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youraverageventblog · 4 months

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I own so much makeup but I have no clue how to use it cause every time I try to experiment, all I can think of is the lipstick on a pig quote and that vague feeling of disgust starts eating away at me from the inside out.

#vent blog #tw vent #tw depressing thoughts #bpd vent #bpd #cw depression #actually bpd #tw ed not ed sheeren #ed disorder #tw ana diary #4narex1a #makeup #makeup tips #plz?#idk how to tag this #lipstick on a pig #tw self loathing #self dis

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weriseandthrive · 11 months

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Importance of Setting Healthy Boundaries 🌟

Hey friends! 👋

Today, I want to talk about something that's crucial for our well-being: setting healthy boundaries. 🚧✋

Setting boundaries means establishing clear limits and guidelines for ourselves in various aspects of life. It's about defining what is acceptable and what isn't in our relationships, work, and personal lives. 🌈

Here's why setting healthy boundaries is so important:

1️⃣ Self-Care: By setting boundaries, we prioritize our own needs and well-being. It helps prevent burnout and allows us to take care of ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally. Remember, self-care isn't selfish—it's necessary!

2️⃣ Respect and Communication: Boundaries promote healthy communication and mutual respect. When we clearly communicate our boundaries, we give others the opportunity to understand our limits and expectations. This fosters healthier and more authentic relationships.

3️⃣ Empowerment: Establishing boundaries empowers us to make choices aligned with our values and priorities. It enables us to assert ourselves confidently, leading to a greater sense of self-worth and personal empowerment.

4️⃣ Reduced Stress: Boundaries help manage stress by preventing situations that drain our energy or cause unnecessary tension. They allow us to create a safe and balanced space where we can thrive and feel at ease.

So, how can we set healthy boundaries?

✅ Reflect on Your Needs: Take the time to identify your needs, values, and limits in different areas of your life. Understand what feels right for you and what doesn't.

✅ Communicate Assertively: Clearly and assertively communicate your boundaries to others. Use "I" statements and express your needs respectfully. Remember, your boundaries matter, and your voice deserves to be heard.

✅ Be Consistent: Consistency is key when it comes to maintaining boundaries. Stay firm and committed to upholding your boundaries, even when it may feel challenging.

✅ Practice Self-Compassion: Setting boundaries can be a learning process, and it's okay to make adjustments along the way. Practice self-compassion as you navigate this journey and remember that it's about growth, not perfection.

Let's embrace the power of setting healthy boundaries and create a life that aligns with our values and well-being. Together, we can cultivate healthier relationships and nurture our own happiness. 💕

Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences with boundaries in the comments below. Let's support each other on this important journey! 🤗✨

#SettingBoundaries #SelfCareMatters #HealthyRelationships

#empowerment #motivation #self dis #self discovery #self growth #self healing #self improvement #self love #self worth #10000 likes #like4like #self loyalty #life goals #personal development #trust the process #boundaries #follow #instant folllow back

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thatpunnyperson · 10 months

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According to NBC here in the US, the missing titanic sub has been found. As debris. Off the bow of the Titanic wreckage.

And it looks like the sub suffered what we all suspected, and what was undoubtedly the more merciful of the two options: a catastrophic implosion from the pressure.

Also, more info has come to light about the fishing trawler with the hundreds of migrants that sank cataclysmically off the coast of Greece, indicating that the greek coast guard knew about the vessel AND how much trouble the vessel was in, and were towing it at a speed that made it capsize, at which point they unhooked the tow line and watched the trawler sink without helping the passengers to safety. Despite a bunch of other ships trying to help as well throughout the whole ordeal.

So a lot of people are dead, all because of regulations (and the lack thereof) regarding sea-faring vessels and rescue protocols. People shouldnt be allowed to make a business charging a ton of money for a ride on an uncertified, unsafe, un-seaworthy ship going deep into the ocean with no distress beacon or tether to the mothership. People also shouldnt be allowed to enact laws that criminalize the ferrying of refugees, which then force the refugees to hitch rides on fishing trawlers, and which also prevent people from helping those fishing trawlers full of refugees due to fear of legal consequences.

Hopefully BOTH of these events spark changes on an international scale in terms of what is legally allowed to be sailed, who is legally allowed to be the passengers, and what the rescue protocols are in the event of disaster for any seafaring vessel, illegal or not. It shouldnt be just the global 1% who get 24/7 search parties and remote-operated submersibles helping rescue them.

#the question of 'what do we owe to each other' can be answered simply with 'the dignity of retrieving our remains when we die'#another answer is 'the dignity of thinking about each other fellow humans with similar motivations and feelings'#also 'stopping someones potentially self-destructive behaviors just because theyre rich and want to feel special'#also i feel like humans have been sailing the seas long enough that it should be guaranteed that people will survive sea voyages #im very mad about specifically mediterranean maritime disasters because we have ancient writing saying they made it safe #sailing from Egypt to Greece was so old hat and safe that people legit took the ancient equivalent of cruises back and forth #cleopatra habitually sailed from alexandria to rome with a ton of ships and was fine #Nero tried to have his mother drowned at sea by orchestrating a dramatic shipwreck while she was our sailing AND SHE SURVIVED #and then swam to shore got back to rome and whooped his ass #fuckin pliny the elder tried to evacuate people from pompeii and the surrounding coast villages when vesuvius erupted #and he actually WAS able to rescue people #but he himself had an asthma attack from the fumes which led to a heart attack and he died on the beach #there is legit no excuse for that trawler of migrant refugees to have wrecked #negligence all around #anyway #oceangate

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kindnessoverperfection · 9 months

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Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND)#the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there'#no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD.#and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them.#again..... fun times

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itscherryterry-again · 26 days

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it's you!

I don't know bingbong, let's ask the destroyed roomba

#bonnet binghe im OBSESSED WITH YOUUUUUU #his hair is messy in the first but i tried to convey it more straight than usual....#so that when he transmigrates sy tries to revive his curls </3333333 he buys a diffuser and everythinf #god im unwell. sick and twisted.#binggeyuan #luo binghe #luo bingge #shen yuan #scum villian self saving system #svsss #the trend already died but im late to everything so its fine

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tubbytarchia · 3 months

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I don't know what this is all I know is that LimL Joel makes me really emotional

#I know he has a tendency to go deranged on his red lives but idk something about him beginning to lose it after Jimmy died and killing Grian #joel smallishbeans #smallishbeans fanart #trafficblr #Again its his red life shenanigans but... If only Jimmy had known how affected someone was by his death. I'm choosing to believe this #and him then going out like a sad pathetic wet cat even with Grian's sacrifice... He really deserves a win one of these days lmao please #Also I cant stop thinking about how Jimmy wouldn't have left him. Grian was sensible to and most players probs would have #Joel really does become a lost cause so its fair and Grian did still care (and went to say goodbye as well as sacrifice his time for him)#But Jimmy would have stuck by even if Joel were in this state (and they'd both get themselves killed pathetically but)#And Joel having shown such genuine care for Jimmy and concern over his limited time... man anything w Jimmy makes me so emotional lol #I love them so #oh Ig about the art itself. I dont like it but hey thats how it tends to go when you try smth new. And no shame in trying #but if one person likes this then yayy I will still feel accomplished and happy #Im looking at this again and hey its not that bad actually yay I love to approve of my own art. self love hell yea #tubby art

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bishy437 · 5 months

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tgcf au where everything is the exact same except HC loses his Cool Guy persona in front of XL and becomes a stuttering Mess

#tgcf #heaven official's blessing #Teen!HC calling people fcking losers to their face but then being like “hhh;;;; Ge..ge... ‧⁺◟( ᵒ̴̶̷̥́ ·̫ ᵒ̴̶̷̣̥̀ )” with XL #he becomes white lotus!Hua Cheng with XL #and Dark Lotus with everyone else #i know mxtx loves her Intimidating and Perfect gongs but Consider:#HC channelling E'ming bc Gege is so beautiful & amazing that all of his preparations and intentions to act Competent just go out the window #no self assured HC in my hualian house!!!#His Coolness died with Wuming #hualian #hua cheng #xie lian #mine

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malinaa · 5 months

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The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes by Suzanne Collins CHAPTER 26 / CHAPTER 27 / EPILOGUE

#as always. the mf who always focuses on names focused on names!#lit #the ballad of songbirds and snakes #the hunger games #coriolanus snow #lucy gray baird #photo #tais toi lys #thgpost #*#the self-fulfilling prophecy of her name. the tragedy that could only ever be a tragedy. lucy gray who haunts snow for years to come.#lucy gray who lives as a ghost in each victor‚ who died because of snow. lucy gray who remains a mystery‚ forgotten to everyone in time but #the birds. lucy gray‚ the performer. lucy gray‚ the girl who fell in love with snow and was buried under it.#lucy gray baird: the mockingjay who started it all

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vebokki · 1 month

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proverbial little white sheep

#luo binghe #scum villains self saving system #svsss #svsss fanart #人渣反派自救系统 #up next...oddly colored angsty bingqiu....stay tuned!#spoiler its ivan the terrible and his son( the scene after sqq dies for bingus) but if repin was a shit artist. still fuck it we ball

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sunderwight · 4 months

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Reverse transmigration bingqiu except instead of Bingge turning up in Shen Yuan's world, it's white lotus disciple Binghe who does.

Shen Yuan, currently in his last year of high school, finds him and thinks he's a troubled homeless kid who has latched onto a character from a web novel as an intense form of escapism. He's initially just going to hand him over to some authorities of some kind but the kid seems so lost and scared, instead he ends up deciding to personally use his family's connections to help him or at least find his actual family or something (of course, doesn't turn anything up).

Baby Binghe is brand new to Qing Jing peak in the timeline he left from, so he doesn't have any idea of cultivating. With his demon blood still locked, he's a normal kid. But he's smart! He figures out basic appliances and picks up other modern facilities pretty quickly, wins over SY's family, and eagerly decides to keep living with him when SY moves out for the first time. SY's almost feeling bad because he definitely got the better end of this deal. His family manages to enroll LBH in school and they get him a bunch of lessons on things he seems interested in, and even so this kid still finds time to do a better job cooking and cleaning than SY, whose schedule is less packed.

A couple years pass. SY is beginning to accept that this is a permanent situation. So is LBH, who is kind of sad that he won't be able to fulfill his mother's dream of him becoming a cultivator, but actually really likes living in the magic shiny future with Shen Yuan and wouldn't change it now even if he could. SY is looking at long-term things for organizing Luo Binghe's further education, travel, etc. He's come out of his shell, is more active in the world and with his family because he needs to make sure his young ward gets proper socialization! (SY's family think LBH is the best thing that ever happened to him, and don't point out that they're actually only a few years apart in age; except Shen Meimei, who is the same age as LBH.) Meanwhile Luo Binghe's life plan is veering towards "housewife" aspirations, but he's still too shy to mention that to the object of his crush. It's okay though, he's got time! He'll get older and then figure out how best to approach the situation! (And in the meanwhile run off anyone else who tries to date his future husband...)

Of course, that's when it turns out that the system sent him here as an emergency measure to get him out of the way while it resolved a major issue with the actual setting. When the issues are repaired, it yanks LBH back. He finds himself returned to the exact same moment he left, in the same physical state, the years he spent living with Shen Yuan seemingly erased.

Going back to Qing Jing Peak after all that is difficult. No, worse, it's almost completely intolerable. Luo Binghe has been treated right and had a good life and now it's just gone. He has no idea how to get back.

But, that's why he has to stay. Because if there is a way to get back, then his best shot at figuring it out is learning how to cultivate, and devouring every single book in Qing Jing Peak's library, and then every other sect's library if need be. It is possible to move between worlds! He knows, because he did it! He just needs to find the way to do it again, permanently. So he stays and he deals with Shen Qingqiu's cruelty and the bullying of his sect mates, but he doesn't hold out any hope for them to improve. Instead he tries his best to hold his own ground, uses things he learned from Shen Yuan's world to steal whatever advantages he can, and pushes his way through any obstacles or competition.

He hates Shen Qingqiu, though. Especially because he has the surname Shen. Shen Yuan's family was good to him, so it seems like a cruel joke of fate that his shizun is so dead set against him. Something that could have been a comfort is instead a bitter twist of the knife.

But then a couple of years into this, Shen Qingqiu... changes?

After suffering a qi deviation, he stops beating Luo Binghe at the slightest provocation. He stops beating any of his students, in fact. He gives Binghe medicine, actually starts teaching classes, rescues Luo Binghe from a malicious skin-stealing demon, takes the blow of an incurable poison to save him from another demon, even gives him the side room of his own house to stay in. The bullying ends and the atmosphere on Qing Jing Peak changes, like night and day. Somehow he goes from being Shen Qingqiu's most hated student to being his clear favorite, even doted on disciple.

Luo Binghe is not going to fall in love with this new reformed Shen Qingqiu, though. He isn't! His heart is not so fickle that he will just fall in love with anyone who is kind to him! His love for Shen Yuan, that was real. And Shen Yuan would tell him that even though Shen Qingqiu seems to have changed, Luo Binghe shouldn't just forget about the past, because what if Shen Qingqiu returns to that behavior? It might not happen, but if it does then Luo Binghe must react accordingly.

But it's difficult, sometimes. This new Shizun, he's... he's really... sometimes he seems just like...

But Luo Binghe won't fall in love with him!

No matter what, he won't stay. He has to figure out how to move between worlds, and get back to Shen Yuan. Who he REALLY loves. Not Shen Qingqiu. He is in love with Shen Yuan and he is not falling in love with Shen Qingqiu.

At all.

#svsss #bingqiu #scum villain's self saving system #long post #meanwhile shen yuan was not having a great time over binghe's disappearance either #and now he's died and transmigrated into shen qingqiu #and this new binghe is just like HIS binghe and maybe... maybe it is?#but the ages don't line up #his binghe was younger than this the first time sy met him and older than this the last time sy saw him #maybe it's just a really unlikely coincidence?#like how he and sqq share a lot of weird similarities?#the system won't let him say anything anyway but at least he has some time to look after this binghe #at least this one can't just be snatched away from him to some unknown fate either #...right?

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weriseandthrive · 11 months

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🌟 Embrace the Journey: Living a Meaningful Life 🌟

Are you tired of simply going through the motions? Are you yearning for a life that's filled with purpose and significance? It's time to shift our focus and dive into the realm of living a truly meaningful life. 🌈✨

Living a meaningful life is not about chasing fleeting pleasures or accumulating material possessions. It's about discovering what truly brings joy and fulfillment to our souls. It's about finding our purpose, nurturing our passions, and connecting with something greater than ourselves. 🌻❤️

So, where do we begin? Start by exploring your passions and interests. What sets your heart on fire? What makes you lose track of time? Dive deep into those activities and pursuits that ignite your soul, for they hold the key to your purpose. 🎯🔥

Next, embrace gratitude and cultivate a mindset of abundance. When we appreciate the beauty and blessings that surround us, we unlock a profound sense of fulfillment. Cherish the little moments, be grateful for the people who touch your life, and let gratitude illuminate your path. 🙏💫

Remember, a meaningful life is also built upon meaningful connections. Nurture your relationships, both with yourself and with others. Seek authentic connections that uplift, inspire, and support you on your journey. Surround yourself with positive influences, and let love and kindness guide your interactions. 🤝💕

Finally, live in alignment with your values. Determine what truly matters to you and let those values be your guiding compass. Make choices that resonate with your authentic self and contribute to the greater good. Your actions, no matter how small, can create a ripple effect that spreads positivity and meaning. 🌍✨

Let's embark on this meaningful journey together. Let's choose to live a life that's filled with purpose, joy, and impact. Today is the day to redefine our priorities and embrace what truly matters. Are you ready to create a life that resonates with your soul? Let's make it happen! 🌟💪

#MeaningfulLife #EmbraceTheJourney #FindYourPurpose #LiveWithPassion