it as trans and they fear trans women (usually also because they view them as men who they view as predators)
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itsbansheebitch · 3 months
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Have Hope, It's Not Natural
The devil works hard, but patriarchy works harder. If men were naturally violent assholes, patriarchy wouldn't have to work so hard. The patriarchy demands self mutilation first and violence against minorities second. We NEED to address men's issues.
There's a reason the rate of lethal suicide is 4x women's percentage. Every time men try to book a therapy appointment they hear, "What are you, gay?" As if they're committing actual thought crimes or something.
Justice for the men who were told that the patriarchy gave them everything they needed to survive when it was actually asking them to hand over their basic human qualities behind closed doors.
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thedeviltookmydonuts · 10 months
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amber heard is one of the most harmful people ever to purport to be an advocate for women’s rights. Shame on her and anyone who still supports her.
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melisssg99 · 5 months
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I think we should normalize bullying men because they actually deserve it.
Men have been bullying me and my sisters for way to long and I am fucking sick of it.
Men are fucking creepy and weird and they are predators.
The only thing I care about them is their wallet because reparations bitch.
There is a reason why misandry exists.
Because men have been hurting us and stalking and raping us for years.
Hell look at the Medusa story. She was victim and she was blamed and cursed for it and obviously nothing has changed.
Hi! My first anonymous ask! Thank you for your ask.
I personally think bullying anyone is absurd.
We shouldn't ever normalize any bullying, doesn't matter their age, skin colour, sex, gender, religion ,background, etc. 
I'm sorry that you have been bullied. I know what it's like. I have been bullied through all of my childhood and adolescence.
It is true, we do unfortunately share our planet with some mean people. Scary people. People with no empathy.
Unfortunately, women are just as capable of doing bad things as men are.
It shouldn't be men versus women.
It should be good people versus bad people (very simply said)
The story of Medusa is sad indeed.
But I don't see how that has anything to do with good men today. 
Good men exist. 
It's hard to see sometimes when you are scared or have anger for them or when people focus on some rotten apples. 
Or if you only seem to have bad people in your life right now.
But there are still enough good people around us.
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webbedtoeddoll · 6 months
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Why should Christians get involved in politics?
From what I remember about the Bible; Jesus tells Christians to not concern themselves with worldly secular things. Politics are very much based on worldly issues. Shouldn’t Christians not worry about what the government of a corrupted world and instead focusing on helping the people around them and spread the gospel and going to church?
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xkiwinova · 9 months
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Weird MensLib Rant
I'm not sure where this is going, but I wanted to write down some of my thoughts concerning where men fit into the feminist movement.
The feminist movement is broad, with millions of people identifying at least partially with feminist ideas. Because of this, you are bound to run into quite a lot of different perspectives on topics like the role of men and boys in the movement.
The two competing perspectives we see are that feminism is fundamentally a gender equality movement and that dismantling societal expectations for men is inseparable from any attempt to achieve this goal, and the idea that feminism is a movement established by women and for women, and while men are important as allies, feminists should not be expected to extend resources to solving men's issues.
This creates a paradoxical situation wherein Men's Rights Advocates are discouraged from directly working with feminists as this is seen as drawing resources from a women's movement to solve men's issues; yet at the same time are discouraged from developing their own movements as they are seen as unnecessary when feminist movements already advocate for gender equality.
I think this leads to a vacuum in gender discussion which the right wing exploits. Of course, the right obviously is to blame for emboldening figures like Andrew Tate and facilitating the rise of the far-right incel movement; but I think as leftists we have contributed to the popularity of the right wing manosphere by failing to offer a significant alternative.
If feminism is truly a movement by women and for women, then men's participation in said movement becomes altruistic, or at least a moral obligation to assist others. While there is fundamentally nothing wrong with participating in movements for the good of others, it is important to evaluate how such participation appears from the perspective of men and boys.
One of the most common terms used to analyze men's behavior in the context of societal norms is toxic masculinity. I think a lot of people don't understand the definition in the original context. Toxic masculinity is a set of expectations placed on men that impact our behavior in ways that are ultimately restrictive and detrimental to ourselves and/or others. It is not the individual or even the behavior that is toxic, but rather, the social forces which promote the behavior.
One element of toxic masculinity is an expectation that men are providers, and that they are seen not for who they are, but for what they can do for others. From this perspective, men's expected role in feminist movements appears only to reaffirm this expectation of toxic masculinity.
Again, while it is great for people to dedicate themselves to uplifting others, holding an expectation that men engage in this task with out consideration of reciprocation may be seen as a form of toxic masculinity. Men and boys seeking to escape social expectations are not going to be attracted to a movement which appears to see them only as assets.
I do think that feminist activism has helped, and will continue to help, men's issues, but that is not the impression given at a glance by the movement at large. One of the most oft-talked about notions when discussing the development of the manosphere is the pipeline that young men fall into which leads them into alt-right circles.
There are a lot of factors contributing to this: social media algorithms which promote far-right content, the ability for far-right speakers to invoke passion in the audiences over seemingly trivial ideas, and a natural gravitation towards ideologies that hold that your groups are superior to others.
However, I feel that the left promotes this rabbit hole by failing to provide an adequate alternatives for men and boys. People searching for content relating to men's issues will be inundated with right wing media because left wing movements dedicated to men's issues seem scarce and lacking in support from fellow leftists.
There are of course movements like MensLib that offer leftist and progressive approaches for men's issues, but again, these movements are limited in popularity and support and do not have the necessary outreach to compete with the alt-right.
One of the most common complaints about the feminist movement (atleast among the terminally online) is the prevalence and refusal to condemn statements like 'men are trash' among the feminist community. The justification for this is that such statements are purely a form of venting and not meant in earnest as a way to demean men and promote violence against them, as is frequently the case for statements made by men directed against women.
While this is understandable, these statements are really hurtful. How can activists who claim to wish to abolish toxic masculinity expect men to stoically role with the punches and participate selflessly in feminist activism regardless?
Another criticism I have seen brought up when discussing feminist thought is this perception of hyper-agency among men. Men do not chose to embrace toxic masculine traits out of genuine desire; they do so because of societal expectations forcing their hand.
By characterizing the problems facing men as personal, actual activism is limited in its effectiveness. To quote another user:
Boys (and men) are notorious for repressing their emotions. They have a good reason: in boys' peer groups, a failure to control your emotions is almost as shameful as a failure to control your bladder; it is a sign of weakness, and any sign of weakness makes you a target for bullying and ridicule. So boys learn to wear a permanent mask of aloof toughness to avoid inadvertently revealing any sign of weakness or uncontrolled emotion, and many keep this habit into adulthood. It is generally well recognized that suppressing emotions is unhealthy in the long run, but it seems to me that the commonly proposed antidote is misguided: boys (or men) are told to "just open up more and be vulnerable" or to "learn how to cry", as if their reluctance to show emotions were some kind of irrational emotion-phobia, rather than a perfectly reasonable, perhaps even necessary, defense against the ridicule, contempt and loss of respect that society inflicts upon those who can't keep their emotions in check in the proper "manly" way.
Some feminists (not all, by any means), assume that men are in control of their own societal norms; that because men are the dominant sex in patriarchal tradition and are overrepesented among the elite, they must also posses the agency necessary to overcome these gender expectations without the need for a major social movement:
Problems predominantly affecting women are addressed by changing society, while those predominantly affecting men are addressed by changing men (or by telling men to change themselves). The difference is not that one approach is right and the other wrong; they are both 'right' in the sense that they highlight genuine issues, but the approach to men's problems is more superficial. When dealing with men's problems, we focus on the immediate cause, which is usually the men's failure to cope with mental strain ("he should have gone to therapy", "he should have learned to open up more"); in contrast, when dealing with women's problems, we focus on "the cause of the cause", and try to remove the systemic social issues causing the mental strain, rather than telling the victims what they should have done to better cope with it.
So to conclude this very long rant, I feel as though there exists a vacuum in progressive spaces for genuine men's rights activism that essentially leads to the left conceding the subject to the right. I hope that future feminist activism with develop to be more inclusive and consider the societal underpinnings of patriarchy and toxic masculinity and focusing on unraveling those as opposed to demonizing its victims.
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lightformenrights · 5 months
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I am honestly sick and tired of these stupid feminists making yaoi fan animations of Light Yagami! Why do they have to ruin everything that's even remotely related to him? They're so annoying and pathetic with their stupid, nonsensical yaoi fantasies. He has never consented to being a part of their dumb, disgusting fantasies. I don't understand why these immature idiots continue to create these awful yaoi animations, it's just disgusting and ridiculous. I think I'm going to vomit. Rant over!
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I'm curious to know if she knows him or not because the especially not him sounds personal
I don't even know why she's bringing up the feeding part. This is skin-to-skin contact which has a lot of benefits for the baby and him
I don't even know what to say. It says a lot about a person if you look at this sweet picture and think it's creepy
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kittycomrad · 5 months
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men literally cannot get abused. doesn't matter by who. a boy getting hit by his father is just being temporarily inconvenienced before he goes and hits girls and his sister or mother. it's a pushover effect that women don't do
You can say boys can be abused etc by grown ass men or whatever but at the end of the day, women should not concern with men or boys facing 1/100th of what women have been facing for centuries. Women don't owe "I'm sorry that happened to you" to any men. Specially in a world where people will try to bring up "he was brought up by an abusive father, he was bullied and raped" when we're talking about an abusive man or even a freaking SERIAL KILLER omfg. It's so funny when you see men calling cops on their "aBusiVe" wives after the women finally fight back and then you see some pick me mras trying to convince people that women can be abusive to grown ass men with unmatched muscle mass.
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djmutt · 20 days
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I am very sorry for all the men who are watching the women who victimized and abused them be celebrated and respected more than they have ever been and ever will be.
Dogs have more rights than men.
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daughter-of-caine · 3 months
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Merry Christmas Adam to all the himbos on my dash.
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theexodvs · 6 months
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MRAs claim they are against the war on fatherhood and that they want better outcomes for boys for when they become men. However, boys have far worse outcomes when their mother is not in the bonds of a marriage, an institution high-ranking MRA Paul Elam has denounced (while also discouraging men from starting families). If MRAs were actually concerned with these issues, they would have dogpiled Elam years ago, but the outcomes of the sons of single mothers is not a topic they're ready for.
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