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samwisethewitch · 1 year

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Pagan Wedding Flowers (and other plants) Cheat Sheet

Flowers have been associated with weddings for almost as long as humans have been getting married. In fact, the use of flowers in ritual may actually be older than humans! Neanderthal graves in Iraq suggest that Neanderthals buried their dead with flowers. There are mentions of flowers in our earliest recorded accounts of weddings, such as in Egypt, Greece, and Rome.

Historically, couples would have used whatever flowers were available to them. While some cultures had flowers they preferred for weddings because of their symbolism, couples would have been limited by what grew in their area and by what was in bloom at the time of their ceremony. To be truly as historically accurate as possible, consider using flowers you grew or foraged yourself. Bonus points for native blooms!

For those who aren't into growing or gathering your own wedding flowers, modern florists and greenhouses allow us to choose from a wide range of flowers, many of which aren't native to our homes. This makes it much easier to choose flowers based on their symbolism, history, or cultural meaning.

Historic Wedding Flowers + Plants

Roses have been the flower of choice for Western weddings pretty much forever, and with good reason. The rose is associated with several ancient goddesses of sex, fertility, and/or romance, such as Inanna, Ishtar, Aphrodite, and Venus. (Later, medieval Christians would also associate this flower with the Virgin Mary.) Including the goddess's flowers in a wedding may have been a way of invoking her blessing on the union. Sappho called rose "Queen of the Flowers."

Roses are held in a high regard in pretty much every culture with access to them. They're strongly associated not only with love, but also with beauty, wholeness, blessings, and even spirituality.

Rose was included in wedding celebrations in Ancient Hellos (Greece) and Rome. It is associated with the planet Venus and the water element.

Wheat was also a popular inclusion in weddings in ancient Greece and Rome. Hellenic brides would carry sheaths of wheat or another grain to invoke fertility and good fortune. Wheat was strongly associated with agrarian goddesses like Demeter, Persephone, Ceres, and Proserpina. Carrying wheat may also have been a way of expressing a wish for the marriage to produce many children. Pliny the Elder explicitly says in his Natural History that wheat was included in weddings to honor Ceres.

In modern occult systems, wheat is associated with fertility, the conception of children, and wealth. It is associated with the planet Venus and the element of earth.

Olive branches also featured in Hellenic weddings. Olive was an important crop in the ancient Mediterranean, and olive branches were a symbol of peace and friendship. Olive was also used in the victors' crowns in the Olympic Games. In Athens, the olive tree was a symbol of Athena. It was also carried by worshipers of Apollo when they visited the Oracle at Delphi. Olive was also important to the Romans, who associated it with Mars in his aspect as a protector of peace.

In modern magic traditions, olive is associated with beauty, healing, stamina, wealth, fertility, protection and of course, peace. It is associated with the sun and the fire element.

Orange blossoms were included in Hellenic weddings as a sign of happiness. These strongly scented white flowers also sometimes appeared in Roman weddings. Thousands of years later, Queen Victoria wore a crown of orange blossoms at her wedding, but for her they were a symbol of chastity.

In modern systems, orange is associated with joy, partnership, sweetness, and good luck. It is associated with the sun and the fire element.

Hawthorn appeared in weddings in ancient Rome. Pliny the Elder said that Roman bridal processions included a hawthorn torch dedicated to the goddess Ceres. In Rome, hawthorn was more generally associated with love and good luck.

In Celtic cultures, especially Ireland, hawthorn was believed to be a fairy tree. For this reason, cutting a hawthorn tree or bringing hawthorn branches inside was considered bad luck.

The blooming of hawthorn trees was used to determine the date of Bealtaine, and hawthorn boughs were often decorated with flowers, ribbons, and egg shells to make a May bush, which was placed by the front door for good luck. In Britain, hawthorn wood was used to carve maypoles. Hawthorn flowers may be especially appropriate for a May wedding or handfasting.

In modern occultism, hawthorn is associated with protection, healing (especially healing the heart), romantic love, fertility, granting wishes, and happiness. It is still strongly associated with weddings and marriage. It is associated with the planet Mars and the fire element.

Lotus may have featured in ancient Kemetic (Egyptian) weddings. The lotus was an important symbol in Kemetic religion, and was associated with the sun, rebirth, and the creation of the world. Lotus flowers featured in festivals to honor Hapi, the androgynous god of the Nile. The lotus is used in art to represent Upper Egypt. An Egyptian poem from 1100 BCE connects the lotus to marriage.

Lotus flowers were also popular in ancient Chinese weddings, and they're still used by some Chinese couples today. In Chinese culture, lotus represents purity, honor, and long life.

In modern traditions, lotus is associated with protection, spirituality, and blessings. It is associated with the moon and the water element.

Yellow flowers were used in pre-Christian Ireland for blessings and protection. The exact flower used for these rituals is not specified, so it seems like the color was what mattered. Modern pagans looking to carry on this tradition have lots of yellow flowers to choose from. Some popular choices include yellow roses (see above), yellow amaryllis (associated with creativity, playfulness, and joy), chrysanthemum (associated with long life, optimism, and protection), marigold (associated with happiness, rebirth, and vitality), and/or daffodils (associated with love, fertility, and luck).

Modern Wedding Flowers

We've gone over some of the flowers that were popular in historic pagan weddings, but it's also easy to pagan-ify the flowers that are most popular in modern weddings. Here's a quick rundown of some popular wedding blooms and their neopagan and occult symbolism:

Peony is associated with purification, healing, prosperity, and success. In ancient Rome, peony was believed to be sacred to Mars. It is associated with the sun and the fire element.

Dahlia is associated with mystery, occult wisdom, and transformation. It is associated with the moon and the water element.

Lilac is associated with balance, peace, romance, protection from evil, and attracting friendly spirits. It is associated with Venus and the water element.

Sweet Pea is associated with comfort, charm, and sweetness. It is associated with Venus and the water element.

Hydrangea is associated with healthy boundaries, breaking negative patterns, hex breaking, and protection. It is associated with water and with both the moon and Neptune.

Tulip is associated with beauty, desire, gratitude, love, prosperity, and simplicity. It is associated with Venus and the earth element.

Orchid is associated with beauty, elegance, sexuality, fertility, and romance. It is associated with Venus and the water element.

Lily is associated with spirituality, beauty, harmony, and protection from the evil eye. It is associated with Venus and the water element.

Carnation is associated with beauty, love, rebirth, strength, and healing. Carnations are associated with same-gender love and especially love between men because of Oscar Wilde's fondness for them. They are associated with the sun and the fire element.

Gardenia is associated with love, peace, healing, and spirituality. It is associated with the moon and the water element.

Resources:

"New Neanderthal remains associated with the ‘flower burial’ at Shanidar Cave," Cambridge University Press

"History of Wedding Flowers" by Benna Crawford

The Roman Wedding by Karen K. Hersch

"The Olive in the Ancient Mediterranean" by Mark Cartwright

"The History, Mythology, and Offerings of Hawthorn" by Meghan Pivarnik

Where the Hawthorn Grows by Morgan Daimler

Temple of the Cosmos by Jeremy Naydler

The Magic of Flowers by Tess Whitehurst

The Magic of Trees by Tess Whitehurst (see my disclaimer about Whitehurst's books, but these are some of her better ones)

Cunningham's Encyclopedia of Magical Herbs by Scott Cunningham

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asktheboywholived · 2 years

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After seven years of friendship, seven years of creating queer love stories together, @sirussly and I got married, and it was the most perfect day either of us could have asked for. Jess is my best friend, my partner, my love, my companion, my favorite, and I can’t believe I finally get to call them my wife. I’m so grateful to have a partner that loves unconditionally, someone who learns and grows by my side. I love this beautiful person, and although we’ve already started our journey together, I can’t wait to start this next chapter. We met here on tumblr, and although I don’t post here anymore, I had to share this happy moment. ❤️

#ooc #jess #wedding #queer wedding #lgbtqia #saphic #we had our very own pride and prejudice wedding guys!

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softdedue · 8 months

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GUESS WHOS A MARRIED MAN

#my husband doesn’t like having his face blasted across social media but he supports me showing him off #look at how pretty my gown was!!!!! it fit so perfectly!!!!!#my husband was so fucking cute but alas you will have to mostly take my word for it #my mil made and decorated the cake!!!!! isn’t it amazing!!!!#and my aunt made the bouquet but my husband crocheted the flowers so it was a group effort #it was just. a perfect day.#my face #personal #queer wedding

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imaginal-ai · 1 month

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princessthickness · 1 year

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You can’t possibly see me look like THIS

And tell me that I’m not a princess 👸🏻 ✨

This is your one invite a year to actively perceive me

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her-stars · 10 months

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I randomly came across a business that does gothic fantasy theme weddings. I'm so happy I could cry, it's every I dreamed of having a hauntingly beautiful day with my future wife. I'm definitely going to use them when that moment comes <3

#lesbian #wlw blog #queer #vampire aesthetic #lgbtq #girlswholikegirls #sapphic yearning #wlw textpost #queer wedding #wlw post #goth lesbian #pansexual #bisexual

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moltenhair · 1 month

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I'm getting married! And we have officially settled on a date

I don't expect anyone to go out of their way or put themselves in a tight financial spot for our sake. Just figured I'd share in case anyone may be interested in helping a queer couple have their dream wedding and honeymoon

#queer community #queer wedding #gofundme #lgbtqia #lgbtq #lgbtq community #lesbian

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dovymcjewpunk · 1 year

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Proud to be the first Queer wedding at my Shul.

#jewish #gay #queer #bi #me #israel #chuppah #wedding #gay pride #gay wedding #queer pride #queer wedding #trans

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wife-haver · 1 year

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fun fact, my partner's very first act as my wife was to stomp on my foot instead of the glass at our wedding. our photographer immortalized the moment.

#lesbian #lesbian wedding #gay wedding #lgbt #lgbtq #same sex couples #queer wedding #jewish wedding #interfaith wedding #judaism

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2mimikyute4u · 1 year

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Did someone order queer wedding pics?

(a little queer love for your feed!)

#so incredibly happy with how the wedding pics came out #queer #queer love #queer couple #queer wedding #t4t wedding #t4t couple #love is love

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toriwritesstories · 26 days

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speaking not on fandom for a moment, today is my first wedding anniversary, a year ago, I was lucky enough to get the marry the love of my life. so enjoy some throwback photos from one of the best days of my life 💜

(and for those who don’t know since I’m new to actually using tumblr and not everyone follows me on twt, my spouse is non-binary and uses them/them pronouns primarily)

#wedding #wedding anniversary #gay wedding #lgbtqia #lgbtq wedding #anniversary #love of my life #loml #cuteness #queer wedding #queer couple #transisbeautiful #nonbinary #transgender

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samwisethewitch · 9 months

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On Lughnasa (August 1st), 2023, under a full moon in Aquarius, my partner and I got married in a handfasting ceremony.

We designed this ceremony from scratch ourselves, incorporating elements from our own faiths. My personal practice is a mix of Heathenry and Reclaiming (and, ngl, is heavily influenced by Wicca) and my now-husband is Roman pagan. We also both have Irish American heritage that is important to our families, which is why we chose to incorporate historic Irish elements.

And our boyfriend was our officiant!

#the great handfasting project #handfasting #wedding #pagan wedding #heathenry #heathen #inclusive heathenry #reclaiming #reclaiming witch #irish polytheism #irish paganism #religio romana #roman paganism #roman polytheism #polyamory #queer #queer wedding #mine #personal

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wttnblog · 3 months

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"Anyone But You" and The Accidentally Lesbian Wedding

For many young queer people, attending a lesbian wedding is a highlight of our gay experience. It wasn’t possible for us to get married for so many years. Now that we can, It’s something to celebrate as loudly as possible. While lesbian weddings often contain the same pieces as a straight wedding, substituting a groom for a second bride normally changes things at least a little bit. In Anyone But…