Insys relationships can go so so deep and theyre genuinely like one of the most beautiful things in our life rn. The romantic partnerships the family dynamics the friendships and the aplatonic flavor of amicable respect for the others that all boils down to "You (I, We) are worthy of loving (/respecting) to your (my, our) very core."

insystem relationships are so cool because it’s different from a “real” relationship because it’s not just about love or whatever it’s also about healing and feeling oneness in a way that ive never felt with an irl partner. You are me, I am you. We are one but separate and the love we hold for each other is not just about love but it’s about healing and finding joy beyond the shitty circumstances of our lives up to this point. like the “2 parts of a whole/you’re my other half” saying in terms of relationships rings so much stronger with insystem relationships because You Are Literally Another Part of Me and I think that’s kinda beautiful idk

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i love you in system relationships. i love you in system family dynamics. i love you in system friendships. i love you in system partnerships. i love you in system enemies. i love you in system dynamics that are complicated. i love you in system relationships that are real and dynamic and messy and so so so valid. all of them. i love them so much.

Here’s some positivity for fictives who are dating other fictives!

Fictives and introjects are parts and people too, just like any other headmate in a system! Fictives are capable of loving, dating, forming relationships, and having romantic connections as much as anyone else. This post goes out to fictives who are dating or in relationships with other fictives!

💖 Shoutout to fictives who are in in-system relationships with another fictive or fictives in their own system!

🥰 Shoutout to fictives who are dating fictives from different sources!

💓 Shoutout to fictives who are in QPRs with other fictives or otherwise are in non-amatonormative relationships!

😍 Shoutout to fictives who are in relationships that don’t look anything like the relationships of their sources!

💞 Shoutout to fictives who are married or otherwise in committed life partnerships with other fictives!

😘 Shoutout to fictives who don’t let others’ expectations dictate their relationships or how they interact with their partners!

💗 Shoutout to fictives whose identities as introjects affect their romantic relationships in some way!

☺️ Shoutout to fictives whose relationships look nothing like the relationships that their source might have had!

💘 Shoutout to fictives who are in relationships with OCtives, fuzztives, or other headmates with fictional introjected identities!

Fictives, it is okay to love who you want and express your love through relationships that are affirming and uplifting for you and your partners. Please don’t feel any sort of pressure to only date or form relationships with sourcemates. You deserve to have deep, complex, and fulfilling relationships in your lives, and there is nothing wrong with forging these connections with other fictives!

For all fictives in relationships with other fictives, we are wishing you peace, comfort, and happiness in your futures. Know that your relationships are valid and beautiful, and your love is worth celebrating! We’re wishing a bright future for you and the fictives you love, and hope you all can have a wonderful day today!

Honestly the only thing better than being in love is being in love with a fictional character

for system whose system mates love each other! inclusive of all kinds of love.

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In system relationships can be very beautiful and healing, but most of the time it leaves me yearning for a person whose warmth I'll never get to know. It's like long distance but worse.

happy valentine’s day to all the insys couples out there! :D hope everyone had a great day

something so amazing about in system communication and relationships for us.

like i get you in an incomprehensible way. despite just starting existing you feel like you know me. i dont have to talk to communicate, i dont even have to use any 'human' form of communication. We can communicate through internal pictures and thoughts and daydreams and colours and sounds and through fucking, literally feeling each others emotions.

i love you in a romantic way that is so ethereal compared to out of body relationships. I would never have sex with you but i love you in a way that breaks every divide between the types of attraction. I love you in a way that those words cant describe.

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I cannot believe I've been with my in-system husband for 7 years in a couple days. I love him so damn much and it hasn't always been easy but now every second we spend together proves to me that you really do "just know when it's right", and that it can and should be easy eventually, because nothing has ever seemed more right and natural than being with him now. Being married for 4.5 years has been the best and healthiest romantic relationship in my life and I would not give him up for anything in the world. This man has held me together when I thought I had no way to avoid falling apart. I've known from the first hours I knew him that I needed him in a way I'll never fully be able to describe, that I couldn't lose him, and needless to say he is amazing even though he will never understand or believe how great he is to me. I've never been treated as well as he treats me. I cannot imagine anyone ever will, and that's just fine with me because he is perfect.

Of course I love all my in-system partners very much, and they are all very okay with my stronger attachment to him.

If/when you see this you big old doof I love you more than anything or anyone and you gotta stop getting down on yourself because no one has ever loved me like you and no one will ever be more important to me. Check the tags my love there's more down there.

This system has in-system relationships.

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i loveeee in sys dating. i love being able to be physical without being physical. i love giving our body a little squeeze and it’s a hug from me to them and from them to me. i love being able to snuggle up in a cozy little ball with snuggly blankets and cuddle without overheating cuz it’s all self regulated. i love being able to have dance parties with my partners without feeling self conscious or embarrassed. i love making silly little gifts and leaving them out for my boys to see when they switch in. i love being sappy and giggly and annoying our other crew mates. i love my in sys partners <3

Here’s some positivity for headmates in inside/in-system relationships!

Building trust and relationships is an important part of system life, and it’s normal to foster platonic, romantic, and other kinds of bonds between headmates! This post is for system members who are in close, positive relationships!

💓 Shoutout to headmates who have just started dating, getting to know each other better, or taking the next step in their relationship!

💘 Shoutout to headmates who are married or have been partnered for years!

💗 Shoutout to headmates in inner polycules or queerplatonic relationships!

💕 Shoutout to systems who manage romantic relationships both inside and outside their system!

💖 Shoutout to headmates who set up dates for each other and do little things to make their headmate partners feel cherished and loved!

💝 Shoutout to headmates who struggle to interpret their feelings regarding other system members!

💞 Shoutout to headmates who get shy, bashful, or butterflies when they’re around the system members they love!

💓 Shoutout to headmates and systems with complex, interconnected relationships!

💘 Shoutout to systems whose inner relationships can’t really be understood by singlets!

💗 Shoutout to headmates who are exclusively (whether sexually or romantically) interested in others inside their system!

💖 Shoutout to headmates who have dealt with others attempting to invalidate their relationship, whether inside the system or people outside!

Within the vast spectrum of plurality is a diverse array of relationships and experiences between headmates! There is nothing wrong or weird about pursuing platonic, romantic, or sexual relationships with the other headmates in your system. As long as you are respecting each other’s boundaries, actively communicating, and keeping each other’s best interests at heart, in-system relationships can be a strengthening and rewarding experience!

We hope y’all can continue to learn and grow together, and that your relationships will inspire you to take care of each other! Remember we care about y’all and we wish you the very best in all that you do. Rest assured your in-system relationship is beautiful, worthy of maintenance, and an amazing part of plural life!

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hi i just found out it's polyamory day so happy polyamory day to:

any other systems/plurals who id as polyamorous

individual headmates who identify as polyam

headmates who are in polyamorous relationships with other headmates in their system

headmates that are in polyamorous relationships with others outside of their system

systems/plurals who are in polyamorous relationships with other systems/plurals

systems/plurals who're in polyamorous relationships that aren't romantic

individual headmates who're in polyamorous relationships that aren't romantic

systems/plurals who are polyamorous and aspec (whether it just being in one way, multiple, or all)

individual headmates who are polyamorous in aspec (whether it's in just one way, multiple, or all)

and to anyone else i forgot to mention :]

TODAY i was really mad about something and i was rambling to seán about it, so mad i couldn't even contain it in our head i was like out loud in meatspeace complaining and I was SO PISSED like rambling and pacing and then i turn to him and i'm like "I don't know how you can be so calm!!! You're always calm..! And soothing and relaxing and like, so cool...." and then i wasn't even mad anymore I was just gay as fuck and appreciative of the peace of mind he gives me when hes around

love wins

6 physical ways to show affection in In-System Relationships!

Brought to you by Medic and Heavy, as well as some very helpful folks on Discord

#1: Partner Pillows

Have a pillow that's a similar size and shape to your partner's body type. Partner Pillows are a good way to cuddle with your sweetheart and have a better bodily connection with them.

#2: Transferring kisses

Try kissing the palm or the back of the body's hand and then pressing it against the body's face, similar to blowing kisses.

#3: Wearing sweaters

Wearing sweaters and clothes that are tight around the torso can give the feeling of a warm hug. It's even better if the sweater was bought as a gift.

#4: Mirror kisses

For deeper kisses, try using a little pocket/makeup mirror so you can see them when you kiss them, even if it's the body you're seeing. Alternatively, for fictives, you might be able to find a piece of merchandise of them (like a plush or poster) for you to kiss.

#5: Surprise them with things they like

For systems that don't overlap too much with consciousness and memories, try setting up a romantic gesture while your partner isn't in front so you can surprise them later (example: a basket of treats, or something they've wanted/needed to buy for a while).

#6: Sensory associations

Try having a sensory object (something with a particular scent, a fidget toy, a piece of cloth with a nice texture, ect.) and using it while you and your partner are being romantic, so you associate it with those experiences. It's nice to have a sensory association to remind you of your partner when you're upset.