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the-little-fox-in-the-box · 2 years

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Since first organisms reproduced asexually, being LGBTQ is older than being straight, therefore more natural. Happy pride everyone

#happy pride #asexual #ace #aroace #ace ally #not asexual just supportive

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heyftinally · 6 months

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So it's nearing the end of ace week, and although I've celebrated, I haven't been successful in making the post I've wanted to make, despite a number of attempts. So instead, I'm just going to do this quick and dirty, unedited style.

Aspec allies, I need you to understand something very important: asexuals and aromatics are capable of consent, even if it feels "weird" to you.

Let me elaborate.

Disclaimer: I'm speaking exclusively on my ace allorom experience, as that's what I know best.

One of my ex's, while mostly great, had a really big hang up about consent. Namely, they never fully believed I was truly consenting to any and every act of physical affection. Despite numerous conversations where I swore up, down, and sideways that I would tell them if I wasn't comfortable, multiple attempts to find ways I could alleviate their concerns, and countless attempts to explain my experiences to help them see my perspective, they just couldn't get behind it. Part of them always felt like they were in some way taking advantage of me or pressuring me.

It felt...really uncomfortable. I'm an adult. I have full agency over my body and my choices concerning it. I'm fully capable of knowing where my own boundaries are, and it's my job to communicate them. It's my partner's job to trust that I'm being truthful.

So to constantly feel like I'm being babied, or that my word isn't enough to prove that I'm not lying about my boundaries, or that I somehow need special treatment around physical affection solely because I'm asexual, it felt like I was having my autonomy taken from me, in a way. Despite what I was saying, they still believed I couldn't possibly *really* be comfortable with what I was agreeing to (even things as innocent as kissing).

After we broke up, it really messed me up for a while, thinking that I somehow hadn't communicated well enough, or, worse, that I made them uncomfortable just by being who I am. And that right there is a terrible feeling, but it's essentially what happened - my asexuality made them uncomfortable. And rather than unpacking that and working on it, they continued to put these insecurities on me and expect me to repeatedly comfort them and more or less apologize for my sexuality. At least, that's how it felt.

Don't do this. It's exhausting to constantly have this weight on you that your partner feels like predatory just for being with you, and it's exhausting constantly having to come up with ways to explain our experiences in ways that we hope will make sense.

It's fine to talk about it, but please, put in the effort and do the work to unpack your hang-ups and misconceptions.

We're adults. Whole, autonomous adults. We can set boundaries and give consent, and we have a right to be able to do so. Let us have that autonomy. If you wouldn't be this hung up on your non-asexual partner's ability to give consent, don't be about ours. Just because our experiences are different doesn't change our ability to give (and revoke) consent.

#asexual #asexuality #asexual awareness week 2023 #asexual awareness week #sex favorable #sex favorable ace #sex favorable asexual #consent #asexual consent #asexual ally #ace ally #ace #aspec

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sandygarnelle · 2 years

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An easy way to explain asexuality is that you may get "horny" but you never get the "awooga!"

#asexual #asexuality #ace #ace pride #ace support #ace ally #lgbtq positivity #lgbt #lgbtq community #sandy says #rant #thoughts

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boobexplosion · 4 months

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being in queer spaces for 8 years watching the cycle repeat. remembering 4 years ago when it was "aces have aven". part of growing and changing is accepting that for the rest of time there's always gonna be stupid fucks. dont forget kalvin is on your side about aros/aces not being wanted.

please remember this is not how irl queers act. when you go to house parties and clubs the people who say you dont belong stay online. because exclusionists dont get invited to queer parties

if i see anyone on the dash tn bash aros or aces im going to find your address

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aro ally #ace ally

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obsidian-obliterator · 8 months

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Ally flags

#homo ally #bi ally #ace ally #biromantic #bisexual #homoromantic #homosexual #asexual #aromanitc #heteroromantic #heterosexual #vexillology

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angelsaxis · 4 months

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Image ID: URGENT!!! Nigerian trans woman is facing housing issues is urgently in need of funds for rent as her rent has expired for a while now and she needs help to get sheltered soon as the landlord has asked her to move out soon. She also needs support with her hrt meds

GOAL: $1050

Paypal: @angelsaxis

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I have to remake because the last one got a lot of notes, but little to no help.

Lola is constantly at risk of being homeless, and Nigeria is a violently homophobic and transphobic country. She needs money for food, housing, and HRT. She also recently suffered a terrible loss when her friend, Fola (IG), drowned a few weeks ago.

When I say any amount helps, I mean it. I can't tell you how many times just a handful of fives here and there adds up faster than you'd expect.

Her twitter is @/Afreau_Deity. At the moment, she hasn't eaten all day.

312.84/1050 USD

#angel posts #transgender #mutual aid #crowdfund #lesbian #gay #bisexual #nigerian #queer #trans #queer nigeria #queer nigerian #lgbt #lgbtq #ace #asexual #pan #pansexual #trans help #ally #allyship

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quinnick · 2 years

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This is your friendly reminder that ace/aro people belong in queer spaces. Yes, even cishet ace/aro people. Yes, even cishet ace/aro men. And if I see you tell an ace/aro person that hc a queer character ace/aro is infantilizing them, I will take your fucking kneecaps

#LGBTQIA #The A does not stand for ally #Asexual #Aromantic #ace awareness

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prose-among-the-trees · 4 months

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I keep seeing people have to turn their reblogs off for aromantic and asexual pride and support on this site, and it breaks my heart.

Aroace homies or anyone falling under either spectrum deserve love and care, respect and support. The A in the LGBTQ+ acronym is not ‘ally’ and I can promise that.

Any aromantics following this blog- you’re loved. Anyone under the aro spectrum- you’re supported.

Any asexuals following this blog- you’re respected. Anyone under the ace spectrum- you’re so cared for.

I see you and I support you. I adore who you are and who you are and aren’t attracted to sexually or romantically. You’re real. You matter.

#aromantic #aroace #arospec #aroallo #acespec #ace pride #asexual #aroace ally #aro pride

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vivdagoof · 1 year

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#asexual #allosexual #aro #ace #ally #lgbtqia #queer #gay #lgbtqia+#lgbt #lgbt community #goofy #get it together y'all #aromantic #aro positivity #ace memes #ace positivity #i will fight you

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fourteentheart · 6 days

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Every time I see that particular photo floating around I'm reminded "Oh yeah, I want to draw Gaius and the Werlyt kids like that" and forget. Until today!

I've been wanting to draw this one since last summer. 😭

#ffxiv #gaius baelsar #sorrow of werlyt #allie baelsar #alfonse baelsar #ricon baelsar #rex baelsar #milisandia baelsar #all the baelsars that's their official last name in the books ok #ace scribbles #idm if you hate gaius and/or sow but be nice if you write anything in the tags lmao i do see it!

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raccoon-queer · 1 year

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y'know what? I'm gonna say it

asking if someone is afab or amab is transphobic

the only people who need to know what gender you were assigned at birth are medical professionals and potentially sexual partners. otherwise, there is literally no reason anyone needs to know your agab

"but I have trauma with amab people" "but afab people are annoying" that sounds like a you problem and does not justify asking people what's in their pants. because that is what you are doing – just with politically correct terminology

you cannot call yourself a trans ally and then ask to know what's in someone's pants. end of story

(also? some people aren't afab or amab. neither sex nor gender are binary)

#ace speaks #transgender #trans #trans man #trans woman #nonbinary #afab #amab #intersex #lgbtq #queer #trans ally

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traceyshortfilm · 1 year

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