autistic culture is needing explicit directions for even the simplest of tasks and without the directions having zero idea how to get it done because What If I Do It Wrong(tm)

An Autism culture blog is spreading misinformation about endogenic systems...

The misinformation:

Naturally, all of this is wrong.

The only true statement here is "you could probably learn a lot more about these things in your own research." Because yeah... Doing your own research is likely to bring you to actually valid sources of information instead of whatever this is.

Real Information:

Endogenic systems are not a "fake form of dissociative disorder."

Endogenic systems ARE plural systems who experience multiple agents, or "headmates," sharing the same body in some way without trauma. Usually, endogenic systems don't even report having any sort of dissociative disorder at all.

And this is a real experience that's been repeatedly acknowledged by the psychiatric community.

So much so that the World Health Organization's diagnostic handbook, the ICD-11, specifically states that you can experience the presence of multiple "distinct identity states" without a mental disorder.

"Distinct identity states" is the same wording the ICD-11 uses to describe alters that characterized DID:

It's also acknowledged in the book Transgender Mental Health by Eric Yarbrough, which was reviewed and published by the American Psychiatric Association, that you can be plural without trauma or a disorder:

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Additionally, the phrasing that endogenic plurality "mocks and invalidates people who are actually plural" is especially harmful as it erases and rewrites a huge part of plural history. That is, the fact that "plural" is an inclusive term coined and popularized to by non-disordered and endogenic systems.

Back in the 90s, the popular term that was used was "multiple," originating with "multiple personality disorder," the old name for DID.

The shift towards using "plural" was an effort by non-disordered systems to distance themselves from medical and pathologizing language. As you can see from this article from the 90s:

We don't claim that every multiple system/household is a happy loving cooperative one. What we do question is the *identification* of "real multiples" with the characteristics or symptoms of a psychological disorder. We go further: we question by what right or authority doctors and therapists are given sole jurisdiction over the definition of "an individual".

This is one reason our clan encourages use of the word "plural" rather than "multiple". "Multiple", even standing by itself, brings to mind MPD/DID, "multiple personality disorder", "dissociative identity disorder", which are specific diagnoses created by the medical/therapeutic community. "Plural" is a much more neutral word, more commonly heard in the context of grammar than psychiatry. (The other reason, of course, is that plural can be construed to have a broader meaning, applying to anyone(s) anywhere on the continuum who experience themselves as plural in some way. )

The Bottom Line:

An autism culture blog should be lifting up all neurodivergents. Not spreading misinformation about them and encouraging hate!

Dear transautistics,

I hope your “dysphoria” gets horrible and you have to get off of social media <3 go fuck yourself <3

Me: hey, are you ok? Do you want me to get your headphones or dim the lights or anything?

Him, hunched over in a ball: who me? No, I just have to solve this crime in Japan.

help me move out of my controlling parents' house

hi, everyone. i'm a 29 year old autistic woman and i need help moving out of my toxic parent's household in order to live a normal and healthy life. in no way am i intellectually impaired, my mother uses my neurodivergence to infantilize me. she has always been controlling, but her grip is tightening and the demands she's placing on me are unreasonable. not only that, but she's violating my boundaries by telling her customers at work my personal business and seeking their opinions on what i should and shouldn't be allowed to do. i'm having to lie about going on dates with my friend who's also a love interest because she doesn't want me to have a boyfriend. she literally sat down next to me and made me friendzone him over instagram DMs so she would be more comfortable about a day trip we were planning, even though that was a lie and i have romantic feelings.

she's forcing purity culture on me, an adult woman, and making it so that i have no choice but to maintain my virginity with threats and a bizarre obsession with it, telling me not to be "giving anything away" when i'm just going out for coffee or a picnic, i'm having to lie about where i am because she'll cause trouble even though i'm not doing anything wrong, she's accusing me of being "up to something" and it's uncomfortable around the house when she tells me i'm being too quiet and i've "changed". i haven't "changed", and i just think she's afraid of losing control over me, so she's treating me like a teenager. she keeps demanding info about my dates with the same person, where i'll be, what time, what i'm wearing and getting too involved, then proceeding to guilt me into not engaging in any kind of sexual activity when that's not even on the table and i'm terrified of losing my virginity because of the consequences should she find out (and she will in one way or another). i don't have agency over that and it's not a choice i "get" to make, and i'm scared that if that moment comes, it's not going to be about me or my partner. it's going to be about her and the guilt and fear i've been conditioned with, and paranoia. i'm not allowed to go to another adult man's house unless his mother is home. these rules are reasonable for an adolescent or a high schooler, but this is just ridiculous and she insists i need to be chaperoned on dates. i'm not allowed to go out at night, even though i'll be with an absolute sunshine of a guy who promised to protect me and i can trust. my mother is getting other people involved in my love life and i'm living on eggshells, finding that i have to hide parts of myself and my identity because she's blowing everything out of proportion and criticizing my fashion choices and what i can/can't wear.

earlier this summer, she had her coworker besties and familiar customers weigh in on whether or not i should be "allowed" to go to the beach with my friend and she put a tracker on my phone. at 29 years old. i became so ill with severe anxiety that i lost weight, fell into depression, felt nauseous and developed a habit of shaking when i'm nervous.

i don't have any other friends or family to live with (he lives with his parents too and is also ND) and she's holding money over my head to keep me indebted. i owe her $3500 for helping me fix my car because i accidentally dented it getting too close to our gate trying to make room in the driveway for my dad's car and she wouldn't let me park in the garage, aka what it's there for. she charges me $500 rent per month and on top of my phone and car insurance bill, i have nothing left to give her or save to pay her back.

i'll never be able to move out with this financial obligation or even save up, and i really need help because this is unhealthy and her imposed rules, spreading my personal business, disrespect and exertion of control and manipulation over me is escalating. i have a job and it's not enough, barely covers my bills and rent. please help me because i'm beginning to feel like there's no way out and i need to get free. if you have some extra money to spare and you're feeling kind enough to help me, my paypal is:

thank you so much, and please spread this so that others may see it and help me. <3

I DON'T THINK ABLEISM IS FUNNY !!!

"is he restarted" "is he acoustic" please stfu I beg Why do so many memes revolve around ableism it genuinely makes me want to throw an egg against the wall. First it was the thing where people just genuinely used the word "autism" as an insult, then it was the stupidass good doctor meme, and now this. Please save me. Funny enough I thought actual autistic people were using the "acoustic/artistic" thing but apparently not lol. I am standing over a bathtub with a toaster in one hand and a taser in the other. /nsrs /lh /rant

My problem isn't that I don't like work. My problem is that I have to sacrifice fun relaxation time for the sake of getting work done. The work is fine, but put me on a schedule and I will bite you

I AM TOO AUTISTIC IT IS NOT OK.

Any other autistics very into glassware? Collecting blown glass sculptures? Loves feeling the texture of beaded glass jewelry? Obsessed with historic stained glass windows in churches? Mesmerized by uranium glassware any time you're in an antique store? Is anyone else have a glass special interest?

Via

i am autistic and love making lists that have sections, sub-sections, sub-sub-sections, etc

but i'm also adhd and physically cannot read lists despite how short they may be, including my own which is kind of a problem sometimes

this is fine 🥲

i have being very stressed so thats why there has not being any content on ether of my blogs. sorry

sorry my freands i just have to recupirate.

I made this. Let’s make it World Autism Acceptance Day instead. ❤️🙂

"I hated how their eyes felt on my bare existence, so I built up a circus and called it myself to give them a show other than who I am when I've taken off all my makeup and jewelry, put down my phone, and climbed into bed. I've worked so hard to play the part I've forgotten who I was when I first looked to others to see my reflection." -Nov 17 2023 Aik.

Someone pointed out autistic people making weird sounds and

I RELATE. Like, you telling me people don’t want to make the Minecraft villager sound whenever they see something cringy? Wouldn’t people appreciate it if we could just...meow instead of expressing frustration in..ew...HUMAN words??? I’m very talkative and super tired of having to talk to ppl at the same time 

parents should know that their autistic kids/teens enjoy listening to the same bands/songs over and over before introducing them and then turning around and getting mad at them for "playing it to death"