When I think about how much my life has changed and how many years have gone by since I was first on tumblr I get completely mind blown. I was a teenager who didn't feel like they had a future, now I'm 27 engaged and a mother of two. Shit got real, and shit got better.

If you are hurting reach out to someone, anyone please. Don’t struggle alone. Things get better. . #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthrecovery #thingsgetbetter #notalone #endthestigma #endthestigmaofmentalhealth (at Kitchener, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cji49yZrp0y/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

They will get better for sure 💯 #lovethis #badtimesdontlast #selfcare #thingsgetbetter

ThingsGetBetter release their new album 'Wish You Could've Been There'

ThingsGetBetter release their new album ‘Wish You Could’ve Been There’

I’d like to introduce you to ThingsGetBetter, a collective of passionate and talented artists from all over the DMV area who met through the music department of Norfolk State University, in 2019. Currently consisting of eight artists, four producers, and two engineers, they have garnered over 1 million independent streams, and have shared the stage with some of the biggest artists of our time,…

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Grateful.

I always feel better after talking to you. I feel reassured. When I feel lost, lonely, or unsure....I talk to you and those feelings seem to melt away. When I feel myself sinking into the deep blue, I talk to you and feel lighter.  You keep me from sinking. You keep me going. I am grateful for you and I hope you know that.

How to know if someone is toxic

There’s toxic people everywhere. Not a corner of the world is left without it. We encounter it, and sometimes it can hurt you like poison. Slow but painful.

I also like many people have toxic people in my life. Sometimes they are the love of my lives, sometimes people around me, friends or maybe someone I never even met. 

So how do you know when someone’s toxic to you?

Normally there are a few red flags to look out for...

-: You continuously doubt if they actually care.

-: You end up forgiving them in spite them repeating the same mistake over and over again.

-: They brush off the fact they hurt you.

-: They always try avoid the topic of your feelings or may even criticize you for your feelings.

-: They make you avoid your social interactions with your other loved ones or isolate you with them only.

-: They almost making you chose between them and other people in your life.

-: They end up being too controlling and say it’s to “protect you” or they want “you to be safe”.

-: They end up demanding unrealistic expectations from you and make you feel bad if you don’t reach them.

-: They may even physically harm you and apologize as they did it “at the heat of the moment”.

-: They blame you for mistakes they made or if things don’t go their way.

-: They expect you to return them as you should be in debt to them.

(Sometimes these people can be toxic without realizing, even you can be!)

Of course there are more and I’m no expert but these are just some of the signs I found really commonly in toxic people.

If you know someone in your life who’s toxic, they best way is to distance from them, this could be though losing contact with them, being more rigid with your boundaries etc. If they are someone such as a family member or someone close, the best way is to not let them affect your feelings. Try surround yourself with people that care or even get a counselor/therapist and I’m sure things will get better...things are rough for everyone (even me!) but things surely will get better later on...I promise (:

First time sharing what I always wanted to show my mom. This was awhile ago, so I wouldn’t bring this up now. We’ve been through a lot after my dad passed away. Crazy to think I was only 13 years old begging my mom to be an actual mom.

#notanad It feels like such a privilege to have these books by my two favorite artists on my desk. I look through them when I’m feeling down or when I need that extra boost of self esteem, and I love it. If you haven’t already, go check out these babes art (@abigailervin & @anastasia.tasou)!! It takes courage to run an art shop, and god knows mine didn’t end up the way I wanted it to. But I’m seriously obsessed with everything they do and I can’t wait to buy more from them. 🎨💕 . . #supportlocalartists #supportartisits #supportsmallbusinesses #bookstagram #keepingupwithaskillings #selflove #selfcare #selfhelp #anastasiatasou #abigailervinart #bathandbodyworks #ikea #stressed #supportfellowartists #bookmarks #itllbeokay #thingsgetbetter #writer #blogger #englishmajor (at Colorado Springs, Colorado) https://www.instagram.com/p/Boe9buSlaG8/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1vhc8hoojfn5b

Just a reminder to take good care. Of yourselves and of others. You’re not alone. [image text: Truly. Be as gentle as possible with yourselves and with others. Everyone I know is carrying something heavy. You’re not alone.✨ end image text] ✨ #yourenotalone #begentlewithyourself #youdeservelove #youdeservekindness #youdeservepeace #youdeserve #youarenotalone #lifeisheavy #lifeisbeautiful #lifeisbetterwithyou #hanginthere #encouragement #reminder #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveAL #lifegetsbetter #thingsgetbetter #giveittime #giveyourselftime #giveyourselfgrace #giveyourselfpermission #youhavepermission #therapistsofinstagram #traumarecovery #traumacare #heavylifting #notalone #youareenough #youareworthy #begentlewithyou https://www.instagram.com/p/CWJKbuqlgNb/?utm_medium=tumblr

#quotes #motivation #inspiration #stress #noworries #positivity #god #thingsgetbetter https://www.instagram.com/p/COKkAfuH1zi/?igshid=w66geb5wy2vh

‘Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations.’ One of my favorite quotes as it goes really well with some big things that Tim and I went through for a few years when he was sick. Luckily things have gotten better, but it was so rough there for what seemed like a long time. People often go through difficult times in their life, but eventually it gets better. #difficultroadsoftenleadtobeautifuldestinations #butstop #canihavearide #thingsgetbetter (at Arvada, Colorado) https://www.instagram.com/p/CMGIIberhWv/?igshid=1bm20u6rfxsc5

🏳️‍🌈 HAPPY PRIDE MONTH 🏳️‍🌈

Have a happy and safe one !

A year ago today, I woke up in the hospital after trying to take my life. I was broken. I was a different person. I let people throughout my life push me down into this hole I created and I truly thought I would never be able to get out of. I don’t remember a day that I didn’t cry myself to sleep. I was only “happy” when I was high off something. I let toxic people into my life because I thought I didn’t deserve anything better. I let myself believe that nothing was going to get better and that my life wasn’t worth living. I know there’s a lot of people that feel this way, and that’s why I’m posting this.... things DO get better! I went from rock bottom to the total opposite in 1 year. RIGHT when I thought my life wouldn’t get any worse, things got better. I started doing things for ME, and doing things that made me HAPPY. I fell in love with a guy who showed me what happiness was. I learned how to be happy for myself. I gave my life purpose, and I’m still not where I want to be in life but I’m ON MY WAY! So here’s to personal growth, things getting better, and being happy!! If anyone feels depressed, or feels like things don’t get better. Feel free to message me, I’m always here to talk to!! 💫🙂😇🤩✨#1yearago #thingsgetbetter #personal

The day I came out as transgender saved my life. Don’t worry child, you are about to bloom. 🌻🌻 . . . . . . #thingsgetbetter #tdov #trans #transgender #transgenderdayofvisibility #transdayofvisibility #ftm #xxboy #growth #selflove

#badday #badlife #relax #lookaroundyou #thingsgetbetter #enjoylife https://www.instagram.com/p/CGH5nS_h--g/?igshid=1kwljh55h3gup