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dollystuffs-chiori · 2 months

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alters are so funny. why are you gay. why aren't you gay. mirrors are scary. every time I look at pluralkit there's new people. where did you come from lmao

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sawyer-is-eepy · 1 month

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MaDD and plurality

okay so we're MaDD, right?? and we're also plural??

NOBODY talks about how freaking hard that makes communicating omg.

constantly i'll be trying to talk to someone and then i drift off and suddenly they are completely drowned out OR they're ALSO daydreaming!! it's so frustrating, because it means that to even semi-effectively communicate, i have to talk out loud. if i have to communicate something important and we're in a public place i just have to focus REALLY hard on internal communication and it sometimes STILL doesnt work.

on top of that, we have ADHD so it's even harder, and talking out loud still doesn't work that well because without another person physically here to snap me back to reality whenever i'm daydreaming, if i start daydreaming, i'm just stuck until i realize, which can be anywhere from within a minute to literally 20+ minutes. usually they're able to get my attention by that time, but it's hard because our communication is not easy for anyone but the host(me, who is ALWAYS fronting) to initiate, so unless i actively open myself to communicate with them, it's hard for them to get my attention. sometimes my daydreams even last hours, but that usually doesn't happen when i'm not actively deciding to daydream. so yeah, it's really difficult because i've already got issues focusing, and adding basically irresistable urges to daydream at random that get triggered way too easily on top of that, inner communication is SO HARD.

anyways, this makes making a tulpa really fucking difficult because forcing is really hard.

but here are my tips, for other MaDD, especially anyone making a headmate/alter/tulpa/parogen/whatever themself -

incorporate your daydreaming into the communicating/forcing. like daydream you and that alter hanging out and then communicate via that. this does not ensure that you won't start daydreaming about anything else, but it lessens the chances. if you try to force yourself to not daydream at ALL the urges are gonna be much harder to ignore, at least for me. if you're ALREADY daydreaming, and it gets interesting enough, minor distractions are gonna catch your attention less and less because you WANNA focus on this one daydream. it becomes much more enjoyable.

this kind of like the last one, but this is more specific to tulpa/parogen forcing. don't really view it as a chore, which i've accidentally been doing more and more. not a chore i dislike, but i've been viewing it like something i have to do every single day for x amount of time other wise it wont work and it'll fail horribly and everything will be ruined, when it shouldn't need to be that. it shouldn't be on a to-do list, unless that really works for you(which if that's the case that's freaking awesome and you should probably ignore this tip). idk about everyone else, but it's much easier for me to daydream if i'm treating something like something i need to do because it's so much more tempting to just go live somewhere else for a minute while i do things i need to do. i often daydream doing chores because it's not interesting enough to keep me grounded. so, to make sure it gets done, i drift off while i'm doing it, so i am doing it in the real world but to me i'm in another world or in one of my stories. but for forcing, to be able to do it, you HAVE to be constantly aware and present. if you view it like you're just having a fun little conversation with them, it becomes like whenever you're bored or lonely just like you would reach out to a friend, but instead you're getting some talking to your head friend in. even if it's not traditional forcing, it works and develops them more, even if it's just a bit here and there. idk about everyone else, but i think partially because of my ADHD and partially because of my MaDD, whenever i have a chore i need to do i kind of put it off if i'm already doing something. i don't really *want* to put it off, but i just can't get my body to move. especially when I'm daydreaming. because, why would i get up and do the boring thing when i can watch my story in my head ? it's so much easier to sit and do nothing. but as we all know, that ADHD paralysis is so so SO stress inducing, the best option is to always get up and try to force yourself to. idk if non-ADHD MaDD will relate at all though, because that paralysis is mostly exclusive to those with ADHD afaik, but for me, my MaDD makes it much worse. anyways, that probably didn't make much sense sorry

write down what everyone is saying. this makes it much easier to keep track of what they are saying and stay present, but it also documents the conversation as well. so even if you weren't that present during the conversation, or you're worried you'll forget something important, you'll have a record to read back on later if you need! and also with created alters/headmates, keeping track of their progress is always incredibly important!!

don't listen to music! this one might be a bit of a given but unless it's like instrumental music that you genuinely won't pay that much attention to but still helps you focus, DON'T listen to it. songs are an easy gateway into a daydream. ESPECIALLY songs with lyrics, even ones that you can't understand because they're in another language, which by the way for literally any other thing you need to focus on, that's a great tip, listening to music in other languages, because you can still focus with interesting music in the background but the lyrics arent grabbing you at all. anyways back to plural-related MaDD tips, yeah, don't listen to music. even if that song usually doesn't catch your attention. for me, if i'm talking, internally or externally, and there's music with lyrics playing, i reallyyy cannot focus on what i'm(or others, again, internally or externally) are saying. idk, might just be some sort of auditory processing issue related to my ADHD but i cannot focus on it, and because it's hard, i just need to pick one, and sometimes my brain picks the song and i just. stop talking. and start daydreaming.

idk what to do if you're not fronting and trying to communicate with whoever is fronting, because i've not switched(like i mentioned before, the host, who is me, has never not been the one fronting), but if anyone has any other tips either related to that or the ones i already have here, please feel free to let me know because i'd love to hear them and i'm sure others do too!! anyways, i hope i helped, idk this might be too specific to me.

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seraphim-coinz · 25 days

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cavityinmybrain · 6 months

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i find it very strange how many times i have been followed by actively anti-endo accounts on here. despite the fact that i am not hiding that im an endo supporter at all.

i have even brought it up to some accounts to let them know that they were breaking their own dni by interacting with me and one replied: “im fine interacting with traumagenic pro-endos but not endogenic systems” like that just makes me feel so mfin ICKY dude.

at this point i dont want to call myself traumagenic to keep this specific subsect of people away. whats the one thats like “you dont get to know”-genic? im that one now fuck you.

#quoigenic #system #sysblr #plural #multiplicity #bark bark #barley #syscourse #pro endo #anti endos dont interact if i break ur fucking dni pls and thanks #like seriously wth guys #you want to bitch abt other people having different experiences than you idgaf #but then you break your own dni to interact with the people you dont like and justify it bc im traumagenic?#fuck you

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autopsycollective · 2 months

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hey here’s an idea, if you disagree with my views on endos then why not just block me or don’t interact with me instead of fucking crying in my comments about it.

#endos dni #endos do not interact #endos fuck off #endos not for you #anti endo #pls stfu

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cemetery-drive-sys · 2 months

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Hihi just wanted to pop in and say ily and ur valid and ur beautiful and amazing and it's ok to feel!! Take a break if you need.

ALSO GO GET SOME WATER!! AND FOOD!! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!

I love you soooooo much :3 /p

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#endos dni #anti endo #did osdd #osddid #dissociative identity disorder #pdid system #pdid #ily all #pls go get water

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antis-hell · 8 months

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Raaahhhh making an official post advertising our server>:]

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entropy-sea-system · 1 year

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BPD Grumpy Bear

Reformatting this post from a previous post I made!

I've watched only the recent care bears(unlock the magic) and I found it relateable that Grumpy had moments where he snapped at people he cared about or had his anger be more intense than he found manageable. As someone who has experienced similar things as a trauma response and still sometimes needs to be left alone when really angry so I don't inadvertantly hurt people, I related that to being similar to an aspect of my bpd.

more under the cut!

And grumpy's anger gets represented as a thundercloud due to his belly badge power which sometimes functions as an indicator of emotion. I sort of relate to not exactly knowing how you feel until it becomes visible or obvious, due to my alexithymia. Also he has one arc where because he was working on something that was important to him(Rain, Rain, Go Away), he didn't realise until later that he was frustrated and taking it out on others, which he then apologises for.

He also appears to split on another character whos kind of like his friend/kid(?), (basically a young whiffle who joined the group and gravitated towards Grumpy) alternating between getting along with her and feeling very positive about her and then having times where due to frustration he wants to be left alone or gets upset at her(If it's Broke, Fix It).

He also shows similar emotions about the other characters he's close to and has a few taking accountability for the effects of his anger and doing his best to manage it type of arcs I suppose(Rain, Rain, Go Away and Sorry not Sorry). The latter episode also shows him to have difficulties with apologies which I relate to though thats due my aspd and npd rather than bpd.

Also its not very noticeable but he has this thing where he feels the need to be alone usually due to being introvertedish or needing to work on something or due to intense emotions, but at the same time misses others when alone and seems to have doubts about himself. Sort of makes me think of the emptiness and possibly abandonment issues associated w bpd.

And in one episode he is shown to be likely the most suspicious of newcomers out of the care bears(Things That Go Plunk), and this suspicion towards others is something I relate to my bpd and trauma, more so the latter, as a hypervigilance type of thing.

In one episode where his anger-formed thundercloud causes rain (Rain, Rain, Go Away) , the whiffles in the meadow where it rained(which as a result became messy and muddy and the plants got washed away), including Dibble(the one whos joined the care bears group), are upset at him.

As a result, he thinks the best solution is pretending to always be happy and not prone to anger or frustration, basically the opposite of his usual personality, to the extent that his sense of self is eclipsed by his need to avoid anger. Its even physically shown by him sticking a sticky note with a smiley face on it over his belly badge and asking to be called Mr. Happyface.

This I felt reminded me of bpd masking and having an unstable/variable sense of self. The storyline that results felt kind of iffy in that the other care bears try to make him angry so that it rains in an arid field in addition to telling him to be and accept himself. It felt like they were just trying to get him to make the raincloud at some points.

But at the end of the episode he also learns that its best to be himself and accept his emotions rather than pretend to be someone he's not which I feel can be similar to someone realising they're pwbpd and not feeling like they have to mask their bpd traits all the time. I guess I personally have been masking less since I realised Im pwbpd but also prefer to be left alone when some of the traits like intense anger show up due to that not always being safe for me to show around others.

I will also definitely be making an addition here of the IDW comics arc he has because that felt very much like I related to it as someone with BPD. However when I made the initial post, I had not read the IDW utm comics (and in fact may not even have made my way through the entirety of season 1 at that time)

Okay, so, remember how Grumpy's cloud powers get more rain and storm like when he's frustrated or angry(and more unpredictable due to being in the silver lining)? I noticed a detail here in the comics where he's lifting cans with a cloud (as far as I remember he does not lift things with his clouds other than perhaps the entire cloudseeker, in the show) and as his mood changes the cloud turns gray and rainy.

(for reference he starts off pretty burnt out already from fixing things in this issue. He just really needs a break.)

There is a plot point here where Bluster, Robbie, and the bad crowd are messing with these mirrors that are supposed to show one's ideal self to make the mirrors show their worst self. They dress up as the worst possible selves of Grumpy, Cheer, Goodluck, and Funshine (as they are the ones who enter the 'funhouse' with the messed up mirrors).

Each bear has an arc where they overcome the negative perceptions of their worst reflection. Grumpy's 'reflection' shows up the earliest and he did not look at the normal mirrors which show ones ideal self first like the others did.

Cheer, Goodluck, and Funshine all see past the illusion but realise Grumpy's still in the maze. At this point Cheer goes in to find him.

I do very much connect this to having an unstable sense of self (which I experience due to my bpd and other neurodivergences). It also really shows how much he cares for his invention (The Cloudseeker) and Dibble. (Also side note huh. They can get oil from rainbowson mountains??? Interesting. )

At this point, Cheer reassures Grumpy that the crew knows he's not turned to the bad crowd like Bluster and Robbie try to convince them (and him) he is. She also reminds him that they know he cares and I think it's really cool how her leadership skills are shown in this arc!

And at this point Grumpy breaks through the illusion with the help of Cheer. I find it to be a similar arc to Rain, Rain, Go Away in the acceptance of having grumpiness as an emotion though this is also Grumpy realising he matters to the people he cares about. And I think its nice that this arc is portrayed.

At the end, Cheer also gives him this piece of glass from the funhouse for his souvenir hat to remind him of his true self, and that was another way Cheer's leadership skills and ability to reassure others was displayed.

Finally, the arc ends with Grumpy seeing his ideal self in the nearby mirrors. I feel the comics mostly spoke for themselves thus I don't have all that much to add on here.

(-Rift)

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deepwater-abyss · 2 years

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Just wanna say, this blog and our system blog supports (@the-frog-pond) non-traumagenic systems. We are a system that has experienced trauma. We are still experiencing traumatic stuff. But trauma isnt the only reason members formed in this system. And DID/OSDD arent trauma disorders, they're dissociative. Yes, trauma is one cause, but not the only. Systems that formed without trauma are still systems. Systems that formed from trauma are still systems.

We shouldn't be fighting eachother. We should be banding together to bring more awareness to plurality in general and make it accepted in society. We should be working together to help destigmatize plurality. We should participate if possible in studies about plurality. We should accept and encourage research, whether we like the findings or not. Science is always changing, and that's a good thing. There was a time DID was called MPD. There was a time depression, gender dysphoria, npd, all of that was seen as evil. And there are still people who believe mental illness isn't real.

We should be a community.

I encourage everyone who reads this to look into the most recent findings on plurality and also to read the DSM-5 and its definition of DID and OSDD (and other dissociative disorders)

And remember, science and people change. Its okay to admit you were wrong. Its ok to admit the science was wrong. Change is good and we shouldn't fear it

#endo positivity #endo safe #plural community #pluralgang #plurality #plural positivity #syscourse dni #anti endo dni #well anti endo can interact but pls dont be disrespected #i do encourage everything to keep updated on the scientific consensus on plurality #post this on systemcringe idk cringe culture is dead #endogenic #pro endo #non-traumagenic safe

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sorrowful-figure · 1 month

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Hmmmm should I make a ‘list’ for whenever someone in the sys signs off?? To make it more ‘neat’ or? Should I just let whatever happen -Figure

#text post #plural #endo safe #anti endo dni #endos interact pls #-Figure

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npdtoji · 1 month

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i want more sys mutuals </3 guys where are you…. this isn’t my main blog so making mutuals is awkward w/o putting myself out there like this!!!!!

#🦑#actually dissociative #dissociative identity disorder #did osdd #anti endo #endos dni #osdd system #sorry i cannot think of more tags pls be my mutual

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dollystuffs-chiori · 2 months

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hey btw endos are valid :3 we love you!

#endo safe #pro endo #endo friendly #pro endogenic #endogenic systems are valid #proship #profic #profiction #proship pls interact #proship interact #anti endo dni

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sawyer-is-eepy · 2 months

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oh my god this is just anti endo shit... like i know it isnt explicitly for endos but i was expecting positivity and memes :(

if youre like me and browsing this tag, im so sorry <33 love youuu youre valid :D youre wonderful :D

if youre an anti endo, thats... okay too. im not gonna fight yall over this tag cause like i said its not only ours just its a bit misleading thats all.

to ALL systems: have a great day/night!

#actually plural #anti endos pls dni :)#endo safe #pro endo #plurality #multiplicity #plural system

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cemetery-drive-sys · 2 months

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Hi ok story time

So I go to school (shocker /s) and I bring my phone cus I listen to music on the bus and use it during breaks to talk to the silly little gay people in my phone, but I FORGOT it and was freaking out but I was like eh it'll be fine they'll probably think ur dead but ur not so whatever so then I got throughthe day and went home and realized I DIDN'T HAVE MY GODDAMN KEYS. MY KEYS ARE ATTACHED TO THE LANYARD ON MY PHONE. So I was freaking out cus it was fucking freezing and my mom wasn't home so I was banging on the door for who knows what reason and then I gave up and sat on the porch to wait for my mom to come home. The neighbour, who I'd never talked to before, pulled in and went over to me and invited me to his part of the house and it was chill like he asked if I needed anything to drink and gave me the remote to put on whatever and the room was rly nice, they had like cool mini models and statues of old Greek and Roman statue stuff so ANYWAY my mom came home and freaked out and almost called my dad before she checked th neighbours house and I was there so happy ending YIPPEE!!

Also my gf and best friend thought I was dead or did something dumb and the neighbours are gay so that's cool :3

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#endos dni #anti endo #did osdd #osddid #dissociative identity disorder #pdid #pdid system #dissociative system #story #storytime #random #im so tired pls save me #i woke up at 4am im going insane

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theromansys · 1 year

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-sniper (i am so sorry ivy)

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mystysystem · 21 hours

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Hi, is it okay to join the hideaway if only the host is able to say stuff /join in? (p-did with poor communication :( )

You’re absolutely welcome to join! This server isn’t restricted to people with DIDOSDD and we have other P-DID systems in it, and we’d be glad to have you join!

#anti endo #endos dni #dissociative identity disorder #system discord #did system #syscord #pls join we’d love to have u #this also goes for anyone else peeking in on this ask #JOIN JOIN JOIN PLS PLS PLS

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