being in a romantic relationship while aromantic is like. i love you, i think as much as you love me, but i will always love you wrong. i've never felt butterflies and my knees don't get weak. i love you like i love music and the moon. but i don't know if you'll ever understand what i mean by that. i will spend every minute of my life trying to make it up to you. i love you, but not correctly. it will bother me even if you don't mind it. i will always be convinced that someone else could love you better. that anyone else could love you better. i will never know what's going on in your head or your heart— more than what happens in mine, at least. surely. i love you. i'm sorry. and mostly i'm just sorry that you happened to fall in love with something like me that cannot ever grasp the part of your soul which drew you to me in the first place. i love you

aros in relationships (romantic and non-romantic) are so important

aros who don't want any relationships are so important

romo aros and lovequeer aros are so important

heartless and loveless aros are so important

those that blur the line between any of these "opposites" are so important

Do not assume what kinds of relationships aromantics do or do not want. Do not assume friendship is universal. Do not imply that the only connections aros can have are friendship just bc you think all aros are plato favorable, romance averse, ace, and sex averse.

Do not imply that every aro must want and immensely value friendship bc its 'the only thing left other than romance and I assume sex is out of the equation'. Aplatonic and/or plato averse or nonfriending aros exist. We matter. Aros who are romance favorable and/or experience some romantic attraction exist.

Aros who are sex favorable and/or alloaro or are otherwise not ace exist. There are other relationship types than the ones I mention in this post, such as qpr's. Don't forget aros who may not fit your ideas of what an aro person looks like.

[Do not fucking add your commentary on how you like friendship or whatever. You're allowed to like friendship obviously! Just maybe try to give a shit about ppl who don't, and don't fucking derail when we talk about our experiences. Make your own damn post or literally add on the numerous posts about liking friendship. I don't care if this post makes you sad for some reason. Alloplatonics and/or Plato favorable ppl you can rb but don't clown.]

Reblog this edited version instead of the original please!

fun fact!! aromantic people don’t owe you anything. we don’t owe you amatonormativity, we don’t owe you explanations about our identities, and we certainly don’t owe you your picture of an aromantic person.

the common phrasing, “more than friends” is typically used by alloromantics, because even if they do not fully have the language to understand or express it, many of these people are experiencing romanticism on top of platonicism. in this essay i will-

shoutout to all my aromantic people who had a harder time discovering they're aro because they do enjoy romance and romantic activities, it's just the attraction that's not there (or maybe it only appears once every blue moon) 😅.

I do not know the words for the things I feel.

I love in that I care about you. In that I cannot remember your birthday, but I will set up reminders on my calender.

I love in that I feel no romance, but I will cuddle you on my couch. I will play with your hair and whisper my poetry into your ear.

I love in that I love the world, in that the wind and the waves and the sprawling grasslands fill me with an awe I cannot put into words.

I love in that I love softness. I love sinking into pillows at night, and snuggling with stuffed animals until I feel safe again.

I love in that I hate the way love is used as a way to hurt the people in my community-- the loveless and the heartless and the nonpartnering and the aplatonics. You are all beautiful, and incredible, and I admire you in whatever way you are comfortable with.

My love is a strange sort of thing, made out of songs and fanfiction and people. My palms do not get sweaty, my pulse does not race, but I can smile at you, and hope that you understand me.

I do not have enough words for my love.

Shoutout to aros that don't know if or how they feel romantic attraction. Shoutout to aros that definitely feel romantic attraction at some point in some way. Shoutout to romo aros and shoutout to aros who see having a partner of some kind as important to their life goals. Shoutout to aros that aren't ace. Shoutout to aros that enjoy romance and nevertheless experience romantic attraction differently than alloros do.

Just a big ol' shoutout to aro ppl that don't relate to the restrictions that uneducated and alloro ppl may project onto the aromantic label, because they don't understand that aromantic is a spectrum. You are aro enough, and your experiences with attraction and romance are not alloro!

I am giving you big hugs if you like hugs, and a big serving of your favorite refreshing beverage if not!

shout out to aros in romantic relationships<33 aros who are dating allos<33 aros who are dating other aros<33 aros who feel alienated from both allos and fellow aros. ur doing awesome sweeties<33 /gen

extremely annoying to have your identity be something that would be considered “bad rep” if it was shown in media

I meant selfshipper/ shipper aro called valentine aro to be cool, and mainly pink/red please! Thanks.

valentine aro / valentine aromantic : a term for aros/aromantics who enjoy shipping/selfshipping; aros/aromantics who are shippers/selfshippers.

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There aren't any specific colour meanings, I just chose green from the aromantic flag, plus pink and red like requested in the ask. I also added white to help separate things, and because I think it's a fitting colour for valentines. Also I think pink, red, and white colours are fitting for the valentines + shipping part of the term.

(other valentine aro ask)

thank you romo-aros thank you romance-favorable aros thank you aros in romantic relationships you do so much for our community

aro4aro relationships are so important, actually

(relationship being vaguely used here, input whatever term you want, all of them are important)

Arospecs who experience some romantic attraction/experience it conditionally/etc. are still AROMANTIC if we use that label. Excluding us from our own community is not helpful to aro activism or the aro community in any way.

You know the promiscuous character you tried to write into an amatonormative and sex negative 'they have romance now so they are fixed' character arc?? They're demiromantic allosexual now, sorry not sorry I don't make the rules

My aroflux ace self in real life: Romantic relationships are kinda weird. Like you find one person and like stuff happens. Feels kinda awkward and weird. Like I'm not gonna go looking or pursue one but I don't know what will happen if someone brings it up in relation to me Me talking about fictional characters: THEY ARE IN LOVE. Did you see that intense eye contact? I do not care if they have only shared one conversation they 👏 are 👏 in 👏 love. OTP, OTP, OTP. I ship them so much. keyboard smash and inaudible fangirl noises