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Cw for TERFism, misgendering
I received the following comment on a vent post of mine about how my masculinity is punished both outside and inside the queer community.
I wanted to point out a couple things about it:
1) They try to make it sound friendly, but this is classic transandrophobia. I’m being accused of trying to “opt out” of the patriarchy through transitioning.
2) They try to build “Female Solidarity” by calling me female and trying to relate to me on the basis of suffering. “Male-Supremacist” here is meant to attribute my complaints about the queer community to trans women oppressing me.
3) Them listing what they consider men’s jobs is really, really funny. That is not all masculinity is. I’m going into a women-dominated field. I just also happen to be some guy. But it’s interesting to see what they think female masculinity is.
Anyway, this was really gross to receive and I very strongly recommend blocking this person ASAP if you’re any kind of trans especially. They use politeness as a way of manipulation but I have seen the nasty things they say and do to/about transmascs in their own circles. They are not safe people for us. Be careful out there.
#transandrophobia#transmisogyny#transandrophobia tw#transphobia tw#TE/RFism#rad/feminism tag#mine#long post
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(tw for transphobia but it’s funny if that helps)
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(cw medical transphobia and weight loss mention) adding on to the BMI is bullshit thing, I’m a trans dude who’s now being refused top surgery until I get my BMI under 30 and like… I have a similar body type to you, kat. It’s stupid and ridiculous- and my chest is part of what makes my bmi that high in the first place! These things aren’t made of bubbles and air, it’s fat! So the tldr is that I now have to lose a certain amount of weight before my next appointment in a year, which honestly sucks big time
No that's so stupid, because first of all it isn't even scientifically proven that intentional weight loss is a realistic option for most people, and on the other hand the many "health risks" associated with fatness may very well be more correlation than causation due to many doctors not taking their fat patients seriously in time. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this ❤️
#chat with kat#transphobia tw#medical neglect tw#medical abuse tw#weight tw#weight morality tw#body shaming tw#body image tw#fatphobia tw#surgery tw#diet culture tw#weight loss tw
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Amazing how Terf brain just fucking rots your humanity and ability to be objective like she is just making this her problem while actual assault on women’s rights is taking place
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allison bechdel is a yearly michfest attendee
Gotta question this assertion if only because michfest hasn't been held for almost ten years BUT you're right that she was at least attending in the 2000s and she did post typical transphobic talking points,
so I apologize jumping the conclusion that it was fake. I'm sorry.
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once i said butch girls who call themselves dudes and boyfriends are cute and i got put on a blocklist for supporting “invalid identities” which is fucking hilarious. cant a guy dyke it up in peace in the privacy of his own home
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Why do u call yourself a transGIRL if you are over 18? That's pedophilic .
this one is always sooo funny to me, cause like ok, when some random cis woman calls herself or her friend a girl or something she's quirky and cool, but when a trans person calls themselves a girl or a boy we're suddenly pedophiles! hmmmm i wonder where that rhetoric comes from?
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They put Tayy Dior’s name in quotes as if that was a fun little nickname her friends called her. It places emphasis on the fact that her name is ‘unofficial,’ and given that legal name changes in places like the US can be expensive, difficult & time consuming, the ‘unofficial’ nature of transgender peoples’ names is commonplace. Using deadnames of trans people in media reports is an endorsement of the difficult nature of this process.
It also highlights the absurdity of appealing to ‘official’ legal records of name and gender marker - which official records? even when you go through a legal name change process, it’s not a single application that changes it everywhere. At least in my experience in Canada, and I believe this is the case in other federated states, you have to separately change your photo ID(s), your birth certificate, your federal/national records, your tax records, your employment and tenant records, your bank records, your billing records, and so on. These are all separate applications/appointments. And legal name and gender marker are separate applications. I had to essentially obtain a set of permission slips from a provincial office that allowed me to change my name and gender marker on municipal, provincial, and federal records. There isn’t one single ‘official’ record that informs all other records of your ‘real’ name and gender marker, it is a collection of diffused departments & offices that do not communicate with one another and must be altered one at a time by the individual themselves. In many cases, states retain a record of your original name and gender marker even after applying for a change, meaning it is literally impossible to ever fully change your name and gender everywhere, administratively speaking.
So, which record is the ‘official’ record for trans people? Cis people treat ‘official’ records of legal names and gender markers as if they are uniform, centralised, and coherent in order to contrast the ‘unofficial’ nature of a trans person’s “preferred” name and pronouns, to highlight the fundamental fraudulence of our lives that go against the rational objective nature of the state, but there is in many states no single official record, for trans and non-trans people alike. That is because when cis people insist on calling trans people by their deadnames and ungender them, they are not actually referring to official records - as official records can conflict, and there is no agreement on which single record is the authoritative one - but are instead treating sex and name assignment at birth as if it is sacrosanct. This first ritual of naming, of gendering, and of recording the results of this ritual is the actual ‘official record’ they are referring to, a ritual that can never be altered or forsaken.
Tayy Dior’s name is not a nickname, it is not a quotation to insert into her “real” “official” deadname, it is not a preference. It is her name, and the media - even “trans inclusive” media - is making sure that it is, at best, the second thing they call her as they gleefully report on her violent murder
#even old new york was once new amsterdam#transmisogyny tw#transphobia tw#hate crime tw#transmisogynoir tw
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Wow, Daegu (South Korea) went from not protecting Daegu Pride in 2018 the way they should've to receiving education sessions on Queer culture and becoming public allies and vowing to protect Pride from then on and doing exactly so every single year culminating in this year when their hobgoblin of a mayor tried to destroy Pride, and now even protesting in favor of Pride? Growth.
It's important to note that the courts also supported Pride and the mayor publicly threatened the police chief, yet the police still went to protect and support Pride.
"South Korean news agency Yonhap estimated that about 500 protesters and 1,500 police officers were at the scene. The festival ultimately continued, with the parade taking place as planned."
#not a dream#long post#homophobia tw#pride#transphobia tw#south korea#daegu#police#politics#equality
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Homemaking, gardening, and self-sufficiency resources that won't radicalize you into a hate group
It seems like self-sufficiency and homemaking skills are blowing up right now. With the COVID-19 pandemic and the current economic crisis, a lot of folks, especially young people, are looking to develop skills that will help them be a little bit less dependent on our consumerist economy. And I think that's generally a good thing. I think more of us should know how to cook a meal from scratch, grow our own vegetables, and mend our own clothes. Those are good skills to have.
Unfortunately, these "self-sufficiency" skills are often used as a recruiting tactic by white supremacists, TERFs, and other hate groups. They become a way to reconnect to or relive the "good old days," a romanticized (false) past before modern society and civil rights. And for a lot of people, these skills are inseparably connected to their politics and may even be used as a tool to indoctrinate new people.
In the spirit of building safe communities, here's a complete list of the safe resources I've found for learning homemaking, gardening, and related skills. Safe for me means queer- and trans-friendly, inclusive of different races and cultures, does not contain Christian preaching, and does not contain white supremacist or TERF dog whistles.
Homemaking/Housekeeping/Caring for your home:
Making It by Kelly Coyne and Erik Knutzen [book] (The big crunchy household DIY book; includes every level of self-sufficiency from making your own toothpaste and laundry soap to setting up raised beds to butchering a chicken. Authors are explicitly left-leaning.)
Safe and Sound: A Renter-Friendly Guide to Home Repair by Mercury Stardust [book] (A guide to simple home repair tasks, written with rentals in mind; very compassionate and accessible language.)
How To Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis [book] (The book about cleaning and housework for people who get overwhelmed by cleaning and housework, based on the premise that messiness is not a moral failing; disability and neurodivergence friendly; genuinely changed how I approach cleaning tasks.)
Gardening
Rebel Gardening by Alessandro Vitale [book] (Really great introduction to urban gardening; explicitly discusses renter-friendly garden designs in small spaces; lots of DIY solutions using recycled materials; note that the author lives in England, so check if plants are invasive in your area before putting them in the ground.)
Country/Rural Living:
Woodsqueer by Gretchen Legler [book] (Memoir of a lesbian who lives and works on a rural farm in Maine with her wife; does a good job of showing what it's like to be queer in a rural space; CW for mentions of domestic violence, infidelity/cheating, and internalized homophobia)
"Debunking the Off-Grid Fantasy" by Maggie Mae Fish [video essay] (Deconstructs the off-grid lifestyle and the myth of self-reliance)
Sewing/Mending:
Annika Victoria [YouTube channel] (No longer active, but their videos are still a great resource for anyone learning to sew; check out the beginner project playlist to start. This is where I learned a lot of what I know about sewing.)
Make, Sew, and Mend by Bernadette Banner [book] (A very thorough written introduction to hand-sewing, written by a clothing historian; lots of fun garment history facts; explicitly inclusive of BIPOC, queer, and trans sewists.)
Sustainability/Land Stewardship
Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer [book] (Most of you have probably already read this one or had it recommended to you, but it really is that good; excellent example of how traditional animist beliefs -- in this case, indigenous American beliefs -- can exist in healthy symbiosis with science; more philosophy than how-to, but a great foundational resource.)
Wild Witchcraft by Rebecca Beyer [book] (This one is for my fellow witches; one of my favorite witchcraft books, and an excellent example of a place-based practice deeply rooted in the land.)
Avoiding the "Crunchy to Alt Right Pipeline"
Note: the "crunchy to alt-right pipeline" is a term used to describe how white supremacists and other far right groups use "crunchy" spaces (i.e., spaces dedicated to farming, homemaking, alternative medicine, simple living/slow living, etc.) to recruit and indoctrinate people into their movements. Knowing how this recruitment works can help you recognize it when you do encounter it and avoid being influenced by it.
"The Crunchy-to-Alt-Right Pipeline" by Kathleen Belew [magazine article] (Good, short introduction to this issue and its history.)
Sisters in Hate by Seyward Darby (I feel like I need to give a content warning: this book contains explicit descriptions of racism, white supremacy, and Neo Nazis, and it's a very difficult read, but it really is a great, in-depth breakdown of the role women play in the alt-right; also explicitly addresses the crunchy to alt-right pipeline.)
These are just the resources I've personally found helpful, so if anyone else has any they want to add, please, please do!
#homemaking#homemaking resources#gardening#urban gardening#self sufficiency#self sufficient living#sustainability#sustainable living#homesteading#nontrad homemaker#nontrad housewife#urban homesteading#solarpunk#cottagecore#kitchen witch#kitchen witchcraft#crunchy to alt right pipeline#book rec#book recommendations#resource#long post#mine#racism tw#racism mention#transphobia tw#transphobia mention
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I bought the wizard game because all the troons were making a big fuss about it. jk rowling did nothing wrong.
Okay look, I need you to take a step back from yourself and your in-group and really see that message, because to a normal person it's nonsensical. I acknowledge that you are trying to insult me, but it's not hitting the mark because "troon" just sounds like something a scifi character would use as currency. This is like when incels were calling women "femoids" like that's supposed to mean something. Get better writers.
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You’re not a lesbian if you post about penises. Words have meaning for a reason dipshit. You’re not a lesbian if you’re interested in penises.
i will gargle a thousand girl cocks before anyone has the capacity to love you! thanks for stopping by!
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TERFs on trans men having parties to celebrate getting top surgery:
Their entitlement to our bodies truly knows no bounds.
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I went to a dive bar for the first time a few days ago and I’m a transgender man. I needed to pee so badly cause I was drinking a ton and was there for like 4 hours! So I went into the bathroom and there was NO STALL DOORS (obviously cause of drug use but)
So I was trying to pee as fast as I could but once I was finished a guy walks in. I panicked and tried to make a sound so he wouldn’t look. I FUCKING SNIFFED. I shouldn’t have. This guy walks into the stall as I’m trying to wipe and goes “you doing Coke???” And I was like “no 😭” and then he STAYED THERE FOR LIKE A MINUTE TALKING TO ME. He finally realized I was using the bathroom and he goes “my bad dude!! Next time fart!” Then he started telling me “don’t worry I didn’t see anything” and I told him I “hid my dick as soon as I heard him walk in”
Funniest interaction I’ve had and if I wasn’t drunk I would have probably had a panic attack. I’m so grateful I pass now 😭 When I go back to that bar I will not stay there for as long but if I do I’m definitely not sniffing in the bathroom again
Yeah I have had similar encounters in bathrooms and it's so silly like no I am not doing cocaine in this trashy bathroom, yes I absolutely could if I wanted to, but who even are you and why would you be involved even IF I wanted to get high tonight?! 😂 (I'm so glad they didn't bother you for being transgender by the way!)
#chat with kat#transphobia tw#pee tw#bodily fluids tw#drugs tw#cocaine tw#alcohol tw#genitals tw#penis tw
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Guy certainly knows about it
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I think respecting trans people comes with a territory of like... just because many people will pass as cis doesn't mean that it's a great idea to use their passing as a way of legitimizing how absurd transphobia is
Transphobia isn't absurd because I "look like a [cis] man," it's because transphobia is fucking ridiculous. It would be ridiculous whether or not I passed or whether I look like a "conventional man." I use myself as an example, but ultimately, passing or appearing normative should never play into whether or not transphobia is bad.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#transphobia#transphobia tw#like sometimes you do have to meet people where they are if you're trying to convince them to change their mind#but it does feel weird when people only have 'but she looks like a woman!!!' as a way to delegitimize the transphobia somebody would face...#...in that example would it suddenly be okay if the transphobia that trans woman* faced couldn't be defended because people didn't...#...~think she looked like a woman~#for me at least i don't think it's a sustainable strategy to rely on one's passing/percieved passing to legitimize transness...#...or to point out how ridiculous transphobia is...#...you know transphobia does a good enough job of making a fool of itself without us almost... stooping down to their level
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