Non-SAM-aroace / ay alt flags :)

These all use colors from @neopronouns' ay flags [link], and @arokill's general non-SAM flag [link].

The 5 stripe flags follow the format of these non-SAM-ace [link] and non-SAM-aro [link] flags. 1st one is just blue, while the 2nd one uses grey / is darker.

The 7 stripe flags are based on my non-SAM-ace / non-SAM-aro alt flags [link]. The 1st one uses grey / is lighter, while the 2nd one is more blue/darker.

Basically, I just wanted non-SAM-aroace (aka ay) flags that matched the non-SAM-ace/aro flags that I listed. I like the original ay flags too.

Reminder to aspecs, our solidarity is our strength.

Non-SAM Aro and AroAllo solidarity Loving & Lovequeer and Loveless & Heartless solidarity AroAllo and AlloAce solidarity Romance Favorable and Romance Repulsed solidarity Sex Favorable and Sex Repulsed solidarity AroAce and AroAllo solidarity Romance Indifferent and Sex Indifferent solidarity Aplatonic and Alloplatonic Aspec solidarity Romo Aro and Heartless solidarity Partnering Polyamorous and Nonparterning / Nonamorous solidarity Amid and AroAce solidarity Cupio and Apothi solidarity Fray & Lith and Demi solidarity

Any and all aspec solidarity. We are not each other's enemy. Support each other, no matter how "opposite" your aspec identities may be.

aspec identities are literally the footnote of the lgbtqia+ community. like if you're lucky, you might encounter information about asexuals, and if you're really lucky, you might learn something completely wrong about aros!

The aspec club at my school is 80% trans/nonbinary so I’m curious

I know this sounds weird but I think I’m a non-SAM aroace. Like, the two identities feel like one and the same to me, but I don’t prefer one over the other in order to be seen as either “non-Sam aro” or “non-Sam ace”. It’s just one thing to me and I end up using ace, aro, and aroace in different spaces depending on which is most relevant. But there is no split to me and I only use aroace so others can know that I’m both. But it sounds as weird to me as having to say I’m Bibi if I was bisexual and biromantic...

throwback to episode 32 about aromantic myths.

Shoutout to ALL aromantics! To aroaces, aroallos, neu aros, nonsam aros. To loveless aros and heartless aros. To lovequeer aros, lovelustic aros, arolovic aros. To aplatonic aros, afamilial aros, analterous aros. To nonaesthetic aros, asensual aros, anattractional aros. To aroqueers, unit aros, primaros. To romo aros, partnering aros, polyamorous aros. To nonpartnering aros and nonamorous aros. To polyplatonic and polyerosis aros. To romance favorable, romance indifference, romance averse, romance repulsed, and romance ambivalent aros. To arospecs of all kinds and questioning aros. To aros who love being aro and aros who still have a hard time with it. To aros that are out, loud, and proud, and aros that are closeted. To gay aros, straight aros, bi aros, and aros of every identity under the sun! To aros all over the world! Shoutout to aros!! You're all so wonderful!

so ive been rereading loveless, as one does, and its made me think about the aspec community a lot

im aroace and i relate to georgia a lot but also we have had very different experiences . i never wanted romance and i was more relieved about finally figuring out my sexuality than sad abt missing out on romance and sex. when i was questioning, i was confused and uncertain and i relate to a good chunk of her thoughts when she was questioning. we also have similar personalities too tbh. there was so much i related too and so much that i didnt

i think that loveless has rlly shown me that every aspec has such a different and unique experience and we still come together to support each other, from oriented aspecs to loveless aros to nonsam aces and i think that is so beautiful and i love that about this community.

anyways alice osemans books are making me emotional again and i had to write abt the wonderful aspec community

for the aromantic ask game: 2 & 6

2. Where do you fit in the aro community (ex, alloaro / aroace / nonSAM aro / etc)?

Atm nonSAM aro feels most accurate but I also say anything from Aspec or Queer to AroAce when it comes to people I know offline (cause sometimes explaining things when I'm already exhausted from existing in public is too much or I just don't need them to know anything beyond me not being allocishet.)

6. What is your favourite part about being aromantic?

My favorite part of being aro is the tranquility that I've found in my identity and my existence within it. Since I've accepted my armanticism I've been able to really take a look at my life and make sure I was/am comfortable with it. I'm still working on it, but I feel much more at home in my own skin than before and I have the aro community here to thank for a good part of that.

HELL YEAH AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY

happy aromantic visibility day, f*ck Amatonormativity, if you’re an aro who feels 0 romantic attraction, your valid. If you feel a lil bit of romantic attraction, you’re valid. If your repulsed buy romance, your valid. If you’re a romance favorable aro, you’re valid. If you’re meh on romance, or ambivalent on romance, you’re valid. If you’re an aro who feels attraction but doesn’t want it reciprocated, you are valid. Alloaro’s are valid. Aroaces are valid. Queerplatonic Aros are valid. SAM aro’s are valid. NonSAM aros are valid. Questioning aro’s are valid. Loveless aros are valid. Heartless aros are valid. Multi A spec aro’s are valid. Neurodivergent aro’s are valid. Neurotypical aros are valid. ALL Aros are F*CKING valid.

You are seen and you are valid.

Enjoy your day, and every day after. 💚🍏🤍⚙️🖤 <- (my best attempt at making the aro flag w/emoji’s)

welcome <2

saffigon (previously local-aro-cryptid) he/him | ze/hir

Identity aromantic aplatonic bi/omni/het greysexual butch trans man (i don't consider myself asexual but i do consider myself greyspec, please don't call me ace)

more: rentry

my identity doesn't exist to make sense to you <2

DO NOT TAG MY ARO-CENTERED POSTS WITH "ACE" TAGS. aroace tags are fine on general aro content ; if both are mentioned, do not tag ace and not aro ; do not tag aroace on aroallo or nonsam aro content

Useful Links Aspec Terms Carrd --- Heartless Coining Heartless FAQ --- Evil Aro Coining --- What is <2? Romance is a Social Construct The Problem with Binaries

Other PFP Picrew Link The Header includes the heartless flag on the left and the romo aro flag on the right.

Sideblogs @aros-hoard - hoard and coining blog @nightmare-on-aro-street - horror movie blog @local-fandom-aro - fandom blog @evilaro - evilposting blog

Bleach! Ichigo Kurosaki is a polyamorous demian/demirose, whose married to Orihime Kurosaki, a bi, whose best friends with Ichigo's boyfriend/fwb Uryuu Ishida, whose a nonsam alloaro. Ichigo is also dating Renji Abarai, whose also bi, and married to his queer platonic partner Rukia Abarai, whose also in a QPR with Ichigo and is bi and aspec. Yoruichi Shihoin is a alloaro lesbian trigender catgender trixic whose girlfriend Soi Fon is completely in love with and a lesbian. Kenpachi Zaraki is cassaroace, Toshiro Hitsugaya is aroace and feels alterous attraction, Shuuhei Hisagi is mspec and GNC, and Yumichika Ayasegawa has recently found out she's a transwoman! And is in a QPR with Ikkaku Madarame...the token straight

Thank you!

posted!

Aro Ask Game, numbers 1,2,5,6,16, and 17.

1. What is your aro-spec label?

Amicusromantic! That means I don’t really have romantic attraction towards someone until we are friends.

2. Where do you fit in the aro community (ex, alloaro / aroace / nonSAM aro / etc)

AroAce

5. How did you figure out you are aro?

A lot of questioning and self reflection. Personally I realized people have crushes more often than I did.

6. What is your favourite part about being aromantic?

The community and the different ways we challenge the idea of love

16. What are your views on romance? Could include if you are romance repulsed / favourable / etc?

I’m romance favorable and I think romance is cool and I enjoy it but I also understand why some might not like it.

17. Do you have any aro related labels that don’t fit into the other groups (like loveless / lovequeer / amatopunk / etc)?

I didn’t think so but I just looked up amatopunk and it’s really cool! I think I’ll use that now.

(sorry for th negativity, long day and these thoughts have been stirring for a LONG time...)

I'm so so so so tired of the SAM now being the default in the community. I've bottled it up bc it's not the majority opinion and we're all tired of being erased but a post going around rn brought it all back up and I wanted to vent. It's just sum1 expressing frustration that canon ace characters that also lack romantic attraction aren't instead called aroace, which I understand but man. It had almost a thousand notes with every1 agreeing but my only thought was that if I made a nonsam aspect character, would that be considered bad rep to most of the aspec community? If they lacked any attraction but was just aro like me, would I just be hurting my community more? I feel like the way we approach our identities changed after all the exclus shit and now I almost feel I don't belong or. somthing. Sorry if that's guilt trippy, I don't mean it to at all. We're barely acknowledged, so I get it but idk. The most I see nonsams talked abt is when sum1 says not to forget us... but then non of the ways ppl talk reflect it if that makes sense? It's still treated as if u have to be aroallo or alloace or aroace and tagging a post abt sexual attraction as aro or romantic as ace is bad, even if it applies for u. On ADoV ppl posted abt how much it sucks 2 see them tagged as aromantic, even tho for me it was really really nice :( I like celebrating ace days as a nonsam aro, it's not quite MY day but it's close. And on aro days the tag is full of ppl reminding us not to mention or tag asexuality too. I just wish we could go back to the aro and ace having blurry boundaries w/out necessarily being aroace yknow? There's so much focus on separating now that those of us that can't are just left behind. Again. But on the other hand as an aro I know we're all sick of erasure so I get us being more defensive lol. Idk sorry again for the longass negative message, u can delete if it's too much